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I felt guilty when I threw out my sentimental teddy bear. I remember feeling depressed and guilty for months almost like I betrayed it. I think it sounds a bit silly but it was almost like losing a person or at least a pet.
I have a very hostile inner critic. On the outside most people like me :-) so I admittedly cried listening as I never occurred to me to reframe my inner critic to a cheerleader or support person! Noah, thank you so much. David
Your videos are very helpful to me and I tune in regularly. This one fits especially well. I have had such a even mean inner voice, that I even gave her a mean name at first! After following through your exercise tho, I felt it actually soften just like you said it could! I've given that voice a nicer name now - that feels like healing. Many thanks and blessings. 💖
I wanted to add that I think what you had actually said was that I could first begin to soften my own feelings toward the inner voice, by understanding things about it such as it's effort to provide me with safety. I'll be using this video more - more thanks, j
Wow! I didn't realize how incredibly mean this voice in my head was, until i wrote it down, as you instructed. 'BOB...even told me, daily, i was better off dead. 'I' have told myself that if i can't be PERFECT, and pain-free, I should die. Don't worry, Noah, I'm not in any way suicidal 👍, just shockingly harsh. In fact many things i told myself, in this list, came as a surprise. It's truly amazing what comes out when you write it down. It will probably not surprise you, then, that i live with Chronic migraines and Rheumatoid arthritis, and then some.... Many thanx for this insight, Noah 💕
I hear you. I'm sorry you've had to live with that harsh voice. Those types of voices are much more common than you may realize. I hope this exercise can help to soften that voice a bit.
It basically sounds like all resistance comes down to 2 categories - Our happiness (If this doesn't happen I'll be unhappy) and our morals (If this doesn't happen others will be hurt or I will have acted badly).
I don't know. I don't like to limit possibilities, because then I'm cutting out potential other categories to arise. For me, it's mostly about pain, safety, and love.
I went on a small small rampage yesterday. I got angry at someone and I probably hurt them but today is a new day and I think I can let it go eventually. Thanks for the help.
Hi Noah! I'm unemployed for almost 10 years of my life. Naturally I 'know' I wasted all those time. Somehow the only harsh voice is in myself (not my parents or other) Covid was definitely one factor why i find it comforting to stay unemployed. I don't know why I'm typing this, I haven't figured out my future. I used to be a musician but I don't have the money anymore to even buy/upgrade my instruments. The only safe option is write stories but that seems like another huge task. I hope i become something eventually.
Don't feel bad bro. I haven't worked for years myself. Your value doesn't come from having a job. And remember we work to benefit OURSELVES. If there is no benefit to something, obviously we won't want to do it. For me it's because I'm too sensitive and empathic to hang out in 99% of work envionrments. I even tried starting a coaching business on my own...but the motivation wained very quickly....like I was going againsg the flowç. The truth is I have so much energetic content to process....my sensitive body/mind can''t deal with too much in the 3d at this point. Please don't feel shame. It's ok not to work. Let's normalize it, because it's the socially internalized judgement that causes most conflicnts around this. Take care :)
@@jeanlundi2141 thank you so much for I needed to hear that. Hopefully we are maybe doing the world a favour by not pushing ourselves to mindlessly blend in. But I do believe we must find a resolve still and I guess it'll come in any form, we just have to keep our eyes open. Like I read a comment in another video where this guy just took daycare job and his life was fulfilling as ever.
@@net_lag The resolve is simple and does NOT come in the future. I'm not a believer in "divine timing", I think it's bs. Reality reflects the relation between the energy in you are emitting and the collective. So, if you are going to have money at some point down the line....you are going to have to change your relationship to it in SOME way. Rememeber, there are people out there that never worked a day in their lives that have money. Working and having money are not the same thing. Every advice I could have for you around money has to do with giving yourself leeway BEYOND the way people normally do this area of their lives. Think outside the box. Using my example - i KNOW I can manifest money. I just have resisted it....why? Because at some level I don't believe in the system we have...it creates unfariness. You may also not have mopey. And it's possible....what's the block? The collective. It's like living to 140 years. It's totally possible and relatively easy...but the inertia of OTHER people believing is hard WILL affect you. That's why it's always easier to fit in. Problem is....your soul won't allow you to fit in, because energetically you are differente. It's a bit of a catch 22......which is why we have issues around many things :) I can tell you the FUTURE in terms of evoluton for us is realizing money is not the only form of abundance and DETACHING the value of thigns from moeny, and allowing our behaviour and practices to adjust accordingly. I kinda always wanted to participatte in that....but let me be blunt - I think we won't be ready for a few decades still.....so for all intents an purposes.....you are going to run an uphilll battle resisiting money. You should like your blocks are different. Like you can only think of it coming througha job. Have you ever tried manifesting money? What were your blocks?
@@jeanlundi2141 wow.. I'm lost for words. You've nailed it. I too feel the same about money. However it was never about making money it was about finding my place in society. I did work for about 9 months as a programmer, thinking I would like it but that experience left me traumatized, and then conveniently covid came and now I can't even bother to make a resume even. Anyways thanks again, i need to reread your words of wisdom several times bcz my English is not very strong even though my goal among many others is to write.
Thanks you so much it help , I need it to understand that actually those harsh inside comments are trying to help , the agreement 🤝 is compassion with myself understanding I did the better I could , I can not safe or change no one only myself
Oddly enough, it was easier to forgive myself than it is to forgive everything else. I had times when people or outside world were very much harsh, so now my protection mechanisms keep me from interacting with either. And I don't think there's any way to guarantee that people or world in general will treat you well. I feel stuck. I'm working through it, but so far any changes are little and few.
Hello! I'm from Italy...could you make a video about how to stop COMPARING with other people, please? I've been suffering for a long time. Thanks in advance!
I don't think I will do one specifically on relationships for the time being, but I can make one for how to make difficult decisions from intuition. That would help.
Hi Noah! Do you see much value on using breath work maybe other similar physical exercises combined with techniques like these for enhancing results? Thanks for this
Hi Jordan, from my perspective, there is so much stuck/buried emotional energy in the body that is blocking both our happiness and health. The type of work I share on my channel is limited to what you can become consciously aware of. There are many forms of bodywork out there that can be amazing at releasing stuck/buried emotional energy that is so deeply unconscious you have no idea it's there. Breathwork can be helpful as can many other forms. I have been incredibly helped by bodyworkers over the last 8 years, and I highly recommend bodywork to all who ask (and some who don't :)).
Hi again . I did those exercises .now i have a question . If its possible plz answer it . My problem is this : i have inner anger and it's been with me for along time . I tried lots of ways to fix it but i couldn't . When i'm talking to people my anger reveals and causes me to act so bad toward others . My relationships are getting worse . Plz tell me what can i do for that 💔
it did really help; i didn’t expect that to happen, to be honest. now i’m not sure if it would last, but i’m so grateful to see a change finally in my attitude towards all of my downs. thank you SO much 🤍
