I'm an INFJ, and I totally get what you say and don't find you rude at all. I like how direct you are, and you seem to care a lot, and I can appreciate that. The things I pick up from your videos are incredible useful compared to other channels.
I'm living in the Netherlands. This man is speaking the way I'm used to. Direct, no bs and to the point. The rest of the world tends to call that RUDE xD. Love it. (INFJ, loving truth)
@@yvonnecampbell7036 Me2 :). Yes and I think he's probably an ESTJ which makes sense if you watch his videos. Or maybe an ENFP stuck in NE-TE. Check out his ISTP videos, he likes them. INFJ female & ESTJ males are not really compatible and he probably got hurt by INFJ's a lot too. But what he says is mostly true anyway.
@@QuandarNl Ah! Thanks so much, I will. By the way "INFJ female & ESTJ males are not really compatible"......... I married one. See my struggle? Yes, he's still alive........for now. xD
Same thing. I appreciate how direct and honest he is and how he doesn't talk us up as some special unicorn. I don't want to be a special unicorn, I want to be human.
@@new123zxc No, I wouldn't say so. To make it very short: I watched him a long while now, and watched quite many lectures by CSJ now, and personally wouldn't say so! A very high Ni-Se reverberation I get from watching him.
@@new123zxc Yes he is an INFP, pretending to be an INFJ. See links below. CS Joesph 34:47 (types Frank James as INFP) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-z5Xc9ri8GO4.html Type Police (also thinks Frank James is not an INFJ) ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3xUJG3gwX1U.html
Sofia Hi! I just saw this ! I think Hazel Sudduth explained it perfectly. I was going to say the absolute same thing. He teaches me to be more logical, and I call him out when I feel he is being insensitive to certain situations.
So funny about the Ne Nemesis paranoia on the loyalty thing. As an INFJ dating an INTJ we both ended it at the same exact time, thinking the same exact thing, quite abruptly. It was a mutual agreement in the heat of the moment. It was pretty funny. On a side note when I’ve made those swift decisions to cut people off I’ve always felt relieved and like I dropped some weight from my life. I never regret it, I don’t look back, but I think fondly of the person and what they contributed to my life. Great video! Thank you!
oh god the same(almost) situation I feel extremely stupid do I have any chance to get back to my precious infj? They mean a whole lot to me an I honestly don't think they hate me that much
@@Caroline_Thedeathofa_sho-br2uttry and go back INTJs make a forever impression on INFJs …. If they treat us well that is …. The only time you’ve lost your chance is if someone that connects with them intellectually treats them better than you .
One thing that C.S. Joseph mentioned that is super helpful to me (INFJ) is that our Ti child function will alienate us from making friends (in another video of his). When tempted to use Ti child, be social instead! This is one of the most helpful pieces of advice given to be as an INFJ. I wanted to give a concrete example. If someone is drinking beer with CBD oil, popular here in Wisconsin, I would be tempted to say to the person "That might be fake oil, the bar is charging you for real CBD oil". Instead of getting stuck on something like this (Ti child) I would just says cheers and toast mugs! I believe this is what C.S. Joseph meant when he said this. I almost need a Ti child support group because it does alienate us if we use it too much. Thank you C.S. Joseph for this, I might actually gain more friends.
Wow thanks for sharing this. I had absolutely no idea that I was doing this at all. I had an abusive, tumultuous, and traumatic child and I think that I overdeveloped my introverted intuition and introverted thinking because that was where my brain went to cope. I notice myself still doing this these days when I am feeling down or lost in my own life. It's just so easy to get sucked right into that as a way to feel better about the things that bring me down. Sometimes I literally don't want to be around people at all and would rather focus on the intellectual things that I'm interested in. I didn't know that this was handicapping me in such a way.
right yes. go with the flow. if they are poisoning themselves, they would be to dumb to want to be saved so, you continue to let them bond and suffer together. I think the social ones have this need to be around another and maintain the glue that keeps the current group together. So ask yourself do you want to fit in or do you want to save all their lives so they live long enough to resent you for threatening the glue.. This is what is really happening when we swoop in on a group project and solve in 10 seconds what took 4 minds and four hours to still not come to a solution to. Plus, they were all just bonding about how stupid they are and using this waste of time, energy, and brain power (4 fkn heads) to chat about celebs, Taylor Swift or the new Starbucks down the block. This is not place for you, just leave them alone and go. The more you leave them behind the closer you may come to types who will appreciate you.
Uhm... This reminds me of that time when me, my ex, and a group of friends sat in a park one late summer night. A hedgehog was scurrying about in the bushes, and my ex's best friend was like: "What are you doing, hedgehog? It's nighttime, why aren't you sleeping?" I replied, in what I BELIEVED to be a helpful and sympathetic tone: "Well, hedgehogs are nocturnal, so it's quite natural that it's up and active now." My ex got real mad... I just assumed it was my autistic tendencies to not pick up on subtle jokes and take things literally that was showing through, but could Ti child be another way of looking at it?
well, take it from me who became social instead and use Fe-Se when with people. Lol. I maybe have many acquaintances that still cherish me to this day. But am I truly happy? Have I found real friends? Noooo- I'd choose the real alienation instead---that's how I'll be found by my fellow social outcasts. :D
Wow this was Very motivational, I’m an INTJ but that performance fear will literally be the death of me ! When I apply myself I always get so many compliments but nobody realizes how DRAINING it is to need everything be so perfect.
It’s also hard to take the compliments because oftentimes a finished product is easier to troubleshoot and find more optimizations for since the prime aspects of the system are set in motion. “Thanks, but I know I should’ve done it better,” “I feel like it sucks,” or in a situation where others have higher rank or higher value to an organization “Thanks, I got lucky,”
F13RY0N5L4UGHT I agree because you know yourself and that it could’ve been Flawless. It’s always easier to fix things after everything is said and done but by that time it’s too late and you feel like everyone else is dumb for not realizing what you left out of the final product so their compliments mean nothing to you .
Thanks for this awesome video once again. I am INTJ and my BFF is INFJ. We both admire each other very much, and we understand each other very well. Your channel is just a gift that just keeps on giving. Dear CS Joseph, I have a request. Please stop paying attention to all the people who give you shitty remarks. You are a great human being who deserves all the love for educating people and telling the honest truth, even if they like it or not. We know you are not biased. Let people hate you. Just do your thing 😊
Lol stop you’re making blush, complimenting INJs so much...but seriously thanks, I like how you give brutal criticism that helps us, and at the same time talking about our strong points gives me confidence
Very insightful. This is super helpful to me. INFJ here who grew up in a Fi-Te dominate household. My mom is an INTJ and my dad is an INFP. I think I’ve spent too much time in my child Ti disguised as Te. And I’ve held my Fe in contempt for years because the only people I encountered who had this, used it as a form of manipulation and guilt towards others. Your videos have helped me see how I’ve been mirroring my family and that my two inner functions aren’t to be scorned but embraced! Thank you.
@@norvirmapa1142 I'm an INTP that's watched "How to Social Engineer INTJs" and I provide that info to my INTJ and I use that knowledge to stand guard over him and hopefully protect him from any nefarious people who may have ill-intent or see an opportunity to take advantage. I'd highly recommend finding healthy, evolved NTPs. You'll know them when you meet them. And you are correct...soooo many people are stupid and/or bad.
exactly according to who? If its you, you're giving up on yourself.. You will feel like you found home when one of these videos digs down to your soul, pulls it out of you and shows it to you, how it works and why it is. The feeling is incredible. I felt like it gave me wings. Its really hard to describe, but trust me you'll know it.
15:42 I love it how not even the dead Isabel Myers was able to scape being called out by you on her mistakes. Nobody is safe from Ti parent, it is going to get you, dead or alive
Camp out in front of someone’s house, hell naw. Too much pride. I have however, sat in my house for 3 weeks from sure disbelief that my boyfriend at the time had broken up with me. Straight up abandoned.
When you said INTJ females are insanely rare. My heart skipped a beat. I felt that rarity. Never met another INTJ in my life. Have felt very lonely all these years - INTJ You are cool.
I'm an INFJ female and fiance is an INTJ male. He says that the way I understand him makes him feel naked. (It almost feels like I turn into him when he walks into the room). The way he sympathizes with me, makes me feel loved even if not fully understood.
Also, I like your distinction between empathy and sympathy. I don't know how someone feels, but I can imagine the impact something might have on their life.
I am an INFJ and all my life I felt out of this world but after knowing the fact that I am INFJ it brought me so much comfort that other people are like me and whatever I have found blew me away its 100% correct and I wish I knew it sooner in life. Thank you MBTI
So I finally got through all of this and made detailed timestamps and notations for my INFJ close friend 7 INTJ friend who I'm sending this video to. wow, what an amazing hour! The comparisons are more near the last 20 minutes, but the earlier 40 minutes have plenty of neat little info dumps and gems for our INJ selves... Thank you C.S. Joseph for this. It has helped me better understand myself and my friend, and will help us both to "just apply ourselves" and reach our potential! I know we're rare, but im forever thankful Ive met the INJ friends i have. Heck, i even have an INTJ female friend (rare as hell) that we both clashed and she was always socially awkward beyond belief, known her for YEARS, and it wasnt until a few months ago we figured out all her personality quirks and our clashing was cuz shes an INTJ with help of your previous seasons. - 33:00 - 100% right about preemptively ending relationships due to the "perceived pattern paranoia" fault, OMG my INTJ female friend has done this. many. times. god it's annoying. - 49:45 - the influence of others, and our burdens to keep certain people around us, WOW this was deep, i totally do mirror & stupid rubs off on me.. and have even noticed i will do that, now i know how why it happens and why im always wanting to be around intelligent friends & why i will be forgiving if they arent the most moral, where INFJs are the opposite lol, moral over smart for them. - 51:50 - the INTJ Ti & Fe issue, yes i am a walking faux pas, i hate it. and YES INFJs with their unverifiable beliefs, it has happened, and im always there to tell them they're incorrect, lol. - 56:15 - Si-Demon and our mutual indignance as a result of perceived unfair tretment. deep & lovely to see quantified and explained finally that we share it! xD lol - 58:30 - I always thought i wanted an ENFJ mate, to help push me to learn to be more E over I and F over T... while sharing N & J. but your points on us being built mutually for ENP types... is compelling. thank you for the perspective. - 1:00:38 - thanks for this minute-long call to action for us ;_; we needed to hear this :) Thank you for reading and for putting out this video. It has certainly had an impact on me and the INJs i know.
Your claim is the INxJs, due to Ne nemesis, may have the "issue" of breaking up with others due to their personal projections of another. I predicted that one of my exes would turn out to be reckless and irresponsible and only a few years down the line did it occur. I believe that I'll continue to trust my intuition. No regrets here.
I am INTJ female and I am 43 and have just realized how much work I need to do to love others & myself. I have been informed that I am emotionless throughout my broken relationships. I am now looking inward and realizing I am emotionally disconnected. I have so much work to do so I can leave a legacy of love and change for the future generations.
I love your videos. As an INFJ truth lover who has been following you for several years now, I find you helpful whe it comes to learning about people, including myself. Thank you for all you do and your love for humanity.
Earlier I thought I fit INFJ but having since been through your basics videos, I realize INTJ fits almost scary perfect. The common theme people said about me growing up, “when you set your mind to something, you will get it come hell or high water”. Though I feel I’ve lost a bit of that.
Lol i guess i'm not the only one who impatient with the rant and want to go to the main point as soon as possible. I have no time to waste, better hurry up - INTJ
Thanks Chase! This really helped me appreciate my parents for raising me properly as an infj. They noticed that I started to mirror the kids who stole, cursed and were disrespectful. They put me in a healthier environment / school that is more people focused so now I’m in a healthy place to where I can use my Ti child to call out on people who can’t see the bigger picture of their life and give them encouragement. At the same time sometimes I really struggle to be appropriate and filter what I say. Literally called a friend “a tool” when he was explaining his situation. It made me feel horrible. Is there a way to be more aware and put a cap on these comments /ways to hit a mental pause and leave it the thought for a more appropriate time to say it?
OMG, that's so true about the mathematics! I aced calculus in college but my Mom balanced her checkbook to the penny every month for her entire life! It was incredible! I never did that! She TRIED her best to get me to do it but it was just too detail-oriented for me and not an efficient use of my time. But I admired her for it. What??!! People think the INFJs are stupid? That's crazy! I totally agree with you about them having the most unadulterated form of logic of all the 16 types. They are indeed brilliant! Mom was one of THE most BRILLIANT people I have ever known. She could walk all over my Dad intellectually and he's damn smart. She was like Noam Chomsky except a bit more emotional than Noam. I guess it was the combination of her Ni hero and Ti child. She was literally almost ALWAYS right. We'd be having a discussion and then I'd be like "oh". LOL. She was just so good with getting to the essence of something, to the root of it or the crux of it. She could crystallize a point beyond what anyone thought possible. Amazing to watch! I still don't know if I've ever met anyone in person smarter than her. My ex-wife is a brilliant INFP (one of those INFPs who has reached full maturity and owns her own non-profit AND a consulting business doing amazing education reform on the national level) but it's still a tossup in my mind over which one of them is more brilliant. I think they are just brilliant equally in their own ways. It's so interesting! My Mom though, sadly never quite gave herself the credit she deserved. She never realized how smart she was even though her IQ was 136 tested back when she worked at the hospital in the 1970's. But yeah, I've known other INFJs and they are very smart too. My very first girlfriend when I was 19 was an INFJ and is also brilliant. I just love that kind of intellect.
As an INFJ myself I was CONVINCED I must be absolutely STUPID until I was about 30. Then an IQ test showed I had an above average Intelligence. But due to a difficult childhood I mist a lot of school and thus basic knowledge. When at school I was asked to calculate something and write down the steps, I couldn't do it but I did get my answer right. That wasn't good enough so after so many years my self esteem took a nose dive. Now, I'm glad to say I know better. My compass is my Intuition. That (and maybe Ti) also got me through a lot of IQ test questions xD.
when you say "most aesthetically pleasing" is that why people just seem to love us? i never understand why the people i love and care about put up with my crazy shit i pull..
Dammit....you have ruined all other channels on jungian psychology for me...but really i am sooo grateful! i dont think you fully know what a pioneer you are in this field, with this media, the way you break it down...i think you will go down in history. AMAZING WORK. everytime i start to feel very beaten down and useless i listen to you and my head is in such a better place. eventually i will make it through all your videos, thank you again for your work and research.
According to socionics INFJs benefit INTPs and INTJs benefit INFPs. Also INTPs benefit ISTJs and INFPs benefit ISFJs. That means statistically as INTPs and INFPs we benefit a bigger population than benefits us as INTJs ans INFJs are the two most rare types and ISTJs and ISFJs are the most common types!
Rarest types 6:05-11:00 Biased? Idk 11:30-12:24 13:16-13:18 Infj vs intj 15:12- 16:45- If your not having relationships with anyone your not going to grow 18:48-18:50-20:50 28:00 Sympathy, empaths 20:50-21:08 Ni won't let go , functions 22:16-23:15 25:00-28:12 31:05-36:10-37:48 40:00- functions 37:54-42:19 42:20-45:26 Fe parent idk 45:26-51:30- 52:37-1:00:00 No one can perform better than an IXNjs 28:12- 1:00:40-1:03:11
Fact: INJs are the most aesthetically pleasing and the most attractive--YES! Fact: INJs outperform everyone else: YES! You articulated this so well: loving the flaws of an INTJ. Bc INTJs can seem so intimidating at first bc they're SO perfect, brilliant, moral, attractive etc etc etc that knowing their flaws somehow magnifies the fact that they are literally nearly perfect in every regard. My ENTP boss is married to an INFJ and they're both awesome--and so well matched. Se inferior is the absolute dopest. My INTJ is quite literally the most attractive creature I have ever laid eyes on. I'm always confused when INTJs question the experience they're giving others or their own intelligence...bc NOBODY gives a better experience than Se inferiors and Te parent is so brilliant it's unreal. I seriously can't even stand how awesome INJs are. Very nice video and nice timing with Jesus being an INFJ and all.
@@sofia8574 when we feel/think that we messed up, the memory of that moment keeps replaying inside our head again and again like everyday for so long, and we're kinda like living that moment again and again :( it's on autopilot mode, can't avoid thinking about it on command.
In my opinion Marina Diamandis is a fantastic example of an INTJ woman with a well developed ESFP subconscious. She is definitely a mastermind type, esp. with her knowledge of psychology, and she is really stunning with her aesthetics and her fashion sense.
Thank you for this video that you made Chase, im definitely more of an INTJ than an INFJ which is what I had been wondering about for some time. I especially learned what I should be aware of at the last portion of this video. I respect you TPs for your pursuit of the truth. Thank you for being you!
Love your videos CS Joseph (INTJ here), tremendous valuable insight. I was doubtful between an INFJ & INTJ but now I can see, INTJ do not do things entirely out of personal profits but they value some moral or purpose and also want the credibility. I hate my mind, abandoning people, seeing patterns and observations and planning to take my safe side. This makes us really soloist (most of the time). And I would really adhere to that advice of not corrupting my mind, I basically do but I have a slight probability of getting sidetracked. Thanks CS Joseph 🙂 I pity on your nose😁😁
I think a lot of times we don't want to admit our type, but we know what it is. We don't really want to be identified with the type we know we are. This is probably because we are so intimately aware of our own flaws. I'm not just talking about INFJs or INTJs. I'm really talking about any type - maybe some more than others. You come across as really hard on some of the types, like they have pride. But, for many of us, the truth is, we are trying to settle on the hard truth of accepting who we are.
DaveSuperPowers has grown tremendously, you should watch their videos as it almost aligns to your views (on preventing mistypes). Do not watch their old original videos (dated 2012 or older) because they actually debunked their old videos and says its flawed, so they point to those old videos to set an example on how not to type people. Their 2018 videos and later are golden. You guys should definitely do some sort of cross-references and peer-reviews on your stuff. I guess a point of conflict could be that they don't deal with the whole "four sides of the mind" stuff and they explain shadow functions as something different. I was hoping if you could compare your type grid method with their methods and see if they line up.
I support the request for a comparison, though appreciate that it would take a lot of time to gain sufficient understanding. I've listened to him on a few podcasts, it sounds to me like he's blending nature with 3 sides of the mind, so someone who's "shadow focused" whilst typing/reflecting then they're going to drag their "DaveSuperPowers Type" away from their "ego" type towards a "Blended Type", but that won't hold for long as circumstances change. I've not been able to research that theory due to "pay walls", but it seemed "off" to me.
My dad is an INTJ and I am an INFJ, and we share many qualities. I'd even say I am only 70% INFJ and 30% INTJ because of just how similar we are. I am an extreme introvert, even though most INFJ are considered "the most extroverted introverts" of MBTI, and I find my viewpoint of the world a whole lot harsher than what is expected from an INFJ (hence my INTJ-ness). On the other hand, my brother is also an INFJ (and my best friend because we understand each other), and our mom is an ESFJ, and he shares a lot of the same qualities as her. Parent-child relationships affecting MBTI sure are interesting to analyze.
i think "infj being the most extroverted introverts" is kind of an unexplained think. I believe that INFJ might be one of the most introverted ones instead. But people might see them as an extroverted. Because INFJ tend to help other people so while helping them they need to communicate right? They also tend to share other people's feelings too which also seems like an extroverted trait. But they dont share their *own* feelings easily at all. But i can get your point. I also see many similarities between me and my INTJ friend. But when i got deeper into this MBTI stuff i realized that we also had many differences.
wow this is how I think it is with me and my dad and mom. I get INFJ on test too and it fits me so well and my father fits INTJ. We are very similar, but still I am more close to my mom and I think she is ESFJ so maybe because of the F but if I were to ask of anything and wanted those deep long conversations about the stuff only him and me are interested in I´d go to my father. how is your mom and dads relationship? Im curious if it is similar like my parents. would be so interesting to talk to someone with the same family dynamic. I have two sisters too, dont know their exact types.
I’ve watched so many vids and lectures from u and others on typology and this is the first time someone’s described the importance of those select few relationships Intjs like myself cling to and place so much value on amazing insight like this is why I still find this subject so engaging
I love your videos! You have great knowledge and insights! They don't bore me at all, in fact I hate it when your videos are over. I enjoy them a lot. Keep it up
😢 why did you just make me cry. That was great. Also, you're cute!! I just feel like I went through a process of regeneration 😢 I never knew this was what I needed to hear till I did. Thank you ❤
This trust thing that you are talking about really makes a lot of sense to me. I do believe my trust issues does stem from a point of betrayal from my brother, who decided to reveal some pretty sensitive information about me when I was little to the public domain. I think this might be what’s up with my social avoidance to others, though I think it’s improving.
You know Chase, I always felt the ENTP is the outsider of the extraverts for being so misunderstood. Idk of you agree, but it just seems that way to me. I tend to gravitate to you guys because I want to listen to your ideas. It's interesting information you present, especially in an entertaining way lol. You have a mind of your own and I admire that. Keep up the great work -- a faithful INFJ subscriber
I am an INTJ, and a female, read about all these personalities, took all the test, end up with the same results every time I took one, Myer Briggs was the better, more personal questions to actually pinpoint who you are and how you would handle situations, by the way, there is nothing wrong with being alone, like it that way, most of the time.
Absolutely love how systematic you are. Other MBTI gurus seem more scattered. Would love to see these comparison and profile videos remade with the new knowledge you’ve acquired - they could be fantastic introductions to your podcast!
Mr C.S. is helping me sooo much. At first, after the personality test, having been told, advised and tested as INFJ, I was only ready to notice the low percentage and I wasn’t ready to absorb the new information. I am over 40 and feel I am just seeing the iceberg below after having concentrated on others and not anything else for so long. I want to learn all of this really quickly, now being open and then get back to helping more. One of my clients had referred to how I focus on one person at a time (which looks flighty to some ) as my “mission from God” and it helped me to be a tiny bit more light-hearted which means my heart weighs 1.9million pounds instead of 2million. I want everyone to be happy. These studies and this consciousness will help the whole world! ☺️🙏
Easy to say go and get surrounded by good people, hard for INJs to really initiate relationships with people at all. So, loved "keep trust on good / smart people that initiate with you", as it really worked for me as an INFJ. Thanks for the good material!
I'm an INFJ who is writing a book to try and solve a decades long probem in bodybuilding/exercise science. I also am working on a book about politics/philosophy/economics, which aims to throw new light on old and new problems. I'm definitely a big-picture thinker and I NEVER give up. I always think every ambition has to be grounded in ethics. I have always felt different and have a deep burning conviction to achieve worthwhile, even life-changing and world-changing ambitions. Authenticity and freedom are I think my two favourite things. I'm a vastly underestimated person who is working on totally amazing people with what I can achieve.
Despite all of the infighting and playground grudges within the MBTI community, I have to say I still enjoy your type comparisons and their accuracy. -An INTJ
Thank you for the message. Infj here. My health since a child, very fragile. Fragile constitution. If I didn't have the power of spirit (what you call force of will) this receptive and sensitive body would have taken me out. This force which moves through me never sleeps. It never takes a break. I know it isn't mine or me, and that helps it play its role with less and less debilitation and more and more service to the bigger picture of assisting humanity. Even if it isn't recognized as such.
Visual Difference: INTJs have more square or similar face structure, with masculine feature. They have endo-mesomorph body type ranging from large muscular frame to fat. INFJs, on the other hand have long rectangular face with feminine features, more of a V shape with less developed jawlines. They have ecto-mesomorph body type ranging from slender thin frame to fat. That's what my intuition concluded, take with a grain of salt.
I've observed that my memory recall has improved greatly after your tip of using objects or people as totems. Thanks for pointing that out! But that doesn't work for solving the 'Use it or lose it' dilemma. I guess nothing works better than having a routine ( that is challenging)
The Ne he has is absolutely fascinating. How he creates a bigger and bigger web of thoughts all on his own like that. As an INTJ (shocker) I do enjoy taking in all the information he gives a lot. I do find he tends to go off on a lot opinionated tangents though but I like how he quickly jumps back to the main topic.
Yeah your right i didn't confirm i was a intj until i pursued lots of resources videos like this people signs and so on i actually mistyped as an infj mainly because i was lying to myself but i still check to make sure im not fooling myself all the time great video series my brother is an intp that's also how i could tell the difference
Well, regarding the point of leaving people: If I see a behavioral pattern that gets worse over time I still think it makes sense to end a relationship early. Time is a precious/limited resource, and I get really frustrated when I realize I wasted it (incl. emotional Investment) on someone, who turns out to be disloyal, opportunistic, etc. Also, people usually don‘t change…
I watched few of your videos, your insight is pretty great. Now gotta watch the series from the beginning to confirm my type and Learn more about types. Thank you for your work.
I suspect my best friend is an INTJ, I've somehow always felt his mistrust in other people. Since his loyality checks have always been very covert, his surroundings think he's kind of strange. It's been a funny kind of relationship between us.
Thank you for this lecture, I learned new things, like Se inferior, always fear of giving others bad experience, but I didn't realize that it was also responsible for outperforming... For your allergy, try to apply a greasy ointment (only have french references like Homéo-plasmine®, Homéodose® ointment or Calendula® ointment) inside the nostrils: the pollens will remain on the surface and will not enter the respiratory tract.
My best friend is an ENFP, and I always wondered why as an ISFP we got on like a house on fire, more than most others that I meet, but potentially being an INTJ might make this make sense. Also, I pre-empted and ended a 3 year relationship (which was heart crushing) with an INFJ because he was so low effort, but to be fair there were subtle alarm bells from the beginning which I couldn't ignore, even though he technically didn't do anything "wrong". I do however believe you can intuitively judge someone's character from their actions and values.
I have to say that there's no such thing as pre-emptively ending a 3-year relationship that's just coasting. It means, sorry to say, that he just wasn't that into you and he would've been gone as soon as he met someone he really wanted to be with. It happens all the time. Sometimes it can be ten years and even a couple of kids down the road, but the woman always seems to be shocked when it happens.
Good lecture as usual. :) I need to stop being so afraid of my hare-brained schemes not going 100% as planned. I find that when I feel I messed up. It is very absolute. If I perform a plan 100% to the intent, it is merely okay, but if there is a 1% change, there is chaos. I need to stop being so afraid of my Ni being seen/judged. It isn't. Same with getting home late on my bicycle due to an unforseen traffic event, and me laughing away the notion of some guy waiting at the curb with his fingers on his watch. There isn't. I am not nearly as subject to scrutiny and judgement as my Ne nemesis likes to think. Now to just develop the emotional fortitude to believe it myself and drop the pains of the past, while retaining the lessons and carry forth to the future.
It's almost eerie how accurate you are. All of the female celebs that I've idolised throughout the years, you typed them all as INTJs, like myself. All of the 3 male celebrities, that I've lusted, you typed them as INFJs. That's saying something cause I don't follow celebs that much, but when I do, it's always those types. And I don't do it on purpose. It just happens. It's like a built-in detector in me.
This indeed was a very insightful and educational video. Thank you again CS Joseph. Really enjoyed it! God, you're so passionate - particularly noticed that in the end. (Really needed to be said!)
JUDGE FAVOURABLY. This whole trust issues thing is the one huge thing I don't relate to. It makes me question if I'm really an INTJ. I just don't expect anything from people. I had to learn it as a teen.
I think Frank James made me confused about what I'm supposed to be or really am. I need help, outside perspective because I can relate to so much but then morally deny that's my depth. I never knew myself. I am circling on INTJ, INFJ, and INFP. I've tried to change myself since I was young and now I don't know who I truly am because a lot of how I act as an adult is frustration with being misunderstood. I'm so big hearted but uncomfortable with what is correct that I overthink it. Social anxiety is my downfall. I want to be extroverted and know what to say in every situation... But I either either don't know what to say, not interested in topic and daydream, or I'm thinking about all the ways someone will perceive me or/and judge me. As the world works I honestly don't think I'm in any of the more common types of personality, because I've never met anyone who is like me and or understands me. And the world couldn't function the way it does if it was made up of 10% me. I think the ones that understand me are more sympathetic to my communication struggles or are so in tune with their own energy and self that they they find me interesting or mysterious like a puzzle for them to play with... Maybe that's why I love E Child... Well the curious and compassionately direct ones. I don't want anyone feeling sorry for me or pitying me. Please solve me. I'm watching all these videos but I'm now obsessed on digging for an answer, ignoring externally what I need to do. I need it to accept myself and I can't do that if I don't know where I fit.
Whatever type you are is the same type I am because this is me 100%! But I have done a ton of research and have come to a pretty confident conclusion that I am an INFJ(Terbulent) with an enneagram 4w5 tritype 9 sx/sp. I know that’s a lot of letters and numbers, but it seems to me you are an enneagram type 4w5 or 5w4. This can further inhibit one’s social abilities. And if you look into the instincts, social is probably your “blind spot”. I do not think enneagram is “better” than MBTI, but it has really assisted me in “solving myself”. I have researched MBTI, Enneagram, and the Big 5 and they are all useful in different ways. I have also made friends online. Because I have a hard time making friends in person. I became friends with an INFP from another country online and I was on the fence as to whether I was an INFP or INFJ at the time. And I asked her “what do you think is the main difference between us?” And she said “you literally analyze EVERYTHING!” So there you have it. I do daydream a lot. But not about unicorns and rainbows and happy love scenarios. I am constantly thinking about the future and what I can do and say in potential situations. Because it takes me a long time to process before I make decisions. After all, I lead with a perceiving function. so I try to prepare myself ahead of time.
Heather C I only started this journey because I was trying to understand why I can relate to my daughter but she can't relate to me relating to her. Lol. This is more of a discovery for me getting through to her. But we found her type superfast. So yes I've tried a lot of things and I've over developed a lot of things and that's why I'm confused.
Pickle Bunny Well find me on IG or Snap or something. I would like to know more about how your mind and your friends. I'm intrigued! If you don't mind. Callieoooo for both I believe :)
I just don't see why people would want to claim they are an INTJ when they are not. I struggled so hard and came to a point where I believed I had to be a psychopath, because of my lack of emotions and interest in other people. I was so relieved when I found out about all this.
I will say this as an INFJ, regarding belief of the spiritual realm . . . Years ago, I met a guy in college, who told me of his spiritual experiences. I was turned off to him, and I wouldn't answer his calls. I was very curious as to why some people had such experiences, while others did not, including me. When I had privacy in my apartment, I decided to fast for a few days, and during that time, I prayed relentlessly to hear the voice of God or angels. So what I did, resulted in that door being opened, and it became an ongoing thing, but I quickly found that it became and undesired thing. For one, I have proof for myself, but on the other hand, the voices I were hearing and what I was experiencing was demonic. To open that door is not difficult, but to close that door is almost impossible, once opened. And that is the danger of it. Once you open that door, it remains open. If you humble yourself, and call on the name of Jesus (Yeshua) and ask Him to distance them, He will -- but having pride and fear is like opening the door again. I realized a couple of things. For one, God does have a hedge of protection over us. He does resist the proud. And without Him, we cannot combat or conquer spiritual problems.
being an intj, caring about the people who walk into your life then not understanding why one day they aren't there anymore is one of the most painful things in the world.
200plus videos?? Holy Cow Chase I'm cherry picking them but I'm trying to watch em all! You make 'em faster than I can watch 'em! I am pretty new so a lot of catching up to do...
So one thing I say in absolute good will, you might be able to get to more ppl if the starts of the videos i.e. first 20 minutes are more relevant. Maybe add the general content on your page as a disclaimer for everyone that visits it. The hour long video is already a little daunting to watch and you lose most of your audience in the start if you aren't getting to the point or there's too much information the receiver did not agree to. I only take time to say this because I actually like the content and specially the endings of your videos and you have some very on point information and it'd be nice if more ppl got to hear that. Best, INTJ who didn't mean to criticize
Thank you for saying that we are empathic, some people think we're almost mosters, but not at all, we just need to understand the why's and what's of things.
I came here for a comparison of INTJ and INFJ but this is like being forced to listen to your girlfriends day at work and all the things and people that upset her... holy crap
Hopefully, watching some of your videos will help out. I'm now convinced scouring your videos will be the key. I went and watched your INTJ social engineering video today. For whatever reason, I turned to MBTI about 6 months ago. But only long enough to say, "Yep, I'm an INFJ," and throw in the towel. I had found you, but I don't remember why I called it quits after a few videos. On the DISC, I'm a full-blown DC, right on the line, and almost out of the bubble. On the Enneagram, I'm 4(98%), 5(96%), 8(95%). 8 is the one with the greatest chance of fluctuation. Like six months ago, I scored a little lower on 8. But at that time in my life, I felt like I had no control over something. The 4 and 5 were the exact same six months ago. Since you can't really chalk it all up to a test. I came to the conclusion that I'm an unhealthy INFJ that repressed and moved to a full-blown INTJ/ENTJ....yeah, that's not supposed to make sense... I don't think. But it kinda makes sense to me. I don't mean that by the measure of solely the MBTI by itself. INFJ by nature, INTJ/ENTJ by nurture as it relates to the enneagram. (Clearly, I haven't done enough research) I've tested as INFJ and INTJ. On one of those tests that shows 3 types, I've gotten INTJ, ENTJ, ENTP. Who knows. P.S. I've read all of Robert Greene's books too. Good stuff. They're falling apart and notated to hell. 48 Laws and 33 Strategies are held together by tape. People have actually asked me if they were bibles. P.S. I did have that INTJ gullibility as a kid. I think as a kid, I learned to move from the heart space to the head-space....I don't know enough about this yet. P.S. Yeah... long af... Conclusion... Watch all of C.S. Joseph's videos. P.S. I also love Kevin Mitnick, Frank Abagnale, Victor Lustig, Edward Bernays... AKA sales, marketing, political science, blank, blank, blank, are the cores of life. ...starting to believe I might be INTJ. P.S. Thanks for everything you do! Soooo... maybe INTJ 4w5 sp
