Does She Like You Or Does She Like The Attention? 

She only talks to you when she needs something and pretends to be nice to you. If she doesn't do anything in return, stay away from her.

I was recently in a situation like this not too long ago with a coworker. Thought she was interested but quickly realized she actually liked my attention because she hung out with me a ton, then completely went cold when another guy came around. I cut my losses and moved on only for her to start feeling some type of way and having the nerve to ask "Why didn't I come after her?" That let me know I made the right decision 😂

Fellas, I don't mind repeating this as it may help a lot of people, choose women who choose you and invest in those people whom invest in you

Time stamps: 0:37 You don’t see her 1:47 It’s one sided 2:15 Fishes for Compliments 3:08 Gives you Instagram @ 3:33 Asks for Stuff 4:08 No Emotional connection Best wishes lads:)

The No Emotional Connection point is a sure sign. I went out with a woman years ago who never made the effort to get to know me as a person. I, on the other hand, made the effort to know everything about her and her drama. Long story short I cut my losses and ran.

She just wants attention, She don't want your heart, And you should've known this from the very, very start.

Honestly the best kind of relationships are the ones where you both can safely get off social media and be yourselves. I feel a lot of being used revolves around social media attention.

You're so right, Courtney. I decided a long time ago to stop staying in one-sided relationships (even one-sided friendships), and I've been much better off since then. I lost a few "friends" because of it, but I have no regrets.

Wanting someone who puts in the same amount of effort and energy as you isn’t being needy, don’t ever feel like that. If anything, it shows that you know what you want and you know your self worth. Don’t settle for less, actions speak louder than words. There’s someone out there who will appreciate you for you without draining you for your attention.

If you are always buying a woman at work or college lunch or coffee and she gossips about her fellow co-workers or college students, avoid her. I had this happened to me at a previous job. If she's gossiping about other people she's gossiping about you, too

I was talking to a girl for two years, went into it not knowing much. She took advantage of me, nothing was enough for her. Fast forward, I’m now with someone who reciprocates and is a keeper. Looking back on it, I’ve realized so much to where now these women don’t phase me. Those two years taught me a BIG lesson 💪🏾

A great way to figure out who a woman truly is character wise, or anyone for that matter, is observe how they treat someone who can do absolutely nothing for them. If they treat them poorly, especially behind their back, like talking trash about them or etc; that's all you need to know.

If she likes you, she will find excuses to text you or hang out with you, otherwise, just block her, and move on.

Such great and authentic content, Courtney! Listen up, guys! Don’t waste you time with women who show low-interest.

This has always been my experience with women. From the time I was a youngster to today. Women only want attention from me but give their hearts and body’s to others. I finally learned a new word in the English language. “NO”. I finally learned to say, “no”. My wallet thanks me. My heart while lonely is not always broken. Sweetheart, all girls are like this. All of them.

I follow alot of good men dating coaches. You by far are my number one woman dating coach for advice. Helps to have a woman’s perspective.

I had a female friend whom I would text her a joke every now and then and that was our only social interaction. We made plans to hang out twice and she canceled out both times. She’s gone.

Yes, these are good tells, and thank you for sharing Courtney. On a practical note, I would suggest to guys that watch this to work on pulling back generally when you see behaviour you don't like. Desire lives in the space between people; give her room to chase you. Don't you want to be in a relationship where you're loved and wanted! Pull back, let her win you over, not as a game or a gimmick, but genuinely, if she's using you, treating you badly, or you're just unhappy. And by that same token, if your going to compliment her, if you're going to buy her a gift, escalate off a positive, not a negative, and certainly not silence. By actively move towards joy day to day you'll lose the people who aren't right for you, and just as importantly create the relationships you want to be a part of. Thanks again for sharing Courtney!

This is really killing me inside! It's hard whether she's being friendly or she's really flirty. And I don't want to come off as a creep or whatever when trying to make the first move.

Actually just happened to me. After almost 5 years someone finally paid attention to me. I was exstatic and asked her out for some coffee on our time off. She said yes but then retracted and ghosted me. So I tried to avoid her and she comes to my office and starts crying saying she is being the adult by talking about it. Well.. she has a lot of potential and is quite a looker. But its all meaningless if she can't just be honest with the people around her. Plus telling me she is still attracted to me. I'd love to have a fun date but she piled too much baggage up. I'm devastated since it's the first real time I asked someone out in such a long time. But hey, I'm working out now. So that's good. Thanks for the video. They always help :)

This is why I don't like texting now. If you just wanna be pen pals, go somewhere else and not waste my time! The max range of an excuse is ZERO METERS

Great advice, especially loved the tip to evaluate if the relationship is one-sided. Thanks for this video!

I was watching a video recently where a guy was interviewing females on whether they prefer a dad bod or a six pack. Most of them said dad bod. Their reasons were very consistent with one another. They said it makes them feel better about themselves with less pressure to have to look good. This is the definition of insecurity. Relating to this subject the need for attention or a chronic method for getting attention is insecurity.

The easiest way to avoid the Instagram thing, is don't have one. Lol I only have a Fakebook account, and I haven't used it in more than a year. It makes life a lot more pleasant to not deal with social media, and all the BS that comes with it.

If she's, from work or school, only calling you to pick her up after her boyfriend kicks her out of his car, you pick her up to take her home, never says thank you for picking her up, and then at school or work she ignores you. She's using you.

Focus on yourself, your health, and your business goals!

I think I needed these things told to me years ago... I'm thinking about all the red flags from previous relationships/talking to girls.

Courtney long time but and it's good to see ya 😄This video is a time saver and you just helped solved 90% of the hurdles guys deal with in dating. 9 times out of 10 they just using a guy for attention. As guys become more confident in their abilities and meeting different types of women; they can easily spot these women who are time wasters because they all have the same patterns when dating them. Anyways, I'm proud of all your growth on RU-vid. I'm out trying to better my life right now but I could never forget ya friend. I wish you continued success and happiness ✨️

Your videos are so helpful, Courtney. Thank you for taking the time.

Today your energy seems amazing. You seemed genuinely happy while shooting this video. Thanks for sharing such awesome content!

Absolutely sound advice, any man worth his salt knows that women like Courtney described in this video are nothing but bad news. If I get even a wiff of any of these games or feel that I am being somehow used, that girl is toast...

Wow. This just happened to me and I just cut it off. On point. Especially everything you said in the beginning

Great advice Courtney. Too bad I didn't know this 45 years ago. Nice to know I "eventually" figured it out. Coincidentally just happened to need the "refresh", and it's nice to see the kind of stuff other guys have to deal with these days. Always so challenging. ;)

Great tips Courtney. Very good for men to know, and be aware of; especially before you fall too far too fast.

I have a girl in my class which I had contact with. I was always the one asking for a meet up and she always made excuses and sometimes didn't even replied. One time she was at my place to visit my cats but I never got the chance to see her dog. In school she always wanted me to give her my Hotspot and she often did the dog eyes thing. After a few months I realized what she was about when even her close friends didn't like her. I stopped being in contact with her which is awesome! Keep your heads up kings!

I don’t allow these types of behavior from women anymore…I used to. The moment I see a few or some of these signs, its a no no from me. Time to move on.

I so relate to this my ex I believed never really liked me or actually had feelings for me she only cared to get attention for herself I can go on and on this was a great video Courtney

Great question. In this case who I've seen once and am messaging once a day in essay format (both ways), I *really* hope she's genuinely interested.

This is so helpful. Thank you sis

Extremely helpful video. Pretty much most of the women I've met in my life fall into this category. Where to meet women who AREN'T like this and how to approach them would be another helpful video I think 🤔

What’s happen to society? In the old days, if you liked someone, you’d go up to them, have a conversation and tell them how you felt. There were no mind games, no guessing games, no trying to play detective and figure out what the hell the person was thinking. Today’s generation has made it a hell of a lot more complicated when in actuality, it doesn’t have to be. Save the fun and games for when you’re in the relationship. Stop messing with peoples hearts and feelings by having them try to figure you out before hand. And we wonder why there’s so many failed relationships and divorces today. Too many games being played. Do yourself and everyone a favor and just have the damn courage to tell someone how you feel. So what if they don’t feel the same way. At least now you know, and you can stop wasting each other’s time and move on. No good can come from mind game playing. There’s nothing intriguing about possibly messing with someone’s feelings. Be the man, or woman, step up, and communicate with your mouth. Period.

That's so True Some girls do like too just Want Attention from you And a girl That Does That too you She's just Wasting your Time with a girl like That 💯

Thank you so much for your videos!! Unfortunately,I just cut it off with this girl I’m seeing, but it needed to be done. Thank you for the video, I actually really really needed to hear this…

Gotta get in here as a sacrifice to the algorithm gods. Guys, listen to your girl, boost her dreams, be her her biggest hype man. The good ones will return the favor, but someone who make you chase, and treats your time like a play thing isn’t worth the time.

Thank you for this Courtney 😔 hit home. But thx for your guidance. Very much appreciated 🙏🏻

Courtney thank you giving us all as men these precious information. those are unique . actually we all know girls apply all these tips tactics onto us we are all aware of these but somehow we may forget often time :)

Peeled one user off just to fall into the claws of another. Learned a lot and it never happened again. Pay close attention to what comes back. It doesn't have to be equal, as long as the flow is steady and cheerfully given. More than just a few grudgingly discarded breadcrumbs.

I updated my wardrobe a little bit (made a quick short if you want to check it out) I’m perfectly fine giving someone ego boost if they deserve it. Today I had a girl tell me she wanted to be invited to dinner, and I said even I have restaurants where I eat for free I don’t like interested people. And moved on. But you can weed out and sometimes people appear who are deserving your energy. Mirroring our light should be ok, it doesn’t break it when we encounter people not open to love. We just keep giving love to people and they eventually loose that warmth in the long run.

Very helpful, especially when I was told by her that she had a boyfriend and yet she was the one sending those strong signs of wanting me to talk to her. So ever since watching this video I've stopped completely talking and trying to get to know her more. If your in a relationship , then you shouldn't be sending any signs to anyone but the person who your in an relationship with.

Women have teasing abilities, I have realised that in the gym.. It's something inbetween wanting Attention / Validation and Teasing ... You can never ever Guess. I ignore Everyone

Love the topic and video! You always give the best advice !!💗💗

Wow 🤩 thank you so much for sharing these signs 👌👌👌👍

I would be really intrigued to see you do a video about signs your boss likes you. I know that’s kind of tricky but I would love to see you explore that whole ordeal

A while ago I met this girl through social media. In the beginning she was the one reaching out to me everyday, a few times a day. At some point she slowly started showing her true colors. She was crazy. Out of sudden she called me a liar and was like ''why are you talking to me, I'm a weird person'' etc. (huge red flag!) I felt bad for her due to her bad experience with her exes, so I tried to calm her down, which was a huge mistake. I should of blocked her and moved on. Anyway, I managed to calm her down, but things never became like they used to be. She wasn't the sweet girl I met. After a few days she did this weird thing again. I got sick and tired of it. I pointed it out to her that she wasn't okay and told her I'm done. The moment I did that, she showed her true colors for real this time. I'm glad I didn't waste alot of my time with her.

Great video, and I completely agree. Also, the whole Instagram handle thing also holds true in online dating (at least for me). If she's sharing her handle on her profile.. *SWIPE!* ❌🤮

A good relationship is reciprocal. If it's anything else move on.

She wants your attention. If she wanted you she wouldn't waste time. The way some of these girls are around me really makes me lose respect for them for how fake and leading they are.

Simple: if you’re confused about her liking you, she doesn’t like you.

When I was internet dating, I considered any suggestion to message with Snap or Insta as coming from a bot account, promoting a paid client. So, if someone gave me a social media acct instead of digits, things would end right there.

In a world full of fake b.s , it's challenging to meet someone who's genuinely interested in you. Nonetheless I still keep the faith and just do me.

Well, the good news is that I don't get much of this kind of behavior, so clearly no one has targeted me for attention this way. The bad news is that no one is asking for my compliments, even when I *do* have something very kind to say.

Even though this behavior can exist anywhere, American girls in general have developed what is probably one of the biggest reputations for themselves of being this selfish and narcisistic. The girls and women I'm going for are from Europe (won't name the country to avoid competition) where these issues are virtually nonexistent and is one plus side to considering the idea of entering an international relationship instead of being stuck with those of the same society, but those who are curious enough and willing to work a little may just reap tremendous rewards. This video is among those where for once girls are taking a bit of the heat. It's not always the guy's fault that girls act this way. If I'm being honest, it's more like the fault of the parents. They should be ashamed that their kids ended up this way and it's a reflection of their failure to properly dicipline them. Any parent in their right mind would want to raise their kids so that they can make critical decisions, have a good future so that hopefully, one day, they can meet their grandkids. Wasting time on meaningless relationships and next thing you know, it's too late, and then you'll wonder why you wasted your life.

I had a coworker come up to me and asked to hang out. I said yes and we started texting each other that night. I met up with her the next day at her house and we chatted for a while. The next day i texted her and she didnt seem as interested anymore but still texted me anyway. We texted for another 2 weeks where I constantly asked to see her again but she was always busy. I told her that I had feelings for her but she said she wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. I eventually got to a point where I started watching your videos and I realized that she just wanted someone who would say she was pretty and tell her how great she was. I broke it off yesterday. I dont have time to waste.

Your account just got verified or I just didnt notice getting lost in your insightful Content! Yoiu have definitely improved my perspective towards everything 😀.

I'll simplify this for the guys out there, if you're giving her time and there's no physical reciprocation in return for that time then she's 100% using you for attention...

The harsh reality is that's most women on dating apps now. They used to be a good tool to communicate with women who were more serious about meeting. But now the majority of women on apps just chat and go through the motions for validation. I personally don't get it and see it as a waste of time.

I've been dealing with women since I was a teenager so I definitely know all of the natural signs, especially having had my first kiss and first grade and I don't want Courtney to know how young I was when I went and did the other thing. The Instagram handle is a modern key point hahaha definitely eye contact, physical touch, facing you with the body, laughing at things you say, trying to be just as witty and response, there is a multitude of things women will do to show you that they want more of your attention because if they are trying to use you they will use manipulation tactics instead of natural behaviors

This woman I liked at my job was like this we only had one conversation and I don't think I was too subtle with my feelings or something because she started being giving me less energy then before but to everyone else she was still talkative

Yep… happened recently with me. We dated shortly, but she would flake more times than we went out. Even met and had dinner with her parents in December. Too many cancellations though; more than the airlines during a blizzard; smh.

The IG one made it for me. That’s why I never ask for IG. If she likes you and wants to truly get to know you she will give you her number easily. Plus it’s more mysterious.

I like that I've found your channel because I got a lot at once. You're beautiful. I like you style. I like business style of women. I'm from Belarus so English is my second language, but I improve it. Phycology of relationships is an interesting theme for me, and I really like that you give more information about this. Till this video I knew that I know not everything, but exactly something and psychology of relationships. But you've given me a new information. It's interesting. Thank you for your work)

So true. Also, love the shirt

Any time someone exhibits parasitic behaviour (i.e. take and give nothing in return), that's a sure bet you're being used. This also applies to platonic relationships, not just romantic ones.

Your describing one of my work colleagues who calls me it does matter bother her what time durring the day. One day a colleague who I've been been friends with for a long he sits near me when I'm working form the office said I should stop answering her calls. I just take it as sign I'm better than her at the work we do. I'm glad I'm not dating or living with her.

If she really likes you, she will be calling and showing up by surprise

The timing for this is perfect, and I hope it's not true 😉. I really liked this woman too, darn it anyway. Oh well, I guess it's going to have to be her loss- Thanks for the vid!

Easy Solution: decrease or stop paying attention to her specifically for the purpose of pursuing the relationship. If she actually likes you, she will talk to you and make time. If she doesn’t, she’ll go and get that attention elsewhere

I totally agree about unfollowing their IG. Everybody, men or women do your best not to hurt other people's feelings if you can.

First, Courtney your hair outfit and makeup all on point! Second, what about for girls that we want just as friends? Do all of these still apply?

Thanks Courtney!

I had somebody like that last year. It was hard to discern because she did exactly what you said, even if I leave it alone, she would shoot me a message. Turns out that yes, she did loved my attention. I took her on dates, said nice things, made her laugh, even bought flowers and birthday gift. But at the end when I pushed her to get an answer I got that "There is 0% chance for her to be with me". Was very confused about the whole situation because I never had somebody like that at all and that would be that starved for atention to the point that she would willingly keep somebody that she said it was "0%". Until I read more about narcissism. And she looks like a textbook example.

Dear genuine Nice Guys, I hope you're taking notes because this applies to you. As for the agenda driven Nice Guys, women are gonna suss you out anyway. Just be straight up about your intentions, you'll win some and you will lose some.

Courtney, I only wish this video was out last year 😂. I humbly admit, I was a complete simp and I had this situation with a girl for 6 months. I was incredibly in denial when she flaked on me. Spoke on ft only twice and towards the end would say she couldn’t talk cause she was going to sleep but she was clearly on snap. 😂I feel I’ve definitely evolved as a person after watching people like yourself. Thanks a bunch, always fun to watch. 🙏

Those are the types to not be friends with as I have been through this myself

I am 59 years old and lol I just realized outside of the Instagram part this is my wife by description.

Can't wait to listen to this while working out later.

i'm a girl watching this cause i wanted to know how do i look and i'm definitely not just wanting attention based on this video, i'm for real

Based on the title of the video I thought my situation with a girl was going to hit every point, but actually the opposite happened, very pleasant surprise.

Easy way to find out if she likes you is to look at what she does when you two just sit on the other sides of the room while saying nothing . If she is interested, she will start to look at you for no reason. There is the eye contact but if a girl is shy she won't look in your eyes so you can't depend on that.

Great video, it is very much needed.

A woman recently approached me . I knew who she was beforehand. Her face lit up like a Christmas tree when I said her name . That was all it took. She never even asked me my name. Never asked a single thing about my life. I knew then she only wanted my validation. Pretty sad and shallow way to live . To bad.

If she don't help you earn a dollar or save a dollar, then she ain't worth spending a dollar on.

Courtney's "You are such a dope" look at 3:21 made me laugh out loud! 🤣 She follows that with "Go to her profile, and hit the Unfollow button." "Please and thank you!" 😁 The "Sugar Daddy" and "Abort Mission" comments are smart and witty too! Made my evening!

This is relatable but we all have to learn our lessons and move on

Its very easy to tell if she talks to you for attention. Dont talk to her for a few days. If she doesnt text you she uses you for validation/attention. Usually when a girl really likes you, she will call or text you within 24 hours the last time you 2 have spoken. If she is a bit upset or mad, that also tells she likes you.

That cardigan looks amazing Courtney :)

Yep, once I had a women I went out with and thought it was going well, and then she started making excuses for not wanting to get together but would still text me for advice or to chat. She moved so I was okay with it. But she would often come back to my city so I noticed despite multiple text chats a week, if asked her out when she was here, she would say yes, but then "something would come up" and could not hang out. After months of this she said she would definitely get together with me next time she was here, but when she came in she said her mom was sick. (was, but...) Said she was too depressed to hang out and was taking care of her, yada. (by then I was definitely onto she was stringing me along) But then, because I was social media friends with her, she posted pics of her out with some other guy and seemed to have no problem at all having fun. Not too depressed huh? I called her out on it, unfriended her, and have not spoken to her since. Lesson learned.

Hello! I was wondering if you can do a video about dating while dealing with anxiety and depression. I know in a lot of your videos you talk about how confidence is so vital, and I do agree with that 100%. But as someone who lives with anxiety and depression constantly, it can be very difficult to feel that, even if things in my life are more or less are going well. I of course want to be emotionally vulnerable with partners, but also not try and catastrophize my life (which again, how my brain works, is very difficult to do). Would love to hear your thoughts on this in a future video. Thanks for all you do!

Good video Courtney 😊

You know people. You have to be rejected to see the full picture. I've known her for 15 years. 2 years ago I fell in love with her. Once she broke up with him we started hanging out a lot. Dive deep into conversations. Until I told her how I felt Of course I walked away and focused on me. But the more away you go the more you realize. I was the only close available man to her. I filled the absence of the ex. She just liked my attention and validation. Once I walked away I noticed that she still texted me and interact on socials. But I didn't gave in until she stopped. Probably another dude fell in to the traps. Congrats on him. Let him chase her. So for 15 years I was the go to guy for support. Not anymore. Other women can enjoy me.