Have We Changed Our Mind on Submission? 

God bless you and your husband. We pray that God will encourage you and direct your steps and change the course of your family.

Boundaries. Shut your front door. Go and give your husband a big hug, that will reconnect the two of you and enjoy the peace and quiet of your home together. Let everyone else outside your home get on with their lives. However painful it may be to observe, you have no control over it. Focus 100% on what you do have control over. Focus on what exists within your home - you, your husband, your marriage and your life at home. Within your home you can create heaven on earth . Enjoy.

@softsophisticate, you have no idea what a confirmation that is for me!!! Thank you, Lord!!! Wow, God is good!

​@@jtstaas736 Glad to be of help.

🙏🙏🙏 so did my husband & I. He came from a home where his father was a physically violent drunk & his mother was a doormat to the husband & abusive to her children. I came from a home where I have a emotionally abusive & manipulative mother that has an eating disorder and a father who won't stand up for himself. This meant two households of children caught in the middle of their parents' violent machinations. church going, but not believers. All sibling relationships (we each have 3 siblings) are a mess/non existent. We ended up cutting his family out of our lives entirely & they only live 5 houses away. My family we keep at arms length. We do not let 'their problems' become our problems. I am not saying you have to cut them out of your life, but you will have to learn to turn off their voices & not let it have power over you. We do not let ourselves get dragged into thinking we can fix them or solve their problems. Best comment I make to those types when they start interfering, "I will take that into consideration". It removes their power to get between you & your spouse & you are free to disregard their opinion. We have been married for 20 years this fall & any involvement with his family would devolve into us not getting along. Finally we realized that we had to be a team, that we were 'fighting them' not fighting with each other. and as a Team, we decided that the best course of action was to not be involved with them anymore - because they were damaging our family. Watching some similar stuff with younger friends...I would 100% advise anyone that grew up this way, to seek some counseling BEFORE getting married (whether that be with a therapist, pastor, elder married friend from a NON dysfunctional family, etc...not a family member). I see too many jump into marriage thinking they are going to do something different, but they end up repeating the only poor patterns that they know. And then 10 years down the road they are still struggling & now there are kids involved.

Thank you for your testimony, and God bless you guys for changing the course for your family.

Thank you and God bless you!

Sure, we will follow up on this. Thanks Grace!

... You know we make decisions together and at the end he has the final say is an oxymoron right?? What's the point of debating 10 hours, considering your thoughts and opinion when you know the end result is that what he wants and says is what matters??

please read my comment again. My husband does respect and consider my opinions. When we occasionally are at a stalemate, he has the final decision. Because I respect his authority as head of our family. The key is to marry a man you love and respect.

Why does your husband have to have the final say? I wouldn't feel comfortable to let him wear the burden and I'll never do it. My parents had the final say, yes, but as adults we should argue together and then find a solution together. I am saying this as a non-feminist.

I make peanut butter in it all the time! It is wonderful for nutbutters. and I think it is totally worth it. We bought ours in 2020 and I use it nearly every day, and most days multiples times a day! And they give at 10 year warranty.

I agree with Kelli!! I got a Vitamix last year during a "Black Friday" sale and absolutely love it. I make almond butter in it all the time; and hummus...and so much more! Definitely worth it.

@@AC_2.4-10 So good to know. Thank you

I’m trying to do the math and see how much I would be able to save by making my own nut butters if I bought the almonds from Azure. Currently I’m buying the almond butter from Costco and it’s $11.99 for organic almond butter. Considering the time it will take to make the almond butter at home will it be a savings?