The Root Cause of Codependency - with Solange Beaumont 

Thank you for watching this video! I hope you found it supportive. If you want help with codependency, click here to find out more: www.solangebeaumont.com/healing-codependency If you want to learn more about my work, check out my Instagram here: instagram.com/solange.beaumont

My favourite quote on the topic - "If your happiness depends on anyone or anything, that isn't happiness my dears. That's anxiety, that's tension, that's pressure, that's fear." - Anthony De Mello

Wow Noah, this is amazing! I discovered Solange's RU-vid channel just two days ago from your website and I have been enjoying her videos ever since. Her video about over-productivity not being in my feminine nature really resonated with me. I was so inspired by her video that yesterday I decided I would have a day of just relaxing and not feel guilty about it. By the end of the day I felt more like my old self than ever - I felt rested, youthful, energized, excited for life, rather than the usual burnt out feeling I get when I run around crossing a million things off my list. Thank you for introducing me to Solange, I have subscribed and look forward to hearing more from her. Wishing you both all the very best 😊

Always wonderful to hear your voice, Noah! Great having you back on RU-vid! 💕😊

This video speaks right to what I'm working through at the moment. Thank you Solange. Thank you Noah.

Love your content. You’re gifted and brilliant, Noah

One thing I really learned this past month is - this part of us some traditions call the ego, is really, my very best friend. Everything it does is to protect me. And if there WERE people and methods in my life that had neatly met my needs....that protective ego wouldn't have developed. We mostly reject it and this causes a split. It's more than just nurturing the inner child. It's seeing the intelligence behind this protective ego - were there better blueprints out there, of HOW to tackle things, we wouldn't need the coping mechanis we DO have. But there aren't. Every single "issue" someone out there has, falls under this umbrella; so I can't judge that person. I used to think the problem was with humans down here. No longer. The problem is the setup, the incarnation process and the inane positions most of us are put in. People aren't failing at being loving. They were never given the tools, or the ones they were given are NOT meeting their needs. The ego and all our habits are the only thing taking care of us, in the absence of love from others, and from help from "above."

Very informative. It's great to have clarity on where these problems are coming from, and the resulting behaviour makes a lot of sense

Noah Elkrief: this video is VERY IMPORTANT & INTERESTING for me!

this was soo good! It really resonated and made me reflect on my co-dependency and insecurities. Thanks for sharing Solange and Noah, love you both

Very good and on point. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you 😊 I will definitely check out your channel!

Thanks you guys ❤️

This was very eye-opening for me. I feel like I will get back on the right track with my journey of personal growth. 🙂

very helpful thank you!

A great idea Noah yes Solange addresses the codependency root quite well. I don’t think no parent can meet a child’s need 100% of the time. It’s up to as adults to meet those wounds, fears, and buried desires.

Woohoo 🔥🔥Awesome collab!! ♥️

Thanks need to hear this

Amazing

This explains all the exhaustion i feel every day.

Wow! Thanks. We need one on Narcissism.

It's cool how you are both still on friendly and respectful terms with each other after separating. Not many people would be as mature.

Ty 🙏

It does feel sad though that you guys broke up. I’m curious why

The video was pretty helpful for me except relating it to my own childhood trauma. Any chance that when I am codependent it could be related to experiencing loss in early adulthood? Because that is what I have felt it has stemmed from.

Noah I need your help. Whenever someone sell there ideas or interest to me and the very thing has cause me pain in the pass. Why is it so bad to disagree with them and if I do show interest it feels like I have to become that for them to like me, isn’t this people pleasing I would really like a videos on this or if you can point to one for me I’m really struggling with not offending people from me being authentic. Is it good to be fake so to not offend. My e.g referring to gambling, drugs, being interested in sport in which I’m not anymore there plenty more

I am extremely codependent.I have know it for awhile now.My dad made fun of me and teased me and promised me things from the age of 5 to 61 My so called friend always deserted me and made fun of me and because of my neediness and people pleasing I have no friends.I haven't had a girlfriend and have been celebate for 16 years.Ive been using hard drugs since I was 15.i use them to kill the pain and loneliness.im not going to live till 2023 if I don't find a healthy way of dealing with it.I have severe anxiety and depression.Can you help me please

Wow this videos has brought out some demons for me