Childhood Trauma Has Led Me to Cutting As An Adult

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Childhood Trauma Has Led Me to Cutting As An Adult
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@CallHerCassie 2 года назад

My brother had severe anger issues as a child so I relate to this. He grew out of it. My parents protected him but they never protected me. I see you Tyler!!

@janelleg597 2 года назад

This is tragic. I hope you are well

@fortyseventhronin 2 года назад

Wow. I had to pull my car over and respond to this. Minus the husband and the extra siblings, this was looking in the mirror.Everything from the negligent parents to the abusive brother to constantly saying "i just don't know" in counseling. Most people laugh in my face when I tell them I was abused by my older brother, but I was. Years later, when I confronted my mom about it, she shrugged her shoulders and said "There was nothing I could do about it." Secrets truly do make you sick. Learning not to keep them was how I recovered. The last time I cut myself was almost two years ago. I did something I had never done before, I took myself to the hospital the next day (side note: it helped that I'm living in a different country where they don't practice involuntary hospitalization). I told the doctors what happened and allowed them to attend to my injury. A few days later, I went to the gym to have training with my personal coach. When he asked why my arm was all bandaged up, I told him the truth. His response? "You can't do that. No matter how bad things get, you can't hurt yourself. " For some reason, those words stuck with me. When I start to feel the impulse to cut, I repeat them in my head, and they calm me like nothing else. Not everyone will respond in the right way, but some people will givd you exactly what you need. Thank you for listening

@martina_trees 12 дней назад

As another cutter, thanks for sharing a part of your story. Ill try to use that quote too. Its so powerful. I hope life is going well for you.

@mr.lad-detailingtricksntip 2 года назад

“I don’t know how it ended up like this” is the same phrase every drug addict, alcoholic, pornography addict, any struggle thinks. Thank you so much Dr John for this and we’re praying for you Tyler.

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

She needs strong long hugs everyday! I pray for her healing!

@murraybeachtel8585 2 года назад

Tyler sounds like an amazing person all around. The love she shows others and her family will better them for generations. She changed her family tree. I wish for her to have peace in heart and mind as she ventures forward with healing. Godspeed.

@anna-marieclinton9902 2 года назад

I am 16 years self harm free. Life is worth living harm free

@blueStarKitt7924 Месяц назад

🙏❤️

@pattyajones 2 года назад

The relief in Tyler's voice after about 15 minutes.........................was so beautiful. Much love and light Tyler.

@EmpressMermaid 2 года назад

This was probably the first time she ever really told anybody about this. Cutting is often a response to emotional pain for which there is no outlet. I feel for her.

@sherridevries9144 2 года назад

Tyler if your reading these comments.... Im so sorry you went through all that and your current struggles. Im sending a big hug from me Michigan. Xoxo.

@Cyanopteryx 2 года назад

I suffered from post partum cutting. I didn't realize it was common enough to be recognized, I thought it was just how I specifically was dealing with PPD. But talking about it more openly really did help. I started feeling less embarrassed about it and was able to stop.

@imnotanalky 2 года назад

It’s a little more difficult to write my comment with tears in my eyes. I echo the other comments and hope you find the healing you deserve Tyler. You are worth it.

@hommy1614 Год назад

From a sister of an angry, abusive, older brother hugs, hugs, hugs to you Tyler. You are so strong to reach out for help. I hope you have found a talented counselor who is walking by you and your hubby.

@leahboynton1280 10 месяцев назад

This is the single most bravest lady i ever listened too. To speak our pain in ths open takes tremendous courageous. You took the first step, you got this x

@jmlnursing1084 2 года назад

I'm unfortunately one of those adults. I stopped years ago, but now I have these ugly scars. I get the urge every now and then.

@whitney187 2 года назад

My brother was much this way and still is very verbally and can be physically abusive. I can relate well to this caller. One parent is "stuck" believing he just can't help it and it's a load of BS. Meanwhile no support or interest in how this has affected me or thebother parent. So I have found myself extremely angry, and I am working through it with a therapist. Acknowledge your trauma, sis, then find someone to help you work through it. Much love and support!! ❤️❤️

@jefferymiller30 2 года назад

Dr. Please do a show on cutting. I remember my brother and one of my cousin did it when we’re younger… now, I’m wondering why

@HealthCoachHayley 2 года назад

I’m crying listening to this. Man life is just so hard. God help all the hurt, abused and depressed. Prayers for this sweet lady 🥺🙏. I can tell from her voice that she is spiritually sensitive and a kind person. Praying for God to bring her inexplicable peace in her life so she can live without harming herself anymore.

@suek7086 2 года назад

Oh my heart breaks for Tyler. I am going to be praying for her. Oh hugs, sweetie.

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

What a brave call. So many hugs of comfort to this young lady. I really don't know much about it but my experience firsthand was brutal: My sister's neighbor's daughter was cutting (early high school) and escaped it for some time and returned to it during early college years. My perspective on my sister's neighbor: The parents presented false expectations and were silently abusive over her weight and just stupid ideas of what was important in life. Caller: Please take care and know that it's not you. Please know that you will be o.k. if you Love yourself and learn about the process you will be o.k. Please give your a hubbie a shot to be your teammate....tell him everything. Sending Love.

@VioletEmerald 5 месяцев назад

She might also be panicking/ triggered about her second child because this new baby is a younger sibling the way she was one. And until she had two kids there wasn't a sibling dynamic but now it's avoidable that she has to think about the older one having the power to hurt the younger one. With little kids it's a normal thing to have to tell a toddler to be careful with the newborn etc but for her it's all wrapped up in so much trauma.

@Ironworthstriking 3 месяца назад

This hurt to listen to. I just want to give her a hug.

@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw 2 года назад

This poor baby. I just wanna give her a hug 🥹

@savedbyGrace1234 12 дней назад

This woman is the bravest soul I know - I wish as another woman and cutter I could hold you and allow you to safely sob . 😢 you are so special !!!

@LittleAsian_ 2 года назад

She’s soo sweet. It’s sad people have hurt her 🥺💛

@boanddevan4316 2 года назад

I just want to give Tyler a hug. If you are reading this, I hope you are doing okay. I hope you got the help you needed and deserve.

@callmerue. 6 дней назад

7 years cutting free ❤. sending her much love she's so brave. i cried the whole video lol

@lsmithgoose 9 месяцев назад

I stumbled across this, as someone who has never seen your channel. I usually avoid this type format of show as its usually sensationalist, exploitative, and very little actual psychological help in my experience. But this is worlds different. I am 30 and was neglected as a kid, I also have endured abusive relationships. I self harmed from age 10 and I managed to taper off when I was 17. Last month I broke my 7.5 years of being free of it. I did it extensively every day for about 2 weeks. Relapse is not back at square one. It took me time to work that out, I felt such shame. I find it so difficult to go back and process my childhood experiences, dealing with the abusive boyfriends was so much easier despite being awful because I can trash talk them and I know they are the most awful people. But to try and piece apart the fact I love/loved my parents and it is so complex but they let me down, massively and they led me to the path that allowed boyfriends to abuse me. Its tough. Its rewriting and reanalysing everything you know and think you are as a person. This video helped me a lot. Thank you. It was heartbreaking to hear her break down and to hear the pain in her voice, to know she knew silence was safer just as I did. I wanted to reach out and wrap my arms around her and protect her and say its okay now you're safe. I related so much and to that lump in your throat you get when you dont want to say it out loud. But as you said your body is screaming. Thank you and thank you for being there for her and being what she needed. She was so brave and is so strong

@rachelhope3161 2 года назад

I send my love and hugs to Tyler. Stay strong my soul sister🙏

@sallyburnell8082 2 года назад

Dr. John, thank you for your words to this young lady. My son who is now 40 cut himself during middle school. Beside his hurt it was mine also. I heard him up one night so I go up. He was in the kitchen making a sandwich and was as calm as can be. Several times we took him to the hospital. They would clean the wounds, once he needed stitches, and because he wasn't suicidal they would send him home. One time I said that if they would not commit him they would have to commit me. I felt so helpless as a parent. But the stay was for only 3 days . Thank God we found a good psychiatrist and he eventually stopped. His pain was due to his father who left. Please don't say that this girl overreacted to her brother. Even IF she did, and I don't think she did, the struggle to stop is real. And also is the pain and helpless of the family is real. Dr. John, do you think I should send this to my son or not. I don't want to trigger the past for him?

@charlesdavis124 5 дней назад

I'll be 44 on Wednesday, and I just started cutting myself a few days ago, and I'm scared that I can't stop! I'm reaching out to a therapist. Anyone else going through this, please get help.❤

@elkejansevanrensburg4692 3 месяца назад

6:11 "Silence keeps you save. Disappearing keeps you save... And it has your whole life. And at the same time our bodies will scream at us frim the inside out: 'Help! Help! Help!' And that thing that kept you alive is slowly burying you." This gutted me! Tyler, be brave and love yourself enough to get help and get healing. Edit: I am going to with you!

@MabelRD08 Год назад

I can so relate to her story. Her voice breaking had me crying for her🥺🥺🥺🥺❤❤❤❤❤I really hope she's doing well. Sending you a big hug Tyler.

@savedbyGrace1234 12 дней назад

I was a cutter and burnt my body until three years ago . I’m 57 yrs old .

@sign.language.l5765 Год назад

Thank you so much for this call and for her bravery and transparency.

@annbaker2950 4 месяца назад

What a brave woman! I’m with you girl. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️. I wish I had Dr John as my therapist. He’s the best ever.

@j8246 День назад

Wow i relate to her so much. I hope she is okay❤️

@tilicia 3 месяца назад

Tyler you are so brave! I’m in tears listening to your story and I can feel the hurt in your voice. I hope you are doing well!

@UnitedStatesGovt 4 месяца назад

After reading a lot of stories about childhoods and watching videos I realize I'm very lucky. I had a great childhood.

@shannonmcneill9464 3 месяца назад

So many hugs warmth love protection to this beautiful lady

@laughingliberaldad 3 месяца назад

Praying for you Tyler. Its been 2 years and I hope you've found peace and safety inside of yourself in that time. This was hard to listen to. First one I ever left midway.

@dorothyquinones4486 2 года назад

Thank You. Hard Topic kept so quiet

@KelseyDrapkin 2 года назад

Kim Kertsburg in the DFW area would be a great resource for her. ❤️❤️❤️

@susiestara0387 2 года назад

I hope things are going well, Tyler.

@SMC1986 3 месяца назад

Dr Delony, you’re amazing. Thank you.

@Jay-lz6uj 2 года назад

My older brother tried some crap on me and I slapped him. He left me alone we didn't speak for a week

@ME-cd3bs Год назад

I'm still struggling to cope with everything I dealt with in childhood/teenage years from medical abuse, a pediatrician obtaining child porn of me with my parents (unknowing) help, my grandfather dying on my 12th birthday, and a whole host of other traumatic experiences. All I'm left with are lots of scars on my thighs and PTSD.

@brookemckenzie1862 2 года назад

Brave forsure.

@bessiedalton891 2 года назад

This is so sad

@leapinglaura7343 11 месяцев назад

Why doesn't John insist on reporting therapists who fail to report? He dang well better be taking care of that behind the scenes, but why so cover upish about it? Happens every time this comes up. EDIT well shoot, the delony thread posted this to the wrong call. Oh well..

@sabrinadunn8099 2 года назад

Important

@LadyJamieElizabeth369 5 месяцев назад

❤❤❤❤❤

@BSCTrainerRob 2 года назад

Honestly sounds like normal siblings behavior . Clearly she's legitimately traumatized tho

@pretentiouscameron7815 2 года назад

I agree. This is stuff people with brothers go through

@MeloFloww 2 года назад

Agreed

@pimaggot 2 года назад

Exactly. You gotta scratch him with your 💅 😆 (still have scars from my sister at 42)

@Cyanopteryx 2 года назад

There's probably a lot more than she isn't saying though.

@edwardbaltimore1607 2 года назад

By the sincerity and fear in her voice we got the rated G version of what happened.

@ffsno9078 6 месяцев назад

Take long hot showers.

@daltonbrasier5491 2 года назад

She really needs to hear that she was never unsafe, she is overreacting and not handling normal life experiences well at all. It doesn't make her a bad person or less than a "stronger" person. But you can't let people live in delusions, it is very unhealthy.

@annelisebreman8801 2 года назад

How would someone who wasn’t in her position know she wasn’t unsafe. What she went through obviously wasn’t normal. Nobody stood up for her when she was attacked and vulnerable.

@daltonbrasier5491 2 года назад

@@annelisebreman8801 I'm just believing what she said. And from what she said that is a very typical childhood. Siblings being rough and picking on you is not some crazy traumatic thing. I would imagine she is just not telling the whole story if she actually feels this way.

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

You heard one snippet of this show and have a lot of conclusions about what she really needs...hmmmm. She's cutting and she's crying. Get it?

@daltonbrasier5491 2 года назад

@@JustinCase780 one snippet? I watched the whole video. She is either not telling the whole truth of the situation or is overreacting and needs to be told that.

@JustinCase780 2 года назад

@@daltonbrasier5491 Yes, and it's only a very small snippet. You have no idea what she's been through and to assume it's just typical childhood is your set of lenses...not, hers.

@josh8491 7 месяцев назад

Because her brother pushed her when they were little teenagers? LOL It's pretty clear some neuropathy is the root of this, which subsequently led to self harm and clouded perceptions of reality

@VioletEmerald 5 месяцев назад

You seem really confused and heartless. It's about extreme violent abuse towards younger children severely traumatizing her.