Hot & Cold: Why They Pursue When You Distance - Susan Winter 

well I have my sanity, I appreciate that!

Holographic Multiverse - incorrect!...this applies to everyone

This is so true my friend

True true true

Boom 🎇

Wow

Same

I should, but I can’t

Same ❤️

It is true. But like the above comment be careful because you could miss out on that person who does appreciate you long term.

This comment is the truest thing I've ever read. Weird how just a few words can completely change the way you think.

That power is very fragile

Watch out the other one will call you selfish.

power is bullshit

v t - right lol

v t its so true i cant even

I totally agree.

Agreed!

v t that's ME,I feel exhausted!

True! like another coach says invest as much as he is investing in you, if he gets cold you get cold and see how he reacts, works all the time

Agreed.

You win when you just dont touch or play the damn game

Games my Ass!.. No more playing games with Narcissists. Welcome to Reality. What ever you do or say? Always keep it a Real at all times.👍 Never Lie.

THIS. Don't play into their mind games and you'll live as a happy and unbothered queen.

Best comment.

FAMILIARITY IS WAY LOVELIER. the more me and mine r together the lovlier it is. we both love to be smotherd.

The diamond water paradox . Why are diamonds considered more valuable than water

Justin Orprecio coach corey Wayne he says that a lot but it's a quote from someone I can't remember! but it'd a true saying !

Correct.

While that's true, it's still a 'game.' And the game locks in both players. That's my ultimate concern. Even with distancing (to get the attention one seeks), the game continues in circles with no true endpoint of partnership.

Men have to be players because women have too many sexual opportunities and lesser logic in comparison to a man. Lesser logic and more chance for sex leads to reckless sexual behavior. Lol in my 20s I knew multiple women who had over 30 sexual partners. A man need to play the game with a sharp mind and stop letting these promiscuous women have the upper hand.

Corey Wayne

I Do wanna date, but my kid & I share a disability. Even if I date a guy long enough to let him in on that, dudes Still play games. So Idk what to do.

Yea I’m over it. Lol. Focusing on new business ventures and building a brand. Making money.

E. I soo exhausted by the BS and stupid mind games!

Bea La Zay ikr

Bea La Zay omg me either ugh

Athanasia Art your statement is correct, I'll give you that. As soon as a man is there for a woman, the women starts having doubts about him. Why is he always available? Why is he so nice to me? He must be a weak man. I hate to play these games and all the BS keeps my true interest in a woman at 50% because when i go at 75% or 100% i dont want the BS of her pulling away..

she keeps popping up where I am, being stalked... thinks she owns me, threatens every other female I have ever spoke to, true story, all recorded...

Men like that get friendzoned.

@@g.d.3279 , Yup, this is happening to me right now, I feel as soon as u give her over 75% the games start.

then you get board of him and sleep with the next the guy next door!

1983LoneRanger you shouldn’t distance yourself. Just be yourself, treat beautiful girls like anybody else. Do not, and I mean do not treat them better in any way. Just smile and say hi. Be a gentleman and considerate. And always stay productive, on your purpose, be the best you. Learn to love yourself first. That’s all my brother.

1983LoneRanger exactly. Females all mentally twisted today.

Jay MARVLIS I agree and disagree with you Jay. However that technique worked 10 years ago. These days it’s not as effective, guys and myself have tried it many times and we expect them to desire us more because we are playing hard to get but these days girls wanna be pursued 100%. If they see a guy half motivated then they will say “ ok he’s not interested on to the next one of my many options on Facebook and Instagram and Tinder and whatever technological advancement that has only ruined it for us guys due to the large variety of options females have today. Sadly enough. Most woman even want to be the boss these days because of liberal woman empowerment propaganda so us REAL MEN who have a backbone are actually the only guys they wanna sleep with but not marry because they wanna be the leader in the relationship. It’s so backwards today. So sad for us guys.

@@Jaymarvlis i think your doing it wrong. that game is a waste lol. find someone who makes effort. when you flat out ignore it shows u can drop them easily. when they come around for "attention" don't even give eye contact. ha! they will get it. "give them nothing and take from them EVERYTHING!. "

@@banderas2000 What a great reply. You sound like me lol, I don't take any mess from any female, as soon as you start playing bull shit games I am gone. What's the point of saying Hi to someone you cut off because of disrespect?? You are only giving her free attention that she is going to feed off, she gives you no respect, you give her nothing!!! I totally ghost and that's that!!! You should have treated me well when you had me!!! Don't let them come back because they will be worse the next time and then discard you just to get you back for doing it to them. "Give them nothing and take from them everything" 300 Movie Lol

A female what?

Is that a z?

The same 😊

it must be something your doing they become cold..take some self inventory.

@@teriballa6282 I have a mama magma red. Absolutely love it!

A M don’t , not worth it . Let him chase .

So true

Well said. And that mentality and behavior is force fed to us daily.

Poor values and low self esteem causes this!!!

Awesome commet. Thank you.

Tera Jackson you probably won’t walk away, That’s why you’re reassuring yourself

And it makes you want him all the more. .woman always want the guy beyond their reach. Always....

1perfectstrangerr hahahahahahaha exactly. We both know her well

He should have waited for you to contact him... if that ever came to happen!

Thank you nimao.

She is very smart

This woman..

eTheReal Deal Good luck with that...

When I went away for the weekend, his abusive NPD kicked in. Needless to say, I never accepted his call or email again. I saved myself. Good riddance.

Thats not always the case..when the girl i was dating was not available one weekend, i still went out with friends and met 2 other girls. The original one i was dating still hasn't called or tried saying hi or anything..i have not communicated with her just to see if she persues me but hasn't yet..

These mind games only work on men who are not aware of them. Thanks to the internet the majority of men are very aware of these head games that women play. Men call it _"The Shit Test."_ The moment a man realizes he's being played he has a literal playbook on how to lead the woman on with her own game and as soon as he gets what he really wants that is when the dreaded _"ghosting"_ phenomena happens, that is when he disappears from her life without an explanation.

@@xm377Moyocoyatzin the reason players and pimp exist. Is because back in the old days . men began to studys woman nature figured out their mind games . and used it against them (👩 woman) .. All of this games is created by woman ... Whether you believe in god or not .. The bible. Clearly states. That eve was the 1 one who brought sinn into the world by listening to satan .. And took adam down with him .. If adam would stood up to Eve and personally kicked her out the garden of Eden .. GOD. Would of been proud . because Adam was God's 1st creation .. And he gave man authority over everything on earth.. Eve was the second creation from adams rib.. Therefor .woman must submit to her .man .. The men must protect. Be the leader of in the relationship.. Now we living in a feminist society .. Women claim to be equal to a man .. Thats false 100% todays relationship between and woman . has been the worst. Then any other decade .

Celli Love,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are with a good man!

@@christianpulisic7784 thank you!

@@Francelli22 Which country are you from?

@@Francelli22 I tell you a secret, he was thinking about you too. Lol

Thanks for the clarification. Almost all of what I talk about is gender neutral.

That's the default tragedy of the human race. You can only blame God for this.,

It's hard to let go if you have also attached to their family

If he is willing to cheat on his wife, you are not any different

I'm so relieved to know you saw this video at the right time. Thanks for your note.

SB you are so right!!

It's incredibly hard and confusing

jojoangel1983 Yes.

run. dont walk.

What a delight to read your message Barbara. You are one 'together lady!' Happy hunting!!

Lol, I think I’m being ghosted right now!

Try old fools at 85.

@keith cunningham because he probably lead her on and now is onto something else because he is a man. Correct, good, he is gone.

I just got ghosted at 68! Incredible how cowardly some men can be. And I had the nerve to feel bad about it. I’m finally realizing he would never have gotten anything out of my time and effort.

Julie Ryan you're correct on all counts.

Yes it,s true! ..They want you obsessed with them.,,That guy who ,s intention was to ghost me ..told me :,,I want you to crave me,,this was a red flag for me and i block him.Soo self centered!He had such an energy that exhausted me !Vampire energy !It was a painfull experience to me ...i never date online.This happend in facebook ,and i learn to become more selective then i have been before with the peopele that i allow in my life.I learn to guard my heart ,mind and energy .

Yes

😂 I was looking at that too!

The only way out of this, is to stop playing the game. It's good that you're the first one to make that move.

WITCH IS 100% FEMALE NATURE A WOMAN CANNOT LOVE that is the truth they dont tell you its science fact a female canot love u back as soon as men realise this there alone and happy usually after a marriage a house and a separation and child support

I dont want hurt your idealistic ideas. But Unconditional Love is possible only for men. Womens love is Always CONDITIONAL !!... Always.

correct, i agree

i love mine unconditionally..like a doormat. except he never walk over me nor wipes his feet. he kisses them ..sigh

So agree.. Once I see game I lose interest.. Don't test me either that's still a stupid game.. I'm too old for this crap..

Heyy are you guys together now?... Because my story is kindaa... Sameee too.. I'm just soo f-ked up in my head ...and hurt and lost .. need some help❤️

@@nitinjoseph4279 no we aren't! He has been living in NZ since before covid too

Thanks for your comment, Karen.

THANKS ADAM!!

Hello Robert from the UK. Here's the good news; the tide is turning. The more we decode this power trip, we take it out of the realm of confusion. Now that you see the patterns, you know what to do. And like yourself, there's a huge mass of individuals who're seeking healthy partnership. By freeing these individuals from the hooks of the player, they're now able to meet someone like themselves. Hang in there. You're clear. And people are getting smarter and moving toward healthy and rewarding relationships. Thanks for your note.

Susan Winter Thank you as always ! your a beautiful person inside and out :)

thank you Robert.

Robert Collins not all people play this. But many do. :)

Robert Collins n n

LoveMe,com easy for you to say.

Sorry about that Stephanie. Hang in there- and make sure you get some great tools and tips for moving forward.

Stephanie Guersey m

Rhonda Smith, you look gorgeous 🌹🌹 🌷🌷 🌹🌹 🌷🌹 🌹

Rhonda Smith,hope you are with a good man

When you are in love darling you give second chances cause you follow your heart not logic, after trial and error you know what's good for you and you choose it. But don't have the illusion that you know what's going on with the other person or with anyone else..... So don't put labels

Christine Mushala great insight- thank you.

You're the exception to the game of hot and cold...because you weren't playing a game. I've worked with a good number of men who want their girlfriend/fiancee back. They are the most hardworking and humble men I know. Take heart. All of your inner work will be evident on the outer as well. Wishing you the very best.

Thank you so much Susan :)

I had a gf, that I did backflips for...I thought I made her feel special and loved, I guess that wasn't enough....still after 3 years I can't shake that feeling of I wasn't good enough!

Mantraone Mantra yea it has!

My bf got panic after i broke up with him..and i said why.. I took him back with a warning,if he continued with his bad behaviour,i would leave.. He has stopped. He stopped that day when i broke up. And he is making progress everyday now..❤ All the best to you 😊

Lol its ok people are different

Thank you!

I'm going through this and you sooo explained it!Thank you Susan!Your awesome!

Thank you Daniel.

Thank you, A Life.

Thanks Jonathan

Me too

Fantastic. Thanks for that bit of info.

Hey, just being honest.

What is that mean?

Renee J Sara, you deserve a good man

Quite aggressively. Suddenly, they remember how to treat you well. Eventually, they give up if you don't go along with the game.

It only took me one weekend of "no action" after 4 days of hot pursuit to smell a problem. I've been watching the behavior now for a month and a half (two weeks was enough), and it hasn't changed. Unbelievable that someone thinks this is alright to do this not only to another human being, but to THEMSELVES. Said he wanted to do SO MANY THINGS (specific) WITH ME (when could we get together, etc), wanted to be "my man," DEFINITELY was into me, etc. Did I EVER even get on one date?? NO, excuse after excuse because I made it clear I wasn't going to do anything before marriage when he brought up hot tubing and traveling, staying at the hotels in his corporate position, etc. He didn't respect standards, and I've slowly now been ghosted. I've never been through something like this before. It was extremely cruel and hurtful since I'm now older than 20, and because he said and looked the part. When you're older and you STILL haven't found anything good since you were younger, it gets to be a little harder. But the fast-moving pace, of course, was so ridiculous and hard to trust. He kept telling me to give him a chance, that he was a really good guy. So I gave him those chances. After seeing he was all talk and no action, I finally contacted our mutual FB friend about him. Found out she went through the same thing with him at about the same time he started contacting me, both of us "older women." Only she wasn't interested in him. I was, so I was baited. I've watched a few vid's now and see that this is more common than I realized. Frustrating and inconsiderate at best!

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