ENNEAGRAM Type 5 | Annoying Things Fives Do in Romantic Relationships

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Let’s talk about the seven annoying things that Enneagram Type 5s do in romantic relationships!
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ENNEAGRAM Type 5 | Annoying Things Fives Do in Romantic Relationships
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@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

MORE videos about wonderful 5s: bit.ly/Enneagram5s

@allthingsglam8545 2 года назад

Us type 5’s hate small talk. The video starts at 3:05😂

@CoachAhava-0000 10 месяцев назад

Love the effort and fun that created this video. . Greatly appreciate this comment 😘

@dauntlessoul8185 8 месяцев назад

And unless it's exposure therapy day, skip 7:59-8:24!

@donis6283 3 месяца назад

THANKS

@divyabharti. 2 месяца назад

@whimmyblue5734 3 года назад

As a meteorology student Type 5, small talk about the weather turns into an info dump session about meteorological processes. Only bit of small talk I like.

@lydia6477 2 года назад

outstanding move. Frankly glorious, as a five myself im shaking

@whimmyblue5734 2 года назад

@@lydia6477 Thank you, Mr. Aizawa

@biomeman2547 Год назад

As a Five, I dislike small talk completely. It doesn't make sense

@andyroobrick-a-brack9355 10 месяцев назад

Same here lol.

@badpoetry33 10 месяцев назад

oooh neat! you are the only kind of person I’d like to discuss the weather with!

@bone_apple_teeth457 3 года назад

My grandpa is totally a type 5. He’s spent his whole life hoarding books and tries to know everything about everything. He’s extremely self-educated and skilful.

@snoopyontheground3481 Год назад

Did you ever get an emotional welcome from your grandpa or was he a selfish prick to everyone in the family?

@mrmoe110 Год назад

Lmao it’s the norm for me to leave the library with a stack of books, even though I have tons of books at home already that I haven’t read yet

@laurenbarber8579 3 года назад

The hiding in the closet bit isn’t overdramatic... In college, my closet is where I got alone time from my roommates, they got used to it

@peterspilltheteaparker4109 3 года назад

I agree I’ve done this too hiding in my closet because I wasn’t looking good. And didn’t want to face people 🙈😅

@user-fj4cg2be1x 3 года назад

yes, yes, and YES! when i was young i used to went into my parents closet or the toilet when ever my mom was being aggressive because she always gets overly mad at me (she has anger management issues) so i could hide away from everything, recharge, and wait until all the chaos she could cause around me would get at least milder than before (i didn't had my own room when i was young).

@gracieliz95 3 года назад

Yup, I’m a 5 and I love hiding in closets

@veyarain82 2 года назад

Me, already plotting my college dorm space with a curtained-off area under my bed so I have a cave to hide in if necessary ^^;

@Bongi344 2 года назад

Me, toilet. Still. I'm 30 😂

@alexrose20 3 года назад

when she pulled out the relationship chart i died

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

I had so much fun making it 😂

@mwatson4970 3 года назад

I was literally thinking of making a relationship chart laying down the interests and plus/negatives of the guys I'm quarantine dating not 3 hrs ago. Anal maybe; helpful, "YES" (says any Type 5, ever 😁).

@EveInTheMachine 3 года назад

Same. Although I will say that my chart will also have a giant section for my intuitive analysis of their "energy" and observation of their body language for their authenticity and truthfulness. And also a section of our potential for fantastically romantic and charming shared experiences in both peaceful and magnificent settings. *coughs* I have a very high 4-wing.

@sumayagure8422 2 года назад

i was planing on marrying a guy because we had the same ideals and a great friendship.....their was no love and I really thought yhhh but loves fades anyways so its perfect😂😂😂😂😂

@gReencAt4754 9 месяцев назад

You lied about your death

@francesca.pellegrino 3 года назад

As a kid, I was ALWAYS hiding in cabinets, so I totally laughed hard at the spiders being named.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

yessss 😂 amazing

@alexrose20 3 года назад

i would hide in cabinets too but you would never catch me counting spiders i would die 💀

@alexrose20 3 года назад

small talk is accurate after two sentences and nothing sparked my interest I'm gone my mind is elsewhere

@maedchenausmars 3 года назад

My husband can’t stand how I struggle to listen or take time to talk to him. Sometimes I’m really trying, but I just check out.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

ugh small talk is so hard

@gracekelly2063 3 года назад

That is so true. If my interest isn’t sparked quickly my mind just wanders elsewhere and I usually just either sit there and be in my head or I’ll change the topic to something more interesting and deeper.

@darwinwatterson4568 2 года назад

as a seven, i get bored by small talk (and also i would probably feel ingenuine)

@idiasweet8191 2 года назад

LITERALLY!

@gksurabhi 10 месяцев назад

Enneagram 5 & introverts are not necessarily always about book lovers & hoarding books, contrary to the popular stereotypes. Esply when one has access to high speed internet, research n scholarly articles online & smartphones in their hands all the time. Modern day introverts are more about 20-30 open tabs to explore on a single subject, instead of one loooongg perspective in each book

@mattcalloway8775 3 года назад

the blanket over the head bit at the beginning is frighteningly accurate😂

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

hehehe

@saloni.sharma 2 года назад

I am 26 and been doing it for years now. My family knows it and my mum calls me the living pyramid when I'm like that. 😂😂😂😂

@finallyfree2BMe 2 месяца назад

Exactly

@thescapegoatmechanism8704 3 года назад

“The sole cause of man’s unhappiness is that he does not know how to stay quietly in his room.” -Blaise Pascal

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Love this!

@thescapegoatmechanism8704 3 года назад

@@AbbeyHowe oh yes, he’s my favorite 5

@laurenbarber8579 3 года назад

This reminds me of the song “I am a rock” by Simon and Garfunkel, I think it depicts a five pretty well, especially a self-pres five

@1jediwitch 3 года назад

“It's a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don't keep your feet, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to.” ~Bilbo Baggjns.

@kbbooks2895 3 года назад

I definitely do the “information hoarding” thing and it drives my (type 6) husband crazy. I think I do it for one of two reasons. 1) I don’t want to be judged by what I’m looking at. Like, maybe I clicked an article on a whim and I don’t want the other person to think it’s something I’m deeply interested or invested in. Or 2) I haven’t had time to process yet. Ask me about it later and I’ll probably obnoxiously talk your ear off about the subject, but while I’m still reading/watching it? I don’t know what I think about it yet! Either that or I’m embarrassed that I spent a whole afternoon watching Enneagram and MBTI videos instead of working on that project I complain that I never have time to work on…

@lishayost144 2 года назад

I think I wrote your comment, KB, lol!

@soccerchamp0511 Год назад

OMG! Exactly! I never realized this is why I do this.

@nakimushi3881 Год назад

I didn’t realize this was something I did until I realized I started playing a new game I was excited to delve deeply into and enjoy and work it out myself and my friend saw that I was playing it and promptly proceeded to ask me about it, buy it, and play it himself. Needless to say I was very upset and abandoned the game because it was no longer something for myself that I didn’t have to share. It felt like my personal space got intruded on

@CoachAhava-0000 10 месяцев назад

Interesting. I'll hoard info this way. I also will give my opinion based on what I know while still processing to safe people, they know that my opinion will likely change. They also know that their feedback about my opinion becomes data to consider while I continue processing.

@imfairlylocal5924 2 месяца назад

dayum so accurate

@JH-yj7kk 3 года назад

The move to 7 is weird and real, and feels like a manic state. Last time it happened to me I was shouting "I'M A GENIUS! I SHOULD DO A PODCAST!". Sorry to my friends.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

you SHOULD start a podcast! 😂

@myrtila 3 года назад

Ikr? Last time i went on “7 mode”, i was considering starting my own business while also studying for my degree

@Mo-is9ko 3 года назад

@@myrtila I am doing exactly this right now and I am not even a 5. But I am fascinated by them. I am 8w9 and always found 5 to be the kind I'd really really want to be friends with. But I think I push them away. :(

@joiedevivre894 Год назад

@@Mo-is9ko lol as a five it’s the emotion for us. Anyone coming across as too clingy is immediately a no from us. Not trying to be rude we just like our space so just being chill is the best way to catch our attention until we seek you out

@davidlincolnbrooks Год назад

I think when the Five goes to Seven, usually....um.... "substances" are involved. Just sayin'.

@retrovintagedreams 3 года назад

As a type 5 I feel personally attacked in a funny way and way too seen.. which weirds me out but I loved this video!

@EveInTheMachine 3 года назад

As a 5w4, I can confirm that the analogy of the turtle and the tasty leaf is 1000% accurate! xD Also, it's funny - I usually don't feel attacked when I watch videos on my type - more often than not I actually love them - but maybe that's just my high 4-wing coming through who desperately wants to be heard and seen, lol. Oh, and I'm happy you talked about the rejection sensitivity that 5's have. I feel like that doesn't get talked about enough whenever people talk about 5's.

@troutie2008 Год назад

Yup. Me too.

@e.l.2734 7 месяцев назад

Lol same. My poor 4-wing is so deprived of its needs that it's actually comforting to relate to something this much

@thobekakunene 3 года назад

I'm a type 5 and I feel so very understood, it's scary...😂😂😂🤭🤭🤭 Nah...for real. Especially with the rejection thing. Everytime I've felt rejected and abandoned by my people, I've done some OTT things to cope: taught myself how to juggle, learned a new language, read a big book...in addition to self isolation. And what's sad is that when I feel better (or have calmed down) my crazy passions often fall away as quickly as they came...

@finallyfree2BMe 2 месяца назад

Me too

@angelymmartinez3845 2 года назад

I'm a type 9 dating a type 5 and I actually find some of these things adorable.

@rebeccahorne9487 3 года назад

Where did you get my relationship risk analysis chart?!

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

hehehee borrowed it for a few days!!

@jldavis8591 3 года назад

As a type 5 with a type 2 girlfriend and a type 7 best friend, I can definitely confirm the alone time segment. Like it's 100% accurate.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

yep!!

@snoopyontheground3481 Год назад

As a 5, are you still with the 2 girl friend - 5s and 2s are the worst match - correct in your experience???

@sylviaowega3839 9 месяцев назад

Ha ha! I know the feeling with my type 1. You must also be an INTP, right?

@hugh_f 3 года назад

Abbey, such a kind hearted critique. Removing the physical, you've summarised how this type may approach all relationships. By being oblique, you've created such warmth in this type summary. Insightful and entertaining.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Thank you for this assessment, Hugh! Really appreciate it. ♥️

@ShaeIvie 3 года назад

I'm a 5 😂😂😂 this video sees me.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

so glad!!

@christybaldwin8666 3 года назад

I’ve been married to a 5 for 14 years and this is sooooo accurate 🤣💕 especially that 2 and 5 scene... that is us all the time 🙈

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

hehehehe that's really cute. congrats on your marriage!!

@snoopyontheground3481 Год назад

Sorry to hear you are married to a 5.

@angelocarantino4803 Год назад

@@snoopyontheground3481 hey we aren't that bad :(

@sylviaowega3839 9 месяцев назад

@@snoopyontheground3481Are we that bad?

@snoopyontheground3481 9 месяцев назад

@@sylviaowega3839 --- you would have to ask the individuals in your inner circle what its like relating to you - if you have the courage to ask honestly.

@jessalbright976 3 года назад

"time to organize the hallway closet!" I'm dying 😂😂👏👏

@marishaten7399 3 года назад

Great video Abbey! Thank you so much for putting this together. It is a very in-depth take on Enneagram 5s. Some of the ways I identified with it as a 5: 1. My mother is a Type 2, and the Type 5 - Type 2 interaction is spot on! Having grown up with a Type 2 mother has helped me become more aware of the emotional needs of other people as well. 2. I love hoarding information. I love surprising people with my stack of (useless) trivia, and I hate to mention my sources. 3. When I am under stress (probably when I go to 7) I feel an excess of energy. I usually take a walk or exercise or clean the house during those times, to work off the stress. 4. I hate for my needs and wants to be a burden on other people. In a group I never suggest watching my favourite movie or going to my favourite restaurant for fear of boring/disappointing others. I prefer to do my favourite things when I am all by myself. It really brings tears to my eyes to see another person (you) understand my feelings so well. I want to make a request - would you consider making a video on how each Enneagram type changes when they move along their paths of integration? Like when 5 moves to 8 etc? Or have you already made it and I missed it?

@Sage03 3 года назад

Am I the only 5 that doesn’t mind small talk? I’ve become an expert at it since I’ve been able to steer conversations into being more superficial so I never have to share emotions or pieces of info to make me feel vulnerable.

@baileyfilms7609 3 года назад

Your wing is probably an empathetic or pleaser type

@caffemocca8855 2 года назад

I can handle small talk with people I like. Random people? Now way unless it's job related. Also, even my small talk are intense, I'd totally go deep into psychology, social constructs, why things/reality are the way they are, should certain things be changed, etc.. Then again it's not "small" talk anymore..... I don't know those things are enneagram related or because of my MBTI type. Maybe both, which increases the alienation even more.

@MaioFourpaws 2 года назад

yes.

@ayp5177 2 года назад

this is me as a 7

@BombshElle_7 2 года назад

Small talk is a skill that many of your type refuse to learn. More power to you for breaking the mold

@_purplewinter_ 3 года назад

The move to 7 might sound weird to other people but always made sense to me since I learned about the enneagram. Like, 100% sense.

@rebeccahorne9487 3 года назад

Yep. I want to know and do all the things so I won't be caught off guard if Something Bad happens. If I'm stressed and feel like the Something Bad is imminent, that means I need to quick learn everything about everything, right now.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

thanks for sharing, Erika! 💕

@mwatson4970 3 года назад

100% agree. But also say that we KNOW when we are in that space, and it annoys us when we can't just tell ourselves to get out of it. Like our brains/logic are failing us.

@saloni.sharma 2 года назад

@@mwatson4970 this is exactly what makes it a disintegration path. We hate to do it but compulsively do it anyway. Makes sense to me as well, mostly for the reasons mentioned in this thread but also because it distracts me from things i lack because i focus on things that i can easily master in less time, no matter how insignificant. Sucks to be a 7 for us. 😐

@ShaunBennetFauntleroy 3 года назад

What a lovely blend of compassion and humor! The hoarding the new magazines/books is on the nose. I'm so guilty of that.

@seforaker 3 года назад

Accurate. Especially the rejection part and hiding from fights because I thought I heard a tone in their voice lol

@blakelysmith7636 3 года назад

Newton, Euclid, and Bob are my best friends.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Hehehhehe 🕷

@DariusLong 3 года назад

I love how you turned it into a commercial for skillshare, that was both clever and legit hilarious. I signed up too. Great video as always Abbey👍

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Thanks Darius! We had so much fun filming that. 😜

@madman7923 3 года назад

So ... i barely learned about enneagrams tonight and that im a type 5w6 and everything you said was pretty accurate. my mom thought i was a robot growing up because i would shut down emotionally and always withdraw. i found solace in computers and the massive amount of information you can learn from there. I'm sorta glad to know there are other people like me too... i just wish i were more extroverted sometimes. anyway, thanks for the funny videos!

@mrswhite645 3 года назад

So, as I told my now-husband during our first relationship status conversation... "When I close my eyes, I see you and me, not you, me, and 3 or 4 other chicks". I also told him I was not expecting an answer in that conversation and that he should take a couple of weeks to think. LOL! This video know about me.

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

what a fantastic way to do a DTR!!!

@mrswhite645 3 года назад

@@AbbeyHowe he says he had never heard anything remotely like that before and was hooked. I'm glad but, I was terrified and just couldn't take being the "cool girl" again so, I did the opposite.

@henrikralf1582 3 года назад

"also you are cute and like Star Wars" as a 5 and a big Star Wars fan I would totally say that :D

@VeronicaLL 3 года назад

That's me

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Mandaloriannnnnn

@henrikralf1582 3 года назад

@@AbbeyHowe Oh yes, great show and great second season!

@henrikralf1582 2 месяца назад

5s often have a very specific topic, they're interested in, but it doesn't need to be scientific. And Star Wars is very interesting and also more than action in space, there are many books, comics, games etc. with grate stories and fascinating topics.

@wh4tevercomest0mind41 3 года назад

This is oddly accurate....I am now going to collect data on every other type of enneagram, memorize an enneagram test then proceed to ask said test questions to anyone I encounter of the opposite sex to protect myself from those in which I am incompatible with. Good day to you madam.

@dutchkel Год назад

lolol I also feel the need to do this.

@larrycheek3588 2 года назад

The best tip: make sure to give the type five the most space to form their sentences. They must form them perfectly hence they may pause longer.

@KitKatnotthecandylol 3 года назад

That 5-2 interaction....is me and my sister EVERYDAY 😭😭😂

@sneakerspeakerdiva 3 года назад

i'm going to send this to my spouse and tell him he's the tastiest leaf in the jungle

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

ONE HUNDRED PERCENT

@Crocsvevo 3 года назад

My partner is a Five and I’m sending him this video to see if he thinks it’s accurate😂 I think that one of the most endearing but also extremely annoying things my partner does (besides immediately isolating himself at the first sign of any kind of confrontation) is that he’s so incredibly helpful like he literally is always trying to help HOWEVER sometimes the way he says or does things comes across so wacky. For example, he knows I have trouble finding motivation to do my nighttime skincare routine and like maybe a month ago I had put on like a full beat and we were just hanging out and out of nowhere he was like “you should go wash your face.” And like logically I knew he was just trying to be helpful but the fact that it was like 5pm when he said it made me so self conscious about the makeup I was wearing lmao

@lebabies 3 года назад

Relatable 😂

@saloni.sharma 2 года назад

We're sorry... 😅 I randomly remind my partner to take vitamins and drink water out of nowhere too😂😂😂 He used to think it's weird but now he's okay with it. 😅

@enfieldjohn101 9 месяцев назад

Very accurate. Funny, but spot on. One of my many interests is gardening and I have a bachelor of science degree in botany, so the last skit was especially familiar to me. I can't help but study things in minute detail, especially if they interest me. About the closest I get to making small talk that I actually enjoy is by sharing fun facts about subjects I know a lot about. Mention that you have a plant at home and I'll want to know all about it. Odds are, I'll have ideas for caring for it that you haven't thought of yet too. Good video!

@ainelael 2 года назад

The scene where the 2 is intruding on the 5's recharge time could not have been more accurate. I feel like that with everyone. Boundary setting is a struggle.

@NemoK 3 года назад

People trying to have small talk with me all the time is why I often avoid social interactions...

@suburbohemian 2 года назад

being type 5 = 'territorial' and I'm happy to share my magazine/catalog provided I get first flip-through cus it's mine (my sister used to take my stuff all the time ARGH) and provided you return it in as good condition as I lent it.

@suburbohemian 2 года назад

as for my time, well, one of the benefits of also being INTJ-A is knowing how to plan for both doing stuff for others and saving time for recharging.

@pinkturtle2016 Год назад

Bro this is so accurate, when I think I like someone my life comes crashing down.....because I think "this....this is IMPOSSIBLE. How can this be?? How did this happen??" And then I start stressing over the situation 😭

@Smidgenhead 3 года назад

Lol I’m a 2 and hubby’s a 5. I make waffles for him all the time! 😅 Like, please come hang out with me!!

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

waffles are the most romantic

@debmarrett212 3 года назад

And when you ask them if the waffles tastes good, you get a lukewarm answer. Haha

@viravos 3 года назад

bro this is so accurate wtf lmao. i literally hid under my bed when i was a kid and sharing a room, and then hid in the closet when i needed to get away and i was sharing a room with a friend lmao

@enimagial8721 3 года назад

in 10th grade, I made a power point presentation about my relationship, and I forgot to close it before an exam, and then my teacher had to help me because the Maths Programme didn't work, and he turned off my laptop and then the power point became visible and I still sometimes think about it

@keddy5627 Год назад

I am a 5, and this described me perfectly. I am now aware when I engage in several different things at once that I am not addressing a fear or an anxiety about something. 🥰

@themysticalbadass 3 года назад

Yup. Accurate. It took me nearly a decade of being with my soulmate to stop feeling like any moment he would leave. …and I’m 98% sure my son is a 2. 😭😂 Because THAT was on point!

@apgar2 3 года назад

I never comment but the skit in number 3 had me CACKLING. I am that Type 2 girlfriend, I cannot bear to be not included 😂

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Thanks for commenting!!!

@melissaclair1508 Год назад

From a type 5, Udemy has a bunch of classes on so many different things as well. You can get a subscription of pay for each course and keep the courses forever. The courses are as low as 13.99, which I think is a great price.

@soccerchamp0511 Год назад

This is very accurate! I'm a 5 and have done all of the above. The thing with "shifting" to type 7 I question, though, because I don't think I'm being manic at all. Because of wanting to learn as much about the world as possible and being voraciously curious, I genuinely have a broad range of hobbies and interests and have my whole life. I was literally the kid in high school who had friends in pretty much every clique because I was involved in everything. I was the history geek artist who played soccer, rode horses, sang in a band, coached, and was in Drama Club, Toastmasters, and MUSS. I love exploring and one of my mottoes in life is that I'll pretty much try anything once. I guess my point is that one of the ways I love learning more about the world is through experiences, so that makes me identify strongly with 7s.

@rebeccahorne9487 3 года назад

I really like this one. You've gotten a lot more nuanced in how you portray 5's--I like that you capture the emotional and genuinely romantic sides of the type. Now that I think about it, portrayals of 5's usually hit on the mental and socially awkward sides for obvious reasons, but I don't think I often see portrayals of the emotional depth aspect. There's an interesting moment in The Village that really resonated me, where the shy, stuttery character tells the girl he loves, "The only time I feel fear as others do is when I picture you in danger."

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Thanks Rebecca! I definitely think I’ve grown in my understanding since last year. Appreciate your feedback!

@bbydollt 2 года назад

I don’t tell my husband my secrets because then he tells everyone else without ever going through me!! 😤 it’s weird but I’m so glad you addressed this 🤣😂

@jakestephens3751 2 года назад

I've never lived alone. So for years I've gone out to my car and sat in it for hours just to have some me time 🤣 everyone always asks if I'm OK lmao.

@haileydavis606 2 года назад

NUMBER 6 literally me at the moment. Scary accurate I was literally trying to figure out if I was a 5 or 7 and this makes so much sense

@creativeraven2222 Год назад

#6 had me laughing out loud. Spot on. Every time I move I have to let go of books. That 11 boxes one time almost had me crying. Then I remembered....the internet, and I could re-buy them later.

@HighFiveFriend 3 года назад

Appreciate and compliment our strengths. There's lots to love about us... Fives are AWESOME!!!

@maryprice8458 3 года назад

Hehehe you guys are awesome 😎

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

they truly are!! (love your username!)

@alexrose20 3 года назад

rejection sensitivity combined from autism and childhood trauma 👁️👄👁️

@hanagabriellebidon9330 3 года назад

Add ADHD and you got me.

@alexrose20 3 года назад

@@hanagabriellebidon9330 lol i have that too

@freyeik 3 месяца назад

I literally fell out of my chair once listening to someone like that. They of course and predictablely said that I knew they were going to say and said "Are you alright?" And I responded with "Just listening and thinking about how to make this dynamic gift of sharing ideas we are currently undergoing in this transaction of knowledge we are sharing with each other. And the act of falling on the floor now gives us a sense of closer connection as we feel ourselves care about each other through this vulnerability I am undergoing whether it is conscious or not. What about you?"

@jpfitness2242 2 года назад

I'm a 5w4 INFP. Let me tell you what my biggest frustration is. I feel like there's so much going on in my head and I need the freedom to explore thoughts as they come to me. Any external stimuli like other people around me, barking dogs or something boring that requires my focus pulls me out of my head which feels very uncomfortable. It would be like being snatched out of your own house in the freezing cold and not being allowed back inside.

@ToBeALegacy 3 года назад

Wow the part on jumping from 5 to 7 and being manic. Too accurate

@alexistokarska9541 3 года назад

Ok, at first I thought: naaah, hating small talk? Naaah. And then it hit me. I REALLY HATE SMALL TALK

@nancydavidson7306 2 года назад

As a young girl I used to sit in a closet for the quiet sense of boundaries

@lifeisbeautiful7047 3 года назад

Everything is accurate except that after I matured I made peace with small talks

@bleedjuliet 3 года назад

i’m so happy i found your channel

@emptyness7 Год назад

Type 5 here: sometimes I learn so much about interpersonal relationships but can't really communicate assertively or put all that knowledge in practice/ apply it to real life.

@hannahgilbert437 3 года назад

I actually love your lighting in this video!

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

thanks Hannah 😳

@LordCaes 6 месяцев назад

This is incredible. Thank you!

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

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@lowkeyotaku2373 2 года назад

This data has proven itself worthy of being digested and used to go over my last/first relationship to compare where I went wrong, also, a new subscriber.

@purplemind93 3 года назад

Abbey, this is one of the best 5 videos you've done! Thank you! The isolation and the weighing of pros and cons before entering relationship felt right on the money! Besides being funny, it made me more sure that I am in fact a 5. (but 4w5 is still open for consideration, one must speculate until all the facts are in^^).

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

Thank you so much! This means a lot to me. 😊

@saloni.sharma 2 года назад

BULLSEYE Abby!!! First of all i had to pause after intro to laugh because i felt called out already 😂😂😂 Secondly, thank you for putting this together nicely. I hate stereotyping people because i find it limiting but somehow can't deny that i do all of the things you mentioned. Shared it with my partner for extra fun and i feel seen now. 😂😂

@sansypansy4999 3 года назад

great video Abbey, really resonated and made me laugh too. thankyou. xx

@jenica5334 3 года назад

I kid you not, point 2 was a reenactment of what had happened to me in a relationship with a type 5 LOOOOL

@vero1697 3 года назад

you’re really hitting the nail on the head - the first one took me by surprise as i didn’t know others were reluctant to share like me! for some inexplicable reason, i feel almost ambushed when people ask about what i’m doing and i just clam up and say nothing! i also absolutely love that you’re not just featuring heterosexual relationships, it’s a small thing but it means a lot. 💞

@BombshElle_7 2 года назад

I am a Type 8 INTJ. A lot of ppl of the same MBTI type are 5s, so I wanted to see if there were any similarities between us. This video did not disappoint! Like a 5, I need my alone time, I will isolate to avoid conflict ONLY w/ those I'm very close to (everyone else can catch these hands 🥊🥊). And fnally, when interested in someone, I will deeply assess the pros, cons, long term effects, and feasibility of a relationship with them, just like a Type 5. But I don't share their core fears at all. That's how I know I'm not a 5, but I think I'd get along well with them. 🙂

@AMoniqueOcampo 3 года назад

One of the characters in my novel is a Type 5 and since I have a 5 wing, this is just my two cents. My character doesn't like to reveal information that she regards as too personal. She kills at movie trivia games, but she didn't really talk about what she wants for her birthday, for example. Any Type 5s relate?

@Mauripsu 3 года назад

What is their MBTI? Her wing? Also she's relatable from what you said, at least to me

@_purplewinter_ 3 года назад

As a 5, for me this happens and for two reasons. 1º Because I naturally have a hard time explaining anything, my mind is quicker than my mouth and I make a mess, crossing words and sounding super awckward. 2º (And the sad reason) because, specially when I was younger, I suffered a lot from getting rejection about things that I loved when sharing them with people, that made me want to keep it all to myself.

@annab6632 3 года назад

I'm a 5, and although I can't say this for certain, I'd say a big part of this is a sense of protectiveness over information. Personal information and values tend to be so well protected because it's the one form of information that a 5 has complete control over. As well, because information is power, a 5 feels that if they reveal personal information they are giving the other person power over them. I'm not especially well versed in the enneagram, but from personal experience when I am healthy I will be much more open and vulnerable with people, even those who I haven't known for very long (although they will still have to hit some level of trustworthiness in my head.)

@leogrrrl5876 3 года назад

@@_purplewinter_ I've usually found that I don't relate to the part about 5s hoarding knowledge & information, but what you just said fits. (Thanks for the different perspective!) I would also add that others can find my info too complex &/or lack the patience to listen. They might not find it useful or relevant, & merely want to jump into action without slowing down to consider the big picture & the different facts/components first.

@AMoniqueOcampo 3 года назад

@@Mauripsu She's 5w6 more often than not and she's INTP.

@vloveg80 3 года назад

That may be the first time I’ve heard the manic 7 bit, but it rang so true! And YES! We need alone space! I spent 2 weeks at a friends’ house and was so homesick for my empty apartment!

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

ooh an empty apartment is wonderful!

@Meg_intheclouds 2 года назад

I’m a 6w7 with a type 5w6 partner. It’s an interesting combo of them needing space and me needing reassurance and more closeness (because my worst fear is abandonment). Recently I’ve Been feeling more anxious as at first they were a lot more clingy like I was, but now they need more space I don’t want to smother them but I also need that reassurance that they’re going to come back and still need me and want to be with me, it’s about finding the balance. Typology defiantly helps though, also open communication is very key for me, but I know it’s something they struggle with. I’m also an ENFP so I have that Fi need to be as open and authentic as possible in order to feel content and safe and secure in a relationship (while at the same time being scared of Being vulnerable at times at least with showing hurt)

@bbjudyfit 5 месяцев назад

This was insightful. My soon to be hubby is an enfp and I'm an 5w6 , so I'm just curious what your partners mbti is.

@mackenziegohdes7963 3 года назад

I’m a 2 married to a 5....we balance each other out...most of the time 😂 and this video is deeply relatable 😜

@Flora-j6t 6 месяцев назад

Im a 5 and i dont mind small talk. I think small talk is very interesting way to learn about people and things. So i ilike small talk.

@veyarain82 2 года назад

Wow... #7 nailed it on the head. Thanks for shining a light on this for everyone.

@youdontknowme55517 3 года назад

I love this video so much.. thanks for making it

@AbbeyHowe 3 года назад

You're so welcome 💙👽!!

@florentcouturier7465 3 года назад

LOL ! I'm a 5 and to benchmark my relationship is very familiar. I didn't tought about the blackboard ... But very good idea 😅😂 !

@parfiteleporter 3 года назад

Am I even 5? I mean, the test said I am. But these descriptions fit me half way. I mean, yes, I THINK A LOT. AND AM ALWAYS THINKING, REASEARCHING, KNOWING, LEARNING ... but it's mostly about the undiscovered areas of the world than the invented/discovered knowledge. I'm up for intelligent session sure, philosophical sure, but a nerdy debate about the ALREADY INVENTED stuff is not my highest priority. I love abstract ideas and to find a logical way to support them, I love knowing what we are not taught or what the world doesn't know already, it might not help me in practical life, but it simulates me intellectually. I would rather think of how, why, than when and where. Is it just me? To be precise, I want to know all the secrets of the world, like ALL. It bothers me how much government, army, or any other organizations know more than I as a regular patron ever can. I guess I should stop right here, you'd even think am blabbering at this point. Edit - No. I am not daydreamer, at least not the way you think I am. I just love to be the one "that has just discovered something or was the first to say "I knew this, than anyone before".

@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa74 3 года назад

This helps me understand myself so much

@Mathematchit Месяц назад

This is amazing!!! Naming the spiders, nice

@jackieli772 3 года назад

"Newton, Euclid, and Bob" x-D Almost exactly what I would name them. I might substitute Euclid for Einstein or Nikola (Tesla). I hope they were consulted in the relationship analysis chart.

@lebabies 3 года назад

Bahahahaha, my husband is a 5, I am a 7. This is...familiar 😂 (OMG, I sent him the video, he has it on, but he is also working two hours early on a problem at his job simultaneously, muttering to himself as he solves the problem 😬)

@isaiahthompson6751 2 года назад

As a type 5, I can attest to the hatred of small talk, it drives those around me crazy.... love the videos, keep up the good work!

@dr.jenchristian8307 3 года назад

I'm a five & you 100% nailed it, thanks for your videos Abbey! :)

@gideonebeling 3 года назад

As a type 5, I was skeptic at first that this would just be another stereotypical basic white girl/self-proclaimed enneagram expert putting my type into a box, but I was wrong. This was a great video and you nailed so many things right on the head. The rejection one at the end is so so true.

@sylviaowega3839 9 месяцев назад

Well … being a type 5 transcends all race, culture and ethnic backgrounds.

@erickperez2538 3 года назад

5 here! can confirm, all of this is on point :D

@wholesomeinfj4779 2 года назад

This was a fantastic video -- thanks so much for making this :) - Enneagram 5w4

@margaretjudice8944 3 года назад

This was a great video. My son is a 5 and I am a 2 and the scene you had on point 3 was exactly what happens when hes in his room at home reading and I open the door to offer him food or snacks. I was a vocal music education major in college and I sing when I do anything around the house. I laughed. Thank you for sharing.

@margaretjudice8944 2 года назад

I rewatched this. My son retested since my last comment. He's a 1. We had thought he was 5, then 8, settled on 1. Great video!

@EnglishWinterRunne 2 года назад

Really hard, loud and annoying to get through but the rejection skit is familiar to me. When I do feel like I am sharing stuff with someone and I get the hint they are bored, I *do* feel rejection - common for me

@KendrixTermina 2 года назад

thas one of the best sponsor segways i have ever seen.

@logannelson48 3 года назад

Although I think this video is pretty spot on, I think you should so a video on subtypes for 5s and maybe other types too. Subtypes especially for a 5 can set one apart from the other. I partly know I am a 5 because I searched for days trying to find out if I was a 7 or a 5 because I was a lot more social than people were making 5s out to be. Me being a so/sx 5, I am an extrovert and love social interaction but also many times fear it.

@speedy_comet Год назад

As an INTJ-T type 1 I wanna say I love you quirky adorable 5s 😁

@sylviaowega3839 9 месяцев назад

Yes, I’m a 5w4 and always hated small take. Even my owner partner whom is a 1w9 would sometime say in announce, “Can’t you just make a little small talk!?”