Do you ONLY WANT SEX?: what women don't understand about their relationships 

Sorry but dont sell this "show me kindness or intelligence". Men are sick of paying money and wasting their time for that. All a woman needs to do is use birth control, Plan B pill, insist a man use a condom and preferably get Tubal Ligation and men are ready to take then out, spend money on them and treat them nice/caring but if she in turn doesn't offer sex then she is useless to most normal men and almost a "lee, ch" in a strong sense.

Is this video about the business relationship between a call girl/prostitue and her customer?

Orion, Tony Roma would also never take a lease on a billboard where he holds a rib dripping with sauce at waist level with text reading "come gnaw on my bone" either. That would be self-sabotaging marketing. This is how your video comes across. You sound entitled to a woman who you think is as amazing as you believe yourself to be. Take some time to reflect. Use the framework of Internal Family Systems therapy and try to befriend this alienated younger version of yourself whose projection of rage bubbled up to the surface in this video. Nothing you said was wrong, but the way you said it shows you need some help yourself. My high school health teacher told my class that if we are not mature enough to be discussing sex with a partner, we are not mature enough to be having it either. It should be the FIRST serious conversation. This allows for you to find compatibility early on and not waste time becoming emotionally invested in an incompatible partner.

@@adamswierczynski Not to mention his assertion that men can get every other facet of the relationship, aside from sex, from other places is fundamentally his biased opinion and not supported by empirical evidence. In this video, he's admitting to the world that he cannot be emotionally satisfied by a woman and that he does in fact see women as a means for sex. So no wonder they're asking him this question. Nothing dishonest about her inquiry.

​@@dr.jenniferma3914 comical, no "he's admitting to the world that he cannot be emotionally satisfied by a woman" - man literally said the opposite. Said he can. He then added he could also do this with friends, family, himself, or one he did not include but I will which is pets. "and that he does in fact see women as a means for sex" - yeah obviously that is one of the possibilities of a relationship, and technically a baseline requirement for being different from friendship. However the entire point that seems to escape your comprehension, somehow, was that the other things he listed off...the friends, family, himself, or as I added to the list pets, absolutely cannot satisfy that need, hence the woman in the relationship having a unique position and role in said man's life and 'relationship ecosystem' if that helps get the idea across.

Great comment. Made me laugh.

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Brooooooo. XDDDDD

Water diamond paradox

The late great Patrice Oneal said that. I recommend every men to listen to him on YT :)

Good for you bro! Way to go!

What's even worse is that if you allow women to see that they might have competition, then they will instinctively start having more sex with you. I had an ex gf who I was with for a few years and the sex started dying off (she always had an excuse), that was until I start working as trainer. She came to my work a few times and quickly realized that many of the women who were enthusiastically engaging with me were fit and attractive. I didn't flirt with them and I made no mention of them but all of sudden literally overnight, the sex picked back up and she started working out more.

4 times per year? Is this really how low women's sex drive is? Do women not desire sex at all?

@nekemli2622 sometimes, most times they are cheating

@@jimandersch5364 that's bs. Women emotionally bond to their man. And it can't be "sometimes". It has to be rare. Women have to have a sex drive. I mean at least like once a week or something like that.

Well yeah if she makes you feel that way you should question that. Because that’s just a gold digger.

Yeah OP sounds like a loser

As of February 2024 47% of the labor force is women. Your comment is not only ignorant...it's sinister and meant to cause harm to females. It's meant to make you, or all men, appear innocent and as victims...which none of you are....clearly a loser up to this point.

@@TumblinWeeds the sarcastic point he was making when right over your head

@@b.d.hooten1785 no I think my point went over yours. She shouldn’t be using you as a money shaker. If she’s just using you for bills and food you’ve got a sugar baby or a gold digger not a wife. Your wife should be holding her end of the relationship by providing care to the family and companionship for you and your kids, and if she leaves as soon as you’re laid off, you found the wrong woman.

It's far worse

Excellent

No its way worse

How many men have those things to offer or actually offer them?! VERSUS ALL women have a “warm hole”. Yall want to play the “gotcha game” with EVERYTHING 🙄….It’s not equal!

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well that's when you sneak out and visit the street ice-cream vendors

That’s when you grow up and decide to leave the one person no longer suppling ice cream and get it elsewhere if it’s available. Don’t cheat on your supplier. Break your contract before you go off sampling again.

@@YukonFox1972 Divorce because your wife wasn't putting out is sin. Matthew 19 Withholding sex is sin. 1st Corinthians 7 Women need to up their morality.

@@ronmexico8383 So you think it’s better to cheat? I’d rather get a divorce, thanks.

Unless he marries her first he's not entitled to sex.

@@angelicaangel2624 And she not to validation and a relationship.

Sure thing if shes a virgin Angelica but marriage was designed around virgins not modern women. No virginity no marriage little buddy

Right, that's why men are happy to fuck away and never make a commitment.

@@chickenbroski99 And how is a girl supposed get married as a virgin when guys are ready to break up when 1 week passes without smexx?

When my (now ex) wife said, “when you touch me it makes my skin crawl”, I knew it was over. How can you touch a person once they tell you that?

Nicely said and another comment I will use. Thanks

​@ricvanwinkle1665 fellow engine builders unite. I been thinking about making some videos of all the cool shit we built at the shop.

Facts

Well said.

If someone only wants sex from a romantic partner and nothing more they are probably suppressing their needs for safety, validation, care, comfort, respect and expect the other person to just read their minds.

Sex is important to marriage. Without that intimacy you might just as well be pen-palls and let it go at that.

exactly

I've heard a rip off of some comedian on tiktok a few times. Goes like this. Imagine your house. You don't only have a toilet. However, if one day someone were to rip them all out, you'd be pretty upset.

When you have regular sex, it’s like 5% of the relationship. When you don’t have sex, it becomes 95% of it.

seeggggs @@rob21

I think women don’t really see sex in and of itself as intimacy. Neither do men. They often brag that they can have sex even if they hate a girl. The question usually comes when the woman is not feeling a sense of relational intimacy, which is her desire, like physical intimacy is his desire.

@@melissanaiadart no, thats usually toxic people that like to whore around or hide theire insecuritys.

Yup, many, many men aren't providing relational intimacy and most often it comes down to that with women. If you don't have a clue how to be emotionally/relationally close to a woman then sex won't be something she's interested in. If you have no need for or have too much fear of intimacy on an emotional level you'll have a very hard time atttracting most women. That's just the bottom line, for many men, emotional vulnerability is just too terrifying. I understand that our culture has raised men to be emotionally inhibited and that's why women can become sexually unavailable/inhibited. It's a two way street and very sad.

Most women need emotional/relational intimacy before they feel comfortable with their sexuality. Men just don't get that in my experience. Feeling emotionally disregarded/cut off from a person is a definite sex killer. Kindness, closeness and interest in a person beyond their sexual attractiveness goes a long way toward developing a physical relationship.

if a woman only see herself as a "warm hole" - I think that speaks volumes about how that woman views herself.

I've walked out and taken them home early.. more than once. When they start playing games, I am out of there.

The second they don't put out...because sex is all you care about.

I don’t have 50 years of experience, but as a woman, I can tell you that lots and lots of women feel this way. It’s not to control anyone. It’s that moment that you see your partner’s eyes glaze over when you want to talk to them, or you see them once again act like they don’t know chores need to be done and leave them to you, or 1000 other things that let you know they are prioritizing their comfort over yours. I mean, we live in a society, where a man doesn’t even think twice about flopping down on the couch and watching a full day of football. While kids are running around and everything. Who do they think is taking care of all that? Who do they think makes the food at Thanksgiving and wraps the presents at Christmas? Who do they think cleans it all up? A magical fairy? On many occasions, men perpetually demonstrate that they will prioritize their comfort and let the women run around and do all the work. Because at the end of the day, they can say I don’t really care if we have presents. I don’t really care if we have birthday celebrations. So without women, there are no Christmas presents. No birthday presents or cake. There are no anniversaries or anything. That’s because adult men can always say they don’t care about that kind of thing, and maybe they don’t. But children do. And so it all falls to women. (not in every situation, and all the time, I’m just giving you a good example) And then the man, finally looks up from his football game or video game (pure recreation he’s been doing for hours) and tries to grab your ass? While leaving you to do things for the family the whole day? While pretending that he doesn’t know that it takes a person to make the food he’s been eating? Come on. It’s just disrespectful.

@@fluffymajestic4589 You're describing a very specific relationship dynamic in your example. Only some relationships are like that. But since you're using the stereotypical example, so will I. In this stereotypical example, the man is also the one who is the primary (and often the only) breadwinner. He works 40 hours a week at minimum, and then pays all the bills. That is his share of the work. Regardless of gender, if one partner is working full time and paying all the bills, and the other partner does not have a job, then being the homemaker *becomes* their job. That is their fare share. It is not fair for one party to pay all or most of the bills, and also be expected to do half of the housework. So in your example, the women are looking at the men and thinking he's lazy because he's not doing her job in addition to his.

@@mistersmith2549 actually, I was thinking when women have full-time jobs. But you make a fair point-if there are children and the children are in school. But having both stayed home with a child and worked, I can tell you that there’s something uniquely draining about caring for pre-school aged children all day if you do a good job about it. You really have to be present with them every moment. I stayed home with my child for the first year and I can’t tell you, the number of times I, for example, cleaned up spilled toys. The kid dump the toys out, you pick them up. And no one knows who ever did it. Because they knocked them over again. And you have to be patient and you have to be kind. And you can’t go grocery shopping without a screaming kid. And you can’t go to the bathroom without knowing where the kid is. I’ve had many different jobs, and being the sole caregiver for a young child, is very very draining. And it’s perfectly thankless, as your child memory won’t even last to know that you did all those things. And then you have men who think that they’re the only ones that did work all day. That’s really not fair at all. But I agree if the man goes out to work, and the woman sends her kids off to school, then certainly it would only be fair for her to do more of the domestic things. That’s not the scenario I’m imagining. I have seen lots of women work full-time jobs and assume the majority of domestic stuff too.

This. Denying sex is more often than not a symptom that the relationship is failing.

Exactly.

How can we know if sex is an indicator and not a manipulation tactic to stay in the relationship?

@@mikayugu316 Sex is simply the reason for a man to be in a relationship. He can get everything else somewhere else. If you deny a man sex, you effectively communicate that you are unsatisfied with the relationship and open to ending it. Depending on how much he is invested and whether kids are in play, he might end it sooner or later. Or you will leave/divorce him.

Perfectly articulated.

yep. if there's no sex all she is is a room mate. if she's like most women, she makes sure to emasculate you everyday, so most wives are not even friends. they are not really good roommates either because a room mate pays 1/2 of everything. women paying 1/2? not too likely. if she makes 5 dollars a week more than you do she'll divorce you. if you make more than she does she'll get out of her half of the roommate situation.

very well put

IQ 999

She agreed and that is what we now are FRIENDS just as we were before we married except for children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

This might be true, and a good idea, but I think men just aren’t very good friends. At least not as good as friends as women are to women. And please spare me the high school girl mean stuff. I’m talking about mature women. They remember your birthday, prioritize what means something to you, hang out, just to laugh together. I don’t think men are as good as friends. That’s why it’s sad.

Yep

thats not true....

@@ohsweetiewhy6353hahaha. “Makes rules for betas; no rules for alphas”.

That’s a lie. A girl who was interested in me like crazy (she was a wack job so I didn’t pursue) constantly shamed me and made jokes of men and sex because she was super insecure and wanted to shame me from valuing girls for sex.

@GyatRizzler69-of3wl what makes you think she was that into you? Sounds like she was just looking for attention.

Inn port tent two isle women.

Wise, you’ll only get hurt later.

Yep. Just one more notch count and one body closer to the complete inability to pair-bond.

The lesson here is not to deny men sex, but to actually have something more than sex to offer. Be kind, loving, supportive, a good mother, or wealthier than him. Otherwise, you’ll be expected to offer lots of sex

@@renaissance17 what I mean is that sometimes people simply don't match. I understand that for most men, it's hard to find any woman, not to mention one who is "kind, loving, supportive, a good mother, and wealthier than him". That's why it's common for them to think that if they find this full package goddess, it's the ultimate win. However, I believe a relationship is more complex, it's about finding our person who understands us and shares the same views on life. Regarding sex, honestly, I turn down any guy who doesn't act respectfully enough or gives me a list of conditions on the first date, as you mentioned. Simply put, I can choose, so it's not me who should prove myself worthy of a relationship. I don't think men should do it either, although it's socially acceptable for them to prove themselves with money or success. People either like each other's personalities or not. If a man just wants to use a woman sexually, she should leave immediately, in my opinion. Problems arise when a woman lies to herself, thinking that with time he will see what a wonderful person she is. But he likely won't. Also, I think you're probably quite young if you believe that women are just desperately wanting to shower men with sex, money, and admiration. It simply doesn't work like this in the real world.

​@mona-elf I don't disagree with either of your comments. I would add, tho, that women shouldn't be surprised that all a man wants from her is sex, if that's all she brings to the table -- just like a man shouldn't be surprised if all a woman wants is money, if that's all he brings to the table. That said tho, your original point still stands. I was on a date years ago and actually said to the girl, "Man, we are just not compatible. But honestly you seem cool as hell -- you and my brother would hit it off." Sadly my brother lives two states away 🤷‍♂️

It's so much work because people are way too much up in their "logical brain" these days. Do you think about how hard it is to walk? After all just think about the technical side of it- every single step we take involves the coordination of hundreds of muscles, each receiving their own signals from the brain. Imagine how hard it would be if we had to do that coordination manually? Extending that, take riding a bike; how hard it was starting out, and how you don't even think about it any more. that's how it's supposed to be, after all we did come this far as a species by both genders working together, without thinking about things as much as we do now. We're trying to get our concious brain to do what the subconscious should be doing, when it already knows perfectly well how to do it.

@@nipunagunarathne4882 Not using your logical brain can cost you everything you’ve worked for or more My 1st marriage cost me all of my money, 25% of my future earnings and most of my soul You’re a fool if you’re not thinking through these things

@@nipunagunarathne4882 what made me good at it was getting options. I used to think ti was noble to try to date 1 at a time, I was needy, obsessive, and offputting. Every one of them could sense this and were put off by it. Now I date 10 at a time; they compete for my attention and cannot get enough of me. If one them walks away it hardly even registers. Absolutely sick stuff but once you realize why this is it becomes so obvious why men are failing.

It’s not work at all. It’s about never compromising what you want. This goes beyond sex. It’s applicable to every aspect of your life. Compromise nothing and be unapologetic about this. This vibe alone will get you women interested in you. The woman I’m with now knows for a fact that no sex after 30 days is grounds for me to move on and find sex elsewhere. While some may call this petty or juvenile, they’re my terms; my rules. She also knows I never intend to marry her. Again, my life; my rules. I will say that I never, ever have to initiate sex though.

@@nipunagunarathne4882 it's not fun to leave in an overpopulated space though. Bacteria merrily multiply in a sweet water, but after a while it turns vinegar that kills bacteria.

has nothing to do with being prude if a woman has a problem with a man who really behaves as if a women is only good for sex.

@@davejacob5208 Aye, both men and women can become lazy in their relationships. If he wasn't providing much, or at least communicating his appreciation for what Summer brought to the relationship other than a sexual bond, then he was acting like an animal. Most people, men and women, aren't interested in being with an animal. Her increased appreciation for his need for sex probably came along with his increased active appreciation for the other things she brought to the marriage.

It's really all u have to offer. Everything else his buddies can provide

@@zuibeckpulezon6431 I mean they can but do they?

@@matsu820 be a stand up man, have standards and u will have stand up buddies.

Yup. A really interesting woman can talk shop to a guy about their mutual hobbies. My SO knows how to juggle, does high level math, laughs at my inability to do a rubik's cube... the only girls who have asked me "that question" have been the ones who only had that to offer.

Copy that. When one of my GFs fired me, I was accused using her as a sexual toy. But that's all she gave me. Nothing more. But I also discovered she was using me as an ATM.

Every woman has to offer something. Even the dumbest biatch if you will. It depends on what YOU’RE individually looking for and if you value what she has to offer or if the risk of having sex is high enough to compensate losing her. Or is it just me thinking like that?

@@peteranon8455 Your So is talented: Juggling your balls, oh wow!! ;-))) She sounds like a lovely, intelligent and fun person to be around. I hope you both have a very happy life together!

You get it.

Indeed

What happened later?

Όποιος βρίσκει και γαμεί, τύφλα του κι αν παντρευτεί .

@@jay4239 more sex.

@@jay4239 lollll exactly my question

Yes, if she began using sex as weapon to get what she wanted before marriage, you know that she would have definitely used sex as a weapon during the marriage. You made a fantastic decision!

What else is on the menu?? Interesting. Men’s sexual needs and desires? Men expect women to behave like they did in the early years of the relationship. 3-5 years in , and they expect sex at their beck and call, and drop all the niceties that brought them together. Many men have no problem watching the wife carry in the groceries and the kids while he finishes watching the baseball game. They have no problem expecting the wife to get up in the middle of the night to look after the sick child bcs he has to work in the morning. Never mind she has to as well but one hour later after she takes the others to daycare. The reason most women start disliking sex after 3-5 years into the marriage is bcs suddenly this so called husband starts acting as a petulant spoilt teenager that has to be asked to take the garbage out, then again asked to line the garbage can and can he please turn his socks right side out before he throws them in the laundry. Ask any woman if that same man came back and would present himself as he did then-yes she would want have sex with him. Problem is this is not the guy she was presented with. But never mind. Another man will come around and tempt her and spurns her desires again. Women are sexual beings too. They just have a problem when their husbands turn into mamas boy and act as petulant bratty inconsiderate teenagers who have the upper hand of stating “i work hard to provide a home blah blah blah. Biggest turn off for a woman is an infant bratty spoilt non empathetic husband…

Wasn't she right tho? What if you accidently got her pregnant before marriage & leave her? That's what a lot of women dread honestly

@@kdjoshi726 If that was a genuine concern it would have been from the start. Don't defend this toxic behavior, it's why women never learn and things keep getting worse.

In the pre-pill days before the mid 60's boys were warned that if they got a girl pregnant the HAD TO MARRY HER. Any girl who was free with her faviours may have an STD so don't touch her@@tarekyared4404

“Partner”. LOL

Key words are “healthy relationship.” A lot of women don’t want “only sex” meaning sex without a relationship. This is what women actually mean and men don’t understand. It doesn’t mean we don’t want sex…we just don’t want to be only for sex.

@@jessicaholting2362 This video is literally about a relationship. You are projecting.

You just told that 95% of all men should leave their female partner.. Men are so naive :D

@@andersnielsen6044 Well, yes, they should. They would not, because they are simps, but they totally should - it would fix the awful dating balance and raise the value of men.

Only feminist say that a woman is empowered if she admits she wants sex. The rest of the people tend to criticise.

if women didn't have double-standards, they wouldn't have ANY standards

In my 35 years of living, I’ve seen several women platonic friends have this “hurrah” type mentality about “I want great sex and nothing else….” It’s almost always backfired, one realized she wanted more attention than just fucking; another tried the whole “open relationship…let’s see other people long as we use contraception with others” guy turned out to be extremely self centered in bed and then got extremely clingy when she broke it off.

barssssss

Lies. You guys would be the first to call her a 304

Women... ☕

If you want to see a woman lose her mind in anger, turn her down for sex.

Fucking women ☕️ 🐸

I’m sorry but hearing you say women NEVER initiate sex is like saying MEN NEVER treat women right. I happen to love initiating and having fun with my man anytime I get the chance. I know there are plenty of women out there that do. I’m sorry if this has been your experience thus far but maybe this is the type of woman you have been attracting for some reason? Many times when we are not happy with some aspect in others we need to self reflect on what in ourselves is attracting this type of person.

​@Nita-qx2fk most women. Just because you're the exception doesn't make him wrong. Most women aren't you. But your ego can't let that go and now you have to tell us all about yourself. Most womegate keep sex and their terms are all that matter, even though he's loyal.

But she understands both Chad and Tyrone.. Open your eyes man!

She doesn't love you....... move on

I mean you do realize you both would get old one day & sex won't be the same yk? That's why you need to plan long term

@@kdjoshi726 that sounds more a reason to enjoy yourself with your partner when you are still young, not to get castrated because you fear old age

My view is sex is the most important thing in a marriage because it is the only thing that one should not be getting outside the marriage. You can have great communication' hangout times, understanding etc with relatives and friends but only within the marriage you have sex. Next thing most men have a best buddy that they do a lot of things with except sex. If they were gay then they would have married their buddy

Hope you left that trashy ball chain of a woman brother, you deserve better.

So did u move on?

Roomies, at best

Short and sweet, I'll temember that

Yep has always been the woman's best hustle especially in places like the United States. Just put out like a champ for a high earning man to blind his discernment and moral compass. The thing is even if you know what's happening if you allow her to service you, you are going to fall. Classic Samson and Delilah a story as old as time

I can only agree, but I think you can compare it with slutshaming. Women shame men for wanting sex, men shame women for having sex.

@@maijensen3317 Men don't shame women for having sex, unless you are a weak and jealous man. Men look negatively on women having many different partners in a short amount of time.

​@@maijensen3317 Women shame other women for having sex, and then blame it on men. Men voice their standards and preferences in dating and women reclassify it as a form of "oppression."

​@@mathias1dk No, the redpill basically expect women to be virgin to get a ring.

The answer is biological - chemical and hormonal (oxytocin and vasopressin). The sense of loyalty bonding, 'connection' and 'emotional satisfaction' that men can only experience through sexual connection, women already feel through cuddling and conversation. The hormonal and biochemical equivalent of women walking around on their social media is if men did that watching corn (gotta censor for yt) So in short, the reason women push back on this, is because what the man is trying to get out of the relationship, the woman already has. And on top of that, what she desires is totally normal and publicly acceptable, and what he wants has a bunch of strings and judgement attached. That's why the solution a lot of men bring up is disengage, and the reason that works at a biological level is because it creates the same exact chemical response that he was having.

Yeah, like men throw money at women.

@@TGP109 In relationships, that is typically expected. Which is one reason for men to be wary of relationships with women.

Woman "Not just your money, but also status points with my friends. Plus I can now contribute things you do wrong to our bitchfests ... Oh, did I say that out loud ???!!!"

A surprising number do throw money at women But it's disguised as fancy gifts, trips, meals, etc.... in the hope of getting action.😢

@@TGP109 Have you ever heard of a strip club? That is literally what men do and the women there demand.

Doesn't matter. Doesn't work like this. You can be the man of her dreams yet she will still leave you because she FELT that way 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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They can't hear you because they already have hundreds of bodies in the past. Social media enables the worst kind of monkey branching in women, and they happily all chase the top 5% to 20% of men.

That's 98% of the population. The world doesn't need more prudes

Aaah… the amount of times guys have said “well I could’ve been the exception” when women say “I don’t just sleep with anyone!” C’mon now lol

Don’t you mean they want to be in contact with the orifice between her legs? What about her being a human being with a personality and character.

But it’s usually for selfish reasons. You were being used as a means to an end may leave a man sexual gratification with little to no regard for the woman’s wants and needs.

@@shamekiawalker6358 True, some men don't care about a woman's wants and needs. People are very selfish these days. Most women are disrespectful and hateful toward men. They view men as an easy way to get what they want. These women can't be true companions to men, they can't offer a deep emotional connection, trust, love. All they can offer is sex.

@@shamekiawalker6358 I thought women do like sex aswell? If it's a chore for her she isn't in the right relationship

I feel like this is just another social feminist gaslight that's found it's way into the common public lexicon tbh. Just another throwaway sentence to let woman exert control and what she wants, through shaming language

That doesn’t make sense. You can only have sex with somebody that doesn’t mean you have to have all of the sex that they want. People cannot handle literally everything the other person throws at them. You are a rapist and belong in jail.

What about her sexual needs? Because she has them too.

This! My ex threw a tantrum for a month when she caught me taking are of things myself one time. Like, im sorry that i wasn't in the mood for a unenthusiastic hj.

​@@weaksause6878Exactly, I understand this well. Found a girl where we got nearly to being engaged, then one random day I say something that points out I like her, she's sexy, and I'm happy sharing those thoughts with my partner Next response I'm literally being assaulted with: "you only want me for sex" Despite the relationship literally being sporadic on this talk, and some innuendo here and there which was healthy. She even went as far as being disgusted over any innuendo or sexual want for her as my partner, despite her being more sexually open mentally than I am. In one day she destroyed an entire relationship, and still holds me responsible to this day despite her being the one that expected me to bottle up my sexual urges forever and be disgusted at me for them, despite that wholesome want for my partner Funny enough she hasn't spoken to me since, and even was surprised I'm more a real person with her after than when I was in the relationship. She was angry at me being more my self

​@@weaksause6878Shame on you! you should have visited a pro.

Modern women don't provide any other useful function.

Women today are incredibly boring and almost never develop a skill or a community that intersects with men's taste, and they want us to be with them emphasizing other activities (that we can enjoy with much higher quality with other men) and not s3x. Women not understanding the importance of s3x for men is just insane.

And she will be alone.

😂

Cats, plenty of cats, to wait on, care for and have intelligent conversation with and provide support, security and real world knowledge when the going gets tough. Yes, thats sarcasm, or is it?

Boys Do that not🎉 married good men, Ma'am. Excuse me for not fitting in your cookie cutter.

You may be surprised by how many ladies that have literally nothing else to offer

I believe one of the problems is that women ignore all the other things, and forget relationships are meant to be reciprocal. Man brings his wife breakfast in bed. Man goes to work to support wife. Man comes home and contributes to chores, food prep, and childcare. However, man feels neglected in sex department, and so after providing all that, man asks for sex in return. "It's just about sex", no, but that's the part of the problem man would currently like addressed, because man is contributing in ways woman has asked for, and is now asking for woman to contribute too. How many women do you think would stay with a man who was earning a six figure income when married, then either quits or gets fired and makes no financial contribution other than applying for work maybe once every three months? I'd water she'd leave him in short order, but yet there are sexless marriages that "get some" less than once a year. Should he respond to her "you're devaluing me and only making it about work"? And on the topic of devaluing, why do you consider it a DEvalue when the proposition is "I value sex with you SO HIGHLY I will voluntarily forgo all other sex in order to obtain it"? If all he wanted was generic sex, there are services he could buy it if not just going and rizzing up someone else. He's not, because he specifically wants sex WITH YOU, over ALL THE OTHER WOMEN HE HAS ACCESS TO. How is that possibly a devaluing?

If a man is married to, or in a relationship with a woman, then obviously he likes her personality too. So when a woman says "You only want sex", she is being dishonest. Since sex only lasts a few minutes, yet the man will be with the woman the rest of the day

If you watch the video again with your brain turned on this time you might get the point.

Biologically speaking, women only want a man’s DNA, protection and resources, but they can also get resources and protection from certain welfare states so all they need men for in that situation is a baby with superior genetics, additional resources or wealth (in welfare states) and protection.

Very accurate.

Men are the gatekeepers of commitment Women are the gatekeepers of sex.

That's a bingo.

@pnketia Very old stereotype

Do you like this psychology hack? You didn't comment. Did you get this person a like? You know, I see a lot of stuff out of here but psychology hack you are the worst.

Your goal should be going to the gym or having a real college class.

yup

This sounds personal, ya 'right mate?

Her: Is that all I'm good for to you!? Sex?! Chad: Yes, that's what we told you when we first met. Her: (Angry offended noises; Leaves to find Tyron who said he only wants sex) EVENT: The WALL is quickly approaching her to crush her beauty by age 30.

Aww you poor soul

He's taking about something else plz re-watch the video

​@@XTheSpartanX7chill bro

For us, sex is validation. In a relationship, its validation that giving his resources (grinding himself to the bone to provide resources) is validated. the disrespect is probably because he realizes he's inadequate in some areas. 1. If a man's #1 priority is sex, a monogamous relationship is definitely not the best way to go about that, since its a downgrade in one's ability to get sex. Unless it's a man most other women dont want. 2. Men inherently want sexual variety. Again, a monogamous relationship is not the best way to find sexual variety. A man who is only interested in sex, will be reluctant to enter a monogamous relationship. A man committing to a monogamous relationship, is the proof that his #1 priority is not sex. But it is a requirement because a big sacrifice was made...the agreement is, I will sacrifice sex with others for sex with only you, knowing that there's no way your libido can keep with a human who has 20 times more testosterone (the stuff involved in sex drive).

love and interest is not free, and sex is inherently part of relationship - without said sex, there is no relationship whatsoever. So why do you expect love and interest without providing the bare minimum?

I’m my case I can’t put that on the table before, I need to get to know the person to know if it’s just sex I want with them

I heard this question before and it already never happened.

@@carlitosoe That's why the question is so hurtful to us. You might as well as be asking us who we are and how we got inside the house.

Did she ever fart around you, or take big dumps in the bathrooms that you could hear? Attempting to be unattractive?

Your marriage sounds like a huge success, overall. 16 years married while having sex is an accomplishment, feel proud of that! I think sometimes we focus too much on negatives that don't quite reach our ideals of perfection, but we should give ourselves grace and compassion, and recognize our triumphs. 90% is still an A. 70% is still a C. Sorry you're going through this.

Thank you for the positive encouraging word brothers. You are absolute right. Everything is a gift. We don't always get everything what we want. But beyond grateful for every moment we get. Thank you. Bless you. Grateful you are here. Sending you my very best wishes. Love. @@user-vx1up7ty7z

You didn't fail. She did.

It takes 2 people to want to make a healthy relationship. If there is only one person trying then the situation becomes toxic. Divorce was the only option.

It doesn't matter. Most of them don't think it's important.

​@@wayward03No because most men honestly seems to despise women. This whole comment session is a proof- if women didn't had sex to offer we wouldn't even approached ya. If that's honestly how you view women then what do you expect from women?

Ugh you just want to eat don't you!? Yeah, y'know, I liked it the first time. I was kind of hoping I could, you know, do it again. Nevermind. I'll just go starve quietly and watch the Food network in our bedroom alone again.

LMFAO!

I DID GIVE HIM SEXX , LOTS OF IT. GE DID NOT WANT ANY EMOTIONAL TIES...

If you're not at the very least dry-humping on the third meet then she's wasting your time/money/energy.

Sounds like she wanted a roommate rather than a boyfriend.

Is it completely platonic or was she willing to go part way? A girl holding back for religious/cultural/personality reasons won't be able to help but go part way before stopping herself at some point. One that's just not interested in you, on the other hand, is just not interested in anything. My wife is a first generation Chinese immigrant, she moved in and lived with me for 2 years before we tied the knot. She insisted on not losing her virginity before marriage. She let me check, but not break it, moved pretty fast to using her hands and mouth to keep me leashed (she didn't learn how to do that from me, lol), anything other than losing her virginity on technicality.

@@georgedang449 She let me fool around with her parts, but did not return the favor. But nothing that happened on day 6, did not happen on day 2.

@@ThatGuyz82 There's nothing wrong with moving slow, some people are like that. Not returning the favor, on the other hand, is a warning sign.

No cap. Doc out here saving lives😂

@@deuceacetone we need a collab with Rollo Tomassi 🤣

Good luck my brother. Find your truth and express it with love. But do not sell yourself short. Treat yourself in all relationships just as important as your partner.

He provides an interesting perspective but I still see his advice as fairly niche and not applicable to most men. This video in particular suits a wealthy business guy who has the lifestyle women want but lacks genuine desire (her refusal to give him sex). Trying to negotiate with her in this way will fall flat because women don't sleep with guys out of logic, not unless they're gold diggers or old and desperate to get pregnant.

This Doc is the representation if Red Pill would have gone to school, get a degree, and it’s now giving talks here and there

Yeah, that disgusted tone of voice makes it obvious that women who say it are prudes at best (and many times really toxic in fact).

Oh wow!!!! Sums it up !

Isn't marriage (and divorce) such a joy in these modern times!!?

@@garybulwinkle82 its like a bet now isnt it, you bet half of your life that she is the one you will love forever

Bitter much

@@makeitup3093 it's brilliant.

he's 100% correct, not biased, and you avoid the point he made if sex is the only value you can provide then don't blame guys who pump and dump you trust me, if you can bring more value to the table besides sex even for guys who only want sex will stay imgine this in your heart to heart if a guy is short, broke and boring the only thing he could give you is his dic would you stay in that relationship? we all know the answer so don't play double standards

@@Neo-jty Trust me, there are plenty of different people. Some good, some shitty. No matter what you offer them, both categories will offer what they have to offer. At the very least he should say "there are situations when this question isn't justified, and situations where it is". As for what I have to offer, not that it's your business, I have plenty to give. Also, given that my point was quite clearly made about teenagers and early twenties, I wonder how much cooking and laundry and financial support is a 17 years old girl supposed to offer while she is being used for sex and thrown away to be replaced by the next doll until she becomes suspicious of too much sexual attention from a man. Perhaps you could clarify that for me.

@@claudiaiovanovici7569 How about being funny and have a charming personality? being more likeable? or being feminim? nurturing? kind? caring? submissive? respectful? not being entitle? you name it. but ofc that's impossible for majority of modern day girls, especially for western girls, and you guys don't even know what men want except for sex It's not that hard to keep a bf around if you have something good to offer even if you are a teen girl, guys aren't stoopid, we won't let go of girls with decent values, it's like no body will throw away a bag that packed with cashes, cuz preserving valueable things is human nature, the main reason why guys pump and dump is that those girls don't meet their standards and expectations for being gfs or wives, not worth to commit And plz inform me about what you can offer, cuz whatever you can give, I bet it's not short supplied, and guys can get them by themseves from else where or from any other girl, therefore you are replaceable, so why would any decent guy stay around? And I have to say girls should feel lucky that guys usually only want sex from you guys, isn't that relieving? at least they don't want your money and resources, don't require you to be taller, don't need you to be mentally and phisically stronger, confident, charming, funny, don't need you to be motivated etc etc, the list goes on, so instead of shaming guys, you should be thanking guys that they only want sex, cuz when girls seeking partners, they expect more than just sex, it's so suffocating and pressuring for guys, that's another reason why guys pump and dump, cuz guys usually have to take more responsibilities and make more sacrifices in relationship, and let's face it, most modern women don't worth the effort

Wrong. Most men aren't like that. Young women usually make the mistake of going out with the wrong guys. Usually the bad boys. And then they complain when it doesn't work out, or when they have a bad experience. There are plenty of decent young men who would love to be in a relationship with a woman. But they never get attention from women.

@@nerychristian That too is true. But how does it change what I just said? A teenage girl is used and abused from her teenage years up into her late twenties and early thirties and learns that men are scum. Because a decade and a half of being hurt leads to that sort of learning. And once learned, it is very difficult to unlearn. Like I said, a woman isn't formed in a vacuum. She starts as a little girl, then a teenager, then a young woman, and finally a fully functional, aging adult. If the experiences that shape her journey to becoming a proper grownup have taught her the lessons of pain and humiliation, she is bound to internalize the belief that this is how most men are. And let's face it, this is how most teenage boys and young men are! Perhaps we should educate and encourage our young boys to seek less fornication during their teenage years and be more respectful of girls at that age if grownup men want to have women who don't think that most men are crap. I do agree with you that young girls seek bad boys. Hell, women too like a little bit of danger in their men. But that's not the same as seeking abuse. And yes, there are good men out there too. Although to be fair, there are many things that would define a good man, not only the absence of drinking, domestic violence, and cheating. If that counts as being a good man, then the bar is way too low. A working woman will expect her partner to have an equal contribution to the house chores and equal contribution in raising children. After all, they both work, right? Most "good men" I know expect to be treated like grownup children with their wives as a mommy with sex benefits. That doesn't make a good man, even if he is kind and respectful and not cheating.

I fully agree.. So let it be 20-30 minutes after you've met before having un-protected sex.. ;)

why would I marry a woman without an enforceable guarantee that I get what I want? Because once married, you know...leaving, for men, is guaranteed destroyed life. You want a rather shitty deal for men.

But the way most men develop a deep, emotional bond with a women is through good sex (or strong sexual attraction).. If the sex is no good - or non-existent - or if we discover that we're not sexually compatible with a woman - most men will not care to get you know you better, or stick around for long. For some reason Nature made men and women VERY different in this area.

You're clearly dating the wrong women.

Rub one out, like a man.

@@patriziapiccardo2428nope - he dates women…

@@patriziapiccardo2428 No, I think it's bending over backwards for women that kills it. You have to give off the energy that your fine without them in your life, (which you are) as you confidently engage in the date. Suddenly the woman starts to bend for you. Try to have fun on the date, not just for your sake, but for hers as well.

dump it

About 2/3ds of women want to be dominated.

Seriously, how's it working out for you?

I've met my wife when she was 15. I was 17. I took me some years to actually learn how to make my desires fulfilled.

@@Ace.0.0.0. i can answer for him. Not good.

That sounds logical. But at the risk of stereotyping, women will react based on feelings (as she did) and it becomes a standoff that no one wins. I know this. When women claimed equality some 50+ years ago, a lot of men went, "Oh good, she can initiate now." And some did, but most didn't, and here we are generations after, with men having forgotten how to romance and seduce, and women having forgotten they need those things to awaken their own desire and enjoy it. Instead they have been trained by academia and popular media to despise men for desiring them and consider us practically rapists for bringing it up, even more so if they recognize the attempt to seduce. Suggestions. And they could be long shots. But - 1. Study female psychology and seduction. Find approaches that are not obvious. 2. Try them periodically, not constantly, maybe every other week, and never the same one in a 7 week period. 3. Do your absolute best to get her off, and while she is still glowing after, gently ask her to share her own sexual fantasies... and that you are interested in playing them out. Then encourage her to initiate when she's ready. 4. If it comes down to it, use guilt, because women certainly do. Guilt for making you feel like a predator (or a beggar) for having normal desires. Guilt for not caring what "love, honor and cherish" means to YOU. That is what she (you both) vowed to do at the same time you both vowed exclusivity. Failing to give you what she vowed not to give others is ALSO breaking the marriage vow. And I don't know if she's religious, but Paul in First Corinthians 7:5 says of long periods of sexual abstinence in marriage, "DEFRAUD YE NOT one the other..." The context is that husband and wife owe each other physical access. Because sexual access and activity is and always has been a part of the marriage contract, stated overtly or not. Guilt for not caring if you get prostate cancer, which is much higher among men whose ejaculations are infrequent, according to at least two separate studies in Australia and the US. Would she rather you just give up completely and go masturbate? That's a shitty excuse for a marriage, but that is what many MANY of us have had to resort to. Was her first instinct when you tried, to argue against it or otherwise react negatively? When the response to sexual suggestion or moves is almost always No, she doesn't want you. At least mine didn't and finally told me that. So after years of celibacy in a verbally/emotionally abusive marriage, I'm done, out, gone. Happily divorced 16 years now. Life is peaceful now.

That's a 🐓 tease that wants nothing but Power and control. That's what that is and they'll jump through mental gymnastics to convince themselves of it

Yeah, she broke up and the same day evening she would have gone to the club and f*cked some random stranger 😂😂😂

You've dodged a bullet right there. Posing this question in the middle of a make-out session?! God, she must be REALLY messed up...

Wrong answer. You should have said ‘if you’re not with the program, I have another girl who will be who can be here in 10 mins’

That's when you're incompatible and it's ok to break up.

Just leave, dont demand anything.

@@am-vy1fb Excellent advice. Lots of fish in the sea.

Um.......no woman is as interested in sex as her man is. None. Most men would have sex 12 times a day if their woman was up to the task. No woman is up to the task. Compatability is a compromise.

​@@am-vy1fbor beg for anything or anyone for that matter. Know when to give the benefit of the doubt. Three times. Three strikes, and when to walk away and cut your losses.

You missed the point here. Its about women denying the sex constantly and using it as a paywall and to manipulate. In a healthy rs where there is 1x a week s. the man will obv also have feelings and connects with thewife if she is of good value. See in the vid he describes that man enter a close rs for sex and intimacy. If the women doesnt offer more than this then she is of low value amd should date a low value man. You cant be the sharpest tool in the box if you didnt understand that only women of low value have only s to keep a man in a rs. If you are of high value s plays just a low role if you allow it but if you deny it amd use it as a tool you f up the rs. Given your comment you seem to think you are of low value without s bc if you dont know yourself that you can keep a man with just your high value and rarely s you have a problem. You also seem to use s as a tool to manipulate man and bind it to the things ypu mentioned. All the things you mentioned come with good normal s. which plays a short time then! a day has 24 hrs if younhave good s for 30 min you have 23 more hours where there is no s bc the man is simply satisfied! you talk of transactional but i believe younonlunuse that bc you actual use your emotional state which differs every day as a transactional tool for s. Sounds to me you have some issues.

I have met this assumption that being with trusting ,more loving, caring man means better sex. And it's false. That's what I did for my ex wife and sex ceased to happen. Let's admit we are all selfish women want a man that is their friend and therapist which doesn't mix with sexual tension at all. None of the men that women fantasise about and lust are any of those things.

Blah blah blah listen - sex is literally THE most important thing in a monogamous relationship. Everything else you can get somewhere else. And no, being a "better friend" does not result in a better sex life, which is why women divorce "good husbands" to go chase the bad boys again

No one is saying that sex is the only thing a man needs. But it's definitely one of the top things, along with kindness, support, respect, love, affection, etc. Why else would two people get married? If you want a roommate or activity partner, go find that. People get married in order to procreate and start families.

That's a lot of words salad so let me say you're wrong, sex is vital for the man. Give him that and the rest will follow. Don't give him sex, and you don't deserve anything

Yeah it’s not totally false but it’s reductionist as heck.

Can you share the name of the book please.

Nonsense, learn how to be emotionally open. I don't mean someone who cries about everything, but learn how to relate to someone else's emotional side, then sex won't be the ''only'' way for you to feel things. As for talking, I hate it and don't need to say much to any man I'm with.

@@TGP109 Only nonsense because it doesn't align with your feelings 🤣🤣

Yes, would love to know the name of the book

@@TGP109 Men need sex to feel connected and seen and valued. That's the point. If a man and a woman cuddle a lot and have emotionally open talks, but have no sex, then sure the woman will feel connected and seen etc. But the man won't. That's the point. He needs sex to feel connected. Male and female brains aren't the same.

True. I'm sure there are many women who ask the question to play games, but I bet there are just as many who genuinely feel used and want to feel like men want to be around them for more than just sex. You can say all day that you could have sex with anyone and you're not, but if you're not doing a single thing to make the woman *feel* like you want her for more than that then she will begin to question your intentions.

A man wants to be allowed to display his attraction to his woman all day long. But if the woman sees this, only as a desire for sex, and not just simply as a desire for his woman, she pushes this away. Which makes the man feel like the only time he’s allowed to display his sexual desire for his woman is in bed. If your husband seems cold, it’s probably because he is trying hard not to share his sexual feelings with you and this is frustrating for a man.

If a man is truly in love with a woman, then everything she does to him is sexy because in his mind, she is a sexy woman all the time.

@@kristofergray6138 That's sweet to hear

Yeah, agreed. It's as if they don't understand that one cannot be disconnected and isolated all day and expect their partner to just be ready and waiting in the sidelines for the moment they decide to emerge from their cocoon and re-engage.

@@cualter Well, what do you do to build that connection? How many conversations did you initiate that day? Is he avoiding you, busy, or emotionally unavailable? Are you avoiding him, busy, or otherwise emotionally unavailable? How often have you told him "don't talk to me right now" or "don't talk to me when I'm busy"? Always remember that it takes two to tango. If he's disconnected and isolated, then looking for the reason is always the first step. And that means recognizing that sometimes those problems are created by both people.

This has often been my experience too. I don't reply to a text straight away, I must not be interested. Erm, no, my phone is on silent, and I have other things going on and don't want to be disturbed, I'm in work or focusing on a personal project for a day. It's not that I'm not interested I just have other things I need to also do with my time, and I'm not about to make someone I just met a priority. I've actually learned that a woman without a hobby, a proper hobby (partying or watching soaps doesn't count), is one of the biggest red flags there is. Sometimes a woman is surprised I'm so interested that they do cross-stitching, paint pictures, or even take gaming seriously - but I genuinely am, because it means there is more substance to them than just endlessly seeking validation and spreading their legs - and women with actual substance to them are becoming harder and harder to find - so it's great when you meet one who does; The rest of the women just insanely disinterest me.

I'm stealing this concept

Motherhood primarily (for your and her children), secondarily lifelong companionship (longer then the lifetime of a dog at least) and finally the happiness that comes from being part with her of a nuclear family and an unbroken lineage.

@@LetsTalkOnePiece is life long companionship worth anything? I mean he gives her life long companionship, doesn't mean she will tolerate him not paying for everything and doing everything for her so why is it acceptable for him to consider that as a legitimate quality when she doesn't? Same with the happiness remark, wasn't good enough for women why should men settle for that? Or again, Fatherhood isn't valued at all so again, why should a man value a womans "motherhood"? Seems like a pretty shitty deal in my opinion.

@@joshuaobrien6137 it is worth everything in a good relationship. and if this doesn't become important to her, the relationship loses it happiness, she should care about your lineage, and in the same vein she should value your fatherhood and masculinity. Find the diamonds (diamonds in the rough) and avoid the ho's.

Well, why would want to be with a woman if you don't like them in the first place? You do not have to force yourself into heterosexuality. By all means if women are of no interest you, why even waste both of your time ? You're only gonna end up hurting her, you, or both. Human beings do not have the sole purpose to be of use to anyone, that is the role of a tool or of an object. If you can enjoy the company of people and appreciate someone simply by the virtue of them being themselves, you understand what I am talking about. If women don't fall into that category for you, maybe you should leave them alone.

@@LoutreEnGoguette Okay, you convinced me, people are not to be used. So women will no longer use men for their money then? Their protection? For their houses and cars and attention? This is a common tactic by women, demonize male desires in order to obfuscate women's own agendas. Women use men not the other way around(statistics bear this out), and women demand far more from men then men do of women. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man that is entirely her perogative, but then she should just admit to the man that she is either a lesbian or asexual and only wants his money. She doesn't have to be a liar(though then how would she be able to take a man for all he is worth if she was honest? Probably why women play these games to begin with). The fact is, I'm simply stating that if their are rules, then they should apply to both parties, if he has to provide and protect she doesn't get to deny his needs and wants simply because she has a vagina, that is not only sexist but incredibly machevillian and narcassistic. So if he should be happy with companionship and love(words not actions of course), then so should women. If not, think about how you would feel if you gave everything you had to a person only for that person to get offended the moment you wanted physical affection and assurance that they where not using you. Women would lose their minds(in fact they do, when they want sex we are not allowed to not be in the mood, if we reject them they freak out and insult and belittle us). Funny how all the "moral" actions go entirely one way i.e. they only benefit women and place demands on men.

@@ryanschneer Dr. Taraban said after an initial sexual encounter. I understand what he’s saying as far as a longer term relationship. We all know that not every man is going to be completely honest with his intentions upfront. Women have sexual desires and needs as well, so most often the initial encounter was mutual. Moving forward after that is when that question is typically asked when he initiates another encounter. I’m not trying to attack anyone or necessarily blame men. I’m just pointing out a different scenario as to why a woman would ask that question.

@@ryanschneer “Do you only want sex?” is the exact question used in this video, not “Why do you only want sex?” Those are completely two different questions. The first one is a closed ended question, while the latter is open ended. If the answer to the first question is “yes,” then that’s directly implying that sex is the only thing the man is willing to reciprocate. The “only” part excludes all the other components of a romantic relationship. It’s not always about sex shaming. Usually, when a woman asks “Do you want sex only,” it’s coming from a place of being interested in possibly pursuing a relationship and more so clarifying if the man is open to a deeper level of intimacy. Again, in a long term dating scenario I could see how it could be sex shaming, but even in a long term situation the question could stem from the woman feeling compartmentalized. Typically that implies there’s a lack of emotional intimacy being reciprocated for her to be asking/clarifying.

the comforts and advancements of society have come about because of men wanting poosee ie..if i invent and build things for whimmin she will let me have some

Men invented romance because every man feels the need for a mother figure, and once the real mother passes, a wife can offer that emotional support. Romance was invented in the middle ages, a time when most people did not even get to 60 and many men would lose their mothers early on in life.

Woman invented romantic chivalry. See an ear for mens youtube video on it

''Men invented romance''? I think not.

@@TGP109 Oh, absolutely. Being a recipient of a man's romantic gestures isn't the same as actually being romantic yourself. Sure there's exceptions, but often men are the ones making the romantic gestures.

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That applies if the woman is a virgin or has a very low body count. If she gave it for free and is using this "you only want sex" as an excuse, its unacceptable.

@@lukegibson9410 What about her humanity? What makes you think you can treat women differently depending on her virginal status? Unless you're married, smexx is not a duty. So it doesn't matter if she "gave it for free" at first or not. That doesn't mean that now you can treat her like a used sock to fill up whenever you feel like it.

​@@VixxKong2 Women themselves know that the more partners they have had, the less desirable they are to men for a serious relationship. A woman who is not a virgin or high partner count is still a human, just a less desirable for a long-term relationship, in general. Not all humans are the same. I can treat people differently according to my values. A woman may treat Johnny Depp differently compared to a homeless man walking down the street. Do you have a problem with her because of that? I don't think so.

thats bullshit. they want resources, so they want it to be a transaction. its simply manipulation via guilt and shame to bully you into giving your value without them having to reciprocate anything, they take all your investment, and leave you for someone else whos more attractive or who provides more resources, opportunities or experiences when they can. if a manipulative phrase like that ever comes out, the relationship is on a times because that woman is consciously taking advantage of the man, and women like that never had any intention of staying or reciprocating anything. hearing a phrase like that should tell you that you need to withhold any attention and resources, and I guarantee you she will maybe try to get you to submit by offering sex or just leave you. you need to put your foot down immeadiately and recognize their manipulation, to get rid of these parasites immeadiately

*sex...not sexing

It's always a good rule. In any relationship Sadly you will find some who don't apply to this rule My ex for instance. We were upfront with everything right at the start. At the end, in a single day, it was destroyed by her because she did not keep to the things we said up front, did not communicate with me, came up with her own rules and expected me to follow like an automaton We both agreed in the beginning we were highly sexual and that that'd be normal for us. On that final day she expected me to turn myself off entirely and never speak of sex again, telling me that she lied about her sexual likes and was actually disgusted by things I liked which she said she loved Reason she did that, all because I expressed interest in her, and some innuendo that fit her like she had before Good way to both lie to a partner and destroy a relationship quick

Thank God for a cool human being being so literate about what is wrong with this greasy haired misogynist in need of a shave.

Thanks for the extremely helpful take bro... I had no idea that women want more, if they're into you... This is totally news to me, and i certainly wouldn't have figured it out without your input. Man am i glad you said that, because i totally had no idea, but now i do, because you said it... Wow... You're so smart... And so helpful, telling me that there's literally nothing i can do to make a woman desire me, that it's literally just pure chance... It makes it so easy to take action about something that you can't do anything about. :P Thanks for the help, dumbass... xD

@@yodatheweeb I saw this happen to my parents marriage. I never did figure out why the two married... so fast. My Father was always up front.. so I had to assume it was my Mother who was deceptive. I decided marriage was more dangerous than war.

If both people want this, sure, it can still happen. It still happens in religious communities. What does make this harder though is that young guys are often super horny, and if they have to choose between woman 1 who is fine with sex after 1-3 weeks vs woman 2 who wants to wait months or 1-2 years before sex, then the young guy is probably choosing woman 1. Even if woman 2 would make him happier in the long term.

@@lightworker2956 That’s just him being stupid then, he can still be sexual with her without actually getting sex until marriage. He should learn to relieve himself with masturbation in the meantime until marriage.

That used to be the case because both men and women were traditional. Now, modern women want a traditional man but don’t want to be a traditional woman. That’s the disconnect.

It’s a speed dating/hookup culture these days! 😅

The answer. It’s because women use the interval between first contact and first sex to extract more resources from a thirsty man. They may , in fact , never give sex but prolong the phase until the man realises he is being had.