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I’m really struggling with 😢my break up. I love my family so much but my ex said she fell out of love with me. We have 3 young kids together. I hope one day we can be a family again. We have broke up before like this and we managed to get back. We spent 13 years together 😢. Pray for me guys
Stay patient brother, it’s been 4 years since I seen my children when my ex wife fell out of love but I’m here to tell you that’s it’s a patient game and the first few years will be hard but after a while you will be okay with this, and that this is a common situation that happens to men on a regular basis. Be patient my brother there is light in the end ❤
I have full custody of my daughter no courts involved… I’m not on child support. I let her come see the baby two days a week which we both agreed on…. After we agreed that I cut her off. And moved on she communicates with my mother. When it comes to our child. If it isn’t about our daughter, I could care less about what she’s doing that’s what happens when you truly find peace
Thank you so much, you helped me so much. I'm going through exactly what you're talking about. I feel 1000 time better knowing I could /should do this.
10 years into a court-ordered schedule and shared parenting agreement, it means nothing if the other parent is bent on abusing you. They will take every opportunity to go against your agreement and terrorize you. You cannot co-parent with an abuser. Full stop.
I work 70 hours a week minimum. While at work I saw posts of my wife and another man out having dates. Unless it’s about the child then she doesn’t need to talk to you and you don’t need to talk to her.
It’s easy, she won’t let me see my son anyway. She fled the state and I have no clue where they are. It is what it is, focused on the bounce back. Already been through the bullshit and emotional work
I pray for you my brother. I went through that for 6 months and slept in my car while I got back on my feet and prepared to find my kids through mistakes my ex made like never being the parent who makes the kids game accounts she logged into the account and I got a notification with an IP address. Stay up my brother all things that are good will come together when it’s time I hope you get through it a better man
we have a dog together like our kid we also have a grown up kid. i just keep it cool , no asking her back. no begging no doing her favors , act like im ready to move on.
Just decided to go no contact with a child involved. Hardest thing ive ever done, but there's no other way at this point. She was setting me up for child endagerment because i was enforcing boundaries.
Glad u made a video bout this because i'ma going through this now only time i talk to him if they baby need something that's it wish it was different but life goes on
I have a daughter aged 1 I’ve been out out on the street by her mum she no longer wants to be in a relationship but she’s very narcissistic towards me like she’s doesn’t care one bit that I have no one else to help me out I don’t speak to my family and I have no where to stay, I just feel sick and suicidal it’s very hard to see my daughter atm, I have to now work my fking ass off while I feel like this to get myself somewhere to live I don’t know if I’ll be able to carry on but I love my daughter to death and do not want her to be without a dad like I was growing up , I hope all the other people struggling here find peace and be okay hopefully I can too
This video makes me unhappy and about a break up, but I’m not ready to get a guy. His name is Andrew. He broke my heart two days ago before and I don’t like that. Thank you for helping me. This video is helping me and I like that now because it helps me because I don’t like anyone hurts my feelings and I don’t like that. Thanks for helping me about this video. I love that.❤ ❤❤❤😊
I'm going through this right now, you've gave me a better understanding of my situation, she wants no contact. Obviously I'm still in love with her but it's got to be about the kids. Thanks
My ex is constantly driven towards drama, toxic behavior. We entered no contact, and today she tried to keep my son from me. Something she’s done in the past, it led to me almost fighting her neighbor after she put hands on me as always than put on the “help me” act when it was convenient for her.
I am going through a break up, i believe is the 3 week, i am doing the NO rule, the way things end up got me by surprise, i really want to stay away for good from that person, we have a daughter together, so i am using other channels to stay in contact with child...it is been tough, but i am focus more in me than never before...thanks for tips coach Blac...
currently going threw this right now… had to leave the house because the disrespect and her patterns have changed way to much for me.. wish things could be different but if not im ready to let it go
I'm dealing with this now this is so straining he made me into a spectacle more then a girlfriend or potential wife.… being made fun of constantly some times I feel as though there really is no help when it comes to toxic relationships & you got children by a person with no heart to truly care or love
When there 40 something now, No contact but I no longer want to go to Christmas at my daughters house. I don't even get a birthday text from my son's anymore. I used to get birthday cards. No contact With 2 Grandkids out of state. I din't know them tho I have texted and when I call they are too busy. I feel lost and broken.
That is the scenario I am in. This can help me. Should I just set up a time to pick up my kids the next time she calls or do I have to work up to that. We are recently separated and this is her choice not mine
Man my ex constantly showed me she was interested in other people through 6 years and 2 kids and I kept forgiving her it started with small things and everytime I found something it got worst. If I would have trusted my gut earlier in the relationship I probably would have no been so fucked up from all the gas lighting and lying. I like to think I’m a decent man not perfect I can emotionally be shut off when I’m stressed and I give to much leeway for people I’m serious about because I want to work with them and figure it out but it’s difficult to find the person who knows you in those ways you need them .
What happens if your wife moves out(infidelity) and doesn’t have a car? She wants to spend time with your child and needs that car ride from you for events and the days out with your child? She just moved out last month. Still sends me bread crumb messages about her phone and trivial things asking for help from me. Really don’t want to communicate but can’t be an arsehole either. Our child is with me and I am happy to be raising her so have to find a fine balance. Thanks for the videos.
Yeah man I don't drive my baby momma no where she's in same situation IDC it's a privilege let her figured it out single handedly if she can't walk or take care of her kid she doesn't need them.
I'm going through this shit aswelll now. She has already starting dating others, and I just want her to be gone of my life and forget her. But it's impossible, we have two children...
Move away and do the best for the kids. Have them visit every 6 to 8 weeks for a week and keep them involved in video call routine. Let her deal with them as primary custodial and start a new fulfilling life. Or take the kids as primary and move away you have to get away when your the one that has no choice and wants them
The mother of my child tells me everyday she don’t wanna be with me , And i fight everyday on if i should keep being the only one trynna fix things or put myself first . I’m a first time dad so the thought of not waking up next to my son (he’s 3) or knowing another man is around him and not knowing how he treats him? just the thought of it kills me kinda stuck and don’t know what to do
Damn sorry to hear that. Bro, looks like we're all going through similar situations. I'm literally in a similar situation. The best advice is to talk about coparenting and / or couple therapy if that don't work then just block all contact and focus on rebuilding yourself brother that's the only solution of course your child is most important but you have to do this for u .And if later on she come to realization she wasn't over u then who knows
He doesn’t want to contact me about the kids he contacts the maid or his mom talks to me if he wants to pick up the kids … he cheated on me and treating me as hell
What if she can’t afford to pay bills on her own? Like rent Kids clothes electric bill etc (3 kids only 1 is biologically mines) Do I continue to help with stuff like that outside of taking care of my own kid?
What if she tries to use the mask of our child as a reason to talk to me? We are still married, she says we aren't getting back together, but neither of us have filed for separation. Please make sense of this
I put my bm out. I was scared I was going to get locked up. I'm on probation. She hit me with a flower pot. I put her out. I feel like shit. I feel so stupid.
You did the right thing. She doesn’t take your freedom seriously. Distance yourself and enforce boundaries before it’s too late. Let your balls hang and stop being afraid to walk away. Why would you beg for someone back that treats you that way? Smh
My Ex and I broke up 2 months ago, I had to move back at my home with our son. After a month of No contact, I sent an apology message and he did not receive it well, He told me we would never get back together and other hurtful things were said, he believed i never loved him and he was just to blind to see it. I am practically a single Mother and the only thing he does for our son is send a maintenance fee monthly. whenever I would engage him about our son, it ends up in a fight and i try to be polite! Does he still have feelings me? He is constantly trying to hurt my feelings.
What if you live together.. seperate rooms... and have a child, 2 dogs and own the property. No contact? She wants to sell and go our seperate ways currently
Me and my ex who I have a child with just broke up she says she wants to work on her self and she isn’t where she wants to be right now for the relationship but literally just a week ago we were in relationship now she wants to put on the friends and co parents act but she still texts me everyday and most of it isn’t about our kids she still texts me like she did when we were together. I love her and want to be with her but at the same time I’m frustrated about the split and don’t know if she really wants to get back together or if she’s through. Should I go no contact and keep it strictly about our son or continue to play this were apart but still keeping our talking routine game going on
hey man I'm goin thru that right now, almost exactly how you hare saying. i finally said no contact and left it all about our daughter. Its really hard since we been together for 8 years but she are not toys to be played with, we have feelings and these types of girls have no empathy on how they are just tossing us around. i kept the talking routine for about a month now and even hanging out but got no where, so its time brotha, let her go!!
@@regulocruz19see I’ve done that.. but the talking about the kids, has then turned to flirting. And has then turned to sex. I just don’t get it. Why I wasn’t good enough.‘she’s a teacher aswel.
@@millwallfan06 why are you complaining? She’s giving more than you had before, you want her back you have to let her build the attraction for you. Don’t talk about the relationship and just hang out and have fun and have sex.
This is what I'm going through, it's killing me. I just want her out of my life all together and move forward. But it's impossible because of the kids we have..
Me and mine were having troubles throughout the pregnancy I didn’t get a say in wether we keep them or not. I have done my best since they came and they are 2 months old. She has bad post Partum and she broke up with me but we still lived together. Last week I saw her phone and she was messaging boys all night flirting.
@@patrykgadomski4951same but remember most of the time they’re trying to fill a void … focus on being a better you and watch her come back bro , if not than you will be heal and ready to mingle
Mane she tricked me I gave her my all she half ass me cuz she was pretty widd a nice body n bragged abt her new man ngl ts crushed me idk how I’m making it thru life it’s been so hard I rlly wanna crash out cuz I hate wen my heart gets played with
