Thank you for sharing your experiences, because you are a former foster youth, I respect, elevate and validate your experience above my own as a foster caregiver and adoptive parent (EDIT: adoptive through foster care after TPR/surrender) The thing with foster care and adoption is that there is a lot of grey, almost everything can be specific to that particular case. Among the few "givens" in my opinion are that the goal of foster care is reunification until it's not and that adoption is trauma, the primal wound is real. Thank you for your content.
I am a bio mom, who's only reason my child was removed was due to homelessness. I've always had the means to provide for my child, until I had an unfortunate turn in my health. And had to live on a fixed income, and not have the means to get housing. I know it seems crazy that a home is the only thing stopping reunification, but in my case that's all it is, however, I'm trying to find things from the bio mom's perspective, but all I can find is stuff from the fosters perspective.
I have a dear friend who is a bio mom whose children were reunified and I'm hoping to get an interview with her on my channel soon so stay tuned for that. I know state-by-state it is so different on how much they support biological parents during the process versus not. We've definitely been in places where they seem like they are more pro-reunification than others. I am also former foster youth myself and I know I was fostered in a state where they reunify at every given chance if at all possible. Not all states and counties are like that though, unfortunately. And sometimes even caseworker by caseworker it could be different. I'm so incredibly sorry for what you're going through and my heart is breaking for you. I'll have to share my own struggle with homelessness sometime on this channel... Don't give up!!! I know for at least one of my kiddos they allowed for unification as long as bio mom was willing to go to a shelter. Is that an option in your area?
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This is my current situation. My foster son who is a teen is not able to reunify and he does not want too. He has very strong negative feelings toward his bio family. We are early in the process and we are running the clock at this point. We hope to adopt him. Could you do a follow up video on what happens at a TPR trial?
I am a foster parent and this court date is approaching. They call it a guardianship hearing here. Feeling lots of nervous emotions. I am nervous about how the kids will take the news. They are young so it's hard to explain to them.
Don't say "where have you been" to "family that came out of wood work" because sometimes parents of origin don't tell...or, sometimes social workers have difficulty locating. And some social workers are just lazy about looking for extended family.
I'm not totally sure, but I'm assuming because there is some reason that the parents cannot appeal. It doesn't have to happen but I have heard of it happening.
Needing help Arkansas dhs just allowed Estes visitation to bio mom. We don’t know if anyone is reading our visitation email reports Dhs just changed social workers on us. We are distraught can’t sleep. We’re her aunt and uncle. She’s 6
I'd suggest that if you're concerned that you are not being heard as foster parent that you write a letter to the judge and turn it in to the county clerk. You can also ask if your placement qualifies for CASA to have another voice in the courtroom.
Yes. I am currently in a state that makes you take the stand on adoption day as part of the "norm" here but having adopted in another state too, that's not necessarily the case across the board. Mostly they just asked why we felt like adoption was a good idea for the kids in our home. The only other time I took the stand was with a very difficult case and it was during one of the hearings and I was called to the stand by the parents lawyer (someone they hired themselves). I learned to just be very to the point. Answer the questions as directly as possible. Don't add any information and throw in any opinions (no hearsay). Just be very matter of fact.
@@AnchoredHousehold just be very to the point. Answer what is asked. You couldn't be called to the stand by a caseworker but if they have their own legal representation that lawyer could call you to the stand. In some states CPS has their own lawyers and in some they don't. The only point in calling you to the stand would be so that you can testify. Unless they've told you you may take the stand I wouldn't worry too much about it because It happens less than you think. Generally speaking a foster parent is not going to have a lot of information on why it would not be in the best interest of the child to be reunified with biological parents per say. As far as representing the children usually that's what the caseworker takes the stand for or maybe CASA or the ad litem themselves.
@@gypsyrose8485 I'm so sorry that happening to you. The primary goal of foster care is reunification. It's not the job of the foster parent to blast the biological parents. I know Foster parents who get frustrated because they see the system fail kids in situations where it would be incredibly unsafe for children to reunify with biological parents but that's the job of the judge, lawyers and the case workers to work all that out. Parents have the absolute right to work their services without being throw under the bus.
I'm so, SO sorry to hear this. I know it's incredibly heart breaking. I sincerely hope you are able to keep connections with the adoptive parents and your get updates on the kiddos.
@@purpleprose1315what a terrible and untrue thing to say. Find a different channel to comments on. Some of us are angles helping by kids through worse things than any human should experience
@@NovasRU-vidName Reading through the comments and seeing lots are negative. So Im not off base in mine. I also notice the replies are so defensive, yours included.
@@purpleprose1315 haha yes well I’m very defensive about being called a vulture when I’m trying to do something to help children of abuse and neglect through no fault of their own. Not sure why you’re on this channel if you don’t support foster parents, though I know the system is of course in need of reform! Including not sending children back into dangerous situations, and not taking kids who shouldn’t be taken. Anyway hope you have a good day.
My 16 month old daughter is placed in foster care. She is with my sons closed adoptive parents. I want reunification. they are using the fact they have a Bio-child to their advantage and saying she should just stay there due to this...
While I definitely believe in biological siblings being placed together, I don't think it's fair to say that a child should be removed from their parent (in this case, you) because an adopted parent has another sibling. Usually, from what I've seen, in states where they don't automatically remove siblings after others have been adopted (usually in cases where siblings were born after the previous case was closed), each case is treated individually. Don't feel threatened by what the adoptive parent is saying. You just do your best to work the services laid out before you and make sure you show up to court and all the things you're supposed to do and let that speak for itself.
@@laurenfosters8487 Thank you for your insight and encouragement. My Oldest daughter (whom lives with me) misses her sister. I will not give up faith and my oldest is giving me strength to stay focused in all of this. My son (whom is adopted) His father and I choose closed adoption, and I personally met with them on numerous occasions before placing my son with them. We both were at peace with our decsion and were blessed to make a family. That being said if i wanted adoption for my youngest I wouldve done so at birth. Praying she gets to come home to her blood family whom misses her dearly.
The state will take your child from you if they think you don’t make the money to support the child, and pay people like this $46,000 a year to raise a traumatized children that are removed from parents. CPS lies to the court and to the foster parents about bio parents, convince the removed child that it’s better if they don’t go home, manipulating the child’s into not wanting to go home. “Court approved” is bullshit, per the Safe Family and Adoption Act gives the state federal funds for removed children, so the courts are incentivized monetarily to remove children. 80% of children rescued from child trafficking rings went missing from foster care, the entire industry is designed to support child trafficking rings. It’s called the Juvenile Court Mafia. The judge is the Don, the lawyers are the Capo’s, the CPS workers are the Earners, and parents and children are the victims. Safe Families and Adoption Act puts a bounty on EVERY child’s head just for being a child. The adoption agencies have more lobbyists and the churches behind them so they can put on the facade of benevolence when actually they are making tons of $$ by making orphans out of children that have parents!!!! These people are just confused and have been lied to. Bless them, they think they are doing good things. And I hope they come to see the truth of the industry that they are perpetuating.
When you adopt from foster care there is often a subsidy that comes with the child. As well they usually still have their medical needs paid for by the state.
If you're such an 'advocate' for BIO parents then why don't you show some respect by calling them BIRTH PARENTS. Whoever started using that 'bio parent' term is incredibly ignorant.
@@thomaslopez6518 my bio father was abusive to my mom and manipulative of me. He abused my brother putting his life in threat repeatedly. At some point a step dad came into my life who gave me attention and respect, formed a friendship with me and decided to tell the world I was his daughter. I was over the moon and called him dad going forward while whenever I saw my bio dad I called him by his first name. Procreating doesn't make you a parent my friend, you gotta earn that title :)
@@laurenfosters8487I don’t know how you handle all these comments disrespecting you but try and you Lauren for your content and know that it is so valuable to us ❤❤❤
Lies you guys are loving that money you get from those poor kids....kids aren't money symbols your what's wrong with the system my kids got legaly kidnapped you both are blind I adopted my own son after the courts lied and over exaggerated on my tpr you don't know what those parents went threw......😢😢this world is sad
What a shitty comment. Sorry you have that view. while there are some terrible foster parents, MOST are absolute angles. We take in OTHER PEOPLES KIDS and see them through the worst that humans have to deal with, while knowing they might go back into a shitty situation and break our hearts. Go comment on another channel and leave these heros alone
