Enneagram: Do Type 9's Make Good Leaders? 

I'm working to become a 3. Thank you for this video. I'm a 9w1 and a CEO of a successful company. I struggle with leadership but you’ve given me insight and better... hope.

Whoa! That woke me up. As a 9w1 I have been letting my 8 have a little more of a voice lately. He’s usually fast asleep. I need to stand up and shake out my wings and let them do their work. That are there for a reason, right?!! Thanks doc!!

I am a captain on a fire department in a large city and am a 9w1, what I learned from him is that if I lean more on my 8, I can be kind, loving but also very assertive when it’s necessary, the balance is incredible. I always say if you start a fight with me I will kick your but then pick you up and give you a hug, bandage your wounds and send you on your way. 🤣

It's good to hear about the positive ways 9s can use our specialness to contribute. It is only in the last 2 years that I realised I was choosing to be invisible. To be wallpaper. For most of my working life, I was a leader and a teacher but out of my classroom, in the staffroom at lunch or in meetings, I was not seen. It is a hard choice to choose to be seen.

"...adjusting your personality to the point that your spot at the table just kind of disappears." YES!!! At 42, I married into a blended family. For the first few years my husband's daughter would spend a week with Mom and a week with Dad. My husband's cousin lives with us at the time. The way we had our dining table set up, whenever my stepdaughter was with us, she sat at the head of the table, my husband sat in his usual spot on one side, and our cousin and I would sit on the other side. Whenever my stepdaughter was away, I sat at the head of the table, and our cousin would shift down towards the head, and my husband stayed in his usual spot. One day I realized that neither myself nor our cousin had a fixed place at the table, so I took out the middle leaf to make four distinct spots. That evening I set the table really nicely to make the meal feel special, and I announced to everyone that this was our new seating pattern. There was a bit of fuss from the 12 year old girl whose position had changed most dramatically, but my husband backed me up. It's amazing how much emotional effort that took for me, yet how symbolic and effective it was.

I cannot tell you how many times I have watched your "9" videos and caught myself saying, "How do you know all of this about me!" I originally thought I was a 2 and my husband and I decided fostering was a path we felt led to. Unfortunately, I soon realized I was a "9" and we have had to make some adjustments to how we approached fostering. Instead of longterm placements, we now do short term and respite breaks and it has been wonderful! When you mentioned "change things up" for a 9 and see what happens, I started crying. Doing longterm placements literally broke me. We all have a place in this world to share God's love, but I've learned knowing ourselves well first is an important place to start. Us 9's can't be there for others if we are broken. I'm so unbelievably thankful for you and your videos! They really have changed my life-thank you so much Dr.Tom LaHue! :)

Thanks for this! I was grinning with you the whole way. "Vanilla is a real actual flavour!" 😂 Thanks for sharing about the nines as a perfect storm for leadership!

Really cool. I am a 55 year old 9 with an 8 wing that has had much success in business and as an executive in the large corporate world. The super powers of nine have worked really well in my life. I like the description you gave of a 9 harnessing the strengths of a 3 to leverage the best of both to achieve this success. This is me for the last 25 years. Everything you say here is right. My teams love me and believe I am a great leader because I engage and demonstrate interest and care in what each person does. However, the unhealthy demons of a 9 are all still there. The energy and focus it takes to achieve this success came at a price. The challenges with close interpersonal relationships that matter are the biggest challenges. As I have achieved success and now understand these unhealthy aspects of a 9, I am 100% committed to developing new goals and dreams, overcoming these demons and really opening my heart and feelings because I now understand, see and feel the value of how great it can be. Thanks for your videos. Of course, for all us 9's, they are thought provoking. :-)

I definitely do that for my children. "I'm going to make sure that you feel heard. You are important to me and I want to listen when you're talking." And that is a great goal, but sometimes it gets pretty loud with three kids all wanting to tell loooooong stories about everything. So I have issues knowing when to say, "okay, time to stop talking now"! I try to do it before getting fed up, but still make sure that they feel heard. It's a tricky balance! Interesting point about the wings. Motherhood really clicked the 8 wing on for me. It's been pretty easy for me to find my "style". In this day and age, with so much conflicting information on parenting, I just... don't care. I've read the books, just because I'm interested, and I think about it and I have decided what feels best, so I do that. I don't care what others are doing with their children, or if they have something to say about what I'm doing with mine... I want them to do well, but it's not their business and what they choose has no affect on me, unless I admire it and choose this way as well. My husband, normally so opinionated, never said anything except to get on board with the plan. It's fun, I enjoy it so much. I see other people stressed out about parenthood and I think mainly it's due to always feeling uncertainty about the right thing to do.

Me when Dr Tom says to push, move, or change things on a 9: "NOOOOOOOOOOO."

I watch this video all the time to remind myself that I have the capabilities to be a great leader, to stay awake, and to utilize all my super powers. When I am setting goals, completing lists, and achieving I feel at my best. I feel so happy and strong and content. I love feeling productive. I notice my mood gets really low when I’m not being productive and I turn into the elephant that won’t move. Thank you for all these videos. They have helped me live my life more clearly.

This is so powerful! Truly life-changing! Your delivery is so loving and tender, too.

Oh my gosh!!! Today I literally vocalized this.... “I want to make sure everyone is heard, since I know what it’s like to feel unheard....” and seeing this video just gave me goosebumps.. I guess I was in tune with myself haha.

9's are like the Extroverted Feeling function from Myers Briggs. They just care about harmony for the group!

You should write a book on this - I'd buy 2 of them! As a 9 I'm blown away at the accuracy of this and whenever I start to feel like there's no help for me, you give such hope!

Im embarrassed to say that my mind goes "Shut up shut up" everytime he calls me out. But he's right so I have to stop "hiding in the basement" I love the videos about 9s theyre a great inspiration

I believe people tend to be fantastic leaders because we they terrible managers. A person who watches you and pushes you is not a leader, it's a manager. A person who takes the lead is a leader. They don't push you, they pull you along. My two cents. Great videos!

Im a 9w1 and have been in restaurant management since I was 19. My favorite part is helping my staff learn and move up in the company. My wing 1 makes me love the policy and procedures manual. I’m pretty go with the flow until a tule is broken. I love being able to use the manual to fall back on and it allows me to wrap my head around getting the issue resolved. I do struggle with conflict from higher ups, but have a few strong 8s in my life that let me know when I’m being taken advantage of.

I see many leadership qualities you mentioned in me and I can remember special situations where I was able to tap into them. But I still don't unterstand how to access the wings. I often am "lazy" and cannot convince myself to choose and act on something I want or even things I have to do like cleaning even if I love a clean home. Than I zone out and when I have a moment of clarity and motivation I ask myself why I can't be like this more often. So hard to discribe but the answer you get from others "just do it" doesn't help me at all. How do I tap into my health? Definitely have to watch more of your videos. Best wishes from Germany :-)

Growing up my parents didn’t value or want to hear my opinions or feelings. I believed that I had little value and as a result, my self esteem became super low. I became an actress so that people would listen to my words, even if they weren’t mine. Presently, I’m a preschool teacher for the main reason to be someone in the children’s lives who makes them feel loved, valued, and important on this Earth. I’m a true 9 and am still working on speaking my mind at work. My director doesn’t listen to my concerns and also doesn’t value my hard work and professionalism. I quietly feel so hurt from her and have become quiet because I feel, “what can I do or say to change things?” Thank you for your videos, you are guiding me to use my voice more.

this is like going to therapy lol. thank you for being on youtube

To draw power from my wings... what an incredible perspective, goodness gracious.

you talking about our wings made me really tear up. 😰 thanks for this video. It was very enlightening.

My reasoning for not speaking up at a young age was not a fear of separation from the one I love or the powerful person, but I was fearful of their rage. I didn't speak my mind, because everytime I did, it set off an atomic bomb in the person I was speaking to and I hated being on the other end of someone else's rage so I stopped speaking my opinion and began to instinctively avoid conflict. Although I do fear losing friends if I were to voice my opinion or thoughts because it seems many other seem do not know how to exist together when they disagree on something. I'm very capable of being in a relationship with people I disagree with, because I'm understanding, I know how to bite my tounge, and I'm not overwhelmed by emotion.. I think that if I said some of my opinions, I might lose friends. I want to get better at sharing my thoughts. Is this still valid for a 9?

When you said a healthy 9 becomes a 3 that made me want to cry. Because I didn't start to do 3 type things till last year when I started getting my life together. And hearing that picture of being on the road of health is really encouraging to me when I've been so busy working 2 jobs, working on a certification for work, and trying to get a promotion for next year without many people noticing my hard work. The validation I haven't heard from many people I now see in your words and it's so encouraging! Thank you.

Omg I've never felt more seen in my life! I'm cussing at you and laughing at myself at the same time! So much truth here. It's like you speaking these truths allowed me to actually see myself and created to much freedom and clarity. Thank you, I'm gonna to go be a leader now!

I feel like I lean on both wings at different times. But you are so right about stating some things feel aggressive. I've taken that challenge for myself to feel more comfortable in stating what feels aggressive and make it feel more comfortable. Thanks for your videos they are are so very helpful.

Leaders have to be diligent 😬 interested to hear this video

This is seriously a gift! Wow... I am so encouraged and motivated.

Thank you for all of the inspiration and information 🙏🏼🤩 Great video!!!

When you talked about how Bob Ross would tell everyone they could paint “just like him” I busted out in laughter because we all know just how talented the man was, and it reminded me of all the times those around me have lifted up my skills only for me to turn around and dismiss the ways in which I am unique. It was a laughable “A-HA!” moment for me. Thank you for such a fantastic video so that I can wake up and be the leader God has called me to be ❤️

Beautiful video , very inspiring , thank you so much Dr LaHue

Thank you Dr. LaHue! I was recently placed in a leadership role in my church and yes I turned it down for all of the 9w1 reasonings that you talked about here. The pastor however, saw something in me and stated several reasons why I would do well in the position and in the end I conceded. Thank you for this wonderful video and all the insight and encouragement for us 9w1's... It gives me hope that I can live up to a greater purpose than I ever dreamed!

Thank you for this and other videos on #9’s. Spot on! I’m working on following my path and it’s such a learning experience. You take one step and change things up and then go “OMG who am I going to upset now?!!” It gets easier over time to put those fences up and distinguish between your no’s and yeses. That bit about avoiding the spotlight is true. I’m actually finding I am more bold and take more chances giving online classes as I know people can just leave if they don’t like something vs in person, where leaving a class midway can be harder to do. Thank you

Love the way you teach, Tom. This really hits home. Just discovered I'm a 9 W 1 thanks to watching your 9 videos.

I think right now we need a type 9 that can take it as a president, lately they have gone to far right and to far left. We need someone that can be in the middle to hear both sides and compromise.

I love this video! I’m a nine wing one and I’ve been working on my eight wing which is soooooo helpful! Thank you for putting what I am experiencing into words.

Thank you. I love your passion with which you talk and your desire to support us. Thank you for being you.

Your videos are the best man! So many insights! So profund yet simple to understand

This was amazing. So much of what a God has been speaking to me clicked while listening. I too got chills when you where speaking of accessing wings and moving fully into health. Now I truly believe I have it in me to do all He is calling me to do.

I‘m a 9w8 and can 100% relate to all of this. No one has ever managed to motivate me like this before. I love your channel. It really helps me to understand myself better and work on myself!!

Incredible. So helpful, insightful, and descriptive of me! This helped me with a project I am leading and for which I needed strength! It got real personal when you said with a slight dejection something to the effect of, “If this doesn’t help I don’t know what will.... I really don’t.”

Thank you for this. I’m a 9 that has been in leadership roles but not ones that fit who I am/was called to operate in. I’ve been coasting for so long and now I know what I’m called to do - praying for an upcoming meeting that my passion is evident and that my calling, gifts, and expertise are recognized.

Big time motivating!thanx for the info,life changing stuff)

Tom, thanks for making these videos. Very helpful!

Wow - this bought tears to my eyes and my heart. Thank you for reminding us 9s to wake up.

I wish I would have seen this 3 months ago when there were jobs open at my workplace lol. Thank you for making this. I'm crying at how spot on this is. You literally know my whole life

Thank you DrTLH I needed to listen to this today. Helped me a lot.

A fourth, less discussed, response to trauma is called fawning, or people-pleasing. The fawn response is a coping mechanism in which individuals develop people-pleasing behaviors to avoid conflict, pacify their abusers, and create a sense of safety. So for 9s people pleasing could be a strong childhood trauma response.

WOW!!! Every ... single ... word ... resonated!!! 18 months of thinking and being told I was a four all while I’ve been looking to HIRE a ONE!!! ALL ALONG, she (9w1) has lived within me!! No more searching! (Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz) This is THE BEST Valentine’s Day gift ever!!! ... to LOVE and engage my awesome self!!! Thank you Dr Tom!!!

Wow, this is spot on. I've lived the script and was zoned out. I woke up at 40. Still searching for my purpose and trying to stay awake.

So good! Thanks a lot. I did suffer for a very long time with very low energy and get nothing really done.A bit here and there but always sopmthing missing. But what is great, what i am experiencing since many months by working on a diffferent behaviour, i am stepping more and more into the 3. Getting used to it. As it is really a change of a routine. Also feel very supported by a higher power. I feel so much more life energy, happines, exitement and more and more the inner motivation just wanting to do things: if its jogging, connecting with people, clients, helping the poor, do RU-vid videos and other creative stuff. Really on a mission now, less and less tiredness and more and more loving to be busy, doing what i love

I'm so excited by this video. In the beginning of January I joined a leadership/ mentorship organization... They are helping me achieve my goals as I recently found my passion after a 3 month solo plunge in the middle east (I'm from America). Before I only merely had interests. As a 9w1, I didn't know that I could tap into that 8 as well.. I thought I could only do 1. But if you say I can tap into the 8 wing too... (That's like a dream to me, but if you're telling me that something that's tangible for me? I'm at the brim of belief). I just found out about this ennegram thing only a few days ago... I've never felt more understood in my entire life... This thing reads me like a book. I want to learn more. I really needed to hear this... Thank you .

The challenge of the nine living who they REALLY are is that they have trouble knowing who they really are. So the question that comes up for a nine is “how do I know that I’m living my full self.” It goes back to that indecisiveness of not knowing.

Thank you for this. Resonates deeply.

Dr. LaHue I appreciate all of your videos. I have recently received a promotion of construction foreman. I accredit that to all of your help. I'm still going to try to build my business... I appreciate you.

LOVE the ice cream analogy!

How encouraging video. Thank you!

Your description of my healthly 9 looking like a 3 (without being a 3) allows me to see it as possible. That looks way more possible to me than "pretending" to be a 3, which is the best I thought I could do.

Thanks for this post. I am a nine... spend lots of time in 3 I have experienced much of what you say about leadership, seems I always show up to be the leader! Have been successful as a leader also! Then I go to sleep for a bit. Something outside of myself wakes me up, lately it was a song, conversation.

24:20 nines like thinking and feeling and taking action, as long as they aren't together. Either action without thinking or feeling, or retreating into thinking and feeling without action. This really hit home with me. I've often noticed how I can spend ours physically exerting myself, so long as I don't have to think at all. As soon as I have to learn a new skill which requires thinking, while learning under someone else which requires feeling and keeping track of all his needs, while trying to learn a new skill, while physically exerting myself, is utterly exhausting. This happened to me when I started wood framing. It felt incredibly demanding at first.

Hello, Dr.! I loved this video, I'd watch it many times hahahaha

Thanks Really inspirational video .. it's really me .. an eye opener

This is so me and I have done exactly that!

Let’s check that 3 💪

Sexual 9w1 here who just discovered this video on New Year's Eve! Thank you for drawing me a map!

Inspiring!

Thank you so much for this video. I am a 9w1. I was wondering how a 9 could be a leader and I am not confident about being a leader. I simply can't be the leaders I have seen. Your video assures me and gives me a clear direction. Thank you so so much.. Thank you.

Wow so insightful!!!

Hahaha thank you. I guess why i like self help books the most

this weekend I have learned, that I am a nine- and now so much makes sense. I thought, I am a five. and, when you don't feel well, try to work on your self and look at your from a totally wrong perspective, that can be even more harmful (not sure, if the even more is true. it just fit like that the past two weeks). so many things made me uncertain about my type and I often wondered, why I am not an anxious person and often feel anger (the reason, why I started a therapy a few moth ago). I guess, I was irritated by the word, The Peacemaker. I guess, that was too special for my understanding at that time. I am glad, I got that cleared by a colleague, who had learned about the enneagram in seminars and uses, what she has learned. I am thankful for that. just not so sure about the sub type. But I will continue now with the videos about 9s

Thank you.

Your videos about 9’s are on target. You are so right about the good and the bad sides of 9. I’m in my 60s and look back on my life and it seems like I’ve lost myself. But, I’m working on finding out who I really am. Never too late, right? There’s only a couple of things that are not 9ish about me. I love my husband but sometimes I just want to be independent. And I know 9s like to merge with people. And my biggest pet peeve is being bored. I do like some routines, but like to do things differently sometimes to try new ways. Other than that, I am sure you are describing me.

Im a 9 and have been definded as well balanced between 1 and 8. Im going to be a manger for the second time after the first experience (kind of burned me out) but wiser and more present and mindful. Any advise on books to read specifically?

Couldn’t agree more

Can I make a question? I think I’ve just discovered I’m a 9 and there’s a blind spot that I’m not able to figure out. The other types... they seem to have a role in the system, they have an strong identity, there’s the 8, the strong challenger; 5, the wise thinker; 2, the loving giver... but the 9? What’s the identity of the 9? To merge all of them? To make the best out of the other 8 types? This is a very humble question, I think that’s the piece I need to complete the puzzle in my head. Thank you.

at 27:10 you say "that's where it can be hard for 3's"...I think you meant to say "for 9's"?...but maybe had the number three on the brain because you were speaking of the three hypothetical options a leader might have?

I don't know if you'll see this, but I'm struggling with a couple of things. (1) Once I realized I was asleep to my anger, I worked to bring it to the surface and talk about it more. Unfortunately, it seems like I opened a wellspring of anger that I can't get resolved or closed. How can I process all my repressed anger and move on? (2) Once I realized that I was feeling overlooked, I'm super sensitive about it and I will tell the person that I perceive is overlooking me ALL about it. My question is, how do I move past being so touchy about it? Thanks for these videos, they're really helping me move (or desire to move) to a healthier place.

Untethered soul by Michael singer- go with flow in spiritual realm VS being present to life by you.

man iam a 9w8 i seriously got confused with other types i thought iam a 7w8 then after few days i took the test i got a 2w3 the again i took it i got 5w4 so i took a deep breath and observed what's happening and how iam really moving then i took the test i got 9w8 its like really hard to understand my self iam 19 i feel blessed to know what might end up if iam not careful thank you very much and the thing about the following path i see it in a different perspective there are 4 options and 4 groups each support one of them then i choose to get along with the one i like most then go and support it if needed get in charge of it but thanks a lot for spending this much time

How do you get “zoned in” that line about zoning out hit me

Aslo my thoughts as a #9 using the great vanilla ice cream analogy... Yes we are truly the vanilla ice cream personalities. But its funny because ppl don't know how to enjoy just vanilla ice cream. Every time we offer our vanilla ( which represents us or who we are ). We have excitement because we understand theres so much extra we can add to it whether it's a different flavor ie. the flavor of their personalities or sprinkles, candies, or syrups. & on the other side ppl offer every other flavor in the world to us & vanilla is like the last resort. Lol like all I got is vanilla

Here’s a funny one…I bought one of your 9 t-shirts and all the letters vanished. 😂😂 it was almost prophetic. At least it’s still black!! I need to get another one and not wear it so much!!🤗

I thought I understood wings until I saw this and now I don't. I'm a 9w8 (my 8 and 1 are 2% difference and are both my lowest in overall scores.) So if 8 and 1 are my very lowest but my 9 is my highest, how could my leadership access them more than any other number which for me is higher? Wouldn't I access another number which is higher and comes more naturally to me?

My thought as a 9 on how we loss connection with others & ourselves without notice isn't to complex but is very long to explain & I hope that you Dr. LaHue & others that read this are willing to read it all the way through & be able to give me honest feedback on my thought, because it feels like it makes total sense in my eyes but outside perspective always helps me sharpen my mental blade. Speaking for myself as a #9 I'm understanding more that the way I communicate through speech & body language to those around me is through emotions & feelings. I call it ( emotional communication ). We're peace makers & #9's do it well not because we solve the problems but we get each side to understand how the other side feels. ( Emotional Communication ). & the reason ppl love to be around us is because we're so laid back & easy going & they feel good around us. ( emotional communication ). But what I notice at an earlier age & now that I've studied the Enneagram is that most ppl unless your a #9, shy away from what they feel is negative emotions & try to connect & speak with others in a way that go's around dark emotions. They do happy things or try to give & even try to plan things to find connection. So as a #9 when I try to connect with someone & say I had a bad day i feel hurt. I get answers like what can I do to help, do you need something? Or hey you shouldn't have to feel like that, let's make a plan so it never happens again. I hear alot of the time also, don't worry about it forget them you dont need them. My favorite is the #7 come on let's go do something fun to get your mind off it. But it's funny because usually it's something the #7 feels is fun because the dont want to be bored smh... & I feel like ppl mean well but while I'm hearing all of this to myself I'm like, but I told you I'm hurt why are we not talking about that? & I start to feel like their trying to help so I should give them the opportunity since I came to them. & the way I communicate ( emotionally ) gets looked over. Even when ppl tell me they fell depressed or whatever dark emotions you can say, they do the same thing and bypass talking about how they feel & jump to everything I describe before. & I sit in confusion because I can't understand why, so in return after many talks doing the same I start to feel like ppl just don't understand me. But since I love them & and want to connect with them I don't give up & try to connect with them the way they connect & start to feel like anything I want to talk about that evolves deep feelings to express I'm going to get conflict because when I press to speak mine or their emotions they deflect. But understand this is how I communicate to the world emotionally & as a #9 I feel like ppl don't talk about emotions, I'm different. So now I start to push down my emotions & when I feel dark emotions I hold them in & when emotional subjects like growing up or sad times in my life or things ppl have done in the past that's been hurtful & also the mistakes we've done to each other that we didn't like come to the surface & need to be expressed. It's boxed within because when I start to express them it's surface level feedback & the same when I ask their feelings. So over time I truly lose my voice. & work through emotions internally. Not because I want to distance myself from everyone, because I enjoy being around loved ones, but more so being a #9 I obtain so much growth & become so much better when I'm alone in my thoughts & it's because I understand how to communicate with myself, & I can't seem to find away for ppl to communicate deeply with me. Thank you for your time I know your a #7 & I understand the length, but being a #9 in growth I had to express this personal thought because it's been awhile since I felt I could (emotionally communicate) with someone who I felt understood me and with ppl I feel get me internally. Even if the thought I have isn't totally right to them. I'd enjoy feedback from all. My goal is understanding.

This is my 3rd find watching this

Why does @40-50 make me break down in tears. It seems like such dry, matter of fact information. But it seems so poignant.

OMG that thing about vanilla has always cracked me up! Many many years ago, (In the early 90's)someone told me I reminded them of vanilla...and that's exactly what I told them...basically "Thank you!...You know...vanilla IS actually a flavor, and damn good one, right?" (and then a year or two later there was a t.v. commercial for Breyers Vanilla Frozen Yogurt that basically played the exact same scene out, but that's another story) I believe I'm a five and I'm here watching this because my son is a 9,..., but when figuring out my enneagram type, 9 was a close runner up. Heck, maybe I AM a 9 ...I thought that business about not wanting to be bothered was a 5 trait...In fact it's the one that most convinced me I was a five....I find most people to be more difficult than I can justify tolerating for any longer than necessary... I actually "like" being "vanilla-like" and if people can't "taste" my vanilla due to all of the other louder flavors out there, maybe it's their loss?...I think of it as protection against too much attention from the wrong people...lol :)) Update: Nope! I just listened to "Am I a Type 5" and that nailed it. Why does type 9 seem to also be so close, I wonder? Maybe I started out as a 9 and major stress turned me into a type 5. I wonder if that's possible.

I am a mom of 3, my youngest is done with school this year. I have been a mom and homeschooling mom for the 14 years. I have loved it, not sure how good I was at it? But was doing what God had called me to. But now I am trying to figure out what I want to do now? There are so many things I want to do and like to do, but I have no clue what I want to do😀

I’m a 9 and I want to get my 3 on!

Are you an ENTP at mbti? I get that vibe.

I'd argue the US culture is type 9, not type 3. And you see that in our toggling back and forth between intervention and isolationism. When the society is overall healthy, it does tend to go to three, but our national myth and our idealized hero is the cowboy, the man with no name, and the uncrowned king. Not the business man, the ceaser, or the great Gatsbys of the world. Which also means as the culture comes under pressure, we can expect it to show the negative aspects of the six: fear, anxiety, paranoia, and a withdraw into isolation while being terrified of being without a group.

wow... yes I dont know haha great video

Do you have any videos that would give career suggestions for a Type 9? My youngest daughter is a type 9 and graduated high school last year. She has no idea what she wants to do in life or what she would be suited for? Any suggestions or further information would be much appreciated!

It kind of reminds of a 3 how they lose themselves.

So interesting and I laughed I’m a 9 married to an 8.

The unhealthy 9 is missing his her TRUE SELF for different resons it didnt develop in young age. I had a narcisstic mother I had a little or no space to be myself to have a space to hear my voice or show my anger

Lol I am zombie 9

After listening to this I feel hopeless.