He's Just NOT Into You... | 10 Signs He's Not Interested In You (Part 1) 

😶😶😶thank you.

Best advice ever.

It depends tho. Cuz i was in love with someone and i gave him mixed signals. Because wss just not readdy to commit in the relationship

Yes. After a couple of months of strange connection I just came to that conclusion. Weird feeling

Definitely! If it's weird - it's weird. Even if both parties are trying - it sucks - but just move on.

Omg I sooooo really agree with you. I’m always open about how I feel exactly to avoid these things. I just met a guy that’s obviously not interested, yet sometimes he tells me that he wants to “try” with me. It’s frustrating, awful and exhausting it is even worse when you actually liked him. I hate grey areas. And it always happens to me. I’m done.

That doesnt sound like very much fun

God. Richardson I wish the same but that appears to be too healthy

Kelly Richardson fr

Kelly Richardson then he doesn’t get laid

I feel ya... I’m 38 and feel the same way 😒

I'm 38 and feel this way too!

36 and I’m still learning. Don’t feel too bad honey.

Me as well. How am I this old and still so clueless about men? 😢

42. Still learning

Meanwhile, ladies on here are advising guys to keep her guessing.. 💀💀💀💀💀

You couldn't have made that clearer. Thanks for this.

Not so sure about it that. The one I dated said he liked me during our 1st date & then as time went on & after he got to know most things about me, he lost interest, dissipated & no more connection whatsoever. I think I was a rebounder cause he may have still had ties with his previous ex gf who he prolly was separated or broke up with at that previous time.

I dated a man for 3 months. Told him I didn't feel like my feelings for him were where I felt they should be at by that point and I was sorry but I didn't think it was working out. He cried. A few weeks later he messaged me and said he really liked me and asked me to give him a second chance, because he thought he could open up more. He invited me to come spend the weekend with him in Toronto. I laughed and said you just want to get into my pants. He paused and said don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not saying I wouldn't enjoy that, but I just want the chance to get to know you better, I think we could be good together. So I went. A year later I married him 🙂 ❤

That's probably it

and never chase women

@@thykingdomcome22 i heard when youre the one doing the chase it turns a lady off to the point to now youre just being a creep

@@thykingdomcome22 ah well fuck it This lady who wants me, flirted with me and such Well she has a boyfriend and yet tells me she has feelings for me Her man is a guy who i dont know and i hear he is a jealous type So... Its Red Flags written all over the place

@@thykingdomcome22 yeah, plus she tells me she cant messege, snapchat, text me , anymore because her man is questioning her about me, and she is a coworker. The only way we can chat now is in person but she leaves before my shift is done or way after im done (staying back until she is finished with her shift) So we hardly see each other, or talk. Yet she tells me You dont have to be a stranger *in a upset angry way*

@@thykingdomcome22 oh and another thing , she also has a child with him!!!

Right

True

Exactly

Yes

Problem is that no one makes it happen with me xD

Lisa Boelema hahaha, true

Never chase em!! Replace em!! 😂

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I heard this somewhere

3 years with a guy who gave me 7 out of 10 of those signs. turns out he was actually really genuinely busy. was recently promoted to SVP when we met flying bicoastal twice a week when we met. I mean go with your gut instinct. not every relationship follows every rule or someone's set idea of a timeline.

Champagne You gotta point!! 🧐🤔

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Run

@@champagne7530 So what happened? I mean, is he still "really busy?"... Did anything change?...

Yes! And being busy isn't a game for those who might view it as such. It's making *you* the priority over him. It's a shift in mindset 😉

Ho yea get the right fall into you why border just weasting times move on sombody out they just same like me lam still looking

Oh yea just sutpid games why border

Also draw caution with those that move WAY too fast. I just got love bombed by a narcissist. He did a full cycle in 2.5 weeks lol Idealization > Devaluation > Discard (by me)

The majority of men are not interested in women who have options. Why? It means we are not valuable to her, first of all, and no value = no respect; it also means we are replaceable, thus, we also will move on to a better option. And second, we are not interested in competing for her affection with other guys in her "options" list because trophies make poor girlfriends.

Yes, as fast as I can

Truly LoL,, He's Being Cold & I'm Getting Hotness Of Running From Him😁😂🤣

Don't run step on your gas pedal

True girl

Lol

Oh no! It’s OK. If a guy isn’t interested for whatever reason, maybe the next one will. Honestly, it may have had nothing to do with you and it all could be about his timing. But wouldn’t it be better to know faster if people aren’t interested instead of spending months of wondering so you can save yourself time and move on to the next guy? That’s why I made this video; to empower you to identify his interest sooner, not to make you feel bad about whatever his reasons were 🙂

Ryan Patrick thank you! I don’t talk to the guy anymore but I wish I would’ve seen this video sooner. It would’ve saved me a lot of time

sameee😭😭😭😂😂😂

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😂 right? Like daaaamn. Why you dragging me so hard?

Sooo true Robin. And if you haven't observed your parents in a loving relationship than how can you know yourself what to look for. Further if your father or mother hasn't treated you with respect than that is what you have become used to and therefore don't demand it from a future partner. It is literally something unknown to you. Your self worth has been damaged. It takes a lot of learning and observance to break free of these beliefs because they are insidious - you've learnt these lessons at such a young age, they become part of your emotional makeup.

Robin White huh... so thats why women with boyfriends try to pursue other people for happiness and validation but thw fact remains: they have a boyfriend!

Robin White amen

Wow! I loved reading this “truth bomb”

Thank you for this :)

Makeup Darling So true! We know when someone likes us and wants to spend time with us 🙌🏾👍🏾💕

Makeup Darling heres one excuse, my boyfriend will be home shortly (fact)

Exactly

Including adult children. Sadly. 😢😢😢

🎯🎯🎯

Totally on point. Never thought he was a narcissist after reading your comment! My goodness! Good thing I stopped the communication before it gets worse!

Zhara Moreira Had a guy does this same thing to me for months. Just didn’t introduce me y on his family.

@Zhara Moreira yes, this is what they do. My advice is to cut him off, no contact. These people literally feed off of your energy. Don't give into them!

Lol if only I read this earlier in the year...🤦‍♀️ oh well, lesson learned.

Real thing

I legit went through the same exact thing. Talked about a future together and everything. After 9 months I decided to just walk away. He tried and tried to get me back But I figured if he isn’t ready now he’s never going to be ready.

Went through the exact same thing but we were just in a talking stage so we werent even together… good thing it happened now and not later on

Same!! He said he wants a relationship and we got pics together but apart from that he was cold and distant and I had no idea how he felt about me. It felt very causal although we would go out on the odd occasion. He would only ever spend a few hours with me here and there. I think in 8 months we only spent one morning together and 2 whole days.

Ditto too much foolishness

Same, what for?

Gina Holley 😢💔🌹

Gina Holley Don’t give up, it will come when you’re not even expecting it 💕

@@IMarie-xs5dg I've heard that for years - he still hasn't come around yet!

family guy: season 5; episode 12, pause the show at 8:30 in. That's how i feel about you.

@@unironicgamer okhy wow guys

Agree with moving on, but it really sucks that I feel the guy gets away with being a jerk (that's the nice way to put it).

@@w1975b is all on him. He or she looks bad for treating her hat person bad.

free thinking humanist it came on my recommended

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Lmfbo!

haha expose your rage :)

Im dumb like that too

Dumb too

I made the same mistake of giving a guy the benefit of a doubt. He just turned out to be a user.

I’m independent and a lot of times that makes me feel too masculine 💪🏽. I’m trying to get in touch with my feminine side👸🏽

Where am I

Well I’m independent but I want to be in a relationship. Can’t we have both?

Yes, queen 👑

& I’m Dependent . Really don’t know the first thinking about being Truly independent.!

Im in a similar situation at the moment. Been "dating" this guy for 11 months now (almost the year) and he still has not given me a girlfriend title. He keeps saying "what if I wanted something serious now" but doesn't make any moves. He says he likes me but there is something about me that feels like he is lying and continuing with him isn't correct. He is also 16 years older than me..im 26 and he is 42. Do you think its best to walk away at this point as much as it hurt me to let go? Im confused. :(

Well done. Absolutely fantastic. And in the future. Unless you both can feel eachother. Only give a guy a total attention for 1-3months max. If after 3 months he's still not putting in. Then thank yourself that you didn't waste month 4-6 or the rest of your life. 5years is way too much. Don't beat yourself up about it as you just did not know what to do in that time. Just think thanks that you suffered for a short period than the rest of your life. Now you need to heel. So go and heel you self. Be happy. And always remember if a person knows that they are doing wrong to you and they are still doing it. Then karma is a bitch and it will 100% get him in this life time. It may not be in the way you want. But karma is energy so what every energy that he was playing then the same energy will hit him in a different scenario. Now you need to go to the gym, go on holiday, change somthing about yourself. Achually change somthing about yourself and do it well so that you feel superconfident. BTW. I'm a man. So you go for it. And welldone.

@@cynthiaurugutia736 walk away. You are young, go and meet a guy in your age category. Go and have fun. Walk away now. Your man might pull you back in. But seriously do you want a relationship with no title. Come on. Nearly a year. What is he's seeing someone else. Just tell him it's over. And that you have met some one else. It will show him that you were not messing around and it will make him think and regret loosing you.

@@a.s1783 In these 11 months of "dating him" it has been him who has made the "effort" to ask to see me. He is the one that always texts me first. I have not slept with him either. He knows perfectly where I stand with regards to sleeping with him. I told him straight up that if he was expecting to get the "kitty" then he was just going to lose his time trying to get it. He got angry the third time I told him that (because throughout this entire time I have emphasized that matter and he felt like I was always assuming things about him) and he said not to contact him ever again. A week after he messages me as if nothing had happened and he told me that " we both knew we wanted each other." I decided to go on a date after that and he told me "what if I told you I wanted something serious this time around" (the reason he said that is because when we first started dating he said he didn't want anything serious like a relationship and it wasn't important to label everything that quickly). That comment left me confused thinking that maybe he does want something serious. A few weeks passed after that date and he insisted on seeing me. Finally this past Sunday I accepted to see him again. On Sunday he told me that he does like me but unfortunately Im leaving abroad (I had to make up that lie that I would be moving abroad to see if maybe he would step up the game and confess to me what he really feels or to fight for me the least). But still he doesn't make any moves not even because I have "a few months left".......I can't get him past the "I really do like you" phrase. Is it all a game to eventually get me to sleep with me before I "supposedly" leave. Why do you think he stuck along with me this long after knowing that I won't sleep with him. On Sunday he even asked me what I thought about the idea of taking a weekend trip or a getaway trip. Do you think that "trip" and question is the excuse to finally get me to sleep with him to later dispose of me. What would you suggest or recommend? Apologies for this long story of my life. Im just confused.

Cebile Fortunate Sibiya a guy can’t put you anywhere you don’t want to be! Don’t waste your time!!!

I think that line was in a Hallmark movie (that nobody saw)... 🤮(Yikes!) A guy said that to you recently?

The brother of the it is not you it is me guy 🤣🤣🤣

There is hope!

Alisha Jamil absolutely!!! I hope you find someone who will love you so very much. You will know when you find it. My hearts so complete. And when the love bug hits you remember to come back so we can celebrate your happiness!!!

That is awesome

TaliaWho thank you. 😊

Beautiful congratulations

It sure does 😫😭

My soon to be x checked every box it breaks my heart but I am worth more than this

i know right.. it surely does but hey there is nothing you can do about it, it has to be reciprocal

You dosent want someone who dosent is capable of see your value. Use you in their stupid game

True !😢

Omg! I luv it.. I'm going to use it.. Your awesome 😂

True

Childish

@@nalaa9618 why? she just knows her worth and wants to make clear she's not an option

@@nalaa9618 No, it's just direct. She didn't say anything mean.

Hahahah yes same old same old

@@Ytdeletesallmycomments it's a thing? Oh my god.

"I'm not ready yet" actually means "I'm not ready for you." So the moment a Man finds a woman that he's actually ready for he will definitely go for it, even if he was already halfway toward working his way with another woman. The propensity to follow the path of least resistance isn't just a law of physics. Sometimes women simply price themselves out of the market. Men will always stay with what they can afford. A plumber will never ask a doctor out, and if by some miracle he is dating a doctor he will settle with a waitress the instant she becomes available to him.

@@Adam-cc9ny thanks for the reply. Does your analogy mean I was too good for him, he was not good enough for me? Or I still dont get it?

@@allisond5669 It is very possible. You will not believe how clumsy men are at walking away from women especially if she is better than him. At least today I have noticed that one of the main reasons most guys turn away from girls is when they find out she is just too good for him. Other times it's because another sneakier woman of lesser value sees her chance and lures him away. For some reason women of low value target men who are with better women. I've kinda noticed this pattern since I am in a committed relationship with what they perceive as a highly educated, independent, strong career woman that is way out of my league. Suddenly all these girls who knew me in college who thought that I was beneath them are now friendlier but in a phony ass way. So in your case it's very possible that he just didn't feel good enough for you and settled for a "lesser woman" that was more in his league.

butterflysugarbby same

butterflysugarbby I wish I would of seen this in my teens

I wish I would have seen this last year 😥

I'm in my early 20s and I don't care about a relationship right now

😅😅😅

Preach been with my bf almost a year we rarely ever fight we are happy whenever we are together

I don't listen to anything most men say anymore. it's their actions that count. WOrds are cheap and so are most of them.

Luci Bloom PERIODT SIS... everything that comes out of their mouth is bullshit lmao

Because it's a sick game he's playing with you

I had this by the last two. Walked away right away by the second. Waste of energy those types with mental issues. They make you insane.

Exactly and that is why I cut him out of my life. He didn't have time for me, he was always busy, only wanted to see me if there is a chance for sex. The sad part is that I liked him so much but he never treated me like my ex who was a true gentleman. Also he was inconsistent in the beginning. He would only send mesaages to schedule a date and nothing more. When I wanted to talk on the phone with him so many times he would cut the conversation and tell me I can't talk right now.

@Keturah Carraher When you said "we talked over several weeks" were you just talking over the phone or in person whe you both happened to see each other or was he asking you on dates and taking you out?

Don't sleep with these clowns until they have put forth effort- many of these men are treating women like escorts (getting the sex with no strings/no commitments) yet don't have to pay. They buy a happy hour drink or two for a woman and sleep with her- they just got sex for under $20. Make these men pay for an escort at $600 a session if they want commitment free sex.

Jen X yes thank you

@@JenX422 This is so true! I have more respect towards sex workers than to myself two years ago when I let guys lead me on and use me for sex and emotional support. At least sex workers get paid 😂

We need to learn the art😏

So freaking true

more please question why a taken woman is interested in another man?

@@fargeeks both to be honest but this video is about single women

Question why you attract * them

Because of people pleasing attachment style and codependency. Narcs love that.

True!

Facts!

Absolutely!!!

Yes!

Natashea 🙌🏻

Then you say... Oh, I'm so sorry I thought this was Brian. Oops, lol.

Better than the signs is verbal communication that's very straightforward "you're just an option for me if there's nothing else", instead of them hoping you'll recognize the hints.

Nice Chasity! I like this "Stop/Loss" policy a lot! Maybe on the next one if you get muddled signs again from a guy, you cut it down from 5 months to like 3 weeks, honestly. Your time is precious... NEXT! 😉

So im i sis

Bruh....

Id been doing this stop/loss to this guy who friendzoned me after I started liking him. I moved on and started dating again. Now he drops me messages just to check on me and I already lost interest on him. I deserve better. His loss. Not mine

@@lescontessa8040 you go girl...

Siobhan Fogarty Nobody want to have somebody behaves like a jerks. Respect ourselves is the most important thing.

I wish I have the strength to do this, but feelings complicate making a decision and sticking to it. This is what I'm going thrkugh right now. Seems like either way I'm torturing myself.😔

Like who are you again?

"If I feel" - so, you could be reading a situation wrong and making assumptions, but you're willing to act on them instead of just asking how he feels like an adult? It makes you come across as bitchy and immature. Just ask him how he feels and point out what he isn't doing that you would like him to do. Why all the silly games?

@@njhawksworth1588 Not the one you're asking but you have no idea how vulnerable women become and how we do not have a filter. So showing your hand to a man could break and have him reject us would wound us for a long time. When a man show his hand to a woman I feel he still has a filter and is not vulnerable in doing it quite as much as women. Women attach so easily and therefor take rejection harder. I am 40 and this is what I've seen and know. Yes, I could say "hey mister, do you want me or not?" to the man I crush on now, but if he rejects me, I am wounded like a 14 year old girl. We are emotional in a way men can't grasp.

Yassssss

Very true, Susie. She's got tunnel vision, usually. Guys too in the situation.

You are so totally right!!!

True! The prime time rule applies to friendships as well.

Yup, the opposite is true with girl to guys, for sure!

Me too. Oh, wait ...

Right. If I say to a man "Let's take a break" whether it's about texting or seeing each other, I want out! A woman doesn't ask for a break unless you're on her last nerve and she wants to find someone else (or is already seeing someone).

Yeah this is how I treat guys I dont really like too. I didn't even realize it. 😅

Exactly

@Lucy Mankonko he did you a favor. You deserve better ❤❤

A year?! Why?!

That is wise

Ghosting is bad enough but I hate it when they come back from the dead.

Rebecca Jones me too I’m getting revenge though

me too but im glad n not the only one feeling this way

@@shutit4024 wtf getting revenge just bcz he's not interested ??? WTF

@@zelalsendamazigh3590 i was just saying that cause I was mad at the moment I didn’t actually do it 🙄 and it has nothing to do with him not being interested

@@shutit4024 actually, it's also a way to forget him/her to avoid pain

Thanks Cindy!

Cindy Ritmeester boys*

Me too

Iam in lonely side with nobody

THIS.

Right to the point

move on lol

except if the dude is a narc or a fuckboy

And they will lie

Melody Tesorero I am sorry to hear that :( I felt the same! Similar situation and it hurts to hear the confirmation but maybe can help as a step to move on can hope to find someone worth it :)

It's OK, Melody! You're not going to hit it off with every guy. It would be exhausting if we did, right! Just take these signs with you into the future and use them to sort through guys faster. It's simply a tool to help you find him faster 🙂

It happened to me too. I was single for two years and entered in a relationship in february this year. I liked him the moment I saw him and we had so much interests in common but I was never a priority. He was busy, tired and was making excuses why we can't see each other even for 2-3 hours. Avoided to see me if there is no chance for sex or anything sexual.

Mine too

Yikes!