I did and still do, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
I swear to god, the next time I hear a man say, "Lets just enjoy each other's company..." Ladies, RUN! I have heard this stupid line more times than I can count and it just means he's enjoying your company, and Sarah's company, and Mary's company and Lisa's company and all of those women think they're the only one too.
So true and women dont realize that or they refuse to accept that so they will try and try to change his mind bcuz they can't accept a man isnt interested in them especially when they feel that they're a good catch its just best to accept it and move on dont stay where you're not wanted
Ladies the key is confidence. He’s lucky to even get a chance. Don’t be so available. Don’t be desperate. Make him work for it. If he doesn’t work for it, then he isn’t worth the time. Don’t lose yourself for a man.
If he ain't ready, you get ready to take your LEAVE. Don't let him explore other options on your time. You'll save yourself a lot of wasted time & grief in the long run.
7 months of dating?????? Chile I think not. Like Tony said before “ A man knows what he wants to do after the first 30 days”. If he isn’t making it official by then girl you are wasting your time 🙄 NEXT CALLER
Been seeing this guy for maybe 8 months or so anyway he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship so instead of staying friends with him and to give him the benefit of having access to me. I removed myself from his life. He wasn’t ready for a relationship so he doesn’t even deserve my presence. Removed him on social media and now I’m content knowing he wasn’t the one for me. The right guy wouldn’t put you in a position like that.
@@kimalex9945 That's the behaviour of a desparate woman. Why do you want to tie a man to you that doesn't want you! That behaviour is not the behavior of a stable person.
Tony so true on the in home dates. Seems like most of these grown boys want to chill in the home and not take us on proper dates in public or creative ones.
Where was Tony when I was 16 lol we all lucky now to be blessed with his wisdom and I know for sure that self love most be 1st then everything will fall into place ❤️
Nowadays you have to sit back and feel energy and listen to what they say. from experience there are men whose actions are in line with what women want.... they are gifters, goodlooking, spiritual, charismatic, blah blah..oh and get this, they only want you to be a real life teddy🧸, literally to cuddle with not even Sex because they have a variety of women to get it from. Lol. It’s a cold game out here. They want a team, remember bench warmers still get a check 😂. Watch that energy because your feelings will get you hurt.
The two things that I have seen fail in my friends relationship is 1. chasing the man without him showing actual interest and 2. not being abstinent. God knows what we are doing and even tells us not to do that - but still we seem to go against that smh
When someone shows you who they are , believe them the first time! Cut it off before you end up " on the fence " waiting around to see if someone wants you! If they wanted you , you'd never be stuck wondering because they're actions would show you! I learned this the hard way , so I speak from experience! Value yourself more than that!
I did and still do cut a man off when he makes that infamous statement, but then weeks, months, sometimes yeears later they ALL have tried to come back. My thing is if you didn't want me then, you definitely CAN'T have me NOW!
" IF A MAN ISN'T READY FOR A TRUE,REAL,GROWN, GOOD WOMAN!" THEN U BE READY TO LEAVE HIM BEHIND! AND "U MOVE FORWARD ON!" DON'T LET ANY KIND OF MAN HAVE OTHER WOMEN! AND" HAVE U TOO!" ON YR TIME! " IT ISN'T RIGHT FOR HIM TO" WINE AND DINE " ANOTHER ONE WHEN HE IS SUPPOSED TO HAVE U! " LET HIM GO! MOVE ON!" THE CHAPTER OF THIS BOOK IS FINALLY CLOSED! IT'S ENDED!
All you can do is learn from your mistakes and dont make the again. No good to playing the victim when you get different results but really men already place you in a category when the first meet you. So he wasnt planning on making you his wife from the beginning. I had lower my standards and wasted time over nonsense. Now I know that I need to set boundaries and ask questions to know where I stand .
Where were you 20 years ago??! I've never heard such an indepth synopsis of this subject. Certain things I knew just from getting older but the male perspective...you can only get that from an honest man. Sheesh that was remarkable. I'm def not one to gas anyone up. I admire and respect what God has given you and I hope you, and those around you including your followers never take the gift for granted. It's dangerous times as we approach the end times, the hearts of people are waxing colder everyday.
MY GOODNESS!!! ok, ladies. he dropped a LOTTTTT of 'gems' in this one i would strongly suggest you listen to this several times to makes sure you not only heard everything he said but that you LISTEN carefully to retain all this awesome info. i can't even touch on 1 particular point that resonated more than another -- because ALL his points resonated with me. even if you (like me) are a little "longer in the tooth" (LOL!) than many of his other listeners, you still (like me) can gain from being REMINDED not to make those awful mistakes again that you made in your "backslidin' days", when you were young & dumb, hahaha! LISTEN TO IT AGAIN -- Blessings to all
I'm not Black nor am I Christian. But I must say, Tony, you speak home truths every single time. I enjoy watching your videos with your special brand of humor, common sense and wisdom. I have learned a lot about men, relationships and life just by listening to you. Thanks Tony!
I have never experienced more guilt and shame in my life. The affect of the soul tie is still affecting my heart and I just found out the real reason for my problems. I was just an experimental zebra being fed , and when I started acting up as a lioness, (as I was heavily misled and manipulated into believing we were exclusive) I was getting cut off. Luckily I turned up the the tables well within time and saved myself. But to this day I am finding it so hard to forgive myself for being so childish and unaware. If you ever read this comment, please try to make a video on- 'how to forgive yourself'. It's hard to breathe with the shame ,despite being just 22.
That's what a man does for a zebra 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣... this was a great analogy. Seriously, a man will give us what we settle for. Set standards, stick to them, and let a man's character be his currency.
All of this is so true. Seen it and dealt with a lot of this. Make sure that you’re not just a fantasy to a man. Especially, if you are attracting the opposite race. A man is going to be a man! Thank you Tony and be blessed.
I never heard it explained like this. My father was biracial my mother was dark skinned. I identify as black, but I have attracted both black and white men! Thanks for describing this gro a man's point of view
Tony truth's on point tonight. This whole color thing runs so deep. I have learned alot of this living in Ohio but not so much in Brooklyn. The way Tony explained this tonight is excellent and informative. Basically, what I got out of this tonight, is that if you love yourself and keep your standards, you going to see right through the foolishness of men who want you for the wrong reasons. Thank you Tony! Exceptional video 💯👏🏼👏🏼
Great video Tony, as always. As a 23 year old woman I am learning from you a lifetime wisdom for my future that no one ever told me. I’’ve been watching your videos for a year and a half now. Thank you for doing what you are called to do🕊God bless everyone and greetings from Poland 🇵🇱♥️
You’d do well to believe him. Most men want a relationship so when a guy tells u this generally they don’t want one with you. I’d bet if a women he liked came around he’d get his act together and be with her. Don’t take it personal you won’t always be someone’s cup of tea and someone won’t always be yours respect peoples personal decisions this guy is doing u a favor and not trying to waste your time. Move on speaking from experience
I agree I learned that the hard way as well I didn't want to believe that he wasnt ready for a relationship bcuz his words I fell for but I had to look at his behavior that was a clear indication that he didnt want one and when I made the decision to move on of course im viewed as the wrong one smh ppl will waste your time only if u allow them to be willing to see the truth even though it might be disappointing but u will get over that disappointment bcuz u saved yourself from heart ache and pain
Spot on. They will not change their mind. Usually they have a rotation and don’t really like any if the women involved in it but can’t stand to be alone.
@@Livelearnapply rather than going after someone they really want, they waste their time on multiple midrange women they see no future with. They waste their own years. Wish women understood this.
I think this goes a lot deeper than just a man not wanting a relationship. He wants a relationship with the finer things in life. and because of his mental stability and illusions in his mind, he sees women of color as a struggle bus. Not knowing he is also on the struggle bus and yt ppl see him just as damaged. But he is willing to sacrifice himself as well as his own kind to get what he wants if he ever gets it.
Blessed Day!- Tribe Please ladies - Just keep Focus - On “ YOU”!!! - Do NOT chase the man!! May as well run in circles and loose weight.. A Queen knows her worth.. Vice versa for a man!!
Wow!! Tony Gaskins, you described me!! I'm that "Women in a whole another class".That's why my man left me!!I I was not available. My intuition /sprit kept telling me he wasn't the Man God had planned for me.🙏🏾 Lol!!.God bless you brother Tony and your beautiful wife and children
So interesting Tony, keep dropping gems for us 🔥 My mother is biracial and my dad is very dark, they attracted each other. Thanks for being a blessing to women.
Off topic. But The more he speaks of his wife, the more I fall in love with what she represents. I wish like really wish, she popped in more. Y'all dont drag me but seeing on her on the cover got me to read a womans influence. I'm catching up on the other books though. Aight y'all can drag me now😂
Girl you’re not the only one. The more he talks about his wife I wanted to get to know her and hear her perspective. You get to hear that in the book. I watched their live a few times just so I can see her personality 😂
Exactly. Only in US multi-ethnic/biracial ppl identify as black. Makes no sense, the one drop rule is a racist concept so it's weird that ppl still adopt this rule. Just identify as multi-/biracial if you (generally talking) feel the need to categorize yourself. Just like Tony said if a man is a male h** he'll screw whoever.
Darline _ox exactly. People are so brainwashed with the whole extr. categories and division tactics they don't even comprehend the most basic words and definition of "biracial". Bl.. your mind
I miss Tony, I had been watching this other person that somethings he was had some depth to it but other things in his character that turn me off I said let me go to what I know this man of God..Thank you for all you do Mr Gaskin
Serena Williams’ husband, Alexis Ohanian was born in USA to a German mother and Armenian father. I won’t generalize but if the last name ends in (ian) it’s indicative of Armenian ancestry. I’m Eastern European but my great grandmother was full Armenian.
Ma'am....NFL....you can forget it....they live for that life....he eat, sleep, and breathe women....don't fool yosef....he's not close to ready for one woman....he on the prowl for notches....save yosef some time...bow out !
She is wasting her time... he wants someone white a mixed female is not good enough for him because he looking for a specific type... these NFL black men and regular black man most are not trying to date no black women that looks like their mother or the other women in the family..she should just move a long and Black women need to just start dating interacial or black men from other countries... in NYC I get talked to by white/Hispanic men more than black guys which is crazy to me but I have accepted it because you have to go where you’re appreciated sad to say it’s looking foreign or white .
When I was sixteen my friend mom who is lighter skin told me , because I'm brown skin I won't get a black man. I'm older now with no kids and never been married or engaged. In my 30s I'm starting to think she was right. All of my friends who are lighter or non black are all married. I wanted her to be so wrong but maybe she was right
@@tashamorris6475 Do Not Think like this! I have two Sons, they are bi-racial, my Beautiful daughter in law is African American and darker than my son. My older son dates, and he prefers darker skin African American women. You are just not meeting the right man. In time you will. Stay positive Beautiful Queen. Sometimes we let what people say penetrate into our minds not realizing that we are creating a blockage within ourselves to believing this nonsense! I am 53 now. I wish I had this young man right here speaking all this knowledge and wisdom into my heart and mind. Continue to listen and apply Tony Gaskins. I HIGHLY recommend him!!
Yikeasss this is such an eye opening class. I always stayed away from guys who played sports until I met my ex husband ( him being a Christian ) I have him a chance. Lord I was wrong....most of them have a lot of issues
@@kaleema1987 Tony is so hilarious. When I do decide to get back into the dating game I'm gonna be something else. But I gotz to work on the three Bs first.
1# Perhaps his preference is white girls she said she's half and half 2# sounds like this guy was enjoying the moment I didn't say he wanted a relationship she apparently got caught up 3# she need to move on and let it go 4# he's still looking that's a sign that she's not the one!
