Dealing with a TOXIC PERSON without it DRAINING YOU! 

This is draining, it's constantly being on guard. You just want to be at peace and relax but their only goal in life is to take that away from you, so they wait till they catch you in a bad day to have you react and yell how fed up of them you are! 😤

The negativity from the narc is just draining .Yet they project onto you that you are the negative one .Listen closely to their conversation ,they never compliment or thank you.

I agree 100 percent. I no longer have trouble protecting myself. I used to absolutely twist myself into a pretzel for others. It’s possible to change but it takes courage, practice and being ok with not doing it perfectly every time. Adopt a growth mindset about it and anybody can achieve mastery.

I had friends who is always bossing me around making me do things that they wanted to do. So I turn it around and became a friend that is constantly asking for favors. I'll ask to borrow money, or to give me a ride somewhere in their car. To babysit my cat and even to pick something up for me on their way home. They got so annoyed with me that now they avoid me as much as possible. Without even realizing that they has given me peace and I have been able to do so many things that I wanted to do an accomplish so many goals without being interrupted by them. My tip is if they bug you then you annoy them and eventually they will go away and you'll enjoy your life with peace and quiet 😜👍

Once you pick up signs of a toxic person around you or in your life ignore, walk away do not allow power of you to them. Go away from them.

Slowing down is key, it's like playing a game a chess. Self awareness also is a game changer. Great video as always!❤️

I have the tribulation of living with these types of people. Sometimes you just need to ignore their comments, try your best to minimize your interaction with them, and have your own space. Also, prayer if you are a person of faith.

Toxic people are always around me and they are literally everywhere.

Your exactly right Stephanie. We cannot let anyone control our emotions. Good video. I need to slow down on my reactions 😑

Stumbling upon Channels like these is one of the best things to ever happen to me. They are really helpful in helping me navigate and eventually, getting myself out of sooo many toxic dysfunctional relationships that I had unintentionally put myself in.

I've been listening to you for years and all of your videos are spot on. It helped me thru and to overcome a difficult divorce a year and a half ago. Keep these messages coming Stephanie.. Thank you..

I tend to end up as a "trashcan" for toxic people... It's horrible, and i just fawn as a trauma response! But im going to take responsebility now! I have grown stronger and now i have the energy end spupportsystem i need to take this battle. Thank you for making theese videos ❤

It’s amazing how many unaware toxic people there are out here! Some absolutely refuse to work on themselves.

It's 1.20am in the UK and I so needed this! Got my 32 year old son living with me. In 2014 he was diagnosed with Aspergers. In July 2021 he came back to live with me. He hasn't spoken to his mother, my ex, since 2012. Earlier this year he was diagnosed with ADHD. But through this year he has become more narcissistic in his behaviour toward me. Thank you Stephanie for this. Helped me get a positive perspective tonight.

This is SO HELPFUL to me, thank you!!! I live with someone who has outbursts and blowups out of the blue on crazy, little things. It’s just nuts!! And living in this environment is so taxing and utterly exhausting! I want to run away from my home at times and not come back. I’m currently working hard to heal from a recent cancer dx and I’m realizing separating myself from this person/detaching from him at these times is crucial!!! Thank you for this great info!🤓👏🏻👏🏻 I especially appreciate the part about not taking their issues upon us. It’s their problem, not ours. Thank you for this❤❤❤❤

What narcisists are doing has nothing to do with me! - repeating This mantra is very helpful and it is true! Abusive behaviour and hurtful words tell on the abuser and not the abused! Thank you.

You are a life savior, Stephanie. Thank you so much for everything you do. You have no idea how much your content is helpful to me. Thank you so much ❤

Great video Stephanie, this is the reason why I haven’t gotten divorced yet, my wife is needy and toxic and all her problems she blames on me instead of owning her lack of discipline and poor lifestyle choices. This video is what I might need to finally have the courage to go through this divorce because this relationship has given nothing but heartaches and disappointments for 12 years. I have to be courageous and fearless and know that everything is going to be ok and it’s ok to dive into the unknown and a new life.

Looking back if I could have done something different with my toxic ex, it would have been to not engage in the crazy arguments, it just fed her and drained me. Remain silent or walk away is my aim if i ever encounter this again.

“This is a trigger, this is a trigger, this is a trigger” my mantra

I try to view dealing with the difficult person as emotional weight lifting. The more I can keep my emotions in check dealing with them and also NOT ruminating on the interaction afterwards, the stronger I get. I will be honest though, it's a lot of work not smashing a glass bottle across their face.🤣🤣

God bless you Stephanie for putting positive awareness out into the world! 🙏

Her video's seriously changed my life, and taught me so many things.

Bravo!!! Love this. I just learned in February about narcissism… and finally getting “practiced” in dealing with them, as you poignantly stated. Thank you for all your truly helpful free content. Much respect and gratitude

Starting my day with this video. Thank you for taking the time to say what needed to be said. ❤ you

I have been through so many difficult relationships and situations after survivor several forms of abuse growing up. I have learned to do the work to produce a wisdom response in the place of a emotional reaction! This video is spot on and very helpful. Thank you for what you do.

There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy. 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

Thank you Stephanie! Your videos are always informative, practical, and inspiring. I’m actually emotionally triggered with anxiety right now. I’m a light sleeper and living with my dysfunctional family. My parents are both toxic in their own ways and my brother is as well. It’s very difficult being around them it’s an emotional rollercoaster. A little joy but it never lasts with them because they not ready to get help and heal individually.

yes their alot toxic people on this earth and i run into alot of them like cass he a friend of my mom's and he nosey and be's toxic around me i just ingore him now and act like he not even around me

Thank you! You explain things so well! As soon as I hear it, I think, “Of course! This makes so much sense!” Thank you for continuing to love & share your wisdom!

You are so smart, Stephanie... thank you! I am definitely rewatching and taking notes! I need these tips burned into my brain and muscle memory.

Thank you for your videos, helps me more than you know

Thank You. This Advice Is Always Useful Around The Holidays

This all makes sense but when it’s your mother it’s so hard. She is getting more evil every week towards me to the point I don’t even want to live anymore. I’m 43 and the thought of another decade of being made to feel so low is unbearable. I resent her so much, I have no respect for her and think she is a terrible mother but I have no choice, we are only a small family of 4 and both my parents are very unwell, the guilt won’t let me walk away. I feel so trapped

I’m so thankful for your RU-vid channel, thank you for your time and energy 💜

So self developin' and healin'. Interesting vid. Love it, thank you

This is an EXCELLENT video! I've watched it 5 times! 😊

Thanks so much. I really needed this advice!

Could not need this video more today! Much appreciated.

I always trust what Stephanie will say will make perfect sense.

With the holidays coming and being expected to tolerate that person detachment and a pause is wonderful. I took my power back.

A great video as always Stephanie and really really helpful as I have to engage sometimes with my narcissistic mother. I used to jump to her tune, mainly I now realise to avoid her narcissistic rage, but now I am in therapy and also watching your videos to educate myself I feel more empowered and can predict mostly her “drink of choice” and prep for it. But slowing down my reactions is something I still have to work on so that is my No.1 takeaway from your video today. Love them for validation, therapy and just a reassurance that it’s not me!❤🙏

Thank you! So very helpful. When all else fails, give yourself permission to discontinue any interactions. 🙏❤️

I like how calm she is in all her videos, she seems soo chillll lol

As always, so helpful !!!! Exactly what I am dealing with. while co parenting or paralel parenting; liiterally within last week it was a roller coaster... playing nicr in the sand box one day, the nect day not, saying he will do something and than just not doing it with no explanation. This was soo helpful. Thank you Stephanie

Thank you for this video, I wrote some notes down. I feel a lot more prepared now to handle the difficult people in my workplace :D

THANK YOU for this video!!!! Just, Thank you. So insightful during my newly separation with my toxic spouse.

I needed this now, thank you! ❤

Thank you, this will be really helpful for upcoming family interactions! I listened 3 times and took notes 👍

The format of this video is really helpful with the steps at the end. Thank you.

I am running over each of your videos and having them related Thanks a lot ❤🙏 for sharing all these 🤗🤗

THANK YOU!!! This helps so much!

Thank you so much, I will watch this again and again as it really resonated with me and helped me.

Praise God Stephanie you've got an answer

Wow this is amazing ❤ thank You 🎉🎉

THANK YOU a million times over!!! Your message gives me hope that I can deal with THAT person in my life.

I like when things are slowing down and giving me the time to heal up. ❤

You are super helpful for me 🙏. So a big Big thank you for all your help 🌟.

Grateful for your advice

Verrrrry good advice. I do these things subconsciously but this video shows me what exactly should be done

This is right on time!

very well explained. thanks

Thank so much for everything you do we love you 💗💗😘

Omg perfect timing...crazy story I have. I got to pick up at grocery and they repeatedly give me Brown rotten bananas. I have complained nicely. Still getting the gas lighting that there's nothing wrong with the bananas! The last two weeks every time I do a pickup something's missing in my order and when I complain they say it was in there LOL what to do with these kind of people I will watch this video 100 times LOL

Spot on! Thank you

Yea living with this walking on egg shell and tension is what gives us hypertension ( high blood pressure)

Thanks mam It really helped !

You’re the best ❤

Great video thank you 🌈🌈God bless you 🌈🌈

Stephanie, you are the best🎁❤️‍🔥

What can I do when I start feeling anxiety around the toxic person when they are near me ?

Thank you so much Stephanie!!!

This such an awesome video

Greetings Stephanie, nice to see you again my friend!

She right. It gets a lot easier.

Helpful ❤ thanks

OMG perfect timing! Thank you so much. I wonder why this is playing out so much right now?!

Thank you!

Amazing video as always Stephanie!! I loved the tip about evaluating what we do after the interaction. And making sure we’re doing healthy things to sooth (outside of venting. Lol)!

Run is correct Nevermind that kind of behaviour🙏🌠

Thank You • 💪

I miss the good ol days. I just used to beat the beep out of them. In my environment, that doesn’t work today. So this video is very helpful.

Ignoring is a great method however I prefer the lashing out method as you can let your anger build up inside and then when it’s time you can just fill the air with hate and smash them to pieces , when they eventually heal you can repeat it all over again 😂 bless you all ❤

This video is a tremendous help! Thank you so much.

Could you please post a video how to deal with and help a toxic narcissistic attention-seeking manipulative coworker who is also suffering from mental illness (delusion mainly)?

Sounds exactly like my wife. Refreshing video.

Good Video 👏

Thank you thank you thank you.... you have no idea how much I appreciate your videos. I feel heard, seen and understood. I was questioning my own reality and sanity, and down in the dumps... but after watching and learning and reflecting on my own relationships their role, my role, my wounds, their traits... I can see the dynamics..... You are giving us tools to use, that can empower us, so we don't feel as drained or blame ourselves when dealing with people like this.... I feel relieved to be honest.... Your channel is the right step in reclaiming my own sense of worth and my mental and emotional health. P.S Your programs I would love to do, however can you provide payment plan option eg 3- 6 months a direct debit/credit card payment to come out, rather than the whole amount at once. I have done this with other resources I have been interested in, it makes it more affordable and accessible. : You may reach more clients that way. :)

Thanks!

So so true.

When i’m detached and someone creates drama to try get control over me, i make light fun of the situation. I might be like. Me: Can i ask you a question? Her: ok. Me: why are you so fit? It changes the mood in a positive direction. You don’t have to stay close to that person after but this lets them know they cant affect you and shows you care even when they’re throwing a tantrum. If its too rude or disrespectful… tell them to stfu and remove yourself from there.

I'm running out of skin to cut and I don't think I can live like this and I don't want to continue to live like this but I'm broke and unable to get my own place. My job and the rent doesn't match. The rent cost is getting higher and I couldn't chase after it anymore. Here I am hoping to get some tips on how to deal otherwise I might just not wake up anymore.

Thank you

Perfect timing! Thank you for this! At what point would you say it's best to cut ties and leave? Or is the point that it simply doesn't trigger you any longer? I am dealing with a challenging client and not in position where I can leave just yet.

I'm so bad at letting people get to me I get emotional and then bad anxiety kicks in

I have a judge. Deliberately being toxic. I am being patient but it is taxing. She is new to this field of law and thinks I am being horrible (all because I am objecting to questions during cross examination) 😅

I have been detached for a long while now but then it was birthday on Monday and I found it really difficult being the first one without him. Then realised he hadn’t paid something that was overdue that he assured me he would and I reacted. I hate that I did and I wish I just ignored it but for some reason I didn’t.

As I go down the hallway to see 31 patients. I’m drained, hell yea.

Thanks 🙏😊

I'm dealing with a sadistic psychopath... I couldn't focus on revising and studying for my important exam and I failed it because of their abuse 😢😢😢