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PART 1: Six sisters try to save their broken family after 19 years of disconnection caused by their mother's pattern of lies. (Original air date: May 6, 2017) // Part 2: • Full Episode: Part 2 -...
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@NixG97 3 года назад

No matter how old you get, you never stop crying like the child who was hurt/traumatised

@TheMwendaa 3 года назад

I have felt this, from the depths of my soul. Having grown up witnessing domestic violence growing up. How do you deal with the fact your own parent violated another?

@LateshaRenee 3 года назад

This is the TRUTH. When I started doing shadow work (looking back into my childhood at what hurt me) I used to weep like a toddler. It's the best thing I ever did though

@LateshaRenee 3 года назад

@@girlanonymous I agree to this 1000%

@kawaiisis86 3 года назад

@@girlanonymous I agree 💯 it's only so far you can go when it comes to healing with family. Some things are better off left alone with certain people who are supposed to be 'family'.

@mediaiweb 3 года назад

@@kawaiisis86 Exactly, what am on right now. but have forgiven them though, but still just want to be left alone still. if they need anything, ill be willing, to help that's about it.

@ImWorthy4Real 3 года назад

She gave birth to some Beautiful black woman!! I hope they learn to forgive so they can live in there purpose

@jenniferh.7219 3 года назад

amen

@nreynolds75243 3 года назад

People think forgiving means you want to reconnect. Not necessarily. If the individual is toxic, move on. No need for these persons to be in your life at all. It's their issue, not yours. Also, they may not be toxic but just not a match for what you want out of a relationship, whether its family or not. No explanation needed. Not everyone is going to be friends or close and that's ok. Being civil with one another, if they just so happen cross your path again, is fine.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

YES! i was just saying that. A gorgeous group of sisters🥰

@Lisnist 3 года назад

@@nreynolds75243 Thank you for your thoughts! It was so needed for me! I'm having to learn this right now.

@nreynolds75243 3 года назад

@@Lisnist 😊

@blane6592 3 года назад

Precious can’t even sit without crying! I mean just crying! Poor baby!

@osheasway38 3 года назад

Her heart is literally broken, and has been broken since early childhood. My heart hurts for her.

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

@Jailyn 3 года назад

This show always helps me do some self reflecting.

@Miss_DaniD 3 года назад

Always

@mtr4lyf1991 3 года назад

@ Just Jailyn & Danielle Dixon Same here

@danielle9342 3 года назад

So true

@metcalfhottie6305 3 года назад

me as well

@itssweetiebrandi 3 года назад

Yes I’m so sad it’s over

@lawestphilly 3 года назад

the amount of damage we do to innocent children who didn't ask to be here all because of our horrible upbringings. drugs , abuse, abandonment , molestation , addiction. the cycle must end.

@kayhumph9109 3 года назад

I always say I didn’t ask to be here my raise be like keep saying it and god gon take you outta here smh.....folks noisy wanted they buns done then didn’t want to deal with came after I have no kids @30 and don’t plan on it until god sends a man like him righteous and holy someone who ain’t gon walk out on us smh it’s bad out here You listen to Gino Jennings you outta phill

@brianramirez8970 3 года назад

Preach!

@cjandlayyy6837 3 года назад

@@kayhumph9109 i know thats right🙌🏾👏🏾

@evantheking6218 3 года назад

No one asked to be here

@redc5429 3 года назад

How would you have asked to be here

@katlegomhlauli8423 3 года назад

Am just shocked by how Miss Precious has 7 kids at 29 and she’s in so much pain. I wonder how her pain is manifesting while she parents all her kids

@blackbeautyk6074 3 года назад

Exactly

@missg1727 3 года назад

Right, I bet she's nurturing, loving, attentive, over protective, and hands on with her children. The things she didn't get from her mother she pour into her children, her lack of unconditional from her may even be why she have soo many children. What baffles me is the fact that Alicia gave Precious to the family that molested her as a teenager.... Whhhhhhhhhy?!!

@FavDogBisquit 3 года назад

@@missg1727 COGNITIVE DISSONANCE. 💔

@Tropical442 3 года назад

Not good

@ciku-ciku7194 3 года назад

It’s becomes a toxic vicious cycle. I’m glad they sought help.

@KeepingItRealWithMill 3 года назад

Damn that mama is so cold. The way she greeted her children “mhmmm love you too” Jesus

@HMJM777 3 года назад

Yep I peeped that

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

She disconnected herself to have her freedom but she is very weighed down🤔🤔

@KeepingItRealWithMill 3 года назад

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 100%

@imprsk6729 3 года назад

Agree.... unable to take responsibility thru her own guilt... a sad disconnect with her own children... a very damaged bond.. if at all bond...tons of therapy needed for all of them...

@mrshappilymarried1 2 года назад

Right. Everyone commenting on how good she looks but what about the inside? She's cold and lifeless...

@claireadekanye 3 года назад

"They'll get over it"?!!!!!!! I can't believe that's the first thing the mother said

@zikhonankabi1974 3 года назад

Right?!

@peachesmonty1506 3 года назад

RIGHT! I WAS LIKE WAIT WHAT?????? WOW!!!

@msawmusic 3 года назад

Just know that’s how someone in her life told her cope with her own trauma

@irisesq.6389 3 года назад

That must be my mother's younger sister. She is exactly the same minus the drug problem and giving her child up for adoption. So nothing she says surprises me. Even though I understand my mother must have went through stuff (that she will never say) for her to be so cold it's still hard to live with. I am the sisters. I am still trying though. No expectations. Just trying.

@marygiggetts1492 3 года назад

Yeah. The mom has convinced herself that it’s not important now that her children grown women. What she doesn’t realize is that those girls are stuck at 7 years old trying to function as grown women.....and now they have their own children. Really sad. Years of hurt and dysfunction. There are a Lot of families in the same situation in this world.

@laurenhall878 3 года назад

The mom looks like she could be one of the sisters. Wow!

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

They are ALL so very beautiful, but i bet they don't know it or feel it🥺

@simplygugu 3 года назад

Good genes indeed

@mercywahome38 3 года назад

The mother made sure to put herself first and very selfish

@misspeacelove7395 3 года назад

She´s not that old, her oldest is 35 and I think she had them young. But considering the pain she´s caused her daughters she doesn´t look that good imho

@zaliahjohnson5669 2 года назад

Right she looks so young.

@brandoniswhoiam 3 года назад

“Family means more than people just being related by blood; a family is people who have positive, unconditional regard for one another.” ❤️

@FitnessGirlFun 3 года назад

lol

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

That hit me in my gut😳🤔

@MissGlitterBow 3 года назад

Straight out the gate!

@gideonsplendid5358 3 года назад

@RU-vid breaks The 1st amendment I feel the same way too

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

@lunalove7039 3 года назад

When she held her like a baby.... I felt that... I lost my mother and I wish someone would love on me like that 😢

@tiffanyhooker5734 3 года назад

No harm intended. I hope u experience love and know it’s not like mother love. It’s still love. Long as it doesn’t hurt. Peace

@tamibear7598 3 года назад

I’m sorry you lost your Mother. Sending you a virtual hug❤️

@toxicteezy8310 3 года назад

I just found my sister child after 10 years .. I wanna hold her so tight and feel the love

@MsMoneyonMyMind 3 года назад

I was feeling that same emotion, can still feel the last time I hugged my mom... would give anything to actually feel it again.

@theresasession9230 3 года назад

Me to call lets be Facebook friends.

@mytrollaccount 3 года назад

How the mama look this good after addiction and 6 kids? 😨😨

@belle3055 3 года назад

Genes

@misspeacelove7395 3 года назад

Selfish and she´s only 50

@thelmaigbo8184 3 года назад

It's sad but selfishness will do that.

@yewandeyo 3 года назад

I’m sorry to say it, but we really need to be holding the men accountable here because the mother is only half of this story.

@harmonidanijan1488 3 года назад

its not always men you can;t v\blame a person who wasn;t there for things a mother did hold abusive mothers accountable is what needs to be done

@yewandeyo 3 года назад

harmoni aquino firstly these women suffered child abuse at the hands of MEN. So they can be blamed. The abuse they suffered still holds scars that we can see in their whole spirit. Secondly, a child is produced from a mother and a father, whilst the mother was not great, a father being non existent is also just as damaging because where were you?? If the mother was lacking, then the father should be able to step up and get those kids together. No reason why a 10 year old should be fixing bottles and changing nappies for her mothers kids. Where’s the other parents who is responsible for bringing those babies into the world

@theoreticalviews2939 3 года назад

@@harmonidanijan1488 almost always toxic environments are the products of male construction.

@harmonidanijan1488 3 года назад

@@theoreticalviews2939 no it's not its mentality

@harmonidanijan1488 3 года назад

@@theoreticalviews2939 we can't blame men for our own toxic behaviors

@LateshaRenee 3 года назад

This is why I refuse to have more children until I am sure that I am my BEST self. I have one 10 year old and thank God I'm healing and doing right by her. I still have more work to do. Learning every day.

@abconey1052 3 года назад

When I'm having a sad sad day. I imagine myself sitting in Iyanla Vanzants beautiful lap , crying crying crying , until I fall asleep in a deep slumber 😔

@clairerogers179 3 года назад

Me too!!😭😭😭

@livingnmytruth 3 года назад

Facts

@HMJM777 3 года назад

Awwwww 😔 try putting on uplifting music even if its instrumental. There are RU-vid videos for affirmations for women. Praying for all yall hugs and kisses

@botlhaleradebe7738 3 года назад

I always pretend Iyanla is My Mamma

@rozellamoss3482 3 года назад

@@clairerogers179l

@tisayvette 3 года назад

I can’t get over the fact that she gave her baby to family where she got molested. What in the world? 😡😡😡

@brownsugako7772 3 года назад

That was what I questioned!

@aishaliane 3 года назад

It seems like they're leaving out that the molester is Preccious's father, and instead of the family doing something about it, the dad just took the baby. Just a thought, but it's all a mess.

@xxxtrddy 3 года назад

@@aishaliane the color purple

@elizabrown124 3 года назад

@@aishaliane bingo!! but he's not precious's father, he's Shay's father. She's the one who cried when she found out that her "friend" was her mom's abuser. She was told that he is her father but they left that part off air due to how sensitive the information was.

@oyas_oracle 3 года назад

That part! Thats so scary

@Jailyn 3 года назад

This is therapy for me.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

Yes

@miesha.b8740 3 года назад

Yessss

@brelovesgucci 3 года назад

Me too 💯

@theresasession9230 3 года назад

Me to.

@gideonsplendid5358 3 года назад

@@theresasession9230 me to

@worldsmostmisunderstood8258 3 года назад

The oldest child carries the heaviest load because in our culture the oldest child is the mom in her absence so I can imagine her anger towards the mom because these are your children and a thank you would have been nice or I appreciate you having my back, but when a mother doesn't accept she failed it triggers an anger in a child that would be in her relationship with her partner and friendship, she will shut out everyone because if I don't need my mother I don't need anyone.

@cjandlayyy6837 3 года назад

Ouuuu yes👏🏾

@brelovesgucci 3 года назад

💯

@MsPoppinbottles123 3 года назад

That so true!

@mar69storm 3 года назад

I wish. My older was TRASSSSSH!!!! Lol I did the work

@worldsmostmisunderstood8258 3 года назад

@@mar69storm listen good people can raise their children to be good but the children always choose their path.

@UsernameUnkwn21 3 года назад

The mother rubs me.. she is soo disconnected and dismissive from her kids pain ..the kids apologizing to her while she is originator of their pain

@Jailyn 3 года назад

She disconnected from her own pain.

@UsernameUnkwn21 3 года назад

@@Jailyn I disagree..she is selfish..focuses on herself how she feels..her needs her wants.. superceded her childrens. She had no empathy for her children's pain or the fact they were emotionally stunted BC OF HER.. when she was told to go sit next to Precious she Ran her fat mouth for a 2nd time about how precious is always calling her and yet this is the 1st she is hearing of precious grief as if to dismiss what Precious was feeling held value..

@asaisrael1071 3 года назад

@@UsernameUnkwn21 considering she was molested was an addict and wasn’t raised with her mom... how was she supposed to know how to deal in those situations? Those are taught behaviors. Generational curses.

@UsernameUnkwn21 3 года назад

@@asaisrael1071 molested as a Teen not as a young child..not that it makes a difference BUT brain development of a teen vs a child IS different. SHE HAS NO EMPATHY for her children ..think about that .. she gestated 6 children..after u give birth you are flooded with bonding hormones ..she has NO FEELINGS for the emotions of her children it doesn't matter if she was an addict or molested Now here in the present she has a choice and yet she STILL dismisses their pain

@asaisrael1071 3 года назад

@@UsernameUnkwn21 once in 3rd grade and as a teen. Rewatch, mom needed therapy before addressing the daughters about anything.

@Tpina305 3 года назад

“I didn’t want to be hindered by another baby” - what a horrible thing to say, words MATTER. This is why precious looks so sad and is on the verge of tears from the beginning - I hope that the relationship can be repaired for her sake if not a lot of therapy is needed to undo that abandonment wound. So freaking sad.

@blackbeautyk6074 3 года назад

But she went n have more so she hella wrong

@Tpina305 3 года назад

@K aviv why don’t you watch the episode and then comment? She gave her to family members that abused her - she’s completely irresponsible and a horrible mother. Children shouldn’t be called a hinderance - do better.

@Qeqezwisdom 2 года назад

I will never understand how people can have so many children that they do not want. Why? No wonder shay is so angry and wants nothing to do with her mother. It’s pretty clear that her mother is toxic and callous as hell

@mayancj4050 2 года назад

If she didnt want a baby why she didnt use protection etc. Just bringing kids into the world in an unloving home

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@MB3lls 3 года назад

With all the immense pain Preccious has, I wonder how it affects her parenting to 7 kids? Having 7 kids is difficult for any mother who doesn’t have her disfunctional background so I can’t imagine her and her kids struggle

@mjevans3259 3 года назад

I thought about that too. She carries around a lot of pain and sadness, you can see it in her eyes. Like Iyanla said, there's more to parenting than just being there for your kids, you gotta take care of yourself first. We can only hope that her children aren't carrying the weight of her pain and sadness 😔🙏🏽

@cherh3325 3 года назад

I'm struggling with my emotions while having 1. I could only imagine.

@cherh3325 3 года назад

I think she redirects her pain into love and being busy for her kids... to prove to her mother that she can and her mother should have

@urmamasmamasmama 3 года назад

@@cherh3325 I agree.

@taylorhing3916 3 года назад

I could tell by the picture their life might be difficult

@sisiscastle3573 3 года назад

When I am watching Iyanla I find my self calling out my pain in the name of healing. It happens every time 🥺😫

@Miss_DaniD 3 года назад

Amen. Her show definitely makes you look at yourself in the mirror

@nomsantuli6023 3 года назад

@@Miss_DaniD yep and it hurts 😭😭😭😭

@ginjilla 3 года назад

YES!

@sisiscastle3573 3 года назад

@@Miss_DaniD sis it can be cathartic and scary at the same time.

@sisiscastle3573 3 года назад

@@nomsantuli6023 Badly Queen. Praying for healing as well as my own 🙏🏾

@QueenSugar72 3 года назад

My heart really, really goes out to Preccious. She is hurting so bad. And Shay is numb inside💔

@deborahpinkey1264 3 года назад

"Dumb" or "numb?"

@NayyRoseee_ 3 года назад

@@deborahpinkey1264 numb not dumb‼️

@deborahpinkey1264 3 года назад

@@NayyRoseee_ TY.

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@whoothick 3 года назад

Why would she leave her daughter with the person who abused her? Pray they get the healing they need

@Chrisgyalllll 3 года назад

That part I don't understand, but they did say she was on drugs so it kinda makes sense to her in that moment I think.

@J_K_. 2 года назад

Been looking for this Q.! I would love to know why too!

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@Kali_Ma_ Год назад

cause she was immature and acting out of selfishness since she was a child. if Precious is 29, her mom was 19 with two kids. She had the oldest daughter when she was 15. Clearly no one taught Alicia vital parts of womanhood like love, discernment, & nurturing or how to mother cause she didn’t have one herself. It’s hard to hold her accountable to her ignorance of motherhood since she was a child without a support system or healthy female role models

@honeylamour1 Год назад

He’s the father of Precious and Shay

@stephanieryder6044 3 года назад

7 children at age 29...I can't...imagine...and the picture showed no male/father/husband... Forgiveness is never for the person who hurt us. Forgiveness is for ourselves, the person who is hurt, so that we can move on. Holding on to anger, will kill you, quicker then a physical ailment.

@nimoirene8266 3 года назад

stephanie Ryder very true🙏🙏 God bless you.

@prkzoomin6994 3 года назад

Good Quote, Strong People rarely have an easy Past.

@Melisblessed 3 года назад

I broke down when mom hugged Preccious. She needed that and more.

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@ShavonneSeven Год назад

I agree with Shay. Seeing her and her feelings towards her mother was probably a trigger. Shay tried to greet her with a hug and for Marcia to say “look at Shays hug” is like Marcia pointing out and judging how she greeted her mom. They all have different experiences and different hurts, so Marcia should have minded her business. I woulda popped off too!!

@Queenalika85 Год назад

Mind your business, Young! 😂 I felt that

@abenamansa7150 3 года назад

The way Iyanla held Precious when she was crying 😢....this is the type of regard I love to see for other women

@naomit.s7152 3 года назад

Hearing them laugh from deep in their soul was so beautiful 😍😭

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@photogenic305 3 года назад

The mom is beautiful. Precious cried the entire show. Awwww 😔

@GreatMindsSeekTruth 10 месяцев назад

Right?! I wasn’t expecting her to be so beautiful!

@maudbaabaappiah-nyarko7569 6 месяцев назад

and so young

@candyjamaican 3 года назад

Mama is pretty!!! And all those women are beautiful too. I hope they break the cycle because you can tell they are all hurting and have been through ish. 29 years old with SEVEN kids? SOmething must have happened hence all those silent tears

@mzTayTay17 3 года назад

Some or most were sexually abused😔

@pbmyah9799 3 года назад

I think something happened to her too

@bgurley1998 3 года назад

I was shocked by that too😩

@jessicathompson111 3 года назад

I knew someone 26 with 7.

@leandahigh1671 3 года назад

I don't like the fact that Mommy have her favorites.I can tell by how long she hugged one child longer than the other and with both arms. She have beautiful girls. Mommy need to get humble and stop trying to make those lovely woman understand her because she need to understand them.

@shanyoung8201 3 года назад

She fraud. Prolly cause of the fathers.

@murdahmammiez 4 месяца назад

I dont think she has favorites. I think she knows she ls hurt some more than others. N at least one ofnthem was fathered by her molester

@fallyneprinciotta9058 3 месяца назад

That also pits them against each other. The mom is calculated

@Jersmen_Kay Месяц назад

The one she held the longest is the one she didn't even raise. She gave her to her abuser and probably has alot of regret and guilt but isn't capable of saying that

@helpkelp3595 Месяц назад

@@fallyneprinciotta9058yep! If they attack each other, that draws attention away from herself

@stacyjpoliticscommunityfai359 3 года назад

Tears of joy come to my eyes when I watch Ms Iyanla holds the sisters as if she's mothering her own late daughter. I can see the love that she wishes that she can put on her daughter she instead now gifts it to others.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

Yes, im 1 of those women of would do that if i were on Iyanla. Needing that so much but never got it

@botlhaleradebe7738 3 года назад

Kayshawn I am sending that to you God❤️🙌🏿

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

@@botlhaleradebe7738 ❤💐

@tziporahyisrael7254 3 года назад

Alicia had 6 daughters and sitting there looking bewildered.

@LilJohn2k11 3 года назад

All of these ladies are beautiful, from the oldest sister with the beautiful eyes and locs, to the baby with her cute young self!

@luciayoung8668 3 года назад

This mother don’t take no responsibility🤚🏼

@kamys6133 3 года назад

I can see what Marcia means about Shay. She took that wayyy left for no reason. Her hurt and insecurities are deep rooted. But direct that anger to the right person.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

I agree that was way out of line

@leahl7352 3 года назад

Honestly the Mom pit them against each other...she let Shay have a relationship with her abuser. The Mom created all of this chaos.

@DanaeLaurenTolbert1 3 года назад

Not trying to justify it. But Iyanla got to the root of it. It's misdirected anger because Shay took care of her when mom was out searching for a hit. I hope they continue to get healing.

@ShavonneSeven Год назад

Nah seeing her mom was probably a trigger. Shay did greet her, and for Marcia to say “look at Shays hug” is like judging her reaction to seeing her mom. None of these ladies should judge how they react and feel. I can TOTALLY understand Shay poppin off

@fallyneprinciotta9058 3 месяца назад

@@leahl7352I just wrote this. She does it with little comments and interactions.

@tinathompson2959 3 года назад

I’m the baby of 4. My sista’s & I r so close & love each other. I’m sooooo thankful...our Mom&dad were absolutely the best ❤️thank you JESUS 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@glowuplife 3 года назад

That's beautiful sis. Keep that spirit of gratefulness. I hurt because I'm always the one going to my family only to receive the same cycle and treatment

@gabrielleferguson1626 3 года назад

Did she really just say...”I didn’t want to be hindered by another newborn” 😳😳😳 What an appalling thing to hear from your mother!!

@laurenbarnes1020 2 года назад

Wow…..

@sufundasamuels2313 2 года назад

You know what? I'm surprised that the mother and her daughters are not somewhere in straitjackets...real talk.

@aritalkstech 3 года назад

I felt that when she said women who share nothing but lies. Thanks Iyanla my prayer is that the sisterhood is restored in our community. We are pillars of the community. Imagine a world where every black woman uplifted and encouraged every other black woman. Amen

@janelle_111 3 года назад

Imagine🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ We can all do our part & pray for the ones that can’t

@parisjej 3 года назад

This is why I love my sisterwife my family is toxic and opted for polygamy to build my own family. Some black folks think it’s taboo but I don’t bc it was how we lived before slavery and my sisterwife is my helpmate and my best friend, we live in the same home and share a husband. Her babies are mines and vice versa. Even though we get judgement from self righteous Christian women who’s marriages are falling apart.....our marriage is solid and we have a sisterhood nobody can come in between. She always encourages me and she never gets jealous of my wins. I love my spiritual polygamous family.

@earthreign7128 3 года назад

@@parisjej I loved reading a little bit about your life, I'm glad that you're happy. I wish you all of the happiness in the world and enjoy your life to the fullest sweetie.

@danabrown5397 3 года назад

The world would be in harmony

@parisjej 3 года назад

@@earthreign7128 thank you so much sister 😇

@SomethingNewAMBW 3 года назад

....so contraceptives isn't a thing in this family? birthing children while a person is so broken isn't fair to the child

@gracemunich1476 3 года назад

exactly. These women need to heal. with so many children when do they have time for themselves? Seven kids and only 29? Children need love and attention and feeding, clothing and schooling them plus camp, music lessons, etc is expensive. Seven kids????

@ViVALaKiRAxx 3 года назад

That’s why people need to educate their children on sexual health, knowledge is power and it will protect you.

@NN-fo1xo 3 года назад

Having so many children is not a good idea ! You have to heal first and then build your own family

@nobodyimportant4092 3 года назад

yall realize birth control not free right but i agree it should be free and available discreetly everywhere in low income neighborhoods

@SomethingNewAMBW 3 года назад

@@nobodyimportant4092 yep I sure do, still doesn't change what i said. if she can't afford it then, keep better track if when she's ovulating. and I totally agree. access to contraceptives should be free

@angelica7236 3 года назад

After the 3rd child was "hindering" you "and you gave her up for adoption, why have more ?????? That makes no sense to me

@tabbypanda82 3 года назад

Yeah, that’s what I was wondering 🤔 also

@TreasureChest0806 3 года назад

Drugs baby!

@speakintothemicb 3 года назад

Self-hate doesn't consider healthy behaviors.

@kennedi7111 3 года назад

What she SHOULD have said is that “I gave her up because I (the mom) would have hindered her (the daughter) ” 🤦🏽‍♀️ the mom had no accountability 😬

@jassygot6toeson1foot74 2 года назад

Black familes need to realize that blood don't mean a thing. Some familyy members can be toxic & fatal. It's okay to cut family members off, if they threaten your inner peace. Be blessed

@lynnwilliams8295 3 года назад

Wow 7 kids at 29. God bless her heart. She has a lot on her plate. In the past I would have been judgmental. I’m learning a different way. I hope the good Lord blesses her and her kids and the whole family and they can come together and heal.

@belle3055 3 года назад

Amen

@niyahsmommy42 3 года назад

Amen

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@nicaestelle Год назад

Amen

@tstheloner153 10 месяцев назад

AMEN

@journeyingwithmasego 2 года назад

the mother cleaned up well. she is gorgeous and it’s inherently evident in her daughters.

@finnthehuman7159 3 года назад

I don't think the mom is "cold-hearted", she just never knew how to be a mother and handle all 6 of her daughters. I can tell she is hurting just like her children are. Praying for all of their healing 🙏🏽

@sheed3700 2 года назад

Shay seems so mature and yet so childlike. She's such a gentle soul.

@emiejacktv2889 3 года назад

This woman is filled with knowledge n wisdom... God protect her so she can continually help many more families.. ❤️

@charlesklaric 2 года назад

Absolutely 💯❤️

@gokarengo 3 года назад

The mother is beautiful too

@infodigitalsolutions9369 3 года назад

The long hug with Precious😭😭😭😭

@kamys6133 3 года назад

I wonder why she's ending the show. It's everything free therapy. This is a reality show that needs to stay man!

@naomit.s7152 3 года назад

She said that she doesn't need the bad vibes that comes from being scrutinized because of being a television personality. She's going to still work with families but now they're going to have to pay. She did also say that she's reached the cap of what she can give and it's now the season to replenish herself and go to the new level God is calling her to. I hope after a few years God leads her back to this. She's a treasure.

@kamys6133 3 года назад

@@naomit.s7152 Okay and that I can definitely understand!

@atumnefer 3 года назад

Watching here and there over the last few years and listening to her tell it, she realized that most who reach out for healing now are not coming to heal. They are coming to be seen and or to have someone to abuse for their pains. We cannot expect her to take that. She had taken enough. Many rolled up knowing what she is about and her methodology and when the cameras are on they refuse to participate, cuss her out, and carry on then go on their social media with gripes for likes after and trauma bond over being toxic with followers who are also unhealed and loving it. If this was happening first season OK y'all did not know how it was gonna be and just tried something that ultimately was not for you. Finding your healing path sometimes takes several tries. The fact that they were asking to work with her then behaving as tho they were blindsided and mistreated screams of folk exploiting her and her process at this point cu its been too long she's been at this. She was never for everybody. She did not deserve the hate and being called out her name for tryin to help folk who called out to her tho and so she said she has had enuf. Good. I got tired of seeing her used and dishonored myself.

@ussm6789 3 года назад

I do think shows like this encourages viewers to seek therapy, however, this particular show has a history of doing more harm than good to those featured. This is trauma-tainment and I don't recall Iyanla being a trained, licensed professional counselor. The show needs to either change how they work with the guests or end the show.

@gl5478 3 года назад

@@ussm6789 I believe Iyanla has licensed professionals assisting her when needed.

@a.c.knowsnothing2205 2 года назад

This show is a NIGHTMARE for empaths...... because all you do is absorb the energy and emotions of the guests & CRY YOUR EYES OUT trying to watch it. Lol 🤣🤣

@aviweanita4939 2 года назад

Can I just say this Mother looks 20 years younger.... she's pretty

@crystalhealing9413 3 года назад

the oldest sister is so pretty

@rosemaryfadzayi2185 3 года назад

And natural

@DeeandCeeT 3 года назад

She really is

@bwills3173 2 года назад

Just Stunning! But they all have the same face! These women are just beautiful.

@taylorduvernay9789 3 месяца назад

By far one of the most powerful, educational and eye opening family session. All three parts. Our parents are broken. Not their fault. I hope this family is doing well. I never prayed for anyone more than I prayed for this family ❤.

@Quadcast88 3 года назад

I love Shay and Marcia’s speaking voices. So tender and heartfelt.

@LindaCasey 3 года назад

When your own parents (and theirs and theirs and theirs) are broken too ... they don't know how to give what they don't (and never got) have. We can only be hurt when our own expectations have not been met.

@DaddyzGurlof7 3 года назад

This was one of the best ones she’s done.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

Yes, an iconic episode😯🤔👀🍿☕

@LadeOla 3 года назад

Is it me but the mother is so emotionless

@myahill7475 3 года назад

Wow, the mother is gorgeous I could never imagine she was ever on drugs.

@nishaduggins9132 3 года назад

Frfr I said the same thing

@offtopwitit8857 3 года назад

I think the older sister is so beautiful

@charli3491 3 года назад

The picture of the sister with seven children didn't have a father in the picture. I think black men need to do better by their children. SHE is a great mother, the men need to help her be greater.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

Yes, im sure it plays apart of her abandonment. They are all so beautiful and heart broken a little of encouragement could have changed alot of little black girls lives mine included🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤔

@dominique245 3 года назад

wym by black men

@lanigaston5360 3 года назад

@@dominique245 Black men who have children but aren't taking the proper measures to be good fathers

@dominique245 3 года назад

@@lanigaston5360 like all racial colors

@lanigaston5360 3 года назад

@@dominique245 That's true but its very common in the black community. Deadbeat dads are just as bad as toxic mothers.

@fountainmedia4683 3 года назад

Man, Iyanla simply INCREDIBLE when it comes to restoring and healing wounded families. I wish the show wasn't coming to an end. I mean families need her expertise, wisdom, and guidance.

@KEwashe 3 года назад

Iyanla: Pats Mom on back Iyanla: "NO SHE DIDN'T KNOW!" I'm on the floor.

@theone2n3 3 месяца назад

Fix the broken child within you before you break the child that comes from you

@realascanb222 3 года назад

So much dysfunction between black mothers and daughters. This situation is too common.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

YES! the Pathology is deep Disconnect from the Daughter, Love on yo sons, the motto of the black mother 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤔🤔👀🍿☕

@jazzbush3908 3 года назад

Not really, there are actually many loving and functional black moms...💜

@realascanb222 3 года назад

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 its sad. I pray this generation will be the change we need in our community.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

@@jazzbush3908 we know this

@Misssixty510 3 года назад

Yes it is.

@adrienneb4009 3 года назад

Mom is not taking any responsibility.....far as I've seen

@9548470cm 2 года назад

37:00 In my personal opinion Precious doesn’t owe her mom any apologies and I’m really shocked the mom LET her aplogize smh

@alyssarapp7870 2 года назад

This show helped me realize that my relationship with my mom is not normal. She was very emotionally co-dependent on me as a child/teenager, and I couldn’t even tell her about my friends because she didn’t care to remember their names. (No these are not the only problems) After getting a job at 16 and rarely spending time with her, then discovering this show, it made me resentful towards her. It made it me realize all of the trust and anxiety issues that it gave me. I’m still in the process of forgiving and melding the relationship. Its hard when she doesn’t listen or want to change.

@kattax87 3 года назад

I’ve always hoped for an update on this family.

@konye618 3 года назад

Damn, I hope this helps them to break the generational curse that is holding them all back.

@kayshawnsimmons6822 3 года назад

It has helped open my eyes to the Pathology of my Mom, older sister and myself. Iyanla is therapy 🤓🤔👀🍿☕

@georgiadyer665 3 года назад

This is so hard to watch as a mother, who was never raised by my own mother. So freaking hard!! 😭😭😭

@janelle_111 3 года назад

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@virgo7956 3 года назад

❤

@joannasaadati8810 3 года назад

Sending you love !! My mother raised me from age 5 but she was checked out too 😒

@Hecallsmeprincess 3 года назад

I hear you sis. My mother was there physically, but absent mentally.

@RD-ms9gn 2 года назад

@@Hecallsmeprincess I know what you mean. My mom has mental issues but she refuses therapy and medication.

@killawalez3944 2 года назад

Crazy how you tell your child “I didn’t want to be hindered by a child” and that child one ups you by having 7 children. 😞

@ShayBarnes 3 года назад

Dang thank y’all for FINALLY uploading the full episode! 😂

@cjandlayyy6837 3 года назад

Lmao😂right

@elizabrown124 3 года назад

lmaoo right!! After I done hunted down and watched the bootlegged versions online

@nanaahmed5412 3 месяца назад

Iyanla has to come back; we need updates on EVERY EPISODE!!!

@DR-rt7hh 3 года назад

I feel empathy for their pain. What a courageous group they are. Thank you for sharing your story. It was very humbling. Praying for your continued growth and understanding.

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@queenknyoki5447 3 года назад

When your first born takes your whole face💜👌🏾

@dominiquedominiquepresents3291 3 года назад

I love the way you help people identify triggers 💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎

@hiltonyoung3066 Год назад

I know I'm being petty but "Mind yo business young" is the probably smoothest slick way to put somebody in their place when she referred to her as "young." I never heard it put like that before. But it was so swaggerrifically put. That was pimp-like to me. I loved the way she worded that.

@Queenalika85 Год назад

😂😂😂

@Queenalika85 Год назад

I felt small lol

@dawnkynard5838 3 года назад

Why give your child to the person who molested you? It really was only about her. No concern for the baby.

@paris9474 3 года назад

23:46 the Mom looks good for an ex addict and, I’m assuming near 50.

@456dawnie 3 года назад

She is 50 she looks great .

@Deelifull 3 года назад

It was crack, not meth (the one that make you real old & all of your teeth fall out).

@lailanimessina1473 3 года назад

@@Deelifull crack does the same lol

@Theweezle12 3 года назад

Mom is freaking beautiful... look at how beautiful her skin is. I would've never thought she has ever had a drug habit or have ever drank anything besides water.

@ShadaeMastersAstrology 3 года назад

I’m sorry but this mother just doesn’t have the juice. I’ve never seen a mother so cold and incapable. This episode just makes me hug my children bc there’s just no way even if I was a single mother and struggling that I could have such apathy for my own children. It’s just unbelievable 😥

@mariamakoroma7097 3 года назад

It’s the “you ani’t no virgin for me. I’m so sorry, but that scene was hilarious. I wish them well and to be at peace not in pieces.

@ladylabyrinth6345 3 года назад

My mind is still blown that the mother is 50. She looks like one of the sisters

@throwsomedeez 3 года назад

I think the mom is treating her kids how she was treated. I hope they can all heal and develop a relationship 😩♥️.

@lilbru 10 месяцев назад

Secrets in families & holding in experiences are truly a detriment to healthy growth & happiness in letting go of the trauma & drama. I can see the emptiness, disappointment, numbness, frustration, confusion & the anger in the older sister's eyes...that's unfortunate that she didn't have anybody to trust in & vent to. The cycle of dysfunction & trauma is real. Man this is one of the toughest episodes to watch...watching these are like watching your own family story or those that you know. This shows that no matter how good someone looks or seems like they're doing...you never know the internal struggle they're going thru unless they're willing to confide in you.

@BeInspiredwithWunmiElebute 3 года назад

This is so emotional. I found myself crying watching this episode. I hope the family find peace and let go of the past. Addiction is a terrible thing.

@ciandahebe5692 3 года назад

She is so beautiful I'm shocked she is 50yrs

@gabriellepayton8003 3 года назад

Wow the sister who is 25 and just got of a 6 year prison bid 🥺

@z3nkin 3 года назад

say whaaa?

@TomikaKelly 3 года назад

I couldn't imagine spending that much of my prime in a cage. 💔

@dollarmike7144 3 года назад

6 years 👀

@meghan5631 3 года назад

That means she is a convicted felon at 25 years old . She has her whole life ahead of her . Sad.

@jasmineportis8206 3 года назад

That mean she got locked up at 19.

@jasminemiles5139 3 года назад

“I’m here for your great great GrandMother” Wheew! Someone understand the POWER in this woman’s WORK All Praises

@Jay-tp8ol 3 года назад

This episode has always stayed with me. It was so so heavy. I really wonder how they all are doing.

@blknitenca 3 года назад

Mama got some BOMB genes! For a woman that has lead the life she has, she looks great on the outside.

@dspenderella9671 3 года назад

I'm shocked how young and wrinkle-free their mother's skin still looks after all those years of abusing drugs, running the streets, and having a lot of children. She doesn't look like what she's been through.

@onnie.6815 2 года назад

Cus the scars are on her mind, if you hear her or look at her you can tell it was eating at her

@MsRealitea 2 года назад

@joiletangjones7009 2 года назад

she’s black baby , love this show

@dspenderella9671 2 года назад

@@joiletangjones7009 Right, Blk don't crack unless you use Crack,, but in her case she still looks good. Only time Blk ages bad is when they don't take care of themselves, but there's always exceptions to that too.

@sexysimon1114 Год назад

@@dspenderella9671 🙄

@precioushughley674 3 года назад

Precious pain runs so deep it’s all in her eyes 😩

@brandimichelleakin9940 2 года назад

Shay's whole demeanor changed after Iyanla held her sister in her lap. She became soft and so very respectful. She just needs a Mama. They all do...it's so very sad.

@sheilan6959 3 года назад

I wept for them. And I wept for myself. The depth of pain in me is as deep as the first born. She is me, and I am her.

@craziinancy1 3 года назад

The daughter has a close relationship with a family member who molested the mom. What are the odds she wasn’t also molested? Crazy that she distanced herself from the family but left her child with them.

@Deelifull 3 года назад

The daughter referred to that person a 'really good male friend'.

@craziinancy1 3 года назад

@@Deelifull go watch part 2