CONFIDENCE HACKS To Level Up Your Social Skills 

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At drama school, my teacher made me tell the same joke to an audience about 50 times and it triggered me so much. At the end he said, "You'll never be scared of going on stage again because nothing will be worse than that."

This guy is helping me more than my therapist

Long Term Change - Step 1: Introspection - 7:20 Shatter Imagine of being Cool - Step 2: - 12:00 Change Physiology - Step 3: - 13:36 Embrace,Exaggerate,Laugh - Step 4: - 14:00 Don’t Give Up - Step 5: - 14:44

What I like about these exercises is that Julien doesn’t let the people he calls on hide. He gives them a lot of time to practice what he’s teaching. Normally I see coaches only allow the participants one or two chances to practice the technique, but Julien really makes them practice it there and in the moment until they actually get something out of it. He doesn’t let them just give up. Such a cool way of teaching.

Basically I think just be openly vulnerable and your confidence will increase because there’s nothing left to hide!

This is great for people who had to endure social anxiety and scared of crowds. Thank you for this🙏

1. Introspection/awarness -> ask urself why -> don't stay on the surface go deeper. 2. Letting go -> 01 Deep breaths 02 Shatter the attachment to the wanted outcome, accept the possibility of the opposite 03 Change ur physiology, loosen up. 04 Verbalize the little voice, exaggerate, laugh at it. Thank you so much Julien this helps me a lot.

Man Ive been anxious my whole life without knowing I was anxious and what anxiety really was. 20 years of my life being controlled and manipulated but now I know what I must to do to accomplish my dreams and be a greater person, thanks a lot man!!

Great methods for building confidence... A year ago I would go to places like a supermarket or other public places, I would park the car... Then sit in it for ages, sometimes not even getting out and driving off because it got to much! But... Now I decided to join a gym and just do it..getting out of the comfort zone. The voice in the mind chats away sometimes, I choose to smile and keep doing what I am doing. There's always work on the Self that needs to be done.

Does my own well-being come first??? ... Choosing myself over the fear/anxiety of upsetting others or the worry of other peoples opinion of me is always a battle. Solid take away. Love it.

Although I’m a woman watching this, I truly felt empowered and just let go and be myself. This experience truly relates to me and I felt I was in the place of the guy and sensed what he felt standing there. Thanks for sharing this and it’s so true that asking the why’s are so difficult and I’ve tried it, there’s so much resistance and getting out of the feeling. What a great insight Julien! Round of applauds to this guy, it takes so much courage to stand in front of a crowd 👏🏻 this allowed me to reflect on myself too.

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

That was great ... It's so obvious, in your face, an elephant in the room is "Why?" ... Why you are anxious, afraid etc. And when you ask yourself you see many times it has no basis in reality, you just imagine 101 situation going bad ... Just let go and jump, who cares ... Free from outcome. Have a plan of course, but then forget about it and just "enter the situation" your unconcious mind will guide you with a speed of light, with no breaks, 100% RAM power in your disposal, and you can't do anything wrong if you're "you" not some fake persona trying to maneuver through life with tools then don't fit the situation at hand. And you're not congruent. As Julien says often: "Thoughts, words, actions alined."

step 1 awareness ( change from Can't to How, dig deeper with 7 why questions) step 2 letting go ideal image (shatter that image : push up... etc )( easiest way: 3 deep breaths) step 3 relax physiology step 4 embrace, exaggerate, laugh at yourself (life is not that serious ) steo 5 dont give up the most social free are the people laugh at themself all the time, they dont take them self serious.

As useful as Julien's approach is to building confidence I find the most morbid mindset to be the most freeing. Reflecting on death or witnessing it causes paradigm shifts where ego nonsense simply dissolves. In Western societies the young are detached from the reality of their mortality and that of their elders as their parents and grandparents get wisked away in senior homes or nursing home facilities. With their experiential wisdom wasted within these stagnant institutions. Instead of reflecting on the totality of their life and it's inevitable end making, the absolute most of their present experiences and opportunities as a result the youth, particularly young men, squander their time and energy looking for validation from worthless sources while being anxious over the empty impressions they leave on people who are more or less irrelevant to them in the scope of their life's journey. Such a waste.

I like the idea of intentionally making a person whose ego fears humiliation do something humiliating in a very innocuous, yet very *real* way. This lesson reminds me of a practice in stoic philosophy called “negative visualization” where a person will attempt to vividly imagine their deepest fears occurring to them in order to build an attitude of indifference/courage to the “horrors” of life.

I remember back in highschool those years ago, all boys football styled school, had a camp. Came back, might have been 14 at the time. Had 100 or so guys all stand in a tunnel almost, to the left of you, to the right. In a long ass hall. They had to yell out whatever they wanted, they could swear, bully; whatever they wanted; as mean as they could, as loud as they could; and you had to slowly walk confidently and not react, the entire length of a basketball hall, bit longer. Can’t laugh, say anything. Just take it. Some people cried, some laughed, but this helped me with fear of being triggered / afraid of judgement for most of my life. Edit: I still use CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and DBT (dialectical) to help. But absolutely was phenomenal. Best end to that camp those years ago..

It’s very surprising for me to see all these tall, fit looking men not feeling comfortable…I thought anxious people like myself would want to hide, slouch, make themselves smaller/disappear. These people dont but they obviously have some anxiety. Very interesting and a great video as always. Thank you.

This is crazy awesome. It's really amazing how when you are forcing yourself to stay in that bubble of comfort to try and appear "cool" you end up looking 10x less cool and most likely 10x more awkward. But on the contrary, if you break out of that realm of comfort and then forced yourself to do something that's strange and unusual like singing wheels on the bus, you end up appearing more confident and even outgoing as a person. When you're not conformed to a comfort bubble, you look more confident, and then you naturally look way cooler. You are a dope dude Julien, this is the first video I've watched by you and it's only the beginning. As a teenager I still got a lot to learn in life and your channel is definitely what I have needed to keep improving as a human, especially on a social level. 🔥🙏

It's about time there is a men's group for lack of a better word. Men need to learn and overcome. Women have had more access from groups to one on one where men keep shit inside and put up the wall. We men need more help just like this. I definitely do.

Very cool format and great content -Owen

Thnx for making me realize thse things Julien! We gotta let go of the attachment of trying to be cool/hot and taking ourselves too seriously. We gotta verbalize, exaggerate, laugh at all the stifling things our inner voice is throwing at us.

Love the crowd-work you do! Thanks for bringing me up on stage! - Kristyn

In 99% is always and I'll repeat this, always the issue of performance expectancy in the eyes of others and feeling of inadequacy/not being good enough. This comes all the way from childhood and parenting style.

Seeing your videos, at first, I thought you're a generic pick up artist type guy. Watching this, I realize I was wrong. I love your approach, you talk about real psychological practices and self-exploration, things people can actually experience. All you condensed into this talk is things I constantly tell my friends but the clearness of speech you have is unmatchable. Lot of men need this. Learning to accept the self, seeing we are all imperfect people, therefore no opinion has more power than we do and reaching true confidence out of inner peace, not just to mask up insecurity.

this guy is literally teaching how to psychoanalyze yourself and that's pure gold

I’m ngl out of everybody in RSD I like Juliens approach the most he’s just realistic, straight to the point, and is kinda “foolproof” to me. This is the content I need … fixing the core problems instead of slapping a bandaid over it

Julien this was absolutely beautiful. So much value and so much hit home for me. Im in the process of exploring myself and learning about my unique potential and this workshop was a great reference for me. Thanks a ton!

I would be sweating bullets, trying to stay cool, I find when I let go I feel so much more real and authentic ..been dealing with this since puberty,I turned to alcohol, but only helped for the moment, but causes more problems later,now I’m trying to be calm an care free like when I was a child, being sober.. videos like these help, I tend to think I’m the only one

The most authentically confident ppl know life is a whole joke. Might as well enjoy it 😊love this video!

When I need to let go I imagine that everyone is an npc in a video game. I used to live out of my car and that experience taught me so much about letting go of caring about people judging you. While I don’t live in my car anymore, I will forever cherish the lessons in letting go that it taught me. Great vid!

Saw a few of these videos. Kudos to all that participate in these exercises! Julien, my dude... changing lives. Bravo! We know: no pain, no gain. Personally, I've always associated that more with physical triumphs, but seems this is just as relevant here. "That which you most need will be found where you least want to look." - Carl Jung Cheers and best of luck to all on their journey to slay their dragon. ✌🏼

This guy seems legit, because I can actuality relate to what he says. Honest, confident, warm and guy seems humble. You've earned a listener and subscriber😊

"whatever happens you win" great lesson.

I am in the middle of life-training right now, and this video has the same vibe giving me even more believe in how great and free we can be. Thank you for that reinforcement

My biggest takeaway from the video was when you asked the crowd “Who’s permission are you waiting for?”

The answers you seek comes from within.know THYSELF. Peace n love to all.

I’m really really thankful, he said how I’ve been feeling for a long time, I need to rewatch until I learn

Julien immediately won my trust - teaching people confidence, whilst still dressed in his PJs. Proper power move.

I haven’t watched good ole Julian in years. It’s good to see you’re still cranking out content and you’re still helping men. Thank you sir.

I’m always going to be kind and show love towards any human because I know who I am inside. At one time in my life being the toughest strongest meanest charming most deceiving person in the room is the worst feeling at the end of the day.

I’ve watched a bunch of these videos where Julien pulls someone up to dissect their true feelings about the situation and I’m amazed and how strong our filters can be and how much we bullshit ourselves.

That dude volunteering is actually a beast

Least I'm not the only 1 dealing with my inner demons quite relieving to know im not the only one.. Anxiety is a bitch, always seems to be ups and downs with it.Humans are a beautiful imperfect perfection... Definitely going to stop taking myself so seriously.. Shot bro.. Definitely earned a subb!!!

Julien outfit when you want to stay in bed all day but you have to give a seminar

the screaming activity isn't my cup of tea. but the guy in the beginning talks about being noticed to which I expected Julien to respond with, "ugh, why do you need to be noticed" -- the penetrating questions i've seen him use on other people. I like the parts on loving yourself and being your own party and emotional masturbation. you gotta love yourself cause you're with yourself all the time. the "it's ok" app is really a great idea. I've applied it before Julien but now I use it a lot more. When I get anxious or frustrated or many other things that normally upset me throughout the day i'm like "it's ok". and it does help to allevaite some of the tension and anxiety and stress.

its actually interesting that the guy looked non chalant, a little tense but still stoic. i wouldnt have imagined the anxiety he was describing coming from him. he was thinking everything i would have been thinking if i were in his place. "i dont know" lol

I went out with my buddies (that I havent seen in several months) tonight and tried that technique of just moving your lips and seeing what comes out. It's crazy how effective that is. The words "Blue lagoon" led to a whole conversation about spongebob which led to a rather philosophical conversation about how there could be an ocean in an ocean. Then I asked a girl for her number. She said no, but I was just happy that I pushed my anxiety aside and asked. My buddies still hyped me up for the attempt. I love your seminars man

You know what sucks? You can’t always show up the same way every time because life stuff happens. Just a little example, I’m extroverted and I tend to have a very fun and jokey personality. I met this girl at a yoga place and I teased her and she teased me back and I could tell that there we a definite vibe there. But I only met her briefly. Yesterday, something big happened to me at work and it wasn’t good. Just a big unfortunate circumstance. So I was feeling like shit. And of course…I ran into her again. Except this time I was feeling like shit. She wanted to talk to me but I feel like I came off as a little weird because I wasn’t in the mood. Like I was so upset from the day’s events that i couldn’t be bothered to flirt or tease. I just wasn’t in my element. And I didn’t tease her at all. It sucks because now I feel like the flirting dynamic is over.

I found that age and experience made me much bolder and more confident in my own skin.

the thing is.. you can't turn everyone into an extrovert. Some people are naturally introverts and very shy. These "social coaches" make this a trend - to teach people how to be more social and outgoing. Many of these people, even after doing all these exercises will feel like they have to overcome something within, every time they try to act how they were taught in these lessons. From this point, it would make people believe that being an introvert is bad. So in the long run it could confuse more people than help because the more popular these videos get, the more people think that being shy or introverted is bad so they will try to go against their nature, go through all that suffering and changing of who they truly are just to be a different person for couple of days and then go back to their roots and think that they are failure for not being able to change from who they truly are.

This content is truly life changing. Thank you Julien.

its normal you have anxiety and fear when u dont know what the presentation and questions are. The presentator is more prepared and is taughts are flying faster in his head wich makes him more comfortable to communicate them with fluidity, + he loves what hes doing so , it a confidence boost and gives. Any one is kind of stiff infront of the unknown .

Workshops of how to build self steem should be open all over the country

great to see how far I've come by myself, having internalized many of those lessons

Julien is a God, I relate so much to everything he says, he really helps people dig into their inner deepest wildest insecurities!! I would work so well with a coach like this!!!

I wish I had that type of lesson at school. It would have changed my life.

This is now added to "Pre-Workout" playlist. Favorite gym is Nikita's Gentleman's club, lifetime platinum member. 3 Day Regimen. Thursday is Discovery and Planning Friday is Survey and Report/Debrief Saturday is Release and Recondition

I just finished rich dad poor dad!! I highly recommend 👏🏽👏🏽

I'd just like to say thanks to the people in this clip, for being brave.

You got me motivated to look at life in a fun and challenging manner!!!

It's crazy to see how there are really only so many patterns of limiting beliefs, and the fact that you're able to use a large, but still quantifiable amount of tools combined with the one bedrock of letting go, to get everyone to achieve the outcome they're looking for. Potent, the closest thing to magic I've ever seen. The way of The Horde! LOL 🔥⚡⚡👹⚡⚡🔥

I don't have much social anxiety at all but I still found this so interesting and some I can relate too.

julien is the guy that u wanna hang out with and have fun.

When we say I don't know, journey of knowing starts.

Powerful video, thanks! What would you think about reminding yourself of the fact, that (for everyone): absolutely nobody in this world cares about you, at all. It´s not that all people are bad, it´s simply human nature. May sound terrifying, depressing and surreal at first, but once you understand it there is a huge relief and freedom opening up from it. Everyone is living in his own world: if people are super kind, or very rude/disrespectful to me its not because I´m such a great person or I´m such a failure, but because everyone subconsciously sees an advantage for HIMSELF by applying the according behaviour to me, but we´re too scared to admit that to ourselves. Very few people have realised that they are utterly, beautifully alone in this world, they started loving themselves and spreading that love to the people and the world around them.

Julian is awesome. 🙏 love what he’s doing to help people.

i love this channel, learning to be more confident will improve your life drastically!

Excellent video to start my day, I love how much useful content you put out for free ❤️

This was great example video, I have serious social and public anxiety and looking for techniques to heal it.

I have had social anxiety for a long time. It's rubbed off on my kids, so I need to learn how to overcome it. Yesterday, my son didn't want to go into a tennis court, at a park, even though that's what we came there to do. He said "oh no, there is people in there". There were two courts one for basketball one for tennis. I didn't realize that they were in the tennis court, playing basketball bc there are hoops in there too. I walked over there and told my son they are just people. I was planning on just play in the basketball court. As soon as we got there this nice young guy said "Oh you guys want to play tennis"? I said "yeah but we're not professionals or anything" holding up the squishy ball, we were using. He said "go on in, we'll play out in the other court". Sounds silly but it was awesome for my nine year old! I said "see, most people are nice". I made mistakes and laughed at myself. I encouraged him to do the same, while people sat behind us watching. Mind you, my son is so anxious in social situations he literally cried and shook when I put him into karate class in front of the two parents in the audience and instructors. I plan to keep pushing myself in front of the kids to be more and more confident. Thanks for the vids.

I love this julien guy. He’s just himself

I had a real bad nice problem too. it's a huge turn off to other people.. I gave up on be nice a replaced it with convenience. that help me out a lot.

Holy shit when he finally was able to admit the real fear (being seen as a fraud/bad leader) to the group you could see him physically relax. Beautiful vid. Also "Trail of Why's" is such a good technique for calling bs on yourself. Gonna steal that.

Facts he was absolutely right,That's what my teacher ms jay say that if you say you don't know then your making excuses or your not nearly trying enough to be remove the fear of judgment or criticism when it comes to being scared or not finding your strengths if their stifled or anxious to speak their mind.She said if you'll here for a reason you can't say I don't know or I'm not sure you gotta figure it out put on your thinking caps if you value your own well being when yout facing failures or might fail by mistake.Like for me I've inspired some others to do the same thing as they've inspired me to try again.For example I do a custodian job for 5 hours I've struggled a lot because a old ex super visor named ms pat was cruel to me made me feel like a chump ....where I almost wanted to give up till I stood up for myself and reported her crazy ass for the abuse at my job for calling me slow and calling me deaf! ,so I was moved to a different floor with nicer caring people they confined in me to do a awesome job they respect me but they are very appreciative of me when I do my best my super visor is named chyrell she's sweet she's caring empowering most certainly strong minded... they rebuild me into a strong super soldier,it wasn't easy especially with autism. But I was able to prove to others and myself that I never a punk I could take on anything anyone throws at me at anytime.I succeeded a lot of times I've been bratty every now and then...but thankfully I was given second chances to try again...I've been doing no thanks that other crazy old bitch!.I've been bitched my entire life everyone thought I was stupid even inexperienced with a learning disability now I'm grinding and looking em say how y'all like me now!? Biotches!!....I would have told others don't give up fight back like I did... other fools would probably look at me and say I think your a faggot or retarded... then OK well I guess what?..I think your all assholes and cock suck as who like to talk shit for no reason that's what I think.

great video.... im fantasic at approaching strangers and love meditation, i feel like this video are tools sharpening my skillset

Amazing free content!!! Thank you 🙏. Also I still remember something you said in a video I watched years ago, and I'm really implementing it in my life these days! It was the what happens if you do it vs what happens if you don't principle. Very helpful

Mh, usually that tenseness kicks in when one is among a group of people being better than you at a certain activity/skill and you are there to learn and improve. Persona shifting. That's a skill to master to stay relaxed among a group of masters in their craft trying to learn and making mistakes.

I have somewhat supportive parents, but I sought help from people who I thought were good, but were terrible. At terrible times in life everyone has failed me. I've worked for 6 different businesses that bounced my paycheck. (2 different states, 4 different industries). I care about my sales, but I'm completely checked out on dealing with terrible people. Bad things happen to good people. Good things happen to bad people. If you are offered a raise ask for more. At the end of the day, you are always a replaceable cog in the machine.

Al respekt to JP, toni Robbins and all the others. But this is what i benen serching for. This channel. Omg thank you.

Finding your content was the best day of my life

Subscribed after first video ever watched of Julien. This was awesome 🔥

Thanks for opening high valuable insides of our mind.

There was one thing I noticed about myself when I was around 12 years old, which is that if I was around new people I didn't know, I had to do something weird like yell or do a weird voice or something (I'm actually not really sure anymore what I did) but after that I felt all my anxiety go away around those new people. I had to keep doing this when I was with new people again, but it worked. I remember once I showed how weird I could be, it completely broke the ice and I felt like I could be myself with those people. As I'm older now I forgot about this and this video reminded me of it. Perhaps I should try doing that trick again.

If you can say I don’t know in front of a crowd then you’re better off, you’ve proven you can learn something. If you immediately have a response, everyone that conducts well in front of large crowds takes pauses before their answer; then you don’t actually know but can’t except you don’t without being told so

I broke up with my gf a month ago and this changed me…. Im way more aware of my thoughts and why ive been depressed my whole life… that voice in my head was killing me, it was making me feel so crushed and not confident. But now i know stuff, im the shit! I laugh at myself internationally…

I liked the wheels on the bus technique. I’m going to start implementing that but I find it slows down the mind and thought patterns that are harmful in the moment. Great video overall and cheers to all of trying to change for the better.

Wow! I love these sessions. So helpful!. I will put it into practice. Thanks!

Julien you remind me of Brad Pitt on fightclub. the attitude and everything. respects

It was amazing being there, julien is the man

Thanks Julien you’re helping me change my life for the better! I’m also your twin! I just happen to be a monoplegic lol

Eye opening video. Thanks Julian!

Walking gold mine

Amazing man, everyone in this world must watch this

Bottom line is, you always have to look in to details ! Any thing ! Even your thoughts. When you see detailed thinking and vision you obviously see the difficultyS and possibilitys. That is when you seek answers and information. Otherwise looking for details will educate you and make you see things you will never see 😊

See someone always has it worse than you. Im very sociable and can make friends easily. Do I intend to look for friends? Hell no but I wouldn’t mind them. I’m human. Same for everybody else I would assume but here’s the thing. I think I have these skills because I’m physically attractive so the interactions and attention from strangers in my past was something I never had to overthink moving forward.

This man gets me. I’m about to dive deep into your channel brother💯 awesome stuff.

Bro iam a fan of you bro You tell everything just which is in my mind I feel your methods will work on me

What a good video,sometimes you forget the reason you are anxious its a matter of attitude