When he said “ some of yall was raised by a worry wart, so everybody you meet you think they wanna chop you up and put you in their freezer” I hollered 😂😂😂😂😂
For the single ladies this is great advice, I conducted myself in this same manner and my now fiancé said he appreciated the fact that I let him handle things yet he knew I had my own. Know your worth ladies and don't buy into what society says we should do.
Father God I ask that you protect this Man , his mind as he continue to give us wisdom that we need . This generation NEEDS to hear this , you hear meeee! Satan is mad because he don’t want us to know this information , buttt God in your name I pray Amen🙏🏾
I appreciate yall for realizing this early on💯💯 keep educating yourself and surround yourself with ppl who are on your level. Be different from the crowd. The crowd is crowded for a reason and misleading one another
All the single ladies, including myself, as well as single men, let's M.I.U.M!!!!! (MAKE IT UNTIL MARRIAGE! = Abstinent until marriage! Last month marked my 6th yr of being abstinent! 😊
@@MichElle-py8lk While some are being sarcastic, God knows my heart & will honor my sacrifice. I shared my journey to inspire others. People give the award, God gives the reward.
Beulah4ever Honey, don’t be upset with someone trying to do right & get it right. Why don’t you take a page out of her book? She is winning along with countless other women. How is your way of doing it working out for you? See when you do it the right way, it is rewarding. I have lived my entire life this way, waiting till marriage. My medals are: no stds, no unwanted pregnancies, no abortions, a husband who adored me, children whom I knew who their father was, without wandering, not worrying about if he is cheating, or really loves me, & true happiness to name a few. Instead of bashing this lady, learn from her. Allow her to motivate you to do the same & get a good husband. Don’t put a sister down. Remember the message was from a real man,she happens to be a great example, like me.😎
This is so true a guy was texting after the third day I’m like is it a reason you can’t call me. He said yes I’m in a situation. After he told me the situation ( He live with a Woman) I stop reply and blocked him.
Michelle Lucius 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 instant BLOCK ...... that and “I live with my baby mama for the kids “ or “Sweetie we not together but you mine “ BBBLLLOOOCCCCKKKKKEEEDDDTTTT 😂
This my 5th time watching this I gotta get it rite 😂 Update : still watching this video in 2021 trying this again before I get out there wish me look 😂
This is the most important video you have ever posted, in my opinion. Step by step for the clueless and curious. It's definitely not a 1 or 2 time watch...it's a study and perfect type of lesson
I'm going to save this video for when I start dating again and i'm going follow your every step. When I get married I'm inviting you to my wedding Tony 😅 Be blessed 🙏🏾
I dated a guy and within 2 months he asked me to be his gf. I could not be his gf because he did not have his own home.. I found out he was sleeping house to house couch to couch. Bye!!
I had the same scenario 🤣😂, on the third date that I’ve taken him for his bday, he asked to be his gf, ended up stuck with a ‘recovering’ addict in &out of sober homes, driving him around from a place to a place, doc app, spending money and energy on him because I felt sorry for him. What a waste of precious time:(
@@naram8282 wow My ex boyfriend would go to work everyday. Every time I would ask him about going out on a date. He would play broke . But he had the Audacity to ask me for sex I told him to keep it moving and Goodbye 👋🏾
This is bulletproof! Any person dating like this would never be underappreciated or lied to. The grown boys would not have space to do their misdeeds, they would be dropped very early on!
Whew chile! He pops that tongue and gets to going and I fall out every time. I have to rewind to actually listen to what he has said because the voice takes me out every single time.
Gave a guy my number and he was texting me 01:30 in the morning calling me honey and baby....That was a no from me...😣..Hes number was lost in a heart beat...
My mom and dad said this is the way it was during their times in the 50s and 60s. They didn't understand this dating one-person thing. During their time they didn't have sex, they called it "courting" and you could court whomever you wanted until you decided to marry. When I was dating I would tell guys this and they immediately want to call me a hoe because in their head they are thinking about having sex when dating is just apart of getting to know someone. In getting to know someone, sex is not a requirement.
I know people like that personally. Buying the chick a larger wedding ring within the 1st year, then throwing the upgrade ring 💍 in other women’s faces only to get a divorce a few years later.
“This is a red flag if you meet a man and in the beginning all he’s doing is texting you” This is so correct and it’s my pet peeve...we’re grown, why text all day.
The roles have drastically switched these days....Women are now the hunters/pursuers, and some if not most men are okay with this change in pace. It's never a woman's place to pursue a man, no matter what the circumstances may be. Women are only to be in position to receive their King, emphasis on KING!
@Denetria Wright I agree Ms. Wright, we are attracted to each other physically for the most part, so this can easily put a woman in the position as the pursuer. Sadly there are some gorgeous people in this world but lack substance as well.
@@fah232 Sadly F A H it's becoming a custom or normality in today's society where women are agressive in their approach and have no problem being the pursuer. I do feel that this behavior can establish an expectation for some men where they may see the woman as being easy to sleep with. That's not the tone we need to set here. Women are Queens but not every woman acknowledge her royalty.
Also I’d like to add do not drink anywhere with this person you are dating for at least 6-8 months in especially if you are celibate or abstinent. It can alter your decisions
This is true but I’d like your opinion cuz I JUST had this conversation yesterday with a friend. She is dating a guy and wants to see him when he’s drinking/drunk so she can see how he behaves. Is he aggressive, mean, nasty, perverted, etc. What do you think about that perspective?
I had someone offer to cook me dinner and bring the wine. Df!! No sir, no thank! My coworker told me I was crazy for not accepting. But I barely drink as it is, I'm cleaning up my body, and I definitely will not drink with a man I'm getting to know. No! Stand on that!🙌
@@Denise_Cocoa that is interesting but can be dangerous? But I know some people drink on dates maybe one or two, but some people can hold their liquor well so it may require more. This is a hard one! I would say email tony with it. Hopefully we get an answer! Because I've dated a man who was an alcoholic and I had no clue until it was too late smh
My head is killing me from all the laughing 😂🤣. Your straight face humour in this is too much! Honestly, great tips and I’m saving this video for when the time comes 🙏🏽.
I thought I was the only one who was laughing so hard at his straight face humour ! But indeed great tips. It will separate the grown boys from potential husbands.
When my husband finds me, I want Tony at the wedding. 💒 I’ve learned more from him in the few months of watching his videos than from my own father in the 10 years, he’s been home from prison. It’s never too late to get it right. I didn’t have the proper guidance but God sent us Tony. for the women that wanna do right but weren’t taking the right steps. I’m excited for the new chapter I’m starting. no more giving in.
Where was this video when I was in my early twenties?! 😭😭😭 I was told to save myself until marriage, but that's it. I wasn't given all this information, no red flags, no step-by-step instructions, not even clear boundary lines. Nothing. Just "no sex until marriage". I can't even begin to explain how necessary this video is! Thank you Tony Gaskins. You've made me feel much more capable of dating correctly with just this video. God continue to bless you!
I got married at 30 and divorced at 40. If only I had access to this kind of advice before I got married. 100% of Tony’s advice in this video is true. I violated almost all of those things he forewarns here, and my exhusband did everything Tony forewarns of a selfish, shady man when I was dating him. Now looking to live the rest of my life with “me” at the forefront, not some stinking man. He needs to prove himself in every way the next time around 😂
Dating wrong my whole life I’ve paid for meals, supported a man allowed cheating and disrespect. Now I’ve been alone for 5 months and it’s the best time ever I’m learning more than I’ve ever learned . Can you do videos on women dating with kids
I appreciate me some Tony Gaskins!!! He keeps it so real. He's like having a great guy friend who won't stir you wrong. He really looks out for women, we need to have support from a Christian man who tells his faults as a player but how he's changed his life around for the better. I love how he loves and incorporates his love for his wife in his videos. He paints pictures for me. Can't wait to get their book together or hear from her. She sounds like a strong woman. His messages are for free, that's priceless.
@@p_tiffanii I will have to check Pastor Blakes out. Thank you for your recommendation. He reminds me of Chico Bean, the comedian, as far as his physical attributes.
The next guy I meet I hope he doesn’t like dating like that cause we’ll have that in common. I’m so tired of running into men claiming “ We don’t have to do anything” then going Ghost just because I’m keeping my Legs closed🙄🙄 Dating is so annoying nowadays
Dating is so frustrating and a lot of it comes from dishonesty--- people unwilling to be upfront or hiding their true intentions... I've only just turned 30 this year and I'm already disheartened 😔.
This is probably the best video that I've ever heard regarding dating, Tony. I learned a lot and I appreciate it. It all makes sense to me...kind of strict. I live a strict life so that's saying something!!
From the mouth of Tupac: “If a man knows you’ll do anything for him, then he will RUN you.” “Ladies, you have ALL the power. Stand your ground and hold tight to your principles.” “You LEAD him...or you LEAVE him!” In other words...Push for what you want from a man, or you let him go!
I had to PAUSE this video. THANK YOU, THANK YOU. For telling women to stop being FAST!!! All the fast women out here, you ladies are really making it hard for women who value their bodies. I had to get rid of a guy because all he kept talking about was sex, sex. We spoke 4 times on the phone and went out once for dinner and drinks. I never place myself in any situation that I know will lead to sex. No I'm not coming to your place and no you will not be at my front door. This idiot realize nothing was going to happen, so one day he sent me a long text message stating. "I know you want a relationship but I don't".. Excuse me I didn't stay anything about a relationship," All I said was I'm not giving you my body and I just met you." End of the story, he ghosted me because his intentions was just sex, he said he needed it and he likes to have sex all the time. I really dodge a bullet. I guess there is plenty of women out here that would give their body up on the same day.
@@ecclairmayo4153 ..yep and now I'm getting married next week. My soon to be husband is 18 years older then me and he treats me like a Empress. My life is filled with happiness. Just wait for the right one ladies. After two years of dating and my time being wasted, I'm walking down the aisle.
I watched this video after talking to a guy for a few weeks and not being sure of where we were going...and literally the very next day, I used all the tips in the video to confidently have the big talk with the guy..... found out he was only looking for FWB, not a relationship! I had no idea of that before and he'dnever told me, because we'd never talked about it! We were going on nice dates, but never really talking and learning each other. Glad I watched this and was able to apply the tips, and save my time/emotions for someone serious.... it hurts ALOT! Because I really liked this guy, but I would've been more hurt if I'd given him the kitty and found out later he was playing me. I will use this video to guide me in the future!
OMG!!!! This was soooooo informative for women & men of ALL AGES! I'm a 51yr old black woman who's very old fashioned! I agree 100% with what you've explained brother Tony. Women pleeeeease listen to this man, he's speaking the whole truth & nothing but the truth! Men take note on dating & courting, there's a difference. I'm so old school I still use blue magic grease & sulfur 8 grease! 😂😂😂 God bless you brother Tony. This message really blessed me.
He should teach this in the church's to the young ladies or the church should get the lesson and start teaching them. We need to do things God's way again.
It makes me sad that I made so many mistakes in the past but I was desperate just wanting to be loved and he played the exact games you mention 😢. Thank You Tony for your Honest approach….I can take it and I will use the knowledge!
Seems like this is going to be an informative video. I just turned 22 never had a Bf yet. Just taking notes and getting my personal life together. Waiting until the time is right in my life to be in a relationship. I don't want to give my time to the wrong man.
Brains, Brand and Body. All 3 MUST be in order. Tony...say it again...Looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him, looking like the back of a 67 Chevy, broke, busted and disgusted. Tony said, The meat leg ready to dip it in Aquafina...lol... No singing in the microphone, no eating peach cobbler, no stroking and poking...You hear me. TONY G...love it Listen, Tony, I would pay my part of the check and he'll pay his. I would not pay one red, blue, green or black cent of his. Then he'd get BLOCKED as I'm sitting at the table..YOU HEAR ME! (in my Tony G voice) Next, no job, no car, no place, no way. We NOT EVEN talking for a second let alone 30, 60 or 90. days. Most important STOP! giving these "males" husband privileges to prove you're a wife. You are already a WIFE! Ladies, try this because what you're doing ain't working. Try something new and watch what happens. JS...
@@lyndapeoples8127 .I think it's a mindset . As a result, you carry yourself as such. However, you are correct. You have to be more than female to be a wife. Just as you have to be more than female to be a lady, a queen and classy etc. Men have to be more than male to be a husband, a king and the head etc. We do have THOTS and MHOTS, Jezebels and JezeMALES. They all have a different mindset...lol
Thank you Tony ,my dad never had talks with me. I been in alot of bad relationships and currently in an engagement that I'm really trying to make sure he is the right one. You are like the father/ big brother I wish I had. I just turned 31 and now just learning
I love your “gaskinisms” like “loose booty ways” or hot like Caesar’s” “look like the back of a 67 Chevy” “Dip that stick in aguafina” “no singing on the microphone or eating the peach cobbler🤣😝😝🤣😂. Tony you are the BEST! Love your channel.
I learned in my early twenties to not let a man buy me a drink. I did a few times while out with friend’s. Anyway, an eight dollar drink isn’t an investment in my time. It doesn’t give anyone the go ahead to follow anyone around and etc. I started being upfront and would let them know if you buy me a drink, do it because you want to, but don’t expect anything. I would get a drink and be left alone. Setting boundaries and being upfront is a must! Tony knows what he’s talking about. I wish that I could have known a lot of this stuff as soon as I turned 18 to avoid a lot of nonsense. Thank you and be blessed!
Im 19 so i definitely fall under the extenuating circumstance😂 im young so i think the first half of the video can pertain to me and im also taking notes for the last half as i get older
I Uber everywhere when going on dates. These ppl could be crazy. I don’t need anyone popping up at my house when things go bad. So far so good glad i stop letting ppl know where i live
TiffanyB TV that’s a good idea cause I’ve dated people who have access to systems so if they saw my car tag they can figure out where you live . Crazy yes
My last date I offered and he was like a “I’m a man, I’ll take care of it “ it happens all the time, I love it just seeing their little manly side/chest poke out 😂😂 I usually offer just for that feeling. I just like “umma man type men
Be blessed .. Coach this is how I've always felt....there are ALOT of grown boys in my area that are looking for help it's so incredibly frustrating.....I'm praying this is my season for Boaz to show up
I found you tonight and you are one of the best 😂😂😂, I’m abstinent for the past yr and your advice just made me feel stronger and more confident in what I’m doing. Thank you from France 🇫🇷
Very good advice especially pointing out how the Me Too Movement has affected the good men out there. The part about getting home safe....God know Im home safe 🤣😂🤣😂
I’m trying to date correctly these days. But 30 days is a bit too soon for me, I need at least 3 months before I want to committ. Or I at least need to see him mad and how he handles conflict
Y’all so vicious in these comments Uncle Tony know to set y’all straight off rip 😂💀 mid video he putting y’all in y’all place.... & those women voices be having me on the floor. 💀💀💀💀 cause soon as he said what he said, I’m like watch someone in the comments, then BOOM 💥 the woman voice came. I am literally hollering.
