Hardwired for addiction, how do you make yourself do stuff you aren't addicted to? 

Nobody is doomed, we can be "rewired".

Switch the addictions for some better ones, rewire your brain from the ROOT, journal the way you are doing right now, ask why do i do this, why do i wanna stop, why do i wanna continue etc just question everything and talk out loud, the answers are within you, good luck ❤and be kind but stern to yourself through out the journey

Hi Deo, it's not easy I know, but nothing worthwhile in life ever is. The reason why you feel so tired and de-motivated is because of all that fat, sugar, alcohol and nicotine in your system and until you work out ways to reduce it, you will feel the same way. You need to forget about 'dreams' and set yourself some achievable goals. Take some time and write them down. What you can do, is set a goal of cooking and preparing a healthy meal and going outside for a walk. Just do that and then tack other things onto it once you are doing it on the regular. I don't know what more I can say, other than you need to make a start and that's all there really is to it. Making a start.

You can do what you say you shall do. Face an impossible hill and focus only on taking one step. You've got this man I can't wait to see it.

the thailand video caught me but the life experience in this title. i have your answer for the first 2mins based on what you explained ALSO WAS A HEAVY RUNESCAPE GUY CIRCA 2006 TO LIKE 8

i love to see so many new beginnings documented over and over again. i've been thinking about how people set new years resolutions and then relapse or fall back and then don't change until the next year but as long as you just keep saying "this is it" it will keep being it.

Start with small achievable steps towards your goals, like taking a 15 minute walk every other day, write them out. Concretely write why you want to loose weight or stop certain habits, what will it bring you, how would that improve your life? Where do you see yourself? You could also try journaling your daily feelings, maybe even seeing a therapist could be a good route! You’re in to making videos, what if you recorded your fitness journey? Maybe you can keep a journal of your progress here online! Hope this helps, it’s not easy, but you can do it!

You find the benefit of it after you endure the struggle, this teaches you, but you have to want to learn

You got this Deo! Thanks for sharing your truth.

Im young and chqinsmoke daily. Addictions are tough when you are isolated and aimless in life

He who sacrifices little atrains little. He who sacrifices greatly atrains greatly.

Good day Deo I think the short and sweet answer is to not give up on your dreams. Right now I work Maintenance at Walmart but my dream is SF in the military. I’ve had people tell me that it’s not what I want to do and I am not going to let that stop me. I have had surgery two months ago; though doc tells me to take it easy my mind tells me to keep pushing my limit and I will not stop until that dream comes to fruition. I hope yours will come true as well man.

You’re not hard wired bro.. start by changing your environment.. throw away all the crap.. dont bring them back in the house Spend more time in the gym.. even if you’re doing the bare minimum, you want to get used to these environments.. Make friends there

Dude love runescape😂 I been playing on off since 2001, I was one of the first 2k players. I haven’t played in a few years. Good memories. I do too have addictions it sucks.

I also struggle with addiction. I'm clean off heroin for 9 years now but drinking has gotten bad again. If you're spending that much on cigarettes then do like I do and roll your own. You can get a top-o-matic machine for like $40-50 USD ..a big bag of tobacco and tubes for $25 and that'll get you about 15 packs. The amount of money you'll save is crazy.

I went to rehab this time last year, im a year sober now. My new hobbies are plying Elden ring and healthy living. I researched the carnivore diet and the research behind it was a revelation in food and health. I’m autistic so I obsess with a couple things for a time, but I found new hobbies that slow down time. It’s taken a year to learn how to deal with anxiety without drugs. But yeah, eat red meat and eggs everyday and research with this is a good (or bad) idea bro. I also ordered some kava, try new hobbies and slower longer wavelengths instead of the chaos it’s much better for that deeper growth at the roots. Cheers homie

I completely understand you what you have to do is start to rewire your brain to crave good dopamine what I mean by that is go to the gym push through it and once you finish sit back and enjoy the dopamine hit your brain gives you from pushing through try to grow a addiction to good dopamine and it will transform your life of course it's gonna be hard but understand it's all in the mind in how you think if think you won't manage you've already failed start telling yourself you can do it and start growing discipline big by bit good luck bro

First 3 months of working out will probably be the hardest. go for at least 5 days a week maybe more just because. don't even have to go to the gym push ups walking running dips whatever can do in your place

The key to making yourself go to the gym is KNOWING that pussing out, not going, will make you feel worse than you do now. I will be mad at myself if I don't train. The mechanism behind it is not the same as you are picturing as an addiction. If anything, the addiction is how I view myself. My self image is that of someone who does it anyway. Eventually, after many many many times of just getting it done, you notice that those were the key pivot points in your development. Imagine those days as bosses at the end of a level. Conquering them brings about progress, AND THEN an addiction to results can form. This transfers to any area of life you want to make progress in. How you fell is a lie. It always is. Nobody ever said to themselves "I really wish I didn't go to the gym today".

If u just stop the habit u will relapse, have good replacements in-between it and slowly increase it . Mental health will probably decline but that's part of the process unfortunately, think about what u want to be to motivate yourself

Telling you when you start getting that nice mental release from working out properly and intensely feels so good you literally get the urge you have to push through till it happens never hard wired rewire and free will are always available to you even if it seems like it’s not

if you like grinding doing the same thing you should cook yourself everything from scratch being mindful of how much oil you are consuming if you choose to have some to cook foods in but I recommend pressure cooking and using mustard/olive oil/lemon juice to make a sauce with spices you like the lemon juice helps me eat less salt you can change it up to whatever you want to eat, everyoens different youll have to find the spices and sauce bases that work for you i could even use cashew butter and add vinegar or lime/lemon juice you could also have mold or mildew in your place if you find it ridiculous how low of motivation you have that stuff can make you super sick. So much stuff that could be overlooked could be something right in front of your face that you don't realize yet. I also sit inside most days though and don't really do much besides smoke so take my advice with a grain of salt but also have mold that I cant afford to fix yet. idk bro it would be cool if AI came around and we had robots work for us. Maybe soon

What if you make up life goals and break them down into small manageable quests. turn life into runescape if thats what will help you. I had an mentally abusive mother as well and it definitely fucked me up. Absolutely no self worth or motivation. Ive dabbled in drugs and acohol, cigarettes junkfood anything to make me feel OK. All of which lead us further down the path of self destruction. We get addicted to chaos and pain, self loathing and poor mental health. Good luck to you man, you arent alone out there. Stay the hell away from booze and drugs..

it will always feel better to do things that make you feel happy and nice with the least effort, you just progressively fry your brain by doing that for a long time and tasks that arent imediately rewarding become almost impossible to do, you have to rewire your brain by slowly overtime training it to do bullshit tasks most of the required tasks you need to do to live are not fun or nice, getting a job!! hell no i'd rather smoke weed and jack off and play video games, but what a horrible life you'll have if you only do that, the way i tackled it was doing progressively bullshit tasks, like one a day was a chore already when i was very depressed, but you do more and more progressively, if you do too much at once you'll give up and it wont be long term, nowdays i can do multiple hours before having any fun, hell even days where i dont turn on my pc which was impossible a couple years ago we are all gonna make it

I’d say take it one day at a time and I usually ask myself “what can I do to show myself I care about me today” this may seem pathetic but I decided one day to do as many pushups I could, I could successfully do 15 modified pushups and I could do more I felt like I could’ve pushed myself but I didn’t because there was a voice in my head that said you don’t have to do this and put yourself through this discomfort and I almost broke out into tears doing this 15th one because…you know what it felt like…it felt like was I was being forced to do something I didn’t wanna do.like I was a victim. Strange realizations I had doing push up but the next day. I told myself I can do 15 try doing one more. I didn’t wanna do it I was laying in bed and I made every excuse in my head but I thought to myself just do it and get it over with you know you’ll feel better. So I got on the floor and hit 17 again I could’ve done more but I didn’t push myself and I think I’m afraid to push myself because I think I can’t handle it or whatever but I think creating long term goals like I wanna lose wait but breaking it down and Asking yourself “what can I do to take care of myself today”

Training hard will make you feel good and is like drugs. You just need to do it for a few days in a row. It's like smoking, shit at first but with enough days it will get you addicted. Put in some effort, Nothing comes easy in life.

time heals im in the same boat we just gotta take it slow and try stay busy

He mate pretty much in the same boat as you. Want to lose weight. Eat healthy basically start living life. It is hard but can be done. Unfortunately i dont have the answers. But youre not alone in your feelings.

Watch 20HRs of interviews/Q&As with Dr. Anthony Chaffee about the Carnivore Diet. It’s cheaper than anyone would expect & completely transforms your life in countless ways. It’s known to destroy addictions in all forms. You have no idea. 6 years strict carnivore here. It’s changed my life & I’m never going back. You won’t either if you look into it.

Hey man, go follow the meetings! And start your mornings not touching a phone or something. Take a walk bruf

if you can limit your chocolate intake to 70% chocolate and only have upto 50 grams a week it improves your heart health from the cacao butter fats same with cheese so i wouldnt be too concerned about those unless you are into animal ethics and want to become vegan, ive been vegan for a few years and lost weight without even trying i legit eat like 3000 calories and dont move and still weigh like 106 got insanely low when i ate meat i was like 160 which was quiet a bit for my height

I see everything as a game, I do the low level bosses and gain xp to be bettter to level 100. Same concept in gym..

Try doing the sober October challenge. im gonna do it

With the going to the gym when you feel like garbage make an excuse to do it again and don’t try to dive head first and eat nothing but salad and do 8 hours of cardio, can do something like 2 days a week, one by one small easy daily changes to keep up with and all the wins start piling up, and another bad mindset I had was “well I ate or did x so now I might as well do Y when I don’t have to I can choose c and get a diet drink here, decide to walk there, invest in a recumbent bike, it’s a long process and can’t think about the long term every decision now effects you in the now later

Not to diminish discipline but people who are in shape probably really do have it easier than people who aren't, on average. For example I have no issue going to the gym 6 or 7 days a week because it is like a drug for me. But then I really struggle to get out of bed in the morning, sleeping in is my drug. If you want long-term success you have to find obtainable goals and make incremental progress, you can't just get a spark of motivation and white knuckle it to victory (trust me I've tried). You'll burn out and just go back to square 1. I realize that's not as positive feeling as a lot of other comments but that's just my experience, you have to find a way to improve that gives you dopamine incrementally rather than some hypothetical point in the future when you've "made it".

You’re depressed because you view everything through the past. Take mushrooms. Every addiction is silenced. You get a day of peace with yourself to love and care for. You heal the wounds that are causing your addiction.

Intermitent fasting.

Also you may have adhd, I have it too, it might explain why you are the way you are

Sounds like depression basicly.

Take a bunch of mushrooms

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Try doing some exercise but keep eating junk food too! Ya know, like try keeping things as they are but add a good thing here and there, dont try to change too much over night. Baby steps, one baby step at a time.