Gigolo interview-Tom 

Why is my wife’s piano teacher doing an interview on here? 🤔

As a male that was abandoned by my mom, and often neglected by my father, i understand his need to satisfy these women emotionally. He is acting out how he thinks he could have made his mother stay. At 38 yrs old, it dawned on me that i have spent my entire life missing my mother, and i always felt like i needed to be the best version of myself around women so they might stay.

Dude looks like if Sting and Arnold Schwarzenegger had a baby 😂

The fact that he hooks women by being honest, caring and respectful tells you everything you need to know about the state of dating today.

"I know how to ask the questions they want to answer" is a whole vibe

Being a successful high end escort of either gender seems to require a combination of many things - from I've observed you need a unique mix of good looks, ability to compartmentalize sex emotionally, a bit of outlaw mentality, good social skills/being able to read others quickly, and money management ability. It's really a small percentage of humans who are all these things at the same time.

I bet the number of weddings & class reunions this man has been to is epic.

He's not here for a long time, he's here for a good time

I found this in the middle of an assignment and this is a gold mine. This is so insightful and well-directed, I'm loving his answers, honesty,, and energy, and how open he is with his reflections and insights.

He definitely knows how to say the right words on the outside in order to charm a person (look at the people who fell in love in the comments). Interestingly, his nice words don't match his history of doing immoral things or beating people. Also, when mark asked what "emotions" the job gave him, he did not answer an emotion -- he said he got a chance to "learn about humans". I do detect some sociopathy (and maybe narcissism), which is not inherently a bad thing in itself but I am always more careful around these charmers.

This is one of your best interviews ever. Entertaining, informative, positive, honest. This guy is a borderline genius in my opinion. Every man should watch this one.

something about this guy is unsettling. He is so calm and charming and disarming that it actually becomes threatening in a way, this guy probably has a mountain of broken hearts and people who who trusted him more than they should have in his wake. This guy has a power that few people do, its like a weapon.

This is definitely a high class and very skillful gigolo. He is so respectful. Amazing story, one of the top ones.

Under all the smiles, the portrait reveals the sorrowful eyes of a small child.

This man simply delivers Polish sausage.

Probably one of the funniest interviews I’ve watched on this channel. And these “oh he’s so lovely” comments are just icing on the cake 😂😂

He was essentially abandoned by both his mother and father (thus leaving a huge void of parental attachment and guidance) and raised by women. Thus he has learned how to deal with women and what women need and want. He's very intelligent, observant, handsome, and therefore makes for a sweet, caring, attentive, transactional "Casanova-type" con artist. The emotional void he feels is evident to me. He gets paid well to play a role, similar to an actor. If he wasn't getting paid he wouldn't "care" about these women. What a sad, empty life for both sides. Yeah, it's great temporarily but when it's over I guarantee the sense of emptiness for many of the women who get attached to him is overwhelming. It's degrading to have to pay someone to be with you to fulfil your physical and emotional needs. Just my observations.

This is a huge platform for someone like him to get more clients! He’s clearly watching what he’s saying. When Mark asks him if some of his clients aren’t attractive…he’s not answering honestly. He doesn’t want to lose the clients he already has too.

He is looking for the love of his mom in every woman... this is why parenting is such a responsible job

Hooligan to stockbroker to Gigolo. the American Dream incarnate. love this guy!!

I love that Mark said that some men don’t like women. I’ve been saying this.

During 90s and early 00s a lot of polish parents emigrated leaving children behind (including myself). There is a whole generation of abandoned kids in Poland. It was normal back then.

"I wanted to be my own boss". Me: UBER driver .. Tom: Master of LOVE

The wild part of this story is that I used to work as a porn video editor, and this guy was a regular gay porn star on the website Sean Cody, called Jaymus. I spat my coffee when I opened this link.

This interview made me laugh. There is something very funny and cheeky about this guy, even though he has a questionable character to some degree with his prior convictions, etc, but he seems to be honest about his past and why he is doing what he is doing now. Entertaining and uplifting.

I used to do martial arts with a male sex worker and it was the first time I had met a man in that profession. The reason it surprised me so much was because he was a completely normal, well put together man. I had this stereotype that all sex workers were drug addicted and basically living on the streets or not in good situations but this guy had an apartment and lived a much cleaner, healthier life than the average person.

He probably just got himself more business than he can handle! 😂

He's just a Gigolo and everywhere he goes, people know the part he's playin!

He should have shared his gay porn and criminal career as well. It would've been an even better story, tho this alone was awesome interview as is. All those careers he had a different name, most of the times at the same time. He's just a born player.

It's called being ravished, and aftercare is extremely important. Too many people accidentally call this a "rape fantasy". It is not.

Yep, he’s a “charmer” and so nice to all these women. We “need more of these guys in the world”. I also see an abandoned child who turned to drug dealing/smuggling/overall low life. Guess you can look at him in different ways.

Perfect balance of kid-like enthusiasm and worldly maturity

Thank you Mark for introducing us to Tom, wishing you all the best, thank you for sharing your story.

The next time I’m knee deep in mud, fed up and freezing cold on a building site for a rubbish salary I’m gonna think of this guy😮 Great career choice good on him

You hit the nail on the head: 'Caring,' Loving 'and accepting all the negative and positive things' is such a key quality in a relationship and was simply why my last relationship failed!

Not 100% believing everything he says

He said when he was a child that he hung out with people that were eighteen or nineteen. I don't believe people that age want to hang out with a little kid. I don't really believe his story at all. I could be wrong but his story doesn't ring true. He says he was a hooligan and yet finished high school and went to college. He seemed pretty vague in some of his answers. I think he enjoyed the opportunity to be interviewed but that's about it.

You didn't ask him why he didn't go to jail.

Man said most of his clients are married. I’m dying over here 😂

I loved this interview! Thanks for sharing your story with us, Tom!

Gigalos mostly have men as clients. He's hiding it. He reminds me of a cross between Arnold Shwarzenegger and Beavis.

Arnold’s other long lost son

It’s hard for me to believe him for some reason. He went from beating his partner to the point of potential jail time to spending time alone with women. What did he do to make such a shift in his behaviour from a gang banged to now? Seems disingenuous

These are my favorite interviews! Male gigalos & male entertainers! So few and far between! Thanks mark !

Love this interview. Tom is a great person. Intelligent, good looking, humble and sweet. Neat to learn about his line of work and experiences.

He has been, Like He Said, a Lot of different "Characters" in His Life. And that is i think the core of anything. He Plays his Characters and roles very good! The Kind He has to be in that whatever Moment. He is i think veeery calculated and opportunistic, and Knows excactly what People need to hear. XD Don't mean that necessary negative at all, as long Nobody gets "hurt". It's just an Observation. He is a good looking Guy and has much Work to do! Good for him, all the best to him!

Life looks good, he's not lying but you can tell that he's leaving out a lot details.

And it’s so simple that really wants is to be listened to and paid attention to. Truly simple

Your questions were exactly what I wanted to know! Great interview, one of my top faves!

Tom offers some valuable insight on the needs of a committed relationship seeing it from the perspective of uncommitted relationships. Another captivating bio from SWU. Thank you Mark for your social commentary’s, it’s an intriguing education. ✌🏽

As someone who grew up in Poland and had a father in the United States, a mother going back and forth and grandparents to raise me, I can sympathize with Tom. It’s not easy and for me, it was a very chaotic and difficult upbringing. I do believe his peculiar relationship with women stems from early age abandonment by his mother. I just don’t but into his, in my opinion, fake enthusiasm. He threw away a ten-year relationship and is now doing this. There’s no going back from this; I don’t think he’ll ever have a normal relationship or feel a genuine connection with a woman. Very sad and I don’t think he’s happy at all.

Mark has changed my perception of négative (or what i use to see as such ) things and the way i behave by the tone of his voice as well as his humbleness.He is to me the définition of charisma

Apparently I'm the only person who thinks this dude is one huge red flag

Mark, great interview full of information. I think I've seen this man before on TV. A show about gigs. You are always showing us something new.

Tom is honest ,loves his job and is happy! He has got life cracked! Good for him!

Hi Tom and Mark, I am a huge fan of SWU and I loved this interview. Tom, I think you are honest and real. My favorite thing you said was, “I don’t give advice to anyone.” As the great Oscar Wilde said, “There is nothing to do with good advice but to give it away, it is of no use to oneself.”

This was a great interview. I really don't think men and women are all that different in their wants and needs, but for some reason society has it as so different. We all like sex, have kinks, need to talk about our troubles, etc.

Yes, I do this as well. This is not BS and if you treat a woman right and she knows the truth upfront it’s not that hard. You just give a woman what she wants and treat her like a queen it’s not difficult. You just can’t act or think like a frat guy. Caring and honesty is really the key. Men and women are not that different.

I am 59 years old and every thing he said made a lot of sense.

This is the most frightening person that's been interviewed on this channel.

Whatever the female version of simp is, there is an absolute tsunami of them in this comment section, gushing over a morally corrupt ex drug dealer, ex smuggler who is obviously empty inside because he didn't feel loved as a child and now knows how to sucker women for cash. He doesn't really value himself or he wouldn't be able to sell his body, and is able to pretend to value you. His lack of a mummy means he is acting out his trauma on you. He can pretend to be sweet, he's an actor basically.

What a dark, empty and vapid existence. And no we're not all unfaithful. I've been faithful for over 11 years and no many others that have been monogamous for much longer than that.

“I know how to ask the questions they want to answer.” Gentlemen, I think this is damn good advice for those looking for some. I’m not a dashingly handsome man. I’m not a disgusting pig, I have excellent hygiene and dress fairly well, although never in a flashy way or in a style that says I have money. I’m not exorbitantly wealthy but I’m not broke by any means. I’m not extremely tall, but not short by any means (I am 5’11”). I guess you could say I’m fairly average in most ways. But what I’ve learned in my 46 years on this planet is that asking the questions that women want to answer is about as concise a statement that I could give to the question “how do I attract women?” I will add the following caveat… that has been the best tactic FOR ME. There’s obviously more to it than just asking the questions, generally you need to listen to their answers (although, you can listen with varying attention levels). And some people might need to go different routes. Like, if you’re very funny maybe think about using that to your advantage. The challenge is knowing what the right questions are, and that only comes with experience. Which means, you have to do your best to talk to as many women as you can (without seeming like a stalker or weirdo).

He’s sure right about one thing……. People can be so selfish I don’t agree with him that monogamy isn’t the best way. That’s why I remain single…. I’m not looking for a friend with “benefits “ but a future husband I can love and be FAITHFUL to and he for me. I feel like so much of societies problems are selfishness, lack of commitment and random sex. How depressing! I love making love, but I’m not going to be giving it out like it has no value. I would rather stay single than be giving myself away to anybody …. Guess I’m just old fashioned

You must do a follow up, this was such a fascinating interview!

“Huligan” is trouble makers. I love how honest he is about his life and his “job”.

The longer you look at him the more you realize he’s less attractive physically but more attractive on a cerebral level

Easy to be on your best behavior when the lifespan of your relationship is measured in hours or a few days at most.

All of these interviews are fascinating. I could never be the type of person who can just live their lives with no guard rails or restrictions. So there's some envy mixed with awe when I hear these stories.

Y’all falling all over this man says he knows how to work it😬🤣

I'd love a body language expert to weight in on some of Mark's videos. Tom smiled like a Cheshire Cat when saying he was a not a good person in his past. I wonder if there's no remorse there, or if it means he enjoyed the hooligan lifestyle. He seems pretty real, but that smile got me wondering.

heheh he is so polish in the way he is caring and knows how to please women, so it is good to see what can sometimes stand behind such a lovely guy lol (no judgement and I am polish too). Dread somehow grows in me every time he says "individual" or "human being" and not a "person".

At least he is doing something he likes and he respects women because like he said, there are some men don’t.

This interview made my skin crawl.

The remarks from both Tom and Mark stating that men have a physical type and women don’t is soo wrong. Women do also.

I don’t blame the woman. He genuinely seems like a honest, caring person.

He is a very sweet guy . honestly , kind , caring , compassionate and passionate is what women want . great interview Mark

He said some really profound things. Worth exploring

Some good genes from Poland...interesting young man; I bet he's going to get alot of new clientele after this interview 👌

Absolutely adored this interview! 💎 Thank you, Tom and Soft White Underbelly

There’s a missing piece to his story. He’s done a lot of gay adult film work (under the name Jaymus) and even now services gay clientele. It doesn’t make any of what he said any less true, but adult film work and servicing male clients can add a very different dimension of the relationship between money and sex.

why am I finding it so difficult to believe this mans stories. anyone else feel this way?

IMO .. one of your best interviews. Such honesty from Tom. A refreshing change from many of the whacked out junkies on this channel … although I like those ones too! 🎉

I’m polish and I knew from the beginning he’s from Poland!

When it comes to monogamy, you either are in love with someone, or you are not. Sadly, if you can keep banging around while in a partnership, then that partnership is pretty meaningless. Love is partly a desire to selfishly guard something. I love my boat, and i do not let others drive it.

This interview gave me eerie feeling…

I just think this is a lot of BS. It’s all about the money. Pretending to care and “being in the moment” is just part of the job. It’s all an act. I doubt he thinks about that person once he gets paid and leaves and moves on to the next woman.

Daily, we are all expected to live civilly amongst lots of people we don't agree with. What we DON'T have to do is agree with or enable all lifestyle choices for the sake of agreeableness. Compassion yes. Tough love, yes. Agreeable, not always. He went from criminal to gigolo. He's kinder and gentler now. Beautiful! Yet it doesn't change the fact he is prostituting himself and playing with (wealthy and lonely) women's HOPE. He still has an inner hurt child seeking his mother who left when he was 2; to please and deny her. As we mature, we are asked to carry our cross at some point; even if it's our sex drive. To learn self control is a blessing. A mother's absence in a boy's life can leave him constantly seeking her through a myriad of women. None of them will ever suffice.

An excellent interview. Tom is so candid and his personality reveals an evolving personality which has grown positive and humane. Besides his good looks he has a whiff of magic. He is obviously appreciated by his clients. What comes through is a total lack of attitude and narcissism. This is atypical and enormously refreshing. Thank you for this episode. Bravo 👏.

Im not really sure a prostitute/gigolo/sex addict knows what a woman is looking for in a healthy monogamous committed relationship. Maybe you need to interview his clients or maybe they aren't the right person either....just thinking outloud....thought provoking in many ways

Looks innocent on the outside, monster for real on the inside a narcissist sociopath,his job is perfect for him.no judgment.kudos sir...

Male or female, people who cheat on their spouses with anyone, is an absolute scumbag of a person. It amazes me what our society is becoming. Words like love, respect, compassion, integrity, and honesty have went by the wayside. Makes me sick.

I'd love a second interview! I'm curious about certain things: Has there ever been a client that tries to get a monogamous relationship? Has he ever got his heart broken from a client leaving? What are the craziest demands that he has received? What are the favorite/ more interesting / wise things he has heard from his clients?

This guys ability to perform must be off the charts. Having to perform in front of a husband would be hard I would think.

He nailed it perfectly, pleasure and connection. That would make any woman happy. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

I'm 60 years of age. Do you think that I can be a gigolo? Kidding! I see a best selling book in Tom's future. His answer to what do all people truly need: Pleasure, connection and a feeling of (positive) chemistry that the other really cares about them. I agree. So difficult to sustain all this in a long-term monogamous relationship.

This new interview is suspect to me. Polish guy who said his family moved to US when he was two years old. If so, why does he have such a strong accent. I've interacted with many Poles in NYC and their accents when speaking English never sounded like this. He sounds to me like has an Israeli (aka Hebrew) accent. Also, I'm also quite suspicious of any male claiming to be a gigolo exclusively with female clients. I'm not saying it's impossible but very unlikely. Usually they are forced to see male clients too since there aren't enough females out there willing to pay for sex with any male.

Don't blame the player blame the game, without a market he would not exist. All parties know what they are getting. He does have dead eyes tho 😂

There were so many "big" questions I wanted Mark to ask 😆

We love Tom because he has "Manners!" This is how I felt working in a high end strip club. People don't realize how much psychology goes into the companionship aspect! People pay a lot for the respect and attention they get, that's all it is.