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I BETTER THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way
Hmm I wonder who, Oh yeah uttp. And the fact that their saying their “30” is even worse, most of us are definitely under 30 and we act more mature then them. Hell they’re being out right hypocrites, and keep telling themselves that they make better content while having zero videos.
@@Lord_Skepticshe seems to think that that was what she was doing to her victims, so the comparison still holds up. Girl can dish it out, but can’t take it.
Even if she didn't say she was a "mean girl" in HS I would know immediately based on how she talks, her hand and face gestures and playing with her hair, I AM in highschool and I can assure you this woman never got out of her highschool "mean girl" phase
@@UTubeTrollPolice298saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
She lacks empathy, and one day, karma is going to get back at her. Imagine if she had a child who came home crying and upset over being bullied. Would she just tell him/her that they "needed" to be bullied?
Ikr I hate people who think just because it was years ago it's not relevant anymore, like yes it is. Like If i kidnapped your mother 4 years ago would you still be traumatized? Yes you would
If she's in Moby Dick and the whale made her lost a leg, she'll never forget about it as well. Bullying not only can cause you unalive or lose a body part in extreme cases, but it can affect you mentally.
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
I agree so much, I was bullied and It made me suicidal and I was so close to starting the opposite of self-care out of stress. (If you get what i mean… you’ll get it.) I still deal with trauma from it to this day.
@@TeaTosti I understand all too well. My daughter went through the same thing. I took her out of school at 15 because the school was absolutely no help, and refused to do anything about her bullies. The principal even tried to blame her..."I'm sure it's a two-way thing, and your daughter is doing something to antagonize them." Uh, no, bullies are bullies, they don't need a reason to bully. I told him that once my daughter was gone, they'd just find a new victim. Luckily, she's doing well now, but it took a long, long time for her to get over what she had been through, and she became pretty much a recluse, and even developed a drinking problem, which she overcame. She's 30 now, and is a healthcare provider, working with people who have dementia or who have suffered catastrophic brain injuries. I wish that people knew, not just how much bullying can hurt at the time, but that there can be very long term effects as well. I hope that you are able to access the help that you need for your trauma, and that you have supportive people around you. Both of those things are so important. ❤️
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
The fact she referenced bullying in k-dramas made my jaw drop. Thing is, there are a few K-Dramas which complied real stories to show the viciousness of Korean bullying, I know certain stories where people are almost killed or disfigured due to bullying. You can’t just say “there are worse things so my actions are justified” Both are terrible, but one being worse changes nothing about the first. Bullying still inflicts so much anxiety….
Exactly and just bc one form of bullying is worse that doesn’t mean that the victim can’t complain abt the bullying they went through. Their bullying was still bad
Hey. Autistic adult here. The awful stuff that happened to me in high school, middle school, elementary school... it all stuck with me. I was made to feel like a freak not only by my peers, but by my teachers. I'm 32 now and it _still_ hasn't gone away. The trauma you go through in those formative years can and _will_ have a permanent effect on your personality.
Abusive parents, like mine, also say the same thing - that they abuse their kids for their kids’ benefit and in order to “toughen them up” so that they can “handle” the world. And the actual statistics prove that bullying and abuse actually makes people do a lot WORSE in life, while abusers and bullies typically do a lot better than their victims. So that self-described mean girl is lying and spinning the truth in order to justify her behavior, which is completely unacceptable. To have C-PTSD from being bullied and abused like me is a literal disability, it’s no joke.
This is also so fucking true because I have friend that literally has he worst adults in life, and I tell you for sure that THAT DID NOT MAKE THEM 'TOUGHEN UP FIR THE REAL WORLD' like stfu they literally caused them to have so so much trauma and depression as well that took a major part of their life now and they are STIL FIGHTING TO THIS DAY. THIS IS SERIOUS the fact that parents and the mean girl said that this was okay NO IT'S NOT you're thinking that it benefits them wig the intention of hurting them without that thought when you hurt them in the first place and you're now thinking it's a good thing? Have you thought real hard about your words before you say them? Both before you say it them or after when you say 'oh this is fine..' and the fact she said that 'oh yeah I just don't think about what I say before saying it okayy' girl no stfu that jus means you dont care about thinking twice causing harm to them and won't keep shit to yourself. Don't ever hurt people not only will it stick to them for a very long it may even be there forever. What you do WILL have an effect on you nothing can excuse any type of abuse or form of bullying whoever thinks like that can get the hell out
gentle parenting prepares them for the real world while teaching them to deal w their feelings etc, toughen up is a shitty abuse style. man up to boys discounts they have feelings and we see how that ends up. sorry you were abused.
Seriously, I’ve been bullied in middle school and it was so bad that it affected my self confidence in high school. It stays with you, just like all abuse.
Jesus, her mannerisms and cadence are still so quintessentially ‘mean girl’. And yes, I’m sure high school does mean nothing to her-she was the one doing the bullying. However, the fact she feels it’s completely useless says a lot about her, I think.
i absolutely hate how she's subtly bullying ppl throughout the video too. As if being a bully in high school wasn't enough, she has to continue to be condescending b/c one person called her out
The false narrative that every bully must have a shitty home life or something going on 'behind the scenes' to bully someone is so stupid. Anyone can be a bully, you just need to be a shitty enough person to bully someone.
Majority of bullies don't have shitty home lives, it's all bullshit to frame them as a victim too and to try to gaslight victims into trying to forget their actions and continue being their "toys".
It is BRUTALLY ironic that she defended bullying, got ratioed, then took down her social media presence 💀. Almost as if she didn't like being bullied ... the cognitive dissonance in today's society is WILD.
“I was going through a lot” girl I was going through my parents getting divorced, getting out of an ab*sive parents home, and trying to work through that, and I was never ever mean to anyone
literally, like i truly hope she never gets a partner or has kids, living a life with such a nonchalantly sociopathically selfish person would be hell on earth
if people who were bullies keep the same attitude as adults, they either end up with no friends... or a circle of friends who are just as two faced as they are.. (ie no real friends).. or in most situations sooner or later they bully the wrong person and they end up being attacked or at the recieving end of a lawsuit. Karma has a way of catching up with people if they dont change.
@@elegantrebel Or they go on to be bullies in the work place, and to their partners, and to their kids, and to anyone else they deem lesser than them. Remember recently there was a video that emerged of a former Obama official harassing a food vendor on the streets of New York City? This guy was obviously at least in his 60s, but a lot of his mannerisms and the way he spoke to the vendor reminded me of how the bullies in my school treated me and any of their other targets. He's what bullies who never grow out of it end up being.
I wonder if she expanded her social circle after high school considering how most of the real world doesn't approve of the whole "bullying nerds makes me cool" schtick. Or if she bullied her 'friends' for growing past high school and now has no one
So many bullies forget what they do to their victims and think "oh since I forgot it must not have been that bad." The axe forgets the tree remembers. Also i find it hilarious that it took ONE person to comment smth and this girl is like "oh everyone who thinks of their bullies is stuck in the past." As if trying to shame anyone else that's thinking of stating similar things.
“It’s been 4 years! Move on🙄” See here’s the thing, To the person you were bullying, you were the main source of their anxiety, insecurities, and unwillingness to come to school. To you, It was just mild teasing towards a stranger. Another thing that may prevent people from just “moving on” is the fact that they literally never get Justice. Schools don’t take bullying seriously and the abuser often gets away with it.
I BETTER THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way
@@NearsightedNarhwal It's been way longer than 4 years since high school for me and I've been reading books on the subject (guess why!). There's been actual studies showing that bullying often affects people for life. There are people in their 40s, 50s, 60s who are still affected by having been bullied in school. There's some recent studies showing that it actually alters your brain function. It's not a joke, it's not for your own good to toughen you up, and a lot of the time you can't just get over it. It does lasting damage to a person.
@@sandpiperr Totally true. I ended up having to go to the funerals of a few of my friends thanks to bullying. And I still suffer depression, ptsd and I got a blatant paranoia about anyone that approaches me or behaves like a normal respectful human being. If I can't control the situation I will think someone is against me and I gotta cut ties for my own safety because I don't wanna be the next person in a casket. My therapist says the hyper vigilance is also more prominent cause I got autism and I can't tell when people fake behaviour or are genuine, honestly I can't really read body language in general or understand intonation. So the anxiety there got worse rather than better. And worse is that for me the biggest blow never came from people my own age because thanks to my autism I thought being bullied was normal. No, the biggest blow came when adults started to disregard me because nobody with autism can study psychology and succeed. So even when I got the highest grades in my class, I was told to move courses to something more on my intelligence level. Because I didn't get a perfect grade.
Exactly, she shamed people who remind their trauma but she was so triggered by 1 negative comment that she had to do a tiktok abt 🤣. As if it was the 1st time in life someone hold her accountable.
I could barely watch her video, from her horrible words to the constant hair flipping - I always try not to judge people but I strongly dislike her and that terrible video
I was bullied all through school. I’m 52; I still remember. It DOES stick with you. Some people handle it better than others, but the feelings never completely go away.
this woman has an insane ego if she thinks she's helping people by bullying them. i was bullied since i was 7, 10 years later every single year of it still affects me. it's not dwelling on the past, it's called trauma.
Seriously! I was bullied for 9 years straight and all it’s done is make me overly sensitive. Bullying hasn’t helped me any more than stubbing my toe has.
Yup. Been bullied almost every single year from grade 1-12 (on top of being abused at home) and all it's given me is C-PTSD, Depression, anxiety, syicidal ideations, and RSD. Also didn't graduate because the bullying and trauma were so bad that the only way for me to literally SURVIVE was to skip school a lot. So it doesn't just affect your mental health, it literally affects your grades and can actually make you unfit for work and lower your career/job prospects. Bullying literally ruined my entire life so thanks for that, assholes. I just love being stuck on permanent disability and not being able to work due to extreme trauma, C-PTSD, etc. 🥰
@@vanniquevictory 🫶🏻 thank you and yeah I'm in a better place now. I've been through a bit of therapy sporadically (only when it's covered by disability, but you only get like 6 sessions and then have to go back on a really long wait list) and have had a lot of personal growth and learning. It won't change the past ofc but I've learned a lot of how to be more gentle and compassionate with myself and feel like I'm finally getting to a real place of self-acceptance (at least half of the time anyway). :)
She travelled for almost four years? Penny to the pound: mummy and daddy got money. Nobody coming straight out of high school is paying to travel. Unless she work/travelled.
Im not trying to defend what this person said, but I did know a person who did that who did not have money from their parents. They worked as a bartender and traveled for years. This was not that long ago, either. If you don’t mind staying in a hostel, you can backpack through Europe cheaper than you think.
I was bullied in elementary school and middle school with it being the worst during junior high. It built up to me shoving one of my bullies so hard he broke a table from how hard he landed. Years later, someone on discord is talking about wanting to bring bullying back. I said it shouldn't and talked about my experiences. He said "The fact you stood up for yourself literally proves bullying works". The stupidity was unfathomable
Bullying contributed to how severe my cptsd developed. Imagine being chronically neglected at home, abused at home... then abused at school? I couldn't escape it. I didn't need any of the bullying i was subjected too at school. I had it hard enough
I’m very sorry you experienced that. ❤ I have an anxiety that gets worse when I’m at school. People bullying me for the way I dressed or acted definitely did not “toughen me up.” It just made my anxiety worse, and made me hate school and myself.
I hope you’re healthy and doing well this life can get difficult and frustrating and I understand the silent pain you went through I was depressed through most of my adolescence years and from what I’ve gained from it was definitely wisdom but I also lost opportunities and social aspects you know this life is all about priorities whatever you put on the frontline is what’s going to matter and what you’ll get the most results on I hope you learn something from that pain and understand that no matter how difficult things get you can look for hope because you matter no one can tell you otherwise you’re reading this comment for a reason your life has been coming to this moment and reading this comment I hope you take it seriously because it’ll change your life if you do nothing in this world is by accident it was all designed and the reason why you matter so much is because everything you do in this life has consequences everyone will be held accountable once they die and what humans see as good and bad isn’t as simple as how accurate morality stands there are standards for this world we can’t escape our morality or time for a reason why would we exist just to die wouldn’t it make sense for us to live forever if we were made with purpose? yeah we were but we committed immortality by the standards of the creator and by that we faced the consequences God wants you to listen to this message you don’t know when you’ll die and your life means a lot to him please let your past be healed by him and listen to him when you have a relationship with his son repent and believe with all of your heart he died for our sins and rose from the dead defeating death nothing in this world matters more than Jesus he will solve all of your problems and be there when you need him every single second of your life things in the world are changing for the worst it’s a scary time to be alive but listen to this message as a warning the future is dark and you don’t want to face it without Jesus do what I say and you will be fine and have clarity don’t put this off things are changing soon and by then it’ll be too late 🕊️🌎
Bullies basically pick on you if you stand out literally in any way so I don't see how it helps, for example, autistic ppl or ppl with unconventional appearance to "do better in life" it just worsens the issues 99% the time
I was bullied on PE bc I wasn't good at team sports due to health issues. When I started daily work out and became better than the other girls they couldn't stand it and the harassment was intolerable. I got doctor's leave. You can't avoid bullying by "doing better", bullies will always hate you. I still have huge trauma after 10 years and I feel if I am not the strongest and most athletic I am unlovable and burden to people.
I genuinely don't think she understands just how much bullying can fuck someone up. I was bullied my entire time at school (I'm technically still in school but now I'm homeschooled). I can't cry more then like- 4 tears anymore because I'd get bullied for it. I tried to unalive myself at 9 years old because of it. I got expelled when I fought back. It might as well have destroyed my life and she needs to realise that.
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
At this point, TikTok needs to just be taken down. All these grown people on there are just so insufferable and their actions are just sick. Seriously, at this point I have NO hope whatsoever for these type of people. It’s disgusting, really.
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
Not her saying "bullying can give you more confidence in yourself" like no girl its quite the opposite.. And then she tries to deflect her own bullying on to ones in K DRAMAS??? HELLO??
I’ve seen so many mean girls who think they way they act is iconic or funny. No. You’re not iconic. You’re not “brutally honest and other people can handle it.” You’re just an asshole
Adults are bullied in the workplace every day. Some of those adults who are bullied are so affected that they unal*ve themselves. In real life. My cousin took his own life after being bullied at his job. Unfortunately it happens to many others, every single year. This is NOT just a children's problem. Adults everywhere are seriously affected by bullying every single day. We've gotta stop it. Bystanders need to START SAYING SOMETHING if they see someone at their job or at their school being bullied. Part of the problem is bystanders doing nothing. Start speaking out against it if you are seeing it. Anywhere. Any age.
The problem is when those bullies have more power over you and they have some connections that allow them to get away with anything they do to others. Therefore, if you try to report them or speak out, your life is also threatened and you may lose your job and stuff.
Bullying is helpful!? It's clear this woman has never read a psychology book. I guess she didn't read those on any of her travels or when she was learning those precious life lessons...
It is, I had a crush on this friend of mine but he "bullied" me in a sense by insulting me and saying no one would love me, a while later and I've successfully suppressed my feelings for him and we're friends now lol❤
@@divine555 Damn... You got gaslighted so bad. Why are you staying friends with someone that obviously never cared about you if they belittle you and disregard your feelings, to the point of saying you're unworthy of love? I've been in a similar situation several years ago, had just changed schools because of bullying and saw this girl alone. Decided to become friends with her since i thought nobody deserved to be left alone (like i had been). She then proceeded to belittle me and my taste in music, would tell me to shut it just so she could sing, almost walked over a drawing and when i told her to be careful, she'd start trying to hit and kick me. Was never reliable for projects or anything school related, nor sending lessons when i was sick. Then would cry and try to defend herself when i confronted her because she didn't want to admit to herself she was wrong (because a group of people excluded her due to a misunderstanding and she took it as bullying, while never questionning herself about was she was doing to me). People like her are never someone you could count on. Crossed paths with her years later, she's still just as bad and careless about others but she hides it more, and refuses to aknowledge what she did. Her then and current friends are exactly like i was, though they're starting to leave her now that they're getting to meet better people and see how bad she is. Please find yourself someone better, you deserve an actual friend that genuinely cares about you.
Well said Hayley. I'm 51 and could still name the mean girls from school and this lassie thinks folk forget in 4 years. It means nothing to her but had a big impact on her victims. I think a lot of influencers were mean girls, you know how you just get that vibe.
In middle school, I was super mean to my old friends (that I had in elementary school). I was really passive aggressive and overall rude. I was depressed and was jealous of them-I didn’t understand why they got to be happy and I didn’t. When I got to high school, I profusely apologized. “I had a lot going on,” isn’t an excuse.
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 saying you make better content is an objective statement and opinion. Stop spamming the comments and allow your content to speak for itself. Nothing wrong with making a singular comme t yourself and asking people to check out your work, but to put down the creator who's RU-vid channel you're spamming is just rude and lazy. Do you tgibj that will encourage anybody to click, and even if they do, do you really want that to be people's first opinion of you?
I was bullied my hole childhood, and it gave me severe stress, depression and anxiety (ptsd). I have lived most of my grown life in isolation, i have had a severe alcohol abuse, because it was the only way i could leave the house. Im 34 now, i been alcohol free for 3years and im in therapy for anxiety, stress and depression. I will get better, but i will never forget.
As someone who was bullied out of theater by my "friends" while I was literally fresh out of the hospital after three months and in hospital homebound school so theater was the only normal/fun thing in my life. The amount of trauma I received still haunts me, and this was 5 years ago. Also, people rarely change that much as adults because the petty bullying still happens everywhere
As a high schooler who was bullied and sexually bullied in middle school that this person is so wrong it’s not even funny because even when u stick up for yourself the school system does nothing to help.
Same! As an adult, if I talk about how I was sexually harassed starting in 5th grade all the way through 7th grade, people roll their eyes and say that was just bullying and I'm being dramatic. However, what happened to me...if it happened to an adult woman in the work place, or the gym, or anywhere no one would argue that it's not sexual harassment! We take sexual abuse of children (as in being groomed or molested) seriously but not sexual harassment and I don't know why!
man, YEAH.. i had a guy in middle school (my first year at a public school ever btw) who would always get in my space and never leave me alone EVER and finally i told my math teacher about it and she pulled the 'boys will be boys' card.. later, in that same math class, he was trying to touch my legs and i ended up punching him in the chin......! he didnt bother me after that and nobody even noticed it so a win all around i guess.. but theres a serious issue with adults, ESPECIALLY SCHOOL STAFF/TEACHERS, not believing kids when serious shits happening to them..
@@daft_j true, i wanted to be popular and thats the only reason i started bullying. became friends with the girl after i realized she did nothing wrong and i was just trying to fit in. i finally found my own group where i didnt have to act different to be included
I was bullied the entire time I was in school, preschool to senior year. The bullying slowly transformed over the years from mean names and threats to social isolation. On my senior trip I had a mental breakdown in my hotel room because everyone else was together doing a fun activity while I was left alone and had no idea they were they were planning anything. Even though I graduated 6 years ago, I still have nightmares about being in school and sometimes wake up crying. School turned me from a happy go lucky kid to a severely anxious and severely depressed adult.
As someone who was TERRIFIED to leave home and had really bad anxiety attacks to the point I couldn’t go to school until the person that bullied me got expelled and my whole grade moved on, she deserves the backlash she got. She actually doesn’t know how bad it can be. Even though it all happened last year I still cannot stand large groups because they always came in large groups. If she experienced a FRACTION of what I’ve gone through she wouldn’t be saying anything.
i disagree. I used to know a kid who was a massive bully at school. We didnt know it at the time but he was being abused and beaten at home.. His actions at school were his 14 year old self acting out and doing the same thing to others that his parents did to him. He was a bully BECAUSE bullying had been normalized in his household. In his 20s he got therapy and ended that cycle of abuse. Hes now 50 and the nicest person youd ever meet.
@@elegantrebel If that's true I'm guessing his attitude is "what I did was wrong, and I'm sorry" not "it's been years, get over it!" THAT is the difference!
A "sociopath" is someone who was traumatized to the point of loosing emotional empathy to self preserve. They can be good people, they just have little emotional empathy and instead use rational empathy. This is obviously far from her case seeing her cowardness and reaction to the backlash, plus seeing how she never mentioned being traumatized herself. Sociopaths are better than her, please avoid using medical terms to refer POS or it just gives the diagnosis a terrible reputation.
I am a teenager from the UK who is now homeschooled due to how horrible the bullying at my secondary school was (and its only been like 2 years since then). I have autism and due to the stuff I did because of that (I had a bad habit of talking about the stuff I liked, and unfortunately my interests were seen as "weird" by the "cool kids", I also stimmed, got upset when it was too loud and often liked being alone, all of these things made me a target, I'm also a guy and I'm not traditionally masculine, here in the UK majority of the boys LOVE football, but I don't really have much interest in it cause the only sports I have an interest in are tennis and dodgeball, and even then I prefer other outdoor health activities like just going on a calming walk, because of that I got made fun of for being a "sissy") The kids would mostly verbally bully me though it would get physical sometimes (trying to steal my school supplies and trying to trip me over in the hallway) at first I tried to ignore it but it just got worse, the kids would be saying some awful things about me and they would spread rumours that they knew 100% weren't true, someone once said I watched dirty anime material (which I didn't, not only am I not attracted to that I also believe I'm too young to be watching that stuff and it could affect my developing brain) just because a lot of my interests were animes and manga They'd also constantly call me a r*tard which is a very horrible word to call an autistic person, and they'd tell me to off myself, and while I mentioned before it thankfully didn't get that physical they'd also threaten to "jump me" after school, which of course that never happened but I was terrified When the girl in the video said "if you're being bullied you just need to be more confident and start standing up for yourself" I got super angry, its not that easy, I tried to tell the kids to stop, I tried telling the heads of year, I tried telling my Mum whom called the school, I tried insulting them back, I tried to be more confident in my interests, hobbies and appearance, I really did try yet nothing changed, the teachers at school did nothing even after my Mum called them, the kids never stopped when I told them it was affecting my life and they'd just laugh when I tried to insult them back, and when I tried to be more confident the kids would just tear me back down again Not only was the bullying giving me bad mental health, it was also giving me violent thoughts, I thought that maybe if I became violent and hurt them kids they'd be scared of me and stop, I had fantasies of beating them up in front of the whole school and humiliating them like they did to me, it got to the point where I actually punched one of them at some point, that specific bully stopped making fun of me but none of the others did and after that I was too scared to be violent with those kids because I didn't want the adults in my life to think I was a troubled deliquent or being sent to a juvenile place Eventually I was put into home schooling because it was to the point where I was suicidal (and also some things to do with my autism which I wont get into). Most kids who are victims of bullying aren't so lucky though, they have to deal with this throughout their whole school lives and majority of them don't even have parents who care enough to take action and call the school let alone get them homeschooling. Everday thousands, millions of kids in schools all over the world are bullied to the point where they want to end their own lives, my heart goes out to you if you are being or have been bullied, please stay strong ❤
In the US, (more specifically in Memphis, TN) parents would try to bring a gun to school or kids nowadays shoot each other with guns. The other day my sister witness a group fight by the 13%. I'm starting avoid seeing the news so this may had happened around the US.
You honestly seem like such a strong and intelligent person, I wish you well! I punched the shit out of my bullies too, even if it got me in some trouble. Worth it, as they never would get into any trouble for bullying otherwise. You're definitely the better person for just doing it once, lol.
I had a tough time at school (also from the UK) and ended up being homeschooled. I hope you now have space to begin to heal. You’re clearly extremely self aware and some adults lack that, you have the tools to begin the next chapter of your life and it can get better. I’m glad you got away from that school, everything you’ve done so far has taken immense courage and you should be proud of yourself. Wishing you the best ❤
Lemme say this as someone who was bullied: I was bullied three years ago by a girl and that shit still affects me TO THIS DAY. She has not changed nor has she made an effort to change. She used the exact same excuse as the girl in this video that she was "gOiNg ThRoUgH a LoT" and this girl was spoiled rotten. She was allowed to throw parties, she was everyone's friend and she got everything she wanted on a silver platter and then two weeks ago she said that I made her life a living hell and I "traumatised her" by venting to my friends about these experiences that I was going through while dealing on top of a shitty home life. These people really are all the same and deserve the same level of respect they show other people.
I was horribly bullied in high school...to a point i attempted to unalive myself twice...over 23 years ago and it still affects me to this day. When she said...dont take it too personal...and people are too soft...it takes tremendous courage and strength to get up day after day to be abused...day after day Love the fact that the internet gave her just a taste of what its like... Love that for her
I’m 67 years old & still remember how horribly I was treated in high school. Obviously I don’t think about it daily. However after a rough start I went on to have a good career, a husband & actual friends. I try always to be kind to people ❤
i hate bullies being bullied growing up really messes with you throughout your life and people only say 'im just being honest' 'its just dark humor' 'don't be so sensitive' when they're being mean as an excuse to be mean without getting backlash. also everyone thinks 'people should be bullied' until it's them :/
AS SOMEONE WHO WAS BULLIED HER ENTIRE LIFE, WTF. WHY WOULD WE WANT KIDS TO BE BULLIED BECAUSE OF THAT, I DO NOT GO OUT ANYMORE OR TALK TO PEOPLE Sorry for the caps
As a person who went through so much bullying in elementary school people think "it was years ago-why do you still remember?" *It's because what happened years ago had such an effect on me to the point where I have so many insecurities about myself that when I try to overcome them the things from years ago resurface* so it just proves bulling isn't ok, school make it look like they care about stopping bullying but the second a lawsuit came up they play dumb and victim
I was kind of a bully too when I was young (about 9-10) and I feel like I matured way more than her in those 4 years that passed since I was a „mean girl“,because I can actually say that what I did was not justified and apologised to most people I bullied when I had the opportunity to.The fact that a 14 year old can take more accountability for her actions says A LOT about her
And even then it’s like you were an immature elementary student vs a girl who’s able to drive and is inherently more mature. Like bruh imagine being in your 20s and unironically thinking that bullying is good
And also while you were clearly in the wrong and bullying is never okay, I think there is a big difference between being a bully at 9-10 and being a bully as a late teen/in your early twenties. When you're 9-10 you just have a lack of maturity and mabey knowledge on what bullying actually is and what the consequences are but as a 13+ year old person you're just an a-hole
"If you're still focused on me in highschool then you clearly have no purpose in my life".. "These people literally mean 0 to me now".. SHE MAKES A VIDEO TALKING ABOUT ( HERSELF) IN HIGHSCHOOL AND TALKING ABOUT (THESE PEOPLE) !!🤷♀️👏
She thinks that bullying is something that needs to happen, I bet the “bullying” she experienced was like ppl saying her hair looked weird or something.
I'm going to be 34 this year. I'm autistic, and this was pretty obvious to my peers. I STILL feel the emotional damage bullying left on me. I still feel my hair getting grabbed and pulled in the direction they wanted me to walk. I still smell the rotten milk cartons dumped on me. I still flinch when someone approaches me with thier hand up like a hi-5 because I'm expecting it to slap me hard. I still feel nervous when people watch me draw because I've had my art ripped out of my sight and crumpled, then spit on and thrown back at me. I still remember that year I was excited to have a rolling backpack before it got kicked so much that it split and my favorite book and supplies and homework got thrown in a tree and I was laughed at for crying because I couldn't reach it and was late for class. It made me stronger, sure, because I learned not to trust people enough to let them hurt me again. 🙃
Imagine thinking that saying that you have no contact with anyone from high school makes you a badass 💀 being a lone wolf isn't a flex when it isn't by choice girl
It's really insane how stupid and ignorant some people can be. I'm 25 years old and I was bullied throughout my years in elementary school and secondary school. And that shit has stayed with me. This person is really out there proving the point of abuse survivors that bullies and abusers really go on with their life acting like they've done nothing wrong or they don't even remember what they've done. But then those they hurt will always remember the stuff they had to go through.
The bullying I experienced in MIDDLE SCHOOL still effects me to this day, and some of which I'm only just recently getting over. That stuff really does do more than people think it does.
“I never think before i speak” is the worst excuse for not thinking before you speak. You may as well just say “im really immature” like love if you can point it out as a flaw surely do something about it
As someone who’s been bullied my whole life; it’s fucking traumatizing. I became insecure and hated my life. I attempted to oof myself before. A kid in my school actually succeeded because he was being bullied into it.. RIP Kaiden, we love you
It took me 6 years to get over the way certain people treated me in high school. Despite it not taking up all the space in my mind now, doesn’t mean I can’t recall every experience in great detail. It ruined my mental health, I cried every single day, and I’m thankful for the teachers who put up with me, because idk if I would’ve made it without them pushing me through the day.
Hate narcissistic superiority complex mentality people like this because they never think anything they do will be held accountable for their cruel intentions and they never take accountability at all. It's actually funny to see these bullies getting the same treatment back. That's what they never expect to happen to them. Never. Karma exists y'all. Be careful what you choose to do in your life because sometimes it'll come back to bite you when you least expect it to.
@@UTubeTrollPolice298 I am so sorry that you went through that. I too was bullied throughout my school years and I would never want anyone to ever go through being bullied because I do know what the trauma is like obviously and I wouldn't lie about this just to get likes. Hugs 🤗.
Karma doesn’t actually exist. There are nations that literally get away with genocide and Kissinger who justified and instigated genocides and wars lived to 100 years of age.
@@NouraZahle sweetheart there's always karma for everyone regardless of what you say. There's always repercussions for everyone actions whether it be their health suddenly going down the toilet so to speak or something else happening to them. I didn't say an actual person was going to do anything to them. Apparently you don't realize that Karma is an entity being. Talk about taking things too literally like as if you thought I referring to a actual person making them get bad karma 🤣. Nice try honey. Move along because your comment proved nothing. Lmao 🤣. Trust me Karma exists. Bye bye 👋.
@@NouraZahle Also why would you possibly bring up politics when I wasn't even talking about political stuff in the first place and to boot those things happen well before I was born at that! Like seriously? Great job on changing the subject to something YOU WANT the conversation to be about when I was only talking about KARMA ITSELF EXISTING NOT POLITICAL CRAP. Get outta here with all that drama. Lmao 🤣
I was bullied throughout elementary and middle school. Which was about 30 years ago and it has effected me into adulthood. It took me awhile to grow and move forward with my life.
She bullies other people yet scared of being bullied by others. How pathetic it is. She clearly has never been bullied, i experienced that and i doubt she would handle it
i was bullied heavily as a kid and it’s left lasting psychological damage, and majorly impacted my mental state, and as a result, my life. be kind to one another, and teach your children to do the same. nobody needs to hurt anybody else.
She is right about the K-Drama bullying though, most of it is based on true/inspired by real-life stories, and suicide has been the 1# cause of death for young people there for years and unfortunately is only getting worse thanks to social media. Kids always have a weird urge to make fun of others but the public shame normally makes them realize how sad and pathetic it is. I guess she didn't get it in high school so the internet comes to right the wrong, very satisfying. Edit: if anyone is interested in bullying culture in South Korea this doc is recent and is even worse shit than i imagined ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-hnc5d-6RVso.html
yeah like the glory, there the irl case was the same and the bullied got her arm burned by a iron like in the story, except in the real life she never got revenge
True! I realized the Internet joke "Bring bullying back" is made to justify shaming people who doesn't fit in societal BS standards. Then, you have these total goblins treating a person like Kick The Buddy ragdoll and it's not just insecurities - dominance. Amusement, seeing others' pain is actually common than people think. Even if we fight against the sadism, some people will contribute to it due to fear or urge for power.
I went to school with kids who almost pushed a girl to suicide because she got SAd and they used that to bully. This is like actually beyond messed up. She literally had to move schools too because the guy’s mom was very powerful at the school and he took part in it.
My sixth grade teacher was my bully. I’m 30 now and the things she did to me still haunt me. She’s the reason I starved myself and the reason I still hate every inch of my body. It doesn’t just go away. It happened in my formative years and it took away the confidence I once had.
I got bullied in middle school and the beginning of high school. That was about six to eight years ago. And the things my bully did to me, not to mention how TERRIBLY the school handled it, is still sitting in the back of my brain. I don't think about it as often as I used to and I honestly forget she even exists, but when I remember, I remember it vividly. Trauma doesn't go away so quickly.
Kdrama bullying is realistic tho, but it still don't justify other countries bullying. Verbal/Cyber/Sexual bullying can still hurt people, just because korean bully's hurt more physically their victims doesn't mean we shouldn't care about other victims.
It’s been a wild ride seeing our dear Haylo Hayley video by video slip deeper and deeper into despair and become increasingly righteously angry over the absolute cesspool dumpster fire that TikTok has always been but recently has fully revealed itself to be
“Bullying is ok and it builds character” Now I will say that for some people they took that trauma and used it as fuel to pump up and improve in life but not everyone will face that trauma the same way, some people take it out on themselves very badly then it doesn’t end well, by their logic that’s like saying “Guns are great and they exist to protect you” which yeah guns can exist to defend yourself but at the same time if you give a gun to the wrong person, there’s gonna be bad things and bad consequences, I just wanna say if you notice bullying please reach out to someone🙏
As a Person who used to be a bully, i hate it. I regret bullying everyone and i did NOT enjoy it. It hurts when you finally realise what you've done. it is NOT A THING TO ROMANTICIZE OR BE OBSESSED WITH!
Things I’ve been bullied for back in school: -being the only girl in the rock band program at school -pronouncing “h” like “hey-shh” instead of “ey-shh” -having two middle names -being girly (in the past) -being alternative/rocker with my style -being into rock music -not being big on dating (personally) and not feeling boy crazy -acting “weird” -enjoying creative stuff like singing, art, acting, guitar, and dance -being mixed race (white/indian) -not having a boyfriend -not being interested in sports -enjoying reading books -enjoying makeup and fashion -being smart -wanting to talk about more interesting topics (like celebrities and music and life goals) instead of parties, boys, and Snapchat -being into horror movies And that’s just the tip of the fucking iceberg.
@@Hahahohohihihuhu142to be fair that one was back in fourth grade (not high school) but this group of four kids bullied me so much about it that I started pronouncing it the way they did lol
I was bullied throughout high school and it’s only in the last year or so (Thankyou therapy and time), that I feel like I could walk past my bullies in the street and not feel true all encompassing terror. I haven’t seen any of these people since I was 16, I’m now 25. Whenever I have insecurities about myself, whether it’s physical or mental, it’s always their voices I hear in my head. It’s affected some of my romantic relationships throughout my 20s so far, because a lot of the bullying revolves around my appearance and how hilarious it would be if anyone wanted to be with me because I was so weird and ugly. The fact that this girl thinks people just need to stop caring and get over it is fucking mind blowing.
