My parents also thought they could control me growing up. I’m almost 30 now and don’t speak to them. If they’d taught me internet safety rather than making it a forbidden fruit with no guardrails…
Must have been more going on obviously with your case. No one just cuts their parents off like that over social media. Sound like they are having a great childhood with involved parents who are concerned about their mental health. Social media makes kids dumber not smarter.
@@sobeliever1638 I’m not sure where in my comment you read that I cut my parents off over social media. I believe you are extrapolating. I said I wished they taught me internet safety instead of making it a forbidden fruit with no guardrails.
It’s interesting that you say that because 30 years ago the internet quite literally was untrekked and no one knew much about it, especially parents. I don’t know what went on in your family and I obviously have no opinion that holds any weight in that sense but I do think it’s unfair to expect them to have taught you internet safety during a time when barely anyone knew what it was and people were only beginning to become familiar with its dangers and benefits.
My parents raised me just like he is raising his kids. Honeslty, I’m grateful. They taught me the dangers and the “why” behind them shielding me from social media and now that I am an adult I choose to not have it because I’ve done enough research and living to know that I don’t want it.
You could ask more questions of the original commenter rather than assuming they meant YT as well. In terms of predators having access to you, YT is probably one of the least dangerous forms of “social media” as opposed to Instagram or Reddit, etc.
I love Dr. John. He is so wise and thoughtful. When I hear his opinions I take them seriously, so if he sees the dangers of social media and concludes that his kids will not be on it, then I’m planning to do the same while I do further research. He is one of the people that witnesses the darkest sides of humanity (and the internet) that the rest of us don’t see. At least some of what I know of his work is that his dad was a homicide detective, he would go with police on homicide and suicide calls to help trauma survivors, and much more I am CERTAIN we don’t know of. If he says it is this dangerous, I’m taking heed. Thank you Dr. John 🙏🏿❤️
By then they'll BE older. Their sense of self will have developed more organically than with the social media crap and they will be able to think more critically about it. That's the whole idea.
@@yogaqueen1527 Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? Do you not have better perspective of what truly matters to you versus influences from outside? That's just part of the general process of maturity within a social context. If you don't have such perspective yet you might be in for quite a shock further down the line. That's what tends to trigger things like quarter/mid/late life crisis.. depending on when one actually starts to get perspective on their life.
Middle and high schools often use smartphones in the classroom - apps, educational games, the school portal. Better to tell them how to use the Internet safely. It's part of how we live our lives now, it's not going away. You can block or tell them they can't go on certain apps, but if you don't let them have a smartphone, they are going to be the odd kid at school.
Well its clear you haven't looked at the data or the impact of social media and smart phones on brains. He made the right decision and he'll be sleeping alright regardless of your stupidity.
@@Im-a-rock in 2023, yes it does. When they get to the age of 16 and still aren’t allowed social media or a smartphone, that is a form of ostracizing them from their peers, which is controlling, and will promote them to make secret profiles from their friend’s devices, and then there’s zero security, which is how issues arise.
no it creates kids who are aware of their actions and tje consequences that come with and of they still make mistakes then its on them. Its the responsibility of the parents o be controlling. kids are considered kids for a reason, but if the kid doesnt learn, then its on them. previous generation were tougher on their children didnt lead to societal collapse. disassociated iberal social values have done a lot to destabilize family lives. controlling parents arent necessarily tyrants. the onus is on the parents to be controlling and/or encouraging and loving as the situation sees fit. The kind of arguments you make is what leads to people with zero accountability and stability in their lives. parentless behaviour(despite having parents) is at an all time high in the west.
My parents tried to control me. My mom didn’t want me to get my license at 17 so I had no choice but to get it when I was an adult, she didn’t want me to leave the house so I got a job and an apartment, she didn’t want me to lose my virginity at a young age so I waited till I was an adult. Just wait till your adult and do what you want then. Just get a job, save your money, get a car, and an apartment and you’ll be good to go! Just be smart and be aware there is danger out there.
I was like this but whether we like it or not this is how our kids communicate with eachhother now, making arrangements, meeting up ..you can't cut them off completely
Wow people he says he let's his kids run wild but no social media or smart phone. That's just common sense. When you see just how many crimes are committed against children you would feel the same.
He thinks he’s helping but he’s raising ignorant children. Seems a little extreme to me. So when they turn 18 they’re not even going to know the basics of navigating the internet and will fumble around like little kids first learning how to use social media etc.
Yes but we have a right as parents to choose some things that are kids cannot do in our house. The government says your kid can't drive until they're 16. They say that they can't vote until they're 18. They can't drink until they're 21. So why not have rules that kids cannot have their own social media accounts until there are certain age I personally think it should be at the very least 15
Hope you think that over .just lil bit...its better to know the evil you know than the evil you don't...they need u to help them understand what is going on in this pit of life.its not the same place we grew up in. NO WERE CLOSE!!!! HELP THEM UNDERSTAND. ....if you. Don't someone eles will ...the bad ones are close and closer and they don't have worning sighs or name tags...... the last ones you would exspect...good luck.....just sayin...
Avid fan of Dr John. My kids have a cell phone. And we monitor it all the time. I feel strongly that kids will do what kids will do regardless. I obviously see his logic, but I also feel it is a bit much to not allow cell phones at all.
