This was so eye opening and just powerful to watch and have resignate inside of me the way it did. Wasnt expecting that going into it and tbh if it hadn't been presented the way it was, it would not have held all the heavy impact that it did and was obviously meant to. Truly been given a gift by this insightful therapist and I hope she knows how much this effects those who were watching/listening. This woman's approach, information and insight is literally life changing, honestly. Can't say that I don't look at my relationship now In a whole nother light after learning this, and so I can only hope that if he's presented with this that my longtime love will be as impacted as I was (if he would be willing to watch it for me). I think it could really make a major difference on so many different levels and in so many different lives and relationships to open your mind to this revelation. Because it's in fact a huge revelation indeed. Bravo Sue Johnson.👏👏👏💯💯💯
No not one single couple should ever watch any of her or her silly husbands videos. They going to destroy more relationships then ever help. There s no one who can tell you what's right in your relationship. There are no rules.If you followed all of their stupid rules guaranteed you won't last 6 months. No relationship is perfect the way they make it out to be. It's a process of making mistakes and learning from them. There are no books or rules for the perfect relationship. No matter what these scammers say
I believe "talk as a turn on" is very pertinent to women. In the process of talk, women can experience that sweet sense of being pursued, that taste of "imminent conquest", i.e., it's in the talk that their desire (along with their arousal) can best be "whetted". As regards men, we might have here two species of them: one rather well versed in talking, the other - not that well. To paraphrase psychotherapist Esther Perel yet preserving the sense of her insight: it's more often than not that sex is the very dance that men prefer, i.e. sex is the realm where masculine vulnerabilities, needs and insecurities are relegated, and preferably - or at least much more preferably than anywhere else - if at all, inacted, or acted out.
Thank you for this ...I'm really keen on Perel and follow all her material but have yet to read her book ...any more thoughts on this as this talk gets to me . I'm currently going through "It's not me" on cycles of PTSD
I think this woman might win more Academies then her. She's a better actress. Just watch this video. How she pulls off all the crap she's saying. Like it's real
Nobody knows not her or her silly husband . These people are scamming so much money from people. When will people wake up and stop being so naieve There are no 2 relationships that are the same.We are not robots who can be programmed. We're human all different. This makes all relationships different. So stop over analyzing something that never can or will be totally understood
@@lunalinguineThis is the thing no we're not hardwired we're human. All different. That's why anything these people say. Means absolutely nothing. Sure it makes sense. But we're not perfect. And that's what these frauds try to make us. How do you know what her marrige is like at home. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. It's easy to preach this nonsense
They do! So strange as I just started rewatching Battlestar, and I was sent this video to watch for couples therapy course I am doing. Had to put my glasses on.
I thought there were Buddhist monks whose brains lit up like crazy and they were doing some kind of happiness meditation, but here the same basic phenomena had to with the threat of pain, I wonder if the two scans happened in different brain sections.
+Class Punk i think what they found in the study is that the fear response was basically eliminated when the partner was holding their loved ones hand while being shocked. the security of that bond allowed them to gain the peace and happiness that the monks were experiencing, but yes, different parts of the brain. calm response in part of brain where fear response existed before...
Jim Thomas I see. I wonder how much it had to do with oxytocin versus other related hormones. I noticed you are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy. I'd recommend checking out The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle, both are bestsellers and seem to have helped a lot of people. Even though The Five Love Languages doesn't have doesn't have studies behind it, the author's experience with it suggest that it has validity, and its the simpler than EFT. So it seems like love languages would be the first thing two people in a relationship should know before EFT related stuff, but that's just my two cents.
+Chelo Alfonso that would be so painful yes? in E.F.T. the couple goes through a number of sessions where they explore their negative interactional cycle, start to reveal underlying emotions to their partner, and focus on the experience of being distant...before the therapist would take them to the scary risk of reaching out to get that response. it is a powerful thing to facilitate a bonding event that she talks about, almost a magical feel to see people move to a secure emotional bond
Super distracting filming- the camera person only zooms in on attractive (mostly blond) women in the crowd. Maybe it's only attractive women in the crowd. Idk. Good talk though.
If any couple followed even a quarter of these silly people they'd be divorced within a year. Stop making rules. To which there are none. People like this hurt relationships more then they could ever help Way over analyzing something that really can't be. When will people realize relationships are not a science. Its human nature
