DATING is an extended HIRING PROCESS: how to be more confident in the courtship process 

The moment a an get married he is no longer the C.E.O. but the janitor.

One of the main problems with dating is a woman's delusion that she is a 21 year-old free agent Goddess who will only age like fine wine and every "team" is willing to give up all their first round draft picks to get her when she is, in fact, a post-wall 49er. Thinks she's a "9" when she her kids, mileage and lack of "job skills" for being a real wife make her a "4." The other main problem is that too many men believe in the soul mate myth, in oneitis and the unicorn that is the only one for them. If they studied this video, they would understand, that most women have - to some degree, some more, some less - of the qualifications that the responsibilities that are required of a wife and/or mother of his children.

There was no culture where either party proposes, because it was done by the parents a hundred years ago There was no "sexual marketplace" where the man went and competed. Dating and all that modern Western Hollywood nonsense didn't exist. People who think dating is a good idea are retarded Western people who can't point to any long term successes from it.

Quaint… 😂🤣😂

Women are the gatekeepers of sex. In the old days, men had to WORK and EARN a woman's sexual favors. Not anymore. They spread super-easy for "hot" guys. Men are the gatekeepers of a relationship/marriage. They only proposed to women who were "worthy" of bearing his children. Not anymore. They're getting the milk without paying for the cow.

A woman's reply will be "CEO is a job" 😂

@@g550driver13 Every CEO has to be hired by the company where they want to be CEO. They still have to have the talent, experience, and skills to run a profitable company. But, if they don't act like a CEO in the interview, it's not likely that they will be hired because the people interviewing them will pick up on that.

Facts

TO be fair, you only feel this way if you view yourself as unattractive. The relationships I had when i looked my best in my 20's never felt like I was paying to be with the woman.. Now as I am 35 with my hairline receding and not getting any results from dating apps despite listing myself as 6'2 and making 115k a year, it feels like any relationship I will be in the future will be transactional

@@michaelangst6078yes that’s the perks of dating young, when your young it’s all about attraction when your old it’s about transaction

@@michaelangst6078 If you view yourself as attractive, you instantly get immunity from divorce laws. Got it.

@@michaelangst6078 don't test results from apps or think it is a true reflection of your value. gotta get out there and approach women IRL for actual results.

The best employers don't have the problems you describe.

The product you're selling is a place in your life. OR in the context of how doc framed it (i.e - hiring someone to fit in your life that will contribute towards the creation of a "product"). That product is for you to define: the goals, pursuits, meaning, type of life you want to manifest, the value you want to put into the world and those around you, what you build together with a potential partner, etc. would be the "product"

Hopefully it ain't all that transactional and robotic

You are the product that you are selling to women. If you are successful in making the sale you will receive payment (i.e. physical intimacy). If you are unsuccessful in selling yourself, you need to apply for another job elsewhere. Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates though. Women, like employers, can fire their employees too (divorce).

Sorrow.

Sex is the product: you pay, you receive sex.

Same. And potential interested partners are resumes (numbers on your phone)

Whole life?

I am dating a woman now who didn't care about how much I made. Only dude's who have to rely on being in a transactional relationships or go sexless think like you

Not joining his life. They a r evstarting new lifestyle. Mother means fe l eaten to her child, her life

@@michaelangst6078Good on you, may your experience remain like that for for. But note that your experience doesn’t negate the broader observations that have been with us across time and cultures. Majority of them care about your money, so what is your point, that is rather in the minority?

i found the top comment here!!!!

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Excellent summary

@@kellygreenii and without accountability

The problem here is that women (the employer) are inundated with thousands of job applications from men/employees. As women are in the position of power and have executive control over the selection process, they will reject 99.9% of job applications. I think men (excluding Chad and Tyrone) are delusional if they think they have any kind of leverage or power in the modern dating marketplace.

'Just talk to people whenever you see them and get to know them and allow them to get to know you more.' - I've been doing this for a VERY long time for dozens upon dozens of women. That's how I sniff out their NPD among other traits, and it's during this period that I test women for their attitudes, reactions, emotional stability, and so on. None of them pass.

@@EE12CSVTyou’re on to something.

@@elchucapablas Great minds think alike 👍🏻

​@@michaelhowington4205 Kid there's no such thing as a friend zone

Relations-, few want 'the ship' that goes with them.

Thanks for your support, Dhane.

@@psychacks The world may call me a loser, but i can't give up being nice, kind and respectful. Of course it hurts a lot inside to be alone, but it's just how i am. And watching adult videos every now and then helps. I do have a massive fear of rejection and being humiliated, therefore i just stick to myself.

​@@baazinews1027no, you don't just keep it to yourself. You are here looking for dating advice. Keep learning, keep improving!

​@@baazinews1027respectfully, I think you may have the wrong idea of what the words nice, kind and respectful mean in the context of dating.

@@jamesholster5323 In My Country women look down upon nice, kind and respectful men. They prefer sharks who oppress others or insult others. If you are nice then the woman and her family will see you as a weak link. I know its sad here ... but that's just how some of the Non-Western Countries are.

Thanks for the kind words, Ken. I'm honored

This is also the reason why things like "coffee dates" and such are becoming more of the norm in spite of women being upset by them. It's far more efficient for a man to get to know someone with a more casual meetup to talk before you even begin to invest in them (time or money) in any meaningful way, let alone actually invite them on a real date.

@@Shifft-This Yep, the first date should never be anything like lunch or a meal, a 'proper date' that many women seem to think they deserve. The first lengthy interaction between a man and a woman - and indeed man/man and woman/woman - should be simple, inexpensive, casual and low-pressure to examine each other's personality and that either can make a rapid escape if they need to. You probably discover 90% of what they're like in that first chat.

​@@Shifft-Thislooking at it through the lens of this video, a coffee date just became the ultimate filter. If she is offended at the idea, she's not dateable. "Where on Earth does this one go where she expects a paycheck just for showing up to the first job interview??!!"

You are the voice of reason. At the end of the day, women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with a bunch of potential candidates. Women, like employers, may try out a man but will let him go (divorce) if he is not doing his job. If the man/employee does his job, he will receive payment (physical intimacy). Women will always be the employer (unless you are a Chad or Tyrone who is capable of receiving job applications).

… these attitudes are solipsisticaöly narcissistically deluded, in all inherently xx.ine toxicity, of course, just to point out. no gent does actually need all that in his life. let go of f.o.m.o., gents. refrain from even ideating ‚in-wasting‘ (y)our m.e.a.t. to ‚beauty-foolish‘ walking detriment. life is | will have been too short.

… these attitudes are solipsisticaöly narcissistically deluded, in all inherently xx.ine toxicity, of course, just to point out. no gent does actually need all that in his life. let go of f.o.m.o., gents. refrain from even ideating ‚in-wasting‘ (y)our m.e.a.t. to ‚beauty-foolish‘ walking detriment. life is | will have been too short.

yes, this is the message. the women will be all picky, entitled, even abusive ..if you let them. always be in a position to do the hiring. then once hired, maintain the position to do a firing too when performance is not as agreed to. allow leverage over you and it will **always** be used against you. being in charge is not being mean or abusive. it's a necessary element of a lasting relationship for all participants 😎

@@mobilemcsmarty1466 exactly. and one dispositional option for gents is certainly to be responsibly not hiring at all. like staying sober, per deliberation.

@@VaronPlateando oh yeah, I forgot to emphasize the perfectly fine option of being a solo free agent. now should you wish to hire I highly recommend having more than one employee. the implied competition makes for good company. two is a sweet spot for me ..when I feel like more than zero. go for more if you have the management energy. three was nice for a while. be with a one and only and then you're the employee 😎

Wow I lived this one.....i was part of the Disney fantasy until I had opinions and friends

She values you for everything you provide her, material and intangible. You as a human being are irrelevant.

I see she dodged a bullet there haha

@@AlfaGiuliaQV I definitely avoided some duds. Process worked quite well, ended up with a good one by end of the "interview period" and been with her for going on 19 years now. No kids, low body count, conservative, doesn't vote for left wing lunatics, cleans, does laundry, and is an excellent cook. Worked out well for me. Would encourage all men to make sure they set standards and stick to them.

@@brandongray1059 Wasn´t talking about you dude.

@@AlfaGiuliaQV Oh I know what you were doing. And I was making my point. Glad we got that settled.

Instead of bathrobe Chad who is only interested in obtaining women but non maintaining being with them

NGL. I completely disagree with this video. In the vast majority of situations. Average guys are asking women for dates and box. Expecting women to start cold approaching, running game and paying for dates with men is delusional. Only Chad and Tyrone can manage this level of treatment. Most men will always be employees, i.e. they will need to beg the women/employer for box/money.

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 It's counter intuitive but it's true confidence smells good and is attractive. Simping leads to creeping concessions, which leads to resentment, which leads to the darkside, sorry 🙂 , I mean termination of the relationship. Simping ultimately is a failed strategy.

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 I think you misunderstood the video entirely. Maybe watch it again.

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540men are considered the prize in most of the world. Once you start travelling you’ll see it’s the opposite everywhere else but western countries

That's why modern women are undatable and not wife material

When the woman feels a tingling sensation between her legs during a live date (not watching ig pics or facetime), the man becomes the CEO and is hiring and bargaining.

@@tomaszsosnowski9279 Yes. Absolutely. Completely agree. My original comment was just in relation to the average guy. If Chad or Tyrone pulls up, they have all the leverage, and it is a completely different game (as described by Dr Taraban). However, Chadrone is the exception, rather than the rule.

The biggest difference between the average guys and the f-boys is mostly psychological. F-boys approach dating like the Doctor suggests (i.e. "You'd be lucky to work for me") because they have an understanding that most women don't have anything going on and that the male attractiveness bar is much lower than advertised. Average guys, on the other hand, pedalstilize women, even if he has money, largely due to his ignorance of the dating market and his own bargaining power within it.

Agree that not every guy is a Chad. Similarly, not every woman is an insta queen.

Husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it by the washing of water by the Word...

@@samuelmorse784 lmao!!!! You guys have jokes!!!

Girls be all about their business to screw you be focused on yours.

@@samuelmorse784 to hell with christ

@samuelmorse784 She has to earn the title of "wife" and work consistently to maintain it like any other vocation in life. You don't just hand it over to any broad, especially the ones of today that are being brought up from a degenerate society. That's the problem with you modern christians. All you do is utter catchphrases and to think that's supposed to absolve you having to do any heavy lifting in the process. The word was made flesh for a reason. So that it rationalize along with us. Not just utter catchphrases.

Thrice here. Avoided the insinuation entirely.

You got a marriage proposal from a government agency?

@andrasbiro3007 A marriage is not between two people. The government dictates the terms & conditions of marriage via the leagal system. I don't agree with being screwed over by family law if the marriage heads south.

@@SunRise-ul7ko But did you say no to the entire relationship, or just the concept of marriage? That's a big difference. Also just living together gives the other party may rights that marriage does.

@andrasbiro3007 I said NO to marriage & NO to cohabitation to both. The first one whined so much that I eventually ended it. The second one, I'm dating casually with no commitment. I may end that one soon as well.

A guy's .. "unit" has no conscience!

@@M0viLoveralthough I feel as if it’s the only one talking lol

The zoo (and the museum) has some "anything"-s with two legs. ☺ Enjoy! 🦩🦘🦖

Young King, use your 20s to build that compelling lifestyle and when you get to your high 20s/low 30s. If you do that right at that time you will have a lot more options dating women from mid to lower 20s.

Nice cope. I make 115k a year and am 6'2 and I still feel like offing myself from time to time due to my lack of success with women now in my late 30's.. You probably are way worse off than me, yet say you're happy and witching this video.. Lulz..Keep lying to yourself and Cope some more

Me too

For now. And by the time you change your mind, it will be too late.

The fact you’re watching this type of content says otherwise

@@Avogadros_number Nope. Understanding and rationalising what is happening in culture increases my happiness. I feel very lucky to live in a time in which the MSM can no longer gatekeep knowledge and information.

This is the best comment. Men in general don't receive any job applications because we are not the employers. It's the women's inbox and DM's that are flooded with application. Women, like employers, are the selectors and have the power because they take the greater risks in pregnancy.

A role that requires a PhD and 10 years of experience that pays minimum wage isn't going to get many applicants.

​@batisseur3360 Why do I have to own a company, why can't I genuinely just euthenize? Why are any of us forced to play a game we don't want to.

@@GeeBeanie Well then, let me go the way of the dodo. Let me drop out of the evolutionary competition that has no reward. There should be no societal pressure against suicide or euthenasia.

@GeeBeanie The "touch grass" like I have a hammock I spend time in and read, I drive my convertible around and my motorcycle, like grass is great, it's not a reason to live. Grass doesn't need someone to enjoy it to exist. If I have to keep this machine alive there needs to be some fulfillment that is presented. And none of it is fulfilling due to temporal limitations and how little control or influence you can develop towards anything in reality. I do touch grass and it definitly doesn't make me want to live.

I would agree, to an extent. This lens, this angle, though it gives great perspective and insight into the matter of things, could constrain your vision and hinder the possibilities of what a fulfilling engagement with an “employee” with the right skills and aptitude could bring to one’s company. Otherwise, I agree with you whole heartedly. We, the employers, just have to understand what we’d have to provide an employee, how to incentivize them, and what purpose or role do they serve in our business. I’ll be honest, thus far in my life as a young man, I’m just looking for entry-level, seasonal temp work. A wife or girlfriend would bankrupt me and I can’t afford it

To me it’s just another life challenge that can be contended with and enjoyed to some degree. Quitting doesn’t seem to be the best alternative because it might lead to some from of nihilism unless it’s done for religious purposes.

Yes. Its like friendships. People will stop being your friend if you are constantly negative and never add anything. Personally, even if I have a family member like that I try to be around them as little as possible.

Of course. It makes complete sense that you feel that way. That's how you know the information doesn't make any sense, and it is, in fact, inaccurate. The actual truth does not discourage. Truly understanding women enables you to love them, and it makes things easier. The people that say different are looking for validation for their limiting beliefs and cause discouragement as a result.

@@Leoo117 So what do you disagree with what Dr. Taraban stated?

Many? Try nearly all. And it extends up until 60 or so. It's so bad that even women in their 50s with multiple children from multiple baby daddies consider themselves and act like they have a higher SMV than a very pretty, slim 22 y/o netball player in the late 90s. Yet so many man feed their delusion.

The majority of "employers" competing for women are the ones they don't want to work for so we shouldn't be concerned about those. If you're Google or Facebook however, a low-value woman's job application doesn't even make it through the filter and gets auto-rejected, effectively making themselves invisible to you.

Much respect to you for not pretending to offer more than you are willing to give. A lot of women will pretend to agree to more in fear of losing the current arrangement, and that never ends well. As you said, stay in your lane. Not everyone wants to be a housewife or a mother, and theres nothing wrong with saying "No" to a promotion which requires more responsibilities. This applies to men too. Don't offer more than you are willing to give out of fear for losing the current arrangement.

@Te-legrem-on-PsycHacks1 what is it?!

The trouble with the breakdown is that it is completely wrong. Men always have and always will need to apply to a women for a job. If the women accepts the man's proposal, she will pay him (give him physical intimacy). When the men/employee does not do his job, she will let him go (divorce). Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates. Only Chad and Tyrone have the ability to be employers and choose from a bunch of women.

If you're around a lot women, listen to what they talk about: gossip, gossip, gossip, TV, Netflix, TV, famerlee, gossip, and that's it. At my old place it was like that. I swear I used to lose brain cells listening to the verbal diarrhoea. I'm grateful that my outlet from that was my elderly female boss, as well as various visitors of both sexes, so we'd sit down and have good conversations about all sorts of topics. I used to be able to take that for granted in women I'd date or have an affair with. I've found that women generally over 60 have an ability for these conversation skills, but for the vast majority of women under that age, it's that list. And they expect you to talk to them in that manner. The last time I dated a woman around my age with whom I could have a decent conversation was back in 2008. There have been a few others since, but two turned out to be boss babes and marginally on the NPD scale, with the other two being full-out narcissists. A pity, as their conversational skills and intellect was superb. But in women, that seems to coincide with narcissistic personality disorder. It's a very pleasant experience to have a good conversation with a woman who knows how to hold a conversation, even if she's not your lover, and they don' t need to be academic, either. One of the best conversationalists I know left school at 16 with few qualifications, became a housewife soon after, has had no further education but likes to read. She's also a quick learner and will debate things with me intelligently and without resorting to a tantrum if her assumptions get challenged. Sadly, she's an exceptional rarity these days. One woman I know used to stalk me for a long time and had an infatuation. On getting to know her, she admitted that she'd never read a book in her life, nor saw the need to. As you can guess, she's glued to her phone and forever taking selfies to stick on IG as thirst traps. I used to be able to take for granted in the 90s that I could meet and date/have an affair with a polished, well-behaved woman who knew to have a good conversation with me and others, who never complained, and didn't have an attitude. Women like that were the norm. I now struggle to find them. It's sad.

Use them for their holes? They give it away without marriage you know.

Well he’s already been on a couple of other podcasts so far and he seems to be getting about 3,000-5,000 new subs every several days. A few more podcast and he will get that million subscribers by Christmas.

He deserves more than a million. One of a kind brilliant.

It's also a good remainder on how woman views a relationship. Quiet quitting and monkey branching is part of the corporate world so you would be more active watching out for that within your employee then. 😁

You probably never looked at it this way because this POV is not real. In reality, men are not going to be receive job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).

Bro, this is probably the worst video. Men are not going to be receiving job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).

This is the right attitude!

@@sparshrastogi2646 🙏🙏🙏

Many, but not all, companies will not hire you if they find out that you are simultaneously interviewing for a competitor. It's probably not rational but it happens and it does make sense for the top companies.

I agree-if the employee is very desirable, then it makes sense for multiple employers to chase her down with offers, as well. But still in that case, the employers are hopefully doing so with a full awareness of what traits and skills they are looking for, and they have confirmed that this applicant has what they're looking for-so it's not just chasing after a random pretty girl-it's still more of an informed and selective hiring process.

@@SmileyEmoji42 none of their business

@@pedridemperi9872 If they ask and you say "none of your business" that will not go well. That just leaves you with either telling the truth or trying to keep a straight face whilst lying (and obviously, if they think you are lying or even just being evasive, that wont go well either)

@@SmileyEmoji42 true but my underlying position is....if they have the sheer audacity to ask then find a different company. It's nosy controlling and over-reaching. If it's a woman asking you about your financial affairs early on.....find another.

Such a great comment because its so true. I left my UK marriage with much less than what I started with and put in. My wife got 70% of all the money and assets, the house and custody of our son. I just got 30% and visitation.

The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Plain and simple

Dating is not that expensive. Ever gone on a picnic?

@@-whackd yes and no, that depends on the girl and local conditions. Living in Toronto, one of the most expensive cities in North America the expectations might be higher but maybe not. She'd probably want to go to fancy expensive resos

@@-whackd Monetary expenses are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the costs of dealing with modern women. The costs in time, intellect, and psyche often greatly outweigh the cash a man spends.

We are trying to get some of that good good

An employee with 20 offers is still looking for a job. By this very process, she admits that she can't give herself what she wants. On the other hand, a company in high demand receives thousands of applicants. One job makes more of a difference in the life of one employee than one employee makes for the life of one job.

But that's only because of desperate men who'll simp after any woman with a pulse.

@psychacks I get the point that you are making. It is probably true for most people seeking employment. But there are a lot of cases with different power dynamics. I think it is important to point it out because those cases extend into romantic relationships as well. First obvious thing to point out, not all men are like "high demand job". Quite a lot of them are like part time job at McDonald's. Desperately need to fill vacancies by anyone who is not a drug addict visibly.

@@Bogdanko93 You're giving women WAY too much power. 90 percent of women do not have anywhere near the amount of options you're speaking of. I've met far more sexually frustrated women who went years without a date and are yearning for male companionship than woman who have 20 different men trying to take them out.

BRAVO !!! Super analogy !!! 🎯🏆

That's right--an attractive employer gets the highest quality applicants. I worked for a small high tech startup in Marina del Rey (nice part of L.A.) They got tons of resumes from Ivy League grads and took only the top tier. It was amazing to work with that level of employee. As one of my older co-workers put it, "You tell these kids once to do something--and it's done!"

"Just become a Chad, lol".

My Man ! ✊🏾