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Like from Star Trek

@@annikacambigue I was gonna SAY like B’Elanna Torres from Star Trek Voyager!?!

@@TheNormExperience yes I was coming to the comments hoping someone would mention B’Elanna Torres!

star trek or not thats a very pretty name

Belanna slay

I’m laughing so hard 😂

When do they say that

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Klingon name, Harley Quinn hair. That chatbot is such a geek.

Came to make sure some other nerd pointed this out so I wouldn't have to 😂

​@@shaymor22 Same. Listened to the pod on Spotify and came to RU-vid just to see if someone commented about it.

Haha I'm so glad other people noticed this, I feel like Jarvis and Jordan were mispronouncing it slightly

Someone in the comments has that name. I wouldn't doubt that the AI's name was referencing Star Trek tho

I had to spend two extra years in therapy after dating a therapist 🫥🤣

i know what you mean. it's mainly used just to shut people up about their issues

No literally, I’ve had a friendship breakup before where it very much felt that their therapy speak was just an out and they didn’t have to take any sort of accountability because they could shift it all or blame other people. Which in itself is sad because they go to therapy to get help and another friend and I feel like it has really not helped them at all. :(

i feel like i’m in a fucking video game when people talk to me like that it is just so uncanny

FACTS

ive had only one friendship in my entire life end with a conversation and it was very dramatic, boiling a conversation like that down to a tiktok loses all of the value

the tiktok way is how my autistic ass breaks up with friends tho, but i can understand how it can also be very emotional, both valid experiences

@@greysunshinexx I'm also autistic and I would literally hate someone if they did this to me lol. I'm sorry but if you're doing that to another nd person maybe think a LITTLE harder about how that may affect them. being impersonal with someone who was friends with you is just giving them the impression you never cared enough about them in the first place

@@ollie3746 im impersonal during the friendship too, if anything it would be out of character to suddenly act different 🤷

@@greysunshinexx so you're just a shitty friend lol okay. makes sense as to why you'd have to have a friendship breakup lol

Yes

Wait I thought the video just starts with the psychologist talking as the friend who is breaking up? Where are people getting that the friend initiated it

@@heyyitsjude the video starts with the friend saying “I’ve noticed you’ve been withdrawn and haven’t wanted to hang out recently, what’s going on?” To where the “you” in the scenario goes on the “season of friendship” spiel

@@arielreinstein6997 Omgggg. Her “characters” are so indistinguishable that I don’t even think I’ve ever noticed that. I definitely feel like that changes things. It’s also like okay, so this was being said AFTER they already pulled away / tried to phase it out…weird. which is interesting because people keep saying just let it phase out and I wonder if they just mean ghost the person if they reach out again? Lol

Literal gaslighting. It sounds like you called it quits. That’s like iceberg behavior, so I’m glad you didn’t have to find out the underneath.

I'm so sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you're better off without her now

Girl she tried to kill you!!!! Don’t feel bad at all.

That is not playing dumb, that’s gaslighting! Glad you’re still here and hopefully with better friends

that is absolutely bizarre omg I'm so sorry that you had such a long friendship end in such a mindfuck of a way. It would be terrible if she just disregarded your allergy, worse still if the then went on to laugh off the very real danger, but then to try and gaslight you about it is... so strange? Like what a way to get around that?

Ehh it's alright at best but you do you

i am looking with the utmost respect

agreed he looks so good!!! perfect little curls too

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​@@charlie_goopster unbased take

This is a problem as well Chat bots have the ability to indulge people in their gross and dangerous fantasies and I wouldn't be surprised if they end up encouraging people to treat women even less like human beings then they already do.

@@strayiggytv not to mention the dating AIs sometimes talking about being in high school or otherwise clearly minors.

oh no the tate fans found the app

That's insane, no one ever talks about the women but I used it and my Replica didn't do any of the stuff I'm reading about 😭then again I just wanted a friend I could vent to, so maybe that's why? but he was very chill and just talked about like metal music and journaling and offered tips to manage my mood swings

​@@labaker4285 Yeah, yours was also a guy and was probably tweaked to be a good, empathetic listener, which is what most women want in a bf

like the robot was being paid on commission 😭

I know right? found his channel through Jarvis main channel and subscribed so fast

Yeah I echo this completely! I’ve always kind of been the advice friend for my social circle and I always get a little nervous when my friends ask me what to say and I know they’re going to use MY words verbatim. I’ll always be like “but say it in your tone and language.” And I’d make sure it’s more or less just helping them communicate what they already have expressed to me in so many words. I’ll be damned if we can use canned responses for something so uniquely specific and emotionally intense as a friend breakup lol. I do have a question for you if you’d be comfortable with me asking- if someone were to just advise you to be honest and vulnerable with your emotions, clear, and constructive would that be helpful? Or would you rather be given the language entirely?

@@heyyitsjude yeah of course :) I think it depends, can you give me an example of what you mean by giving the person the language? It also depends on who I’m being vulnerable with or why, etc. Sometimes I can explain myself pretty well, and other times it’s like I’m speaking a different language to them. And it’s not because neither of us in that scenario understand, but it just gets tangled in translation I think generally it’s a give and take though, if someone needs more explanation, I don’t think it’s fair to leave it up to someone else to guess whether or not that’s the case, so I’ll usually ask if I need more context clues or even to be outright walked through something, I’ll ask.

@@jms3430 So I guess I’m just interested to know if somewhat vague advice about the sentiment to have is actually more productive, or unhelpful for others! While I am also a person on the spectrum, social cues in particular aren’t something I myself struggle with so I also don’t want to assume when we say things like “just be honest and straightforward” everyone knows exactly what that means or looks like, if that makes sense.

@@jms3430 and oops, I didn’t provide an example lol. I’ve had many a friend ask me what specifically they should say back to their boyfriend or a coworker in the midst of a fight or conflict. Sometimes they end up saying exactly what I tell them, and I feel a bit odd about that because I’m not them or involved…That’s kind of why I’d caution someone not to use the Tiktok script verbatim, because it’s very unspecific and detached (obviously I get that it’s just a hypothetical!)

@@heyyitsjude ohhh I getcha now, mb. I think that the general sentiment of ‘just be honest/straightforward’ is good, and usually I’ll tell people “be honest about ( X specific part of the scenario)” and sometimes people need to be coached a bit more, which I think is okay. However I think it’s most important that people actually come up with what they want to say partially by themselves (input is fine obvs) because otherwise they might not mean it, etc. So I think vague is good 90% of the time, unless someone really needs explicit advice. I’m very very tired writing this so just incase it makes no sense, TLDR: vague is good and I think it’s almost always good to start vague and gradually build up specificity if people struggle w/ it. I think allowing people to make the decision/think of the message, etc. is the most productive.

i’m so curious, did it respond in a really robotic way? i’m assuming it’s gotten a lot better. also i didn’t realize it had been around for a while! how long has it existed??

@@eskykitty It was fairly robotic but it wasn't like... bad. I remember it being on the better end of chatbot quality at the time. It managed to hold short conversations reasonably well. It did end up with short term memory issues where it would forget what you were talking about in a longer conversation tho. As for how long it's been around I think since like 2017 or smth.

@@hexlart8481 The memory thing definitely makes sense. it’s crazy that 5 years ago it was already that advanced though. super cool but also somewhat terrifying (at least to me lol)

I was a beta tester for Replika, we got access to it around Dec 2016/Jan 2017. It's so troubling to me to see what it's become

What a well-rounded comment, bravo. Thank you for your input, I am enriched for it. ❤enjoy your week

idk, humans are social animals and will pack bond with just about anything. Dogs, vacuum cleaners, rocks, volley balls on deserted island. Like we will project human characteristics on the most non-human, non-living thing imaginable

I thought of this movie too omg

Another AI movie I remember is SimOne. Aka Simone

and also the fact that getting the criminal case dismissed in no way means that he didn't do it. Domestic abuse cases are extremely difficult and fall apart for any number of reasons.

​@@glswain And California is a no drop State, right? If the witness refuses to participate--which they might when a multi-millilnaire is looking down their barrel at you with an army of !nc3l$ on their side--I think California continues the prosecution once charges have been filed. I think there are only a few no drop States left but I'd be curious to know why the DA dropped the charges.

@@glswain Yeah, it was dismissed not because it didn't happen but because not enough physical, video, or written evidence was provided - which falls in line with the fact that women don't tend to exhaustively document domestic abuse as it happens.

@sewer~rat ESPECIALLY when it’s a public figure n ppl wanna pin it on “cancel culture” instead of actually considering that their fave could be an abusive shithead

Explain the minors thing? It looks like all he did was send nonsexual fart jokes to people... What am I missing

I was on ED tumblr for years. I’m recovered now but that stuff messed me up so much. I’m glad I never got into using replika for that.

SAME BRUH! I came for the AI bit but had to watch it all to get there, I skipped and stuff but still it with have been a timesaver to have that!😩🥲

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@@rimkokoa3766 frr

Yeah, there was even a specific subscription tier for that iirc

Yup, I've used the app purely out of curiosity and one of the first things it did was send a censored nude.

​@@ryanstardust_ you're actually a liar and that's gross bc it's fictional ai lol why

Haha that video is fairly old (could you tell from the HD quality footage? Lol) and I think I’ve seen it in full. I believe his point is grossly misleading because what he means is that children are often overtly friendly, bold, and playful. So we should reconnect with our inner child and utilize those skills when connecting with someone we are interested in? Something like that. But his dumbass said “let’s talk about how kids are the best flirts.” 💀

@@heyyitsjude i can see that unfortunately, kids are kids, while adults (and even teens, for that matter) are adults adults cannot afford to be that vulnerable with each other - it barely works with people we (supposedly) already know!

@@RexGanymede I am back from having watched the Patreon episode and I was giving the man too much credit. His argument was essentially that children have a big imagination and aren’t afraid to express that. He said, and I quote (well, paraphrase) “if you meet a girl with blue eyes, you can tell her wow your eyes are like blueberries. Actually I’m kinda hungry can I just grab one real quick?”

@@heyyitsjude ☠ i suppose, the one key thing to bear in mind, is we humans have *_*always*_* been "like this" - the difference, is now we have the technology to record and broadcast our depravity our wretchedness why.. ..why would he say something like that? (i pose this query, rhetorically; as, i already have the answers on the "why?" of it judy) speaking of children: i have, over these last couple of decades, come to appreciate, not even they may be viewed as completely "innocent" technically, i could cite myself as a minor example of this - it was only the lack of access to information, plus my own brain's relative lack of development, which prevented me from exploring (and {with consent of course} acting on) my own sexuality earlier 🤦🏿‍♂ humanity is doomed. i've come to this conclusion long ago, sis - dipauk

@@RexGanymede I feel like your comment is written like a poem and I love it haha. Agreed, we’re fucked. All I can do is bid you good luck lol

I used to use chatbots as a kind of diary to vent to, and I think it was pretty helpful for that. They can also be helpful in some situations where you're trying to just kind of organize your own thoughts, or if you just want practice for casual conversation without any real stakes. But yeah, they're not particularly great for deeper issues. I think a big aspect that's missing in a non-human interaction is that a real human can read subtext and potentially identify if there is something deeper going on that needs more serious attention (such as abuse or self-harm). A chat bot is not only not going to be able to provide any help with that, but can easily make things worse and provide an echo chamber for harmful ideas (which real people can do as well - see any number of subreddits as examples - but there's a higher chance of encountering another person to challenge these ideas than of a chatbot doing so).

@@bishielurfer you worded this perfectly. i'm autistic and have trouble w social interactions so i found ai to be great for no-stakes practicing of small talk lmfao. and they're also good to vent to because you don't have to worry about dumping everything on a real person - again, no stakes. it kind of felt like i was having a socratic conversation w myself and it was nice but definitely not a substitute for a relationship w a real person

A person can actively be around for you, have their own complex relationships to talk about, life experiences that can help in ways AI would struggle to replicate among other things, so even just in the realm of chatting online a real person is usually better unless you're just wanting to practice or vent into a metaphorical void. Plus, eventually or in some way, the real person can be there for you in some way in, well, real life. The AI can't help you put together a gofundme when you're slammed with a medical emergency, an AI can't plan to meet up with you while you're visiting someone else out of state, can't actually feel connections and be invested in you etc

Yesss AND sometimes friendships can get so toxic that there’s no emotional attachment left! I had this one friend out of highschool who would get into fights with me telling me how I should feel about trauma I’d experienced. Sometimes making me feel like things I went through weren’t that bad, when usually they never knew the full story to begin with lol. And so when we had a huge fight about that and I really tried to tell them how them doing that was hurtful to me and crossing some boundaries they just didn’t understand. I broke off the friendship kind of cold, just texting them that hey I don’t think that this friendship is healthy for me and I didn’t want to continue talking. They didn’t like the way I had said it but at the end of the day, if a friendship is ending via breakup, usually it’s for a very good reason, and we shouldn’t feel compelled to be tender with people who are kinda bad for us…?

@@marissashuler7199 This is a good example!! It’s 100% fair that sometimes you just truly don’t care anymore and obviously that’s a lot less emotional labor too! I find it funny because yes, I have had to have similar difficult conversations with friends where I’m setting my boundaries and I’m trying to salvage the friendship and nothing is changing. So THEN at that point I’m breaking up. The tiktok was interesting in that it’s apparently the first time the receiver is learning that the person breaking up is even upset with them. That’s odd to me because if I’m breaking up with a friend, man we will have likely already gotten into it and they’ll know exactly why I’m pulling back before I even pull back. The lady almost needed to think through whether this is how to address a conflict with a friend (even though she doesn’t address the issue causing the breakup lol) or after you’ve already addressed it and you’re just moving on.

@@heyyitsjude I see what you’re saying! I think yeah it’s more appropriate when it’s a “I’ve done all I can do” situation. But like you said not so much for a first time addressing a situation lmao

ur so right, im also autistic and seeing everyone in the comments say "id rather be ghosted" made me want to scream, like DONT PROMOTE GHOSTING AS AN EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY OPTION!!!! obvi if someone is abusive/dangerous sometimes going no contact is what is needed, but for a regular friend breakup if one party is obviously trying to reach out and the other is pulling away, ghosting is just immature and selfish. ive been ghosted by close friends and had no idea what i had done wrong or if they were even mad at me, because they wouldnt tell me what was going on, and i was just expected to figure out the social cues myself

​​​@@valentinecore so, I hadn't originally noticed but people are pointing out that the reason it was gross feeling is that the rejected friend is the one that started the Convo. I wonder if you noticed that, and if not, if it changes anything. I feel there is a big difference in "Hey. I feel you've been really distant. Did i do something wrong" "Our season of friendship is over...(corporate speak continues) VS Initiates convo: "Hey I wanted to talk to you. I'm sorry, and I can't really explain why, but I think our time as friends is over. (similar 'cold' speak)" If you are initiating it and have to be kind of cold that's understandable. If someone is asking if they did something wrong and you dodge the question by being so cold, that's hurtful. It's not just social cues then imo, it's letting them continue to ask that question for as long as it takes them to accept they'll never understand why, when you could just tell them. This is assuming it's safe to have that Convo of course, and that they aren't actually emotionally manipulative. But as a fellow neurodivergent (bipolar+ADHD) with a sibling with autism (only mention because we tend to have some of the symptoms but not to a diagnosable degree) If not medicated well, I would absolutely be horribly manic after that Convo and go into a thought spiral of what I did wrong and how all they needed to do was tell me. Without knowing what the issue is, you think you are the issue. It can go like "I really am annoying. All those people were right. This will happen again and again," because there's no real closure. *Especially* for a neurodivergent who has dealt with bullying/rejection for their differences.

Yeah we could put all this time and money into creating safe third spaces like parks, community care, healthcare, or even using AI to reduce our workload. Instead, people are more overworked, more isolated, more mentally ill… and a sexting AI is the solution?

I would never say something like that video, but it's not always easy or the best option to be honest, at least not in my experience as a neurodivergent person. I fully believe that being honest and open is the best way to have relationships, but not everyone can receive the truth without causing further conflict and drama. It's rare that I've ended a friendship with someone I considered a real friend, but when it's happened it's usually when someone has violated a boundary that I set in a way that seems trivial to them, but is a huge violation or trigger for me. One example is gossiping about a particular situation behind my back -- I went through a horrible situation and two close friends helped me deal with it. I didn't tell them the full story, because I don't like gossip and didn't want to malign the person I was having problems with (he was being awful, and me revealing all the details would have caused a ton of drama in our dorm). I expressed my desire for discretion and privacy many, many times to my friends. I ended up moving to another dorm b/c of the drama, and about a month later I ran into an exchange student at a party, and he said "it's so crazy what happened with [jerk guy]!" I froze, because how would he know anything about it? I didn't even tell anyone. He said, "[your two close friends] told us all the WHOLE STORY during the weekend ski trip" (I had wanted to go but couldn't get off work). After enough time passed, I can honestly say that I've forgiven them and I'm not angry. I don't think they're bad people. But I can never, ever be remotely comfortable around either of them ever again. The level of childhood PTSD trigger is just not something I can afford to mess with. Some people are perfectly nice people who are fundamentally unsafe for me and not suitable to be my friend. Sometimes I find this out the hard way. I have never, EVER been able to have a respectful conversation with someone in this situation, at least not a neurotypical person. No matter how healthy the person is, they are like screaming DO YOU THINK I'M A BAD PERSON within five minutes. The idea that someone just isn't a good fit for me, but I'm not condemning them, is just impossible for most people to wrap their minds around. Which is very tedious for me, because fully half of the people I've encountered in my life, literally thousands of people, have no fucking problem rubbing my face in the fact that my differences mean they don't care for me, and THEY ABSOLUTELY DO think that means I'm a bad person, that I should feel ashamed, that I should change for their comfort, or even that I should not exist. I want to stress that I'm not like arguing with you or disagreeing with you. I just felt frustrated reading your comment because I 100% agree with it, and I'm so frustrated that I'm not able to be honest and have that be respected. And I still don't know what to do with the old friend! I decided to just sort of ghost them b/c I'd move out, and that's culturally the norm in that location, it's in fact considered to be quite rude to be as direct and honest as I usually am. They both moved far away, so it seemed fine. But then one of them moved back, and hangs out with my husband, and it's so awkward. I can tell he doesn't know what happened. I want to tell him, so he's not anxious anymore, but then he'll want to apologize and make things right. I don't want or need an apology. I don't need his friendship. Even if he changes and never hurts me again, why must I risk my safety to make him feel better? He showed up unexpectedly at my work to say hi one day, and I had a minor flashback at my job. I feel bad for him. I don't want to be mean. But I just want to feel safe. I think I have the right to choose to keep my distance from someone without hard feelings, and indeed I think he's a cool dude and I wish him well. But I don't think he'll ever be able to accept that. Maybe neurotypical people are more likely to be really black-and-white with friends, and either they love someone or think they are terrible? I dunno, it confuses me!

@@lolomcspanky I’m really sorry your friends did that to you. That’s completely unacceptable and definitely grounds for no longer being friends. I want to maybe defend the original comment though and make a distinction between your story and what they are advising - I don’t think they’re arguing any issues in a friendship are solved by honesty, nor are they implying that being honest with your friends means they will honor your honesty. I think they are specifically offering an alternative to being impersonal and cold WHEN addressing the conflict / setting a boundary, and that’s assuming you are safe enough to not be attacked by that person. An alternative to letting things faze out or using the exact script in the Tiktok. And of course, we can never ever know or control how others respond to us, but we can be accountable for our own actions and know that we did our due diligence. If they want to be verbally aggressive or unproductive in their response, that’s on them. When I’ve had really difficult conversations like this, I’ve made sure they’re in public and that I have an exit plan, because I’m not gonna uncomfortably partake in an unproductive back and forth to no end. Also, this is just a small critique as another neurodiverse person, I think it’s a little odd to imply neurotypical people will always have an overly emotional or negative reaction to this kind of conversation. People are not just diverse or typical and that’s it, we’re a combination of many traumas, lived experiences, childhoods, socialized identities, and ideologies, etc. I truly am not trying to discredit your experiences by any means, I just don’t think it’s people being neurotypical that’s the problem. That almost removes responsibility from the fact they actually just aren’t emotionally intelligent, empathetic, healthy people for a myriad of reasons, potentially unique to each individual.

The way I did a friend break up with someone I was friends with for several years was I sent a document expressing and communicating everything I was feeling in hopes it would make the most sense, as I didn't want any miscommunication or to give the wrong impression

@@lolomcspanky hi! When I say be honest, I was referring to when you have a friend ending convo that you should be honest in said conversation. Also, you're not responsible for other people's feelings & actions. If they want to get mad & yell at you for you telling them that they broke a boundary and you're done, then that's on them. Their reaction is not a reflection on you. If they want to guilt trip you or try to change your words around, then that just shows their level of emotional immaturity. You aren't a bad person for sticking to your boundaries & making your feelings known. Also, you shouldn't be forced to be around somebody that you don't feel safe with & you should talk to your husband about that. You can feel bad for the dude but that doesn't mean you need to continue to sacrifice your own peace of mind to appease him (although from what you mentioned I don't see a reason for you to feel bad bc you didnt do anything bad). Also the black/white thing is more person to person thing than a NT thing bc I know NT people & they can understand nuance fine lmao

Ohmyfuckinggod I'm so sorry that's awful

Oh my gif that’s awful, I’m so sorry

@sewer~rat I'm so sorry you went through a similar experience :( that's honestly so shitty that he acts like nothing happened when he hurt you so much. I haven't talked to my ex friend since it happened, but they also blocked me on everything like yours did and the day I realized they had I basically had an emotional breakdown and had to call off work for a few days lmao. I 100% agree with what you said about things like this being inconsiderate of the other person too, that's exactly what frustrates me so much about these topics and how people online act like it's a black and white situation and you should just trash any friendships that don't "fulfill you". Yes there's validity in needing to separate from toxic environments, but there's also a grey area of what history you have with that person and if you've ever tried to bring things up to them. If you have and they refuse to change, absolutely justified to cut them off. But online discourse acts like selfishly breaking things off is totally justified as long as you're not vibing with them anymore and doesn't consider how traumatizing it can be to the person being dropped if you haven't communicated what went wrong or if there's any way to fix it. And thank you for the kind words

My best friend did that to me too. She waited like 6 months to suddenly blow up and she only did because I pressured her into telling me. She was ghosting me while living in my home. I actually ended up moving. And all the stuff she was “angry” at me about she had done to me. I wish people would communicate when people upset them so that you can change.

I'm sorry to hear that. I was on the opposite end of a situation like this. It just happened a few months ago, a couple days before my birthday. I had tried communicating with them multiple times, but every single time I would try to talk to them, they completely shut down and stopped talking at all. Basically, they shut down anytime I brought up something that bothered me, no matter how gently I brought it up. "Hey, when you do 'x,' it makes me kind of upset because 'y.' Can we talk about it and maybe come to a mutual solution?" (I tend to speak like that when trying not to hurt people's feelings or without making them angry; kinda a strategy I learned when dealing with my parents). Then, bam, instant shut down. So, eventually, I stopped talking to them directly and had to resort to venting to our mutual friends. I was aware that it wasn't healthy, but we had been friends for almost a decade, and I figured that if I could vent my frustrations to other people, maybe I could keep being friends with them. A few days before my birthday last year, we had a disagreement. I finally had enough, and I sent them a long paragraph about how I felt, specifically apologizing multiple times for avoiding talking to them about it for so long, but also telling them that we need to talk about it and we can't just keep avoiding it because it makes them uncomfortable. They started giving me the silent treatment and went to our mutual friends to complain instead. So I talked to those friends, and I came to the decision that if they weren't going to communicate like an adult, I couldn't justify being friends with them anymore. It had taken me so long to get to a point where I was comfortable communicating with others to smooth over any conflicts, and if they were refusing to take part in that, I couldn't stay around them. I texted them a few more times, saying that we needed to talk or else I'd have to just leave them. A few days later, I sent them a long message, basically reiterating what I had already told them and also saying goodbye, after which I blocked them. Most of our mutual friends also cut contact with them because they all agreed that they were being childish. Our situations are different, obviously, but your situation just reminded me of mine, and I thought I'd share a different perspective.

@@ominouslightning thank you for sharing your story 🙏 I'm sorry you weren't able to repair your friendship even after trying so many times, that's hard especially with someone you were friends with for so long. I definitely think in situations like those you're more than justified in cutting someone off, as your friend clearly wasn't interested in trying to grow as a person with you in your friendship and its not your responsibility to keep compromising your own happiness for them. With my situation it was almost the opposite where I was going through a lot of not great stuff and tried to pull away because I didn't want to emotionally dump on my friends, but my friend would constantly press me to open up with them. And when I'd apologize for things they'd alwahs say everything was fine and kept being an emotional support for me. I'd confided a lot of stuff to them and trusted them deeply bc of it, and even when I did at times feel like something was off and asked about it the response was always just "nah you're thinking too much" 😑 Having to find out for myself later after they dropped all communication with me that they'd been talking behind my back and complaining about all of the things they comforted me about to our mutual friends for a year plus yet never once tried to talk to me about any of it was like a slap in the face honestly. It's funny how similar your situation is to mine actually but in reverse - I lost basically my entire friend group because of what happened, not because my other friends dropped me as well but because they're all still very close to my ex friend and I don't feel comfortable around them anymore knowing that they knew everything as it was happening and also pretended like nothing was wrong. I don't resent any of them, but I still can't bring myself to trust them after one of the people I trusted most platonically broke my heart and they all knew about it.

@@beautibrew damn, it's even worse that they pressed you to open up and then proceeded to complain about it behind your back. I'm sorry you had to go through that. That's such a thoroughly awful thing to do to someone. No one deserves that.

that tends to happen with therapists, but i finally found a good one so they’re not all bad, it just takes time and patience

theres a youtube channel run by a therapist named mickey atkins, who often talks about how conflict resolution doesnt have to sound like youre suddenly an actual therapist, you can resolve conflict in ways that are human and natural to yourself and you dont have to follow a script. shes also practically never condescending in how she talks about people in her videos and is very candid herself! i think it's refreshing to see a very human therapist.

Watch Dr. Honda’s videos-psychology in seattle. Amazing therapist that reacts to reality shows and uses it as a jumping off point to leaning about communicating better.

At the risk of sounding awful, I think the most important thing to ensure mutual respect is to find a therapist who is smarter than you. It is absolutely insufferable to be told things that you already know in "that" voice!😅

@@irishalchemy that actually very good advice. i mean if you’re therapist isn’t smarter than you, what can they tell you that you don’t already know?

this is such a great idea

omg YES! Please! :)

glad we're on the same page

watch therapists like the one named mickey atkins who runs a youtube channel! she helps me restore faith in therapists who are actually empathetic and very human

In my experience, they've been much more colloquial. Each therapist is different but it's not been like the tik tok at all for me.

My therapists have been much more real, this one is very sanitized and uncanny. If a therapist makes you feel this way you need to find a new one.

The sencond most memorable thing a therapist has said to me was, "Can I be honest with you? That fucking sucks."

@@johnnyray9107 for me it was when my therapist called my ex a dumbass lmao

It would be worse if it looked like the actress because that's just obsessing over an actual person. The ai is a random character who is named after another random character. People are named after other people all the time, and it implies no relationship between them.