Episode 48, Part 3 B: In today's episode Richard Solomon will explain how the theory of Expectations Negotiation can develop and strengthen the professional relationship between a mentor and a mentee.
What is Expectations Negotiation and How Does It Support, Maintain and Strengthen the Mentor/Mentee Relationship?
According to John Sherwood and John Gildewill (1973), expectations are silent demands between and among people. Thus, in the mentor/mentee relationship each person has hidden demands of the other. When those silent demands remain unvoiced, feelings such as confusion at best and sometimes resentment, anger, and hostility may arise. Moreover, when these negative feelings are not addressed, the relationship can deteriorate to the point of being unproductive and dysfunctional. Thus, Sherwood and Gildewill strongly suggest that at the beginning of a professional relationship each party should share (a) what he or she expects to do, and (b) what he or she expects from the other person. Once these expectations are voiced and any issues emerge, these once- hidden concerns can be openly resolved or negotiated. They argue by extension that expectations negotiation is the sine qua non for a successful mentor/mentee relationship. It is, therefore, both a relationship and trust-building exercise.
A graphic organizer handout depicting the expectations theory of Sherwood and Gildewill appears in the video . If you wish to get a copy of the handout on Expectations Negotiation, you can take a screenshot of the handout on my Facebook page, / rdsolomonphd .
We invite you to share the Expectations Negotiation Handout and practice using Expectations Negotiation with the members of your family, friends, colleagues, team mates and work mates.
If you have questions or feedback about this activity or the video series, you can send your comments to me at this email address: rdsolomonphd@gmail.com or you can share your feedback on this my RU-vid channel, my Facebook or my X accounts.
In our next episode we will describe how the EIAG Process, A Fourth R, Relationship Building Activity, can be used when mentoring or supervising others.
30 июн 2024
