My avoidant guy, texted me this morning that he could not talk much as his work would be so demanding today. I took that opportunity to thank him for letting me know ahead of time. Me being anxious and always complaining. 😢 I told him that this would help me a lot that I would be at peace if he does this stuff. Also, I say sorry for attacking him last time because of my insecurities I just accused him of something out of the blue. 😢 I am still waiting for his reply 😅 Nevertheless, I am okay if he won’t reply as he will process this again. As long as I was feeling heard this time. Small steps for both of us. We take it slow as we both navigate this journey. We’ve been in a relationship for six months. Both wounded from our past relationships. So help Us God. 🙏 Thank you Briana❤
I've learned that everything is subjective to each individual and in order to maintain a relationship with someone, you must understand their "romance style." For example, I love from a distance. I don't discuss feelings, I don't share my thoughts all that much, and I don't give my heart to anyone (whatever that means). However, I always are the issues/problems in the relationship and discuss solutions as part of the conversation. I'm essence, anything that doesn't put me in my masculine energy (i.e. confidence) I keep to myself. That said, I understand that method isn't for everyone. I know some people like to discuss feelings, share everything on their mind, and want to give their heart. So instead of expecting them to adhere to my standards, I instead create a safe space for my partner(s) to express what they want, when they want.
Why are all the people needing soul centeredness women? That is 100% me. There is part of me as a 49 year old man that is unshakably self-assured, fearless, generous and confident. Intimate relationship where I can start off embodying that but inevitably my anxieties and insecurities start to unravel the connection in the relationship. It's interesting because my prayer toIt's interesting because my prayer to the creator has been for the past 15 years has been to relentlessly guide me to the full potential of this Human Experience that I'm capable of. And to have a partner now who I've been with for 4 years that we know we hear back to each other what we need to work on, it's just incredible and difficult and I sense is also life-changing if we allow it to be
I need help and advice on what to do and how to communicate with him further.. We have planned for my holiday to visit him to his country for a long time and he was excited about it till Sunday. Monday we spoke about it again and suddenly he started changing his tone about my visit. He started making excuses that he probably doesn't have a van at that time yet and he will have a hard time showing me around. And then he said he can't afford to be out of work for a month because he needs money. And then he said he doesn't want us to visit his family because his family wants him to stay away from me. He said he felt stressed about my visit. This is soooooo confusing on my part. Why is he acting like this? I don't understand. Then, at the end of the call, he said that he loves me. I'm so confused.
