You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Some drs aren’t equipped to help us and relaxing and regulating the nervous system isn’t something they tend to teach general practitioners. It’s more about medication and or talking therapy which doesn’t always work for everyone. I have severe anxiety and PTSD and I know we can all get through this. I am far from healed but it’s work in progress. We all are! So far, I have learned its mainly down to calming the nervous system (stimulating the vagus nerve) so we can process and release emotion. Stored trauma. We hold it in our bodies, all of us do but at varying degrees. Reprogramming our neuroplasticity (how our body and mind reacts to stress) and being kind to ourselves too is vital. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to learn - or unlearn depending how you look at it! The trauma I have inside has almost been the end of me several times. I still struggle a lot but I believe if we let go of old pattens and thoughts we are half way there. These unhealthy thoughts are also a result of a stressed body due to trauma and it changes our brain chemistry. The way we think changes. Then we spiral and think it’s us. But it’s not? It’s not you. We can change it. Don’t fall for it.. our bodies and brains can be reprogrammed and relaxed so our thoughts then have the freedom to pass and become more rational. The fight or flight responses is great if we are in immediate danger but it becomes an automatic response if we have prolonged trauma which is not so great. Have faith and keep good people around you and keep watching good people on RU-vid. I’m sending my love to you and anyone else who needs it right now. Louise :-)
There is something right about this technique of yours. I am 67y.o. and with a long, very long story of survival, which included many traumatic events. I am now retired, and after some resistance I got the moment to look into my previous years, which I wrote on my daily journals. The resistance came as the memories were painful, of course. But, instinctively, I corrected my approach and I started to digest a couple months at the time, having a pause going into nature and do the exercise you promoted here, that is, after revived the ugly past, I can travel to my real time, where everything worked well at the end. So, the struggles I endured brought me to a peaceful life. It's like a safe platform where I can drive into deep dark waters, understand the meaning of all and come up to my platform to dry under the warm and bright sun wrapping myself on my self love. Life is just a journey. I am glad I didn't die during the hard times, having the opportunity to understand the meaning of all.
I love your approach. Very brave. The mind plays tricks and makes us want to avoid our past, but by learning to be with our past, to sit within the memories, we learn that life is in the present is safe, and the past is a memory, not an actual current threat or danger. I will be doing a podcast in the coming weeks and I would like to interview people. If you would be interested in being considered please email me jc@justincaffrey.com. The aim is to explore this more and offer insights to others. Justin.
Hi Justin, your video is so interesting and timely for me. I’ve been inadvertently kinda doing my own version of the “wiping technique” for about 4 months, I just didn’t have a name for it. This is going to sound whacky but stay with me… First I created a “safe place” for myself in my mind. For me it’s a log cabin nestled in mountains and trees on a river. I’m standing on the porch, I can hear the river, there is gentle snowfall, a log fire burning inside, and I feel calm, peaceful and safe. It’s very visceral and real, and I spent a lot of time imagining this place first. Then I let my mind bounce back into the past, wherever it wants to go. I’ve had significant PTSD in my life. I call these traumatic memories “ghosts” - people, events, losses, sorrows, failures, regrets. Anything that I push away and automatically label as bad, weak, wrong - instead of hearing and allowing them. Now I let my ghosts visit with me. Not to be feared, but welcomed as friends and teachers. I imagine inviting them in to sit down and talk, finding the good side of whatever they are to me. Then I think “everything’s going the way that it should”. And let my mind bounce back to the present and go to the log cabin. I actually think “now go to the cabin”. Then I let my mind go back in time again, wherever it wants, sometimes it wants to visit with the same ghost, sometimes it wants to jump around so I let it. Then again “everything’s going the way that it should” and I come back to the cabin. And back… and forth… and so on. Four months later I can tell that some very deep healing is taking place. There’s something about the reminder of everything going the way it should, when I come back to the present, that is important to the process for me. Like I’m retraining my brain to accept everything happening for a reason, even if I don’t yet know the reason… at the same time as desensitizing past traumas. Powerful stuff. Below are the lyrics to a song I wrote about my process just a week ago, and then your video appears here for me to watch. It’s cool how things work out sometimes. ………………………………….. 🎵 Sometimes ghosts come visiting Pressed up against the glass All of my sorrows at once Like a quiet avalanche Every loss, an icicle of pain I push you out, you want back in Maybe it’s time, to let you stay Instead of sending you away So come on in for a while Let’s reminisce, about a good life A good life, a good life 🎵
This is such a beautiful reflection. Your approach is superb, and it helps the mind and body normalise these traumas. We are allowing them to be here without fear. As we teach the body to no longer respond through fear, we start regulating our nervous system. When I work with people on a 1-2-1 basis, we add in forgiveness after normalising the memories. This can be achieved relatively quickly in sessions, but on your own, it is best to find the pace that works for you. The song is wonderful. I am sure many could relate to those lyrics. ❤️🙌
@@JustinCaffrey I’d love to see a video with more about forgiveness. I struggle with this part, since some of my trauma is from witnessing and experiencing sexual and physical abuse. How can I forgive people who did these things to me? I’ve wondered… what or who am I forgiving… myself? Them?
@@wtfhappenedtome a humble suggestion: you could forgive the little you who was unable to process the experience and so carried it with you. She (or he) is the one who really needs forgiveness from you. Just a suggestion, respectfully given, ignore if not useful.
@@felixvongeigern3420 I’m studying and learning that it was already done on the cross. By my stripes you were healed . Jesus took our sickness . We just have to believe the whole cross story of truth . ♥️🙏
I don’t THINK I’m over stressed…. But I think my Vegas nerve has gone berserk. I have had all sorts of problems. Largely digestive. I think my bottle got full as a cop…. Thank you a million for the tips. I’m going to try to sort it out alone…. I’m skeptical of everything, especially psychiatrists.
@@Lifetimelearningisbravecan you please give me any help. I think I have gastroparesis from Covid. I have all the main symptoms of gastroparesis and been struggling significantly. Hoping there’s a way I can heal my vagus nerve.
I've had stress/anxiety my entire life, but was always otherwise physically healthy, when Covid hit I got 100 times worse and still have not physically recovered, the doctors just keep saying it's my anxiety, I have to figure all this out on my own, I think that the lifelong anxiety & covid perhaps damaged my vagus nerve, off topic, but I love the ambient lighting in your room.
You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Some drs aren’t equipped to help us and relaxing and regulating the nervous system isn’t something they tend to teach general practitioners. It’s more about medication and or talking therapy which doesn’t always work for everyone. I have severe anxiety and PTSD and I know we can all get through this. I am far from healed but it’s work in progress. We all are! So far, I have learned its mainly down to calming the nervous system (stimulating the vagus nerve) so we can process and release emotion. Stored trauma. We hold it in our bodies, all of us do but at varying degrees. Reprogramming our neuroplasticity (how our body and mind reacts to stress) and being kind to ourselves too is vital. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to learn - or unlearn depending how you look at it! The trauma I have inside has almost been the end of me several times. I still struggle a lot but I believe if we let go of old pattens and thoughts we are half way there. These unhealthy thoughts are also a result of a stressed body due to trauma and it changes our brain chemistry. They way we think changes. Then we spiral and think it’s us. But it’s not? It’s not you. We can change it. Don’t fall for it.. our bodies and brains can be reprogrammed and relaxed so our thoughts then have the freedom to pass and become more rational. The fight or flight responses is great if we are in immediate danger but it becomes an automatic response if we have prolonged trauma which is not so great. Have faith and keep good people around you and keep watching good people on RU-vid. I’m sending my love to you and anyone else who needs it right now. Louise :-)
in my life I've had so many extremely horrid things, like taking care of an alcoholic son for 10 years then finding him dead on the floor. Three months ago I found my grandaughter dead in her bed from overdose. My sons wanted me to sell my home and find friends to take me in, because I wouldn't he turned against me, said he never wants to hear from again. Other granddaughter suicided. I have had two home invasions where I had gun held to my head. My ex husband was also alcoholic. that is just the tip of the iceburg, it would take a lot of time to list other traumatic incidents. Have had two heart attacks and almost every night I struggle to slow my heart down, I work on vagus nerve and it helps. The wiper method might work but which of the dozens of things that have happened do I try the wiper method on? Psychiatrist says I have severe ptsd but no answer on how I can control that, other than drugs.
Try Jesus. He can take all of that off your hands and from your heart and mind and make you new. It seems impossible but it isn't. I pray you be whole and free. You were made to have a productive life. No matter your age, you still can. If you need a friend to talk to, I'll make time. Be well, friend!
I am so sorry for all the trauma you have been through. I hope and pray you never give up. If you are able… try and get some body work from someone that is trained in trauma release. I will pray for you. Please know someone cares and is praying for you. New research is happening all the time in helping people like us that have trauma issues so there is hope.
Gosh, I think the same happened to me. I developed food intolerances, I am fatigued all the time and I can't handle stress. My GP mentioned the vagus nerve, but didn't give advice how to sort it out. I have just started doing vagus nerve exercises, hoping that this works as nothing else has. I'll never have pfizer vaccination again.
@@user-km2bk8zb4m sun, walking or some exercises , a lot of sleep, keto diet, avoid bad people, have fun with friends, cold showers... This works not doctors drugs..
Any advice and/or suggestions for remaining survivors of pre-verbal trauma? I have memories of traumas later on in life but I know that I blew the top off of that bottle many times before I was two years old. It took me 60 years just to realize the problem was my “ environment” from birth was disingenuous at best, like I never developed a functioning and whole self due to insecure non-bond w/either donor. It seems like most people just assume because you have two arms and two legs and ahead and walk around talking that you don’t have a terribly injured mind Appreciate the work you do.
I am sorry to hear that you were mistreated as a toddler. The body retains this information and needs to heal. If we were working together, I would help you to normalise the memories by revisiting whatever bits that remain over and over again-allowing the memories to no longer provoke a physics feeling in the body. We would then work on visualising your parents. In the visualisation, you would take out your anger on them (physically), releasing it from the body. We would then allow you to see their reactions as you reclaim your strength. Afterwards, we would move you to find a deep sense of forgiveness for them. This is the letting go. It allows you nervous system to shift away from past trauma and move into the present. I do this work with clients over zoom. You can try yourself first to see how it feels. Wishing you well. Justin 🙏
thanks a lot for sharing personal loss. I am sorry to know. I did lost my daughter 13 years ago when she was 21. Off late also when my second daughter stepped in to help me; I felt it was my elder daughter. I was in a confused state, could not talk to my family for few days. Suffering in the self. May be some method of jotting down, sharing with family help. Still I feel Vagus nerve, when memory rationalization; help.
How do I see the rest of videos? I had trauma many times since childhood. 72 yrs old, this has taken years of my life. This appears to be similar to EMDR, taking very long.
Is there a connection between PTSD, stress Vagal function and fight flight adrenal fatigue and if so would treating the Vagus system help with adrenal healing? And how long would one expect to do the exercises before getting relief - I am almost 60 and have suffered unknowingly from PTSD, anxiety, stress suppressed fears and maybe a bit of disassociation most of my life. I feel it in my nervous system and with body pain etc - it is slowly killing me as my body is now show more symptoms including high blood pressure and diabetes
Watch EONutrition. Elliot Overton will encourage you and help you. I got much help from him, plus it's important to do the vagus nerve stimulation and exercises - I believe all this helps the body's stress level so one can sleep better etc.
I can concur with your issues. Imo, regulating the nervous system is key to healing physical syndromes. If your n/s is stuck in sympathetic mode, it is impossible for your body to heal.
I had/have similar. It made no sense but my GERD seems to be connected with weak/tense back and shoulder muscles. I'm someone who had weak posture and posture muscles and shallow breathing. It's all connected. I keep on top of it, it goes away and is a distant memory, I get lazy, it comes back.
I've been suffering From IBS & I can easily relate the behind it was mental trauma. How to recover, i don't know.. Meditation & deep breathing clams down & makes it feel good but i really don't understand will I ever be able to come out? It all started when I was 18 today I'm 40 :( Life is getting closer to old age gradually & I feel i never lived it :(
I also wonder about that, because it's obvious that what runs in my familiy adn comes down on me and my sons. What do we do about that? Would like to hear about that.
@@maryaschouten1606 Hallo Marya, Er is over dit onderwerp best veel goede informatie te vinden Twee namen komen op: Gabor Mate an Thomas Huebl. Goede reis!
So soory for ur loss i totally relate theres noyhing as paimful than loding a child my baby died in 2010 my baby girlot didmt register until i seen ur link i meed to chane my relayionship with this memory emoyionally i still feel guilty i keep thinking if i got into the car 5 minites earlier 5 miniyes later then tje accide nt would not have happened shed be here i kniw ots illogical the emption of it is still with me thank u gor showing me in this vifeo what to do i gollow all ur links thank u again i telate
Excellent video! Would this be possible for a person to do on their own? I would love to do this for quite a few different things that have happened in my life.
Dear sir , thanks alot for the video was very informative and helpful on my recovery ... i would like to know on the WIPER TECHNIQUE , i have many unresolved traumas should work it one by one or all at the same time ?
Hey Justin. Could you write down the name of the person you studied with? I might be writing it wrongly and can’t find him online. I’m also interested in how you would work with a person who feels fear, anxiety and grief (in the heart and lung area) but can’t tie it to certain events. It’s more like a nebulous conglomerate.
Hi Katharina, my colleague is Dr Pradeep Chadha. He was my therapist and then became my teacher and colleague. We have just recorded a two hour discussion on our approach to the nervous system, therapy and recovery. I hope to publish it in the coming weeks. Most likely in weekly chapters given the volume of the content.
You don't need actual images. You may feel a body sensation, or even deeper breathing. Your intention is enough, the imagination operates unconsciously. Just do your best and you will get a result.
I suffer from severe Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating PolyNeuropathy. (CIDP), brought on from a failure of the Autoimmune System, The neuropathy being a neuro degenerative disease. So, I cannot relate what you are speaking about to my case at all. Not in the slightest. My Vagus Nerve system is damaged by various Neuropathies. This impedes the functioning of many organs, and especially the GUT, causing a myriad physical problems. The Vagus Nerves are damaged. To me, it seems as if you are confusing other pathologies with the Vagus Nerve damage. So 🤷♂️
He is talking about vagus nerve function being compromised by stored emotion and trauma. Hence emotional healing such as he described will allow the vagus nerve to function closer to optimal level, so will work well in that case, as the damage is emotional. For you, because neuropathy creates physical damage so this process may not make a difference for you. Though it has been shown that emotional stress is a factor in all illness, physical damage is harder to heal simply because the physical body is more dense than the emotions. However some people do say they have healed major physical problems by using emotional healing techniques. Wishing you well.
This is a great help! Thank you! Although, humans were created by the only true God who loves us dearly 6,000 years ago. The only way we can love, forgive, and care about each other's emotional well-being is because Jesus gives us the capability, whether or not we believe He exists. ❤ God offers forgiveness to us for the bad things we do. His grace is completely free. He came down to earth as a man to take on our sins, even though He is perfect, and He took on the punishment, because He is a just God and sin must be punished. All because He loves us and wants to be with us. Jesus has a great plan for our lives, and His Holy Spirit can live inside us and help us live this challenging life. He's coming back one day before or after we die. Are you ready to face Him? God bless you! Thank you for a great video! You are a blessing!!❤
And the source knows no revenge lol . Would you throw your child in the oven for sins . Come on wake up really wake up .see things for what they are . I bet you've never really researched or you won't not be saying the same old programed statements lolo about mainstream media s God lolo
Christ died for our sins, was buried, and rose again the third day. I'm trusting in nothing but the blood of Jesus to pay for my sins to keep me out of hell.
@@espeneriksen1664 The god of this world is the devil and controls all politics and religion especially the Catholic Church as counterfeit Christianity. Truth is Christ RU-vid proves King James Bible and also authors Gail Riplinger and Bill Grady.
Have stopped to consider that this makes absolutely no sense because you take it LITERAL. It’s an analogy for fluid in the spine from taking sexual energy and turning it into a drug for the brain to heal stress damage
Not CBT. That didn't work, it just manages your week, or most recent challenge, it doesn't tackle your trauma, or your nervous system. CBT is like a bandaid.
This was fantastic - thanks! I wonder how this would work if the perpetrator is an institution, or even society itself. That’s the case with some trauma I’m dealing with and I don’t really know who or what to visualise.
As I listen to you I realize I have no resilience to stress, wanting (needing) to hear what you have to say and feeling I have no time now, though I'm retired, have no job but am setting myself up with one soon. My stress started when I was 2, though probably before with a mother with a handicapped child and two more little ones and moving in with family members who didn't want us. Next thing I'm bloodied down the bottom if 2 sets of stairs needing stitches across my forehead. We continued in that environment from which my father left when I was 8 and the other family left when I was 11. Three things I noticed along the way, I became addicted, yet fearful, of stress, to rock n roll music, to adrenaline and, of, course, sugar. I know I'm stressed because if a loud noise occurs nearby I freeze right up through my torso and out my arms as if I've met a tiger and it takes a while to get rid of the awful feeling.Now I'm 82, healthy, have no doctor, my issue that won't heal is oesophagitis, and cataracts stopping me from knitting, the great pacifier..
Certain childhood memories are still hurting me... I have been trying a technique similar to yours not knowing this is it.... Thank you Sir. God bless you 🙏
Self directed compassion helped me tremendously. I decided to go through the program with certification so I can work on myself, otherwise I would pay a big fortune for therapies.
It's typical hypnosis/ NLP. Works brilliantly. Everything that works comes with different names depending on how people find it. Who cares as long as it works 💜
I can see how this technique works for ptsd but not for cptsd which includes a lifetime of continued traumatic incidences due to the very nature of how cptsd impacts the individual to re create trauma over and over from a confused nervous system
Can someone please explain me that mean "look backwards & to the present moment"? 🙏🏻 What present moment? The present moment day & now where i am or the "present" moment in this memory before he hit me? I hope i wrote the question that someone can understand what i'm trying to ask. 😁 English is not my native language.
I thought I'd found something really interesting here, and then realised it's the same old story - help is only available for very wealthy people. $410/hour?!! It's so depressing when your life and ability to earn money has been destroyed, yet all the help you need costs a fortune. I don't know anyone who could afford a course of treatment that costs that much.
Sorry to hear you are struggling. Sadly, I am only one person and I have to manage my time in terms of helping others. I can only offer a few sessions a week. I continue to share hours of free video content as I know many people lack the funds to manage their health locally. I am sorry I cannot do more for everyone, but I have to try my best and manage my time.
@@JustinCaffrey totally fair Justin, sorry if it sounded like I was having a go at you, it's just so frustrating that I'm so limited in my options. Thanks for the free stuff, I will try to learn as much as I can, you seem like a very wise fella. Sorry to hear about your son too, that makes my problems look pretty petty. All the best!
@@MrSimonj1970 no problem at all. I wish I could do more. My best tip is to slow down, as that is often how people get into a stressed state. 10 minutes of meditation or breathing daily is a huge longterm benefit. I wish you well my friend. Justin
@@JustinCaffrey thank you! Any particular breathing technique? I seem to get the best results from the long exhale method so far, but haven't been disciplined enough to do it daily.
@@MrSimonj1970 search Justin Caffrey Hand Pressing Technique and use that one 6 times a day for a month. Also add in the nasal breathing guided meditation on my channel. There is a ten minute one. Combine those two.
Mark Twain said "I've lived through some terrible things, some of which actually happened" I don't post that to discount any real traumatic events that people have gone through. It's to point out that many our traumatic experiences that we hold onto really weren't much.
