Grandfather Molested Me as a Child. (What Should I Do?)

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Grandfather Molested Me as a Child. (What Should I Do?)
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@denisebradley8151 4 месяца назад

My first husband died of skin cancer when he was 30 years old. Three weeks before he passed he told me he had been repeatedly molested by his step father starting around the age of 7 or 8. It really messed him up. He wanted me to know because he didn’t want our two little girls to be left with his mother for babysitting because he said she is not capable of protecting children from the men in her life.

@jackimackenzie4251 3 месяца назад

This angers me in the worst way I'm some one who told and stud up and nothing was done va beach vabeach

@amandabrynn6853 3 месяца назад

I’m very sorry for your loss and that is so sad he was wronged in that way. I hope other children aren’t hurt by him. God bless you and your kids

@vickyandersen8660 3 месяца назад

That's a caring father. Always protect your child from the perpetrator and the ones who let it happen

@stellabella5269 2 месяца назад

😪😪😪😪

@Emjay0025 11 месяцев назад

The fact they sent her on a 9 day vacation with her molester is horrifying. NEVER EVER EVER. I will ALWAYS believe my daughter.

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

That floored me. Not only did her mom allow it, but her father allowed it too?! Unbelievable. And I don't buy that grandma didn't believe her. I think Grandma wanted to pretend it wasn't true.

@alexlewis8143 3 года назад

Keep the baby away from all family members. They are all failures.

@beefandchicken 3 года назад

Her whole family is a bunch of turds. Poor girl.

@maximwilson1482 2 года назад

Unfortunately I agree...the parents will think they are being punished for what the grandpa did. But the parents were complicit so I guess the punishment fits

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

Can't let them watch your kids if they still live next door to the grandparents

@victornieves1794 5 месяцев назад

@@GameChanger597Even if they didn’t live next door to them, they shouldn’t have access to her kids. They failed to protect her, they will fail to protect her child. They’re spineless cowards, people like that have no business being around vulnerable people especially children.

@deniseganey6890 4 месяца назад

Especially her own Parents .

@khchoi25 11 месяцев назад

It’s amazing that so many adults don’t understand what this does to a child. They’re not just going to “get over it”. It’s the worse thing you could do to a child short of murder.

@stellabella5269 2 месяца назад

Thank you 😪

@normajeane507 3 года назад

It's crazy to think so many people who have molested children just go about their regular lives 🤯 the world is a dark place!

@marielamccartney7319 3 года назад

Agreed. The problem here is that child molesters have no souls to do this hideous act to children and on top of that, child molesters are protected by their own wives, mothers or anyone around them. That’s means they are just as evil as the child molesters! And the innocent children have their minds and lives destroyed for the rest of their lives! How that’s that sound for anyone out there who really cares!!

@robertoramos8257 3 года назад

It's dark that's why we need to shine some light on it! Dude needs to be in jail

@soarhighyandow9109 3 года назад

@@marielamccartney7319 I agree with you completely. They should not be allowed to walk free among the general population. Children are too precious, and they tend to reoffend too often to risk it.

@SDALLE99 3 года назад

It's not like they lost anything. In some culture, the practice of an older family member/mentor teaching the ropes to a young child is normal. They gotta learn about it eventually.

@marielamccartney7319 3 года назад

Wait wait what do you mean? Something doesn’t sound right.

@mama-nono3652 6 месяцев назад

Many people are unaware that the most dangerous place for females can be HOME, from men she knows. Most sexual assaults are not stranger related. And most often the culprit is their father or a father figure (uncle, sibling, pastor, teacher, etc). The victim is very often not believed and, shamefully, everyone will coalesce to protect the culprit, usually a family member: "You don't want your uncle Joey to go to jail, do you!?". The victim has to carry all the weight. It is just sickening.

@joaniem3817 3 месяца назад

As a consequence, the child is in a lifelong emotional jail. That’s messed up. Sexual predators are a plague.

@myyt3824 11 месяцев назад

Every single member of her family let her down. They failed her. Miserably. I cannot fathom reacting so aloof to my daughter being SA by my father. HOW DOES ONE JUST GLOSS OVER THAT?!?!?!

@jennifersilves4195 5 месяцев назад

Right?

@Oxaca73 4 месяца назад

My father says "If a child's molested it's their own fault." I was molested by his father when I was 8 years old. There's a lot of parent's like that.

@EliseWood 4 месяца назад

@@Oxaca73 I am so incredibly sorry to hear that.

@EliseWood 4 месяца назад

To clarify, I wish I had in the call, it was my dad’s step dad. He has his own two daughters that absolutely adore him and then he’s got 3 blood grandchildren. 2 girls and a boy. He’s super super close with all three of them and I always felt that disconnect growing up, I sort of wonder if that’s why it was me, a chubby little girl that he had easy access to next door that wasn’t his own blood and no one would suspect a thing since I was just running next door for my mom like I had many times.

@yvettesalinas3590 3 месяца назад

Im a new mom and the thought of this breaks me I feel I’d end up in jail

@cmmahone 3 года назад

I was 11 when my father did this, I'm 54 now, therapy is a wonderful thing, he is now just a sad old man in a home somewhere. I feel nothing towards him, not hate or love, just indifference. Therapy works

@lindakincaid4530 3 года назад

sorry it happened to you, good for you for seeking help to move on. It is my understanding that some men don't think they are doing anything wrong.

@gangstabiotch08 3 года назад

Thank you for saying this! So strong

@BeGlamourlicious 2 года назад

Thank you sooooo much. I love therapy it works.

@jashroy 2 года назад

F*** yeah, good for you.

@CarmenBuenrostro 2 года назад

I’m sorry that you went through this. My dad did it to me as well throughout my childhood and it really damaged me and hurt me for years. I am now 30 with a 2 year old daughter and I’ve cut my so called dad out of my life and I have started healing and feeling free from him. Like you said, I don’t feel anything towards him.

@10nurse29 3 года назад

Elise, you are so brave!! I waited until I was 40 to tell my mom I was assaulted by my cousin and her response was.. well, his dad did the same thing to me!! WTH, mom????

@timwienand6297 3 года назад

There would be a dead grandpa...

@jennyj0007 6 месяцев назад

Fr fr

@retahannell4207 3 месяца назад

Woodchipper

@blancamoncada1026 3 года назад

Elise please report this to the police. If your grandfather molested you he did it to another child. I’m so disgusted with your parents. I’m so so sorry this happened to you. Do it for the ones who haven’t had the courage to speak up or those who have been shut down 🙏

@sharonhalk8679 2 года назад

Thank you for this because my sister and I were molested by a neighbor. My parents never did anything other than tell us to stay away from him as we had to live next to him for several more years. We moved away & as an adult, I wanted to confront him & he had died. Still have resentment toward my parents for not protecting me. I’m 53 & I was only 6 or 7 when it happened.

@BlackStump172 4 месяца назад

What do you think that they should have done ?

@trinaroach2832 3 месяца назад

@@BlackStump172Nothing that a few able-bodied and right-minded men, each with a sock full of quarters - couldn't begin the "healing process" for. Then law enforcement can come collect the garbage...

@ninajohnson6578 3 года назад

Abuse is so common. And families hide from it. She is a hero.

@TEM14411 4 месяца назад

❤

@ANF222 4 месяца назад

My ex-step grandfather molested me for three years when I was little. It took me becoming an adult and realizing the repetitive nightmares about him was my body remembering. It turns out, while he was molesting me as a toddler, he was raping my aunt who was only a teenager. It’s crazy how deeply this can affect someone, how deeply it’s affected me and how sickeningly common this really is.

@TEM14411 4 месяца назад

❤

@EliseWood 4 месяца назад

Oh my word…….I’ll be praying for you and your aunt to find healing

@kaidiver4306 Год назад

I'm 38, MY Moms husband (dad) molested me thru out mostly elementary and an incident in high school. I finally told My Mom 3 Years ago. My Mom didn't believe me. Which was MY BIGGGGEST FEAR that my mom wasn't goin to believe, ouch. Never got help. But All my friends kno. He has been dead to me when he was alive. He had passed away. I didn't go to his death bed, I didn't go to his viewing and i didn't go his funeral

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

And why should you? You don't owe him anything. I have to say though, I'm not buying that your mom didn't believe you. I think she just didn't want to face the music bc it would make her feel like a bad mom.

@murdahmammiez 7 месяцев назад

I believe you

@LifeBetweenTheDash 5 месяцев назад

I'm very sorry you had to deal with that. You can still get help. Wishing the best for you.

@kaidiver4306 5 месяцев назад

@@GameChanger597 my mom did not believe me.

@kaidiver4306 5 месяцев назад

@@LifeBetweenTheDash thank you..

@dontassumemyfender9866 Год назад

This happened to someone very close to me by a step grandparent. The father of the victim was told what happened by the son days after it happened. The father went to the house, knocked on the door and when the person answered, the father beat him from the front door to the back door. Put him in ICU.

@molly5262 10 месяцев назад

Best response by a father!! What most fathers should do in this type of situation.

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

Finally a reaction we all want to see👏🏼 Really hope he didn't suffer any consequences from it

@dd3wc 5 месяцев назад

I’m a bit surprised her parents allowed any contact with the grandparents, after that incident. Especially on a trip to Hawaii … whereby the grandfather had access to her again, if I understood her correctly. Very sad situation … and what’s even worse is the abuse has probably been passed down from generation to generation to generation … and so on!

@glittermob9155 10 месяцев назад

These adults all belong on jail for harboring, aiding, and abetting a criminal!

@tessaprice 3 года назад

This makes me so sad and angry. Elise’s parents didn’t take up for her. Man, I’m praying for justice for you, whatever that looks like.

@EliseWood 3 года назад

Thank you 😊

@sophiawafa1658 2 года назад

Neither did my mom to my SHITpa. Currently going “through it” right now, watching RU-vid’s to ease the pain. Having an “off day”. Therapy is happening soon…

@cosmiqshy8941 2 года назад

Same here. My Dads dad. His most fervent defender to this day is my oldest brother who’s been a lifelong cop. Nobody did anything. They even sent me back for more. My oldest brother said to my mom that I was too young to remember. He hates me and has retaliated against me on multiple occasions. He glorified his grandfather his whole life & treated me like I’m dirty. Yet he’s spent his whole fatherhood acting paranoid that someone’s gonna molest HIS kids. His guilt & rage is sad. I wish I could go to a counselor for healing but I don’t think I can afford it. Mine was from somewhere between birth & 5 yrs old. Nobody turned him in even after I told. I remember his “good guy” grooming tactics. Till this day I have body image issues. I have an hourglass figure most women want but I’m always fighting overeating & hating the way I look. If anyone looks @ me like I’m getting checked out it sends me reeling for safety. It’s like fat is my insulation to hide from predation.

@dakotaflower5926 6 месяцев назад

In this situation…. There is no conversation or confronting your father/father-in-law…. Your first phone call is to the authorities, period. Your “father” can work it out with them. And a grown ass man of virtue, even if grandpa was incorrectly accused would agree you did the right thing.

@BlackStump172 4 месяца назад

@@cosmiqshy8941I wonder if your brother has also molested kids himself ? His reaction is strange . Perhaps he was a victim of your grandfather too but did not complain .

@sheilakilby5162 3 года назад

I am so sorry this happened to you. This happed to me when I was 8 (my sister too). It was my step Dad. I told my mom, she did not protect me. We had to live with him until we were ever old enough to move out. We had to live with the in appropriate looks and comments for years. We don't allow him to have contact with our daughter. I confronted him as an adult and he denied everything. My Mom just admitted that she believed us, but just chose to do nothing about it. It still haunts me. Best wishes to you.

@avic2697 2 года назад

@warriormanmaxx8991 2 года назад

@@avic2697 - is that a "period?!?" Can you express self in writing more??

@selamawitbekele773 Год назад

My brother sexually assaulted me over and over and over again when I was 8-9 years old. I recently told my sister so that they can be careful about their daughters in his presence. I don’t think they believe me and I regret telling them. I hate him to the moon and back

@chelsmaria Год назад

Some people would rather believe pretty lies about the world than accept the harsh truth of abuse. You still did the right thing! You warned them, and you stood up for yourself the way no one else would. I'm so, so sorry they may not believe you. That harms you all over again, which is cruel. And it may lead to even more innocent children being harmed 😢

@donnadonaldson9671 5 месяцев назад

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You were brave to warn your sister. Now it’s up to her to protect her girls. Shame on her for not believing you.

@Danigys 4 месяца назад

This memory of child abuse never goes away. The little girl is scarred for life afterwards. It happen to me 55 years ago and it affected me in all aspects of my life. I think the worst thing is that after all these years the memory is extremely vivid.

@Mrscarricom 4 месяца назад

I went to school one day, and I was probably 11 or 12, and my classmate's mom and I were really close, so I told her about my molestation. However, she wasn't much help, which I found strange. Anyhow, back to the above point. Some children started to share their molestation experiences, and surprisingly, the girl whose mom I respected loved and adored ,her daughter shared her stepdad showed her his p**** her mother told her at least he didn't touch you. The mom went on to marry the guy and stayed home ( housewife) because she said he couldn't molest them if I'm home. There was one young lady who shared that her mom put her dad out the same night for making her sit on his face. She didn't like how it made her feel, so she told. I felt like she had the coolest mom ❤, I am that mom now. There is no negotiating with evil

@adammanning1805 3 года назад

Cops need to be involved, NOW!!!!!!!!

@daishamariee 2 года назад

Isn't it so bizarre when no adult protects the child and possibly other children. Almost like the molester is a victim. Make it make sense? I don't care if its a family member, teacher, pastor, etc. If I know about it there needs to be a police investigation.

@joywebster2678 5 месяцев назад

But what is the statute of limitations if there is no current abuse of kids, and only one recalled incident 16yrs earlier? I'm seriously wondering.

@jennifersilves4195 5 месяцев назад

@@joywebster2678 Some states have no statute of limitations.

@dabd8175 3 года назад

Every time I see a title from John I think " i hope this is clickbait " and it never is

@jdoe5835 3 года назад

my grandfather did this to me too. thankfully my mom believed me and i never had to see him again. my heart goes out to Elise :( I'm so sorry you didn't get that vindication and protection and help you deserved. Thoughts are with you, my sister.

@blueStarKitt7924 4 месяца назад

Bless you and your mother.❤

@gayle2276 10 месяцев назад

Make sure your child is never alone with him! Or with your parents because he can come over to your parents place and do it.

@JJJJ-he8bz 3 года назад

She needs to have a sit down with the police. You can tell it’s killing her.

@robertperry814 3 года назад

Statute of limitations is probably up on this one.

@alexlewis8143 3 года назад

@@robertperry814 there isn't one for children

@robertperry814 3 года назад

@@alexlewis8143 depends what state you're in.

@SDALLE99 3 года назад

So petty. It's her problem if she can't let go. Don't waste police resources.

@JJJJ-he8bz 3 года назад

@@SDALLE99 well someone needs to do something

@MidnightSunshine27 3 года назад

Elise, I'm so sorry that happened to you. This is so common it hurts so much.

@jmc8076 3 года назад

Why is the victim always doubted?! Mine was my older brother and some of his friends when I was 10 or 11 (blocked age out) sadly more then once. My family doesn’t know. Elise is incredibly brave then and now to call in. It never gets easier. I really do get how she feels about shutting up and down about it. Took me 20 yrs to even verbalize it (after my parents passed I ran/bolted from family.) I was told not to cry too until my husb and same thing I cried so much and the rage was deep. Much love and respect to Elise. I wish I was brave enough to call in and thanks so much on behalf of so many listening.

@leatherface9377 3 года назад

How old was your brother?

@ecstaticb 3 года назад

I'm sorry this happened to you. I never thought I would get over my anger and hurt but with therapy I have.

@warriormanmaxx8991 2 года назад

@@leatherface9377 - there is NO reason for you to know "How old was your brother?" Ehhh?

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

@@warriormanmaxx8991Ok SJW. It's a pretty normal question for someone sharing this kind of story publicly. I wondered the same thing and I know everyone else was too including you. It helps the reader assess the situation a little better.

@chrysiarose 3 года назад

Why do people protect the molester??? They always get protected!!!

@sail253 3 года назад

Ikr

@guyrose2350 2 года назад

I would never but I understand why they do. A family even when they push the pedophile out still gets shunned by society, this can be just as devastating to a child to be exiled from society at such a young age along with their family, as being molested can do. The shame will always follow them and people are cruel even when you do the right thing.

@beaudoz3603 2 года назад

It's the shame on the family...

@V.Hansen. 2 года назад

Seems like it’s money. They are always dependent on them. One reason why I will never rely on anyone.

@susancuenin2137 4 месяца назад

No one wants to believe this narrative as it is so hard to visualize it happening in the first place. Decent people just don’t do these horrid things to children. Correct - child molesters are in a class by themselves and they are not typical, decent people.

@adrianajimenez4342 3 года назад

Omg I can't believe her parents didn't protect her, so sad.

@randyadams1312 2 года назад

Sadly it happens more often than you think. It’s also common for family members to accuse the abused of lying and gaslight them. No one wants to break up the family and some don’t want to believe a family member is a monster and find it easier to blame the victim.

@vickyandersen8660 3 месяца назад

Happened to me. I told my parents a bit of what happened and still let my sisters ex husband go over. Now I have trust issues and can't trust anyone to babysit my kids, not even my parents

@1175drh 3 года назад

It breaks my heart that her parents didn't put her first and figure out the truth and acted on it back then. A 7 yr old girl needs more protections than Grandpa PERIOD!! Just wrong!

@daveholliday3082 3 года назад

I appreciate the fact that Dr John stands firmly on these hard issues. This behavior by these adults has been shushed far too often and the children are left to feel dirty and broken, and somehow expected to forget and move on. Dr John gives what seems to be harsh boundaries, but in reality these children will only truly heal when we stand up for them and demand justice, and that justice will destroy the secrets and maybe those who helped protect the secret. Nobody wins but it’s not justice when the child is the only one to suffer.

@lindakincaid4530 3 года назад

totally agree. a lot of little girls are molested, but there are a lot of little boys who are victim's too and I think boys are taught to be tough and keep it more a secret then girls.

@mooneyes2833 2 года назад

I was molested at that same age.. for years, but I only remember the one time...she may have memories repressed...God bless her for talking about it, never stop telling your story, silence is the problem.

@stephanieW.1922 3 года назад

Elise's story is VERY similar to mine: Step Grandfather & same with my parents💔 So very grateful my heavenly Father helped me heal!❤🙏🏽 Its an everyday healing going forward but know now its MY story and MY healing❤❤🥰🙏🏽

@janae09 3 года назад

I’m so sorry you went through that. So glad you are walking with the Lord to help you heal. 💕

@jmc8076 3 года назад

I’m so sorry too. Much love and hugs. Mine was an older bro and his friends mult times at times more then one. Too many kids share our pain and scars. We’re all going fwd with love, compassion and healing.

@stephanieW.1922 3 года назад

@@jmc8076 Thank you! Yes TO MANY share our pain. I'm so sorry for you too! Much love & hugs for you too.🙏🏽

@amydoran9987 3 года назад

I would not leave it to chance.I would keep my child far away from him .

@summerdowlig 3 года назад

I bet he moved on to other victims you just don't stop hurting kids especially if nothing happened to the abuser. I hope she never lets her child or any kids or herself around him ever.

@EliseWood 3 года назад

I don’t plan to

@robertoramos8257 3 года назад

@@EliseWood I admire your bravery and strength in how your handling your situation. Prayers to you and your family.

@sail253 3 года назад

@@EliseWood You are so brave and you should always stick up for yourself, nothing that happened to you was your fault, and you don't need an excuse not to see him, he deserves to be in prison so he can't hurt more amazing people like you

@blueStarKitt7924 4 месяца назад

@@sail253Yes.

@blueStarKitt7924 4 месяца назад

@@EliseWoodI wish you all the best to you and your child/children. May you heal and find peace. 🙏❤️

@lala_arneezy Год назад

Man…. This one hits so hard 😔 Same thing happened when I was 6-7 with my paternal grandfather. I was taken out of the home we lived in with him for a while. But was still forced to see him & act normal until he died just because my parents needed his financial assistance. I’m 27 now… no kids… I’m too scared.

@theadvocate3006 5 месяцев назад

Her parents violated her too. They chose to not press charges against someone who harmed her.. SMH

@pattyajones 2 года назад

OMG, John...Elise totally needed to hear everything you said to her. She was soaking it up in her soul...FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SOMEONE SUPPORTED HER in the way she needed to be supported!

@brendamoya8650 5 месяцев назад

This happened to me as a nine year old buy my uncle, my aunt found out and instead of stopping and doing something about it she used it to black mail me I was like her slave taking care of her two children cleaning the house for her as we lived together. She made me believe it was my fault ! For so many years I hated my self I even hated my Mom because she didn't know and couldn't protect me. I didn't know at first what had happened and how terrible it was till my aunt convinced me I was dirty and if my mom would ever find out she would hate me and throw me out of the house. I grew up very bitter wanting to hurt men. Then I started abusing my self buy punching my legs leaving them bruised no one ever new I was doing that to myself. Years later I came to know Jesus as my LORD and Savior he healed me and I've seen then been able to forgive them I understand now that forgiveness is more for me than for them. My uncle had a terrible death a slow one and my aunt has also been every sick for years she had 3 children and none of them support her nor visit her. I pray that she could repent of all the evil she caused not only to me but to her own children.

@commonsense6967 5 месяцев назад

I am so sorry you experienced this! You did not deserve it, and it's not your fault.

@brendamoya8650 3 месяца назад

@@commonsense6967 yes so many stories like this. Now I know it's not my fault and I thank my LORD God Jesus Christ he helped me forgive them and have moved on. But there is allot of people that don't have closure.

@animahawke4396 3 года назад

Elise is my hero. I hope that she finally gets the healing that she deserves.

@chrissmarie455 3 года назад

My heart breaks for Elise I feel like she was failed so badly by those who should have protected her the most, as a mom of a little girl I can't even imagine. Little Elise deserved soooo much better 🤍 happy to hear she grew up to be a brave strong woman 🙏🏻

@adjectivenoun12 6 месяцев назад

It's amazing that she told them right away. They failed her.

@jillpruett4772 3 года назад

Elise, I noticed that you are from the Portland metro area, where I lived for forty years. I had really good experience with Lutheran Family Services for some counselling I needed. You may want to look them up if you feel a need to do some of the psychological work you need for your own healing.

@SarahHunt 3 года назад

Megan, I identify with you so much. I could have made the exact same phone call (except ice cream in place of cheese fries). For me it's so hard to make the mental shift from wanting to BE different to being willing to make the changes I have to make to get there. I don't have any advice for you. I just want to let you know that I'm right there with you, and your call was an encouragement to me. Thanks for being brave enough to make that call.

@darkhorsematters4550 9 месяцев назад

Me too 🥳

@chocnass 3 года назад

Her grandfather is sick! Her family failed her! And any other children around them.

@deniseganey6890 4 месяца назад

The Grandmother is facilitating these crimes.

@emmawilkins5755 3 года назад

I struggled with weight for years. Every time a well meaning family member commented or gave me 'advice' all that did was reconfirm that I felt a failure. I had let them down. I was an embarrassment etc. Only when I began to love myself did I have the motivation to make changes. Calorie counting worked for me because as long as I stuck to it, no food was disallowed. I still ate chocolate! don't put too much emphasis on your size. Its not a marker of success or how worthy you are. Do it for you, when you are ready. Slow and steady x

@simplygina7703 3 года назад

Thank you for sharing!! This is very helpful info. I’m an emotional eater and the past couple of years have been difficult to maintain a healthy weight. I tend to be an all-or-nothing person, so I would restrict the things I would eat and then binge. I’d like to try to have things in moderation, so hearing from you that it works is very encouraging! Thanks again

@janae09 3 года назад

I have found success in counting calories and individual macros as well. I eat sweets in moderation rather than completely cutting sugar out and then caving and bingeing on whatever I can get my hands on.

@droptozro 3 года назад

Thanks for pointing this out Emma, glad you were able to get where you wanted to be. Calorie counting really is what's needed at least to start and eventually one can work themselves into a pattern and rely less on it--but I hate when people say they don't have to do it. It's akin to saying one has a major financial leak/issue and refusing to track their spending.

@blove4735 3 года назад

You can do it Megan!! Start today and never look back!! Prayers and good vibes sending your way!

@Silirion 4 месяца назад

Thank you so Much for this conversation. I met a woman that had gone through this and just couldnt make sense out What she was trying to share. She was everywhere emotionally and it was so difficult as an outsider to try and understand her trauma. Listening to this conversation gave me a piece of the puzzle that she tried to describe, and thank you John for being so direct with giving her direction and a course of actions to take. So helpful!

@pegzpat 10 месяцев назад

There's a special place in hell for those who molest children. Her mum didn't stand up for her, I hope this beautiful girl truly heals and has a beautiful life. She deserves it.

@slidecarnell2332 5 месяцев назад

This something happened to me by my mother's father. I never told anyone until I was in my 40's. After sharing it to my sister and my sons, I felt free but it stays with you. I remember when my boys were around 9 or 10, I told them, no matter what, if anyone ever touches you inappropriately, please tell me. Now, they are adults and I still at times have ask them if that had ever happened to them and they say no. I'm so happy they made it thru life without that kind of pain and shame. Thanks for this story.

@jaehee9519 4 месяца назад

seven year olds do not just lie about being sexually assaulted. i will never understand those who deny children validation and supportive care

@emcee2555 2 года назад

I'm hooked. I just discovered your videos and channel yesterday, and I appreciate the care you take with each caller. I really appreciate how direct and constructive you are, almost like you provide the caller some homework to complete. I'm very action oriented myself! Lastly, I want to say bravo to the callers. It takes so much courage to open up. I think this format is so great, because not only do you get to address your own issue(s), you get to help others who may be in the same situation, address their case as well.

@motherrussiaful 3 года назад

Megan! Way to go! So glad this young lady is choosing to create a better future

@dabd8175 3 года назад

She sounds like an awesome young lady!

@motherrussiaful 3 года назад

The first caller is Elise, second callers name is Megan

@jmc8076 3 года назад

@@motherrussiaful Apologies just realized that. Thx 🙏

@jmc8076 3 года назад

Agree.

@motherrussiaful 3 года назад

@@jmc8076 no worries at all!

@Lindsay_Lexus 3 года назад

Hey Dr. John! Thanks so much for being a light in this dark world! You are so amazing! Your advice is fantastic! It makes me want to change and make my life better continuously! Thanks for your service to our world! ♥️

@sohd2283 3 года назад

I hate people that do this to kids! It really is scarring for them 😒

@barbarah2773 4 месяца назад

I pray she has the courage to follow through on calling the police on her grandfather. I wish I would have done this when I was sexually abused by my grandfather and my uncles. But I didn't know I could do that. My parents did not protect me either. They kept sending me back to my grandparents house. All my abusers are deceased now, but the trauma I endured took a lifetime to heal.

@robertoramos8257 3 года назад

I totally feel Megan. We can do it it takes patience introspection and hard work to figure out what we really want and how we're gonna get there

@CAborn1112 2 года назад

Freakin’ love this podcast! Real hard issues with real people looking and receiving help. Great job Doc!!!

@amyhunter5105 11 месяцев назад

Yay Megan, you got this! I recently picked up some brain tricks that have helped me. Don't set any end goals of 30, 50, or 100 lbs. Work it in 5 lb increments. Sometimes, when it's a large goal, the 1 lb fluctuations we all get can be frustrating, which stalls motivation. I wanted to exercise daily as a lifestyle change but found I was making excuses when I was trying to run every day. I hate running, haha. Instead of running for 40 minutes, I switched to walking for an hour. It worked! I can walk for an hour, that's easy. Positive things that help me feel like I am achieving something keep me motivated to keep these changes going. The recommended 10,000 steps a day was a goal that would leave me frustrated, so I moved that goal to something I knew I could accomplish of 8,000 steps and then slowly increased over time. Keeping your focus on lifestyle goals will help you feel successful. I say things to myself like, even if nothing moves on the scale, moving my body every day, watching my portions, and drinking lots of water are goals I can achieve. For moments when I'm feeling myself backslide, I remind myself, "It's not never, it's just for now." I still indulge in treats occasionally to remind myself its not the food its the lifestyle. If I'm declining a treat I know will offset my progress, I'm also mindful to work in a day occasionally to put aside the progress for a night out. We've got to learn to work those into part of our lifestyle. You are a rock star and can do it!

@rivkahmiri513 3 месяца назад

Megan's call hits me for a different way... I'm listening 3 yrs later! 2024

@73odus 11 месяцев назад

I will forever question whether (most) people genuinely mean 'health' over 'looks,' despite that's what they "say…"

@tonniareed8631 3 года назад

John your advice speaks to so many of us. Thank you for your insight and transparency in your own struggles.

@judakimberly6551 3 года назад

Megan, I’ve been there too. I want to let you know that it gets easier. Once healthier habits and routines set in, it becomes almost automatic. It takes a lot of work at first, but I know anyone as strong and powerful as you are can do it!! 💕💪

@marciawright2600 3 месяца назад

When I was a teen in the 1970's I stepped out of my basement shower and saw my dad on his hands and knees looking at my naked body. This only happened once and it negatively impacted my entire life. I became bulimic and hated myself for years. I told my mom but nothing was done. Even one event can change someone forever.

@Idkgoogleitbro 3 года назад

Being a dad of two girls, these segments were priceless gems of knowledge and wisdom.

@TEM14411 4 месяца назад

❤

@VonSolo5 3 года назад

Beautiful and important demonstration of righteous anger. 💪🙌

@northshorelight35 8 месяцев назад

The worst thing about molestation is the aftermath. I know families that had to uproot and their financial situation became significantly worse to the point that caused the rest of the siblings to fall apart. In no way am I condoning the behavior but it’s not as easy as putting that person in jail.

@bakedbeans9546 4 месяца назад

I couldn't care less about their "finances" when they fail to protect children in their care. And most often these families of pedophiles know exactly what is going on and ignore it, they even brand the abused children as "liars" to protect their families status and finances.

@lifestylebyrachel 8 месяцев назад

If she is within the statue of limitations I think she should file charges. He is most certainly a repeat offender. He robbed her of a beautiful childhood and caused so much trauma.

@aundirussell8644 3 года назад

i love this man! he makes my life happier

@thickgirldiaries8874 Год назад

This episode was made for me I relate so much to the first and second caller. Thanks for the advice❤

@dalepetersen6533 2 года назад

This story and stories like it break my heart!! Bless her heart!!

@MR-sq3dn 3 года назад

Dr Delony did a great job of understanding and applying the culture on the call regarding the older brother needing to step in and help parents with other siblings kids. As oldest brother, he doesn't have to do everything himself. And if his siblings want to call him out, well now he can lead and delegate and tell them all how they are all going to be involved in splitting the responsibility!

@deniseganey6890 4 месяца назад

Her parents did not protect thier child or all the 14 children that are in danger .

@guinealove.986 3 года назад

I like the show but it’s so sad. God bless all the struggling people in the world.

@LivingAble 3 года назад

So glad your wife called you out Dr deloney! It drives me crazy when you Make comments like "Tell me and the five other listeners..." Or "until this show gets cancelled. I know it is self protection so to speak but you're doing a good work and you're helping a lot of people. And even if it was truly only five people the show would be worth it :-) I learned a lot from Megan's call and I'm going to make my list about the person I want to be and I'm also going to start reminding myself to remember so I make better choices in certain areas! Until next time have a great evening :-)

@analozada9475 4 месяца назад

I don’t understand why people put so much trust and give up their control to pastors or clergy men? When is statistically well known that most perpetrators of sexual abuse/assault, abuse of power, and money embezzlement are religious leaders. I’d never leave my life decisions up to a pastor or religious leader. Hell no! These folks tend to be even more broken than the average person. Nope! Not on my watch! Second call: unfortunately, most people think they don’t binge eat but they do unknowingly. Folks have no concept of basic math and science when it comes to macronutrients. She doesn’t want to measure her macros, yet she wants to lose weight. And the only way she can lose body fat is by measuring her macros, cuz fat loss is 80% nutrition, 10% exercise, and 10% rest/sleep. People want results without applying discipline and putting in the work. Unfortunately there’s no a quick fix or magic pill for every hurdle in life. We gotta walk the talk.

@Franklinandme 4 месяца назад

I love when the "little ears" warning is given. I like knowing to put my ear buds in before the topic(s) arise(s). Thank you for that.

@gabrielakarl3859 8 месяцев назад

Regarding the first caller. Not only id not allow my child to see great grandparent ever again, but I would not allow my child to see grandparents either because it sounds like they were enablers who shoved it all under the rug to keep the happy family facade. So sad and traumatizing on so many levels.

@juniper_woods9508 3 года назад

You got this megan!❤

@catbravo994 3 года назад

I would love an update on the first call. I really felt for her.

@truckingwithtobee 2 года назад

It’s time for her to approach her mom and call her mom out for that. And demand to find out what happened and how they took care of the situation. And also is the grandfather still alive? If he is I would approach him myself.

@kathleencooney1518 11 месяцев назад

I am so sooty this happened to you & that nothing was done. I am praying for you now. I hope this sicko rots in jail. At the very least, everyone will know the truth about him.

@kaizenborntowin 3 года назад

I am never letting any man around my daughters. Ever!

@rainbowpandasays8851 3 года назад

Yes, don’t let any man around them. Make sure boundaries are set, even a father must know this too.

@lindakincaid4530 3 года назад

we did not let any man around my daughter. she did spend the night at a friends house from church. but we talked about it and the boys and men of that family were not there. when i've had parties for my daughter with her girlfriends from school my husband and son left the house. We've done everything we can to protect both our children. we have talked about their private parts from when they were very young. My children were only allowed to spend the night at grandma's house. no where with out us or other men at the house. my son has never spent any over nights with anyone but grandma. Birthday parties/slumber parties, i'd pick them up at 10. they got 2hrs with their friends.

@chelsmaria Год назад

Y'all know women abuse children too, right? And look how many women in these stories *knew* of the abuse of men towards children, but still let it happen...which means those women are complicit in abuse too! Keeping your children away from all men by default isn't a healthy or reasonable solution for anyone.

@jesstheRoswell_BookQueen 3 года назад

I am here for you Magan! It's hard! I'm in the same boat!!!! You can do it!!! Sending love!!!!

@kathyb1011 9 месяцев назад

It sounds like her mother and her aunt had been abused and accepted their fate and were casually discussing that this girl probably hadn't yet.

@trinaroach2832 3 месяца назад

I suspected the same thing. Their own abuse might have decreased their ability to see/establish/uphold healthy boundaries. Especially if their mother didn't believe our protect them.

@kamronkhan 3 года назад

Great closing! 🙌🏽

@allysoncipollone890 3 года назад

Ugh this is heartbreaking :(

@Mysterious_Moon 3 года назад

Megan, you've got this! You are worthy and be proud of your new journey!

@rickycastro6555 3 года назад

She’s making too many excuses. Wants to look & feel better but doesn’t want to limit anything in her diet. Okay well eat less portions of what you’re eating, or put in more time & effort in the gym. It’s not rocket science. She’s not disabled or suffering from a severe disease. She just has has to put in the work. If working out was easy everybody would do it. And she shouldn’t compare herself to others. Some of them are younger, different genetics, etc.

@ananyav3395 3 года назад

I hate her grandfather! May God bless you girl🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@sackettfamily4685 3 года назад

Parents who do this devastate their children even more. My parents messed up very close to this and it messed up my sister Even worse. They are safe to watch my child, but I don't trust their judgement at all.

@marielamccartney7319 3 года назад

If I were you I wound not give your parents any chances with my own children. This kind of behavior scars children’s lives for ever! As a mom myself I would not put my kids in such danger at all! Wow!

@GameChanger597 10 месяцев назад

@@marielamccartney7319 Agreed. If you can't trust their judgment, you can't trust them for much of anything

@kareenodum1734 Год назад

Good for Magan! You can do this!!

@robynpayne9448 11 месяцев назад

Thank you, Megan! Thank you, John!

@carolinewinchester3176 3 года назад

I found out in the past 3 years something happened to one of my daughters when they were about 7.. The person is dead now!!

@OGA103 5 месяцев назад

I actually feel for the first caller's grandma. No one wants to believe they are married to a monster. No one wants to believe they wasted their entire life married to a p-phile. Ugh what a tough situation. But yeah...if he still has access to young kids something needs to be done. Terrible situation.

@TEM14411 4 месяца назад

Denial perpetuates abuse. Feeling sorry for someone who chose denial and illusions serves no one.

@customleathertooling2020 4 месяца назад

Megan! I joined Audrey's in 1972 and belonged until she closed doors. I've lived the weight battle my whole life. I'm grateful for your call because I'm choosing to take Dr. Delay's advice. I believe you can do this!

@abbiewitt9924 3 года назад

A similar situation happened with my uncle (by marriage) at the time and I was 9 years old and I told my grandma and my aunt and they didn’t believe me obviously because he moved in with my great grandma later in my life and they sent their kids over there with him there.