I need help , I’m not depressed , I’m not happy either tho . I just wake up , do the same shi I did yesterday and go to sleep . And the cycle continues. I’m truly stuck and lost passion for everything I used to love
My deepest fear is that I’m afraid I’ll turn out becoming a failure/loser in the end. playing video games, making music and hanging out with friends used to be my favourite things to do, I used to do those a lot, but now I feel like wasting time when doing those. I feel like I should spend my time on building the ladder to success, but haven’t figured it out yet. I’m 29
Try 35 😔. Trying so hard to get a job right now, and living with family because I can’t afford to rent at this time. Feeling like a loser and failure in this life, but I have to remind myself it’s the crummy economy I’m stuck with! I also witnessed a few of my friends lose their rent/homes; others next to homelessness. None of this is right. We shouldn’t suffer like this.
I know this may sound stupid but honestly my home life isn’t the best rn, and I’m F 20, don’t have a job, car, nothing to move out. So I’m just stuck here in this house doing the same thing everyday, (cleaning the house, etc,arguments with toxic mom, she’s verbally abusive) sometimes I just want to pack my stuff and leave in the middle of the night, and never come back. And I ask my self “what the hell am I doing?” “This isn’t a good environment to be in, she isn’t good to be around” I feel like I’m a bird in a cage, just longing to be free, what i really want to do is take a long road trip to find myself, go to some of the most beautiful places ever! And take photos with my Polaroid. Places Like Oregon, South Lake Tahoe, Yellowstone, Washington, (nature places). I don’t want a regular 9-5 job I just want to live in the forest and run barefoot without a care in the world. Even if I’m homeless I wouldn’t care, as long as I’m free. I’ve been drinking and smoking, because I feel so lost and tired like I don’t care anymore.. anyway thanks for listening 💕(who ever read this whole thread)
I debated suicide earlier. I am truly lost in life. I don’t know what I’m doing. I feel like I need someone to tell me what I should do but at the same time I don’t like the idea of authority. I’m so lost
I’d really just say to start off small. You can’t really figure what you like unless you try things to see if it fits for you. If it doesn’t work out, you now know that it wasn’t for you but overtime you will find that one thing that is satisfying for you. Then those activities with branch out into trying new things in that category. I understand the feeling of wanting someone to tell me what I should do but when you have to make a decision for yourself, you won’t be able to make a confident decision because you’re so used to asking others to do it for you. I say this cuz I’m dealing with the same problem lol. It’s a hard process, but it’s very rewarding once you finally start to see change. Also I hope you get better mentally. This kind of stuff takes time❤️🙏🏾
Perhaps you focus on what's missing in your life rather than what goes well and you can be grateful for.Its easy to fall into this trap but gratitude always makes it better
Easy to say to "figure out what makes you feel fulfilled" I can't even figure that out anymore. I have tired and I have thought, but I can't. I just can't. Everytime I think, it's just like static. I am so tired.
@@notahamster333Same everything becomes so uninteresting after a while and then you're left no longer wanting to pursue it. If only I was born into wealth maybe just maybe life would be a bit more enjoyable 😂
Wow I felt down today, no job, little money and feeling a bit useless. I know it’s life’s ups and downs but it’s difficult at the time, this is comforting and so are many of the comments. We really are all in this together, camaraderie 🙌🙌🙌
But make sure you do what you need to do so you can do what you want to do. Too many people want the effects without the effort. Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.
easy choices: Living happily while the time you are most alive, energetic and happy, wasting second half of your life, hard choice: Living above average when you are old, crumpy, non energetic wasting the first half to be productive.
my parents raised me with such high standards that i have a need for achievements and have unrealistic expectations. went to college as pre-med to please my parents but ended up almost flunking on purpose because i didn't think pre-med was the path i chose to take. instead developed musical skill and found some small success there. but not being able to fulfill my parents dreams is making me so confused and lost in life. it makes me want to give up and become a vegetable and rot away.
I'm terribly sorry to hear you're feeling this way. This is a conversation I'm planning to have with my son of 34, who is married, and I don't see him too often. However, he's doing very well financially but doesn't share his troubles. So I need to tell him that I admire him for his achievements, but that's not why I love him. He has a great interest in electronic music and has an amazing little studio in his basement filled with all kinds of equipment. I think this is his first love. We all want to be loved. Your parents may disapprove, but that doesn't mean they don't love you. So don't become a prisoner of your job title.
I’m almost 19 and my head is filled with doubts and second-guessing myself. I used to be super into things like astronomy, technology and botany but for some reason they each have faded away. This happens to me repeatedly and I don’t know why. My childhood and parents have the greatest influence in how I have come to the point I am today. My father is not really involved and my mother has a lot of toxic and unhealthy behaviors which I somehow absorbed and have been ingrained into me. It’s exhausting to just even begin tracking down what they are.
i understand your problem, I'm also almost 19(in 6 months but whatever) I used to be into astrology, psychology, robotics, and all that, man I was obsessed I found it interesting and I was dreaming about working for space x one day for example. But I feel so overheated right now even tho all I do is think about shit and being lost in my own mind, idk what to do in life and with way to go, all I think about is money and myself even tho it feels like I'm stuck and can't move because idk where Man I love music, I love sports, I love gym I love nature I love cars I love camping I love astrology I love psychology I love so many things man but how the hell am I suppose to do all of them you know? My family situation is bad I need to help my mom raise more money my dad is moving out, I need money for my drivers license, I need to figure out which way to go and I know I need to do some changes, if I only had my spark back man, energy and motivation again. Good luck mate, hope we find our ways soon
@@jade_blazkowiczsame here I’m also struggling too with money I need to work on getting money but don’t know how to afford a car it so hard out here it like I want to give up
I have to say this - you used to be into certain things because you actually are into those things but sometimes our parents' nonsense spills over into our lives - so I want you to first start with this - your parents' stuff is not your stuff - go ahead and lay that down - work on empathy for them but stop including yourself in that - I promise you, it's not your stuff - pray for them, wish wellness for them but unfollow that shit show :)
I honestly don’t know why people exist. Without a goal or intention in mind, what are we meant to do? For the past two years I had a goal in mind. I worked hard every day and soon reached the goal I was striving for. Now I have no idea what to do. I wake up, go to school, come back from school and idk wth I’m meant to do with myself… I’ve always had a short term goal or a long term goal. Now I have neither.
So take a job and work your way up by doing this ”lower” job well and getting a pay rise or promotion. Not complaining about lack of money on the Internet
@@izabellapinker9705 (oh just get a job, why didn't I think of that? o'em'gee I'm soo schewped) yeah if I could save $1 every paycheck I would probably have $30,000 by the end of the year right?
Goddamn, we need a world in which we do several community services for 15 - 20 hours a week for getting food and shelter and in the remaining time we can do whatever we want. Regular 9 to 5 jobs for 5-6 days of week are consuming our lives. I dont have a purpose, i dont have a goal, i dont have a dream job and i dont want them. I just want to lay around and read philosophy books and world classics.
Unfortunately that’ll never happen. They would rather you rot if you choose to do the bare minimum. We as humans aren’t meant to do these things. That’s why so many people are sick the world is chaos all fighting for control and money. It’s sad. There should be a place on earth that people can go to and we make our own rules.
I developed a drug problem in my teens, got sober over 10 years ago, thought I'd "have it figured out" now. I was in healthcare for 16 years and eventually got burnt out, recently started cleaning houses. It is not what I want to do forever but also have no idea what I want to do. I'm 34 and have no idea where I'm going.
I’m close to your age. I’m 33, and I’ve been in healthcare almost 9 years. I find it to be overrated and exhausting. I just don’t feel like it’s my true calling. I’m not sure what is. I’m a single guy with no kids. I just feel like I’m some random guy who is just… here for no reason. lol
I feel that money holds me back, how can you save in this economy to make your dreams come true? on min wage, single , 3 special needs children. I would love to work and save money for a small farm. Thats my dream. It just seems impossible when you can barely keep your head above water as it is
All these suggestions feel like it requires money and right now I’m parent-less no money and with my kids in a hotel. I’m can’t afford to find what fulfills me or makes me happy… that’s a luxury. I constantly worry about money and what’s going to happen to us. I’m just trying to figure out and not give up bc my kids only have me and I have no one 😢
i still dont know what to do, its a constant cycle of the same thing, being ignored all day and everyone putting me down like if im a freak and then i just go home to my grandma who doesn't even know who she is anymore (she has late stage Alzheimer's) all because my dad lost my home to drugs back when i was 12 and im 17 now, i hate being stuck in these fucking mountains, no work or anything, im stuck here, no one realizes how depressing it is to only come home to a Grandma who doesn't even know who i am, my class treats me like an outcast just because i dont have as much cloths as them.
i'm so glad there are so many 19 yr olds here because as a 19 yr old myself..... This feels just like me and makes me feel like home. i don't think not knowing what to do at 19 is odd but I think there are different kinds of ways of being lost, and i express my lost feeling to everyone i interact with to just get some advice and inspiration, but though all my friends say they aren't sure i somehow feel the most lost as i question everything... I'm seeking therapy which is good, and I'm also actively looking for ways out. But i think this is just because i'm just an enthusiastic person and not knowing makes me feel very uncomfortable
This was more answering the question "what to do with your free time" than "what to do with your life". What to do on the weekend is secondary to what to do during the week. What you do during the week needs to address the first two levels of Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Am feeling the same thing... Idk why am not getting inner peace... I know I want to do something big but idk what it is ...always feel fear and anxiety, not getting proper sleep...living w a regret to not say YES to person I liked (he is gone now). Idk what I was thinking that time atleast i had someone to talk to lol. .. Siblings are living apart... Completely lost...idk what should I do cry or laugh. At this situation
Thank you for your warm words of wisdom 😊 It was a very useful reminder as I’ve been feeling a bit listless and low of late, maybe for. To changes in weather, rise in cost of living lots of uncertainty in the world. I just need to start rebuilding my momentum by doing one thing at a time and do what makes me happy 😊
I will be turning 27 and have no clue what to do with my life, Have completed my Grad school, iam always occupied with stress, anxiety and fear..... I just cant figure out where to lead myself coz i have zero motivation and no purpose currently. Kindly help me through this your suggestions will mean alot Thanks
It’s good that you went to grad school! I’ve been thinking a lot about whether I should do grad school, but I’m not sure bc I don’t even use my bachelor’s. This whole thing about applying for jobs gives me anxiety and depression.
I've been binge watching self-help videos and now knowing I'm a closed-minded person with low IQ I feel doomed to fail and sink further into despair. No wonder I'm lost
the pandemic and lockdowns destroyed me and made me alone and isolated for too long :( . every day i pray i would get better but i still lift weights even i suffer alot
31 years old and still lost no hight school degree.... I regret it...eating my feelings and find comfort from drinking because my family no cares , no friends it's just me and my dog. I feel like I have no future, I feel like I'm disappointment to family and everyone. Idk .... I keep failing my self and diet. Idk what to do to make my self and mom proud
Successful business owner here making 6 digits and I still don’t know what to do with my life. Reminder friends, your work, money, has nothing to do with what fulfills you.
"What do you want you to learn, do, and feel?" There is no "you" inside of your body or mind, waiting to be formed into something else. Something better. Something different. The You you are today is the You you will always be. Inside of you there is YOU. A consciousness with the ability to choose to do whatever you want, need, or desire to do. Those choices, over time spans you can't imagine waiting for, will create a life you either love, hate, or tolerate, or some constantly jumbling mixture of the three, every day until the day you die.
what to do with the situation of I don’t like anything at all? Nothing brings me joy, none of my hobbies, none of the jobs I’ve changed. I feel like I don’t belong and out of place no matter where I am
i love driving. i have a fun car, i love working on it, i love my driving simulator. i want to do everything about anything when it comes to performance driving. i have other wants and desires but it all comes down back down to cars. no no i don’t want to be a mechanic, i don’t want to be a truck driver, i want to race. go karts, miata’s, rally, or just hot laps in a grocery getter. but it’s just not realistic. at least, not realistic for me. it’s definitely a pay-to-win environment even when classed. we’re talking tens of thousands of dollars being poured in constantly. i’ll probably never enjoy it as a profession. so for now i’m having to figure what can i REALISTICALLY do without expecting too much and becoming disappointed.
Sending everyone in the comment section love & light 🤍 dont give up on yourself! You have to go through what you’re going through right now to become the best version of yourself even though its not clear right now. Dont give up, and keep doing the little things that make you happy. Even if its just singing in the shower, or going on a walk, or reading a book. If you keep putting in the effort to to get what you want, be happy, be at peace, i promise you’ll get there with the effort, consistency, and positive mindset about it! It also helps to have faith of some sort to know you are being guided and supported by something bigger than us.
Im 27 in the time of writing and nothing in my life makes sense to me anymore. I keep telling myself i want to achieve the higher purpose in life. But what is that higher purpose?
I’m not young 😅 but that sentiment stands it’s not necessarily a teenager whose lost. All people all ages have different stages in life where they become lost. Spirituality, meditation, community these things can help. Affirmations, journaling. People like gabby Bernstein, Exkhart tolle and yes this is partially part of my fulfillment system but also, this stands as part of the answer for finding fulfillment for all.
you know sometimes its the one who raised us that supposed to guide and support us but then again alot of people lost their parent figure and their guidance to the point this kind of video exist.
Hey, I feel lost in my life. I’m 35, my life is great, amazing husband, daughter, but I have no work (it was my decision to leave that workplace). Ever since I don’t know what to do, where to go. And why?! Each day is the same. In midday I already start to wait for going to sleep. No ideas in my head, no motivation, no nothing. All blank.
I can't keep a job and can't find a career i know I'll like. Didn't finish high school. Been dealing with over 5 different diagnosis my whole life like add, adhd, depression, anxiety, ocd, bpd. I feel like I can't get anything right. As soon as something starts to go good for me, 'poof' its gone in an instant.🤷 I also just got dumped a few days ago by someone i truly loved and now I have nothing & have to start over. Will have to move extremely far to be able to afford a house on my own. Their reasons for leaving me were hurtful too; 'you need to get your life together'.....'i want to be single' .....'i want to live alone' .... but he's already seeing other people & doesn't care how heartbroken i am. I have no friends to talk to about it because of anxiety. Its like I can never catch a break!! Ugh I don't understand this shit. Why is life so difficult for most of us? I'm so tired.
Watching this to understand how I can help a loved one. My partner is no longer doing what he loves and not hasn’t got his flow back. I wish I could help but it doesn’t seem like I can. It has to be self directed I guess. So painful to watch.
I am F 29.I lost my job because of unstable political situation in our country .I haven't found out a job yet .I am also not applying well coz I feel like I am not enough and i need to have a vocational careeer rather than language's.I don't know but I am sure I 'm feeling lost.
i want to go to fine arts university because i have passion for drawing and fine arts school has always been a dream to me. my parents keep saying i will be broke if i choose art. they are right but i dont have time to change my rotation. i want to follow the path i am already good in and improve. i am sick of crying myself to sleep thinking what i am going to do. nobody can help me either.
Im 15 i dont have a passion for anything really ive started doing bad in school i only enjoy playing video games and going to the gym i dread waking up for school and getting out of bed every morning i have no clue what i want to do after hs i dont know what to do with my life im actually lost and i see myself just becoming nothing and ive been feeling very depressed recently
Idk what to do after high school but I’m considering veterinarian I’ve always loved animals and animals more then people but the amount of school scares me
Dealing with tbi, ptsd, and cfs days are hard. I try but when you throw so many other stressors and things falling apart in life. I don’t know where to go or what to do to find how to do it.
If your a business owner why not focus into making more sales or getting more clients a career is only a short term goal but business is long term cause you can lose your job anytime but your business its still running and paying the bills.
I've always Loved dance or anything that physically moves me... like figure skating.. that is what I just genuinely enjoy doing with my time however my family does not approve they want me to sit in an office......I love them but its driving me insane
This is very well said. My mind and feelings have been obligated from modern society and people close to me. Most of the time Its just a blur. I know my outlook on life has been altered indefinitely. The only way I feel grounded is when I create digital art. Next year I am going to see if doing freelance work will give me a sense of direction. That is really the only thing keeping me afloat in this existence.
I went to uni, got the degree, went back to uni to get a masters because I didn’t know what else to do. Throughout my 20s I became more and more depressed because I was on the wrong path, pushing myself into a 9-5 trying to make corporate companies make more money. I was lucky to get a job but I couldn’t shake the depression. I’m trying to figure out what would really make me feel at peace. Sometimes life feels like a game, a capitalist game that we’re not supposed to win at
I don't know what to do I want to play soccer but I'm always injured after practice and being told to quit and it's all going into my head and I can't take it anymore
Once covid hit and i moved countries never finished school got a depression and now im back in my home country i have a job but i want to know what i want in life 😭
Here’s the problem with me though, I don’t want to live, I don’t want to be living rn, I’m unsure what I want to do or where to go because I don’t want to be here
I lost my everything 11 months ago. What kept my world together is gone, and still to this day, I have never been the same. I just want to be okay again. I want to go back to the world where everything was fine. Nothing is anymore, all of my true emotions make me feel pain for what I cant resolve, because of that, I have been numb for 7 months. Living my days trapped in my home, ridiculed for not having a job or direction in life when no one helped me. I dont feel like I am in heaven of hell, I dont feel good or bad. Even when my family broke apart, I feel numb to the pain. And I feel like theres nothing I can do anymore, I tried so many times to relieve this pain, but its not possible.. Heh.. maybe this is hell. Someone, anyone, I wish someone knew what to do, but at this point, just put me out of my misery.. I cant feel anything anymore.
I used to want to do things but after my family is against everything i wanted to do i dont tell anyone what i want to do and i dont know what to do anymore in life
