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@@MMAengineer Certainly, just no fighting outside practice and the ring. Even as an example for men to behold, Gina Carano is gorgeous in the days inside the ring and now as a beautiful compassionate lady outside the ring.
@@joshsaundh4851 Be honest with yourself. Two weeks away in a real relationship with a girlfriend is frankly nothing. Either you want a relationship or you do not value one if you cannot disregard a random crush distraction.
1) not taking care of youself 0:30 2) focusing on problems not solutions 3:05 3) overspending 4:06 4) overuse of social media 5:35 5) „i‘ll be happy when“ 10:39
There is a major problem with this video - this applies to WOMEN especially. (I don't need to explain myself). I can't believe she is projecting women's flaws and deficiencies onto men. We need to hold Courtney accountable - this is the problem when women think they are qualified to pontificate to men rather than women.
@@hotstreak9805 I agree, and I'm glad someone else noticed. These apply to (mostly Western) women more than men. We've all seen it, and if someone hasn't, they're blind. They basically want a guy who can have a rocket built for travel to Pluto and back, and then brag about it their friends. Most of the guys they want are usually 10+ years older and not single. Even if they are, it still begs the question why those women even deserve a guy like that in the first place.
About the point of "focusing on problems, not solutions", does anyone notice that's kind of what Courtney does most of the time? I mean, it's usually pointing out problems for people to self-diagnose, but then offers not real solution. Take for example overspending or overuse of social media. If it was so simple to cut down on how much time or money to spend, what difference will she make preaching about it? We might as well tell strangers what hobbies to try taking up because we know them so well and have their best interests at heart. It's like telling someone to quit smoking, but unfortunately the solution is not as simple as just insisting they stop
The simple fact that all the lost men cannot discern that this women is playing them with the "I'll stick up for you" nonsense and deceit while treating them as a commodity is priceless. This is nonstop anymore on RU-vid and elsewhere, where false teachers in all arenas are purposely set up to make merchandise of the simple stupid people.
I really appreciate the fact that she tells you when she's not an expert in a certain area, and advises people to do their own research. Sincerity is such an underrated quality.
All the power to her and the videos, there are lots of good insights in them, but people should _really_ take everything in tha ethernets with a grain of salt. It should go without saying.
She isn't an expert in any of the topics she covers! Knows enough about such topics and gives good advice, in general! A woman will never understand and know any man the way men understand each other, as men!! The same goes with a man will never know a woman, any woman, and understand them, like a woman can and will!!
Listening to her go on. (I generally enjoy her and she has some good things to say.) But sometimes I find her preachy and unqualified/untrained for her raps. I just clicked off on this after a few minutes.
YESSSS!!!! The "I'll be happy when" is the biggest killer for men! Learn to be happy with what you have! It doesn't mean stop building yourself up, it means having gratitude for the good things you already have in your life!
so true with that one. I've noticed that women fall into that trap even more, and are more driven to find that fleeting happiness-especially when dating.
Yeah man I think that comes with maturity. At least I hope it does, but it's like how they say people who are paralyzed in accidents are usually back to their baseline happiness within a few months. Happiness is a choice 99% of the time.
I deleted Instagram and snapchat yesterday, social media is poison in my opinion and is the cause of most mental illness we see these days. Many things in your videos are very obvious to me; I have a very supportive family and friend group, I can't express how beneficial having a circle of good people around us can be. Thanks Courtney, your content is great!
I only log in to Fakebook once in a while to let family know I'm still alive. Then, I'll make a witty remark and disappear for a few months. Since leaving it years ago I've felt tons better. Also, I'm a circle of one. 😂 And, I'm becoming more circular every day.
Guys, please consider prioritizing your mental health. If you can relate to any of the things Courtney addresses in this video, chances are it’s as a result of trauma you’ve experienced. I’m working through this myself right now, and although it’s going to be a journey, I can see some light appearing on the horizon. Courtney, you’re really making a huge impact on men’s lives. I’m taking more control of my own as a direct result from your channel and it’s benefiting me immensely. Cannot express how appreciative I am. Thank you. 🙏
Best decision I made for myself over the past 7 years was getting my blood work done, hiring a Coach, and getting my hormones in line with my doctor. I'm 45 and feel like I'm 27+/-. I'm in the best mental and physical shape of my life. It all started with the desire to be the best version of me. It's been a true blessing to me and my family.
Interesting thank you for sharing. Can you elaborate on your "blood work" ? Most of the doctors do not give a single shhhh to hormones and blood testing so it makes me curious if any progress has been made there
This is so true. My brother who straightened his life out. Quit drinking and drugs, held a stable job. Got a nice car, apartment, and furnishings..everyone felt he was doing well. But, he had this expectation mindset where he thought...ok i do these things and ill attract a trophy girlfriend. My life will be complete, we'll have kids and settle down..after a few years of living this lifestyle, he threw away everything he'd worked for because he couldn't find a lady that was looking for the same things. So, he went back to his old ways. Because he hooked up with low quality women. He met one, that brought him back into his drug addiction.
I'm at that cliff edge myself. Except, I was "the good son". Always did my chores, homework, and help out with my younger siblings as my parents worked. I didn't fall into the trap of chasing girls, drugs, and parties. Instead, I enlisted, stayed focused on my education, (First a degree, then a trade license) and then WORKED...ALOT! I can count the number of vacations I have taken on one hand, literally. It has been a cycle of school, work, military, rinse repeat. Why? Because I do not like being hungry, cold, and homeless. Yet, in spite of all my sacrifice and efforts, here I am, a 44 year old virgin, and a family that wonders why I do not have children of my own. While true, I am NOT entitled to a woman's time, however I certainly didn't deserve a life sentence of hard labor and gene death! I'm about ready to say F it, and throw my tools away. I retired from the service after 26 years, I can quit the other job. I can throw it all away too. I knew I should have been a POS...
Help your brother to get things back on track. And as for a "trophy wife" tell him to date Asian girls. American and European women aren't worth it ! Getting a trad wife is easy in Asian countries.
That is my EXACT story. To the T. Even more so, because once my ex took my son and left the country, like she threatened to do, i started using opiates and fentanyl. I haven't even seen a picture of him in almost a decade. Then I got clean, got a car and apartment, decent job, but after about 4 years of being single, and being clearly rejected multiple times, I just fell back into using. That was 6 years ago now, and I'm still injecting large amounts of fent and sometimes coke daily. Also now my teeth are beyond fixable, and my track marks make it so that I don't even feel comfortable fully opening up with people. I tried applying for door dash this week, but apparently a felony from 2011 is too much for them to hire me, despite them saying that they'll only take the past 7 years into consideration. The only thing I was really blessed with was good parents, if it wasn't for them, i don't know where I'd be. Loneliness is truly the worst feeling in the world. I even avoid going out in public sometimes, because just seeing families and couples enjoying life makes me feel like absolute shit, and probably something I'll never have.
@@tailgunner2 I'm sorry for your troubles man. Sounds to me like you're a decent, honorable and dutiful man. You definitely don't deserve to deal with extreme loneliness, as you, and many other men are. In any other time or era, you would definitely be able to find a tender, loving spouse. Only in this decadent society does doing the wrong thing attract interest in women (eg- being a felon, or selling drugs, etc). Women are followers and virtue must be instilled in them, optimally by a father who shows his love through his work, as well as being faithful to his wife and family as a whole. Instead, women would rather be a side chick to a so called "high status" guy, rather than being loyal to a decent and virtuous guy. I've seen it over and over in my life. Women are becoming more hypergamous, and while their standards are technically increasing, they're increasing in superficial qualities, such as how much money a guy has, or whether they immediately find him physically attractive without even finding his character attractive, rather than looking for virtues, such as prudence or wisdom, or any virtues or values that will project long term security and stability. But of course, women don't need men anymore... They're "independent", until there's a flat tire. A lot of people may look at this and just say that it's men complaining, and being insecure, but the truth is that women control sexual selection, as well as the females in almost every mammalian species, and therefore they should be held to at least some degree of responsibility and accountability. There's a reason why a huge plurality of men are beginning to complain, and it's reflected in our declining national birth rates, which is horrible for any society. For any society to at least sustain itself, it must at least keep it's birth rates steady, and literally every western, first world nation isn't. There's a reason why Eve leading Adam led to man's fall from grace, because it perverted the natural order, or the laws of nature (God's law, ie- the divine logos). There is at least some justice to how you feel, but as we know as men, stoically keeping those emotions of possible resentment or indignation in check is essential to stay productive. I feel your pain brother, and just know that there are plenty other men out there that do as well. I'm not going to lie to you and say that everything is going to be alright, and that you'll find a woman eventually, or sit here and yell you to deny your own biology by saying "f*** women altogether, you don't need them". That may be where you're at, but I don't know that, and as a man you still have instincts and needs as well. Again, all I can say is that I feel your pain, and that many many men, including me, are going through the same issue. Be strong brother.
When the pandemic hit, i just started working out at home. no trainer, just found a functional strength training routine I enjoyed. I was 300 pounds (5'9"). I started doing my workout a few days a week, bought a food scale and now, today, I'm 174 pounds and at 49 years old have never felt or looked better in my life. best part is, didn't require a huge effort and over these past 3 years I've just changed my whole outlook and the self-care bus just drives itself now.
Licensed tradesman for me. When the bug hit, there is no such thing as "work from home". If anything, work was non-stop. I wish I was laid off, would have made more money, and have the time to give my house some desperately needed repairs.
i can personally attest to the social media pitfall. i completely purged all of my social media 4 years ago and i cannot put into words how much of a positive difference it made in my life.
I agree, although I've never used them, I've avoided them and also stopped watching most TV especially the woke news, and cancelled my newspaper (to much wokeness and anti male). Having said that I don't think we can say we've got rid of all social media as here we are on RU-vid. I've always wondered if this counts as social media.
@@silverdale3207, I don't think that RU-vid ever falls into the same pernicious category as Facebook or Twitter (or, increasingly, LinkedIn). One can, after all, learn about many useful things from RU-vid. (Such as Courtney Ryan's commentaries.) In 2022 I got rid of my Facebook, Snapchat, and LinkedIn accounts (I never used Twitter). Frankly, my sole regret is that I didn't get rid of them years beforehand.
@@robertjamesstove Thanks,I hoped RU-vid want considered the same, as you say you can learn a lot off RU-vid, had friends try to talk me into some app (Snapchat I think), but they're always on their phones and taking stupid videos to send each other. I'd rather actually live my life
Getting up early early. Ever since I started getting up at 445am. Get that run in, make breakfast, get dressed for work without rushing through the morning. Less anxiety to rush, get ready and drive to work.
"You really want to surround yourself with people who support you, have goals for themselves as well, things that they are working towards, people who are positive... those are the people who you want to be around." It's a great concept. But it's entirely and totally RARE.
Lynyrd skynyrd said it best. Forget your lust for rich man's gold, all that you need is in your soul. So your "I'll be happy when" is perfect. Great video Courtney!! 👍🏻 💯
Thank you for all you do Courtney, for all the free game you give us, a female voice telling us what we truly need to hear about your peers and for being you as a whole. I much dig your honesty, sincerity, etc. Whether we don’t want to hear it, we always need to. Thank you again ❤️
This is me speaking from experience. Watching adult films for an extended period of time can destroy a man's confidence, make him look less attractive, cause him to have social anxiety and brain fog, and it will ultimately ruin the relationships that man has with his loved ones, friends, and even his significant other. All of these things have happened to me at one point in time, and I'm working on avoiding adult content so I can improve myself day by day.
I'm trying to her there. I just had a girl block me that I had sex with because I was annoying I bet. Because I just wanted more sex outta her. But she also counseled me and why my realtaionships faild
@Perioperative Dreams ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-AWX1AzNZPJI.html I found a video of hers that's close to what we talked about. This is the closest thing she gets to talking about this topic
Spot on,I am 49,lived most of my adult life in 80's and 90's,only adult video at the time and adult magazines,and a...weird procedure for access...Funny at times...For example (me at the kiosk): ehhh,I want a newspaper,eehhh,a chocolate,and an " open"( adult magazine of the 90s)!! Only to justify the sex magazine basically I was feeling the need ( half akwardness half shame) to buy whatever spending useless money!After fast internet my previous 'healthy' short time habits became many times unhealthy thoughts and looong lost time...Beware,I m as also on the rewiring trip!! We have to face it strongly and desicively! And give our affected brain some time to adapt back to reality and fortunately into a health REAL sex life again! Good luck to all of us,and we re a lot!!
0:51 Glad to hear that. It is highly undervalued how impactful a good personal trainer can be in someone else's mental/physical/spiritual health. As a man, being weak is NOT an option
I will add to what Courtney said, Gratitude is the real source of Happiness . Being grateful for the things you have could literally change your life perspective. As HAMZA said, in order to express gratitude, you should write ✍️ down the things that you already have (ex: the life you’ve been given, the cloths you’re wearing…) These things can be normal, but can have a big impact on your life.
I have a hard time feeling grateful for having a debilitating life ruining disorder like social anxiety and adhd. Getting better feels impossible when you have this combination of nuerotic emotions holding you back.
Easy to be grateful when you have a lot of good shit on your life. A lot of people have it rough and ignoring those problems aren't magically gonna make youd life better. A lot of people ate born woth issues they can't control and struggle to move forward in life. Other issues ate thrust upon them by society, such as the dating market. This shit always sounds great on paper but falls flat in reality.
Habit I would like to add is isolating yourself. Shutting yourself from the world is being romanticize. Lone wolf mentality, Villian arcs, etc. Look, going against the crowd is a good thing, but everyone needs like minded people or atleast people you can trust when things get a lil bit heavier. Let go if you outgrown some people and try to build better connections.
I screwed my life up, my father made me go on social security at 22 and now I’m 40, but I’m gonna make a come back and get off social security, save as much money as possible, move out of my parents house since they are so damn negative and ghost them for a while until I get my life together. I’m gonna give myself a 4 year time table to turn around my life and I’m confident I’m gonna turn it around in 4 years.
Brave Man for what you are doing as well as putting it out there to help others too. Both of those things are destroying humanity in the foulest ways and it's a blessing when brave soul is not just turned away from the garbage but helping others keep from the same path. Stay strong and above that lower vibrational frequency to self destruction. Admirable of you 🏆
This is an excellent video Courtney! Focusing on Solutions not on problems is HUGE! I also find myself more goal oriented and stabilized with a healthy mindset when I interact with positive people who don’t play victims or dwell on problems. Great reminder 💯
Not I'll be happy when but I'm happy because!!! Examples God loves me, I woke up, I can breathe and Courtney emphasizes on people being healthy inside and out. Start your narrative this and bless you all🤩😍👏👏
What I think people struggle with is knowing what they are passionate about - people put themselves in jobs that only bring an income but they don’t actually find happiness in it. Gratitude is definitely important. Social media creates jealousy and anxiety, following the news also creates anxiety. What people need to do is live in the present - forgive, learn and forget the past and the future is not here yet. I do what makes me happy - helping people, listening to people, always being in nature, listening to music, looking after my health. What people also struggle with is not being able to be alone, being alone you are confronted with your fears and insecurities and promotes healing when done correctly - these are all the things I learned by being alone. I agree with you on being with positive people too, I’ve managed to turn my inner voice into positivity, all negative things that happen are a learning experience for me or that’s just life, it’s how you deal with them that makes you wiser. I’ve also almost completely stopped swearing, it’s negative vibes when used in the wrong way and the biggest for me is being authentic, I don’t live a fake life anymore. Im sure there’s a tonne of other things I can think of but these are just a few.
Not caring for oneself and "I'll be Happy When..." are the 2 most important ones. Not caring for one's health is like punishing oneself--and there's lots of ways to do that--and it can be hard to avoid. Great advice for people prone to emotional eating. #5 is great since it reminds us to focus on what we can control (ourselves), as we can do something about that.
I’m friends with a co-worker whose 22 and he encourages me to do better than where I’m at in life, and he tells me I’m young which 40 is not young but I like the encouragement from him.
Thank you again for providing great information. I appreciate how much you care about us (men) and your hard work and diligence shows. Listening to your content has helped to bring me out of a very dark place and given me hope that there is a better life out there and better people to spend it with.
Courtney, you are right regarding managing money and getting out of trying to keep up with the Jones'. My wife is Taiwanese, the Chinese culture is about saving face. I recommend men who are out dating to study the culture of who they are dating. I don't care as much regarding trying to keep up with others, my wife kinda does. The problem with myself I had to learn is to not be impulsive and not panicking.
Speak for yourself, I get absolutely no pleasure helping others anymore due to modern women and their love of penis size shaming and emasculating men to suicide I did used to love helping people of course, for free into all hours of morning for their health and nutrition advice. These days, I couldn't give a damn, the world is a warped evil disgusting place where most modern women judge and grade your entire value based on your penis size to sexual ability. I wouldn't piss on most of these people if they were on fire, scumbags
I feel like a lot of people also let their emotions guide the direction of their actions. Some people become too happy/satisfied and they just become lazy or complacent and others become angry/frustrated and quit. I think you should set a major long term goal and always work towards it no matter how you feel on any day. Because at the end of the day that really does bring a genuine happiness inside of you
Being someone that was straight and narrow through college n high school, I started living the “hookup” lifestyle at 25 and must say that I am still having a hell of a time years later. Drinking and sleeping around is a lot easier than going to therapy. Being a teacher and working out is fulfilling enough. Ain’t gonna be settling down anytime soon. Big fan Courtney!
I get in at least 10k steps per day outside of my every day routine, and while I don't deliberately listen to what strangers are talking about I do hear segments of conversations and I've noticed a lot of people seem to live vicariously through the lives of others. These people are seldom positive about it either, usually putting down those they're focusing on. While adjacent to some of the topics you've spoken about it's different enough that I thought I'd mention it. A person needs their own things/lives to focus on. If you don't it can be bad for your mental health and will inevitably lead to the inability to better yourself. Can't improve yourself if you're more focused on others, even if the intent is to make yourself feel better. I'd go so far as to say it will make a person regress.
The balance between being content with what you have and striving for goals that you want is complicated. The balance of enjoying the good things you have while working towards your goals takes the right balance for happiness.
1, not taking care of yourself is not an indication of happiness. Only judgment and projections on those who think it is. Usually gym/ health and wellness folks are extremely depressed, egotistical, narcissistic and are coping their unhealed wounds with a "healthy" activity. Still coping. 2, focusing on the problem is always the solution. 3, financial status is not an indicator of happiness. Wealth is a temporary man made construct that come and go like the tides. If wealth is your concern. You live in fear and ego and have little understanding of what being human means. 4, overuse of social media is a good one, but that applies to all. And reliance on tech is only asking for trouble. 5, you will only be happy when the goal is achieved. Happiness is a temporary state of emotion that comes and goes like the tides. It requires work and you will only be happy when the work is done. And only temporarily. Than on to the next task.
One of the things which I think is really important is to continue upgrading your skills once you start working. I get that people might be fed up with studying after they have finished full time education. However, in my opinion, if you don't upgrade your skillset from time to time, the risk of being laid off increases. This is why I feel very strongly that people have got to try to invest as much time and money as possible in taking courses after they finish college. When I started working, I took a break for a few years of doing any courses. I used to spend quite a bit of money in bars, sometimes by myself. After a few years, I got fed up with it, and realised that I wanted to do something useful in the weekends, and in the evenings. This is when I started taking evening courses.
Making money as a Software and Hardware Engineer is my Anti-Depressant and enjoying my sports (Playing and Watching). I have never been a big fan of goin to the gym but I have stayed fit and looking great by playing basketball, soccer and football most of my life!! At 43, I feel good!!
I've found the biggest advancement I have made was about 5 years ago. I went MGTOW and have never looked back. I have time now to do the things Court suggests rather than spend time, money, and sacrifice my mental health trying to figure out women. Go MGTOW for one year. After a year look honestly into where you are in your life. I found it the best thing I ever did for my overall health.
I saw it was written in the comments below and I totally agree with it... "I'll be happy when"... The greatest killer of human happiness!!! Greatest life advice ever!!!
Thank you Courtney for all you do to bring this great channel to us. You make it look effortless, and the quality is there every time. Receiving your great content has actually made me more selective with my social media use! Thanks for setting the bar with genuine and truly helpful advice😊.
For younger men its different. I am going to be 67 in a couple of days. I grew up an hour away from where I live today. Anyway, most of my friends I met at work. The big problem is the younger men don't want an old guy to socialize with and I would probably feel uncomfortable as would they. We would probably not relate. The guy's my age or close have families, wives, kids and/or brothers & sisters. I do not. Because of this they do not socialize. Let's face it they have their own lives. Which I understand. When I left my jobs they dropped the friendship all together. I thought it was interesting about the human connection. Since I was 9 my hobby was collecting board & card games. Then when the game consoles and later the computer games came out it was great because for us lonely we could play against the AI. It was always there. After a few years I went back to board & card games because what I missed was the human connection. I love a good strategy game. Playing the computer it always predictable. Playing a human is not. The fun is doing something unpredictable throwing a human a curve he did not expect.
Hello, you bring up some very good points about things, however genuine humans and friends do not care about someone's age. Some of the people I associate and get along with best are even 80 or in their Nineties, and even though they may have many limitations, they are a pleasure to be around as people. The problem is most modern connections are only made on the basis of what you can do for other people, it's not about a real connection, it's only about being "seen" or "associated with" by others, especially on the basis of what you do for work or how much you earn. Which explains why those you mentioned had "dropped" you after you left your job. So they were never genuine to begin with. Genuine people these days who are indifferent to themselves and superficial factors, are extremely rare, but then again most of these people never even consider whether they actually like the other people in life that they "hang out" with. I see a lot of people who will hang out with losers even in public, only because those losers "provide" something like drugs or something else they want. It's almost never about enjoying that person's company.
@@prussiansocietyofamerica Oh I realize your point about never really being friends in the first place and usually pick up on it. But one coworker in particular I was a little surprised. We both said how we enjoyed each other's sense of humor and that we helped each other make it through a stressful day. I do still talk to 2 ladies who work there, and they do call me. Me I am loyal friend if I had your number and you left for whatever reason I would call. As matter of fact one friend who left before me, I still talk to. I have even gone to his horseshoe tournaments
These are great and I should write them and put them on the fridge. These are simple, yet easily forgotten (esp by me). Sometimes I feel like a hamster on a wheel. I need constant reminding and need to read the list every morning, afternoon, and night. Thank you again Courtney for all you do for us!
Courtney, we have a lot in common. I’m also very interested in matchmaking, relationships, and social media. I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. As a writer, I appreciate and respect how clear, succinct, and informative your videos are. I don’t have a girlfriend or wife because I prefer being alone over the huge risks and sacrifices required to be in a relationship.
(On social media usage): "So is it good for my business to tell you to get off the internet and go outside and touch some grass.." Courtney, you are the second channel where I am happy for you by telling this to your followers. The first one is Based Zeus, in a similar tone. I truly appreciate channels like these that gives care for the lives of their viewers.
On point with everything mentioned, love how Cortney doesn't sugar coat it yet keeps her delivery tasteful. Even though my older behind is focused on self n keeping from the scene I keep a pulse on things here and the values n advice this amazing young lady brings are priceless fellas.. I actually have checked myself and am realizing that I have been slacking on the working out tip so thanks for that Cortney. But to mention something about anything else, I'm not saying everyone is doing it but I know the dark side of things from my past and it's unfortunate that I have been noticing more young folks that are of the "upper" class especially are let's say experimenting with mind altering substances n there's only set backs if one's lucky to get from any of em especially if a person is thinking it's a good social lubricant. I've lived it, seen it, and fortunately I'm a better man being over it but I definitely would tell my younger self to just leave it alone if I had a time machine, I probably sound like that party pooping old head and I don't care. If I only help one out there with this then I have am so grateful to do that. Congrats on your engagement Cortney, I have been in other topics since I found this channel back around covid times and I am truly happy for you and the very wise and lucky man that put that rock on your hand. Bout time he did,,🤨 LoL. Stay safe and sharp everyone much love.
Something that always stuck in my head from a motivational coach years ago ( T. Robbins ) was this: What can I do, Right Now, to improve myself or better my situation or circumstances in a positive way. Right Now. That means I don't really need to have any useless downtime. I can be working on my health be at the gym or wherever ... I can work on my diet, I can work on my brain, learn something new ... Maybe from a book ... I think one of the most challenging things in our times is the endeavor to be Original ... In anything. It's not easy. But not impossible either. Endeavor to be Original and not just go off what the next person is doing seems good to me ... Of course learning from other is absolutely essential in many ways ... But trying to find your own niche, and at least making a valid attempt at originality ... That is a noble, courageous and maybe even sexy endeavor. ☺️
I've been watching videos on similar topics from several creators, and yours are the most practical, concise and truthful ones I've seen so far. Even the other good ones aren't nearly as good as yours. People would be well-advised to just stick with your videos.
Always being a People pleaser Pretending to be things you re not Always having to prove yourself to others These are the most annoying habits that us men must get rid of , thanks for the content keep it up courtney
1) spending money dating women 2) listening to woke or female centric entertainment 3) having a female boss or dodging them at work 4) having to wait at the gym for a woman to get out of the way 5) having a nagging mother sister or other family members 6) dealing with an isolating gyno centric school that might put you in debt for a bad education
Number 5 is true, but hard. Imagine you never had any experience with a relationship and you really want it, an internal desire is created. Not fulfilling your desires and still be happy is hard, nearly impossible. You can tell yourself be happy with what you have, but most men have a growth mentality, it goes against their nature. I personally think number 5 can be the best thing for growth, but you have to know your boundaries.
First-time commentator, long-time subscriber. Love Courtney's work, class, consistency, message, and beauty. I avoid all the bad habits in this video too! 💪 It is sad how "phones" are now used for everything but actually talking live. I feel super old-fashioned with my desire to talk by phone before the first date. Scores of single groups never take my offer to talk. Yet, live conversation is one of the best ways I connect. We can even talk through apps to keep phone numbers private! How important are men's conversation skills to women? Why do so many women fear talking for even 20 minutes?
That is very brave of you to recommend limiting social media time even if at the risk of less business for you. In reality you probably have your followers giving you more time and simply cutting out other RU-vidrs that don't give such honest and direct advice. Thank you for being transparent and trustworthy.
Develop your intellect: study some mathematics, physics, read some classic literature (something that makes you use a dictionary), etc. Revisit a topic that you were "crappy at in school" but still want to learn, or something you never did as a kid; self-study is a secret weapon. It will be good for your mind and general confidence. Get some *real* books: no batteries required & can be read in direct sunlight.
I found out earlier this afternoon that I was removed from a school club for something I said that violated club policy, even though I am still confused about it because I can't recall saying or doing anything that was deemed hurtful or harmful. Best thing to do about it is to move on, I guess. Always hurts to be kicked out of a group, especially when one feels like they did nothing wrong, but once it has sunk in, there is little to nothing that can be done about it. Best course of action is to learn from it, appreciate the time one had with that group, and move on to the next group with the mindset that the same mistake can be avoided the second time around. And that plays into who we choose to associate with.
1. Not Taking Care Of Yourself - I don’t have exercise schedule down yet but I do have a new schedule new things going back to school like a film school three days a week I get up 5:30 to get ready and be waiting 6:00 for my ride to get me school which is like a door to door transportation, eating healthy foods, B2’s, take hot & cold shower everyday to wake up and have a ice cold protein shake, and presenting myself I always keep on grooming stuff, and always wear fresh clothes everyday and wear mostly all black clothes. Then on on the other two days I focus on exercising, like on Monday’s & Friday’s I bike a lot like a lot a lot then I walk a lot too, & jump roping as well and then focus on more woodworking like hauling wood with bare hands 25 pounds or more and all that. So I should incorporate that stuff into a routine for Monday’s & Tuesday’s. 2. Focusing On Problems Instead Of Solutions - I mean yeah no one likes hearing negative thoughts from others but then sometimes people need to understand that you don’t have to play a victim if things don’t work out in what you want to do because there are points when people have certain things that they can or cannot control like one people can’t control if they a disability that prevents them from being successful in what they want to do say it’s filmmaking and the person with the disability wants to drive but their disability requires them to take pills, or say the disability prevents the person to multi-task like that’s a legitimate thing and so their are limitations that’s not playing the victim card maybe other people that are considered normal or average people can do things that us people with disabilities cannot do people say oh you can’t do it be surprised even if we have to find transportation ourselves it is much more difficult to get around when transportation is so fucked like it’s not easy it’s harder to get around but we have to make do with the limitations we have and get places we need to be. 3. Overspending - Now here is the thing about money it’s so sky high so I am gonna have to save money for awhile for Sac-Anime Event for a Anime Con and so that’s something I will have to save money. 4. Overuse Social Media - So I do go on social media but only when it’s necessary so if their is something I like then I take a photo then done. 5. I’ll Be Happy When - So for me I am happy with myself more than anyone else I have people I hang out with but only when I can and I don’t spend a lot of time with people as much as I used too but when I do it’s very little, and all that. I do have a family but it’s not gonna be as big as it was and all that but that’s life and life goes on I have to have positive thoughts on shoulders even if it’s sad that fact that I have very little time with my grandparents and I have to be spend more time with them before they go up to the man in sky. I’ll be happy and try to be positive when sad or not.
I think when guys say, "I'll be happy when I have a girlfriend," they are really saying, "I'll be happy when I have love." Of course, that could be the same for women as well.
Important things as well: First thing 0:31 - Not taking care of yourself, Second thing 3:05 - Focusing on problems instead of solutions, 3:38 (agree with that. Find a solution for pollution 😉😊🙃🙂), Third thing 4:05 - Overspending, 4:40 (don't mix with being cheap, and responsible), 5:18 (agree with responsibility), Fourth thing 5:35 - Overuse of social media, 6:49 (so true about that as well), Fifth thing 8:35 - Your circle, 9:37 (agree with the boundaries as well, and the toxic people will get out of your life as well), Sixth thing 10:31 - I'll be happy when, 11:23 (we can control the way how we respond on situations), and 11:32 (agree also with happiness as well). Maybe sometimes overthinking can lead us for unsuccess as well, and also listening what the others say (no matter how might somethings won't work for you). These are maybe seventh, and eight things among the mentioned things as well. Of course you can make a part two, or as many parts of the mentioned video if it's necessary as well. Of course this is a suggestions. But since it's your channel, do what's best for you dear Courtney, pretty lady 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤. At the part sixth I can add one thing when we will be either happy, or better as well (and I have mentioned that quote in one of your videos as well Courtney). And that was mentioned by Patriarch Pavle (Patriarch Paul - you can find it on internet if you are interested as well). He told this: It will be better, when we are feeling better. I can also add a similar thing as well like this: We will be happy, when we are felling happy as well.
Some men make over six figures but don't know how to manager their money. They have expensive cars, nice suits, nice watches, nice shoes, but no money in the bank. Impressing a woman with these things get you somewhere but being financially responsible can get you farther.
Your content, and the impact it does on me and thousands of men outthere is just unexplainable! Thank you so much for your hard work! You are a life saver ❤️🌹
In group setting, one of my female friends said the reason why she wouldn't go out with one of our mutual friends was because he didn't take care of himself. And he had a decent amount of money, too. So I totally believe that taking care of yourself does make you attractive.
What's making men unhappy and unsuccessful is they are finding out the truth. The truth is if they work hard, build up wealth, buy land and a big house - he loses it all in one day in family court. He says why build up assests and a big family to only become homeless and owe $250,000 in child support ? And only see your kids 2x a month. And that's if she let's you. Change the divorce laws if you want society to function again.
This fits under taking care of yourself, but is still worth pointing out I think: drinking alcohol. Dr Hubberman did a podcast about the effects of alcohol on the mind and body. Anything more than two drinks a week is detrimental. And I didn't know this beforehand, but it can throw off your neuro-chemistry in a way that makes it much more difficult to make changes and adapt in general, not just when you're hung over.
Courtney I dont agree with point 5. Maybe I cannot say that I wasn't happy all the time, but certainly I definitely was missing something in my life. It happened when I struggled with finances. I always looked on myself and say "when I will finally reach that financial stability that I can save money, I will be happy" and indeed, after a few years finally I can save some money every month. I wasn't more happy in my whole life then I am now.
I did some validation of people that I have spent time with for the last few years, and now I'm sitting in front of my computer, watching some entertaining video :-)
Who I spend the most time with…hmm…well I have a cat that visits me on a regular basis 😂 - the most I get out of it is a meow haha, I keep myself in high vibes being alone. I watch positive content only. What you’re doing is exactly what I will be doing in time, life coaching, counselling, psychology and a lot of other things. Love the content you put out ❤️.
11:38 The most natural way to happiness is gratefulness. Once you start watering your spiritual garden with that type of water you might find reason/s to cultivate the soil of that garden so that you might have fruits to share with those in your life and those you meet along the way.
That's some great advice, advice that is just as valuable and valid today as it was when it was disseminated in ancient times. So pleased to hear that coming from a young woman using a modern tool. The tools change but the core message remains the same.
