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@@MorbidMaximus666 Agreed! But the fact that such a large % of Gen Z is on TikTok makes _me_ feel disconnected from "reality". I've given up trying to ask for explanations when some of my friends reference certain videos or use very specific vocabulary that's predominant in those online spaces. For example, out of nowhere I started to hear words and jokes related to the looksmaxing community. Then I realized it was due to its popularization on TikTok. I remember studying Baudrillard's "hyperreality" concept in my philosophy class and this is exactly what it feels like; a shared reality that feels more real than that based on tangible people and things.
It’s almost like they’re all, like.. Playing a game together as if it’s an inside joke??? They all just go with the same “rules” or whatever when the majority of people.. Don’t do any of that. They’ve created this little fantasy community world together that doesn’t exist outside of tiktok/their social circles. I feel elderly when my friends bring up new “slang” (which, let’s get real, it’s just shortening down phrases until it becomes incomprehensible because I guess people either don’t have the brain capacity to type normal sentences, or they’re just brutally lazy.) I’m always like hUH?????
Yet that shouldn't be a reason to " dump " someone, nor is that fair anyway ... like why are people deciding to jump people anyway, it is childish and sometimes dangerous. I'll tell you now, if I got jumped, I wouldn't be able to defend myself, guess I am a walking ick !! 😂 Now i'm not trying to argue or have a dispute with you in anyway, this is a question everyone should think about : Why should someone have to live in fear, feel as if they're being followed and have to live with that thought of " what if i'm jumped " in the back of their head...
I only have a few ‘Icks’ 1.when people are rude to workers(at restaurants, at stores) 2.when people are rude/disrespectful to special education or disabled people 3.if you are cruel to animals 4.if you don’t clean up after yourself -edit- Let me clarify a few things If an animal is attacking you it’s okay to defend yourself I mean the people who hurt a Defenseless animal Also I mean when we are out and they are being messy ex: throwing trash in ground or if we are at a restaurant and you don’t semi clean up for the waiter (it’s not something that mandatory but that’s how I was raised so I will always do it)
The 'boyfriend hurt' thing actually happened to me. My GF came home and I was on the bathroom floor. I told her I really needed her to call the hospital. She told me to man up. She reluctantly took me to the hospital, then left for a night class. She came back later to the hospital as I was getting wheeled into emergency appendicitis surgery.
That sucks. I could never. Me and My significant other was in an accident back in 2021ish, almost everyday I went to the Hospital, while he was recovering. I felt so bad and guilty, he got hurt the most.
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They weren't raised in stable environments. There is nothing new under the sun. We just proclaim our chaos for the world to see these days. My kids are gen Z. Most of their friends are private.
Gen -Z: we should be free to express our gender, we shouldn't judge people based on gender stereotypes, we need to be free to express ourselves! Also Gen-Z: Here's a very specific list of gender stereotypes people should adhere to.
@@spagheleton its like gen-z is one generalization and aggregation of most narcissist, double-thinking, hypocritical, disingenious, dishonest features collected from all worst features from all prior generations. These are pampered people, they never had life teach them anything
It's a big fat ick when you're so vigilant to find negative things within people or their lives that you have to make a whole ass list based on how inherently negative you are
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@@ville__the literal only video you have posted is you STEPPING on a pride flag cause you couldn’t accept that not all people are like you like that is one of the biggest Ickes someone can have and the fact that you’re 30+ is just😐
THIS! One guy made a post a while back saying along the lines that, "The only thing icks have done is made it negative for people to be human beings and their genuine selves," which I agree. The one and only time I could ever take an ick seriously is if it involves a genuine red flag such as maliciously mistreating friendly restaurant workers.
@@ville__sorry but asperger??? that term was banned bc it was invented by a nazi who experimented autism and discovered autism just to kill it and negsted in society, i will never watch your content you are a troll
“If he celebrates his birthday.” What’s she really saying is “I don’t want to celebrate his birthday and be expected to do anything or get anything for him. His birthday threatens to make a whole day about him instead of me, and this relationship is only for and about me.” Run…run far away from that vampire.
I had to keep my mouth shut when I see men doing laundry because that's the hottest thing possible a guy can do. Tip for men; if she won't date you, simply do your laundry, fold it, she won't date you; she'll marry you.
6:25: I think she’s getting the “ick” because he placed all the clean clothes on the floor. Obviously not defending people like this but I can see how she could be upset. (I personally wouldn’t put my clothes on the ground because I have a pet and it can pick up their fur).
@@vanillapinkfluff3477 WHO TF sees someone putting on sun lotion as a "little thing that annoys them", ick or whatever, or their partner recovering from sepsis and being disabled temporarily?
Not even pet peeves it’s just people being ridiculous. How can seeing your husband recovering from sepsis be something that bothers anyone?! I feel so bad for her spouse, like does she even love him?!
@@HER0_ but fr tho, like this is giving me elementary school nostalgia…getting graded and marked on everything I do? Like what kinda relationship is that??
Nah, there have ALWAYS been people like that. A LOT of cults and religions encourage this sort of behavior as well as there are cultures and sub cultures who encourage this. This isn't new. Marriage just used to be much more forced and divorce non-existent. *And murder a LOT more viable.*
@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty you missed the point. yes they exist even before and nobody said they didnt. what im trying to say is now its becoming the norm for them to be narcissistic.
@@esfsddfsafsasgsdfgsdfg1728 you used to be able to literally own people. You also used to be able to get your wife committed and sterilized for not wanting to sleep with you. *Pedophilia used to not only be legal but systematically enforced via arranged marriages and sexist pseudoscientific religiously back organizations like the Catholic Church.* ****We are NOT the most narcissistic/abusive generation.**** *None of this is new, go and actually READ the shit grown adults in positions of power used to ACTUALLY say unironically.* *Particularly that of wealthy powerful men, royalty or otherwise.* I'm not missing the point, you just don't understand how progress works or how history has played out. I guarantee you, far more vile has not only been spoken BUT legal.
I know! 😂 Like it's fine to say you enjoy being single or that you're gay or whatever. Why are people in relationships with people they can't stand being around? Absolutely bizarre.
It's not weird that people want to be single but hating the other gender is weird unless it's a trauma response then it's understandable but never okay
Gen Z needs to get over their protagonist mentality, cuz y’all don’t know what ‘ick’ even is. I’ve been with my wife for 19 years and at this point there is little we haven’t put each other through. When my wife went into labor with our son, she vomited all over me as I was helping her out of the car at the hospital. I finished getting her inside, wiped off best I could in a bathroom, and stuck around to be my child be born. Once I had a horrific stomach flu and literally shit the bed with both of us in it. She wasn’t even mad, rather she was concerned that I had gotten sick enough that could even happen. Long story short, if you love someone then you learn to deal with the occasional unpleasantness. Or you can just die alone. Whichever 🤷♂️
I think rudeness to anyone for no reason is the saddest thing. Unless it’s life of death you don’t need to be getting upset over that stuff ya know. Self control and compassion are things I look for.
It’s just…. Sad. Society has made everyone so insecure of themselves and developing anxiety. Let it be wearing crocs at a salon to walking out a store with 8 bags of groceries. Seriously, what are the point of icks? If it’s to make people self conscious then it’s working! I’d happily walk out of Starbucks with my favorite drink, not giving a shit what people think! People are losing their mind. Apparently being human is cringe and an ick 🤷🏻♀️
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tbh i thought of icks were small red flags that tend to be bigger problems later down the line. instead it's stupid shit like.... a man drinking his fav drink????? tf??
My ex yelled at me once for never doing anything romantic. The reason is that every romantic thing I did, she called it corny. So I listed all the things she told me were corny and asked her what she wanted me to do. She said come up with something. So I started singing to her (Foreign Tongues Roniit Reimagination by Crywolf; amazing song, would recommend) and she laughed at me. Later that night I cried alone in the bathroom because I didn't know what to do. She broke up with me the next day because she was listening through the door and heard me crying.
You dodged a bullet, but you should’ve dumped her a while ago before she dumped you. She wasn’t into you. If she really wanted you she’d respond to romance. Find a girl who actually likes you.
@@DisposableSupervillainHenchman I should have, but she had me so convinced that I wasn't good enough to get someone else. I was chubby back then and I've never been particularly good looking since physical abuse by my mother left me noticeably disfigured. So my confidence was really low. Always has been. So I stayed thinking I didn't deserve better.
The part about not wanting a girl who drives well strikes me as weird. Imagine you have to get a root canal, and the dentists drug you up so hard you legally can't drive. So you need your girl to drive you home. Do you really want to be in the car with a shit driver at that point?
If someone walks up to you and asks what your biggest ick is, say “going up to people and asking weird personal questions for clout”. Hopefully they’ll stop bothering you.
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Oh my gosh there is a clip of someone doing this (going up to strangers and asking them what they find annoying) and no joke a woman responded, “when people go up to me and ask me weird personal questions when I’m just trying to go to the bathroom” and then she glared at him with daggers in her eyes and it’s the funniest things I’ve ever seen because dude didn’t even pick up on the fact that she was talking about him 😂
@@beligoj0010Did he say that? It's true that most women don't understand what men mean by these words, same way men don't understand what women mean by certain words.
That’s one thing I LOVE about social media. These narcissistic, self-obsessed weirdos that make abusive and terrible partners WILLINGLY out themselves.
It’s not just social media, I had a dude approach me in public, we exchanged phone numbers, I just had to let him talk. He was nice, but he did end up telling on himself after a couple days
Social media was a mistake is more accurate. At this point we should probably just call it something else because it clearly doesn’t encourage socialization at all.
I have things I avoid in a partner, but it is very basic stuff. Like abuse me, or not respecting my bodily autonomy... I'm not going to break up with my fiance for drinking his favorite drink, enjoying something he loves, or following traffic laws... This "Ick" thing is really messed up.
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Wake up guys, it's natural selection. Population control. Who even invented the terms: Gen Z, millennial, boomer, etc., etc.? Idk, maybe I'm being a little bit paranoid. You (I) gotta get back up and be much stronger than this. Be yourself and it'll eventually inspire others to be theirselves. Acknowledging we have a generational problem is one thing, but we cannot keep adding more salt to the already existing gaping wound. Stick to your goals and things will only come naturally.
Find someone who doesn’t have a huge social media presence. It literally solved all the issues for me when finding a girlfriend. If she (or he for the ladies or other men) has got more than 1K followers it’s not gonna end well for you. It never does. Those individuals usually exhibit narcissistic or deluded beliefs and will do anything to chase clout (using you for content sometimes). Stay safe out there folks.
The hospital one made me so enraged. Wanna know what I did when my husband got out of emergency cancer surgery? I helped him get his pain medication, helped him get up the stairs to bed, & got him some snacks & Vernor's for his stomach due to the anesthesia. Heaven forbid I want the person I'm in love with to not be in pain.
@sarahaque1382 Thank you. Luckily it was caught early & even though it was testicular cancer it was the non aggressive form. His chances of it coming back are pretty slim & we're over a year of nothing so far.
@@kristien2010I lost my mom to colon cancer last year. Didn’t leave her side til the very end. I wish you and your husband a long and healthy rest of your lives!
@Elmolovesyou666 I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I'm sure she appreciated not being alone. And thank you very much. So far the prognosis is very good.
I use “ick” when I see someone being discriminatory, not when someone uses the wrong hair spray. Idk if it’s just me but I think mine makes more sense 🔥🔥
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There's a lot of rage bait online, and a lot of people fall for it. Clicks and views are money if you get enough of them. People who SAY that celebrating a birthday or using your turn signal are "icks" are, at best, an infinitesimal minority, and more likely just saying something stupid for the content. I will continue to expect decency from the people I deal with and move on if they can't.
Being turned off by someone trying to avoid causing a potentially fatal car accident and doing the bare minimum of looking out for the wellbeing of themselves and others on the road is absolutely wild.
@@ALUCARDTWILLIGHTexactly. When are men gonna wake up and realise they’re simply attracted to evilness. It’s so obvious, but dudes can’t think outside their little heads 😂
Exactly. I understand having some deal breakers and turn offs but a lot of these "icks" are some ridiculous, judgemental bs that social media and cringe culture has normalized.
It's a vicious cycle. We only see the most shallow, hyper sensationalist people on shit platforms like Tiktok because only they post there, because that's what gets clout. I wouldn't be surprised if most of them were so shallow and forgetful that they forget these icks, or theyd change their mind if they saw the right guy exhibiting the "ick" behavior.
And where and why would a female use the bathroom in front of him without a door? Unless he’s a corrections officer in a women’s prison…. I don’t see how this would be happening.
@@Tonymontanayayo just saying that some woman (like my mom) don't shut the bathroom door even with multiple people within the house, so people like me, my dad, and my brother can see her going if we walk by ahah
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Hi Gen Zers. I'm Gen X, middle aged now. There's nothing wrong with wanting to keep to yourself. Being my age, I can't say I have an "ick" when it comes to anyone, I just don't trust people. If you have a few loyal friends, keep each other close, have each other's backs. Those are few and far in between as you get older. Find a pet, and enjoy the outdoors. Remember everyone, most of the stuff you see like this is for reactions on social media. I feel for your generation at times because you got an uphill battle. Godspeed to you all. Hayley, good stuff. First time seeing a vid from you and had to sub. The basket one cracked me up. The girl never heard the phrase "work smarter, not harder". The skinny twerp with the red flags for girls has me shaking my head because I'll lay money he gets plenty of honey on his stinger. Why is being a good driver a red flag??? Girls if you can drive well, sign me up to be the passenger. I don't want to deal with traffic.
You mean toxic feminity or feminism. Did it escape you that most of the comments were from women aimed at straight men? We can see which ism's and phobia's you think are acceptable.
It’s really not that shocking when you watch their behaviors. They travel in packs. That’s why they all look like the same video game character with a different skin.
@@vikkidonn same with all of the misandry and toxic feminity which is promoted as female empowerment in all media, through education, government and every facet of life. It is always accompanied by blaming men for everything and attacking men and masculinity. Which means you end up with the girls in the first video and not only the Hayley but almost everyone commenting to go easy on them if they even acknowledge they said and did anything wrong. It is as if the maker of this video and most people commenting could be used as examples with all of the females in the video.
"Crash your car at a crossing like a man or I'm leaving you" -some brainlet Wearing seatbelts is apparently an "ick" (I fucking hate that childish term) too. Obviously these people have never seen real footage of the aftermath of a car accident, I'd rather not break most of the bones in my body flying out of a windshield thanks!
It should be the opposite, shouldn’t it? Not using a turn signal should be a red flag, because it shows that the person is inconsiderate of others. A guy who prioritizes his image over the safety of those around him is my new ick, I guess.
It's an "Ick" if a dude drinks a drink that isn't bitter as hell. It's an ick if a dude celebrates a birthday. Its an ick if a dude puts sunscreen on ... So basically, society is getting increasingly mysandronistic.
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yeah I don’t see how people use it and let their children ffs use it. I used to when it came out, and gave it up. it ruins your attention span, makes you feel like shit, and is just annoying to no end. I only now use it to make cute videos of my dog and post nice videos as like a memory catalog, but I’ll never ever scroll on it again. even youtube shorts is better.
@@Gore-Labsit's a bot. It's replying to pretty much every comment it can and on several videos. Same account too. Just report it for spam and ignore it.
And now I know why people can't drive. Thanks TikTok for ruining the road. I never knew people not using blinkers and smashing into other cars at 60 mph was just them trying to avoid "icks" May they rest in peace.
6:22 it’s so sad because he looks so happy and the way he looks at the camera and smiles like “awe babe, you don’t have to film me! i enjoy helping!” and in the corner “new ick unlocked”. Girl i hope he breaks up with you for that, like you must hate your boyfriend to post that 🙄
I really really really hope half of this "icks" are satire... Because... No wonder why boys hate on us😭... These womens are making the men more insecure and self conscious
I feel like “ick” should be a brief moment of hilarious cringe between partners, not a reason to no be with someone. For example, my partner is still learning to dance (we are latino and bro hasn’t developed hips to save his life). He finds it cringe, I find it funny, and we laugh about it. If people aren’t allowed to be imperfect, no one will have a partner ever. While phones aren’t the only issue, social media has ruined our perception of humanity.
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seriously. what human, what human being at all on Earth is perfection? and what is the base definition of perfection? there is none. we are all shaped by our life experiences and the other people we surround ourselves with. we all have different DNA, we all have different preferences and make different choices. social media has made people shallow, and deeply insecure and they mistake that insecurity as confidence. youtube is the only social media I use now. I don’t use tiktok or twitter where the worst of it all lives - once you remove yourself from those things, you live your own life and you see these kinds of things like beauty standards and “icks” and just laugh at the absurdity and shallowness of it all.
Most of these shouldn’t even be noticed, like the guy using the shopping basket. Why would you even have an opinion about that? It’s a shopping basket.
I realize why I like listening to you, my adoptive father was an Aussie, and loved to complain. Listening to an Aussie angrily rant reminds me of family and home. I get it now lmao
As a guy I don't care if something I like is girly, I'm just living my life and I'm not hurting anybody, if any guys (or girls) read this, be yourselves, like what ya like and just enjoy yourselves
Totally agree. As a woman, it doesn’t bother me if a guy has some quote-unquote “girly” hobbies, but it’s really irritating when a guy is overly concerned about *appearing* “masculine,” to the point of refusing to do stuff that he’s arbitrarily labelled as “girly.” So yeah. Be yourself, enjoy what you enjoy. And don’t put other people down for their interests, even if they’re different from yours.
it was not about having good relationship with her father, it was psecifically mentioned that this is about using father as a props for views, likes and attention. And these boys that use "icks" and tiktok unironically despite being obviously over 16 years old, they need some life lesson, because they are bringing shame to men's population. These "icks" is andrew tate level of cr4p
8:18 I once needed a walker and I didn’t get out of my bedroom for DAYS and when I did I WAS SOO proud (I didn’t know it if I was doing it right for a few weeks ) so seeing someone call that an *ick* is giving me an ‘ICK’
As a woman married to a man that actually helps around the house...MARRY HIM OR SOMEONE ELSE WILL! Thats not an ick! Do you know how many guys I've met that refused to do "women's work"? Like they don't dirty the same towels, dishes, and floors I do?!?! WTF!
I was reared by a man who did women's work and men's work in equal measure.. that is, he did what needed doing and so does my mother with both inside and outside work. So I grew up believing men just do housework when it needs doing. BOY WAS I WRONG. If you meet a nice man who doesn't expect you to be his mommy and his naughty nurse and his sexy maid... marry him!!
@@diskonnekt1313 you compare a fckn everyday cleaning dishes, room, clothes yada-yada to let's be honest a once in a while work, what many man actually can't do either cuz not everyone born a fckn Mario or Master Felix!.. Or had a dad. And yes, a guy will come and fix it sooner, but it will be someone who literally earns money from it and knows how to do it quickly and without problems.
@@diskonnekt1313genuinely hilarious for me to read this because i grew up in a household where my dad was a musician and couldn’t do jack related to that, meanwhile my mom grew up on a farm and did literally all the household cleaning, weeding, cooking, laundry, AND the repairs, balancing that with being a nurse from 8am to 5pm. my dad mostly cuts the grass when it comes to household work. but nah. it’s the women who have to be cleaned up after.
Aint nobody wanna date someone who nitpicks their every move 💀🤚 I swear to god if someone told me they got the “ick” because of something I did.. Yeah bro go ahead, leave. I don’t want you or your negativity lololol
What's insane to me is some of them were married. Like... Stop giving these people the time of day. Stop marrying the first person to come along y'all. It ain't worth it if this is what you end up with.
i sincerely think and hope that most "ick" videos people post are satire though it does cringe me out beyond enjoyment. also, loved the subtle rock cd collection flex near the end hehe
Crazy enough, I had a friend who said that a ick for them in people is how they close and open their eyes... and this was when tiktok was still musica.ly
The girl that said “when a man gets hurt and instead of playing it cool he is actually hurt” made my blood boil bc one time at my school two boys were playing soccer and one knocked the air out of the other HE PASSED OUT HOW IS HE SUPPOSED TO “PLAY IT COOL” IF HES BEING SENT TO THE OFFICE AND BLACKED OUT?!
A UFC fighter had his girlfriend (who was also a UFC fighter) break up with him because she watched a match where he was getting his face wailed on so he tapped out. People do just be crazy sometimes.
@@bloodkip9462No way that was the reason she left. Those fists are legally weapons. Borderline the equivalent of being smashed in the face with a baseball bat
I walked for 2 hours on a broken foot after the girl I was with jumped on my back in a pool. Pretty sure I looked like the meme of that dude holding his breath xD
One of the first lists you showed had “has OCD” on it. As a girl who’s been diagnosed with OCD since I was a small child, I’m assuming this girl is the type to think OCD is a cleaning disorder. So if she’s ableist about that, I’d pay good money to see her reaction upon finding out what OCD ACTUALLY is. 💀💀💀
As a a social worker who has worked with people with OCD, and also had an ex-girlfriend who has OCD, you are absolutely correct. OCD is not simply liking your spaces to be clean and organized. OCD is when you have to hit the volume-up button on your phone 8 times while counting to 8 out loud, and then do that 8 times total, and then hold your hand on the volume-up button while counting to 8, 8 times, in your head. It's when you have to touch every surface you walk by, and if you don't do it just right, you have to walk back and start over, and repeat that process again and again until you do it just right.
@@badwolf3618 I’m glad there are people in support systems who understand what OCD is like. It really sucks when you need to educate the grown adults who are supposed to help you when you’re in the state of crisis in your head. Thanks for helping my fellow OCD people out. It makes me glad to know there are people out there preventing the continuation of experiences like mine. ❤️❤️❤️
@@amazingzie378 you're welcome! I have ADHD and very likely Autism as well, which can lead to some amount of obsessive and compulsive behaviors, though it definitely isn't to the same degree as people with OCD. My point is that while I can't fully sympathize, I can partially sympathize. I think a lot of people don't understand the difference between "clinical" dysfunction and "subclinical" dysfunction. Some people have subclinical obsessive and compulsive tendencies, but they are not as severe as those with clinical OCD, and the subclinical people typically have those symptoms as the result of some other issue, or perhaps they are just a more orderly and anxious person. Think of this way: Subclinical - tends towards certain behaviors at mild severity Clinical - almost always does those behaviors at extreme severity Just out of curiosity: have you noticed if certain things make your OCD worse some days more than others? If you hadn't already guessed, the two examples I gave in my original comment were from my ex-girlfriend, and I noticed that her need to touch surfaces was always worse when she was more anxious or stressed out. So if there were days that she was doing that more than normal, I would sit her down and be like "ok honey how ya feeling today?"
@@badwolf3618 I also have ADHD (and also anxiety, depression, trauma, and I wouldn’t be surprised if I had more lol 😭). I don’t know about certain days, but I definitely go through periods of my meds working and then not working. I’ve also started to notice some of my compulsions I had as a toddler and kid have come back in new, more mature I guess forms. When I was a toddler, I would hoard everything in fear that I’d need it and would die if I didn’t have it. When I was a few years old, I saw my dad throw out socks that had holes in them and took them out of my trash can and hid them in my room. Now, it’s more like I keep cardboard or paper stuff in case I can use them to make a crafting pattern or whatnot; I have trouble deciding to throw that specific kind of stuff out. I also had a few instances of scary intrusive thoughts when I was a toddler, but they didn’t happen again until seventh grade (during the Covid lockdown.) This is already a long comment, but I can explain about my experience with intrusive thoughts more if that’s helpful. I’m not the best at noticing patterns of symptoms because my OCD will be all like “what if this is/isn’t actually what happened; what if you forgot this; what if this is wrong and now you’ll get the wrong treatment because you didn’t give this information,” but hopefully I could be of some help.
For me my OCD disorder is basically dirty thoughts or evil thoughts so what I'm always doing when my this OCD symptoms is kicking in is, replacing the "bad" thought ( whatever you want to call it) into a "good one."
I’m so confused by all of this But the laundry one really gets me Literally who is turned OFF when their partner does chores??? I have never heard anyone complain that their husband is too helpful around the house before??? that’s truly such an unhinged opinion I can’t even wrap my head around it
I completely agree. I think it must stem from a deep seeded insecurity that if he’s doing chores, he won’t need them for it, and they must feel like it’s one of the only things they offer or bring to the table in the relationship, so it triggers their abandonment issues or something when they aren’t being literally taken advantaged of in their relationship (but lots of people do what they were taught, so if they grew up in a house where their parents had this dynamic, they are more likely to see it as abnormal when their partner does something that their (possibly toxic) parents didn’t do, like contribute to household chores. If they grew up with a mom who did all the housework, and a father that “brought home the bacon” I can see how that would translate into them feeling threatened (aka ick) when a man displays traditionally feminine roles like housekeeping (But I don’t understand this mentality because I am so happy and thankful every single time my partner helps around the house! Even though I grew up with an absentee father and lived with my grandparents who had pretty traditional gender roles, I still understand the value of a partner that helps split the chores).
Apparently some women do. Had an actress here on TV saying she prevents her husband from doing chores because "it drops her eros". Massive controversy started, even one trad politician attempted to pounce in...
The only thing that annoyed me was he was folding clean laundry on the dirty living room carpet 🤣 but folding the laundry? Probably would have kept my mouth shut
@@gg8264 That means you’re the type of husband who needs a woman to speak up or else you’ll get nothing right 🤷🏻♀️ the guy in the video got it half right. I would have kept my mouth shut at that for sure. Probably rewashed the clothes 🤣
I'm a Gen Z college student, and I can assure you that most of these are just what you see on social media. You won't see these kinds of people in real day to day life. I have been on social media for a while now. At this point, you gotta not take social media too seriously. It's all algorithm. Are there serious issues? Yes. Are some members of our generation toxic? Yeah. But remember, it's all an algorithm on social media. It is ALL about engagements. Especially on Tik Toks and Instagram Reels. That's is where all the toxic wild shit stuff are residing in. RU-vid is more chill. In reality, day to day life, we are pretty cool people. Very likely, you socialize outside of media platforms. You are not going to be seeing these "cringe" media. Though you said you are a "gen z kid" I'm assuming teenage at most. So it's kind of a weird phase. But I can assure you, social media is not a representation of reality. Every day people are pretty chill regardless of whatever generation they are part of.
Nothing is a greater turn-off than listing everything that could possibly dissatisfy or slight you. True love also requires tolerance and compromise, from both sides. If you are not mature enough to deal with this, you are incapable of understanding partnership, and rightfully unworthy of love and compassion from another human being.
Love the way you Australian women speak. Ive always said id love to marry a girl from AU because even if she was nagging away at me at least id enjoy the sound of it a bit more 😂
The dude that said women need to be mute is going to age terribly, you can totally tell. I'm in my 40's and after seeing it happen to so many guys it's easy to see it coming. It's gonna be gnarly. He's in for some rude awakenings in the future.
@Gambit771 yeah there are some very narcissistic and delusional ppl out there of both sexes. And in general men tend to become more attractive with age and experience/skills/provider abilities. This is somewhat a disadvantage for younger guys...but younger guys have things that older guys don't always retain...this happens with women also just a bit different. Women tend to be more "valued"when they are young, where as men tend to gain "value" as they age....not all of course. They have created division between men and women on a scale I have not seen in western culture since medieval times. They would rather us hate each other and not have future generations of our own ancestral lines. Why everyone else but Europeans are recognized as having their own ethnic and culture is ...well disgusting and bigoted.
It’s so sad to see rampant insecurity and lack of compassion in people being out on widely distributed display. I’m so thankful that I did not grow up in these social environments.
16:01 Summary of what he’s saying 😂 If she’s a 1950’s stereotypical women *ICK* but, if she beats some stereotypical expectations like not being a bad driver *ICKKKK*
I MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way
i’m also gen z but i had no idea what an ick was until this video. come to find out it’s just a immature pet peeve. one of my friends often says ick to ppl, including me, but i had no idea what it was lol
My boyfriend drinks his coffee black, recently I learned he also enjoys a macha frapuccino. The former is kinda odd as he prefers sweeter drinks and I'm the beer drinker in our household. He also likes his clothes more orderly folded than I do. He once even reorganized my closet and desk for me. Not only did he set up my vanity for me, he even sat down with me and sorted everything into the drawers. I love my man.
I also live in Australia and the last one was honestly so flabbergasting, it is freaking illegal if you don’t do it, some people can be sent to jail like that but mostly get fined, I thought everyone learnt this but I guess not.
This is so relatable as guy. Because I literally can't do anything without being called gay by men or women. The ickl-ist is also something guys do to with their male friends, it's sooo AnOOyING.
It occurred to me the other day that there's no "masculine" way to push a shopping cart. Is it gay to get groceries? Should I be hunting meat in a back alley? I know it's ridiculous, but the intrusive thoughts are there
Don’t bother worrying about stupid stuff like that. What sane person has that kind of miserable and negative mindset that they have to pick people apart and look into the littles tiniest things people do and rate them on a scale of how desirable you are when you are doing everyday activities? Sure there are big things that everyone thinks are turn offs (and rightfully so) but you’re absolutely a bored and miserable person if you start picking apart and ranking how desirable someone is based off how they put on their socks. Don’t feel hurt or offended with what they’re saying, you’d be miserable being in a relationship with people like this because the deeper root to their misery is that they’re selfish egotistical idiots. It’s extremely selfish to basically constantly be thinking that your partner or the people around you have to always be doing things in a way that YOU find is desirable, and if they don’t then you belittle them and think they’re below you. The world does not revolve around you.
when i was a teenager "that's gay" or some variant was a thing people said but honestly these days it seems like it's even a more negative thing, the thing is i think the girls that are perpetuating this behaviour of what's masculine or "gay" are helping the toxic masculinity movement grow at an exceptional rate. One thing i have noticed is that no matter if you are gay, straight, bi. asexual, if you are a guy that makes music they will say you are gay regardless, even the most "masculine" rappers have a slew of gay allegations against them, like they can be convicted or SA against women and still people are saying "he's gay" as if they don't know how homosexuality works lol
Holy sh*t I’m 16 and the only “ick” I have is people being a-holes Like, is it really that hard to be tolerant? Am I really more mature than these people? Dude there’s no way a guy who still sleeps with a plushie at night is more mature than these people
Its funny they call some of these things icks when its things i yell at my boyfriend TO do xD "PUT ON SUNSCREEN!" "USE YOUR TURN SIGNAL!" "LET ME CELEBRATE YOUR BIRTHDAY!"
Sunscreen, the True source of skin cancer, sunscreen, baby oil, baby powder, lotion, parabens/aluminum, etc. The only thing the sun can do is burn your skin but burns can't cause cancer it'll just age your skin faster, that's it. It's the chemicals that are put on the skin that the body can't rid on it's own that causes cancer, very unnatural highly processed chemicals that the body reacts to, chemicals that sit in the pores and causes the cellular mutation. This is reason people will take detoxification pink salt and/or bentonite clay baths. When I started eating more eggs and beef my skin pretty much stopped burning and could finally tan, and as a redhead that's a big deal.
god imagine if your partner gagged when you drink coffee, turn on your blinkers, experience pain, DOING CHORES SHOP WITH A CART WITH WEELS, HAVE RIGHTS AND GO TO THE FUCKING BATHROOM?! what the fuck is happening to this world.
@@Xychi_x i mean i understand that it can be annoying but if someone behaves certain ways that you dislike or make you "gag" its reasonable to find it as a negative thing.
There’s this group of girls at my school who are always saying that men who use sunscreen are an ‘ick’. We live in New Zealand, one of the biggest causes of death is skin cancer. One of them lived in Aussie until last year, which is also known for burning weather.
The driving thing cracks me up man I’d love to have a girl that not only is a good driver but wants to drive since it’s one of the things I literally hate. Like going on a long trip I don’t want to drive I just want to fall asleep in the back seat and wake up at the destination rather than get a headache from all the motion and stress of dealing with other drivers. Honestly these dudes need to get over that shit
