How to Ask Good Questions in Conversations

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To master the art of conversation, we have to learn how to ask good questions in conversations (Part 2 of 4). Good questions spark dynamic conversations. Many people mistakenly believe that you have to dazzle people and be really interesting to have a great conversation. The opposite is often true. The secret is to keep the other person talking with good questions.
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1. Ask easy, direct questions. Ask questions that can be answered in even a single word to break the ice.
2. Ask follow up questions. Make sure they are open ended questions that start with words like "how" or "what." Use whatever answer the person gives to the easy question as potential fuel for your follow questions.
In just two simple steps, you can keep a conversation going and keep the other person talking about their favorite topics. Questions are a key element in how to make small talk with friends new and old.
In addition to How to ask good questions in conversation, see these related videos to master the art of conversation:
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Part 2: Asking Good Questions: • How to Ask Good Questi...
Part 3: How to Make Conversation with Anyone: • How to Have a Conversa...
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@rhondabaldwin7529 4 года назад

I searched "how to ask good questions" YOU answered!

@joshking5884 3 года назад

Same

@sandyk1261 2 года назад

Same too

@CapcutxAe 3 месяца назад

Sameee

@xyzoub 4 года назад

The problem arises when two people are trying to active-listen each other!

@anjali7778 4 года назад

so truee

@stephen9381 3 года назад

@Natalie Hebin it’s a beautiful feeling when that occurs

@goodbuy7556 3 года назад

Why is that a problem?

@nyalokriek1648 Год назад

1. Easy Question- Closed question (yes, no, number, usually a direct answer) 2. Open ended question- ( yes because who, what, how, when or no because who, what, how, when) 3. Keep following up with a mixture of open and closed ended questions depending on the tone. Practice with a friend, family members, colleagues and people!

@roger_1046 2 года назад

I’m currently studying the art of questioning. questioning is one of the most powerful sales tactics you could use to direct a conversation towards a sale!

@HellaBella 4 года назад

Love the advice of the WHAT or HOW questions. I never considered this, but it makes a lot of sense. I also get annoyed when people ask me WHY questions. It makes you feel like you have to explain yourself.

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

I'm glad it was helpful, Hella Bella.

@abdula1463 3 года назад

Are you marred ?

@jeremykrans 2 года назад

2 year late, but whatever. Why questions can be used in a way that works for you. You ask Why when you want the other person to defend you. An example would be "Why did you decide to go with our company?" Now they are going to defend the reasons your company was a good choice or maybe you're in an interview and can ask "Why would you hire someone with my experience?" and they'll go on to defend all the reasons someone like you would be great for the job.

@sakuranovaryan9261 Год назад

It's weird I really like why questions. I understand how it can seem attacking but to me it makes me think why I did something it take interesting turn in conversations

@onee 5 лет назад

This was interesting. In my motherland people typically start a conversation by asking "Where are you (originally) from?" Because a lot of people who live in the big cities where originally from somewhere else. Even if you say, "I'm originally from here" they usually want to know where your parents or grandparents where from.

@alexanderlyon 5 лет назад

Interesting. Great example. Thanks for sharing.

@sergeyyukhno9324 5 лет назад

Where are you from?

@user-jg3pl2gg1n 5 лет назад

@@sergeyyukhno9324 haha

@DapperDill 4 года назад

You’re a Russian aren’t you?

@MoonLight-og7gf 3 года назад

@@DapperDill i think he is a delhite

@tbooks2483 4 года назад

Holy cow.. The note you made on 'why' questions is so true/significant! I never realized what the subtle difference was, but I remember being in college and just hating the question, "So why [study] environmental science?" I'd get all weird and squirrelly every single time lol (which isn't like me). Framed with a what or how, I don't feel like I have to justify the field's importance as a whole (on top of my personal ambitions). We love you, Dr. Lyon!

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

Glad it was helpful, T Books.

@anthonyrossmaund3161 3 года назад

Thank you for taking time to teach us to communicate better. It means a lot to me that you do this stuff to help.

@m.c.martin 2 месяца назад

This is incredibly helpful for me especially since I’m an introvert and all I am used to asking are Yes or No questions. And no one ever told me how to ask an open ended question fire

@mary.artttt 2 года назад

Thank you so much! That was a very practical and straightforward advice. You really is a great coach! Someone who really know what he is talking about! I HOPE THIS CHANNEL GROWS EVEN MORE AND REACH A WIDER AUDIENCE. YOU DESERVE IT!

@frilink 3 года назад

Just finished reading "Never split the difference"....... it says pretty much says the same thing about avoiding the "why" question

@ajaychowdarykandula8697 Год назад

That was an excellent video. Conversation starters may be divided into conversations with an eye to eye focused physical conversations like at work or not present physically so as abstracting the body language part as the form of expressions or expressing can be a pivotal factor all the times that increases the effectiveness of asking question making the communications more efficient

@skionen1781 4 года назад

Excellent stuff, thanks for sharing

@sethdavenport706 7 лет назад

I love these video's! I am a one upper and I am terrible at communicating. The worst thing is, I don't even know I am doing it most of the time. I feel like I am communicating well but I am doing the exact opposite.

@alexanderlyon 7 лет назад

Hi, Seth. Thank you for the encouragement and I'm glad the videos are helping and I'm happy you found the channel! New skills take practice. Just keep at it and your awareness and skills will improve.

@shababalam9218 6 лет назад

And thanks for Video.

@rachaelliu6571 3 года назад

Thanks this is the content I was looking for

@xiaoquanguo7929 2 года назад

Very helpful, thank you

@amerejohnson2542 2 года назад

Simple vid, but I learned a lot. Thank you

@jahirfernando88 4 года назад

awesome conten this exacty that i was looking

@jpanin1 2 года назад

Very helpful video, I'm trying to improve my communication skills right now because big part of my job. Being a excellenet communicator is my goal. Do you have another video about, stress management and public speaking? I would love to be able to learn from it Thanks AGAIN.

@RandomVex 3 года назад

That was actually great

@koksionglim2023 3 года назад

Great content!

@JSMinstantcoaching 4 года назад

Very great content

@SachinPatil-yc8nl 6 лет назад

Amazing

@ravisith8710 4 года назад

Your video is very helpful to me and my students. Thank you so much. Please keep doing good work!

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

Glad to hear that, Ravi!

@akshayadchitre5014 Месяц назад

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@haroldriverofilms 2 года назад

I always learned something new you! Thank you for bringing up this topic.

@alexanderlyon 2 года назад

Glad it was helpful, Harold.

@vilmabock478 6 лет назад

Thanks. God bless you! 🍃

@alexanderlyon 6 лет назад

Hi Vilma. I saw this comment and the ones on the other videos. Thank you for the encouragement. I truly appreciate it. I've been working on this channel for almost two years and it is finally starting to grow more quickly. I'm glad more people will be learning these communication skills. And, can you tell from my videos that I'm a Christian? What gave it away? God bless.

@brunoouriques2049 4 года назад

@@alexanderlyon I think she saw the bible on the back. Nice video, helped me a lot!

@joshsands8691 3 года назад

Cant believe they dont teach us this in school

@SkylerTauntsrandomstuff 4 года назад

I often have trouble with conversations, and I found this very helpful. thanks. PS, I subscribed

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

Welcome aboard, Skyler. I'm glad the video was helpful.

@muhammadfahmiazhar8046 3 года назад

awesome content

@samc1746 6 лет назад

Thank you

@alexanderlyon 6 лет назад

You're welcome, Samantha. Happy the video helped.

@cherryblossom123ism 3 года назад

I learnt something today. Thank you!

@alexanderlyon 3 года назад

Glad it was helpful!

@Doll_Facee 4 года назад

Thanks this video helped me alot.

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

Glad to hear it.

@keepitsimple9595 7 месяцев назад

I don't know why youtube keep suggestions this to me I can talk conversation communicate on all any level

@arielnagar6556 5 лет назад

Someone on snapchat posted on her story: Ask me questions for my new youtube video! But the thing is, idk a lot about her, but at the same time, I do wanna ask a question because I am bored. But at the same time, idk if she is going to keep her questions anonymous, and if I ask a weird questions, my friend will see it and well... be weirded out

@anibalparra7999 5 лет назад

Anonymous Mouse DAMN

@shababalam9218 6 лет назад

Love your T-shirt

@alexanderlyon 6 лет назад

Thank you, Shabab. :-)

@happy-zeller 3 года назад

I am researching this

@shawnruby7011 6 лет назад

Literally the 2kth subscriber

@alexanderlyon 6 лет назад

Yes! Nice. I just noticed the channel reached 2k. Thanks for putting the channel over the top, Shawn. Last year this time, we were at only 200. :-)

@shawnruby7011 6 лет назад

Well congratulations, hopefully videos like this become more mainstream. There's been a steady democratization of intellect since the early 90's and it seems like the growth has been exponential but it seems to be growing only in certain cultures. I think RU-vid has been a good instrument in furthering the growth universally but sometimes I see trending videos and think otherwise :)

@alexanderlyon 6 лет назад

I hope we're all moving toward the advancement of helpful information and knowledge out there. I'm going to just keep doing my part and posting new stuff. Thanks again for joining this small but growing community. Feel free to leave any requests for topics you'd like to see on the channel and I'll see what I can do.

@Akira-rr6tc 3 года назад

I wish it came more naturally to me. I have to overthink the questions sometimes

@alexanderlyon 3 года назад

I usually try to have a few go-to questions "in my back pocket," as they say, before I have conversations. Before I meet somebody for coffee, for instance, I'll remind myself of what I could ask them about.

@user-ql5yo1xx3z 8 месяцев назад

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@christopherweathers5775 3 года назад

My girlfriend said that I Dont listen to her today. Additionally she said that I dont ask her questions. Additionally I asked compared to all her previous boyfriend she said Im the worst by far. Aftwerds she said never do this or that. Like every question I asked was just another answer to something I didn't take well. So how can I ask the right questions?

@OoleoleoleO 4 года назад

If Paul Rudd and the average white dad had a child

@alexanderlyon 4 года назад

I've heard Paul Rudd before. I've also heard Jason Bateman.

@t0nyc0nde 2 года назад

Average? I think he is VERY handsome, which makes his communication ability even stronger.

@alexanderlyon 7 лет назад

How do you get people talking?

@BryansEnglishClub 7 лет назад

Communication Skills Reacting and asking for elaboration. Wow, I'd love to hear more about that. Cool, tell me more. Amazing, how did you start that?

@joshuaf4361 4 года назад

Gun point

@eggzlover6138 4 года назад

Josh's Bloodynose I agree

@EduardoContrerasD 2 года назад

@@joshuaf4361 Actually a good point.

@simonflyboy 5 месяцев назад

💜

@joachim7 3 года назад

Easy Questions first .How and What as follow up

@rinaldskalvis5071 2 года назад

This is good in theory, but not in practice. Every time I ask someone the what or how questions, they still manage to make it as short as possible. Unless everyone who I've talked doesn't like me. Which is fair enough.

@saibaba1334 4 года назад

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@OTRBRANDON 3 года назад

What’s one way you help yourself by anticipating the future?

@jpanin1 2 года назад

Nevermind! I found it...

@zenanstarnes 4 года назад

Lmao Madagascar

@Montacap1 Год назад

Is it rude to over ask questions?

@alexanderlyon Год назад

Rude? No. But it is good to aim for a mutual back and forth in conversations. After you've asked the person a few questions, give them the opportunity to take the conversation where they'd like or you can add your own point of view. If you ask too many questions in a row, it can feel like a "rapid fire" situation.

@Montacap1 Год назад

@@alexanderlyon Thank You . I am working on this issue with my husband. It's a lot .

@saibaba1334 3 года назад

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