Enneagram: Type 7 Checklist 

There’s nothing funnier than a 7 talking about 7s 🤣 Man, does this all resonate with me 😮

My 24 year old daughter is a 7. She shines like the sun, she has a business as a horse trainer, she shoots a bow and arrow, hoopla hoops, spins fire, writes and a dozen other things. Then she goes dark... Eventually the sun comes back and she works even more miracles. I loved getting a sneak peak into her thought process. Thanks!

It’s interesting how even though we are the most optimistic type, we view making a firm decision in such a negative light… “saying yes to this means saying no to everything else” and focusing on that 😂

It’s interesting how similar type 7 is to Dismissive Avoidant attachment. I’m both. And holy cow are you speaking a lot of truths about us here! Another great video, Tom. Thank you!

My mom is a 7w6, her husband of 20 years as well. He owns lots of guitars. 😂 I turned out a 7w8. Family meetings are full of excitement and fun. 😄

I'm 63 and still learning about myself through your RU-vid series. When I was 10 (5th grade), we moved from Phoenix to Prescott, AZ in the middle of the school year, and boy did I feel the emotions of "being out there by myself." I have 5 brothers and I think we all processed it differently, but the first day I went to school, the teacher was giving swats to two kids in the "paddle room." Wow . . . I felt the blood drain from my face and thought, what do I need to do now to make this a fun day? Well, I made friends with the two guys that got the swats and it turned out great. I'm a true 7 wing 6. Tom . . . Keep up the great work! Loving it and sharing with my wife and 3 kids.

I am a 9. I always like to say that happiness is an ACTIVE emotion and contentedness is a BASELINE emotion. You should strive for contentedness with MOMENTS of happiness sprinkled on as opposed to striving for CONSTANT happiness. I also like to say that avoiding negative emotions is like putting water on a grease fire. Sometimes you just have to let it burn out on its own.

Tom thanks for this! Free tip for sevens: meditate. It's very hard to do for us (cause boring!), but it's essential.

I thought I was a 6 but I took a quiz again and got 7w6 - I related to so much that you mentioned, I hated being bored as a child and was obsessed with getting more more more of whatever I was into at the time - I collected makeup, I collected mugs, I collect books I’m sure there is more that I can think of lol. I don’t like sitting around and definitely feel trapped when I’m stuck doing nothing - my 6 wing is definitely strong as I struggle to trust and do worry when it comes to relationships and love

Thanks to you, I realized that I am a 7w8 SP/SO. I've been typecasting myself as a 3w4 SP/SO for years. Because I was so busy during the day and dealing with a lot of things, I automatically thought I was 3. But after your videos, I realized that I was actually only pursuing my own mental pleasures and desires. I realized that I postponed the things that seemed boring to me and turned to interests that made me happy and cool. It was a really interesting turning point for me. Another reason why I thought I was a 3 was because 7s are constantly portrayed as happy, energetic, and goofy. Maybe because of my 8 wing, I resemble an 8 more than a 7, and I'm too serious for a 7. Likewise, I am career and responsibility oriented. Even though I do not reflect the stereotypical 7 characteristics in my general circles, I am very funny, entertaining, positive and cheerful around the people I love.

Out of the 9 types, Sevens are the ones I least know about, and some time ago I thought they were just people wanting to do things everytime not to get bored. It's so good to be (kinda) wrong and understand that they confuse excitement with happiness and that's a way of not suffering with boredom and unlikable thoughts. I didn't really like that part of the Enneagram wheel, the one opposite to Three (my type), but upon studying your and some other videos and sites it seems my funniest and admirable friends are Sevens, and I'm so greatful they exist.

Absolutely wasn’t an ‘impulsive child’. I’m a one-to-one 7W6, my MBTI is ENFP. Just wanted to say that as a child I was incredibly well behaved. I have one sibling, a sister (Type 9), she’s exactly one year younger than me. Our elementary school teachers, the parents of other kids, etc. always commented to our mom about how well respectful and obedient we were. My mom made her expectations clear, and we were all too happy to meet them. We rarely got in trouble, but when we did, 99% of the time, it was for talking.

A HUGE step toward a healthy me was to find negative feelings I felt between my waist - throat area. Hold onto them, and not push them away. This is easiest for me when done alone, in the car no where to go in the moment driving. My mind wonders onto negative thoughts from childhood, embarrassing work meetings, bad thoughts that shamed me. Hold onto them like you're hugging that feeling, and welcome it. Something about this process is like clearing the air and moving FORWARD.

Great thoughts to be still for 30 minutes. I can understand what you said about one doing what was fun or meaningful instead of what was necessary. Thank you for sharing!

The wall of guitars example made me laugh frenetically, as 7ven proficient enough in 8 diff instruments, yet not a pro in any of them. Ask me to take just one of them when going on a long trip and OMG THE ANXIETY and the indecisiveness bring my 6 to the 10000 powers hahahah.

😆😢What an experience to watch and listen to a male version of me point out all my stuff!!! I have learned to sit still. I've been meditating for years AND I'm still a 7 and this reflection, listening to you, was so helpful to bring awareness and focus to the ways I'm in, have slipped into, disintegration. Bravo! Thank you. I look forward to more reminders, touchpoints, and the uncomfortable, laughable reflection in the mirror.

Love the way you present each personality (number)!

15:37 It's like, "Congratulations! You smell like everybody else, now. No--like, literally EVERYBODY, cuz you just put on every single darn perfume in the world at once."

Tick, tick, tick, tick... 7w8 here. But you have pretty much perfectly described yours charmingly.

I’m a seven. I hyper focus and hyper fixate on a special interest to the exclusion of everything else.

Fellow ENFP here as a 7w6: “And what else is there?” Can bring joy when not searching for it What would my mind do if I didn’t have things to focus on? “You’re on your own, kid.” Think away from limited options

Oh my goodness! I love your videos. I have been stuck between social 7 and social 9 but all of this video hit home. I am currently living full time in an RV traveling the country and I am a little ashamed to admit it but I am constantly battling the boredom. We go on lots of adventures but it’s like you were taking about going to the library and being excited to go but once you were there you were not stimulated enough and wanted to move on to the next thing. This lifestyle is so much slower in my mind than I anticipated. Also recently watched another one of your videos on instinctual variants and you for real had me in tears when you said to social 7s something like “it’s okay for you to go watch a two hour show while your kids play in the other room”. Ahh such a struggle to allow myself such a thing. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!

This has been so helpful for me. I laughed about a lot of things said because I can totally see that in me. 🤣

Don't know if you're reading these comments. But I just found out for sure I was a 7, with clear characteristics of both wings but I lean more towards 7w8. Some of the things are so spot on it's crazy! In the 7w6 vs 7w8 video you half- joked about 7w6 getting their kid's baby footprint while 7w8 would get grim reaper tattoo becuase "I want it so I'm going to get it." Which is 100% me and always have been, though more refined, and in less a rebel way as I've aged, I'm now 29. [Btw I got a grim reaper tattoo on my right arm on vacation in my early twenties because it looked awesome and I needed to get it] Also in this video when you told about getting a men's fragrance collection. Last summer I came to the conclusion I needed one as well as I didn't own any so I decided to do some research. A couple hours later the choice had narrowed down to 2 and I ordered the one with the one with the most useability, regretting my choice as soon as the order went through. Few months later I had 14 bottles, several for every occasion and came very close to ordering a couple more niche ones that I could definitely not afford. My inner reason stopped me at the very last click thankfully. It's so cool learning about this type (and will be learning about others) and seeing you reflect around the patterns of behavior and what it entails being a type 7. Great content! Edit: Forgot why I brought up the tattoo example, added the [ ] section

I'm a 7w8 and you're speaking to my soul! So many good gems here.

This resonates so much with me! “Fun” always threw me off… I find conferences and research and teaching and organizing SO fun! But I hate board games. (So tedious and boring…) The words used to explain fun and a good time and happiness are what threw me off for a long time. I really am happy- and up for almost anything, and have fun /enjoy life… but it might not be what others would consider “fun.”😅 We also moved away from family, friends, etc. when I was in late elementary school, and I was SUPER excited at first. An adventure! Then it wasn’t very fun at all - and wow did I get into 4 mode, then used imagination and planning “escape” to “fix it.”

I was bored growing up. So I slept a lot. Even as a baby, I slept. My #2 mother was afraid of everything so I was not allowed to do anything. So I slept.

I am a seven and you have nailed it!!!! So interesting to see how people are and how to change or alter what you can. I have to say maturity plays a large role in it I am now at 55 learning to relax on weekends to a certain degree and not feel absolutely frustratedly bored.. 😂

I am only at minute 12 and have already identified myself many times!!!:-))))))

Sitting in a chair doing nothing, no music, no books, no PENS??? You’re making me very anxious lol I could at least get a list going of things to do when I’m finished sitting hahaha

In one book I read, it blatantly says that sevens are more likely to be diagnosed bipolar and adhd. I have both. I’m a seven. Lol

Am I making myself miserable to find joy, said the social 7! Oh and it was fun!😂. Cheers and thank you for that pearl!

51:28 - Money for 7 is like a Ticket😂.... i can't stop laughing to watch how you described 7 in such exact way. it is so true!!!!!

There’s not enough literature about the relationship to aging for type 7

@44:12 I LITERALLY went to a concert a House of Blues in San Diego after breaking my toe. I had a HOB bracelet and an ER bracelet on. I went to the concert by myself too. Probably wasn't in my best interest but sometimes FOMO is my greatest motivation.

I don’t think I’m capable of sitting in silence. I’m already suffering here!! My kids are grown up and took my car to college. I’m literally stranded at home!! I’m going absolutely NUTS!!

SEVENS!!! Woohoo! Looking forward to watching this, but there is a shiny object. BRB

I appreciate your videos. I’m thinking of taking your course.

Shawn Spencer from the show Psych. Textbook 7 energy

Damn, the foot thing was so relatable. I fucked up my knee a few years ago and I avoided going to the doctor cause I had all sorts of things going on, and I was also competing as a dancer, and at one point I had to address the issue, and I was told to rest for 3 months, and I couldn't do that, especially cause I had another competition coming up, so I rested for 1 month, and now even after 7 years, I still have problems with that knee from time to time. 🤦‍♀

I think a great typing question is the main thing you want if you won the lottery. If you had all options what would you choose? I would choose to spend it on my sister and husband. I’ll do whatever they wanna do as long as I’m doing something with them and it’s fun and exciting. I look like a nine, but in the end my sister is what is fun, and I’m going along with her for that reason.

Man. I’m an 8w7 and the doctors office analogy is me anytime I’m doing anything compulsory

Thank you for the indepth review of the most awesomest type 😉 I have ADHD and I've noticed so many neurodivergent thought patterns and behaviors that seem to over lap with the 7's description. Has there been much research done with the Enneagram and ADHD? Are there any resources that can be recommended?

7 is a hard ennegram to be I'm a 7 and struggle with it a lot. I believe my wings are 2 and 9 depending on if I'm healthy or not . The peacemaker and helper with the enthusiast . It's exhausting sometimes to be a 7 .

i still dont know if im a 5 or 7... i have read, watched, took the quiz and still, im searching what my enneagran is.

Ohh God just sitting still with no stimulus sounds awful to me 😂😂😂

Shout out to all the 7s put there.......

7 and adhd? 😅 It would be nice to investigate

You are awesome,,,, I would love to do a course,,,,, will check the price,,,,, only problem is rate of exchange between rand and dollar

The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up: Find Your Path, Face Your Shadow, Discover Your True Self by Beatrice Chestnut PhD

hi! could you do a video of enneagram type 3 vs type 8 please, thank you!

It seems to me 7 are stuck in the flight response. I have the urge to escape when bored.

So ADHD is not real.... I'm just a 7

Hmm, I'm a 1 and from my outside perspective of the 7, I think it's interesting that it's hard for 7s to make decisions because it's constraining. In my experience very little in life is actually permanent, it's always changing or can be changed (reform, reform, reform). A 7 seems to embody change. They're here, there, everywhere. Couldn't they just experience it all? Sure paint the living room red, don't like it? Paint it blue, don't like it? Paint it yellow. Why choose? Paint it in stripes. It's all decisions, it's like a 7 is making all the decisions at once all the time. I don't see how it's constraining when you're choosing everything and nothing all at once. 😆

11:50

It just sounds like ENTP and ADHD Like personalities.

Which book was that? Chestnut?

18:30 that sounds HORRIBLE!!! Ahhhhhh