HOW TO BE & STAY CLASSY | The TRUE Meaning of Elegance & Class | Dominique Sachse 

Values and morals are always classy

My "be classy" rule - turn off your cell phone when you are socializing with others. Don't take calls during social lunches or visits. Be there for the person you are with.

Class and morals are so rare these days. We need this! I LOVE THIS! She is spot on!

"If you're not liking the friends that you're hanging around with, if you feel like the wrong guy is showing up all the time, if you feel like the doors are closing when it comes to career opportunities, might I ask you to look within? Instead of blaming what's out? Look to yourself and ask, "What am I doing to draw this?"...Is there something i can project...You are a magnet... Thank you for those words.

Love the term “it’s not my favorite” rather than I hate it! Great advice

May I add a ninth? Be a good listener. It has been my experience that people have lost the ability to really listen to each other. Close your mouth, and open your ears. To me, being classy also means being able to listen with compassion and empathy, which ties into your point about knowledge. When you employ a robust listening aptitude, there is no end to what you can learn.

Be punctual and prompt. I value my time and other peoples time.

In my opinion, one of the main signs of class is how you treat others, especially those of lower status than yourself. A woman who is rude to the wait staff shows a lack of class. So does a woman who treats people above her on the organizational chart well & those below her on the org chart as if they are beneath her notice. I strive to treat everyone with equal kindness & respect. It also shows class & respect to learn people’s names & use them.

I wish the entertainment industry would celebrate more class and less trash.

You have addressed one of my concerns. A woman can have a perfect posture, be beautifully dressed and coiffed, but if her language is vulgar none of the rest matters.

This is a absolutely a much needed video in this day and age. It’s sad that we’ve lost the romance and classiness of previous generations. Thank you for this

I’m watching this two years after the fact. And this is still current, accurate & relevant. I feel you said this on point and with lot of heart. Thanks

As the saying goes, money can't buy you class, but elegance can be learned.”

I was raised to be exactly the type of woman that you describe. The only thing that I would like to add to this is to be sure to not judge others harshly by these rules we never know what a person is going through. I am sure you already understand this but sometimes there can be beauty in imperfection. At the end of the day a good heart is the classiest thing of all. Thank you so much.

Thank you Dominique! I accidentally discovered you on RU-vid and absolutely love your videos and tutorials! I have one thing to add to your list on being classy: don't interrupt people and let them finish their sentence. That is so annoying to me when I'm constantly interrupted and never allowed to finish my sentence or thought. God have us two ears to listen more and only one mouth to speak! :)

"You are a magnet What you put out is what you are gonna get back in return" Omg, I'm gonna carry these words with me.

Proverbs 31 that's a classic woman!! God bless you all!😘

I think showing interest in another person and what they have to say shows class.

My be classy rule is : never chew food with the mouth open. Always look at the people when they talk to you. Never interrupt someone speaking.

My goodness! This video should be mandatory viewing for women of all ages. Thank you for telling us what we all need to hear!

My husband of 42 years said something profoundly beautiful about me, to me, earlier today. This video piggybacks on it and actually made me weep. As a child, I admired class, wanted it, and made it my goal. I continue to work on being all the beautiful things humans are capable of; however, I sometimes feel alone, one of the last surviving dinosaurs walking towards extinction. He reminded me that it is noticed, appreciated, and loved. You have made me realize I am not alone, but in good company. Thank you...

I agree with all that you said-I would add to not think so highly of ourselves that we make others feel inferior. If someone makes you feel better about yourself you probably just encountered a classy person.

I might add to watch the alcohol intake to your list. An occasional cocktail is fine but it is hard to be classy after over drinking. Just a thought. Just was in Houston and new to your channel.

Im horrible with cursing and being vulgar. I really strive to change this. Im starting today.

This should be in school/college curriculum! Love this!

I am 73 and have always felt that I was a gracious, happy and classy woman then, my husband died, I let things go, had some medical issues and am in a state of transition. I am so grateful for this video as it has hit home and made me aware that I need to make some major changes to become all of the woman that I have been and need to be again. Thank you Dominique, this was special.

Thank you for the very poignant suggestions. Two years ago I decided to give up swearing, as I realized it had begun to creep into my dialogue way more than I cared for. It really changed my life and made me much more aware of the content of my conversation. I sometimes think people go to the four-letter words too quickly because they really don’t have anything of value to say. NOT classy! Try it, gals. You’ll likeit!

I am not your regular demographic because I am a teen, but I found this video so helpful!

Well said! I think I have also learned over the years that another classy move is to not over speak, over state something just to be heard. A lot of times it serves us well to listen more, nod in acknowledgment, keep eye contact of course and speak carefully, wait a beat or two, don’t be too excited to contribute. Blurting out and bluntness are definitely not classy moves.

My Italian grandmother told me one thing when I was a teenager that has stuck with me my entire life and I still hold to what she taught me. "When you walk out your door, how you dress and conduct yourself in public is a direct reflection of the level of respect you have for those around you"

Dominique what a lovely video. Thanks for sharing this. It's definitely a topic that completely breaks my heart. My favorite memories of my grandfather are of him tipping his hat to women and of him standing whenever a woman entered the room. I raised three sons who thankfully learned well to seek out women who behave with class. I'm trying to instill class into my nine beautiful grandchildren. When they sleep over, we eat on china! I want them to know what it is to appreciate and care for expensive things. And to know that they're worth being respected enough that others value them, etc. Cheers for this wonderful message!

Thank you. I'm on a self improvement journey. I was injured at work a year ago December. My self esteem, among other things have deminished. I'm unable to work in the medical field I'm so used to taking care of others. I have felt lost, very lost. I'm happy to say I've started this New Year with a new me. I value and appreciate you and your knowledge. I'm enjoying waking up and have started an exercise routine within my physical limits. Eating better again. I'm taking care of me... Inside and out. You inspire me. Thank you again. You have made a positive difference in my life. I've needed you. Glad I found you on here.

Doing the very best you can with the resources available to you while also being the very best person you can be, regardless of your size, your personal situation or the balance in your bank account, is what classy is to me. Very little else really matters.

One of the best videos on RU-vid. Please don’t change your style of instruction for the disagreeable naysayers. Unfortunately, we now live in a day where everyone hates to be corrected or instructed on anything. They are offended, which is in itself unattractive. As a young woman looking to improve my style, I appreciate your tips. Thanks for your dignified presentation

Class on the outside starts with a good supportive bra. Having the girls lifted and contained makes a woman look younger, leaner and more professional.

I find all the tips important to know and act to them, but the most important part was the last message! Self-reflection is key to improving ourselfs and our lifes. I loved this video, Dominique!

Usually, I’m quick to respond to comments and chime in, but my husband and I are on vacation, so I’m making a conscious effort to back off of work a bit. I had a feeling this video would resonate and possibly stir it up, and I’m happy it has sparked dialogue, thought and reflection. It is a subject that has been on my mind lately, and I’m grateful we have this opportunity to discuss, agree or “agree to disagree.” More than anything, I just want us all to be the best version of ourselves, happy with it and proud of our efforts. Like I’ve always said, you’re an amazing community!

You are so right about us fixing ourselves on the inside instead of blaming others for our shortcomings. Be aware of yourself and be willing to step back and take a good hard look at the people around us and we may need to make some adjustments. I personally put God first and he helps me in all situations.

I'm 19 and really want to be a classy lady rather than "vulgar" like I see in the people around me... I just wish that there was a video that showed what it looks like and not just talked about it. Or like a school near me that could pin-point what I'm doing wrong.

Thank you for bringing back the class and the sophistication. I love it

Sitting here in my truck wearing my joggers and baggy sweatshirt, not having washed my face in two days, not having brushed my hair at all, with coffee spilled down the front of me, no socks, Ugg boots, having just dropped my daughter and her friend off at school and watching this video. Pretty sure I can do better than this and I appreciate the push.

Spot on. Like it or not, this is social reality. How we look, starting with good posture; our manners, most noticeably table manners; and our command of the English language are how we are reviewed and whether or not we get a second chance, have a door of opportunity open, and catch the eye of that certain someone.

When I think of class or being classy I think of one word “respect” for oneself and others, it’s that simple! Everything else can be attained. Great video Dominique. I agree with many here who have noted that you are a classy lady!

Her look itself is just pure Class

I think there is beauty in simplicity! I think it’s classy to also keep your life simple and devoid of clutter!

I am a 36 year old mom of 4 kids ages 10 and under. 2 of my sons are autistic so sometimes I'm just tired. Your videos always serve as an encouragement for me to not get too tired to stay on top of looking and being my best. I appreciate that. Thank you. 😊

It is so refreshing to see Dominique sharing her ideas on grace and class. Thank you, Dominique.

This is so refreshing! I'm loving that these amazing ladies are stepping up and speaking up! Class rules!!

I loved every single point you made. As a millennial myself I completely agree about what you said. A society cannot function at its highest ideals unless we communicate and show respect to each other in ways that bring out the highest in ourselves and others.

Preach Dom! We do need to keep it classy. If I were to add one it would be "put the phone down and talk to people around you". Thank you for the videos! Love them!

This video never goes out of date. I love watching this video and I especially like what you say about looking within. I have been fortunate in drawing few classy friends who really project goodness. Never gossips and always open to feedback and I think that speaks volumes when it comes to class.

I watch this from time to time as reference--- it's like having a treasured 1/2 hour with a "big sister' sharing her wisdom. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you breaking form and putting your own opinion out there---I really value your viewpoint. You've made a lot out of your life with the choices you've made.

I’m not sure how people took this video so wrong. It’s about a total package and appearance is actually very important. It shows that you value yourself. People initially are drawn to someone from the presentation and are then more willing or not to get to know the individual. She discusses the inside part very well.

Very Well Said!!! I am an older woman who has seen such change in our society. And it's not in a positive way. So sad. Thank you for this posting.

Thank you so very much for your videos and all you do to help educate us and help us to improve. I married young and have fallen below my own high standards, losing myself and forgetting how to speak and eat in public. I'm 61 and on my own self-improvement mission.

Thank you, thank you Dominique! You have reiterated my own personal beliefs and what my mother taught me on what is class (though I may have resented her control at the time). I especially agree that they way we carry ourselves, enter a room, say please and thank you and use other manners and etiquette are the keys to being a successful woman who leads in our homes, careers and lives. Like you, doors have opened by this awareness. Exude that inner joy and see how contagious it is!

I believe a classy woman is one who gives herself grace. So often we are our own worst critic. We should explore our inner passions and pursuits.. things that make us feel confident and embolden us to try new things and take risks while staying true to our inner character and core values. Just wanted to share my take in the dialogue.

I've watched this twice and had to comment again. This should be required information starting in elementary school!! Thanks again Dominique.

I’m so inspired and I really believe in your voice. I’m very critical. I love what you have to say and I feel that you are real and blessed. I’m taking all your videos in and also applying them to my life and children. Your mom should start a page. She has the gift! We need this type of community and leadership. RU-vid is an amazing platform to share! You have truly inspired me! Thanks for being you!

I just came across this video and loved it. This is exactly the way my father raised me and it has served me well in my life. Thank you for bringing the subject into peoples awareness. We need more class in this society.

From a mother and educator of high school students, I want to thank you for your insight. I found myself shaking my head in agreement as you spoke. I don't know how many times I have given this same speech to so many students, especially during prom season and upon graduations. Many young ladies do not understand the importance of being classy and how it will make a positive impact in their lives. Sadly, they have never been exposed to positive behavior, thus their behavior emulates what they have seen and been taught. As a mother of a son, we also need to teach our young men how to be gentlemen (another video)! Again, thank you for being a positive role model to young women, and reminding us ALL what classy really is!

AMEN, and again I say AMEN!!! You are so on point with this video. In addition to all, you said I also think being someone that lives a life filled with love, and compassion towards others is key! It's just so sad that the society we live in is as selfish as it is!

Like your suggestions about keeping it classy. These are simple step to follow. For me, I need to work on my posture so I will definitely keep this in mind. With regards to behavior, I think it is also so important to be kind to people. My mother would say, “Kindness is free” It is true and I think when we make others feel good, we feel good too. Thank you Dominique.

I love that you mentioned thank you notes. I was taught to write them, I taught my daughter to write them. As a matter of fact, when it came to presents, we couldn’t use or play with it until the note was written. The thing about a thank you note is, you can’t go wrong. When in doubt, write one anyway. No one will criticize you for writing one.

May I add that it is classy to not be slovenly in public places by leaving mess and litter. I used to clean in a big marina and noticed that people can have the clothes, the boat, the money but if they then throw litter, or don't flush the toilet or leave hair or tissues covered in make-up on the sink etc., it is difficult to respect those people.

Take care of yourselves ladies. Taking pride in your appearance is such an esteem booster.

I just love everything about you and this video is one of my favorite. Everything you say is true and these days it's hard to find class. I just love it when I come across a classy lady. There is a special aura around it. Thank you for being here for us...greetings from Slovenia. Love, Natasha

Class is something my grandmother taught me. It was so refreashing to hear your view points on CLASS. Class does more than we can even know or ever determine what it can do for us.

Leaving a legacy of grace has always been important to me and I have encouraged my daughter to strive for grace and dignity also. The question, "How will I be remembered" keeps me centered. Thanks for addressing this topic!

I'm so glad to watch a video like this. I'm Asian and we are taught self control, honour and respect for one's self, which projects forth good upbringing. We automatically treat others the way we treat ourselves. Good manners and etiquette is everything! Please make a series of videos like this one for the young who have not been privileged to have parents to impart proper social behaviour. Thank you ❤️

You’re definitely right, bring back classy!

Thanks for your videos Dominique. I'm turning 50 this year and have noticed that I've let myself go over the last few years. This is a great video for reminding me how to be classy again. Thanks for sharing!

When I think of a woman with class, I automatically think of my grandmother. She was the epitome of elegance and class in every way. She was someone I always looked up to and admired for so many reasons.....And on top of all that, she was the sweetest, most loving grandmother in the whole world (to me, anyway!). I was very blessed to have her in my life as long as I did. She died four years ago, on Dec. 11th, at the age of 96. I miss her so much. ♥

I am so glad you didn't keep this video to the "superficial" stuff (as in "on the surface"), but added that knowledge, reasoning and logic Are classy! I would add that knowledge isn't only classy and useful in a conversation, but it makes us true and fulfilled human beings!

Thank you! You are sooo right. Exterior class is a luxury that I can’t live without. It’s almost reassuring! As for the inside part, I always « breathe » and focus on the person I really am, before going out into the world. Staying connected to my true self - that I learn to love more everyday- is my key to being classy « inside » and people notice it « outside ».

Sound advice Dominique, I have been following your stream for about 3months and appreciate your class, elegance and beauty tips as well as the much needed and neglected self care suggestions. Keep doing what you're doing because you do it well, thank you, Tucson. AZ fan

As a woman, nearly 50, I am choosing to embrace my place as an older woman and taking the role of encourager. I think classy women build others up. In conversation, they take interest in others and then find something positive to complement, especially in younger women.

Adore you! I am a Grandma now but when I was a young girl my mom would have us write a thank you note immediately after receiving a gift, she would say do not eat it, use it or spend it before you write a thank you note! My daughter is now 30 and I have passed on this to her! My friends have often have complimented me "about her raising"..... after receiving notes from her! Merry Christmas !!

It's October 2019 and I'm watching this video again, just to relax! I love it.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Thank you for this video! I showed it to my 11 year old daughter as I have talked to her about some of these ways, like writing ‘Thank you’ notes to her teachers, having good posture, eating slowly, learning a new language, being assertive in a mindful and respectful way etc...

I wish I could post a photo of me from a few years ago and a photo of me now. 3 years ago I had no knowledge of anything, I was a drug attict, and even though I held down a job and kept composure I did not take care of myself. I stopped doing my drug of choice and become obsessed with skin care and makeup. I have been studying and researching it for 3 years. I haven't gone to school for it yet but I plan on it next year. My outer appearance has improved immensely! I'm still working on my inner, thank you for this video. I am going to take your advice and make some BIG changes!

So true, everything you said shows class. I have been living in Spain for a few years, and it didn't take me long to notice how the Spanish ladies dress, very neutral colours, matching bag and shoes, and if a splash of colour, then a red bag or red shoes. Italians, French, and Spanish just have such a simplistic style. Also being proud of yourself and feeling good about who you are, and believing in yourself, just speaks volumes and gets you noticed. Alot of women do not thing well of themselves enough. And as well as all you've mentioned, being kind to others, being selfless and having a caring nature is also very classy in a lady, a quality that is not seen as much these days in our busy lives. Thank you for a great video 😄

You are speaking the truth in everything you have just said. My Mother always told her children “Be careful what you put out into the universe because it will come back too you. Make sure you don’t mind seeing it again”. And “Your first impression might be the only one you. Get to show yourself so make it your best”

Thank you for this! I remember when I was a teenager and I would dress like a classy lady, everyone made fun of me. I was just wearing a maxi skirt and I was taunted. Because I cared so much about what people think, I have been dressing so boyishly since then. // Now at 27 I realized I have to go back to who I was. I believe it's not too late. Since my Level Up, I couldn't believe I used to wear Jordans! Lol what was I thinking

Would Love you to have 8 tips to keeping it classy for men too

In the UK we used to be sticklers for good manners, but that doesn’t seem so prevalent these days which is a great shame. I especially loathe bad table manners, particularly chewing with open mouths, stretching across others, leaving the table before everyone has finished or not thanking the cook! Well done Dominique for highlighting this important area of our make up. We can be as poor as church mice but still be a lady!

I so appreciate this video, Dominique. I grew up in a home where nothing less than ladies and gentleman would be tolerated. “You only get to make a first impression once” is my mother’s favorite tidbit. It is so true. You do only get to make that first impression once. So, why not let it be a great one and build from there instead of starting at less than you can be. My mother went to finishing school, good behavior and knowledge of acceptable social decorum have always been important to her. She had my siblings and I take etiquette lessons. I thought it was ridiculous as a kid, but there is so much confidence that comes with knowing how to behave. I’m now so thankful that she instilled in us those invaluable traits. Now having three children of my own, we watch etiquette videos on RU-vid all the time. It’s so important to show strong character by having even just basic class and tact. Love your videos!

Thank you Dominique for another wonderful video. Thank you for the really helpful tips. I agree with all👍. I am a Chinese and my dad brought me up with so many rules, such as slow eating, no noise when eating, do not cross you leg in front of older generations,good posture, work hard, study hard and be humble . Unfortunately he passed away when I was 12. He was always proud of me being the top student in my class and in a school. His tips really helped me in my whole life. Even now as 53, I still use his rules to help our son to grow up. When I was 32, I was living in China, I decided to learn English--self taught. The word got me to know that there is tense difference in English was left😃. At the time, I knew left as left side, left hand but did not know left is past tense of leave. I took my opportunity to be promoted so many times through my career in China and in UK and I am pleased to say as age 53, I will get my MSc degree in 2 months time if I pass my dissertation. So many ways to be classy. We are living in a vast, variety world, be yourself and be a useful person to this society, be responsible, and do not leave any regret of your life. I total agree with you Dominique , do not complain about missing opportunities or because of your colour, look yourself what you can give, what you can offer to others and the society as a whole. As a foreigner in uk, I have heard so many other nationalities saying job promotion was not fair but I, myself proved it is fair because I have been promoted a couple of times within 17 years working in UK as a foreigner. It dose not matter where You come from and I have yellow skin but not white😀. It is your behaviour and you contribution to the job to the society to the country matters.

I do online dating. I've been at it for years now trying to find the right one. I refuse to compromise on what I feel is important in a relationship. One thing that I make sure any guy knows right up front is that intimacy won't happen immediately with me. I need to get to know you, we need to be friends first. Always. So I'll keep it classy in the meantime, because I know that the right one for me is out there and he agrees with my views on this important subject!

What a fabulous lesson. So many younger ladies were never taught the basic “social graces” . I LOVED THIS. THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU!

People have always find me a classy woman. I never understood why, but now I see that few people can have a decent conversation with manners, say thank you or sorry, have manners at the table, dress properly even for small things. For me all this was normal because my mother tought me well, and now I see why others consider me classy, but you know, It should be something that everything hhing should do because these are basic manners!

I just revisited this video! Yes yes yes! Not only the part about dressing minimalistic , well pressed clothing that fit but also hand written notes of thank you , gratitude , thinking about you or even sympathy notes! It truly is a dying art. I too appreciate a handwritten note ..it makes me feel I was important enough that person w/me in mind sat down took their time to write to me! And the “potty mouth” I cringe at the language the younger generation uses! And as far as table manners...where have they gone?? You are so amazing and touch on SO MANY topics that seem to have been forgotten! Thank you for always being a sophisticated and beautiful woman! You are an amazing example and are truly inspiring ❣️

My Mum loves you and kept talking about how I need to watch this video. I can now see why you are such an inspiration to her. I loved this video, every single point you made was straight to the point and extremely helpful. I am really going to start focusing on the way I present myself. Thank you for being such an inspiration to my Mum and now me :) xx

There's a lack of etiquette in America today. I'm a big fan of Emily Post. My mother always told me first impressions are the one you will remember. I would love to see an etiquette video.

Beautiful lady inside and out ! Thank you for taking the time to provide these valuable life lessons. You are a true power of example. ❤️

Classy women are kind. If we all make an effort to say or do something kind every day, our society would be better. An act of kindness has a rippling effect.

You are a genuine Lady , I'm sure it runs in the family ! One can't " buy" class in a store ...

I just adore you and I think that is why I subscribe to your channel. I agree 100% with everything you said. My grandmother was classy, my mom was classy and I was raised to be classy. I really believe that because I was raised to be classy it has opened so many doors for me. I am so grateful to my parents for showing me the way and I also love to be around classy people. You emulate class and I always look forward to what you have to share. It is so very refreshing. Be blessed!

I am very happy to come across this video. Although I was born in 80s, there is an “old” soul living inside of me. I have always admired 30-50s women’s glamour and class. The way they carried themselves; Proper English they spoke; Classy outfits they wore. The list can go on. This video serves as a reminder that being classy is timeless. It might be a rarity nowadays but it never goes out of style.

You are definitely an epitome of class n grace. 👌