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Exactly How To Stop The Emotional Affair 

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What's worse than being in a limerent episode?
Being in a mutual limerent episode, doing the push and pull together. In this video, I will explain to you what to do to get out of its grasp.
I offer personal counseling with a scheduled appointment or on an "emergency" basis.
For my help, please contact me: fennavdberg@hotmail.com
Hello there!
My name is Fenna van den Berg, I am a certified coach and counselor. I have worked in the mental health field for over 25 years.
Having been through episodes of Limerence, I have "earned my stripes" to help others with their recovery. I understand the obsession and suffering of Limerence. My passion is being able to share with you, and all limerents, a guided-way forward on your journey of healing. We do this through discovering and practicing self-love and compassion. As someone who has suffered through limerence, I have developed effective coaching for people with limerence. My Coaching has helped countless have a more purposeful life, and I want to help you. We will work together, so that you may have a life more in line with your values and integrity.
Together, we are blossoming a community of friendly people with the same debilitating feelings and experiences of Limerence. Here, we share with, support, and nurture each other in giving love to ourselves, perhaps for the first time.
When you’re ready to end your pain and suffering from seeking the "Other," I’m here to guide you in recognizing your true lovable self, with compassionate teaching, counseling and also private coaching.
For my help, please contact me: fennavdberg@hotmail.com
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@followingfenna
@followingfenna 8 месяцев назад
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@bye-bye
@bye-bye Год назад
This is going to sound crazy but mutual limerence felt better than anything else I ever experienced. It ended badly and with a lot of pain and I know it was destructive for me and the other person, but I still miss those feelings we had in the first few months. I feel like a part of me will always miss it. It's really scary, I imagine this is what it's like to be addicted to illegal substances
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
It's the absoluut best, at first ..
@kerrymillar1267
@kerrymillar1267 9 месяцев назад
Were there obstacles? Were you both with someone else? It’s hard to hear as the partner of someone that experienced this. Feels like you can’t match up to the hormones and feelings of longing that someone unavailable creates. It’s crazy making.
@kerrymillar1267
@kerrymillar1267 9 месяцев назад
With all due respect this letter makes the writer sound insane. My partner left me for someone that he knew for 4 months and it lasted 3 months with her. I’m still so traumatised by being dragged into this hell on earth. Please anyone feeling this way don’t make rash decisions. It will pass.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 9 месяцев назад
It will pass indeed, unfortunately people don't want to see that.
@DominicOkinawa
@DominicOkinawa 27 дней назад
Thank you again Fenna. This video popped up and I had to rewatch it. I love it and appreciate your support.
@bekanuredin4666
@bekanuredin4666 Год назад
Feelings are not facts; facts are facts. Thanks fenna for another excellent video
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
Thank you so much :).
@DominicOkinawa
@DominicOkinawa 9 месяцев назад
Thank you for the tough love Fenna. This is vital and true.
@robertah2353
@robertah2353 11 месяцев назад
For the past 6 years I’ve experienced limerence towards someone who is in a relationship and ended up getting married. It’s mental self harm/torture- I wish I could turn off my feelings
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 11 месяцев назад
We all wished we could switch off feelings and limerence, hope you will feel better soon.
@mickboyce386
@mickboyce386 11 месяцев назад
Try and find some community work to get the confidence about yourself up so that you don't NEED anyone else but they compliment you. You need some self love.
@Odani_Fam
@Odani_Fam 2 месяца назад
The how old you felt is so spot on!!
@Ciagar
@Ciagar 11 месяцев назад
I wish my husband would have watched this video. We are divorcing....
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 11 месяцев назад
Good luck to you :( 😞
@Ciagar
@Ciagar 11 месяцев назад
Thank you!
@kerrymillar1267
@kerrymillar1267 9 месяцев назад
They don’t listen when they’re in the middle of it anyway. My partner left for someone he knew for 4 months. It lasted less than 3 with her once he was gone. Hope you’re ok.
@deniseblack7253
@deniseblack7253 Год назад
I was waiting for a video on the emotional affair. Thank you.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
You are very welcome
@photonjohnny
@photonjohnny Год назад
Wow. Never realized there was such a thing. Always one sided with me. I will watch your video with a big ???? Romeo and Juliet? The Friar tried to warn "love moderately".
@mariad1151
@mariad1151 11 месяцев назад
Wouldn't "moderate love" be what is called an oxymoron? Is there such a thing as moderate love? Doesn't it sound loathsome? Romeo & Juliet were "star-crossed lovers"--Sounds better than cursed, I guess. I try not to think of the state of limerence as being cursed, so maybe I'll change it to "star-crossed." It's cosmic but not personal.... We'll see🤔
@photonjohnny
@photonjohnny 11 месяцев назад
@@mariad1151 Thank you. I have given up on being able to figure it all out. I do feel strong love but feel sad that is never going to be felt back. 😪
@mariad1151
@mariad1151 11 месяцев назад
@@photonjohnny You took the words right out of my mouth! (Except 10 minutes after I say it, I go back to trying to figure it out again!🤣 Chin up! Best luck, my friend. Hope springs eternal (don't tell Fenna I said that 😆).
@franziskani
@franziskani 9 месяцев назад
Because the fiance of the man under the spell informed the husband of the female under the spell, it became very hard for the long-distance love birds to even have online contact. But that did not help them (much). I guess if the no-contact is not a determination and backed up by insight / conviction - but forced upon them by "circumstances" then the no-contact is of little value. There are countless opportunities to _think_ of the love interest. In a way that was not a self-imposed boundary but another obstacle that intensified the addiction. Likely her husband had put down some firm boundaries and she had to give up a smartphone and had to give him all passwords to her social media accounts. And the fiance on the other side might have had an equally strong grip on her "star-struck" man.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 9 месяцев назад
You are so right, Forced no contact can create a Romeo and Julia effect . Good luck to you!
@Odani_Fam
@Odani_Fam 2 месяца назад
But as a poet, I can say there is more to it. You tap into something very real, the source of which is God. Turn to Him.
@desertrose8182
@desertrose8182 Год назад
That was great video Fenna thank you! I have a problem that I need to test my feelings after going no contact for several months! I saw my LO again after 3 months no contact! It wasn’t enough. I went back to limerence loop but I helped myself to get out from it so fast !! Lesson learned:) I prefer no eye contact nor small talk. I am done!!!
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
Nor small talk! Hurray
@dutchwoman1655
@dutchwoman1655 Год назад
For me and the other it is very painfull, it's killing. But i "prefere" sadness, instead anxiety, unrest, terrible tension.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
I'm so sorry to hear that Dw.
@benjaminquist
@benjaminquist Год назад
Do you think that in an emotinal affair both people have attachment wounds?
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Год назад
Of course I can't answer with no further information but of what I've seen so far is if people are in a very high on hormones relationships they tend to have attachment wounds.
@davegoodyear2774
@davegoodyear2774 Месяц назад
How do I communicate this to my wife and her boss? They didn’t see each for 7 weeks, and then saw each other Friday. He didn’t tell his wife, my wife did tell me, but only because I noticed the difference and pushed… he wants to work on his marriage, my wife has not decided…..
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Месяц назад
I'm so sorry Dave, know that you are not alone. I hope there will be a breaking point where your wife will choose you. Good luck
@franziskani
@franziskani 9 месяцев назад
So they are not in the same country, have never met in person and put their family resp. engagement at risk. And it feels almost impossible for the woman writing the letter to pull out of it. And the male part may not event try to end it.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 9 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing this.
@jenaskye1567
@jenaskye1567 Год назад
I think my husband & his AP are in limerence with eachother... I'm so sad as we may be headed for a legal seperation 😞
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 11 месяцев назад
I'm so sorry to hear this Jena, good luck to you.
@mickboyce386
@mickboyce386 11 месяцев назад
The poor lady has limerence beer googles. The drunkness of limerence hides the truth of why the relationship would not work.
@followingfenna
@followingfenna 11 месяцев назад
Well said Mick! 👏
@mickboyce386
@mickboyce386 11 месяцев назад
@@followingfenna I've seen what this lady is putting both families through. It's a relationship bomb about to go off.
@stella6516
@stella6516 Месяц назад
Does limerence ever lead to something solid?
@followingfenna
@followingfenna Месяц назад
Sometimes but not that often.
@elodiegradlife6904
@elodiegradlife6904 7 месяцев назад
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