Do Men Try To Impress Women with Money? | Ask a Black Woman Ep. 1 

Shorty says, "I've only dated outside my race" then proceeds to give advice about how to keep a black woman, if you're a black man. Lol I find that funny.

Another good note to my fellas I’m 25 got this good game from my OGs “You’ll never loose women chasing money but you’ll always loose money chasing women” fact of life my fellas.

You got a black woman up there talking about she never dated a black man, but has the nerve to give advice for black men to date a black women? I’m surprised non of the other sistas on the panel didn’t question her...

Jordan in the yellow dress has never dated black men though...so how did she get a seat at the table? I genuinely don't understand.

Approaching women these days is like solving a riddle. You have to say the right words, can't be too foward can't be too lenient. I mean its just too many hoops/games to go through just for the basis of just getting the phone number so imagine what it takes to keep her interest. Stress free life for me

If I ask you out... I'm paying. But if we go out as friends we're going Dutch

I actually hide my money from women. I don't want them to know what I have. I try to look like i'm just getting by. I rather the female to like me who I am instead of what I have financially. That's none of her business because she is still a stranger.

black women nvr seem to admit their own faults that play into them being single.

If you're throwing around cash trying to impress women, don't be surprised if you attract a gold digger 🤷‍♀️. It is what it is.

“I expect him to pay if he asks me out on a date, if I asked then I would’ve paid” 🙄 ok suuuure like that happens often 😂 with that mentality girls like you will never meet a successful man

The problem is women don't know what they want. They say one thing and want another. Also the majority know that money and material things is the first thing on their mind. The one woman said she's told she looks mean and rude? Well, she does look mean and rude.

If all these gorgeous ladies are single then I'm scared now like wth how???

yeah money get u any girl u want.....simple and plain.

So why is the chick in yellow here if she never dated a Black man in her life? She needs to stay on the other side of the fence. And notice how she even cant get White men to commit to her? I thought it was all rainbows and candy on the other side of the fence?

The lady that Never dated a black dude has advice for them lol

WTF is complicated? Either you on the market or you're not. I'd really like to see a show of married black women. We always asking the opinions of black chics no dudes want to keep.

If this show is to encourage black people to intermingle more and have more fruitful relationships...then why do you seem to encourage marrying outside the race.The show invited a lady in yellow who never dated a black guy,yet they are taking about relationships between black couples...very confusing...she should have not been invited.

I wish this was longer. These women are enjoyable to listen to.

This is the kind of man that we as men need to be and that black woman should want. The whole idea that he is asking questions to a panel of black, asking good questions, is witty, educated and loves black women is great. He should be somewhat of the standard.

These kinds of conversations require so much more time and attention. 9 minutes ain't enough. Give the people what they want -- give us more!

I love black women because i love myself

i find it odd that the one woman who said she has only dated outside of her race said in answer to the last question about helping black men to navigate through the dating process that she wanted "black men to value her and recognize what they have, but they run game and then they wonder where we went"... this is odd because according to her she's never dated a black man. what is she talking about? if she's only dated non-black men, who is she talking to?

Yes, dating in NYC is horrible. I also think dating and relationships are different in your late 30's and 40"s.

Great video

Good episode

Excellent show thank you.

I love this..... best episode overall.

I thoroughly enjoyed this video. But we definitely need this conversation to be had with Black Men & Black Women together! Salute Fam!✊🏿👊🏿

I have a great job but I don't let any woman know what I make nor tell them exactly what I do. I've always believed if someone is going to love me it'll be for who I am and not for what I have or can give. Otherwise don't want or need them.. I can read a woman immediately and will end the date after a slip up or anything I see or hear that makes me uncomfortable...

SOME men have tried to impress SOME women with money because SOME women won't even look a mans way if he don't have money to spend on her which is absolutely insane! Every grown adult ja responsible for themselves! When two people first meet money shouldn't even be the topic of discussion upfront! Damn! How about what are your dreams and aspirations, where are you from, what school did you attend are you saved ? It's the kind of women men are choosing to be affiliated with! STOP saying alllll women are this way cause they aren't! Women who THINK They a fake celebrity and who watching social too much are the ones with the red flags! And FYI! Allll of us are broke technically!! Because if you went to school you owe student loans and none of us make more than our debt. Smh gotta speak real if we gone speak

its always good to hear stuff from a woman's perspective, to hear their side.

One say approach us, next say don't slide up in my DM, one say the guy needs to pay for a date, one say don't try to impress with money... Sigh

Yes! These women said it perfectly.

Why is the woman who only dates outside of her race answering a question about what to say to black men? I believe the problem is the host on how he questions them and comments. There’s no flare or spark, this could a million plus views if done better. If they read these comments I’ll do tell MadameNoire to contact me

Sis in the red looks AMAZING!

I love this show.

Wow what a great conversation, very open and honest with level-headed Women, unfortunately, this is very rare

soon as she said giving energy, im like yhea i think we good being single

It's simple. Men attract women with what works and one of the MAIN things that work is money. Women have made songs about it, women expect you to have it and all men know how a woman perceives a man without it. It's shallow but it's women

If we expect men to value us.. we as women have to value ourselves.. and a man whose discerning with see your value.

Y'all need to do a video call black women take accountability. That would be nice.

It's all in how a woman presents herself to a man, and how she carries herself. 💋 smooches

No matter what we black men do to try and be right its always something that they are gonna tell their friends that we ain't shit at.Never ever will be able to satisfy 100 %

The Bible says not to give your strength to women. MONEY IS A FORM OF STRENGTH. To survive, To establish, and to provide...STOP GIVING IT TO THESE WOMEN AND DONT SET THEM OVER YOUR SUBSTANCE (PROVERBS 31:3, SIRACH 9:2) STOP SIMPING BROTHAS💪🏾

At this point, we really need to consider, safe polygamy within the black community in order to preserve it.

The mustard colored dress is beautiful.

The correct question should be- "Are women impressed with money?" lol

Yes. Next question. This part @ 2:35-3:01 is not because she's short or small or because we approach you incorrectly. Some women give off the vibe that they are uninterested in conversation at any time. Why waste my time with someone that already in a (I don't have time for you or the shit you're talking about) mindset when you try to spark a conversation?

If you carry yourself cofidently, you should be able to ask a woman to pay for a date. If the date goes bad, it's only fair to pay your part, and let her pay her way, do it politely and firm. That's why you should only date women on your level, if she can't afford a meal in restaurant she likes, why be with her, if there will ever be a chance for a relationship. First dates keep it simple, or go to the park.

Man I need to move to NYC or ATL, DC, CHI. I love the sistas. Being a techie on the west coast no sistas

over forty years of experience says women are only impressed by money #GiveHerNothing

“Do you think you’re snippy ?” 😂😂😂 **pauses

Once again they are in denial

Soooooooo.. let me get this straight. U want to be valued enough to be courted at a fancy, high-end restaurant but u dont want him to impress u with his money? But u still want him to get the check (hey, it cost a grip to eat out at fancy spots) when it comes and leave a tip for the waiter (yeah, women love 'kind' people). *Sigh*.

The lady in red is on point

They all need 10 more years to mature and start seeing things moe reasonably. Unfortunately it will be too late for most of them by then

Trickster, Gestures & Jokers. Comes to my mind for a reason. I cant seem to pinpoint

Gold/yellow dress is stunning

Where these ladies stay at and why are they single? Lol I see a lot of potential.

Lady in red jacket 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

They're all full of it😂😂😂

This is a question for women who won't date you unless you got money... "Love don't pay the bills." Remember this statement? The things women look for and need can be viewed differently by the opposite sex. What makes it hard to have a faithful relationship is the people who don't want a one on one LTR... Then it becomes socially popular... Men and women both has to take responsibility for their role in this tango of love.

Seriously? Are you kidding me with this? As far as relationships are concerned, at least in my experience, the majority of black women I have dealt with haven't given me the time of day because I didn't have a big bank account. And those same women have gone out with guys who have a six figure salary and ended up having a lot of problems with that guy, at least that is what I have heard. I, myself, don't flaunt my money to try to impress a woman. I try to impress a woman with conversation, but women nowadays want a guy who has a big bank account, big muscles, etc.

Impress a woman with your personality, swag, sexual skill, humor, anything except money. They will lose respect for you very quickly.

Beautiful group of of women ❤️

Here's my Analysis: TL:DR : Most women have no clue what they want and refuse to acknowledge their flaws. First: Note that all these women are single. The one guy is married. At 1:12 She says there's too many options for men, but statistics show the average women has several more options than the average man. In fact, 50% of married women have a back up man waiting in the wings if their current marriage fails. Think about that for a second and while you do that think of how many times a woman has approached you in the street for your number. At 1:33 This woman says monogamy is important and you can't spread your energy around. However, women are 4 times as likely to have multiple men around at a moments notice and trade up for a better partner. At 1:53 the host asks if they prefer monogamy in the dating scene. ALL OF THEM SAY NO. Completely contradicting what one of them said just 20 seconds ago. If dating was monogamous these women wouldn't be able to branch swing. Why have one sexual partner when you can have as many as you want? At 2:03 The lady just proved my last point by saying she wants to have options. At 2:13 This woman wants you to know everything she likes to make the first date enjoyable. The last time I checked, dating was the process of figuring out what both people liked. In addition to that she wants you to pamper her, pulling out her chair, holding the door, etc. She also doesn't want to pay for her own meals on this date. She wants you to not only potentially waste your time, but also waste your money as well. This is all for her entertainment. It's a wonder that she's single. At 2:42 This woman says that she is constantly viewed as mean, rude, and angry. While she completely admits that she can get "snippy" she rationalizes the behavior because of her short height and it shouldn't be taken seriously. Now that I look at her while explaining it she actually does look rude and angry. The next woman says she's gotten it her whole life and that she considers herself approachable but you have to do it the "right" way. I guess you need to be a mind reader. At 4:07 This woman admits she left a good man for someone else, despite her wanting a good man. She blames it on age, but the fact is that she and many other women would continue this behavior even in their older years. They will continue to trade up until they see that the men they want are no longer interested and will settle for the good guy. She further goes on to say that you attract what you think about, it's just that female nature is designed to jump to the next best thing. All women have this inherent trait regardless of age, race, or beliefs. She tries to deflect this fact by blaming the men for thinking a certain way. At 4:50 She says a man will use money to impress women. That is true, because most women react to men who have money. In addition to that we indoctrinate our children to follow suit. How many times we told our daughters to marry a doctor, or make sure he has money. How many times do we tell our sons that they can't get a girl without a job or money. Men in general should never present their wealth to women at all, it's a waste of time and resource. At 6:00 The lady says that she doesn't listen to anything anyone has to say. Statistically it is true that Black women are least desirable.So what this woman is saying even if the statement is true she will disregard it and live in her own would. As long as she has "great energy" she's going to bring in great men despite still being single. At 7:04 The women are fine with dating outside their race, but when asked how they feel about black men going outside their race they have an issue with it. They claim that black men flaunt the women, but the reality is all men regardless of race will flaunt their women if they have merit. A woman that is good to her man will be worshiped, I think any man here can agree with this statement. It's not that they are flaunting a different race, it's that they are flaunting a higher quality of woman and it strikes a nerve. At 8:00 This woman wants men in all kind of relationships to value black women, but when the shoe is on the other foot it doesn't apply. Black men have been under sever scrutiny by many people but their biggest critics are the women that are suppose to stand by them. How can Black women demand being valued when they can't value Black men? You get what you put in. Most black men will never forget where they came from but if they have moved on and progressed chances are they will never return.

depends on the situation

Great video! Economic globalization has brought social variety. 🤔

When they said that black women are the least desire. Then the woman said I desire black women what is she a lesbian? The knock on black women is that they have a jacked up attitude, and many of them carry it as a badge of honor!

They all are beautiful and the smile are very decent

I love black women

These women are full of crap . A lot of women don't even want to look in a man's direction unless he has a lot of money and/or really good looking. That's the reason why they are single.

Of course we do, we will use any and everything that works to win YOU AND YOUR APPROVAL. including our intellect, experiences, notoriety, confidence, helpfulness, thoughtfulness, athleticism, expertise, what ever floats your boat. Jay-z said it in the power of the P-U. its the reason we get hair cuts, dress fly, cop the best rides.

It's always about the S11

My advice to the ladies who use men to pay their bills knowing that they don,t have any interest in perusing a relationship with this man. Please don't do that. The consequence for this will go two ways: you will end with a man who treats you like shit and you are also damaging this man's trust in other women. Please don't hurt people who are good to you.

I wish people would stop using statements to justify why they date outside of their race like ‘there were no black men/ women in my area, my school etc..I was one of 10 black girls in my school, I was raised in a predominantly white area, I’ve worked in mostly white offices but I’m 43 and have only ever dated black men. I’ve found places where they are plus there’s online. Most people who date outside of their race have a preference for that race or negative baggage about their own race but won’t always say that. It’s just inauthentic to use the reason that there wasn’t any black people around come on!

2:26 Im gay but i think going Dutch is a big DO on the first date. A first date is a chance to get to know someone, if it fails then the man has waisted money.

The question that these ladies should be asking is, "are women impressed by money?"

So she pretty much finished by saying nice people finish last lol😂😂 5:45

Men impress women with money because it works. Women want stability and for a lot of women , money is a major part of providing stability. If a women just lets a man pay her Rent and she knows she isn’t interested , she is a manipulator. She knows full well that the man is providing that rent to show her that he is willing to provide and that he is beyond serious about her.

Hello Tranesha 💐

"I'm very approachable, if you approach me the right way"..... what?

Jordan is gorgeous

Crazy how I used to watch ask a black man when I was in high school, but I never knew there was a ask a black women lol

I like how they don’t generalize a lot they at least say = a lot of / or some

My mother is black and I love my mother so obviously I love black women

Dear God Almighy, I thank you for the black woman i have in my life. She's truly a unicorn lol.

Because it works. Next question.

You could sound as intelligent as you want but the truth is, most women see a man as a insurance policy.

How do I get added to this panel?

If a man doesn't have money then these women say "he's a broke ass nigga"

It's true. A guy I worked with liked me would lie and talk about how his mom has 4 master's degrees (I didn't ask lol) and talks about how he used to work for a huge business (which I don't think is true) but left because they undermined his skills to end up working in a school as a Teacher Assistant. So I never asked him and thought he was nice and chill until I found out he has a wife. SMH so it's the fact he tried to hide that someone from me.

I don't need to go outside my race there is enough variety in black women

Bless.. I’m Dominican.and I live here in USA..in my country there are many black women..and I want to say that I have many friends who were coworkers .. and black women are very beautiful and special...if you have a your girlfriend or your wife..you must love them.. take care of them..go out with her .. vacationar together and share your money with her..because that woman is your girlfriend and your wife..many times we men .. we only look for the women or the girlfriend when we convert..but when we have to share our money with them..we invent thousands of stories.not to share our money with our partner ..we just want them to give us pleasure. That they take care of the children..that they make you meals and that they take care of the house .. I m one of those who say that women are not only for that..black women is a beautiful woman..you just have to understand them and look at her pretty heart..

The text at the beginning of the video tells you what the video is about.

Y'all had lost me with the Did y'all see fall off but I am recent fan and suscriber of the Ellis channel so they brought me back. Let's see if I stay.

The better question is... do black women like broke men? SMH

If you are a woman impressed by money, you're shallow. If you're a woman impressed by stability. You're a good woman. If you're a woman impressed by a man who treats you well, is considerate, dominant, yet sensitive, and speaks life INTO YOU... you are a wife.

Tranisha is absolutely gorgeous.

They wonder why they get old and grey and then accept whatever from men and end up settling anyway. Smh