Diagnosed Sociopath (ASPD) Kanika Batra explains how she would not get attached if she were a neurotypical. #aspd #foryou #fyp #sociopath #viral #personalitydisorder #clusterb #relationship
For anybody that's saying this is toxic, these are really good tips if you are trying to detach yourself from an abusive, or toxic person. She is not toxic for sharing.
Oh wait maybe this is just what I’m doing LMAO because after hearing this I was like I do this every time every time I’m out of a relationship Info is info I’m thankful shes sharing 🤓📝
@@maddart4445 Oh you mean in the context of dealing with a toxic/potentially toxic person? Absolutely, couldn’t agree more. I just wasn’t sure if she was commenting solely about toxic people.
"I would also actually change the name in my phone to something that doesn't bring me happiness " *Phone rings* You got a voicemail from"Garlic breath".
If all women would just wait till marriage instead of doing it with every chad they meet, there would be a lot less trauma and heartbreak, and women would have the power
As a person that tends to get attached too quickly, thank you. The interest that somebody shows you when you start going out can be addictive. I found out the hard way that when you start to care more about the other person than they do, they get immense power over you and more often than not will use it. Play it cool boys and girls and you'll be spared the heartache.
The very samething that happen to me. But they know exactly the right things to do and say.. like call you for and talk for hours and give u what they think u want, also show how sweet they are never me again
That is so very true about the power I heard this amazing quote once that sums it up perfectly and it says "the person that has all the power in the relationship is the one who cares less"
I’m dropping out my Master’s Of psychology program and enrolling in a how to develop a cluster b personality disorder in less than a year program instead🥵
This may be effective, but there are multiple reasons why you’ll never hear a therapist or anyone who cares about your mental health suggest this. I wish it wasn’t not only so counterproductive and unhelpful but more importantly that it wasn’t super destructive to actually do this? because god if it isn’t sooo tempting and much easier to do than anything that heals and helps us grow 😫
I feel like she is the inverse version of me, and I'm learning so much from her. It's funny how the word "sociopath" often brings ideas of someone harmful or predatory, but I think it's so interesting and beautiful how traits of hers that are stereotypically considered pathological and dangerous are actually helping people like me who feel *too* much. Takes all sorts in this world, I guess 🤷♀️
Pls recognize you’re learning from snippets on the internet, In Real Life sociopathic traits are not beautiful or wonderful AT ALL. You don’t need to be a sociopath to learn/teach about psychology & emotional intelligence, there is more than one path to enlightenment. I just don’t want you to think it’s safe to get to know a person like this IRL, it’s not! God bless 🦋
@@queenj.8i895 what if someone felt that way about you? That your dangerous based on your existence as if you're perfect and unflawed...any human being is capable of anything and everything
Thank you so much as a person on the Autism Spectrum, it hurts so much when I get attached to someone (Both romantic and non-romantic way) it's really hard for me to move on, you are amazing Girl!!
While she offers sound advice and practical tips, l think it’s also important to realize that she is programming the subconscious to be more receptive / lean towards sociopathy whether one is conscious of this or not. It’s possible to be a human (man or woman) and exercise healthy boundaries without needing to access the mind-state of a sociopath to do so. Our ability to empathize, grieve, feel remorse, etc… is what maintains our humanity, warmth, and interconnectedness. Don’t sacrifice yourself at the 9th hour💜
Unless you're trying to detach from the abusive relationship. Empaths are abusers catnip and is the exact quality that has survivors stay in abusive relationships. The advice I this video is incredibly sound advice for someone trying to change their circumstances and get out of the cycle of violence. It's a cycle for a reason.
I couldn’t agree more. I do think it is important to know of these things, of course, but… that’s mostly because it can aid significantly in what you’re talking about. As something of an awareness immune system or… something to that affect.
I think a lot of people need to do this stuff though, a lot of people get soo attached way too quickly and need to take control of their lives and emotions more.
An idea that I tested is that when you get attached...you practically fall in love and have expectations. It is known that people fall in love in the absence of the other person. To prevent this, I alwaysthink of everything else, but not that guy. I work, I have hobbies, I simply occupy my mind with immediate reality. Live the life with every second, do not live inside your head. When a thought about him pops up, you just kill it and form another thought. :) This way you are not creating an illusion of this person that you get attached to. Welcome.
@@dootdoot94xo44 it s a conscious thing to do. You just observe your thought pattern and kill any thought about the person, it s not that deep. You just need willpower and hobbies :)) if you actually are passionate about smth in this life, you LL prioritize it over any human being ! If not, too bad ! I tested what I said and I can say after it I didn t make a God out of anyone how I used to. I just saw them for who they really are, no idealizing or daydreaming. But it s not fair to criticize smth you never tried. It s just a mean thing to say but if you re less than 17 y o I totally get you ))))))
I LOVE your honesty, if people who are neurodivergent spoke openly about how their brains worked, and we could somehow just be understanding, it's f*cking fascinating how differently our brains work, and we should celebrate those differences and try to understand them, because that's how we grow and evolve and become better humans... I love this, she is awesome!
I'm ND and I find this information so helpful. I don't understand people's intentions and actions so hearing someone being so honest is so refreshing. I know she is a sociopath so her behaviour may be at the extreme end of the spectrum but most people do seem to behave in these ways to some extent so someone explaining it is brilliant
I’m the exact opposite of you. I’m super emotional, & I become so attached so easily whereas guys don’t. I’d like to be more practical & keep my cool. This is good advice
When you engage physically you start them soul ties...that's when u give your power away. Thats when they put the spell on you, becuase you opened the door. Thank you for the honest advice.
Damn. I got mixed feelings cause I’m the opposite of a sociopath, I feel everything waaaay too much. All the time. No turning it off, overwhelming feelings. As a result I’ve been a drug addict for 6 years now (off and on use) and my first relationship was very abusive and I kept coming back to him. I needed to do what she says in the vid so I appreciate that. However I don’t personally see an issue with becoming attached to someone- I become attached to people that truly mean a lot to me that I have gotten to know on a deeper level (so you can find compatibility, in friendships and relationships). The issue is over attachment- aka codependency. When you feel what they feel, when you feel you’ll not survive without them etc. makes sense sociopaths don’t get attached. But so many people fear attachment and run from what could be a meaningful relationship. All about balance.
Yessss we know who you are beautiful! I absolutely love these shorts your making. I am an empath and I feel that you are the opposite of me. I think I can learn alot from you and finding a healthy balance between being an empath and having some serious boundaries. I appreciate you. ✨💜🌈💜✨
This also explains why my sociopath behaves how he did, he liked me way too much for his comfort, same deleting my number out of his phone, hot and cold behavior, surface level conversations these are all tactics to stop bonding, he can become very clingy it seems, but any perceived slight, he will get angry and disappear, he’s gonna get a dopamine hit tonight I’m about to end no contact !
be careful with the males, I think this lady is different because she has a healthy relationship but the male sociopaths Ive met do not place the value on relationships that females do even the non neuro typicals and they rarely bond long term unless there is a solid reason (green card, want a family for their career, sick need someone to care for them etc.) its rarely for love.
@@sunmoonstars0369 thanks a lot for the heads up ! I think there some borderline traits as well, but I will be careful. He already knows there is no living off of me. If I can help him I will certainly try, he tried to contact me through his brother after we have a massive argument about parasitic living, I’m no push over but at the same time I’m a very loving individual, but trust and believe I’m very harsh at times so do not play with me !!!!
Not a sociopath. Y’all really meet a narc or asshole dude and give them this diagnosis 🥴 if he didn’t try to murder r@pe you he’s probably not a sociopath girlie
That sounds a bit more like bpd, and people with BPD get misdiagnosed with antisocial personality disorder surprisingly often. He needs therapy and you shouldn't interact with someone with a personality disorder who isn't in treatment
This advice is worrying. Yes it’s practical but do we think the current social issue is that people are not connecting enough or that they are getting attached ? I think that it’s probably the lack of connection. Encouraging this kind of stand-off ish behaviour seems like it will only exacerbate that. All this is to say, take these with a pinch of salt and don’t use them as a weapon, at danger of festering more loneliness and combativeness in society.
I think the sad reality is most women get overattached in their relationships while men just like to spread their seed. Ive done what she says and oddly it works and works well in keeping people connected to you. Law of attraction is based on not getting attached or giving a shit, so there is spiritual wisdom here and perhaps cluster b types are here for a reason.
@@sunmoonstars0369 This view of: - men spread seed - women get over attached is a stereotype and a damaging one at that. There is a bunch of men, spending on women in order to achieve affection that they never received when they were young. There is a bunch of women who don’t get attached (like the lady in this video for example). The stereotypes stop us getting an accurate reading of reality oftentimes. Regarding the Tate ‘f-boy’ dynamic, what is many peoples reaction to Tates philosophy? To call him a sociopath… there you go, case in point.
It’s a Faustian bargain the likes of which are unthinkable to experience. The only plus side is those either born like this or… whatever happened developmentally early on to cause it, they have no idea what they’ve never had. To become like this later in life, thankfully isn’t possible (so the stories go) but if it were it would be like hollowing yourself out every single day and replacing your interiors with an alien parasite. I understand being empathic has its challenges. But… it beats the alternative.
What a horrible place this world has become- what happened to people genuinely respecting each other ? Whilst I agree that we need to remain guarded, it is so important that we also be true to ourselves. Learn to love, value and respect yourself first. Don't rely on others in order to feel validated. Keep working on yourself, expanding your interests, learning and talents. Do not use other people as KARMA will catch up with you eventually.
Wow....thank you! I have gotten drunk off dopamine inducing notifications. I've turned men into God's and got crushed. I've lost everything because I didn't know that I was being unhealthy. I mean love is so pure, right...ugh... I lost my daughters to my ex in all my stupidity. Ended up homeless for 8 years. Talk about regrets.
People with cluster b personality disorders that are in treatment and self aware are basically domesticated exotic pets. She's definitely much better than the undiagnosed ones running around doing whatever
I knew a woman that hated another woman so much and I finally ask her way she said cause she’s a Ho 🤔 she herself was married with 2 boyfriends on side. I swear you can’t make this up.
Hmm I encouraged one of my friends to do this until she found someone trustworthy. She did but chose the wrong person. She was happy they exchanged I love yous after 4 months of dating. One night I went out with my bf and saw her bf meeting up with my coworkers. He saw me, I saw him, it was awkward but he continued on like nothing. Smh dating today is a war zone.
The problem is..when you behave like that with a decent person eventually they will resent you for it even if you let your guard down.. they won't want you anymore. The tip is great for when you recognize someone as being toxic, not before. The ones that don't mind this shady behaviour are usually shady themselves,or become that way because of the torture you've put them through. Karma is a b***h
@@ST-yc7uj I’m not advocating for all the steps she refers to in this video but the overall concept. Non attachment until you feel comfortable you know that person. I think more people need to do this as apart of the vetting process. Once you are attached it’s more difficult to see red flags. Most people explain away odd behaviour or characteristics when they like someone and we already know the outcome of those situations. It’s a balance, taken to the extreme can be toxic and probably means that person has trust issues.
Im autistic and, honestly, this advice helps me so much. Seeing it from a clear and opposite perspective makes it easier to understand other peoples actions. Thank you
When i was growing up starting to date, i discovered it was more beneficial for me to just let people go who didn’t want me or love me. I couldn’t love people who didn’t love me. I was told this is bizarre. So, i started training myself to try to be with people who don’t love me or use it to control me. Now, i am thinking i was smarter when i didn’t know anything. Because, listening to people just made things worse for me.
same, except I still won't love people who don't love me. I always wonder how is it possible for some people, especially women, to be attracted to people who clearly have no respect and no regard for them, it's like the more of a douchebag their love interest is, the faster they run to them. It's crazy because when someone disrespects me they just automatically make me sick and I start to be so repulsed by them, I cannot fathom how to others this has the opposite effect and makes them want the toxic person more and for the record, no, my childhood environment wasn't too healthy anyway so I can't say parents instilled such values and self-worth in me 😅 if I come to think of it, I could have easily fallen into the other extreme because of the unhealthy environment I have been raised in
I feel like I resonate with all of this. Like I almost feel A-sexual and repulsed unless I know and love the person totally and I know they love and respect me.
I suffer from my own mental health problems that make life challenging and at times very unpleasant to say the least. Being this calculated and detached in this way isn’t something I suffer from but it seems very unhealthy and debilitating long term.
I hate that I have to remind myself that manipulation to this extent exists in people. "They're" not kidding when they say not everyone has the same heart as you.
Honestly thank you. You're spitting facts there. It's something I kinda knew I needed to do but hearing it makes me hundred percent more determined to actually do it.
i tried the changing their name in my contacts trick because of you and it actually works!!!! and the notifications part, i actually turned off all of my snapchat notifications, not just from my crush and it's working. suddenly everyone is snapchatting me constantly but i only open the app to respond to people 2-3 times a day.
I’m a super sensitive empath. I fall for a lot of this over and over again. Not because I don’t see it but because if there is .1 % chance I can help someone I’m gonna do it. It Obviously doesn’t help and it results in me learning yet another lesson. And this helps so much. There just patterns. Life is just cyclical,, people are running programs,, some can’t be changed.
I don’t believe this girl is a sociopath either, this is probably just for content. You know sharing with people that you’re a sociopath will make people be wary of you. That’s the complete opposite of what’s wanted.
@@TARALEKTRO you know that people can have more than one mental disorder, right? She's also narcissistic. She loves attention. She's mentioned this before too. She explains how both of these effect her.
Kanika, this is great advice for anyone, especially women. I have seen the darkest days of my life because of my tendency to get easily attached to a partner. Your technique wouldn’t stop me from being open to love…it would just remind me to make someone earn it. Saving this video…many thanks! ❤
Oh daaamn! That’s cold. I don’t get attached because I’m the one who always pulls myself out of trouble. I don’t have to dehumanize them, damn! People die everyday and I’m the only one I deal with everyday of my life. It helps me with healthy detachment to remind myself of this.
"How to prevent yourself from being happy and in a loving relationship." -Don't view people as people -Deprive yourself of the joys of courtship and intimacy -View everything as a "game" that you must win. Be motivated by power and control rather than kindness and love
I am glad I just watched this video. My feelings for a guy who I know is not good for me are developing. We have not been sexually engaged yet. This is great advice.
