Trying healthy self awareness instead of being so hard on myself. Not blaming people for my feelings and actions. I want to figure out what is going on inside of me and get that in check.
Needed this video so badly! 18 months Postpartum and I lost myself , slowly rebuilding and this has made a world of a difference. I forgot how much power and strength I had up until now. So glad I found my way back to your videos. 🙏🙏
I learned so much from your video to have a growth mindset, not to blame others, stop people pleasing, I am in control of how I respond, and finally boundaries preserve me! Good stuff!
My thoughts and notes on Julia’s RU-vid video: Emotional Maturity 101: 5 Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature My Thoughts: I think growth mindset is something I had struggled with and now I reflect and realize - wow - I have grown so much since being a shifter! I stuck with this because I MUST have said to myself whether I realized it or not that “Yes, I CAN change!” I just realized now too that by reflecting on that I am building my healthy self-awareness. I also feel like I have been taking on more responsibilities on my feelings and actions since being a shifter. As far as breaking the pattern of people pleasing - this too I have to try and be honest with myself, why do I help others. I think before I at times had the thought “If I do this, maybe this person will like me.” but honestly, I do love helping others and I think it comes more from a place of genuine abundance. It makes me feel good about myself and not just in the moment. Since being a shifter, I can see how my communication skills have grown and that has a been a big part of cultivating overall healthy relationships. It is nice to befriend fellow Shifters here too. To be with others who are working on these skills and just “get it.” Here are my notes: 1. Growth Mindset: My being, how I am thinking and feeling, and reacting to things can change. 2. Healthy Self-Awareness: Reflecting on our actions, our words, our feelings, and how we want to show up, think and feel differently. 3. Take Responsibilities for Your Feelings and Your Actions: Instead of blaming others, take responsibility and get curious for what's coming up for you and why. Do something different and take charge. Apologize if needed. 4. Break The Pattern of People Pleasing: Being a kind, thoughtful and generous person feels good and comes from love and abundance. People pleasing might feel good in the moment but feels bad later on. People pleasing is trying to meet others wants, needs, preferences and requests with a significant sacrifice or detriment to ourselves. Deep down you rather say no. You may do it to get self-worth from others or try to get others to like you. 5. To Work on Cultivating Healthy Relationships: It takes honesty, integrity, authenticity. Take those things but also considerate of other people's feelings. Follow the golden rule. Being able to communicate in a clean, clear, and classy way.
Hi Julia! I’m new! It’s really sad for me but I’m 40 years old and this is the first I’m learning to be more emotionally mature. I feel like I’ve always surrounded myself with people that don’t challenge me, so I’ve never had to learn how to regulate. It’s definitely making life extremely difficult but this video gives me so much hope! Here’s to bettering one’s self. Appreciate you for this video thanks so much. ❤️
Taking charge of my life and choosing how I respond is what I am doing. I don't feel powerless anymore knowing I get to choose how I think and what I want to do.
Julia I am so grateful for your video and the book; Drive your own darn bus. I just wanted you to know that you have inspired me to do things different. Thanks!
@@juliakristinamah id like to figure out what's going on inside and get it worked out instead of going in circles for the rest of my life not knowing what's wrong. Work through all the trauma and become more healthy mentally, physically and emotionally.
I don't want to single anyone or any group out, but I'm noticing how lacking emotional maturity is these days. Part of being an adult is handling your business, not blaming others or playing the victim.
Julia - I checked out your website and I want to compliment you on your content. It's all so useful and genuinely informative. You've really locked into the concepts that matter to people everywhere. My biggest problem and the video I've been searching for : How do you make progress with someone RELUCTANT to review any self-improvement information? How does someone with high emotional intelligence, communicate any of these concepts to someone that's determined to avoid learning anything about emotional maturity. Just that term would trigger an angry response. Is there a video that can explain how one reaches someone who's consumed with control and unwilling to help themselves
real question, serious question. so you say xyz did this so i chose to do ABC in response? why is giving a rationale for what i did seen as deflecting blame?
