"HOW DID YOU GET SO FAT?!" Woman Who Weighed 600lbs Answers Candidly

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“How did you get so fat?”
On one hand, I hate videos like this. I can’t imagine a stranger on social media randomly asking someone that.
On the other hand, I actually really love hearing people talk openly about things they struggle with.
For example, there is a pervasive myth that obesity is an easy thing to get away from. Anyone who struggles is simply “lacking willpower” and told to “eat less, move more”.
But people are silly sausages, and they often overlook the reasons why people eat more food in the first place.
In this video, she (599.to.damnshesfine on TikTok and Instagram) talks about comfort eating from a young age, hiding and eating food in secret, and how her “addictive personality” often turned to things like shopping, gambling, drugs, or in this case, food.
Now, the science of food addiction is a complicated beast, and that’s ok.
What we can say with certainty is that many people feel addicted to food.
They feel like it’s something they want to keep turning to even when they know it feels like it’s a slippery slope.
When someone is struggling like this, imagine how patronising it can be for someone to come along and casually say “just eat less and move more”.
Because if it was that easy to implement, everyone would be doing it already, right?
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References:
- What Is the Evidence for "Food Addiction?" A Systematic Review
- Current Status of Evidence for a New Diagnosis: Food Addiction-A Literature Review
- Is Food Addictive? A Review of the Science
- Widespread Misconceptions About Obesity

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@catw8390 2 месяца назад

It takes a very good person with a very good heart to be empathetic to someone who struggles with something they don’t personally battle. It also encourages others to practise the same empathy and leaves a significant impact because people can’t just roll their eyes and say, “excuses, excuses.” Thank you for being an independent thinker and a kind person.

@ETBrooD 2 месяца назад

Obesity used to be extremely rare until the late 20th century. Most food items didn't use to be addictive. Addictive food used to be expensive. When you link all these facts together, you get widespread obesity.

@Hermetic7 2 месяца назад

This video is the definition of compassion. ❤

@Hat65 9 дней назад

Or it’s virtue signaling???

@powellpicc1985 2 месяца назад

I think this is what's behind a lot of these diets that cut out entire food groups. Maybe I can't cut out all foods cold turkey, but I can make it through the day without a binge if I'm following Paleo/vegan/carnivore/aip (talking about food addiction here, not legitimate medical/moral reasons for following programs like these). I used to work in a coffee shop back when I was vegetarian. During my time there, I decided to become a vegan, and it magically became easier not to buy myself treats from the pastry case or make my own syrupy coffee drinks if I couldn't have any dairy. It was like my own personal form of cold turkey abstinence.

@jamiemckeegan5066 2 месяца назад

This is so true. I recently spoke with someone who coordinates Overeaters Anonymous meetings and she said AA and NA receive a lot more support than OA, which she found interesting because, no matter what, we have to eat.

@discordantduck1808 2 месяца назад

I think resolving the causal reasons behind food addiction/obesity is one of the most monumentally difficult things a person can ever do but it's talked about as an afterthought as if avocado toast or the right type of unsaturated fats matter far greater than why someone is over eating in the first place. if you had to drink a little alcohol or shoot a little heroin throughout the day to survive, i reckon you'd see far fewer people ever getting clean too. If we treated substance abuse problems the way we treat obesity, we'd be telling people to maybe try crack instead; try doing your bath salts between the hours of 8 and 12. have a spoonful of apple cider vinegar with your pcp. is it any blood wonder there's an obesity crisis

@Frank_Jones314 2 месяца назад

Exactly. The things I want to quit doing are not necessary for survival. Eating is. I never really thought about it that way, even though it seems obvious.

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

I think this is a really key point. For a lot of people, weight loss advice is centred around things like “is low carb better than low fat?” or “how much protein helps with appetite regulation?” or “how many meals per day should I eat?” when for a lot of people, the reasons *why* they are eating more is actually the neglected bit. I think food psychology is criminally neglected in most weight loss conversations on social media, even though there is quite a large amount of literature supporting it

@ETBrooD 2 месяца назад

@@BenCarpenter It's far simpler than that. More access = likely addiction. Less access = unlikely addiction. Addictive food is all around us these days, and it's getting more addictive all the time. It's a losing battle against corporations bent on poisoning the entire population for a quick buck.

@dangerzzzone2925 2 месяца назад

I also think it's nor food addiction but overly processed/junk food addiction. No one is addicted to broccoli or apples. Sometimes you can't just have one rice Krispy bar or one burger you just have to cut it out because it's gateway food. You don't need to eat junk food in moderation. Just like you don't need ro drink alcohol at a party to have fun. Sometimes you just shouldn't eat it.

@Dragonmoon8526 2 месяца назад

@@dangerzzzone2925 Agreed, but full denial of such enjoyment can also have negative consequences too. I would think slowly reducing or substituting would lead to higher success of reduction or eventual removal.

@JemyM 2 месяца назад

Alternate Day Fasting finally at the age of 46 allowed me to avoid food enough to lose a 100 lbs. Other forms of fasting like 16:8, OMAD or calorie restriction have never worked because it is similar to having "just one glass" as an alcoholic. Now I just have "one glass" every other day. I wish I could have those 25 years back all over. The general awareness of how obesity happens is extremely bad. The "eat less, move more" advice you hear generally lead to increased weight gain and make things even worse. Luckily the science began to focus on the causes for overeating now rather than seeing it as a choice.

@kaska6018 2 месяца назад

You know what’s not easy .Have 0 motivation and keep pushing and trying to figure the correct path .But I m here doing what am supposed to do.

@w-james9277 2 месяца назад

I see countless clips of influencers who are jacked, shredded and rich sharing their wisdom on us mortals e.g. "just don’t eat so much bro!" Im so glad we have people like them to educate us.

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

Thank you. Yeah I am tagged in them a lot and sometimes I am tempted to reply to them but it’s always a bit of a patronising message. If I reply to it, all their fans get pissed off and then come after me, so I try to tackle the topic through people who feel it, like this woman. ❤️

@w-james9277 2 месяца назад

@@BenCarpenter Im assuming you've seen a guy called "Tanner Shuck?" He does not hold back

@richardm2661 2 месяца назад

Am interesting take, hadn’t really thought of it this way.

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

I am glad it struck a chord. These are the kinds of conversations a lot us have with clients, but not things that get talked about openly very often. A general observation of mine is the more experienced people are with obesity research, the more they admit that eating behaviour is often very difficult to control for a lot of people. Some people find dieting easy (like lean people who diet for bodybuilding shows periodically) but there are a subset who find it extremely difficult (high hunger levels all the time, disordered eating habits etc) 🙂

@Frank_Jones314 2 месяца назад

0:27 - 0:46 and 1:50 - 2:11 - powerful. I haven't always been all that sympathetic to people battling weight loss or food addiction. I'm still not, but I'm working on it, and your videos help, especially with the above two snippets. I certainly have my own vice(s). Different things are easier or more difficult than they are for others.

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

Honestly I don’t blame you for this. From my own personal experience, I will say that working with a diverse range of people taught me a lot very quickly. Some of the conversations I have had with clients showed me very quickly how multifaceted eating behaviour can be. In research papers this is why behavioural treatment programmes are becoming an increasingly common sidecar to the dietary intervention (like group therapy sessions, cognitive behavioural therapy, etc) 🙂

@sophiacariad5870 Месяц назад

This is so relatable. It's not just fighting against the prejudices and lack of understanding of the man/woman on the street. I've had Therapists who refuse to believe food addiction is real. I had a "fight" with a friend of mine who's a Psychiatrist who doesn't believe food addiction is real. I'm currently on a Tier 3 Weight Management Programme with a view to being on a Tier 4 Weight Management Programme (which means bariatric surgery) because - whether this is or isn't true, it feels like it's my only hope of living a semi normal life - or any life at all. I am so happy you have a space on social media and that I somehow managed to find you. It's not that I need - or think people like me need - validation. We just want to be heard and understood. 🙏🏼

@biskupftm 2 месяца назад

I've cut weight multiple time, got shredded, and can do it whenever I need to, but it was never ever easy. Easy and simple don't mean the same thing. Fat loss is simple, meaning it's not complicated. Every fat or obese person I talked to about it/coached, knew how to lose weight. The issue is, it's hard. For some - unimaginably so, and even for those who have the easiest time losing fat (both physically and mentally), it's still hard/difficult. So yes, losing fat is simple. And no, losing fat is not easy.

@Maerahn 2 месяца назад

The other thing people forget is that substantial weight gain isn't an instant thing. You don't just suddenly start eating twice as much as you used to and then weigh twice as much as you did before in a matter of weeks; it's a slow process that builds up over YEARS AND YEARS, which makes it that much harder to know how much less to eat and deal with how that will feel. And the very fact that we're primally hardwired to seek out food makes it that much harder when our life is very stressful, or we're depressed, or have suffered abuse; all of those things register as pain in the emotional part of our brains, and our primal food-seeking instincts respond by seeking food to 'cure' that pain. It's no coincidence that huge numbers of people who struggle with food addictions also have a background history of trauma, neglect and abuse, and at least some level of depression as a result.

@elbowstrike 2 месяца назад

Not to mention undiagnosed disorders like ADHD.

@rylter 2 месяца назад

Alot of times though, obese people are only addicted to sertain types of food. I have worked with my clients this way anyways. Talking about quitting the foods they are addicted to and finding new foods/dishes they enjoy that are alot less calorie dense. In that way alot (not all) of my clients gets the feeling of "quitting" and can even proudly say "I stopped eating X" or "I stopped drinking X all the time" etc. The fact still stands though, unlike drug addicts, they have to continue taking their drug. But I find a little comfort in that for some people they can turn it around by thinking "soda = drug", "water = drink", "french fries = drug", "potato = food" and so on. So glad to hear you talk about this, over 24 years I have worked with hundreds of obese people and alot of times not even the people closest to them understand what they're struggeling with. Great work, truly! ❤

@my200lbjourney8 Месяц назад

Struggling with a BED is difficult. I also hid food from around 5th grade. And with a slew of other things going on I'm still battling weightloss. It's not easy and hard to explain the mental part of it. I'm using calorie counting from calculations and working on controlling it. I've changed my mind set over the years and have now decided to walk away from restrictive diets and just focus on being better and making better choices. I always appreciate your videos. Having empathy and a more realistic mind set to weight loss seems to be lacking in the diet industry. ❤

@moonpixelle 2 месяца назад

this perspective is so important to remember in the current climate thank you

@indusgamer9891 2 месяца назад

thank you thank you thank you!!!

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

My pleasure 🙂

@brindmusicnerd 2 месяца назад

Thank you 👏👏👏👏

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

My pleasure 🙂

@TheOriginalBeautty 2 месяца назад

My addiction is bulimia and anorexia, I feel her pain.

@moniqueball3559 2 месяца назад

Well said

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

Thank you 🙂

@neftalitran3789 2 месяца назад

Thank you for trying to understand. There is cold turkey in OA. It’s the getting honest that’s hard.

@otarala 2 месяца назад

The sad thing is this does happen for many addictions and health issues, mental health etc etc, the scale changes but the fundamental belief is there that whatever happened is solvable and that it didnt happen to me because I did things right. The fantasy that we have complete control over our lives is one that people find very scary to let go of.

@teseotauro 2 месяца назад

In a world full of evil and nothingness, your crusade of love and kindness is a beacon of light, mate. Keep rocking, keep growing 🙏 그나저나 당신의 결혼식에서 한 일은 정말 멋지네요 🥲💜

@Dragonmoon8526 2 месяца назад

In general, yes, fewer calories in, more physical activity. But, that is the very basic idea of weight loss. For many people, like this woman, there can be mutiple factors: genetics, matabolism, medications, addiction. Just to list a few that have nothing to do with food and exercise directly. But each plays a large role in success or rate of weight loss.

@jacobrichter 2 месяца назад

Yeah, calories in vs. calories out is so simple and absolutely true that to some people it sounds like calories in/out is something that is always under our control. Sure, if you "power through" and eat a lot less than you expend, you'll lose weight - but for LOTS of people they just simply CANNOT do that indefinitely. For some, a lower caloric intake (and higher activity level) never becomes natural, and so needs to stay under constant conscious control against very strong urges, whether they are untreated psychological issues or physiological differences even as simple as a difference in appetite, ability to handle being hungry while still functioning etc. Over all, the "math" of weight loss is pretty simple, but putting it into practice is very hard for most - at least over time.

@Frank_Jones314 2 месяца назад

@@jacobrichter "Over all, the 'math' of weight loss is pretty simple, but putting it into practice is very hard for most - at least over time." Very well said. I think t hat's partly why I have been generally unsympathetic. I always thought, "It's just math, what's the issue?" I hope this video enables me to be more helpful and less judgmental.

@AJourneyOfYourSoul 2 месяца назад

All addiction is hard. It is all the same. It really does come down to acceptance, being brutally honest with yourself, dealing with your mental issues and wanting it bad enough. You have to truly believe that the benefit of conquering your addiction is worth more to you than any perceived benefit you get from what you are addicted to. Will power absolutely plays a role. It will not happen without you making a conscience effort.

@RepTheFam 2 месяца назад

food is tasty

@lovejoy1311 2 месяца назад

Maybe? But it’s not food addiction per se, is it? It’s either foods, or a way of ingesting the foods, that spark the rewards center in your brain. So raw spinach rarely becomes part of the problem, or kale, or even grapes. It’s sugar, or fat, or massive fullness, or whatever sets off the right hormones and neurotransmitters to satisfy what might be considered the “addiction”. Keeping in mind that your aren’t introducing an exogenous chemical that becomes habituated, like etoh or nicotine, or opioids, but a behavior that uses endogenous substances.

@darksavior1187 2 месяца назад

I quit smoking with the help of Chantix, but I wasn't able to give up soda pop. I think there is more to this food addiction thing than some people want to believe.

@queent3343 2 месяца назад

This video should be put on the TV of every airline. On repeat.

@RikkiestAndTikkiest 2 месяца назад

Furthermore, every addiction other than addictive foods are clearly marked. Alcohol percentages and so on, but addictive foods have no distinction from non-addictive foods. It's literally an endless trial and error test where, if you fail, you binge.

@pavelvenediktov4049 2 месяца назад

And let's repeat that last sentence as many times as it should be.

@Elizabeth-qi5fx 2 месяца назад

👏👏👏🙌

@roberthansen9876 2 месяца назад

When you look at the whole population you have true food disorders at both ends of the spectrum. At one end you have the addicts and at the other end the anerexics. The rest, 80%+, in the middle are either lean, normal or overweight. Those who are overweight actually maintain their weight well, they just tend to up their diet ever so often through life without regard to caloric consequences and in a 6 months or so move up to a higher weight, then stay at that weight, untill the next diet change. For example, they start working and to break up the monotony, they start drinking sodas, or they are making more money and start going out to eat more. Each of these diet changes pushes them up to a new weight class and the body gets used to the chemistry of X number of calories and does not adjust easily to reducing them. Addicts on the other hand just go up continuously. They are addicted to food itself. It isn't true that we are designed to eat as much as we can and if food is readily available we will eat all of it (like the addicts). Some of us like to over indulge and others do not at all, just like some drink and some don't. If you over indulge with alcohol, you know it the next day, and that feedback teaches you not to (lol, after too many times). But by the time you realize youv'e gained 10 or 20 pounds by overindulging in food, it is too late, and your body now is used to the higher weight and calorie intake and it is hard to get it back to its original state. Also, people who are not simply addicted to food do eventually stop over indulging and moving up to ever higher weight classes, just like people (not alcoholics) learn to stop overdrinking.

@FragenAnsLeben 2 месяца назад

Yes, still eat less, move more. Also get professional help in achieving these behavioral changes.

@Hat65 9 дней назад

Obesity is a CHOICE. I used to be an alcoholic and it was my CHOICE. It was hard AF to quit, but I wanted it.

@oldnatty61 2 месяца назад

Is there a male ring addiction?

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

Do you have an addiction to male rings? That’s an awkward thing to put on social media.

@kimmie411 2 месяца назад

I sort of agree with you, we should approach food addiction with kindness. But as someone who quit smoking and drinking - the harder we tell ourselves it is, the harder we make it to quit. Mindfulness, understanding the science behind addiction and why we crave dopamine will massively help anyone with an addiction. We do need to go through a period of slight discomfort to move past the cravings but it doesn't last forever. Its very hard to get addicted to healthy food, because they aren't full of sugar and fat. You don't see someone getting addicted to carrots and getting fat from eating too many. When I quit smoking, I took it one craving at a time, each craving was similar to a hunger pang for chocolate - a need for something. Once you go through a few weeks and months, the cravings diminish until you don't care about it anymore. Same with food, IMO this has been my experience with food addiction. We can do it.

@Hat65 9 дней назад

Very well said.

@roberthansen9876 2 месяца назад

Just to make my point clearer. Suppose you are a 5' 9" male aged 25 and weighing a normal weight of 160 lbs. Now suppose 20 years later you find yourself, because of bad eating habits, weighing 260 lbs. How much extra food did you eat? Not that much actually. The basal metabolic rate differences between those two states and ages is about one Big Mac. Also, there is no way you maintained the same level of physical activity that you did when you were 160 lbs, so the difference in food intake is even less (because part of the difference is lack of physical activity). This is the kind of obesity that is relatively new and we know that the cause has to do with the readily accessibility of very tasty food in larger portions. The video does get that part right, but the example of obesity in the video is not caused by that, that is the addictive food disorder kind of obesity and that has existed long before big macs and supersized meals. The recent version that is affecting pat of the population is much more subtle and occurs in stages. The only real way to stop it is to educate younger people more about the process and you have to be very midful of these diet changes we tend to make every so often as our lives change. Some help from the food/restaurant industry wouldn't hurt as well. McDonalds gets a bad rap too often. I can go into McDonalds and order NORMAL sized portions of every item they have (well, there is no normal size portion of a shake:)), but try that in some of the sit down restaurants where all of the entrees with all of their delicious sides and bread start at 1000+ calories.

@docb77 2 месяца назад

You can't go completely without food, but you can go completely without sugar. If that's not enough you can go completely without any carbs. Protein and fat are the only macronutrients the body must have for life and health.

@stargazerbird 2 месяца назад

That’s a good way of explaining the success of diets like keto or very low fat. I had never thought of it that way.

@cristinareiser5447 2 месяца назад

Yes, Food Addicts commit to a life without sugar and flour like an alcoholic in treatment commits to a life without alcohol.

@lucillasallabank 2 месяца назад

Fibre is also very important and it's only available in carbs.

@docb77 2 месяца назад

@@lucillasallabank the data on fiber is actually very conflicting. Your body doesn't need it, it just goes through the digestive tract. It can do some good things, but it can also plug some people up. If you want to do zero carb and think you still need fiber, just take some psyllium husk supplement.

@andayaman Месяц назад

yeah, its not that easy. So what's the answer? It doesn't help that you and your subscribers just pitty them.

@BenCarpenter Месяц назад

I think you will find a lot of people find it helpful to realise the thing they are feeling is being discussed by someone on social media, perhaps for the first time they have ever seen. Pity* is a terrible word to describe this video.

@Hat65 9 дней назад

I like Ben, but I’m thinking more that he’s just virtue signaling to make his channel look good. Even though his channel is good for the most part. Obesity is still a CHOICE!

@PickleThePig 2 месяца назад

Try getting addicted to the gym

@user-ov4wr5yu4r 2 месяца назад

You could have said weird, odd, or possibly ironic, instead of funny. Idk if that helps.

@Enoch-Root 2 месяца назад

Who said it was easy? It's correct though that being sober merely requires not drinking, losing weight requires exercise and healthy eating... But who are these mysterious idiots saying that exercise and constant healthy eating is easy? It's hard. But also so what? Life is hard, and you know what's even harder than exercise and eating well? Dealing with the inevitable problems that will occur from poor diet and lack of exercise! Accept that anything worth while is hard, and then make the choice to do it!

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

There are lots of people on social media who say “weight loss is easy, just eat fewer calories”. It is intertwined with people who automatically conflate weight loss struggles with lack of willpower. I get tagged in videos like this quite a lot. Some of them are well intentioned and some are a bit more “I think all fat people are lazy” kinda vibes

@Enoch-Root 2 месяца назад

@@BenCarpenter eating fewer calories alone would only result in you being skinny, which most people wouldn't desire either. I think that going into it telling yourself it's going to be hard, a struggle, that failure is both unacceptable and inevitable is the best way to achieve any goal you're struggling with, whether getting in shape or something else. If you don't expect a struggle and setbacks you're probably going to give up quickly. Much like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which is probably the most evidence based method for people who struggle with anxiety flips common wisdom on its head. It doesn't tell people to be positive and optimistic, instead it teaches people with anxiety to expect problems, expect people to be rude and impolite, to expect things to go wrong. That way they're not caught off guard when things don't work out, and they're also more likely to accept it but to keep carrying on. I think a good example is Goggins' bluntness, he might offend people but I think he has probably got far more people to take responsibility for themselves and their health than a hundred people combined who have more "positive" and less "offensive" messages.

@Blah115 2 месяца назад

If some people are able to lose weight only with drugs like Ozempic it means it’s an illness. Do you think people like to be fat? Do you think Oprah liked to be huge. Think about it. Some people are always hungry, they have abnormal ghrelin levels thus always starving

@Ramkiller1 2 месяца назад

It's called fasting

@guyincognito1985 2 месяца назад

That's just COMPLETE baloney! Food doesn't magically make it's way into your mouth. You have to go to the store or fast food restaurant and select the bad food choices. Would I LOVE to eat donuts, pizza, hamburgers, soda and ice cream for every meal? You bet your damn life I would, but I have enough common sense to know that it would be detrimental to my long term health. And do you know how I avoid having bad food choices available to me? I DON'T BUY THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE! So when I'm at home and hungry, I look to my cupboards/fridge and all I see are good food choices available. Guess what I'm forced to eat?!

@christinesmith3711 2 месяца назад

Alcohol and cocaine do not magically get in you either. You need to make a choice and go and buy them. When you do not have an addiction to alcohol it is easy to make the right choice and have a glass of water or a coffee instead. When you have an addiction it is so much harder, that is not to say that it cannot be done but just that it is not as easy as you make it out to be.

@BenCarpenter 2 месяца назад

What is “complete baloney”? That some people biologically have higher cravings for food, just like some people are more susceptible to other addictive behaviours? That some people find it harder to change the way they are eating? I present the science on the screen deliberately so you can all have the opportunity to read it. Describing it as “complete baloney” just says you prefer to ignore it 🤷‍♂️