I do think this is true; however, I think emotional regulation can require a lot of healing, and that is often facilitated by good communication skills. I personally developed emotional regulation and communication skills hand-in-hand.
I agree that emotional regulation does benefit communication. Professionally, for example, it’s imperative. But personally, it isn’t always possible and when forced to regulate or push down emotions, the internal combustions that may result can be far worse than an emotionally unregulated outburst. I speak from a very regulated experience.
Mature regulation does not involve pushing down emotions. It involves feeling them fully, letting them rise and then subside, and not acting or speaking too much until we have regained our composure.
I think you misunderstand what emotional regulation means. It doesn’t mean not feeling your feelings. It means not being overwhelmed by your feelings such that you can’t produce skillful performance. It means having a mature relationship with your feelings and not being their servant.
Interesting. Thing is, a lot of the people who say this, are the same people who find it difficult to get in touch with real, meaningful emotions. We probably ought to be careful when emotional regulation is actually emotional repression.
Is emotional regulation is something? Rather impulse control could be better and appropriate. Because we all have emotions. Sometimes intense. Sometimes not. Nothing wrong with them. Maybe in other terms, being aware when the mind enters resistance to an external event. And controlling our reactions. Several factors can enter the ability to regulate, from experience. Not being able to add one more word puts humans in it. Into a reasonable and measured person. Because if you come from a family where no ones listen and everyone talks over each others. May be an indisposition....
