As a type 7 I gotta say this is so relatable….i loved being an educator where students interactions, ideas and environments are always changing and challenging…really gets my creativity going…do what you love and it won’t feel like work!!
As a longtime watcher and avid listener, I want to remind you how much of an impact you have on the enneagram community and even towards propagating it onto humanity as a whole!! You orientation towards community really puts you in your 6:) thank you for everything you do for us!
I whole heartedly agree with your advice for my type 9! I only would add that, as a type 9, I am very attuned to others and how they are feeling as well (to avoid conflict in our relationships). We want our voice to be heard, but will also advocate for others that we believe aren't being heard as well. I recently advocated for a coworker whom I could tell was struggling but others didn't notice. My boss and the coworker approached me (separately and in private) to thank me for making sure her concerns and ideas on how to approach the situation constructively were heard.😊 In person, genuine appreciation for what we do also helps us to feel valued. As a type 9 teacher, I need to make sure that I am working to think about my own family's needs as well as my own to establish boundaries between work and home life. Thank you so much for this insightful video! Smiles, Abby Smith
I’m a type 3 and your example is spot on! Vagueness drives me crazy. I’ve learned to take it as a challenge to myself and then over exceed expectations from my bosses. I will succeed! 😊
Great tip for 5s. This fits in with one of my biggest work irritants: unstructured meetings with no agenda prepared in advance. You must(!) send out an agenda at least a day in advance so I have time to think about the topics and so my time isn't wasted. One more thing I would add for 5s interpersonally is do not do the compliment sandwich thing or anything similar. Don't hint, don't be gentle to the point of being vague; just tell us what's up!! It's not that we never get our feelings hurt, but it's MUCH easier to energetically recover from that than it is from overthinking trying to decipher the hidden meaning in an interaction. Do NOT try to help manage our feelings, thanks. We can do it ourselves 😉
I’m an 8, and this is SO true. Especially as a woman. If you don’t want to be soft and take of everybody, they act like you’re being aggressive or confrontational just by having a different opinion. Especially if what you have to or need to say is something people don’t want to hear. It’s amazing how triggered full-on adults get when you’re direct and want to work more efficiently rather than prolong the conversation with fluff.
also feel like needing time to prepare for energy like a 5 which makes sense as im a 4w5. i literally look ahead during my work week to see what its gonna be like so i can prepare myself
So great to see regular Abs content again! As always, spot on! I'm a SX/SP 4w3 478 tritype so types 3, 4, 5, 7, and 8 really hit close to home! And while I've never been compared to anyone at work (because my boss is amazing) I've been compared to my sister and my female cousin my whole life. Now I finally know why it irritates me :) Type 4 pockets of peace should help!
it's just not true!! it's important to understand the reality of a Five's relationship with others - they WANT connection! They just need to be prepared.
I'm a type 5 wing 4 INTJ with an instinct for self-preservation and, as well as measuring my social interactions to preserve energy, for many situations I create plans of how to act (like type 6) and mental protocols to follow. I don't remember being like this as a teenager, but life kind of forced me into it. Great video, thanks
As a 5, I would say I really don't enjoy being around people. They take energy away from the task at hand. Working solo is less exhausting than having to work with others and make small talk, listen to stories, etc. My increased productivity during 4 hours alone versus 4 hours with coworkers is my proof. Intj 5 w 6
I think it's a well intentioned myth that 5s don't want to say, "I don't know." I'll say I don't know any time, anywhere. I don't want anyone to think I'm an expert in something I'm not. 5s already assume they know nothing, which is why they research everything. What 5s DON'T want is to feel UNPREPARED. This doesn't mean having the answer for everything. It just means feeling prepared for an experience..
Your hair looks amazing in this video Abbey! (not that it doesn't usually) I think you got the 4 one very right, maybe something I'd add would be around avoiding any form of exclusion: from projects, from conversations, from events, etc. Also, I love the fact that 8 is the only one talking to a 'co-worker' rather than 'boss;' it's a clever detail.
Thanks Mollie! 😂 I think I had just gotten it done?? Can't remember cause I filmed this a while ago. Ooh, and totally agree with the 4 and forms of exclusion!! (and glad someone noticed the 8 detail haha)
I'm INTJ 5W4, to be fair, i don't enjoy being around a large group of people, but i don't hate it either. But, to be fair, Type 5's really do not like being around too many people. Or at least, i am an exception.
as a 4 i hate when my managers say well "blank" was able to do it this way and "blank" can do this why cant u? i feels demeaning. very much a trigger. i always thought i was wrong like as a person til i found enneagram
I'm continually stunned by some of this - honest question: it doesn't stink of injustice and pandering to you all that Type 1's consistently get the privilege of being never criticized or checked for their behavior even when they dish out criticism whenever they feel like it? Adults have to swallow what they serve that's just life.
As a type 1 myself, I just want to inform you that nothing could be further from the truth. As long as a 1 is healthy, we're all about self-improvement, and we want feedback on things so we know what we're doing well and how we can do better. I will actively seek out feedback if I want to know how something went and I'm not getting the answers I need. However, there is a right and a wrong way to deliver said feedback, which is the point made in this video. That said, even if someone does deliver it well, we still have to be in the right mindset ourselves to receive it well. That's why our level of health is so important in how we handle that criticism. I know I have a love-hate relationship with it. Hope this helps!
