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Everything my 20's Taught Me (& I'm Afraid of Turning 30) 

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Discussing all there is to learn from your 20s, along with the excitements and fears of entering my 30s.
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Talk Topics:
00:00 - Welcome!
02:35 - Aging
05:44 - The first three decades of your life
09:28 - If I could go back in time
10:55 - Dealing with failure & mental health
14:45 - Feeling unprepared for adulthood
18:57 - Dealing with bad habits & substance reliance
22:32 - Learning how to mother myself and love my body
24:50 - Pursuing passions & being reckless
30:38 - Changes in friendships
33:08 - Lessons from romantic relationships
39:35 - Trusting yourself & listening to your intuition
44:08 - 3 things to walk away from your 20s with
46:55 - What I'm excited for in my 30s
50:50 - What I'm afraid of for my 30s
52:45 - Goodbyes!
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Disclaimer: I am not a mental health specialist, just a Canadian gal with an old soul who likes to crack the ice on deep conversations that can foster personal growth and positive change.
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@mothercoyote351
@mothercoyote351 4 месяца назад
I'm at the tail end of my 30's 🙈🙈🙈 I've learned that no matter how much heartache u go through in any stage of life🧬 u also need to count ur blessings no matter what.
@sdafergu
@sdafergu 3 месяца назад
Meeeee tooo!!! 🎉 I'm turning 39 this year. 😮
@comfyera
@comfyera 3 месяца назад
So true!
@freja_thorup_hansen
@freja_thorup_hansen 4 месяца назад
I’m 24 now and I’m actually looking forward to being in my 30’s. So far in my life my life has gotten so much better and better the older I get, so I have high hopes for my 30’s ☺️
@comfyera
@comfyera 3 месяца назад
I'm 35 and this is what happened to me; hope the same is true for you! ❤
@feralmeditations8520
@feralmeditations8520 4 месяца назад
Turning 29 I felt a panic, "I haven't achieved all the things I was supposed to! I can't do it all in 1 year." Turning 30 was great. I entered this great in between where I am free of expectation. I'm too old to be young and too young to be old. It's this beautiful place that is your own.
@lucaruitenberg8605
@lucaruitenberg8605 3 месяца назад
I love that, too old to be young and too young to be old.
@JG-di8oi
@JG-di8oi 4 месяца назад
My 20s were hell. 32 now and feel like I'm just now allowing myself to enjoy life and give myself grace. I also was not taught anything about being an adult I was so lost and had to teach myself everything too. Thank you for this conversation. ❤
@hettijayne
@hettijayne 3 месяца назад
Omgg thank you for the realness of this. I honestly resonate SO SO much to do this im turning 30 soon and I feel quite behind / lost. I’ve also not been taught anything about being an adult and feel quite scared tbh but this gives me hope thank you for this 🩷xx
@comfyera
@comfyera 3 месяца назад
This is how I felt too!
@fireflieswishes
@fireflieswishes 3 месяца назад
I've had a similar experience. I'm nearly 29 and my teens and twenties have been unbearable, gonna work hard to make my thirties peaceful too
@manifeststation4740
@manifeststation4740 3 месяца назад
I know you're a mum now expecting your second child. Congratulations! Such a beautiful transition for you. I am 34 and single and have not had children yet which I thought I would and really did want. I know you aren't having this experience but I feel like I am grieving a role I may never have now. Could you maybe do a video on that? Like how to find acceptance with it or not giving up hope of a child in mid thirties as I don't want to accept it. I always thought I'd be a mum and really did want to so it's not a choice I made. It just never happened for me and I have no prospects of men currently. It is hard when kids just never happened ...
@hettijayne
@hettijayne 3 месяца назад
@@manifeststation4740 aww sending so much love to you. I feel this although it’s not something I thought I wanted. Approaching 30 now is something I’m scared I won’t have time to do either. 🩷
@yeceniap13
@yeceniap13 3 месяца назад
I'm 31and honestly, idk how I feel about it. I'm lost, but I'm taking my time finding myself. Nothing in nature blooms all year 💛
@hannahsomes389
@hannahsomes389 3 месяца назад
I'm 28, 30 is in view, and wow am I different from 20-year-old me, but like you said she's still inside of me.
@shaebutter1938
@shaebutter1938 4 месяца назад
I’m 27 with my first baby! His half birthday is already this month and he’s teaching me a lot about slowing down and being in the present!
@whiterabbitontheroad
@whiterabbitontheroad 3 месяца назад
I'm 31 and I'm feeling like I'm catching up on what I missed in my twenties, mainly my education. I was sooo focused on relationships and being "good enough" that I kind of lost myself. Now, I'm finding her again - still very confused on many levels but it's getting better. What I've learned in my twenties: - don't run from reality to spirituality - life works in cycles - with knowing all that - live in the present - but future is important - everything is as it should be - change is inevitable - you are much more than society accepts - everyone has it's own will - first - love from you to you - then from others - life is just a fleeting moment 💫
@SabresLove1130
@SabresLove1130 4 дня назад
34 here. Don't be afraid of your 30s. 30s are so beautiful. You leave so much behind in your 20s. So much uncertainty, insecurity, fear, and doubt. Its a new chapter. Embrace it and step into your power 🤍
@Lina_5_
@Lina_5_ 4 месяца назад
Happy birthday Kalyn! I'm turning 30 on June! I feel the same...my biggest fear is that my parents are aging. All of my friends have the same feeling, none of us is married or having children, we worry about our jobs, the economy of our country and sometimes we forget that we are really young due to ''pressure'' of society.
@karinashanks
@karinashanks 3 месяца назад
I turned 30 back in October and no one except my immediate family wished me a happy birthday which I think reflects my 20's well 😅 It wasn't such a fun time and it felt like no one was interested in my existence. But since turning 30 I'm like well, I don't care, I'm always here for me and at least that's something.
@missemilyaliceb
@missemilyaliceb 3 месяца назад
I'm turning 30 this year too. It's a very strange scenario about the people around you changing. My Christmas' have changed these past few years and I've struggled. The childhood Christmas' are now different. I lost my Grandad before Christmas. All my grandparents have now passed away and the pain of this I'm really having to work through. I'm so grateful to seeing you and some other commenters mention the people around you aging. It's been really taxing my soul recently. But aging is a blessing. All you can want really is to grow old so I'll try and see gratitude for that. Love to all 🩷
@stephtaj9260
@stephtaj9260 3 месяца назад
ILY 😭 I have listened to you for years & it’s crazy how much I always resonate with you. I’m 34 & I have a 4 month old boy 🤍 I honestly don’t feel a lot different than I did in my 20s, but I feel like my 30s have brought me so much change & joy entering marriage & motherhood. I still have a lot of work to do, it’s funny how just when you think you’ve figured it all out, you realize you have so much more to learn. But I think my mama era is by far my biggest blessing 🤍
@EJ-vn4pv
@EJ-vn4pv 2 месяца назад
I’m loving my 30s!!! If I could give my past self advice it would be to simply enjoy the age you are currently and enjoy the ride
@TheTaylorLayne
@TheTaylorLayne 3 месяца назад
Ugh the end. I resonate so hard with the idea that being in my 30’s will be wonderful, but it will bring changes to my loved ones and pets. That comment hit me like a knife and that is exactly what I am afraid of too. Love your channel Kalyn.
@missemilyaliceb
@missemilyaliceb 3 месяца назад
I join you in that fear. My parents aging, my grandparents have passed away. Sending love you to you. 🩷
@HeavyInYourArms12
@HeavyInYourArms12 3 месяца назад
I am 31 going to 32 in one month and so far my 30s are the best years of my life. I am more mature , i go after my goals ( i am starting my own business) , i found my soulmate , we grew our family . I used to be so insecure but now i am calm and appreciate the small everyday things. The journey to adulthood is a difficult one sometimes we are lost but it is a blessing to grow old. Many people do not have this privilege.. And as you said our old self still live inside us but we all change and involve. The only thing that scares me is my mum getting old ( i have lost my father at a very young age) and i wish she could stay young forever because i do not want to lose her too.
@nymwonderland4209
@nymwonderland4209 24 дня назад
I’m 26, in the beginning of my last half of my 20s and I feel like it’s up and down right now. There are days where I have clarity and focus, I’m working towards my goals and taking care of myself. But then I have times where I feel lost and confused, it feels like I’m running out of time and I can’t seem to take care of myself. But I feel like it’s valid and normal. Especially since, at least for me, I was just expected to be an adult all of a sudden when I turned 20 but was never given a sense of direction from the adults around me. All I was told is to go to school, get your degree and have a good career. Ok? Then what? My early 20s was really just me scrambling to figure out what the heck was happening and what I was supposed to be doing. I had people telling me I needed to start thinking about kids early on, and other telling me I had time and to have fun. I didn’t know if my 20s were to have fun and make mistakes or to be mature and adult. I was getting a lot of mixed signals. I was just going through the motions of life up until 24 when I graduated and realized that adults are all just as confused about life as we are 😂 I decided to ignore everyone around me trying to tell me what to do and started focusing on myself, my mental health, and what I wanted for myself. Everyone has a different path, and not everyone achieves their goals in the same way or timeline. I feel as long as you are actively working towards a goal to improve your life and health (mental or physical) it shouldn’t matter how long it takes to achieve it, you will get there when you are ready. You will get there at the time that you were meant to get there. And you will learn lessons on the way as well. I think now that I had 6 years of experience in my 20s I honestly think your 20s are meant for learning more than anything. To make mistakes and learn from them, to grow as a person and go into your 30s as a more experienced individual. I don’t think we were ever meant to have all of our lives figured out by 30.
@reynazane5900
@reynazane5900 4 месяца назад
Happy birthday! I turned 30 three months ago and I fully understand the part about our loved ones aging and it terrifies me. I have two dogs (8 and 9 yo) and one of them had a really bad health issue recently, my husband mentioned he would rather put her to sleep than watch her suffer, and I started crying like a baby. I don't feel ready to say goodbye to either my pets or my parents/family members.
@RiannaNicole
@RiannaNicole 4 месяца назад
Oh my heart is with you on the pups. We had our dog pass just before Christmas due to cancer, and both when I took her to the vet with my dad, and when/since she passed, I was just a hot mess express of tears.
@reynazane5900
@reynazane5900 3 месяца назад
@@RiannaNicole I am very sorry for your loss. I understand the pain, I lost pets before, but connection with a dog is something else.
@kristinadantonio9402
@kristinadantonio9402 2 месяца назад
Hi Kalyn! I'm watching this video a couple of months later. I turned 29 last Friday, April 19th (4 days ago) and I can't help but feel like I'm on a countdown. My life is going through a lot of changes, I've been married for almost a year now, I'm hoping to become a mom in the next few years, we're thinking about moving countries, planning a new business, and so much more. And at the same time, I still feel like I have issues to resolve, things to learn, habits to overcome, relationships to improve… I look back at my 20s and see the ups and downs that got me to where I am today. And that's okay. I'm not afraid to get to my 30s, but I feel like I need to make this last step of my 20s worth it. To give myself permission to try and fail and have fun, and at the same time be mature and make the right choices, because my future depends on what I do today, and because somehow I know that life a year from now will be very different. I feel like I'm leaving so much behind at the same time that I'm opening up to receive so much more. This is life, I guess, bittersweet but very exciting at the same time.
@hannahcaison
@hannahcaison 3 месяца назад
I'm not one to comment much, but you've sparked some thoughts that I'd like to share: Firstly, even though I'm turning 26 this year, I can relate very much to what you've said about your fears. Ever since I was a little girl I've been overly aware of the short amount of time I have with the souls around me and how seemingly premature they can leave sometimes. I do fear the painful loss of my family, friends, and the end of the potential of making new memories with them one day. I find myself getting used to people like my mom always being there. Thank you for opening up about your worries because it reminded me to get un-used to her (and everyone's) presence. I don't want to be the one that tragedy catches in a moment of taking loved ones for granted, and then ending up living with regret. It's so easy to get caught up in working too hard just to feel burnt out and not feel like putting in the time or energy into a simple text or a phone call because "I'll call them tomorrow... this weekend... after I'm finished cleaning the house, when I have time later.." the excuses and procrastination never end. I've been getting caught up in my own troubles and taking everything one day at a time.. and I've been forgetting those passing days without contact add up. Before I know it, I haven't reach out for months. Long story short, you snapped me out of one of many MIA phases. So thank you for that. Secondly, I appreciate you being so vulnerable because it helps me see that I'm not the only one who goes through.. "life" for lack of a better word. By that I mean all the ups, downs, insecurities, awkward transition stages, deep-deep feelings that are hard to feel and express, and true concerns whether they seem silly or not. Thirdly, thank you, Kalyn for being so real. I know spilling your mind and heart on the internet for literally anyone to see has to be scary and hard sometimes. But I hear you and I appreciate you, your bravery, your positivity, and your care and compassion for everything you do. Cheers to you and your thirties!🥂*insert whatever emoji that's equivalent to clinking joints is.. hahaha* Good luck, and I'm right behind ya! Thanks for positively influencing me since 2016! Almost 10 years.. 🤯🤯🤯 Love ya 💕
@lildreamxxx
@lildreamxxx 3 месяца назад
I am 27 now and I have been watching you since I was 19 ❤️. To me, it feels like we grew up in our twenties together. I also feel a shift now that im older. I want to escape the big city and I am excited to start settling down with my boyfriend and maybe start a family
@brielikedacheese
@brielikedacheese 3 месяца назад
Turning 30 this year too! I'm actually so excited. For a long time, I was so lost. I feel like I'm finally starting to feel comfortable in myself and in life.
@giuliavola_writer
@giuliavola_writer 4 месяца назад
Hi Kalyn
@jenniferuller9852
@jenniferuller9852 3 месяца назад
I'm currently 26 and I am in that area of my life in which I am THRIVING in y career! I am almost finished with my Dr. med. and I finally have the feeling that I am really on my right path in life (I used to struggle weather I took the right career choice or not). Also after 3 Years of therapy I can really see how much my metal health has bettered. Not only am I way more emotionally stable than I used to be in my early 20, but also my friendships are more stable. I still feel my emotional wounds and fear of abandonment from time to time but I now know how to calm them down. Only struggle I have right now is with my boyfriend of 5 years. We changed so much during those years and we are asking ourselves if we are still a good fit or not.... Realizing that even good changes can turn into very hurtful outcomes (loosing friends and loved ones on the way) is I guess also something you learn in your 20s Also: I noticed that I slowly get wrinkles around my mouths. The first time I noticed them I was afraid. But now it makes me kinda happy? Like yay I am getting older and wiser and every year I got more of life! Also my tiny wrinkles look like I smiled a whole fucking lot and thats why they are around my mouth first :))
@teabubbles4ever
@teabubbles4ever 3 месяца назад
wow I really appreciate you sharing! I hope you and your current bf are able to figure out what's best for ya'll!
@RiannaNicole
@RiannaNicole 4 месяца назад
I’m gonna be 30 in September, and feel the same about that my 20 year old self is still in there and have learned so much in the last decade, and grown into myself. I’m actually kinda excited to see what my 30s hold for me. I can so relate to learning the important things for adulthood and that was one thing I remember talking with my mom about, is she didn’t even feel set up for success on it herself, and she felt guilty and bad that she struggled teaching some things to me as well. We were so lucky to get our house when we did too, and it was definitely universal timing, and couldn’t imagine the stress of trying to purchase a home in todays market, or even just having the financial burden of what homes cost today (I feel like an old person saying that and here I am not even quite 30 😂 😅). Having someone there to help guide you through big changes is so key and the tears hit me again when you brought up your MIL. I’ve struggled with drinking and have been slowly working on the root of it, as I don’t want to just be someone who avoids it and ignore that part of me that needs tended to and nurtured and healed. Edibles have helped me a ton with that, let alone with other aspects of my healing and growth journey, as I’m a lot more intentional with that usage. Ok, this is turning into a diary entry of a comment so I’ll leave it there
@beerishere97
@beerishere97 3 месяца назад
I'm 26 with high hopes for the journey into 30!! Happy belated birthday, and thank you for sharing your experiences!! Rooting for all of us you got this!! We all just humans at the end of the day trying to figure out life ❤
@gbclutchone
@gbclutchone 4 месяца назад
There’s actually some really cool information out there about the neuroplasticity of the brain. The brain is said to come to full development when the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for regulating thoughts, emotions, and actions, finishes developing, around the age of 25-27 (usually on the earlier end in females, although recent studies have been showing that people with ADHD tend to take longer, into the early 30s). This is why many people report around that time feeling more secure in their decision making skills and notice less risk taking. Neuroplasticity, which short version, is the communication between neurons, deals with our ability to change and adapt. While there is a point in early development when the brain has more plasticity, which is why learning skills such as speaking another language or learning a musical instrument is much easier and leads to better retention in adulthood, neuroplasticty works across the lifespan. And with other forms of cognitive, emotional, and physical development, the way in which we learn and develop new skill sets changes as we continue to age. People in middle age actually report improved cognitive skills in certain areas such as abstract thought and spatial reasoning. This is just the tip of the iceberg. If this interests you I highly recommend looking into it more. This info dump was brought to you by lifespan development and neuroscience courses in my undergrad 😂
@jleandrarod
@jleandrarod 3 месяца назад
Your vulnerability and ability to accept yourself in your 20s is such an inspiration. I know that it took years and years of therapy to get to where you are at, but as someone in their early 20s trying to find a balance of accepting myself where I am making 'mistakes' and learning lessons pretty much by myself. I am so happy to hear that it happens to other people too. I have watched you for the past 5 years and your commitment for growth and self acceptance/ discovery is absolutely inspiring and amazing to watch!
@amandaw4945
@amandaw4945 3 месяца назад
I was afraid of turning 30 with no kids. Here I am at 32 😢 it’s gets better once you’re in your 30s for a while.
@Itsmebee2020
@Itsmebee2020 3 месяца назад
I'm 21, I still have things to figure out but I'm mainly focused on setting a good foundation for my future kids. Being a mom one day is very important to me.
@Ratkatkat
@Ratkatkat 3 месяца назад
Kalyn! I’m 23 and I’ve been watching you since 2015. I feel like I’ve gone through growing up with you and I resonated with a lot of feelings you described having in your 20s. Seeing how beautifully you’ve blossomed into your 30s has given me the excitement and hope I needed
@comfyera
@comfyera 3 месяца назад
Happy birthday Kalyn!! Aww I totally understand the fear of turning 30. I felt similarly. At 35 I can confidently say that 30-35 were some of the best years of my life! And, just like you said, I've felt more and more comfortable in my skin each year. I hope your 30s are a wonderful decade for you!❤
@lauraoshea1701
@lauraoshea1701 3 месяца назад
I feel like I've grown up with Kalyn (I'm only a few months younger), since her adulting videos back in 20..17? That was a very nice talk, felt very vulnerable and sincere. I'm certainly scared of turning 30 but that last part about being more grounded in that decade definitely helped shift my perspective a bit more to the positive side😅💚 Belated happy birthday!✨💐
@IlFilodiArianna_vlog
@IlFilodiArianna_vlog 3 месяца назад
I've turned 30 last year and it was definitely a tough year for me, but also very formative! I feel like I know myself better than I ever before, and I have a clear sense of who I am and what I want from life 🤗 The only thing I still struggle with is being graceful with my body, especially since I feel like it's changing so much from my 20's. Even though I'm trying to fight against my inner negative narrative and I'm trying to feed myself with the things that made me feel good, it can still be hard sometimes, but I know I will eventually reach that point of less criticism and much more acceptance 🥰 thank you for another lovely talk, I always listen to them when I clean the house and I need a friend's support 💕
@bridgetcarlson6247
@bridgetcarlson6247 3 месяца назад
I’m 23 and I’ve been watching you since I was 15. You give me the comfort of an older sister and I love being able to grow with someone I look up to. Definitely have similar apprehensions about upcoming years as I watch my 15 yr old dog and parents age. Wishing you the best of luck and good vibes in your 30’s 🎉
@xElise98
@xElise98 3 месяца назад
Turning 26 in a few weeks ! This talk felt like the universe was trying to tell me something because lately I’ve been feeling a change. Realizing that I’m going towards my 30s made me think about my life, about my 20s, how I’ve changed… I’m sure there are a lot coming too in the next four years. Anyway thanks for this you made me laugh and cry as always 😘
@ginamiller3419
@ginamiller3419 3 месяца назад
I will be turning 30 this year too! I’m a Scorpio ♏️ and happy belated birthday to you! This has been the most helpful and encouraging “30s” talk I’ve seen.. I really like how you said your 30s are like the second phase of your 20s… I feel like I learned a lot in my twenties, the most powerful lessons really hitting me from left field, the most unexpected places. I hope you get your horses in your 30s! I grew up on a horse farm and had horses till my mid twenties, it’s something I really miss. I feel strongly that I will have horses or be around them more again at a later era in my life.. but for now I am trying on different lives and experience.. for me I think my thirties will have a high value on traveling.. something that has been on my heart since I was a child but never something I have explored
@rebekkadonovan9753
@rebekkadonovan9753 3 месяца назад
You're such a vibe - I want to be you when I grow up ( I turn 30 in October)
@thea353
@thea353 3 месяца назад
I’m 19, almost 20✨trying to give myself the grace of not knowing EVERYTHING. I’m still growing
@jxj98
@jxj98 4 месяца назад
I have been watching you since I was in high school, i just turned 26 a few weeks ago. I have always been so inspired by you through every single step in your journey. You are amazing and watching you grow and blossom in the woman you are now has been incredible. 💖
@alexguterbock3542
@alexguterbock3542 12 дней назад
I'm turning 26 this year I have been giving myself so much grief over decisions I made about my career in my early twenties. I somehow already feel behind my peers in this area of my life and like I am running out of time. I am looking forward to being at an age where everything makes sense and I can have more grace for my past self. I am slowly getting there but I still have moments of shame and regret because my path has not been as linear as I feel it should have been.
@ioannaloukou2970
@ioannaloukou2970 4 месяца назад
Happy birthday girl
@teabubbles4ever
@teabubbles4ever 3 месяца назад
aww happy birthday! :3
@MinimalistInTheMaking24
@MinimalistInTheMaking24 3 месяца назад
Happy Pisces Season ♓️! I'm turning 29 on March 11th and I'm doing a lot of reflecting as I enter the last year of my 20s and a whole new era of life as a mom. This chat was very helpful for my reflection on this season
@shaebutter1938
@shaebutter1938 4 месяца назад
Can I just say as a silent viewer! I love how authentic you are and I appreciate you for everything you are and do ❤. Thank you for sharing ❤️‍🔥
@hannahanderson3889
@hannahanderson3889 3 месяца назад
Kalyn- thank you, thank you, thank you. I’m 26 now. Some days I feel 46, some days I feel 16. I’ve been watching your videos since 2016ish? It’s hard to believe it’s been 8 years. I look to you like a big sister, who I’m happy to watch go through life just a few years ahead of me. You inspire me, seeing you grow and change and figure out what you want your life to look like, and making it happen for yourself. Sending you so much light and love!
@feralfaerie_
@feralfaerie_ 4 месяца назад
This talk was great! I’ve been following you since 2016 and feel like we’ve grown together- I’m 31! I remember turning 30 and thinking “wow, Kalyn will be 30 soon too!” Thanks for being you and doing what you do 🤍
@aj3xo
@aj3xo 3 месяца назад
I just turned 30 in November and had my son (first child) last August. I also was heavily dependent on smoking weed everyday until I found out I was pregnant; quit cold turkey and haven’t touched it since as I’m still breastfeeding. I relate so deeply to what you said about not caring enough to change for myself but making sure I was clean for him.
@elieruck
@elieruck 3 месяца назад
I’m in my mid-twenties, and I have already learned a lot, I think. I love how you speak about motherhood and appreciating your body, it gives me hope that maybe when I’m a parent one day I might learn to do the same. I am still getting to know myself, especially since I found out I’m autistic only a couple years ago, and I’m still learning to give myself grace and accept my own limitations without judging myself for them.
@sarahjmorelli
@sarahjmorelli 3 месяца назад
Loving the spring vibes ❤❤❤
@sydneyfinch5464
@sydneyfinch5464 3 месяца назад
Happy almost 30 Kalyn💛 it’s been so fun to watch you throughout your 20s. I feel as if you’ve been my role model for so many years. I’m now 23, but all the years I watched you as I was still a teenager, you’ve inspired me to dream big and take chances. I’m living out my dream currently, and I feel like you have some mini part in pushing me out of my comfort zone to get here. Cheers to 30 🥂
@paigew2720
@paigew2720 18 дней назад
I’ve been watching you since you started yt and I was a teenager 😅how times change! You should be so proud of the woman you have grown into ❤
@madeleineg242
@madeleineg242 3 месяца назад
I needed this, as a fellow Pisces thank you🩵 you sharing your experiences Made me feel less alone. I just turned 26 and I have felt a bit lost but also not if that makes sense. I relate to a lot of this. I have solo traveled twice in 2022 all the way to Florida (it’s not Thailand haha but it’s far from me since I live in the northeastern US. My friends didn’t want to go so my attitude was life is too short to not go” no regrets at all it was some of the best days of my life but some of the things I wanted to do and did I look back and am like what was I thinking ? Lol. The friends thing was relatable too. The relationships as well .. that’s something I’ve been struggling with is being single for almost a year now and being 26 and feeling i haven’t found the “one” yet but then I tell myself and know I have more self love to do before I am in a relationship. It’s true but I’m learning you have to love yourself before you love anyone else. Anyways long story short I really appreciate you sharing your experience thank you 💕also I’ve been watching you since I was 20… keep being you girl🦋
@valeriemayer9256
@valeriemayer9256 3 месяца назад
This was so lovely ❤ thanks Kayln
@hannahsnyder0828
@hannahsnyder0828 3 месяца назад
This has been so extremely healing for me today. I'm a couple weeks late watching this. But dang is this message hitting hard with me today. It's just a lot of stuff I really needed to hear today. Thank you! ❤
@cajsaforss
@cajsaforss 3 месяца назад
Oh holy moly, I had to stop mid trough this video with my body full of goosebumps to write this down. I've been following you since probably 2016 or earlier. I always resonated with you so much and your videos gave me a lot of positivity and structure in my daily life. I never commented on your videos but this felt so real! Somewhere on the way through life I stopped watching your videos (in general stopped bingin RU-vid). I just saw your video about your second pregnancy and we're both same weeks pregnant but this is my first time. I've been a daily weed smoker since I was 18 (just turned 29) and was a smoker very much for the same reasons like you. Never would I have thought you smoked. I was so good at hiding that part of my life aswell. Since I got pregnant I stopped immediately. I guess I just want to say that I feel so much gratitude towards you for opening up about this right here and now. Feels like I'm in the same boat in many aspects. Also our 20's were so similar. I'm happy I found my way back to you. And this video made me look forward to my new era of motherhood and all that comes with it. You're such a comfort once again I'll be back again for the next one. Take care
@nas.of.rivia28
@nas.of.rivia28 4 месяца назад
I'm 25, just graduated from med school, I'm a doctor now, supposedly responsible for people's lives and I'm going through something like a life crisis, I'm questioning everyone and everything around me, including myself, and it feels like I'm a little kid somehow...I don't know if it makes sense to anyone 😅 Anyway, Happy birthday to you! I've been following you since 2016 ❤
@teabubbles4ever
@teabubbles4ever 3 месяца назад
such a lovely talk, I love how Kalyn approaches these topics
@margaretdephillips7388
@margaretdephillips7388 14 дней назад
I found the 3 to 6 months prior to a milestone birthday are worse than the day itself. I had a “turn 30 flip out” 6 months before this milestone birthday. In the space of 10 days, a romantic relationship, a toxic friendship and my job all blew up in my face. I decided to focus on finding a new, better paying job…. And I got it 3 months later I dumped the toxic friend when she insulted me, my work friends and my boyfriend (now my husband for 22 years) in about a half an hour. I met my husband 3 weeks before I turned 31
@sherylmuller958
@sherylmuller958 4 месяца назад
happy birthday :) I hope u have a great day! Im 24 right now ( 25 in a few weeks^^ ) Still waiting for the time when Im supposed to feel like an adult. I feel like so much is changing and at the same time nothing at all
@teabubbles4ever
@teabubbles4ever 3 месяца назад
aw 99' over here too! man I feel that last sentence haha
@shaenarosario
@shaenarosario 3 месяца назад
I’m 21 now and i’ve been following you for years now. you feel like such an older sister watching your videos.
@fatemehn9475
@fatemehn9475 4 месяца назад
It'll be my birthday 8th of March and ... I'm gonna be 28 ! And idk how i feel about it... but it's everything together and at the same time my mind is foggy and even empty . So it's like it's everything and nothing at the same time.... . And lemme just not talk about the anxiety and all the feelings that gegs activated and so many other things..... . Idk !! But as a person who been watching your content for maannyyy years now i realllyyy feel so related to the things u say and i reallyyy hope you be happy and calm in a deep deep level. Happyyyy Birthday Kalyn !! 🎉🎉 😊
@ullimoser2529
@ullimoser2529 3 месяца назад
Such a wholesome coffee talk 🫶🏻
@lovecurrant
@lovecurrant 3 месяца назад
Currently 30, about to be 31 in July. As I'm aging, I don't inherently feel any different at the core of who I am. I do, however, feel a lot more grounded, confident, and sure of myself and the decisions that I make. I take myself and my overall health into consideration first always and prioritize myself in ways that I struggled to in my 20s. The 20s are full of firsts, new experiences, and even at 30, I can say I'm still continuing to learn so much in different areas of my life. The key to growing older is to remain open to all the possibilities life has to offer and not set parameters about how our life should be or look like by a certain time. Inner peace and contentment is the goal
@juliabarbosa76
@juliabarbosa76 3 месяца назад
Happy birthday!! ❤
@jasmineamberdarrah
@jasmineamberdarrah 3 месяца назад
We love you Kalyn
@natielitz7499
@natielitz7499 3 месяца назад
Happy 30th birthday Pisces sister!!
@davisamills597
@davisamills597 3 месяца назад
I'm turning 32 and so far, I love my 30s! ❤😊
@eunoiawithalessiamaria
@eunoiawithalessiamaria 3 месяца назад
Yes! The brain is always changing! It's called neuroplasticity and it is absolutely incredible!
@xPrincessJellyfishx
@xPrincessJellyfishx 3 месяца назад
Sometimes I feel like am not enjoying my 20s. I'm 25 now and I've barely had any experiences because I'm low income. I spend most of my time working and the other time I'm resting from how tired I am of always working. I haven't really travelled because I can't afford it, and traveling is my biggest dream. However, I'm not despairing because I know I'm not limited to my 20s to have adventures.
@laurenmelissa6988
@laurenmelissa6988 4 месяца назад
I believe it is the age of 25 when our brains fully mature :) HBD Kalyn! Viewer since 2016
@tzwrtzina
@tzwrtzina Месяц назад
You are so brave that you admitted that!
@mayraviscarroferrer
@mayraviscarroferrer 3 месяца назад
Love you! Thanks you, you've been with me for so long. You keep me company. You make me happy. Even though we've never talked, I truly love you.
@mayraviscarroferrer
@mayraviscarroferrer 3 месяца назад
I'm crying. I'm watching you from Argentina.
@mayraviscarroferrer
@mayraviscarroferrer 3 месяца назад
Thank you for these longer videos
@patriciapires852
@patriciapires852 4 месяца назад
Happy Birthday from Brazil ❤
@haanimely981
@haanimely981 3 месяца назад
Love the tulips so beautoful
@chereamie
@chereamie 3 месяца назад
Just turned 30 at the beginning of February… I was terrified for 2 years. By the time it got here, I almost felt… empowered?? I still can’t pinpoint the exact feeling, but it’s not negative. But it definitely doesn’t feel like I’m 30, lol.
@cassandramichellecoaching
@cassandramichellecoaching 3 месяца назад
ps i am also a marijuana fan, i also agree our bodies prefer plants (or at least mine does). marijuana can be such a double edge sword because if we use it to escape it becomes much more damaging
@LittleLimm
@LittleLimm 3 месяца назад
"Grace agefully" is my new motto
@Priscilla-ir4cb
@Priscilla-ir4cb 3 месяца назад
Grace agefully, a new concept in positive way 😄😊🌸
@chrissyhammerbeck4133
@chrissyhammerbeck4133 3 месяца назад
I am almost 42. My 20s were ok. I met my husband at the end of it. My 30s were fun and my 40s are changing. I fear change. My parents are getting old and they will probably not be around in a few years or so. I may or may not get to see them. As they live in a different state. We have a senior dog. Who is well for now. But I am not looking forward to her not being her. So we will spoil her while we got her. She is 17. I did enjoy your blog and look forward to your books! Please let us know where we can purchase them!
@chrissyhammerbeck4133
@chrissyhammerbeck4133 3 месяца назад
I meant I am not looking forward to her not being here. We will rescue again though.
@jamierego2390
@jamierego2390 3 месяца назад
Would you ever be willing to talk about those big adulting steps discussed around the 17 min time stamp?? I am about to be 24 and i still feel so confused but i do not have a relationship with my mom to teach me these things 😅 btw loved the video it was reassuring that things get better with time
@hettijayne
@hettijayne 4 месяца назад
I’m turning 30 this year 🙈🙈I’m dreading it ngl. & I’ve just started my Saturn return, my dads suddenly passed away. 😢it’s really Rocky rn. Could you do an episode on navigating your Saturn return?
@missemilyaliceb
@missemilyaliceb 3 месяца назад
I'm so sorry for your loss, sending lots of love and peace to you 🩷
@hettijayne
@hettijayne 3 месяца назад
@@missemilyaliceb thank you so so much I really appreciate that 🩷🩷xx
@cassandramichellecoaching
@cassandramichellecoaching 3 месяца назад
will you do an episode about dealing with cringe? i am also a person who… with my heart on my sleeve, tries a lot of things and i have been wondering how to overcome that feeling of cringe.
@manifeststation4740
@manifeststation4740 3 месяца назад
I know you are expecting your second child and are now a mum and that is such a beautiful thing. I am 34 and children just never happened for me. I still hope to be a mum but have no relationship to speak of and honestly don't want to have my first child much later than I am now. I don't know what kind of video it would be and it may seem weird but maybe some kind of video of not giving up hope. I know there must be others like me where it hasn't been a choice
@lena9724
@lena9724 4 месяца назад
Kalyn this is the best video of yours I love it sooo much! As a 26 year old, going into 27, i feel lost often times and find myself wondering about my purpose. Glad to hear that life got better in your 30s. Thank you for this 🧡
@bridgitbianco5593
@bridgitbianco5593 3 месяца назад
Astrid !!!!!!!
@ArtimusArk
@ArtimusArk 3 месяца назад
Soon to be 25 also a fellow Pisces 🐠
@lilnightmare
@lilnightmare 3 месяца назад
You barely look 30 Kay 😅 & pretty sure you'll age gracefully ❤ 30 scare me too... but age is just a number and time is infinite so it doesn't matter.
@mauriceonfilm
@mauriceonfilm 4 месяца назад
Happy Birthday, Kalyn, I truly can't comprehend how much you've motivated me throughout my 20s so far, thank you. ⭐✨🪴
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