I Was Kidnapped and Sexually Assaulted (How Do I Move On?)

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I Was Kidnapped and Sexually Assaulted (How Do I Move On?)
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@Hamyhamster24 2 года назад

this is my worst nightmare...i can't even imagine the horror and trauma she went through. my heart goes out to you sweetheart!

@jessicadominguez1315 2 года назад

Right? I can't imagine. She is so strong for calling in and being so proactive. What an inspiration to all us survivors. Still, her story has scared me out of doing that sort of side-hustle.

@alleykeosheyan4779 2 года назад

You are not a victim, Rose - you are a SURVIVOR!

@sueblack5794 2 года назад

She is 100% a crime victim and hope she has been granted her crime victim rights through the law. One can be survivor and a victim of a crime. I hope this man is caught and locked up for life.

@dasmaverick1063 2 года назад

Shes a victim. Survivor because the trash rapist wasn't a killer. A warrior would have fought off the attack or died trying. She didn't do anything wrong, but not saying she's a victim takes away from the awful crime. A crime needs a victim.

@sakurisake4201 2 года назад

Wow that sounds so traumatic that she went through. I hope the perpetrator stays in jail or gets the death penalty.

@ReginaApple007 Месяц назад

Even if you murder someone post 2020 you only get a 5 to 10 years in prison, and that's just sentencing not time actually served. Anything less than murder and you're lucky if they do any prison time.

@Shay-yg7nm 2 года назад

What is wrong with these comments. This woman is so strong and I admire her. Her BF is struggling because it hurts him to see hurt. I hope they get through this together and best of luck to them both 💗

@diniquebunche4438 2 года назад

I feel like her boyfriend is not thinking about what she went through. She was the victim and she is now having to push her healing and pain aside to cater to his.

@Cathy-xi8cb 2 года назад

This guy isn't going to be able to deal with it. He knows this. SHE needs to know that. Many partners are gone after their loved one is raped. They simply cannot deal.

@ellencox8415 2 года назад

Or he grieves differently and doesn't need to "talk" through whatever he's going through and her forcing him to grieve the same as her is terrible advice.

@primabellas6856 2 года назад

He's a victim too. It's very likely he feels like a failure for not being there to protect her and I'm sure he's struggling with guilt and shame. Those are the kinds of things men commit suicide over so it's important for him to get help and understanding too.

@melanieb2132 2 года назад

I have sympathy for him. He feels like he failed her. He sees her and it just reminds him that he failed. It's not rational, and he needs help.

@bobberry1463 2 года назад

This is the reason relationship after these situations ends. My ex was rape and I didn't deal with my own trauma from the situation. It effext you more than you think.

@JustineCarissa 2 года назад

I'm glad the caller knows she is a survivor and did get through a challenging period of time of her life. That's a great mindset.

@leann5949 2 года назад

Wow, such a brave lady! God bless you Rose 🙏

@zeal4god402 2 года назад

Yes! Such a braveheart

@araineacutebrownnurse7315 2 года назад

She’s so strong. God bless

@kellylott9296 Месяц назад

This bothers me. She lived it. Had to unwillingly experience it. But he cant even hear what she was FORCED to endure? On the other hand. Im not a male in a relationship with someone this happened to... So.... I just really hope he does realize that she does need this from him. I know they are both in pain. Especially her.

@KS-cl8br 2 года назад

Best wishes to you Rose as you heal.

@emilycarter2492 2 месяца назад

I love that the caller is refusing a victim label and demeanor. Some SA survivors get counseling and understand immediately that they are not at fault and refuse to allow another person’s crime to destroy their victims life. You go girl!

@heyu9225 2 года назад

I really feel for this woman! I think John may have missed the possibility that her boyfriend no longer looks at her as a “pure” woman because someone else has touched her sexually. If the boyfriend hears the details, it might cause him to think about the assault every time they kiss or have sex and therefore he doesn’t want to hear it. Hopefully, John is right and it’s because he felt he couldn’t protect her, but if it’s not, she needs to end the relationship because he will always think bad even if it’s wasn’t her fault.

@jayk5731 Месяц назад

Exactly

@Cathy-xi8cb 2 года назад

The caller needs to find a therapist with a very strong skill set. This isn't entry-level CMHC work. Not by a long shot. ISST-D is a great place to start.

@olivias2836 2 года назад

She needs to see a psychiatrist

@startingtech3900 2 года назад

Bunch of letters that do jack for someone who went through this trauma

@snoozyq9576 Год назад

@@startingtech3900 those letters stand for things that do help people. But different things help different people

@susanlovesjava4961 8 месяцев назад

@@snoozyq9576 why don't you talk in English not abbreviations?

@TheTaintedTragedy Месяц назад

I know a lot of people here are looking at the boyfriend in a negative way but I also wanna throw another opinion out there. I think that he really cares about her but hearing the details makes him feel like a failure. He probably thinks he failed her and their relationship by not being there for her in a moment where she needed him the most and hearing the details and how bad it was throws him into a deeper depression because he thinks to himself why was I not there? He isn't minimizing her trauma by the way that she speaks of him he clearly cares about her and treats her with a lot of love. He's not calling himself a victim he's not minimizing the fact that she's a survivor of something terrible he's just simply hates that he couldn't stop it. I'm sure when she feels comfortable telling him details and he doesn't feel like he's in the mindset of feeling like he failed her he will want to know fully what happened. I do think they both need therapy, not just her. This is just a sad story but im glad she survived. And im glad he is by her side through it.

@riverafamilia 2 года назад

Yo, the thumbnail dude spelt assaulted wrong. FIRED! 😂

@JoelWende 13 дней назад

She’s amazing. The bf needs to stop making this about him and his ego. It’s really that simple.

@ana10g 2 года назад

it would have been interesting to hear how long they have been together for, and if they are planning for marriage.

@powers6253 2 года назад

She starts by saying they've been together for 2 years.

@ana10g 2 года назад

@@powers6253 thx. i missed that.

@luminous6969 2 года назад

Hey thumbnail guy, you misspelled "assaulted".

@rachelgooden9981 2 года назад

🤣

@startingtech3900 2 года назад

Go easy on him guys

@antonglas7488 Месяц назад

She`s treating the boyfriend as if he`s the victim. Unfortunately in general most people as not good listeners and it appears to me that her boyfriend is trying to shrug off that this happened and doesn`t want to be a part of it. The guy is not a good boyfriend and she should call time because he is not supportive at her time of needing support and getting over the trauma.

@nleem3361 2 года назад

Why does he need to hear the details? This event doesn't define her as a person. Nor, does it have to dictate her future. I'm glad she has a trained therapist to pour out everything to & help her process what happened and get guidece on how to move through it. It's good for him to go to her therapy with her, but if he's not up for hearing details, then he should not have to. No need to traumatize him with details. He may have questions about some things, so maybe he could meet with the therapist ahead of time to ask what's ok to ask about, and what's not. Just be sure they don't have anything planned after the appointment, so he can process whatever he hears. At the therapy appointment, I hope she tells him how grateful she was that he got to the scene so quickly and that she didn't have to deal with the aftermath alone, and that he's continuing to be by her side... that was huge and has no doubt helped her so much to have him by her side. The therapy may be a safe place where he can ask questions of how to help and support her better and things like intimacy after something that should be beautiful was used to hurt her. And, how to go back to being real with each other, and not worrying she might fall apart or if this happens again. Praying for them. 🙏🙏

@karenhartnell5146 Месяц назад

Because if you are signing up to be someone's life partner they need to be able to feel comfortable sharing everything and anything with that person. She has expressed that clearly she wishes to confide in him. And he's putting a wall up. His job is to support her through this, not make the situation about him. Though when she mentioned he was already diagnosed with depression that makes sense

@dianecelento4974 2 года назад

Was doing ride share and this happened. What a damn shame. Obviously, you can't let any stranger in your car. She learned this the hard way. God Bless You Rose

@snoozyq9576 Год назад

Yea my old flatmate was groped by a taxi driver. Very scary to think how easily this can happen

@SELF19881 2 года назад

Why is the boyfriend acting like a victim?.. He should be helping her heal and feel safe

@dasmaverick1063 2 года назад

Causes he is a man. Only cucks are not bothered by having their women assaulted or bedded by other men. What a strange thing to say...

@beyond-the-soul8651 3 месяца назад

When this happens, the boyfriend And the girlfriend, the one that was assaulted are both victims just in different ways

@Sharnecau 3 месяца назад

A lot of men can not handle another man handling his woman like that. Not being the protector

@crazedgermanantihero 2 года назад

THUMBNAIL NEEDS A SPELLING CORRECTION PLEASE, THANK YOU.

@MrRagweed 2 года назад

Calm down lol

@ethan4048 2 года назад

Calm down boomer

@startingtech3900 2 года назад

Go easy on thumbnail guy. Dave isn’t paying much

@crazedgermanantihero 2 года назад

@@ethan4048 BOOMER IS THE MOST PLAYED OUT WORD OF THE CENTURY. WEEB.

@crazedgermanantihero 2 года назад

@@startingtech3900 PROBABLY OUTSOURCED TO CHINA. HAHA.

@derekpascal3749 2 года назад

Dr. Delaney doesn't use SpellCheck?

@drewmunny 2 года назад

**Dr. Delony 😆😆😆

@snoozyq9576 Год назад

He doesn't make the thumbnails and titles. He just does the calls

@deepthinking8633 2 года назад

Boyfriend needs to man up

@startingtech3900 2 года назад

What do you mean by “man up” ?

@dasmaverick1063 2 года назад

Very insensitive. His pain is obviously worse than hers.

@denisseg9103 2 года назад

Hey rose try AYAHUASCA

@lesterparker1594 2 года назад

Dear god. Women, buy a firearm, learn how to use it, and don’t leave the house without it! I’m a grown ass man and I don’t leave the house unarmed. I couldn’t imagine sending my wife out into the crazy world without some kind of protection

@johnwick6481 2 года назад

This is why women should really avoid these types of driving jobs.

@nicolab2075 7 месяцев назад

Really? What else should we stop doing?

@luisae6917 3 месяца назад

Way to blame women 👏🏼

@kellylott9296 Месяц назад

Or perhaps men should control themselves. They are people with the ability to control themselves not animals. I understand what you are saying about being in a potentially dangerous situation though.

@McTrump 3 месяца назад

What does sexual assault mean. Serious question

@trumpisgod2535 2 года назад

It’s Sick that she thinks her boyfriend has to listen to her talk about her with another man. He needs to get another women in his life.

@annalupton9284 4 месяца назад

yikessssssss

@graceg3250 3 месяца назад

A supportive partner helps share burdens with the other. It’s not like she cheated on him or enjoyed the experience. Comparing sex and rape is comparing apples to oranges. Victims shouldn’t have to bottle up their pain without an outlet. If you can’t share your pain with your partner, then they aren’t a safe partner. Yes, people aren’t always going to be in the mental state to support someone else with their trauma, but they should be able to with time or in general. His recommendation about couple communicating their trauma through writing and responding when they feel more comfortable is a great recommendation.

@lqstar 2 месяца назад

That's very insensitive. My husband was physically abused growing up. I know everything down to the smallest details of what happened because he is able to discuss them with me. The abuse I experienced is of a different variety so my husband doesn't know the details, it's too difficult for him and I respect that. But there are memories I have that I’ve learned to bottle. I used to stare out and when he asked what I was thinking about I would tell him “just about what happened”. But I didn't like the sad expression he'd make so I started to make up something or try to change the subject so I wouldn't have to lie, though I'm sure he knew what I was doing. Know its been enough time where it's not constantly in my mind. But I still remember and am reminded by certain things and I keep them to myself. I love my husband but I could grow closer to him if he knew more and it would help me heal. It's not a sick thing to talk about. We don't choose what others do and it's definitely NOT like “being with another man”. Your comment is what's actually sick.