Explain. How exactly did feminism cause RU-vid? Are you suggesting women didn't write books or have any public reach prior to feminism? How tf did prohibition happen then?
That’s how basic and small their understanding of how half the population that is not Christians live their lives. Their world is so small, and lovely and covered in Gods light that they can’t even bother apply empathy to those around them let alone those that they deem below them. I don’t know why they don’t just question their own view points against the quality of the God that they believe in? If your God has certain rules you can just choose to only do the good things that your God said to do in which case I think the world is a better place. I don’t know why you have to do the shitty things too just to prove your God is right. Why can’t you just let your God handle that after we meet him and have solid evidence, and maybe then we could voice our beef with the lack of evidence he left us with.
The idea that "you're only empowered if you have a career" was about escaping abuse and having your own money. They also talked about paying women for unpaid labour. As person who had to escape violence, having a source of income was super important.
@@zapkvr I have three degrees in it and teach it at a university. If I did misunderstand then, hot dang, what a huge waste of time! I started my undergrad when my oldest was 5 years old and finished my phd when he turned 23. Think how many years I wasted reading more people than Betty and Germaine! Could have saved a lot of time and money. My poor students. I'll let them know!
I find it interesting that they believe a woman MUST cook, unless the man loves cooking and wants to do it, but a woman doesn’t have the option of having a career she really loves. Funny how the gender roles can only flex if a man says so.
I was just thinking this. Taking their logic, we SHOULD be able to say that a woman doesn’t have to work outside the home, but she can if she enjoys it. But I never see people like this making that argument.
@@jennconrad6068you know what else I don't see? I don't see people saying that when I woman works and she is married,she is HELPING the husband with financial stability,but when the husband is also cooking and taking care of the children,they say he is helping the wife, as if the duty of cooking and cleaning was attached to the woman when she was born
Lol these ladies are living extremely modern lives that a Victorian woman could only dream of 😂 all of these benefits are from progressive values and feminism
@@funicon3689 In society yeah, it did, the fact that they can choose to work or not, the fact that they can vote, the fact that they can spress their opinions online, and many other privileges that only man had, it was all brought by faminism
Yes it has, @funicon3689 , it's helped create legislation that allows women to vote and it had been used for reproductive health rights, anti-discrimination laws, better understanding of social issues and intersectionality with other minority groups, etc. Trolling ain't a good look, sis
Feminism literally states that it’s end goal is the destruction of the nuclear family. Feminist ideology has definitely affected American culture though for sure. Way more kids who feel unloved, broken families. Relegated men tone depression eternally. Obviously abortion. Woohoo let’s play around with sex. There are no possible bad side affects of that. Sorry dudes for the night suicide rate
These women are privileged in that they have not needed their own source of income to escape abuse. I have nothing against stay at home parents or spouses, but there’s a reason women fought so hard to be allowed to enter the work force.
Precisely. You can't escape abuse if you are financially dependent on your abuser. Having access to and controlling your own money (and body, property, and custody of your children etc) is very important for women's liberation. It's not just about "girl bossification" - and even then, there is still a discussion to be had about equal opportunity and pay in the workforce, as well as the glorification of the capitalist grind, and virtue being directly tied to one's productivity (which is very much a Protestant ethic).
Well said. I became disabled and unable to work full-time. My marriage also became abusive and leaving has been very hard. I'm out now, and in the separation process, but the inability to make my own money is unbelievably difficult.
Adding: they actually still have their own source of income via their ministry and business ventures. Bethany has an entire Instagram account dedicated to teaching SAHMs how to make money lol
@@werm3169 They’re very privileged. Having your own source of income helps you to escape abuse. I’m happy for them that they don’t need to do that, but I sometimes think they forget why women fought to be able to go to work.
@charlleedodson, I know quite a few women who want to slap the feminist in the face who fought for a “career oriented women” I’ve heard them say it myself. Not all women feel the same way about this stuff.
Why can't the kitchen be empowering for people in general? There is something very satisfying in making something delicious. But why do we have to gender and spiritualize it? 🤦
TBH I wish I had more desire to cook. While I am relatively healthy despite my eating habits (call me "blessed"), those habits are quite poor and eating is always a chore.
Newsflash for them, god didn’t make kitchens. Not even in their book. He made a garden and two gardeners. Everything beyond chapter 3 is the result of sin. By their rules.
@@zapkvrIt wasn't good no. It's painful and it only allows females to be less than human, more of a farm animal, and not worth anything but what she can endure as far as pain.
I always hated the feeling that the people in church expected me to help out in the kitchen. I'm fine with helping out, but to be expected to do is terrible.
I remember the looks I got from family if stayed seated while the womenfolk cleared the table. The men just sat there talking about Very Important Things. It always felt wrong, even as a believing kid. The women just made this whole-ass meal, and you're just gonna let them clean up like they're your servants?
Yeah i cook in the kitchen but im not expected to because i only cook for myself. I could see a family taking turns at cooking/cleaning, or at the very least have each person have something that is considered "their chores", like laundry,mowing, vacuuming ext, i understand if one person works alot,but i feel like the should at least take out the trash/ once in a while home repairs if the person that works less/not at all, because they end up taking care of most of the house chores. This might just be me but i feel like distribution of labor should be fairly split depending on the effort expended to be the breadwinner, but that doesn't mean the breadwinner just gets to ignore things that need done.
It’s really insulting to the woman of the past and even though they didn’t want to they fulfilled their role of raising the kids the right way. Not like modern woman who just do what ever they want. I don’t even see how a marriage could work like that. I guess it doesn’t people divorce all the tim now. I have so much respect for woman of the past. Putting children first and not just alway thinking what is good for them. Now woman kill there kids for getting in the way of there autonomy
It's facinating to see them complaining that taking care of the home is undervalued, which I totaly agree with. But they accuse feminism when the true criminals are the combination of traditional gender roles and sexism
This this this My mom is a feminist, and also was a stay-at-home mom who took amazing care of her family and home and has traditionally feminine hobbies like sewing, baking, and gardening. She's never denigrated the role of homemaker as a feminist - she'd also agree homemaking is undervalued and that probably comes from embracing the kind of feminism that recognizes and validates the contributions of women to all aspects of society.
Exactly! Feminism does not view homemaking as an obligation, which immediately increases its value. It changes its status from something that you are expected to do and therefore deserve no reward for, to something that you are doing in spite of no expectation, so you deserve a reward for it. Think about all the things we do out of obligation - Are we even thanked?
@@earthaforester3141 yup. And that's why the majority of head chefs in restaurants are men. Society deems roles that men fill as "valuable" and worthy of pay. Meanwhile, women who cook in homes are underpaid (in the case of domestic employees) or unpaid (eg. stay at home mothers).
Sounds like they are assuming that unmarried women don't cook, entertain others or care for themselves and they need to be told to do these things just in prep to transition to marriage.
It's absolutely wild how un-fundie Bethy and Kristin's opinion on that is. Their definition of being "a Single" is pretty secular. Singlehood for fundie women and girls usually ends when they're married right out of high school. These young women are already raising their siblings, caring for the house, cooking for their family, etc, before they move directly into their husband's home. They're not actually ever single...just pre-married and then "A Married."
Might be just the "worldly" unmarrieds who don't do the housekeeping -- I bet stay-at-home daughters are still a big part of the evangelical Girl Defined culture. Even though they try hard to look hip, they're still homeschooled and prone to repeating all the Christian regressive talking points -- drink raw milk and bone broth, LGBTQ identity is sin, strict gender roles, minorities are scary. Gotta keep them wimmenfolk sheltered at home. That way they don't get spoiled before a good Christian man takes ownership of them.
The whole section about how the husband really likes to cook but she still does the majority of the work feels like a way to reassure the audience that they're actually still biblical no really I'm a biblical house wife who submits to my man please keep watching
@@polaris_draws Oh no, are vegetable gardens not manly? Am I actually foresaking my God given role by growing tomatoes and beans!? I'm going to have to give this some deep thought.. /s
In the section about letting the husband cook if he wants to, I picked up on the idea that they think the wife still has to be in charge of the mental load and the shopping/budgeting and likely the cleaning, but the husband can just do the fun parts that he actually wants to do and leave the rest.
Absolutely - their model of men contributing sounds like "if he likes it, when he wants to" like Marie Antoinette playing peasant in her palace gardens. They don't have to think about all the day-to-day grind, just breeze in and do it when the mood strikes and then bounce. It's not *nothing* but it isn't nearly the whole picture.
Unfortunately right wingers, authoritarians, and religious z€@lots still force their views onto other people and those even make it into the law of many countries.
Define normal. People considered this stuff normal for thousands of years, so it's not surprising many still do. Are we the weird ones for wanting to change, wanting progress? Perhaps being weird is sometimes better than being normal! When I tell people I don't believe in a god, they often think I'm very, very weird and not normal. But to me, I'm being rational and using my brain to seek out the evidence-based truth. Normal or not normal? It's quite a question.
@@kumaranvij by “normal”, I mean people who simply discuss these things and do what works for them based on real-world factors. Not based on some ancient fictional book written by only men.
@@SatansBirdLawExpert Well, look up the definition of the word normal. I think perhaps a different word would be a better choice to express your meaning.
The amount of times that they acknowledge that the way they live their lives sucks is baffling. They're constantly admitting that this is hard and it sucks and it goes against their wants and needs, but God said it so we gotta do it! Do you even hear yourselves???
The way you two talk to each other is so healing to hear. Thank you for covering these topics in a way that clearly comes from compassion. It’s lovely to see
Yes, I agree! My husband is very compassionate and rational, but I sometimes have a very hard time engaging him in interesting conversation. It seems like Drew loves it, so I"m jealous. Of course, we've been together twenty years, and he used to be a little more forthcoming. Sigh.
That's an interesting point that GD only talk about what people SAY feminism is to them, but don't actually give real life examples or quotes of real people because they can't. I think they do genuinely believe in what they're saying. I just wish they'd do more research into what feminism actually is.
Yeah! It goes beyond being a strawman because I think they lack an intentionality behind the misframing of what feminism is. They just truly believe what they are saying
@@virtualprimatologist because I think their language is deliberate. That's why I disagree with Drew and Taylor that they don't know what they're talking about because I think the point is that they're deliberately misframing feminist language in order to convince right wing conservatives that they are the real feminists. You see this with other culture war issues on how conservatives have convinced themselves that they're the real anti establishment group. The reason I bring up the former allegation is because of how milquetoast their descriptions are when it comes to women empowering themselves while not saying what they really mean which is tied to the bible and the patriarchal power structure found within their community and household.
And yet the irony is that the reason they are able to have a platform on RU-vid and have careers where they can preach at conventions and release books is because of feminism and the woman that have come before them
I swear, the idea of God speaking through other people has infected their entire concept of conversation ("they" being many Christians in general). They never seem to absorb the things said by non-Christians from the source, only from third-parties, like they have to be spoken for by someone else similar to God. To an absurd and aggravating degree
Its fascinating the flirting with feminism but not quite. They both dye their hair. Do they know what blonde hair was traditionally associated with 70+ years ago? Or how hair dye companies played into the feminist movement to encourage more women to choose their hair color?
@@chilltheheckoutwithava1454 they both look like they're growing their natural hair right now, but the one on the right seems to have highlights, the one on the left seems to have died endings and in earlier videos both of them definitely had their died a very light shade of blonde that very few people keep naturally into their adulthood. Either way, I don't think it's a great point about hair dye as such being somehow feminist (whatever the companies used to say) - but I do think it was hypocritical of them to go on about modesty and "not leading men astray" while dying their hair and using makeup, painting their nails and dressing in a way that (for many people in many religions) would still be very immodest. They were playing into the image of what "godly" men are supposed to find appealing (so their look was very much designed to appeal to men, therefore potentially tempting). And yet they'd probably say that "oh no we're so modest but we just ENJOY wearing make-up" - as if it's okay for them to enjoy something that makes them attractive, but if other women enjoy short skirts and stronger make-up, then it's wrong and they're doing it exclusively to be desired by men. Basically they set their own standard for what they consider modest yet enjoyable, and every woman who doesn't adhere to it is doing something wrong (luckily, I think they've moved on from that somewhat, but only partially). I do agree with the OP's general point that everything about them shows they reap the benefits of feminism and make quite feminist choices for themselves and their families, and yet their whole business hinges on denying it!
It's not lost on me that what the man enjoys here is the cooking that's been defined as acceptable in a man's realm - smoking meats and cast iron cooking. I'm not a fan of *That 70s Show* but I remember Red Foreman once saying "men grill". If a man enjoys steaming vegetables, or putting together casseroles, and certain other things then his manhood should be called into question.
Yeah but what happens if your wife is a bad cook and your husband loves cooking. What then? Plus this whole thing that Cooking is gender specific is so backwards.
re: your point about cooking not being gender specific - you can tell how backwards it truly is if you’ve ever worked in a restaurant, because then you know that while women supposedly “belong in the kitchen” when it’s cooking in their homes, but the second that kitchen is in a commercial space suddenly the kitchen is a man’s kingdom and women don’t belong there because apparently they “can’t keep up” with the men. So yeah, cooking is only “women’s work” if it’s unpaid. It’s almost like gender actually has very little to do with what you’re good at and these people are mad purely at the idea of women existing for something besides being house servants for men. Or something like that.
I'm fantastic at cooking but being fairly attention deficit and having an appetite that can go into hibernation for hours while I paint or make music, other people in the house might want to know how to feed themselves.
The patriarchy is rigid for a reason. It evolved, consciously and unconsciously, to keep men in positions of power. Women staying home, tied to raising children and keeping house, kept them out of the public forum, uneducated, unaware - except though what gossip they could trade or if their husband told them anything, which he was usually discouraged from doing. These women have been brainwashed into thinking the patriarchy is in their best interest, because "God" wants it that way, and they will get into heaven if they obey biblical rules. It's very sad.
I suspect that Dav's deconstruction has changed things a lot at home... but that's not going to stop Bethany from dictating what Christian women should do. And being able to cook is empowering for everyone. Feeding yourself is pretty important. Edit: I do appreciate that, with what seems to be every thing a Christian woman *should* do... Bethany and Kristen assure us they don't like it, they struggle, but it's God's will so they just have to suck it up.
I was really interested in the conversation Dav and Bethy had about the Barbie movie. Dav was talking about how it's OK for the husband not to always be the leader, and the wife doesn't always have to submit. Bethy was going, "No, no, women should submit," while giving him a look that basically said, "Hey, buddy, stay on brand, I have courses to sell." Like, yeah, we all know she doesn't really submit to him. But the idea that, in theory, she could submit to his will by exercising her independence really intrigues me.
But he didn't leave Christianity. I am SO confused as to why he said "now that Dave left Christianity." Like......Dave never said that. You can deconstruct without leaving your Faith. It's about figuring out what the true base for your faith is. Not leaving it altogether
@@Orion_TheyThemDav is athiest now. He even made a joke telling Bethany "surprise! You did it with an athiest!" 😂 He said he left Christianity in the video he and Bethany put out with his announcement essentially that he'd been struggling with faith since before he got married and he said he basically just forced it for years because he loved Bethany and knew it was important to her. He said the shame Christianity gave him just made him miserable and he didn't want to be miserable anymore. He also said he reD the Bible multiple times and came to the conclusion he didn't believe in it. Bethany was actually pretty supportive and sweet in that video, just saying that she enjoyed being Christian and she respected that for Dav it wasn't working. But he still goes to church with her and the kids, and they said they're ok with the kids asking for either of their different opinions on things.
If anything, I think it might make Bethany double down more, because her husband is not a traditionalist Christian he’s an atheist, she could be living vicariously through her audience and what she imagines the impact of her words to be.
Personally, I prefer seeing both of you in the same frame - it's more fun, I think, and you just look nice together! - but I am more than OK with watching any setup whatsoever as long as it is comfortable for you to record in. Cheers! :>
There is a great book I read in the 90s called "Beyond Beef," quite ahead of its time, that has a whole section on this. Men wanting to grill meats, together, as if it is some sort of manliness-confirming ritual. The subconscious connections to hunting and killing animals.
My Dad is a better cook than my Mother. He's the one who makes Christmas Dinner and Easter Dinner every year. He's also the one who made the Sunday Roast every Sunday. And his Chocolate Trifle is so delicious that I asked him to make it for my 18th birthday instead of getting my a birthday cake and he did! It was amazing.
Sounds like my father. He always did holiday dinners. When he was working my mother cooked daily meals to save him time, but after he retired my mother almost never cooked.
In this season of my life I'm a stay-at-home dad, and you have no idea how much I need to hear affirming things like you both say 25 minutes in. Thanks for putting wind in my sails today :)
Cooking is a life skill that as many people as possible should know how to do! It can also be a way to be creative and enjoy the process of seeing a recipe go from ingredients to final dish.
Yes, I can't believe the fact that women can't lead men in 90% of Christian churches hides in plain sight like this. We need to point it out. It is blatantly sexist and outrageous! Same thing with women changing their last name to their husband's last name, and giving their kids his last name. Everyone does it, and it's simply the emperor wearing no clothes - everybody acts like it's completely logical and normal. But it is plain sexism. That last one often "gets me in trouble" because so many women have done this, and feel attacked when I say it. But my goal is not to attack the women that have done it, it's to attack the idea itself. We've all been raised in the patriarchy and have acted accordingly. We need not to attack each other, but make change for future generations - in this case, hopefully starting very soon.
@@mallninja9805 Yes. The Christian churches, like other religions, "hides in plain sight." Everyone accepts, few people question, the blatant sexism of the fact that in 99% of cases, only men are allowed in leadership roles in the church. We as women need to start talking about it. Freedom of religion does not mean we have to accept sexism.
Single parents are laughing at this as they have to do it all. My mother was a single parent since I was two. There was no sex division of duties. We worked and got it done.
Yes, definitely. - My mother internalized a lot of these pressures as a single mother in the US South. She felt like she was doing poorly by us because she couldn’t home school us. Because she was working to keep a roof over our heads.
Their real issue seems to be with...capitalism and the patriarchy, ironically. "Domestic labor isn't valued as much as working outside the home for a salary!" Babe, that's because the Patriarchy doesn't value "women's work" and capitalism doesn't value unpaid labor! (or rather, capitalism runs on unpaid labor, it LOVES unpaid labor, but the laborers themselves are stripped of power and esteem) Any feminists urging women to work a wage-earning job when they would rather be a SAHM or SAHW might only do so because those women are at an extreme economic disadvantage if they ever lose their husband's support/income.
I think even if Dave’s deconstructing was a better influence on bethy, possibly triggering a deconstruction of her own, I doubt very much she’d admit it. It would ruin the girl defined business/livelihood.
It's not "do what you want", Bethany, it's "do what's healthy for you". That may not be "whatever you want", but it most certainly depends on you and your situation.
I need to hear more from Drew and Taylor on Anti-natalism. I personally consider myself more of a “counter-natalist” in that currently most people consider “natalism” good and I would say probably it is inherently neutral but in many current particulars situation it is bad.
Heck, I do the vast majority of the cooking and dishes in our home, even grocery shopping, and my wife handles all the finances, taxes, etc. But don’t come at me with “you’re a soy boy” or whatever, because I’m a black belt in taekwondo and a brown belt in Shaolin Kung fu and have done full-contact sparring.
@@CharlesPayet We would like you and respect you even if you couldn't do "full-contact sparring" and had no belts, Charles! And "soy boy" is a silly epithet that exposes the people who say it as very ignorant. The soy bean is a hell of a bean! Tofu is delicious when prepared well, and very healthy.
Since you asked for feedback: I like this setup for the video, the other one looks aesthetically nice but I prefer seeing you both in the frame together. The split screen kinda makes it feel like it might as well be a Zoom call haha.
im going to be honest, I just get the vibe from them that I wouldn't want either of them in the kitchen. they're so vanilla white bread i'm getting an image of "dinners ready, I made a mexican quiche" or something. like im just picturing the moooostttt vanilla food imaginable lol.
I'd like to point out that even they say "oh, it's OK for your man to like to cook" they mention specifically male coded food rituals like grilling, smoking meats, and cooking ribs, but I wonder how they feel about men who like to bake cute pastries. Or vegans.
I think when GD says “that’s what we chose”, for example when they talk about staying home with the kids instead of working full time, or cooking even though it “doesn’t come naturally to them”, because they want to perform for their audience that even though they were raised with a religious expectation that these are your roles in a marriage they “choose” it. It’s purely performative and, maybe, a psychologically, a coping mechanism for them. If they don’t really want to do these things, but they’re expected of them and they literally preach it to their audience, then they have to tell themselves, and their audience, that they “choose” all of it.
An amazing book is "Fair Play" where the tasks behind running a house and caring for a family are spelled out in (often overlooked) detail and how women's time, culturally, is [not] valued. An example that relates to the video is how her husband helpfully "suggests burgers" so she then does the labor of fitting it into the meal schedule she's made, makes the shopping list according to sales/ coupons/ dietary restrictions/ favorite brands the family has, gets the groceries, checks the weather, prepares the side dishes, possibly even preps the meat, notifies her husband when it's time to start, sets the table, calls everyone to it, cleans the dishes, etc. etc. and hopefully doesn't have to remind her husband to clean and put away the grill.
“Looking well to the ways of your household” is indeed very open ended. The phrase could even be a call to appraise whether one *belongs* in that particular household - or should divorce!
This is so impractical. Most families require two incomes and that already cuts down on family time. Rigid rules instead of flexibility would never work for us. My husband prefers to cook, but I do it if he has to work late because that's what gives us more family time in the evening. Why they're so stuck on a book of rules instead of what works best for two individuals with their own preferences is ridiculous.
If you want to just have food, let me cook it. If you want something GOOD, let my husband cook it. He does 99% of the cooking at our house. Always has. We both work, the kids are grown now.
I like seeing you guys in the same frame because when one of you is talking the other is always looking so attentively, it's really sweet 😅 I wonder if a split screen would be possible? Like a side-by-side (I'm not sure what it's called). P.S. that blouse is really cute!
I like you being together in the same room. I wish these type of people would realize that feminism is not anti-man or anti-traditional, but more about encouraging people , both male and female, to pursue roles that they want.
Y’all point out how Girl Defined projects their views of gender roles onto scripture, but they’re spot on when the husband gets up to make the coffee. That’s straight out of the book of He-brews
Even Bethany and the other one complain about how hard all this is. Why would I do constant labor, especially when it’s unpaid? Just because god wants it? Shouldn’t life be more than work, work, work, suffer, suffer, suffer. The biblical god hates his creation, and yet “loved” us enough to sacrifice his son.
I have such an urge to join their "Biblical community" as a sleeper agent and inject some critical thinking into the discussions and see how long I can be in it without being booted out
Who wants to bet they don't cook at all unless it's frozen dinners. Also props to you guys for sitting and listening to these two. I could not do what you do.
@@theantibot no absolutely not, but the point was really it's not a"woman's place to cook" and be in the kitchen. That's all sorry for knocking frozen entrees
Cooking at home is not healthier. Cooking healthier is healthier. You can cook in a way that is just as unhealthy as any restaurant does because they're still using the same thing that you would be using at home or at least you can access those same things at home so cooking at home isn't healthier. Cooking healthier is healthier.
THANKS. Such a difference. I did eat at people's homes where they oil they used was the same quantity as Mc and then complained about being fat + mostly meat and they had 5 types of vegetables in rotation. It was driving me nuts because after 2 meals I got sick due to the oil content (I cook much less fatty meals).
@@FabricadeBasme ewwww. Yeah that is what would happen when I would eat my grandma's bacon and eggs. She would cook the bacon first and then leave all the bacon grease in the pan and make the scrambled eggs. She didn't line the pan with bacon grease. She didn't thinly coat the pan. She left all the grease in the pan. My brother and I would get so sick and we would complain so much my mom told us we just had to take a bite.
@@kumaranvij yeah, I remember how much Jesus wanted attention. All of 30 years, not a word, then all of a sudden he comes back to preach a little and die 😄
What’s disappointing is that I think they would really benefit from Christian Feminism a la Sarah Bessey and the late Rachel Held Evans. As you’ve pointed out, the dynamics that they describe and their framework for the value of domestic labor align pretty closely with a feminist lens, and I wish they would take that extra step to seeing that they don’t have to constantly be defining themselves in opposition to progressive values when clearly they hold progressive values.
Damnit, I'm so sick of Christians being obtuse about things that are very clearly stated. It's never been about homemaking being lesser than a career; it's about homemaking not being the only acceptable option.
In the 1950s TV series, The Honeymooners, there was an episode about how underappreciated a house wife's work was compared to her husband's. Ralph thought that Alice was always lazing around at home, so she insisted that she get a job and they hire a maid to do the housework. In the end because nobody would agree to do all of that work as their job Ralph has to beg Alice to go back to doing the housework. I'd say that in the 1950s some people were already aware that someone keeping the home as their job was just as hard as a job.
hi! commenting at the start to say that i do like seeing you both in the same frame and i like this filming set up, but that i also liked the side-by-side shots if that was an easier set up for you in your new space. both look nice! 💙
Y’all are young; I am almost 60. My mother was a feminist and a homemaker, so that has been a thing since at least the 70s when she was raising me. The idea that a feminist having to be a breadwinner, that is a straw-man argument created by the opposition.
Cooking empowers me bc it gives me stress relief, it allows me to be creative, it allows me to show my love to others, and I love seeing the faces and hearing the sounds people make when I’ve made something good
Feminism has literally ALWAYS fought for the acknowledgement of women's domestic labour. Always. It has been a key tenant of the movement back to the 19th century. Some of the first vegetarian movements were part of the movement to give women more time in their days because vegetarian meals took less time to prepare. I would also disagree that Feminism at its heart is about choice, that is quite an individualistic approach that most feminists outside of the US have never taken. Feminists have been at the forefront of fighting for *systemic* changes to society, government policies and laws. Because individual choices cannot be made inba vacuum. You may want to stay at home with your kids (be you mum or dad) but the economic realities probably won't allow that. For example... The Girl Defined girlies sit in their monetised media jobs... saying they stay at home. Girls! You are working mums! Edit: Oh! And! Women have literally always worked outside the home. Always. Only the very wealthy didn't. "Stay at home" parenting is a very modern idea. Which is confirmed by that section of Proverbs 31 - we've been making women do all the domestic labour AND paid labour (for less) for millennia.
I prefer this set up!! And if any of that vegan home cooking includes seitan there's some puns you could've made that would probably drive the evangelicals crazy 😆
Look, I know the whole "OMS, I got a Christian ad before your video" is a bit played out, but I just got an ad for a prayer app from Mark. F**king. Wahlberg.
Look, I know comparisons to Hitler's Germany are overdone, but Girl Defined could be dubbed in 1930s German and aired on TV as "The Aryan Women's Hour."
Agreed! Which really just shows how little their approach actually has to do with being Christian, i.e. believing in god, since the Nazis weren't really big on Christianity and were a critical step in the churches loss of power in Germany. It's about the patriarchy and white supremacy, not god. Christianity can just as well be modern and loving. This is coming from a pagan German with a real mixed bag of experiences with Christians.
@marenq4138 The Nazis did appeal to religion so long as it was useful to them, then ditched it when it came to eugenics and the likes. Let's not forget that it was Germany's Christian party, the Zentrum, whose vote was crucial for putting Hitler in power.
When I was 10, my father tell me that I need to learn to cook, laundry and other household chores... He said you need to learn those in order for me to know how to do those when I have became an adult, as those are essential skills.. And he also said that you need to know those things "so that you can do it yourself and not be dependent to your wife or girlfriend to do those stuff" and to not expect your wife to know those stuff, hence the need to know to do those stuff... But plot twist, I'm g@y and now I know how to cook, clean and do other house chores🤣🤣🤣
Yes, seeing you both in the same frame is much better. It's truer to life. It makes it more like I'm a bystander to your conversation, and I'm free to pay attention to what I want to. The way you did it in the small studio - shot / reverse shot - is how conversations between actors are constructed in a film, where the cuts in editing direct the audience's attention to what the filmmaker wants them to notice. I think we're so used to seeing shot / reverse shot in films and shows that it subconsciously suggests the camera's cuts are motivated *anytime* we see it, and when it turns out they're not - when cuts are just done to show whose turn it is to talk - the result is less interesting by comparison.
I have a feeling this bootcamp isn't going to be about tips on how to fold laundry, but rather about tips on how to fix your mindset that folding laundry is your god honoring job and you should be grateful that you get to do the laundry for your family.
Couldn’t help but notice that Bethany immediately goes to “-like grilling?” A way to prepare food that is potentially viewed by some as more ‘masculine’. I wonder what the response would be if one of their husbands just truly had a passion for baking and decorating cakes and cookies. Like, is that equally okay with them? Geez Louise 😮💨
I honestly love how Drew reframes what you say or ask what you meant saying it a different way, it just shows an effort in communicating and understanding ❤ Not related to the topic but I love your relationship and dynamic (what we see at least)
