It’s a medical term, but it’s also used frequently as an insult or slur against fat people. So it can indeed be offensive. Similar to how the word “ret*rd”.
Your channel has really helped me. I'm eighteen and have put on weight in the last year and my parents kept telling me how fat I look and how I need to lose weight to look pretty again, despite having a healthy bmi. It's really depleted my self esteem. Your videos have helped me to be positive, now I don't eat healthy to lose weight but because I love myself and my body. I don't do "cheat" days because I allow myself to eat intuitively. Anyways thanks for the encouragement, I know you probably won't see this but thanks for everything!
I started dieting when I was 15 years old and started to eat intuitively one year ago, I am 20 years old. My parents do the same, so much love and a big hug from Germany, don't ever listen to them! ❤️
The fact that your parents are saying this to you says a lot about them, and not about you. You don't deserve to be treated that way, it's not right, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it :(
My family also has unhealthy ideas about weight. The fact of the matter is that eating intuitively, whether you gain or lose weight, is what's important. Trying to take care of your body and eating healthy but not stigmatizing snacks or emphasizing restriction is the most important thing, and it's awesome that you're doing that. Also, as a 22 yr old woman, weight gain at around 18 is super normal. Your body is changing as you start to become an adult, and as you start coming into womanhood a bit more, you gain weight in some areas. Keep taking care of your body and don't let your family shame you for adopting both a physically and mentally healthy lifestyle. You're doing great.
@@evilbananatwins Well it sounds like you've done quite a lot of research in this area, and are a bit more emotionally mature and educated than your parents are. Keep going, you're doing great!
Knedaphi I’m going to do a competition and I don’t think the fitness world is the problem. People without strong mentalities are honestly the issue. I don’t want to offend anyone but we have to be responsible for ourselves after a certain age and if you feel pressure to be something you’re not or do something you don’t want to do and you STILL do it... there’s no one to blame but yourself. Not everyone is mentally strong to do everything and that’s ok. I love the medical field and working with elderly individuals but I could never work in a cancer unit, I don’t have the mental strength to do so.
my mom was a personal trainer and i grew up surrounded by the fitness industry. i don’t think that the fitness industry as a whole is the problem because of how large it is, it’s just too vague to say that the fitness world in general is the problem. i think that stephanie buttermore’s transparency during her fitness/health journey while being a part of the industry shows that. there is toxicity in every community!
Sonotemo I agree and disagree. I agree that at the end of the day you need to learn to be mentally strong enough to take care of yourself, regardless of what other people do or say. So if you know you can’t, not being part of the industry would be good for you. At the same time I don’t think it’s right to pretend like the fitness community can’t be toxic. It’s like the beauty community. I love beauty and I love being part of the community. And not everyone can be part of it because it comes with a lot of drama and judgmental people. But I would never say that the beauty community isn’t doing something wrong. And I will always advocate for the industry/community to change for the better. The reality is that a lot of people in the beauty community are toxic and judgmental and make other people feel bad. I don’t think that the fitness community or any other community is different. I think that pointing it out and working on the community being better is needed. Not only that...learning to stop caring what other people say can take YEARS to do. Some people never learn and others don’t learn till they have lived most of their life. It’s a very hard thing to overcome and it is natural to care about what others say or think. I don’t think it’s fair to say that the only issue here are the “weak mentalities.” Just because someone is “strong enough” to overcome what others say doesn’t mean that what the communities do is fine. Personal responsibility will always be part of the equation to your own happiness and health. But looking at the bigger picture, there are other factors. And the fitness community is doing things that isn’t alright. Just like the beauty community or any other community.
lastly: delete any social media where you rely on putting out pictures of yourself for others to rate. It really fucks with your dopamine response in relation to your looks.
Thank you talking about set weights. My set weight for most of my adolescence and early adulthood was 125 lbs. I’m 5’9” so that’s extremely thin, but I ate like a horse and never could gain a lb. Then I had a baby and after losing the baby weight, my set point is between 140-155 lbs, a much more appropriate weight for my height, though still hard to accept just because it was different than the body I was used to. I recently stopped fighting this set point and instead began to focus on increasing my protein and weightlifting. I have never been so happy with my strong, bigger body.
Can you describe how to start intuitive eating? I understand the concept and it sounds great, but how do you get from a place of constantly wanting to eat hyper palatable foods to intuitively eating mostly nutrient dense foods? Is there a transition phase and if so what does it look like? Thanks xo
That’s great! I have the same questions! It would be great to know how to start. I’m constantly snaking and I don’t seem to realize when I’m hungry and when I’m just eating because There’s food around. I’m not overweight but I don’t think I can eat intuitively.
Correct it is a medical term but we don’t need to pathologize people. It actually means to eat oneself fat. Using “fat” or “in a larger body” is more neutral and seen as favourable to this population. I’m not part of this group myself so I am just an ally trying to respect them
Faye H The funny thing is...in German (for example), it’s just the other way around. Calling someone ‚fett‘ (fat) would be highly offensive. Calling someone ‚übergewichtig‘ (overweight) is the correct and polite term here. Although granted, ‚overweight‘ and obese aren’t quite the same thing. I think, the literal translation of obese would be ‚fettleibig‘ (fatbodied)...which is a term, almost no one uses, however. Just shows, how arbitrary these rules are. People suddenly decide, that a certain word is ‚offensive‘ and everyone then has to jump through hoops to avoid it. What’s really going on, is that people can’t get a grip on their own problems/bad habits, so they tyrannize everyone around them instead, in a desperate attempt to regain some measure of control over their life. It’s classic bullying.
Ahhh grackle is my favourite! Not sure if she’d appreciate someone going through her food intake though she’s so each for their own and everyday for her’s different
@@ST-wj3fu yeah! That was kinda my insentive behind it. So much is about distorted eating, Grackle is an ex model, who is (by todays popular opinion0 skinny, and she doesnt give a cr*p about it. She embodies "intuitive eating" like no other. To do an in depth vid would be kinda hard I guess but just on the perspective of healthy relationship with food and eating what you body desires..she's the one to get!
Overeating as a habit is being passive and not thinking twice about what you eat and how it makes you feel. Eating intuitively allows you to recognize if whatever you're satisfied already from what you've eaten, if you're bloated, if what you're eating is beneficial or not.
When we overeat we can tell, because its uncomfortable. If we are eating to an uncomfortable point on a daily basis, then we might not be truly listening to our hunger and fullness. There are many reasons we overeat too, it can be triggered by stress, lack of sleep, over exercising, or eating a small variety of foods. But if you feel comfortable but satisfied at the end of a meal most of the time, then you probably are eating more intuitively. (though its important to mention there are many other parts of intuitive eating outside of hunger/fullness)
@Peter Rabitt Everyone has to figure out the diet that works best for them :D He also always says that in his videos. He's not promoting a high fat vegan diet to anyone, he's just showing us the way he eats in a way he feels good at this current moment. This may change, just as it might change for you. The science behind governmental cholesterol "rules" (which are weird anyways) is still not quite sure how much impact high but also low cholesterol really has. It's more than just " my cholesterol is higher than it should be considering the given guidelines of the medical institutions". Not even the HDL/LDL balance is the real key here. Cholesterol is also important for hormone production and if your cholesterol is on the lower end, this could actually lead to hormonal imbalances and issues (for example estrogen production). That's why you should take those cholesterol analyses with a grain of salt anyways (and they are just a "current stat at this moment" anyways). Do what works for you and let other people do what works for them. -> this is in no way meant to sound offensive or anything. I just wanted to clear the air a little in case someone reads this thinking "oh but he said x and now I can't do y because he said so" :D
@Peter Rabitt idk what kind of vegan diet you're eating but if it's working for you and it differs from his, good for you and good for him if his is working for him.
@Peter Rabitt Little storytime from my own health here: I was on a high-ish carb vegan diet for about a year as I have some serious health concerns and my dietitian gave me the advice to try it to see if my health is getting better. Surprise surprise, my cholesterol levels dropped so much, I lost my period as my hormone synthesis didn't work properly. My thyroid shut down and my intestines could just not deal with all the carbs (especially starches), raw veg and fruit. It was too much for my liver to process all the fructose and as I'm a celiac I can't eat gluten but additives like guar gum and stuff mess up my digestion. So I thought to myself "wait a second, when you were a kid, you haven't had any issues with your hormones and your bowel, so how come it's so messed up now even tho you're eating the right amount of nutrients and calories?" Well, too much fiber for ME, too much carbs for my body (which my liver just didn't like) and too little fat for my hormone synthesis to work properly. I reduced carbs, added a ton of fat (not only as nuts and sees but also in form of a good olive oil) and within just a few weeks I got SO much better. And that's the case for so so so many people. Obviously there are people who do well on super high carb, but some just won't. And there is evolutionary background behind this. Miles is eating the way that works for HIM. And he's not promoting his diet as the best that could be. He keeps joking around and also saying he probably should watch his omega 3 to 6 ratio better. And he never told anyone that his diet is the perfect diet for everyone. He is not giving you advice to eat a certain way. He is just showing what HE eats (in a day).
Hana S It's so ridiculous that we've gotten to a point in time where a dude sprinkling some ground up nuts on a massive salad is a high fat diet and being regarded as unhealthy by some...
I'd love it if you could make more vids on eating disorder recovery and intuitive eating because I feel like there's so much misinformation about them, esp on the internet
Abbey Sharp ohh this would be great. Im in recovery and I love your videos and because of my ed I have a hard time following a meal plan/minnie m. Thanks!
Her cheat days are all in the past, pre her all-in journey and were a way for her to try to do something about her extreme hunger before she decided to go through the recovery process. She explains it in her "let's talk about cheat days" video she did recently. So I doubt she'll be doing cheat days anymore since she won't need to do anything like that because she can instead just eat food. :) Thank you for reviewing her process! It's great to hear from a professional. I'm doing a similar recovery process (on my own, because I've found that it is difficult to get anyone to take a restrictive eating disorder seriously if you are at a high point in weight when you decide to recover, alas) and it has been a revelation after over two decades of being mired in ED and diet culture.
Same...I dont think any doctors or nutritionists where I live would believe I had an ED because I did not look emaciated. Good for you for finding your own path.
@@mmartins8455 I've had crohns for 4-5 years and the low fodmap diet helped me so much! Definitely go to a dietitian tho and get them to help you because they know what they're doing. Best of luck, you're not alone in this 😊
M Martins I have a rare neurological disorder which give me Crohn’s like symptoms... i take Crohn’s medication to manage it. I would 100% go see a dietician. I saw one for a year and it honestly changed my life! I know it seems daunting, time consuming and expensive but you won’t regret it.
Obesity as a medical diagnosis harms patients. It's unfortunately common that doctors will diagnose their patient as obese instead of listening to their symptoms and providing them with the medical care they need. Weight gain is a symptom, not a cause.
@@annasvetlova8651 Actually that's not accurate. I recommend checking out some of the health at every size accounts on instagram... google can guide you, if you actually want to learn about it, but it sounds like you've made up your mind about people in larger bodies. That's common though because unfortunately fat phobia is rampant in society. We treat people in larger bodies disrespectfully and it's not okay. And don't come at me with, "bUt WhAt AbOuT tHeIr HeAlTh??" because when people say that they don't actually care about the person's health. If that were true, we'd be saying the same things to thin people with unhealthy habits too 🤷🏻♀️
Gina Marie lmao official definition: “A disorder involving excessive body fat that increases the risk of health problems. Obesity often results from taking in more calories than are burned by exercise and normal daily activities.” So you’re gonna tell a girl that’s for example 120 pounds could be obese? Lmao it’s funny how delusional our society is with accepting a health risk. I’m not fat phobic. I don’t care about the girls who are well at around 200-300 pounds but, 400 pounds That’s a problem.
"The more you control food, the more it controls you". Wauw. That really hit the nail on the head on my disordered relationship with food, and tears are still streaming down my face from hearing a sentence that condensed it so beautifully. Finally I have a mantra I can say to myself when I realise that I'm yet again slipping back into my disordered patterns. Thank you ❤️
Ummm I can agree that my being obese doesn't have anything to do with morals or if I'm a good person or not but it ABSOLUTELY has to do with what I do and eat.
8:49 "Our weight has nothing to do with.....what we do or eat." Really? Now THAT is idiotic, I mean at this point you should never give dieting advice to anyone. You are saying people can eat more calories to gain weight and cure their condition, but also say your weight has nothing to do with what you do or eat. You should reconsider your career choice if you believe this. Stop lying to gain followers and actually help people by telling them the truth.
How about the people that get diagnosed as obese instead of having their doctors listen to their symptoms and provide them with real medical care? That's incredibly offensive and probably why Abbey doesn't like that term.
Obesity is not a medical term. High Adiposity is a medical term which describes the amount of abdominal fat. Obesity is a psuedo-polite way of labelling, boxing, 'othering' a particular group of people! Similar to the word coloured!
I love Stephanie. She’s so smart and takes such a scientific approach to diet and exercise that it takes out all the sensationalism that we see from so many influencers who are unqualified and are just looking for followers or to push an agenda. She really takes the responsibility that she has as a public figure seriously and I really respect her for it.
@@annapomelo3818 My cravings include some amount of milk chocolate everyday, usually at least 100 grams of it. How does that fit into a healthy eating habit?
@@EudaemonicGirl I think 100g of chocolate is a lot. People usually have cravings on sugary stuff when their diet doesn't have enough of natural sources of sugar (like fruits) or not enough of protein. Try to eat that and see if you still want eat chocolate. Personally, when I eat enough of protein and fruits, and don't even think about chocolate, cookies etc.
Erica Ross It is medical but it can be offensive to the community when we pathologize someone based on their appearance as it doesn’t tell us about their health status in general. Further the etymology of the word means to eat oneself fat. Fat or larger bodies are more neutral and preferred.
Could you please do a video on pcos and diet, as it seems to be very common with young women these days . The common misconception is that it makes you overweight but myself (and have met quite a few other girls like this) have actually struggled to keep my weight up with it and all the info out there is for women with pcos to loose weight not those of us who struggle to gain it. There's so little help out there I get confused on what type of diet would be best /what foods to avoid. Love your videos!
Lean pcos is so frustrating because we can't loose weight and fix our symptoms :(. I even tried strict low carb diet for a year with no results, and it was horrible trying to keep my weight up!! I wonder if there is some connection to being underweight and pcos, because my symptoms are always worse when my bmi gets too low.
@@chaolinchao8332 It would be very interesting to find out if there's a link between underweight and PCOS symptoms (or period symptoms in general). I've never been underweight, but my period symptoms were horrible when I was significantly overweight. I've had relatives that said their symptoms were terrible when they were underweight or eating way too little.
michelle khare did a video with a woman who also has pcos. while that woman did want help losing weight, they have a really good talk about what your body needs and what your body is doing with pcos. there is a dietitian there talking about everything too! highly recommend. good luck!
@@chaolinchao8332 I know! It's like we can do the super low carb /no sugar healthy diet to help the symptoms but then our weight gets too low making the lack of periods /infertility worse! So frustrating how all the info is help for losing weight! I know there really needs to be so much more research done as it's so common now!
I do not think the information you shared on set point theory is helpful to people who are actually overweight. I know you don't seem to ever be addressing people actually struggling with binge eating or food addiction, but this was another instance you seem to fall short on that audiance. To imply that someone's set weight could be 300lbs (mine was at one point) and then follow that by, "and nothing you do or eat will really change that" seems like insanely bad advice. Yeah, if your struggle is with 10-20lbs, sure, that's something that shouldn't concern someone too much. But if you are talking about people who are hundreds of pounds overweight, what a discouraging thing to say - especially if they are following the advice of a doctor. 😐
Actually, set points can fall almost anywhere. Sometimes, "binge eating disorder" is actually just someone experiencing extreme hunger from dieting. They restrict their calories, lose a little weight, feel insatiably hungry, binge, feel guilty and try to make it up by restricting again, and the cycle continues.
@@jessicamann6258 As Abbey said above, she was only referencing adults of "healthy and average" weights. If you believe someone's set point weight can be 300 pounds and diet and exercise cannot move it, then I would encourage you to do some research. But I am not touching that remarkably uninformed claim about binge eating disorder.
This doesn't explain the obesity epidemic in our country, if our bodies will adjust themselves for under or overeating, why are so many people overweight or obese?
The Problem is the food as well.if you it natural unprossed food, fruit, veg, leguems, strach, good fats, good protein. Not junk food. Then you will natural get lean
I feel one of the biggest reason we have plenty of obese people in this country is because of empty calories and lack of physical activity. We crave sugar and salt so it’s natural to keep craving those foods. No nutrients, lots of oil, sugar and just foods to help you crave more. I used to be 300lbs and I can say 100%, I didn’t over eat. I grew up in a Caribbean household and ate as much as everyone does in the Caribbean. The problem is, in the Caribbean people are more active then in America. I didn’t eat fast food, junk food but I grew up eating a lot of food. I lost over 120lbs by changing the way I ate and breaking up meals throughout the day and now, I get full on less. When I was bigger I needed more food. I could eat twice what I eat now and not have a issue. I think the main thing is everyone is different and we don’t all fall under the same category. My body didn’t adjust itself, I had to adjust it.....
Satiety relates to how nutritious the foods you are eating are too. If you eat a ton of empty calories, your body is still going to be hungry at the end of the day because you didn’t hit any of your macro or micro nutrient requirements, your body still needs those nutrients. There are other cultural/socioeconomic/ psychological components as well, but those are on a more case-by-case basis.
Stephanie's 'cheat day' videos are clear example of an eating disorder. I really think you needed to go into that more here. The volume of food in those videos is clearly disordered.
Great video but when you eat junk constantly instead of healthy foods you will go above your set point. Weight is influenced by environmental factors as well as genetics. When you say that you can just eat intuitively and be at a healthy weight that’s not applicable for most people that grew up eating unhealthily. If I just ate intuitively I’d be obese.
It's not really good advice to tell people that it doesn't matter if they're obese and they shouldn't concern themselves with how much they eat. The link between obesity and heart disease is very clear, and there's something to be said for taking pride in one's appearance.
I struggled with HA due to my eating disorder/overexercise for years. I've since gotten it back though (: It was interesting to hear you talk about how it's a lot more common for set point to increase than it is for it to decrease!
Since obesity is linked with diabetes, cancer and heart disease, isn't it worth bringing up? I understand the importance of sensitivity, but if somebody is committing slow suicide, Silence Is Not kindness. Of course this has nothing to do with Stephanie. She has gone the other way in an extreme manner. Good video and thanks for the thoughts
@@AbbeysKitchen I usually agree with u and appreciate u caring enough to help the RU-vid community. I fear for followers of Goatis, for example, and am thankful somebody professional called him out!
She rarely shows her own diet though just reviews/tries other people’s as kind a challenge. Kind of like what Abby is doing here but by physically trying it and without the dietian background
Is it possible for your natural set point to be an overweight or obese weight? If that happened would it really be true that it is healthiest to listen to your body? Also does gaining weight as muscle help your body feel better or is this really about the weight of the fat you have? I've also just thought that if you needed to just increase fat you could increase muscle at the same time which might decrease the risks from obesity but I'm no expert!
@@rebeccalogan9687 People say these words, but then never actually define what the heck that even means, especially for a person who isn't experiencing normal hunger/satiety cues.
@@Conformist138 intuitively means to eat only when youre actually hungry and to stop eating when youre satisfied. Ive found a good way to figure out when youre actually hungry and know when youre done is to eat foods with no sugar, salt, or oils because those are addictive and if youre actually hungry you will eat those baked fries that have no oil or salt.
@@rebeccalogan9687 So it does matter what we eat... Which was my first comment. Full circle! Two months ago, I switched to eating a majority whole foods, ditched most things that are excessively processed, committed to cooking most of my own meals at home, and I track my intake to make sure I don't accidentally over/undereat because it took awhile for my normal hunger cues to kick in and because it makes meal planning easy. I've lost over 30lbs and I recently started getting normal hunger and fullness sensation, which is wonderful. I just can't stand when someone like Abbey talks about intuitive eating being the end all/be all and also says no foods are bad while providing little other context. I mean, taking her at her word, I can and should intuitively eat some donuts and it's dangerous diet culture that'll trigger a binge if I tell myself no. Hearing just "eat intuitively" is frustrating as hell to listen to after everything it took to get me where I am right now--no intuition did it, gaining knowledge and making a serious effort to put what I know into practice did it. And I salt certain foods and cook with some oil because eating shouldn't be an actual punishment :)
@@Conformist138 that's so true. Abbey and Stephanie don't emphasize that there is a limit to all in. If they didn't have a limit, we wouldn't see Stephanie eat oats and sweet potatoes for breakfast. Instead she would intuitively eat a donut, right? And she would gain so much more pounds than what she already has.
I appreciate all the dietitian reviews but I'd really like a review on obesity and morbid obesity. That's where I'm coming from (down 65lbs) but you say that I should just let myself eat intuitively and my body is supposed to be over 300lbs? So should I stop trying to lose weight then? I'm being serious, this is so confusing to me.
I really honestly try not to listen to people like Abbey too much on this particular subject. I just pretend she's not talking to me, but talking to the normal sized person who wishes they were skinnier to fit into trendy jeans. Congrats on losing 65lbs, that must feel amazing! I'm down almost 35 by switching to a majority whole foods and keeping an eye on my calories and nutrients/vitamins. I get hungry before I eat like a normal person, no hint of my body demanding I put weight back on (if anything, my joints are thanking me). Good luck and don't let anyone stop you from improving yourself :)
Nearly all morbidly obese people have an unhealthy relationship with food (usually using food to distract from depression or anxiety or other distressing emotional conditions that may not even be conscious of because I mean those feelings suck). Intuitive eating likely won’t work for someone until they address other (hopefully healthy) ways to address those feelings in a way that doesn’t involve food.
@@MissBroadwayDork I get what you're saying but then maybe she shouldn't address her audience with just trusting your body and eating intuitively. Also I still can't see how fixing emotions will magically help someone eat intuitively. Maybe I dont really understand what she means by intuitive eating, I thought it meant following hunger and satiety cues.
I highly doubt any body wants to stay at an extremely high or low weight as it's not healthy. I believe in set points as I believe I found mine where I don't really lose or gain weight no matter if I eat more or less if I just eat intuitively. I believe set-points are always in a pretty healthy range, let's say 19-26 bmi if we wanna use the bmi. Never really met a severly overweight person that was just eating intuitively and not way too much or dieting all the time. So I wouldn't listen to what Abbey said too much.. good luck for you! :)
HI. I have a bmi of 41 and I eat intuitively now that I'm in recovery. Fwiw, my weight has slowly trended down over the last year of intuitive eating. I would definitely listen to what Abbey says over random people on the internet who have no idea what they are talking about. Intuitive eating and listening to your body are for everyone. Nobody is too fat to heal their relationship with food and to quit dieting. Healthy relationship with food and exercise and life is a multifactorial thing, same as weight is. The point that a lot of dietitians like Abbey who advocate listening to the body and looking at all factors make, from my understanding, is that weight loss might be a side effect of healing your relationship with food, developing a healthy relationship with exercise etc, and quitting dieting but it shouldn't be the focus, because weight loss as a focus almost inevitably leads to worse health outcomes, weight regain, and disordered habits.
I actually thought you knew what you were talking about in the beginning, but saying obesity is an offensive term and that how we eat and exercise has nothing to do with out weight is just so dumb.
sairaalloisenterve I know right! This bitch really said a medical term is offensive! If u look through her content, you’ll see that she thinks everyone is anorexic or bulimic, and doesn’t acknowledge that the word diet is a neutral term smh
Offense is subjective. I think in general society considers the term obesity offense. So to me the fact that people find an actual medical term offensive is ridiculous and show how we treat a serious condition with kid gloves as to not hurt someone’s feelings.
I would be curious to see your opinion on RU-vidr's such as Every Damn Day Fitness or Swolenormous. Their philosophy is based around calories in and calories out and maintaining a caloric deficit in order to lose weight. They are, for the most part, against this "intuitive eating movement" especially with respect to those suffering from obesity or with an ED. I agree with their perspective but I can also understand the intuitive eating point of view especially when it is spoken about by educated people such as yourself or Stephanie. And I feel as if there is almost a misunderstanding between the two sides. Anyway, I'd love to hear your opinion on it!
They aren't against intuitive eating per se, I watch them both daily and their stance is (especially swolenormous) that intuitive eating with all the processed food and marketing on display is impossible to do as processed food that is manufactured to have a "sweet spot" is highly addictive and we crave it/buy it because of said addiction and marketing and they are so calorie dense we can go over our daily needs in just one meal (they actually test foods in laboratories to work out the right sugar/fat/salt amount to ensure the most people buy/crave it)
@@AbbeysKitchen and folks like high intensity health that are not as "extreme" but have a "whole foods" perspective also, and talk about blood sugar, gut health, etc
Did she just say that our weight has nothing to do with what we do or eat? That's just not true! Yes our bodies will try and stay at the "comfortable weight point" BUT our actions can change it. If we eat less the weight drops and if we overeat it can go way way beyond that point. To suggest that weight is out of our control is WILDLY MISLEADING AND DANGEROUS!
Exactly! I hate it when thin people go on and on about how counting calories is bad, just be intuitive! Have you seen the country???? Obesity is costing billions of 💷 because people think and believe ‘I am genetically fat’ *shoves another pizza into their mouth*. Wtf?! I have yet to meet a fat person who starves themselves everyday. Oh yeah, starvation mode is a myth too. It’s always slim/skinny people who have never struggled with their weight that preach BS like this. I prefer Gaugegirl Training. She preaches fat loss in a healthy way!
novi. oey some people are born with higher fat cells than other and when they are children they develop them too. What you eat as a child and your weight kind of determines what you’re weight will be for the rest of your life. Scientists have discovered that. Yes, eating healthy and in moderation will work, but to also say that tracking calories/macros is bad is also totally biased. I’m pretty thin now, but I’ve definitely struggled with my weight. Luckily I’ve only ever been slightly over weight and not obese. I also have pcos and I count my calories to get to my goal weight since I don’t have much to lose I have to be so precise. This doesn’t mean I have a bad relationship with food. Each to their own.
novi. oey yeah my body fights back but I fight back with it. I get intense sugar cravings etc so dark chocolate is my go to! I’m eating 100% clean these days as in no refined sugars, only whole foods. I went off track in the summer and ate loads of sugar so it’s definitely been a struggle. I’m eating lower carb (100-120g per day) and it’s working too alongside counting calories and working out 5 days a week. Sucks but once I reach my goal weight I will start to transition to eyeballing portions and being more intuitive.
Love you so much Abbey but 'obesity' should not be considered an offensive term. It's a negative and dangerous medical condition. You also seemed to really push the idea that diet and physical activity have nothing to do with one's weight, and I kind of suspect that you're doing that in order to remain completely unoffensive and 'untriggering' to your audience, because surely you as an educated nutritionist don't actually believe this, right? NO HATE! Love you, your channel and this video but just had to express this! I absolutely agree that diet culture is ridiculous and that listening to your body is SO important, but I still believe there needs to exist a certain level of mindfulness about how much we consume and expend - I mean, after all, obese people technically 'intuitively' eat themselves which evidently doesn't work in their favour. Xo
Georgia Perisanidis obesity means to eat oneself fat, a more neutral term is just FAT! Or larger body. Diet and exercise of course play a role but less then we would want it to thanks to set point and genetics and how hard our body’s will drive us to be the weight it wants to be
@@AbbeysKitchen thank you so much for the response! I, of course, agree that there exists a setpoint and that genetics also play a part. Nevertheless, I just felt you were really discounting the bigger (and more controllable!) issues of energy in and out and I believe those facts should always be plainly recognised and kept in mind. :) Thanks again and my regards x
Idk I’ve cooked some of Abbey’s recipes (which were all delicious) and they are centred around whole foods. So I kinda assumed that she (like other medical professionals) believes that earring healthy foods is beneficial. Assigning moral value to food can encourage people to either restrict food or binge on it. In my experience dieticians avoid using emotional language about food. I suspect it’s because their patients binge and/or restrict? Idk that’s just my understanding.
I love Stephanie Buttermore because her journey showed me how toxic the fitness industry really is. Fitness "gurus" and youtubers that focus mainly on diet for content seem to be the most critiqued online. It is so dumb to judge people on diet when theres so much conflicting information regarding diet. We are in a period of time were we have an abundance of access to food. Our bodies have not adapted to this. Our bodies still work as if we have to search for food. People attack obese people and not obesity. She looks amazing
Can you do a video on what to expect your body to go through when you’re recovering from an eating disorder? And how long it takes (approx) for your body to run normally. Specifically bulimia
Can take a short amount of time like a very long time to « recover » from an eating disorder. You will mentally go through a lot, it is difficult, you will want to go back to eating like you were eating before even if you know it was horrible for you and dangerous, you will sometimes think it’s too hard, loose motivation, ... that is because your brain needs to be reeducated. It will continue to think like during ED a lot at the beginning, but it’ll get better and better by being reeducated. Your brain thinks food (or certain types of food) is dangerous for you, it needs to understand, and it can take a while, that it is not the case at all. You will experience hunger, anxiety, tiredness, ... but that’s probably things you already have right now. And it will just improve over time if you really try hard to go better. When in doubt, when demotivated, just remember where you’re at, and even if you’re not very far in recovery yet, you’re still further than where you were before ! Wherever you are in your recovery now, I can tell you that you can be very proud of you :)
I have been recovering since my 20s. Sometimes I get it right and sometimes I don't. I have learned to acknowledge when I get the feelings and talking to someone about it.
how does set point theory explain why so many people are 100+ pounds overweight? I'm all people loving themselves and being body positive, but I'm curious about how intuitive eating is good for people who experience all the negative health effects of being severely overweight when they don't watch what they eat. No hate at all, I'm just curious.
Thank you! Set point theory seems best to apply to folks on the opposite side of the spectrum who have restrictive tendencies and eating disorders such as anorexia, orthorexia and bulimia. It doesn't seem like the best advice for food addicts and binge eaters.
I think the set point theory would be more like if someone eats maybe 300 calories more or less then the need their body will adjust. But if you’re eating 1,000+ calories too much, you’re body can’t adjust that much so you will end up gaining weight. I don’t know exact numbers but that’s an example. I learned lots about this in treatment while I was recovering from my eating disorder.
I kind of want you to talk about those of us on the other extreme. Those of us that can’t eat intuitively because we intuitively eat everything (I know not everything but too much) I’m morbidly obese and definitely need to make a change but I just tend to yo-yo. I’ve been yo-yo ing since I was a child. I remember my doctors trying to do something about it in early grade school and it’s not like my parents fault my brothers weren’t so big at that time. I’m the one that just intuitively ate everything in front of me weather fruits and veggies or fast food. I’m on a waiting list to see a specialist dr and therapist on this but I’ve been on it for a year already and I’m just very frustrated.
So, as she explained, one of the biggest ways to raise your set point is through dieting. A lot of people who are ‘obese’ have or are engaging in restrictive eating habits. Their bodies are programmed to store more fat when they restrict as the brain perceives the caloric deficit as them being in a famine. I’ll link a paper below where it’s evident that some people have trouble regulating their appetite due to a malfunction in their gut hormones. I know this doesn’t solve your problem but it can help to understand it all a little more and perhaps you’ll be less hard on yourself as a result. www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/06/190621140239.htm
Jessica Stunden I need a hysterectomy to guarantee I don’t get cancer there. Unfortunately I can’t get one unless I loose 100lbs. Wich is why I’m asking about this. I’ve tried looking for videos on loosing weight but a lot of them focus a lot on extreme exercise or dieting.
I don't get it, you are talking like she is obese now. Making space for different sized bodies in the fitness community? Especially the overweight people are supposed to work out for health reasons. Thats what even some fitness youtubers say in their videos, at least those with some dignity who don't just put up show off videos.. This whole body positivity movement is just a pile of hipocriticial bullshit because its about fat positivity. They do not welcome or allow normal sized people among them. They spread lies about "healthy at every size". There is nothing positive or healthy about having too much weight on your bones. Everybody knows what happens to ones joints if they have to carry an excessive amount of weight for decades. Not to mention the damage done to the organs. Overweight is one of the major causes for Diabetes type II. Positive anyone? Every year the WHO voices their concerns about our kids becoming more and more overweight, but if those kids pass a certain age, it does not matter anymore and it becomes body positivity? Sorry, but no.
I don't really understand the problem with 75/ 25. Our world is filled with incredibly unnatural, empty food. Making the effort to make sure that most of your food comes from less proccessed sources with more nutrients in it doesn't have much to do with weight and diet culture, and all to do with health
It can be really helpful for people in ED recovery to just eat food that tastes good which can include processed food. Pathogyzing processed food adds nothing to the conversation other than a reiteration of diet culture that is harmful to all of us.
This is rediculous that a registered dietician is apologizing for using the term obesity. Also shaming stephanie for wanting to make sure she puts a cap on how much junk she eats. Going all in and eating donuts all day isnt going to help her health one bit.
For the Q&A - how to you manage pre-diabetes without diet? By just intuitively eating? It really seems like intuitive eating is meant for people who are already a healthy (or perhaps below) weight. Overweight or obese can’t just rely on their body’s cues many times. Mine mis-signals all the time.
weight gain has got nothing to do with moral character, will power, eating what we want? I've never heard such nonsense in my life. if you are a person with good will power that only eats wholesome foods you are not going to get as fat as a lazy person that eats pizza all day. all this does is encourages fat people to Stay fat as "yeh its not my fault" I'll eat another pizza. let's get real people.. "most" people are fat because of the lifestyle they choose. not because they have a bad set point. having trained 100's of people I can say with certainty that most people put the weight back on because 1, they take it off too quickly to begin with and 2, they took it off using an unsustainable diet.
Sometimes i still need to fight the ED mentally that hasn’t left me and your videos help me a lot, is really fascinating information and it reassures me that i’m doing things right with no need to overthink that much. So thank you and keep up the good work 💕
I didn't like the part when she made a big deal out of stephanie's joke about getting fat. it's just a joke idk why people take it so seriously and call it 'fatphobic' and try and protect everyone from getting triggered but that's just my opinion ig
Absolutely love this video. As a Master's student in Nutrition and a future Dietitian myself, I love learning more about how we can encourage intuitive eating, body positivity, and health (mental and physical) focused goals. My question, though, is -- for somebody who holds these values, how do you as a professional approach a client who is seeking to lose weight (fat) in a healthy, sustainable way? Especially if it is not a substantial amount, say 20lbs. Are simple behavior swaps such as more vegetables, more movement, non-weight focused goals, etc. usually enough? Sometimes I feel there is a disconnect in the body positive community around the topic of weight loss, as in some people may feel as if they are "not allowed" to want to change their body composition for fear of being judged or deemed as "not truly loving themselves".
I need to add a counter argument to the "controlling food controls you" assertion. Processed food has been engineered to be addictive, it's just capitalism. When we're addicted, we buy. On top of that, I work a very controlled, meticulous desk job, as I'm sure many Americans do. If I let my body run the show, I would entertain my mouth with food all day long to get through the work day. But instead, I meticulously plan out every snack and every meal so I know I am getting nutrients and not destroying my body out of boredom as the tough hours roll along. Controlling my food has absolutely freed me from stress and ill-health.
I feel like the type of control she's against is the type where people are extremely restricting and controlling about their food intake, what you're doing doesn't seem extreme at all and I don't think it's what she's referring too.
Amy Gwynn Morrison I partially agree but your comment that companies creating processed foods that are engineered to be addictive is just capitalism is a fallacy and completely false. Capitalism in and of itself is an economic system where private companies operate for profit. Companies engineering food to make it addictive is purely deceptive. Just bc it happens in a market where capitalism reigns doesn’t mean that it is the definition of capitalism. The whole idea that people keep dying that capitalism is evil is wrong bc certain people/companies use it as a way to deceive people is a common misconception. Humans are the ones who turn these things evil through their deception and greed. Unfortunately we have to be wary and remember that we must provide our bodies with nutrient dense foods and not use these engineered foods as meals.
That's why her all in diet is bullshit. Watching 5 minutes of it just made me want to binge eat. She keeps so much processed crap in her pantry. I don't know why she couldn't be healthy with it and everybody's supporting it like she's their messiah because she's giving the message to eat a bunch of addictive crap.
mmmm not really. i won’t deny that sugar tastes really good but as someone who had to go all in essentially to get out of a disordered eating and diet mindset i’m literally healthier and also have a completely different relationship with food. at first i did eat a lot of sugar and carbs bc my body was like omg we get to eat!!!! but that slowly went away and i just have craving every once in a while. but no, processed foods are not inherently addictive. i know when i was afraid of food i thought that though.
Queen of Kecleons 😕 you do realizing anyone can have heart problems. And to say that someone who are bigger will have heart problems cuz they are fat is dehumanizing.
Thanks, Abbey. I have never heard of HA. I lost my period after getting my body fat down to 13.7% and I'm always hungry. I'm always asking trainers about food/diet. This was very informative.
For a q&a questions, what would you recommend as a strategy for losing weight permanently? What's the science behind keeping weight off in a healthy way! Thank you, love your videos 💛
I really like this video, but my only complaint is how you classify so many things as “triggering”. So many things “trigger” so many people, how can somebody make videos without offending or literally triggering anyone? If she’s joking about weight with the fannypack, let her make a dang joke. Other than that, I thought this video was great, and you make a lot of really valuable points.
@@RampagingChipmunk I'm pretty sure she knows some people will view that as offensive, so she is apologizing so she doesn't get attacked. I doubt if she was having this conversation to a group of professionals and not a RU-vid audience, she would have left the apology out.
A lot of people find the word obesity as a offense. You know like the fat positive people or obese people who are very insecure. ( spoiler alert obesity isn't offensive )
@@AbbeysKitchen 8:40 "... because our weight has nothing to do with moral character, willpower or what we do or eat". That last part sounds pretty fatalistic. So CICO is wrong, and I can just sit on the sofa eating doughnuts and drinking butter all day? I'm a recent viewer/sub and I liked what I've seen so far, but this seems more like pandering than a scientific claim.
You guys should check out Alice Olivia’s channel. She talks about her experience of recovering from an eating disorder while using this method. She talks about how she re set her set point also
Catering to the “fat community” is like enabling them to be unhealthy. There is no truth in “Healthy at every size”. If you’re overweight or obese, you’re unhealthy & shouldn’t be coddled. -Former obese/overweight person
I’ve been through “all in” after 2 years diet. Without any scientific knowledge, I just wanted save myself from period lost and grievous depression caused by emetic. And now my weight is stable for last 6 years, to be honestly I feel so lucky that I made that decision. More importantly it’s changed my thoughts of beauty. All the best for Stephen, she’s such a good role model.
Can you review Doctor mike. He is taking credibility away from the dietitian field and has become so problematic it’s killing me. As an RD I want to see people trained and knowledgeable in food talk about food. NOT DOCTORS!!!!
I really want to thank you for your videos! I am 36 and just finding this stuff out about diet culture. I have been dieting since I was 11. I started with drinking Super Dieters Tea with every meal. For those that don't know, that is a laxative tea. I was a completely healthy weight of 75 lbs, but thought that I was fat because my abs were not muscular. I was just a little girl. I should have been having fun. Not obsessing over my weight! This led to a lifetime of unhealthy habits and negative food and body relationships. I want better for myself, my health, and my children! I just hope that I am not too late. I have 4 daughters that are ages 10, 8, 5, and 1. I am also currently pregnant. I have dieted with every one of my pregnancies because I was afraid of gaining weight. I had no idea that it was the dieting that was perpetuating my weight gain. Now, I have a BMI of 44.1. I would be lying if I said that I am ok with that, or if I said that I don't want to loose weight. But, how do I have positive body image while still being truthful?
Oh my god it took me 10 minutes to notice the dog 😂😍 When you said fitness I was buckling up to something bad but this was nice. Glad Stephanie is taking good care of herself.
I agree with a lot of what she says but there are some fundamental flaws both in set point theory and intuitive eating. Intuitive eating works if you have a healthy relationship with food. If you suffer from binge eating disorder, anorexia, bulimia, or even have a sugar or food addiction, eating intuitively is not going to be ideal because you have caused because what feels "normal" to you is not healthy. There is no such thing as a 400 pound "set point." We were not designed to be that big the same as our body's not being designed to be 5% body fat without sacrificing organ function. I love these videos but the sensitivity to discussing people properly managing a healthy weight based on their age and height and intake based on activity level is a bit frustrating.
I'd love to see a review of her new "carnivore diet" and commentary about how going from one extreme to another (raw vegan to carnivore) can affect the body.
I love your videos but I have to disagree about your view on intuitive eating - intuitivibg eating is what got us in this mess due to all the processed foods that have become normal in the western diet. If these foods were not as readily available and in many instances cheaper than food in its natural state, then yes intuitive eating would work. As it stands and the way the food system is set up and marketed intuitive eating for most is not the solution
I agree... seems like she's doesn't like people calling junk food, junk food or healthy food healthy. Sorry if that is triggering...I am surprised that even as a dietitian she won't acknowledge that processed food is harmful to the body. That's just facts. She is pandering to people's emotions...
@@Faithwithbecca yes I felt that too. People find offense with many things these days, but I'm sick of "facts" not being stated or used because it might hurt someone's feelings. Facts are something that are proven, how you react to that is on you, but it doesn't change the factual evidence
I agree, I was told to intuitively eat (which was the worst advice). I was addicted to soda, so that's what I intuitively drank. I intuitively ate pizza and Oreos, and my health declined. (Now I am down 60 lbs and won't touch soda.) These processed foods are designed to be addictive. People were telling me I was just meant to be fat, and since I have medical conditions that make it harder to lose weight, that it's IMPOSSIBLE and I should have just accept being obese. At least I know better now, but it makes me upset to hear her say some of this fat-acceptance rhetoric.
Intuitive eating works well if your hormones are well regulated. Due to our modern lifestyles and in part to diet culture and fear mongering we have lost our intuitive instincts. She is not promoting junk food but trying to dispel fears around food which is the real danger and leads to a lot of issues we experience today.
THANK you for calling out cheat days! It’s always seemed incredibly unhealthy, mentally, to use your favorite foods as a reward for ‘good’ behavior. And not only that, but people seem a lot more likely to ‘reward’ themselves excessively when it only happens one day a week, and they end up consuming more junk foods than they would if they just practiced good portion control throughout the week. Would you rather eat an entire box of cheez-it’s in one sitting and feel gross about it, or let yourself enjoy a handful every day? And yes, I am currently eating cheez-its 💖
Hi Abbey, I just wanted to say thank you so much for putting this kind of content out there. I have a long history of binge/purge anorexia but over the last 6 months have been eating more intuitively and have gained a lot of weight. I've felt very mixed about it, and more recently have begun feeling more body shame and regret, and have considered trying to lose weight again, but videos like this remind me that my body knows what's best, and if that means gaining even more weight then that's ok. I can also confirm that it feels so much better to throw out old "sick" clothes and get new, better fitting ones. Clothes are there to serve us, not the other way around.
Great video...I just think you could let go of the anti diet culture phobic concerns about fat phobic statements... Stephanie's comment about a back pack not judging weight gain was not only hilarious but a way of easing into acceptance of her changing body without crying.. it's a very useful skill. The whole idea of coddling sensitive triggered individuals is really a step backwards for our resiliency. O.k back to the video.. by the way I have several sizes in my closet because my weight fluctuates up and down. This way I can always find something to wear without crying 😭😊
@@AbbeysKitchen Like it or not...our jeans might judge us🤭 But WE don't have to😉 I've been weight training and gained about 6 lbs of muscle (and a little SQUISH☺️) When my girlfriend complimented me on how fit I looked my husband said "She's probably just happy you're bigger now" 👀( in my mind he said it like Regina George) I was PISSED. After I let into him for being such a 🐖. I realized that I was the one who made his comment negative. I'm stronger, my prediabetes is gone (HbA1c went from 6.2 to 4.9) chronic fatigue and global pain is significantly less. Soooo. It's up to us. If we are "triggered" it's life's way of holding up a mirror, an opportunity to introspect. The one thing we take with us everywhere is our perception. The world would be a better place if we all spent some quality time with our demons♥️ I see a lot of people trying to make the world "safe" ..and that's dangerous.
I love how positive of a review this was! Extremely informative and well articulated. I feel like many people are misunderstanding Stephanie's All In approach as she is part of the bodybuilding /fitness industry which can be very superficial and not entirely focused on health... Some miss the point and think she is letting herself go or intentionally bulk but that is not the case, she struggles a lot but just wants to get her body back to where it's healthy and happy and I applaud her and anyone who is brave enough to do that.
Lol Let's be real, discrediting very educated such as Steph makes RD ook bad. She has a PhD. Her boyfriend is friends with some of the leading researchers in Exercise Science. RD's have bachelors, they take a good portion of cooking classes and waste time talking about stuff like HAEs. 1200 hour internship filled with bullshit projects and loafing around. Let's not act like this credential makes RD almighty nutrition expert. She knows what she's doing
Would love to see you do a video about PCOS or reviewing a PCOS diet! I'm still coming to terms with my PCOS and trying to figure out ways to manage it through better eating
