Dr Stacii Jae Johnson's Dating Advice for Successful Women Who Can't Find a Man  

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We attract all types of people, who you choose to entertain is on you.

you are what you attract? no. you are what you entertain.

People are not always who they attract, though. The guy in the gray jeans stated that he met a woman who wasn't looking for the same thing as he wanted at the time; he was thinking more along the line of casual. Because he didn't want a more meaningful relationship, he didn't mess with her. I like that he didn't play her because some men would lead a woman on, pretending to want the same thing and use her. I'd rather meet a man who doesn't want the same thing and is honest about his intentions than to meet someone who pretends he wants a relationship. It causes problems when people are dishonest with each other or manipulate situations to get what they want. 🙂🙂

Basically, heal, learn, grow, mature, get wisdom, and utilize it. I do hold to the idea that, "You may not be responsible for what you attract, but you are responsible for what you entertain!" Even moths are attracted to light!

Wow she said a mouthful when she said every women you sit in front of is someone’s daughter 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I’ll listen to people talk about relationships but I prefer that person being married

The timing for intimacy is important. Legs closed until commitment or marriage. Let him walk to the 304 if he can’t wait. Simple.

The problem is most people are damaged and broken. Hurt people hurt people unconsciously. And if you're damaged you'll automatically attract a damaged person. And most people are not even aware that they are damaged and their behaviour is a coping mechanism

Men understand that dating is datjng. Sleeping around is sleeping around. If you are using women just to sleep with, you’re not dating. Even the woman you’re “saving” for marriage, has done what men are doing and calling it “dating”. How YOU move is what really matters. Date wrong and you’ll marry wrong.

Dr Stacii Jae is in her 50s and still single. Why are all these dating experts like her, April, Stephen and others not able to get and keep a heathy relationship themselves?

That is not true....darkness is always attracted to light and some people come to you because you are good energy. So there is such a thing as people needing a power source when their energy battery is low. Of course after a bad person being in your space you will experience the opportunity to go, or to stay. I really wish people would stop saying what this woman is saying. There are way too many women who die and who were good before letting even the best/ or worse person proceeding darkness to their lives. Serial Killers, rapist etc ....both women and men- live with their spouses everyday and guess what?... they are good people. Its a horrible thing to say..... when you have good energy everything is drawn to you. Good and bad......understand this....

When your Queen conscious most broken men won’t even step to you. It’s some really good men out there. A healthy minded man will, create a space where you wouldn’t mind, submitting to him. When God is blessing you there will always be a Judas around no matter, how positive you are, just start holding self accountable. We all make mistakes, just do better.

She is not speaking in absolutes. In being a woman who is a "bright light" is also discerning. When "darkness" comes along she immediately knows to shut it down and turn it off.

Do these men think that women they are sleeping with aren’t exploring?? And do they think they will magically get a virgin when it’s time for them to settle down as old men??

We need these types of conversations more

Ryan doesn't usually talk much. I was happy to see him extra engaged inthis episode ❤

Relationships are reflective. For some reason ppl tend to forget mirrors exist. Why not look into it for the problem? It’ll always starts with self.

That’s not true and I’m really tired of women having to bear the burden of feeling like it’s her fault,

I prefer to hear it from people like Ps. R.C. Blakes. He is married and have healthy relationship with his wife and also have daughters who practise his relationship advices.

As a Christian woman the "stance" is the morals and vale of your body. If you are really trying to live the way Christ wants us too, it twlls us to save our body for marriage. This has not been easy.

I don't believe that women are so complex and men can't understand them. I truly believe that not enough time nor attention to women so that man can understand her. I told my wife b4 we got married 31 yrs ago and yrs in between that we/she's an ongoing research project because we're ever changing. So I pay very close attention to just about everything thing about her and it further let's her how important she is to me. We just have to pay attention!

Lies. Stop this false narrative of “you are what you attract”. So if I happen to attract and date a murderer and don’t find out until they’ve already murdered someone then I’m a murderer. NO. Hold THAT PERSON accountable for who they are and what they chose to be and do and not the ppl who were not involved in those actions and had no control over who that person is. This is wrong and false.

each person has to take responsibility, male or female

I wholeheartedly disagree with her statement that "you are who you attract." If that's the case, Jesus must have been a thief, liar, been overly aggressive, a sex addict, and everything else. Jesus attracts everyone. If you're a good-spirited person, a good-looking person, or just a person (lol), you're going to attract some of everything. That's how God created us. But, just because you attract a thing/person doesn't mean you should give it access to you or accpet it. What she should've said was - oftentimes, we end up with people who we aren't equally yoked with because we don't know who we are. ALOT of people have low self-esteem, and even more are disguising their issue with self with a fake confidence. We suffer with accepting self because we really don't take the time to know GOD, who is the only one who truly understands who we are. He is the one who shows us how to accept ourselves, our past, and each other. When you KNOW who you are, or at least are intentional about it, it's easier to discern who is for you and who is not. This also can be applied to relationships with friends and not just a potentially suitor. I used to agree with dating multiple people, but you have to be careful with that. You really have to discern who you give your time to. Time is the most expensive asset we have, and I AIN'T GOT TIME to waste. Nor do I want to be kissing on multiple people, or allowing multiple people to just touch me. Energy can be transferred even with a simple touch. It's 2023, the days are shorter, time is faster, and people are crazier. You better talk to God about dating. Know God, know yourself, and know who's for you. Disclosure: I did not listen to the entire video. My commemt is based on certain clips from the video.

Hey y’all… this is Dr. Stacii. Great conversation in the comments. Thanks guys for having me on the show and allowing me to share my methodologies that I have been teaching for over a decade. As the relationship coach on OWN’s Put A Ring On It, season 4 I was able to use the methodologies with the couples as teachable moments.

Lady your on point!!!! 👌🏼 just wow i listen to all kinds of videos all day and trying to educate my self for self growth. I removed all social media as i dont have time to waist on that anymore. But your conversation today 🤩🤩🤩 keep shining girl and i will look into more of your content. Thank you for this 🙏🏼

I don't believe that attract stuff. That if a liar comes to you it's bcuz you're a liar yourself. I'm not buying it. Bcuz everyone is responsible for their own actions, whether people think so or not. And for what she's saying to be true, every child raped by a pedophile is bcuz the child is a pedophile, every robbery is bcuz the robbed is a robber, everyone who cheated on you is bcuz you are a cheater, and so on... Which is absurd. In fact, many women have never went with a married man nor with anyone's bf and would never do such a thing, and married men be coming at her from all over the place. And this idea of attracting what you are is just word salad geared at sounding like an expert and making money. Especially when the most terrible things happen to the most good natured and well meaning people. And here's what I know about human behavior... By default, people operate by the law of the jungle, in that easy prey is sort after. People want they want and seek to get it as easy as possible. And whatever it is that people want, they seek the easy prey to get it from. So, if a man want to take advantage of a woman, he looks for a submissive woman who is frightful and easy to bully, or desperate and will accept without standards. Like these passport guys are doing looking for easy prey in foreign countries that are poor. The woman in a poor country with less resources. Easy prey. And likewise, a woman who want to take advantage of a man, looks for a submissive man who is easy to dominate and bully. Tells him what he want to hear and throws that kitty on him like nobody's business. A lonely old man with a lot of money, or a mild mannered man who is either rich or financially comfortable who will let a woman barge her way into his house. Easy prey. Which has nothing to do with attracting what you are. But simply the law of the jungle in operation and people having yet to learn the laws of the jungle and how handle themselves in it.

Loving these podcasts and really learning alot. I'd love to see one focusing on a single mother staying feminine and raising a masculine son. The father takes the kid on the occasional weekend but he is exuding more feminine energy then masculine these days. Double parenting, trying to stay in feminine but am the only one creating rules, stability and security.

Hard enough getting married in the first place let alone getting married 5 times

Ryan, I see lots of necessary emotional growth in your future. Wishing you the best with that.

Love this conversation. I’m inspired by the work this podcast is doing. Continue to teach and share. Change is coming quickly!

OMG I discovered you guys the watching DFW…. Thank you both for your authenticity in your work. I appreciate your honesty and transparency in your work. It’s such a blessing to see Men focus on their total being and whole self. I truly thank God for the both of you ❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

The notes I took away from this episode are so essential and relevant! Grateful for this. Thank you.

This was such a dope episode.

Love and energy is ageless. I agree with the Dr. With age, we have been through so much, we stop panicking. ❤❤ Great video and keep up the amazing work. 💯

This was so good! I am watching Put a Ring on It and seeing her on season 4. Neat to see this pop up in my feed and hear from her on a different platform. I like her tips and spirit. I enjoy you guy's channel. Keep up the good work!! :)

Great dialogue. Good conversation. I enjoyed the episode.😊

I dont believe it.....I have seen good people being played and people who are village w...s getting good partner.

I've been really enjoying this channel. I listen while I'm at work. Keep up the good work

You don’t necessarily attract who you are that statement is overused

This was great! I love how Dr. Stacy promotes her point for both sides instead of just WOMEN.. I am in the phase of unlearning and rebuilding I often wonder do I date during this stage or do I stay alone and grow before dating.

So, respectively speaking I do not agree with everything she said but I do see where she is coming from.

Her energy & tone disturbs my spirit. Lol kidding not kidding.

Love this podcast been real good for me a lot of wisdom n knowledge

Love this!!! True Divine Wisdom especially for the women 40+.

This is a very good topic! I think that both people need to be on an even playing field as it relates to vetting each other the process is the process. If you are going in with expectations of time you can't really say you are being honest with yourself and the other person. Both PEOPLE have to be accountable. If you are moving in the dark then you have more work to do on yourself.

This was soooo good!!!

Yes you can explore sexually with one guy but no matter what at some point you will still build up an attachment that will be hard for you to disconnect from after a certain period of time. No matter how mature and responsible you wanna be about it. This always doesn’t workout in our favor as emotional beings. On the other hand men are more logical. So sex does not Mean a thing to them afterward. For them it’s just a fuel . And to make them feel as if they are a man.

The degree I didn't know I needed 🙏🏽

GREAT DISCUSSION!!!!❤

That energy is the most High Yah..we've come to peace and trust the most High!😊

I’d love to see you guys get kevonstage and Melissa Fredricks on please. They are super insightful on marriage and relationships and entertaining to watch

Mad respect to kings & queens ‘Next up iyana mind/Body/soul connection

Learned and got so many epiphanies from this

I don’t usually comment but this was a good video thank you for sharing ❤

I like this debate.i am so proud to listen this woman as a black man,energy meets energy ,many women like to play victim and put men on the top of their issues .thanks dr staci.

Thank y’all for allowing for the mention of Christ/ God in connection with relationships, I felt that bc it’s a serious part of who I am. So it is essentially something I look for even if I don’t mention it. It allows me to operate in my most optimal state when I’m comfortable with the person and can be real about my spiritually.❤

Great conversation 🙂

Okay this probably was my favorite episode 🎉❤❤❤❤❤

Excellent conversation. 👌🏾

This podcast is interesting but at the same time frustrating. You guys repeat that you're out here sleeping with all of these women, but you don't want your wife to have gone through the same experience. Like Dr. Stacii said, these women are someone's daughter, and eventually, they will be someone's wife. So you guys kind of have to accept that your wife might have had the same type of life you had. I'm not going around asking men for their body count, but knowing how much I respect my body, I'm looking for signs that the man I end up with respects his body as well.

Right cause we have done all the things the ones behind us are trying to do.

Na this is podcast was Godly 🎉 she got gems fasho 💎 and yal dudes are hilarious I love y’all honesty Stay Strong Elders Ryan & Ty

Dr staci i love the way you teach❤❤

You also have to be careful of hanging with miserable married women who are in toxic relationships and you consuming that negativity as a single woman, as well.

Excellent show. Its an amazing starting point to a very complex subject self knowledge and the relationship with the self is really the only relationship we are having love committment chemistry commnuication and marriage is the by product. I only wish she had corected the men more in this conversation instead of laughing off some of the statements she was so quick to correct women about in her group. I learned that no matter how awesome you are you still can meet unready folks but it is up to the women to be committed to what she wants not the male in front of her. For me only dating men that are looking for a wife is key, and not investing months on one person without knowing he is on the same page otherwise keep it pushing, and no sex unless engament is on the table. We need to agree we will be engaged in the next 9- 12 months before sex is introduced. OF course other factors as well but I think a more strategic authentic plan needs to be executed for Black love to start winning out here.

Am really learning from here 😅. Thanks for sharing

With this guest, I am 50/50 because she made some good points. However, I think she was too hard on women. With her litmus test, no one is 100% honest; therefore, they would never attract an honest guy. Also, her energy is a bit too masculine and aggressive for my taste. IMO, it's highly unladylike to cuss when expressing a point about relationships. I found it a bit ironic. Anyone else felt/feels that way?

I last ending is SOOOOOO POWERFUL!!!! YESSSSS I've enjoyed it all!!!❤❤❤❤

Why is the only focus on healthy dating is on women and the same standards are not on men cause clearly Ive heard somethings from these men that are unhealthy and exactly the reason the women are unhealthy because these men are not intentionally dating and not honest....these guys on this platform have a lot of maturing to do instead of trying so hard to fix women and fix their flaws because they have them but want to fix the women work on self......

She is on point,

guest is speaking from both sides of her mouth, "females need to explore...." that's a nod to 304 culture, even after she attempted to clean it up, when the hosts challenged it.

Very informative but unfortunately many will not receive this well. In many minds they will feel that this is an attack instead of being accountable. Thank you for this informative topic.

To the crew of Hardly Initiated, I love you guys for the content and conversations that is provided. It’s much needed nowadays. Keep being a blessing.

Exactly attract and entertain …. If wrong it is oil and water so water will not entertain oil

Good advice.

I liked her on Dear Future Wifey podcast, that’s how I clicked on this video

Ryan must be a capricorn 😫😂

John 14:6

U can attract anyone, it's who you choose/put up with is wht is a reflection of who you are!...I hate when ppl throw sayings cliché s out there & don't get into it..that is what a lot of cliches do prevent you from thinking....smh

It’s my opinion: disagree ~ I’ve noticed in life that “Love” draws all~

Great conversations. As with anything, you take the meat and leave the bones. I was certainly agreeing when she was with the Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Not on the same page when it comes to sex before marriage, hence, I would never be apart of the university mentioned. I wish her much success in her BOAZ finding her, since she is living by the same standards she is teaching others. And if she is Ruth being found by BOAZ, much success in your marriage and all your endeavors! ❤😊😂

The small white lies we(women ) tell ourselves can attract liars in men with us unconsciously not aware of... integrity. Everything starts with Self before we match energy.. very interesting 👏👏

Lol! She loud! 😂😂😂

Give the grace that I want to get! Wow that part.🔥

I don’t believe we attract certain types. I believe we choose to entertain certain types. Women need to think of all the men you meet wherever you go, but don’t even give the majority of them a look. They were attracted to you. Think of the ones you chose, and notice if there were commonalities in those you entertained. I personally will never subscribe to the notion that people only attract a type. We need to be accountable for poor decisions. I’m not inferring that people can’t be attracted to your vibe, but ultimately we still choose who gets our attention.

The compound effect small daily choices

The lies we tell ourselves. WOOOWWWWWWWWWW OH MY GOD.

The drug dealer probably won’t be running in the same circle as a judge or police officers.

It’s not childish to not open your legs. It’s what you feel comfortable with

Im a student🙌🙌🙌🙌

Whew, 15 minutes in and she is all over my toes #FixItJesus

👏🏼👏🏼

If a man just wants sex, then hire a prostitute. If you date for a wife, date with intention.

Natcs attract empathy so no your energy doesn't equal she full of foolishness. She's selling a false product. Not everyone with a mouth should open it with such confidence

47:55

Please stop judging this woman for not being married. She was raised by a mother who was married 5 times. She didn’t have the best example but she has studied and become an expert in this field

It isn't what you are called. It is what you answer to. Certain men / women will try anyone, anytime. And its obvious marketing is going on.

You have to believe in something bigger than yourself.