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EP40: A GA's Daughter Speaks Out with Lila Tueller 

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Ever wonder what it was like to grow up as the child of a General Authority? This week on Mormonish Podcast we talk with the lovely and talented Lila Tueller, daughter of General Authority Hartman Rector Jr. We discuss growing up with a General Authority and Mission President as a dad, as well as being a young woman in the Mormon church of the 70's and 80's. Lila talks candidly about dating, marriage, raising kids in the church, the stigma of divorce, and her incredible tenacity and resolve that saw her through some very difficult situations. Lila has a passion for art, design, and beauty everywhere, especially in nature. We absolutely loved getting to know Lila better and I'm not sure we have laughed so much with any other guest! She's absolutely lovely and her story is so inspiring, we know you'll love this episode as we discuss making the most out of life and rising above it all with Lila Tueller!
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@caraosullivan7089
@caraosullivan7089 Год назад
Awesome interview. She had much courage to leave, given her family's standing in the church. Good for her. I think her story will give others the courage to follow their heart and mind.
@johnnyscoolstuff8427
@johnnyscoolstuff8427 Год назад
being a native San Diego and I’m very familiar with Hartman, Rector and always loved the fact that he was not a Utah ilk general authority especially since I served a two week mission under her father in the summer of 77 prior to going on my two-year mission. I love the Recters they were great people. And I will always be grateful to to Hartman Rector, for coming to bat for me and going against the Salt Lake general authorities opinion of my situation, because this in a sense, saved my life,and changed the course of my life for the better. The mission president he made the bet with. actually would turn out to be my mission president. That’s a story in itself. Though I am no longer in the church. I do still very much appreciate Lila and her family.
@anthonycampbell4534
@anthonycampbell4534 Год назад
I really like the interview and discussion format. Hosts that do not over talk their guests!
@rebeccabibliotheca
@rebeccabibliotheca Год назад
Lila is such a lovely person! And we had a lot of fun talking to her! Thanks so much for watching!
@danieljohncarey7917
@danieljohncarey7917 Год назад
What a story from someone whose father was near the center of the storm. Glad to see she realized the church is a fraud, and she got out of it. Nice that she is telling the story of what is is like as a GA child. Good interview.
@dwmson9
@dwmson9 Год назад
Excellent. I had the same type of epiphanies after reading No Man Knows My History by Fawn Brodie. I wanted it all to be true, I even went to BYU hoping to be converted. In the eighties, when I was in my thirties, I read that book and it was the final push. When I was in, so long ago, I bristled at the suggestion that it was a cult. Now, to hear Lila say it, I want to cheer and shout, "Right On." It was all such a head game and am so glad that I did not bring my kids into it. Carry On and Keep Fighting the Madness!
@user-sb6hk2bd3f
@user-sb6hk2bd3f 3 месяца назад
Rebecca you are such a light . I love your sense in of humor you do an amazing job getting these subjects brought to light for all the world . Thank you so much ♥️
@randyjernigan8777
@randyjernigan8777 Год назад
Great interview! Lila has a very important story and is a great lady herself! Her father and mother Connie were friends of mine. In fact, they helped me launch my first radio program series as my first guests. Thank u for your courageous story!
@lilatueller
@lilatueller Год назад
Hi! Tell me more about your radio show!
@randyjernigan8777
@randyjernigan8777 Год назад
@@lilatueller the show that your Mom and Dad were on was over twenty years ago. It was a talk show with some music. Your Mom and Dad came on and told my audience about their love story. Adored your parents!!! Great people!!!
@JB-xx9ml
@JB-xx9ml Год назад
Loved this interview ... thanks for sharing! 💕
@TrailingCloudsofGlory
@TrailingCloudsofGlory Год назад
Fantastic interview! Thank you all for being so honest and candid about your journey. It is so helpful! 💝🙏💝
@goingbananas581
@goingbananas581 Год назад
I grew up in Lila's ward in Orem. I was a few years older than her oldest daughter. They are an awesome family! I just left last year and seeing her on Mormon Stories was super helpful. My parents are still Very TBM... she has also always been Gorgeous ❤
@mormonishpodcast1036
@mormonishpodcast1036 Год назад
She’s beautiful inside and out!
@eneyeseekay
@eneyeseekay Год назад
Beautiful story! Thank You for sharing Lila.
@ajadamsv9208
@ajadamsv9208 Год назад
Fantastic interview! Much appreciated
@JulieSnowstudiojuliesnow3698
1:21:30 My husband served in this San Diego mission right after Hartman Rector Jr was mission president and heard all the stories about the crazy baptisms!!
@RossanoBautista-mu1mr
@RossanoBautista-mu1mr 5 месяцев назад
Thank you very much about this podcast about a daugther of a GA,of Elder.Rector,I learned more about how life goes on.
@patricianoel7782
@patricianoel7782 Год назад
You and I lived parallel lives. I just shared the interview with my ex husband..who is still my good friend. We’ve been divorced for 20 years ❤I found and received the facts about the church just 2 years ago.😮
@mormonishpodcast1036
@mormonishpodcast1036 Год назад
So glad you are still friends with your ex. The world needs more kindness!!
@knparker8
@knparker8 Год назад
I was a missionary in San Diego when Hartman Rector was the mission president. I am thankful Lila has the courage to speak the truth. Some of the stories about the San Diego mission as crazy as they really were have been blown out of proportion. Great interview. I love your show.
@lilatueller
@lilatueller Год назад
Hi there! I’m curious if you can shed more light on what really happened in your mission from your point of view! I only repeat stories I heard from my brother and some other missionaries who served with him in San Diego.
@knparker8
@knparker8 Год назад
@@lilatueller Sure I would be glad to. Maybe we should talk some time, it would be easier. It is true we went into the groves and rounded up "wetbacks" and took them to the church and feed them. We enticed them with a free meal. We usually made spaghetti or the American version of tacos because it was easy. The Spanish speaking Elders taught them what we called "the plan" it was basically a condensed version of all the discussions with sales techniques to get them to say yes to every question. Then they were challenged to baptism. I would say most of them agreed but not all. Then we would feed the whole group (even those not baptized) and take them back to the groves. We did this in the evening after they were done with work. We borrowed members vans and would usually get back home around midnight. I know this sounds bad but the rumors I heard from missionaries after your dad was released as president were really even more crazy. I had a lot of concerns about it but I was told it must be right because we follow our leaders. Your dad said that these "converts" would communicate with their families in Mexico and the whole family would come into the church. I also worked with your brother Dan when he came for the summer. I really like Dan he was fun to work with and he had lots of enthusiasm.
@KentVBusse
@KentVBusse Год назад
So relatable! especially the feeling when children can't let go of what I previously taught them. I literally told them repeatedly: If the church and I ever go different directions, follow the church. Of course, if they do follow the church as well as I did, they might just wind up where I am NOW. They might possibly be on the same road toward *eventual* awakening.
@MattTheBandGuy
@MattTheBandGuy Год назад
Excellent interview! I find it interesting how there is such a parallel between the church hierarchy any the old Soviet political system, and even modern Russian Z-patriot society, in that they all know something is fundamentally wrong, yet they still try to prop it up because of the fame and personal gain they receive. Before I left, I remember watching a documentary on North Korea on a Saturday night, then went to church the next morning. We had elders Quorum meetings in the Stake presidency room. It had pictures of the top 15. No painting of Jesus. It was then that I drew the parallel. I just simply walked away a while later with a strong desire to simplify my faith based on biblical teaching, and now attend a small non-denominational Christian church. I play bass guitar in the worship band and stand next to the drummer. I think from time to time that it's so very cool actually hearing drums in church--something that was anathema in my former faith. Thanks for the interview.
@sarak6860
@sarak6860 Год назад
I'm glad that you haven't given up on Christianity. So many Mormon leave and become atheists.
@MattTheBandGuy
@MattTheBandGuy Год назад
@@sarak6860 You're not kidding! It's sad, really. People who at least one time in their life said "I know that God Lives and that Jesus is the Christ" among other things. People who maybe went and knocked on doors to tell people "about Jesus" have abandoned any faith, whatsoever. It's as if "well if Mormonism isn't true, then nothing is!" I find that sad. God does live. The Bible is true, and if we read it like a child would, asking questions along the way, and uniting whatever faith we have with others, our testimonies will build on the solid foundation of Jesus Christ. Not religion, rites, rules, and politics, but the simple faith of Jesus. It works!
@randyjordan5521
@randyjordan5521 Год назад
I watched Lila's interview on Mormon Stories. I first met her dad in 1972, when I was 17, when he was the MP out of Tallahassee. I lived in Montgomery. There was a big buzz about him back then because he was a convert, was made a GA, and then became a MP. He was very charismatic and a popular speaker. My oldest sister and her husband dealt with him a lot. They lived at Fort Rucker near the Florida state line, and he was a district president and then a regional representative in the early '70s. Rector also performed another one of my sister's wedding ceremony in the SL temple in 1974. I went to the SL Mission Home in June 1974. That was back when it was in an old high school near the temple and the COB. Various GAS would come in and give us rah-rah speeches. I was going to Australia, and we were seated alphabetically, so I sat on the front row during the whole week there, like 10 feet away from those holy men. Rector spoke, as well as LeGrand Richards, who was very elderly by then. I saw Rector again in probably the mid-'90s when he spoke at an adult fireside in my current city of Knoxville. I chatted with him afterwards and reminded him that he performed my sister's sealing. He remembered her well. He asked me "Is it holdin'?", meaning my sister's marriage. I chuckled and replied that she was then on her second marriage. Now, she's on her third and last. The last time I saw him, I had no idea that I would be studying my way out of the church just a few years later. Lila is such a good speaker and a nice lady, and I am very entertained by her experiences. I was saddened to hear that she grew up hardly ever seeing her dad. I've known several Mormons who complained that they had an "absentee father" because they were always off doing church work. I confess that I was guilty of that to some degree in the '80s when my four kids were little and I was at the chapel 2 or 3 nights a week at some meeting or doing clerical work etc. But we left the church when our oldest kid was 16, so I stopped all of that nonsense.
@rebeccabibliotheca
@rebeccabibliotheca Год назад
It sounds like you have run into Hartman Rector quite a bit! Thanks for sharing your experiences!
@randyjordan5521
@randyjordan5521 Год назад
@@rebeccabibliotheca Well, I interacted with him 3 or 4 times over 20+ years. Ironically, I began studying my way out of the church just a couple of years after the last time I saw him. I lost a lot of respect for him as Lila talked about his mass baptism antics in a poor third-world country.
@barryrichins
@barryrichins Год назад
Lila, It is nice to see you again, my friend.
@zelphx
@zelphx 3 месяца назад
Being a child of 1961, I am STUNNED that she is about my age; I look like I was thrown by horse DAILY. I am 63, but healthy... One of my my cherished associates from high school 's dad was a seventy (and our congressman, too).
@mormonishpodcast1036
@mormonishpodcast1036 3 месяца назад
No doubt both Rebecca and Lila have aged like a fine wine!
@zenmama979
@zenmama979 Год назад
Keeping the secret of the church is like keeping the secret about Santa Claus.
@icecreamladydriver1606
@icecreamladydriver1606 Год назад
What a family oriented church.
@tonyachristensen4428
@tonyachristensen4428 Год назад
I was Lila's sister Lucy's relief society president in Lehi in the mid-'90s before I saw the "light". I would love to know how Lucy is doing now!
@lilatueller
@lilatueller Год назад
Hi! My sister Lucy is doing great! She left the church before I did. She is on her second marriage and has three boys. She is a ton of fun and was a great source of strength to me when I left.
@tonyachristensen4428
@tonyachristensen4428 Год назад
Lila, thank you! I enjoyed Lucy's acquaintance and am glad to hear she is well. My husband and I left the church in 2007 and have never looked back. 😊❤
@petervincent3560
@petervincent3560 Год назад
I appreciate the difficulty of living and growing up in the center of the Church leaders. It’s a tough thing to see the hypocrisy of the truth; truth being something other than what we’ve been taught over the years and through out our lives. Despite the problems and lack of understanding, the cognitive dissonance and fear of being excommunicated; my belief is based not on the various historical analyses but my experiences seeking my Eternal Savior. I do agree with so much of what you have said and seen in the church. I have discovered that the Narrative against Joseph Smith has been pushed by those that followed after him. If we read the actual speeches by Joseph Smith over his last two years, we find he was totally against Polygamy! I am deeply grateful for honest researchers like Whitney Horning, Rob Fatheringham, the group at Hemlock Knots, Michelle Stone (132 problems with Polygamy) and so many others. Knowing that Joseph Smith’s history was distorted and that his teachings corrupted has provided me insight into our Savior and his teachings. Although I find the Modern Church leaders deeply mistaken in their thinking; I do Trust my Eternal God and the true teachings found in the scriptures. I reject anything that has been shown to have been modified to support the early polygamists and the lying dogs (Isaiah 56) that came after Joseph Smith. The Lord lead me into the church, the church will one day cast me out. The Truth will come to light as we learn more and we will all once again come to know that we are truly sons and daughters of Magnificent Heavenly Parents.
@randyjordan5521
@randyjordan5521 Год назад
All of these people who claim that Smith didn't originate or practice polygamy are just deluding themselves. There is a mountain of evidence published during Smith's lifetime, from a wide variety of sources, which makes it undeniable that Smith started polygamy. The #1 item of evidence is the account of a meeting of the Nauvoo High Council on August 12, 1843, in which Hyrum Smith read the revelation on celestial marriage to ask for their vote to sustain it as church doctrine. At least six men in that meeting, some who later stayed with the church and some who left it, all testified to Hyrum's remarks. In fact, legal affidavits to that effect were sworn to by William Law, Jane Law, and Austin Cowles, and were published in the Nauvoo Expositor on June 7, 1844. Those affidavits, as well as other facts regarding polygamy, were the very reason Smith ordered the destruction of the paper's press, and that directly led to his death three weeks later. I have posted numerous comments and provided a ton of documentation on this issue on Michelle's videos #54 and #57. She has never refuted any evidence I've provided. She just ignores it and pretends that it doesn't exist. If you want to peruse a little of the evidence, I suggest you read a document titled "Buckeye's Lamentation For Want of More Wives," published June 7, 1844. Also "A Narrative of the Adventures and Experience of Joseph H. Jackson in Nauvoo", published just two months after Smith's death. Both documents are on the internet.
@garyclark1603
@garyclark1603 7 месяцев назад
I was a missionary when Lila and her parents came to Brazil.
@elbertsorrell8394
@elbertsorrell8394 8 месяцев назад
I enjoyed this segment. I think Elder Rector was a unique GA at the least. I would've liked to have gotten to know him. It was interesting to find out some additional details about Lila's dad's interactions with Boyd K. Packer & his attitude toward Hartman Rector. There's probably a lot that goes on at that level we will never know.
@flyer238
@flyer238 Год назад
So they get everything covered for free? their missionaries spending two years of their life having to pay $10,000 and depending where they live there may be places full of cockroaches. Come on Church you can do better than that if you want your missionaries to be safe you got the money. Give these kids a better life and treat them like a GA.
@cindywoodbury385
@cindywoodbury385 Год назад
Yeah, I seem to recall Jesus paid his disciples at least minimum Pharasee wages
@randyjordan5521
@randyjordan5521 Год назад
@@cindywoodbury385 Well, plus all the loaves and fishes they could eat. :-)
@davesommers6427
@davesommers6427 Год назад
Anyone know what happened with Uchdorph??
@daverave3698
@daverave3698 2 месяца назад
I grew up with the Rector's in Virginia. I knew the whole family very well. I knew Twila when she was very young and doubt, she would remember me. I was between Laura and Linda's age. I must say I'm disappointed that Twila would steep so low as to air her family's laundry in public. No one is perfect. At heart Hartman and Connie were wonderful people and were good friends with my parents. I'm also disappointed in any podcast that would gloat about getting a GA's kid to talk about the family's background. Reminds me of the inhabitances of the "Great and Spacious" building whose sole purpose is to mock.
@marquitaarmstrong399
@marquitaarmstrong399 7 месяцев назад
Would like to find some of Rector's speeches..
@ConnieRichard
@ConnieRichard Год назад
I’d like more info about how her life was different after she stopped praying.
@MustangWriter
@MustangWriter Год назад
It seems almost generational. Every 40-60 years church 'concepts' change.
@laycie_mnm
@laycie_mnm Год назад
🙋🏻‍♀️ I left in my 50s too!!!!
@CatskillsGrrl
@CatskillsGrrl Месяц назад
This show was fascinating. I feel like I’m hanging out with three friends. Ex-Mormons are my peeps.
@jake8882
@jake8882 3 месяца назад
All valid questions about the priesthood
@eneyeseekay
@eneyeseekay Год назад
69 minutes. I think I figured out it was a cult one second after I got baptized because they made me get dunked a 2nd time due to a toe popping up out of the water.
@randyjordan5521
@randyjordan5521 Год назад
Well, you wouldn't want to go through life with a toe full of sin, do ya?
@marquitaarmstrong399
@marquitaarmstrong399 7 месяцев назад
😂 got dunked three times bcuz gown kept popping up.
@Max_Johnson
@Max_Johnson 7 месяцев назад
​@@marquitaarmstrong399My ex got dunked 3 times because her hair never fully went below the surface of the water.
@leahflower9924
@leahflower9924 Год назад
You all are so friendly I guess South Park was right about that lol
@deanchappell1314
@deanchappell1314 2 месяца назад
Now the church bought a Marriot resort in 'Maui, 120 rooms, for $100 million. Aspen Grove and Maui vacation resorts, the latter being exclusive for the elite.
@user-xc8cj3ju1o
@user-xc8cj3ju1o 2 месяца назад
She was lucky most of the time and certainly wasn’t picked on
@Onlyinohiocringeboss
@Onlyinohiocringeboss Год назад
Lila is an amazing woman! I can’t get over the fact that men would just get women pregnant without consent, how awful 😢
@jake8882
@jake8882 3 месяца назад
Lol...."I got pregnant again"
@jake8882
@jake8882 3 месяца назад
Oh how well she ages.
@skyblueshaz6023
@skyblueshaz6023 3 месяца назад
I left the lds church but I didn't give up on God or turn away from Christ.
@andycarrillo1477
@andycarrillo1477 3 месяца назад
No success as a GA can compensate for the failures of being role models for your children’s marriages…
@creationsfldotcom
@creationsfldotcom Год назад
I think it is great you are waking up. Please keep studying, as life is a journey. Learn to sing the Song, then go teach your friends and children to sing the Song. This Song is something you can go ask the Leaders about, and it cannot be swept under the rug, because these are the Creator's Words in the Bible. The Song is in the Bible, and no one will sing it! Why? I want to encourage everyone to stay in the LDS church as long as you can. This Song is given to you by the Creator, I did not write it. If you talk about the bad Joseph Smith stuff, the LDS Leaders and members do not want to hear it. You go back to the LDS church friends, and help them understand what this Song says. Then they will be interested in Singing It, and the Whole LDS Church will change. I want to change the whole church, even Russell Nelson. Please LDS People, I am Begging you PLEASE!!!!!Go back and help your Family members and friends. You are suppose to be expecting to learn a new Song according to Joseph Smith. I expect this would be easily accepted, because this is in your Bible, and Expected by Doctrine, and this is not bashing the LDS Faith, this is reinforce the Faith. This will help you stop your children from thinking you dropped off the deep end, as you will return with a truth they cannot deny. From my experiences with the LDS Leaders most have never even heard of the Name YHWH or Yahshua, and are not willing to look it up, so that approach did not work. The Feasts are complicated to explain, so I never go there with newbees. This Song on the other hand is in their Bible, and they can look it up very easy, and then they must question, "Why did no one ever show me this before?" I tell people The Creator is the one who hid the Song, and the Creator is now showing you the Song, for a reason! We can tear down the LDS/FLDS groups, but the question is, “Can we fix it, and bring all the families back together?”. m@gothere.us
@sarak6860
@sarak6860 Год назад
I was also 57 when I discovered that the church was a fraud and left. However, I was a convert at 16. Instead of throwing all religion out, I went back to the Jesus that I had come to know as a child. I still read the Bible, but have thrown out the Book of Mormon and all Mormon materials, including pictures of Mormon Jesus. I have been out for eight years now and regard my forty years as a Mormon as a big waste of time. Many times I was mislead by the Mormon "Spirit" and thus made decisions that I would not have otherwise.
@creationsfldotcom
@creationsfldotcom Год назад
99.9% of Bible believing people do not know the only Song the Creator Commanded you to teach your children, and that is really SAD! That Song Makes me Stronger, Smarter, and Closer to the Creator! That Song Gives me Life and Salvation, and without it, I will surely die! Lets just say it is more important to me than my life! If you would just read the first five Books of the Bible, and you would be FREE! YES! FREE! 1. You would know if a man cut his hair he is not from the Creator. (99% of elders Lev. 19:27 “Ye shall not round the corners of your heads, neither shalt thou mar the corners of thy beard.”) 2. If the church is not teaching you to sing That Beautiful Song The Creator Wrote, then you are in the wrong place, and its time to move on! The Song is in the Bible and takes me 11 minutes to sing with not one repeating sentence. Can you find it? Do you know what the Song is about? 3. Would I honor your name if I put a J in front of it? That is intentionally dishonoring your name. Same goes with the Creator and Son “YahShua” “Yah is Salvation”, so simple. So why does the world worship one who comes in his own name “Iesus” opps… forgot to put the “J” in front of it, “Jesus” there, “that is better”! Which one do you think will Save you? The Greek god J+ Iesus, or the True Name of The Messiah? Yahshua! “My People die from Lack of Knowledge”. I can explain in great depth the "P", "D", "E", and "J" sources of the Bible, and the Dead Sea Scrolls. This is extremely important to understand the Bible, and what was changed, and who changed it, and for what reason. Where did the Language of “Hebrew” come from? Jews have killed to keep this a secret. I can explain this in great detail, and something you must understand to understand the "Holy Bible" (The Masoretic Text) I am not talking about what it says, but why it was changed when the jews wrote it. Why were there no Levites in Babylon? All these questions you should know the answer to. The reason you do not know these answers, is because the jews hide these things, their little secrets. Do you want to keep His Feasts, or Sing His Beautiful Song? I am looking for a friend to study with. m@gothere.us
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