how to find a girlfriend 

I kissed a girl, held a girls hand and lost my virginity last year at the age of 25. Now I have a GF. I started working out, taking care of myself and getting a better style. I'm not obsessive about any of those things. I'm still a little chubby and most of my clothes are from Walmart. But still, just doing these simple things will help you stand out so much from the crowd of guys who do next to nothing to improve themselves. I went on my first date at the age of 25. I was so scared and nervous, but after each date I got a little better. Just bite the bullet, man up and start talking to people. You will be surprised how quickly you will come out of your shell.

I completely disagree with the dating app part - they're literally like porn - people only going on them for attention and dopamine/ causal sex, and even without doing so, it's a massive gamification of dating, searching for the most physically attractive man possible. Social media is precisely what has ruined dating.

man that last line hit me hard, i always find excuses to postpone finding a relationship lol

Remember guys, the golden rule is to focus on yourself, work on improving yourself and once you have done that stay humble and find the partner you have worked for. Remember -do not try to find a girlfriend, try to find a wife -do not find a woman to fill your lust, but to recharge your batteries -be her best friend, not her potential tool for pleasure

0:44 "...just be a normal guy..." **shows Patrick Bateman**

I believe people miss the point when someone says "join a yoga class". It's not about asking out every girl in the said class, it's about improving your social skills and experience. Let's say you join a cooking class, you meet some like minded people, some men, some women, some you're attracted to, some you're not. Maybe you make friends with a couple of them over shared interest in cooking. Even if you can't score dates with any of them, maybe they set you up with someone. Maybe they introduce you to their friend group and one of them sets you up with someone. You collect social xp and unlock skillpoints like empathy, listening, humor, being fun, being a good friend etc. And you get to know a lot of people, build somewhat of a social network and go from there. Anyway, I'm just a socially awkward 19 year old dude lol so take this with a huge sack of salt. Anyway, the rest of the video is spot on!

I heavily disagree on the suggestion of having to use social media and how it's foolish to approach, I completely disagree. That is literally how it has always been since the beginning of time and men have gotten so much from it besides just women. You gain confidence, charisma, the ability to converse, natural game, you even pick up your own swag. And dating apps are the worst, they're literally rigged from the start. Only 10-20% of tinder users are women, the game is already rigged and most guys that are decent looking get their confidence crushed

“How do I get a gf?” “Lmao bro just date girls” Thanks for the help G

A great video, but I can't agree with one thing. Avoiding social media is not necesarilly "not being a sheep". I genuinely feel worse when I use social media too much, that's why I'm limited to Facebook and Reddit only. I've never been able to use Instagram, it just caused my self esteem to drop.

As Mark manson once said, " *Learning more* is the most seductive form of procrastination. " And " *Planning more* is the second most. "

This channel is a a diamond in the rough. So much solid advice, on all vids. Straight to the point and realistic. Thanks

Short, to the point, and down to earth! This is becoming my new favorite Self improvement channel! Keep up the great work!

Keep up the good work. You're adding clips of nearly all improvement youtubers I regulary watch so probably you watched them too. It makes it more convincing that you know what you are talking cause you have the same input as me.

That last bit about thinking you need to be perfect hit me hard. I've been thinking that for a while, I feel like I need to be at a certain level before I start dating. I've felt that way because I know the type of women I want and I feel like they only want the top 1% man. I definitely think I need to get out there and start going on more dates.

Am so thankful for this channel

Love this channel because there's no BS, thx

Step 1, don't be ugly.

im getting to the point where im just going to accept that im going to be alone for the rest of my life

quick growth onpointfresh!! i subscribed you when you had 3-4 digit subscribers congrats on the growth!!!

tbh, dating apps are demotivating. most of the guys get one like in months and sometimes those turn out to be fake profiles. on dating apps girls want an aesthetic guy with 6ft and above height.

Disagree hard on the social media part. The more you practice cold approaching (random people not necessarily just girls) your confidence and social skills will develop fast to the point where you will be a cut above the average dude who relies solely on dating apps

The last point is so true! I didn't know it was a phenomenon others experienced too 😭

Make a video on aesthetic wardrobe essentials for guys

This channel is great bro

dont be obsessive. first thing above all else is to focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be- whether that's going to the gym, improving your style, maintaining a career path and be a desirable man when you look in the mirror. a girlfriend should be your best friend, someone you can look to for emotional support at all times. no ones perfect, but that admiring even thoughout all those imperfections is what love truly is.

This channel changed my mentality and my life too.

bros advice is no better than the others.

Enjoyed that, thanks.

Keeping it real. I like it

Thank you so so much I've never thought I was that off from this lol

i agree about everything except the social media aspect

imagine telling your kids that you found your wife through a dating site, nah man i don't want that.

Thank you so much ❤️

Definelly needed it

One of the best videos I ever seen

The last line reminds me of a quote from Carl Von Clausewitz: "The enemy of a good plan, is the dream of a perfect plan"

What a great channel.

This is it. This is the channel

Thank you I will use this now!!!111!!

This man knows what my subscribe channels.

10/10 video 👏

It's one of the best videos there about dating i have ever scene, this video is really up to date and shows that you don't need to know a lot of tactics to make a girlfriend

This guy doing bits for the Community, Keep it up :)

Thx dude, i already have it

Its more about finding a partner who supports you at your goals rather than having already achieved everything besides that.

"how to find a girlfriend... become attractive and make a dating profile then go on a bunch of dates" oh wow how helpful

You should make a video on social skills!

I love what you said at the end because guys think they need to be a finished product to get a gf, as long as they’re on the self improvement journey I don’t see nothing wrong with trying to get a gf

broooo best. video. ever.

a few things i learned while going through this ongoing journey is that - if you make a girl your motivation for getting up in the morning, you won't have one when you potentially lose them - don't "look" for a girlfriend, improve and focus on yourself and if you happen to find someone attractive, go for it - to have a healthy relationship you need to be your own person, not dedicating all of yourself and therefore changing yourself for the worst just for this specific persson - when you think you find a girl attractive, you need to seriously consider if you're attracted to them, or you're attracted to the attention they give you

Great video! Could you make a video for eyebrows because I have low visibility of eyebrows and they are blonde which makes it worse.

Those last few lines hit me so hard and really made me realize I was just finding excuses not to ask out the single hot girl at school 😂

I agree with almost everything beside using dating apps.

*never clicked faster on a video*

I've been alone my entire life... I was so alone that it became a disease, now I hate people around me for no reason, especially couples... I want love... I want to have someone who could help me... but in the same time I fking hate it, I hate speaking to people, it's stupid... it's like I have two diferent voices inside of my head in a never ending fight... I don't know what to do anymore

The advice in this video is real bad for an average to below-average guy. I don't think you're set in reality.

That's interesting. Also it's important to notice that women aren't only attracted to physical appearance, they are also attracted to personality. The main personality trait they're attracted to is confidence. You can build confidence by having success. If you have a success, even if it's a small one like getting your job done, take your time to enjoy it, that's gonna build up your confidence.

good to know my dating experience from the 3rd to 8th grade will help me

thx and i will try

Been with a girl for 7 years, she just moved out yesterday. Luckily I kept my physical shape ok but the rest I need a refresher 😅 perfect timing finding this channel

Bro why you calling me out for the last advice I took personally offense to it😭, but anyways thnks for the advices really appreciate it.

"you don't need to be a finish product to be someone worthwhile of seeing." do not improve to impress someone, improve for your self. life is temporary, improve yourself to be the better version of yourself so that at the end of the day, you won't regret the memories of your past. everything is temporary.

"You don't have to be a finished product to be someone worthwhile of seeing!" - Game publishers

This was the most realistic advice i have seen on the internet i hope i will find a girlfriend soon👍 NGL this channel has the best quality content🔥

I watched a 7 minutes video on how to find GF in 20 minutes because I paused to cry, nice advice too

Your just like a big bro for me

This is gonna be really long, but if you're watching this video, I was one of you for years and incredibly depressed. Please read if you have the time. I know people don't give a shit, but I'm 33 and married now. My 20s were a hellscape of depression anxiety and loneliness. When I was 19 the "red pill" didn't have a name yet, but lots of guys thought this way. Myself included. The resentment I felt towards "stupid jocks" and girls over having values I thought were shitty and vapid (let's be real, they were) eventually turned to self-resentment when I realized that everyone else, including people that weren't "chads" where dating and marrying and starting to build good lives. This began a decade or so long process of really looking inward and struggling to unlearn all of the horrible toxic ideas I grew up with in the 90s and 2000s. And it hurt. One thing I realized is that when I used to think the thought "girls only like chads" what I'm really thinking is "a certain type of girl that looks a certain way, who makes me look alpha to others just by being near her, only likes chads". There were a lot of girls who were maybe a little awkward or maybe had a body type different than I thought was good that showed real interest that I didn't even acknowledge as "women" in my mind. That's so fucked up! And the most attractive people? A lot of times they are the least interesting, because when you never have to solve any problems or learn from your failures you never grow! It's okay to have tastes or preferences, but I feel like for most men, they're just afraid of what others will say or think about them if they date certain people versus others. They don't add enough "value" to them so unless a woman falls into some idealized version, they're basically invisible. If you're a virgin and struggling with this, how do you know you wouldn't like getting physical with someone bigger than you if you've never been physical with anyone? Ultimately I had to learn that my life was for me and I had to do things for my sake. I acknowledge the opportunities I had, but the trick is taking them. I'm blessed with being tall, but I'm neurodivergent as all shit. None of the shit I cared about, my peers cared about. I was a dork. I got the shit kicked out of me daily. In the 3rd grade a kid smashed my face in with his arm cast while a gang of others stayed an helped enable it. Then my not rich parents got me in to a church school for cheap cuz my dad played the organ. It was worse. Kids threw dog treats at me. I used to weigh 250 lbs. I had anger issues. I was forced to go to counseling outside of school. I didn't graduate. I got a 1.8 GPA and a GED. Shit sucked, but at one point I met a guy who worked out and knew what was up. He helped me lose 80 lbs. It took over a year of working out 4 days a week regularly. It was fun and something I did with my friend. I won't get in to everything, but growth feels good. Period. To me growth is the single most fulfilling human experience one can easily attain. Even something stupid like learning the harmonica is great. It's a simple, cheap instrument, with an endless wormhole of experimentation and technique to learn. The bonus? It's part of a communal hobby that thrives on groups. Picture this: you go to a bar and some blues band is playing. You bust out a harmonica from nowhere and start riffing cuz youve been practicing for 2 years and the universe has given you your moment? You're the coolest guy there! There's a catch. You don't wanna be the "harmonica" guy. You need to have a wide and diverse set of skills and interests. Not only because that's what it means to be an interesting person, but because of the power, experience, opportunity it gives you in the real world. Not to mention getting good at shit is just plain fun and rewarding. When I was 18 was a dropout who was okay ish at music. I was a fat goth kid with backne bad style bad hygiene and no skills outside of xbox and 4chan posting. Now Im 2.5 of 5 years through a union trade school, play in a couple working bands, I speak passable Spanish (useful at work sometimes) I have an eclectic taste in media, I can game with the best of em, I can work on computers and electronics, I could build a house from the ground up. I'm not special, I'm talking 10+ years of actively saying "fuck it why not" to whatever opportunity outside of my comfort zone that wasn't intolerable. And here's where I'll disagree with the creator. Given the above, I understand why you say porn is harmful, but I think it can be a healthy outlet. There were times in my life I was so depressed that it was the only thing that felt good. Other times I was so depressed I couldn't bring myself to take care of myself like that. But as long as you're mature enough to realize that these are human beings playing a role (THIS INCLUDES ONLY FANS) you know, someone's sister, aunt, mother, daughter, taking advantage of a lucrative market in a shitty economy. The other thing I disagree with is the emphasis on online dating and social media. That shit warps your brain. Those apps are built to get you to feel isolated and milk money out of vulnerable people. Example from one tinder date. I had The girl was a single mom, unemployed, cute but not a model, and not very interesting because all her time was devoted to her kid. She showed me her inbox. She had 4000 likes to my 8 or so. If you really wanna meet more people, volunteering is great. There are all kinds of mutual aid groups and the like where good people who want to help can go do good work. But like the creator says, you have to be there for you cuz they will smell your intent from a mile away. But you'll make friends who care about making sure the people in their community are taken care of. If you've made it this far, grats! I'll tell you the single most life changing choice I made. IF YOU ARENT IN COLLEGE, GET IN TO A UNION TRADE APPRENTICESHIP. Above average pay, and you get paid the whole time you're learning. It will enable you to never need a job interview again. You can work in any state in the country. You get health insurance that you dont pay in to. Pensions, etc. The skills you learn are invaluable and the foundation of many others I have.

Thanks

The absolute best and only dating advice you'll ever need. Nothing but truth in this video. Really well done.

There are two easy steps: 1) Be born tall 2) Be born attractive

The best video I’ve seen about this. Just always incredible content 🖤

A title ' Girlfriend Maxxing' would have got more engagement lol

100% disagree on only meeting through social media and dating apps. Approaching in public is a great way to step out of your comfort zone, gain confidence, and increase your social skills. You don’t even necessarily have to go out of your way, if you see someone you like at a coffee shop just talk to them and try and plan a date if you vibe.

Sometimes I feel upset because I'm always putting excuses I'm 20 years old and I have only had one relationship and it was because just accepted my feelings for a bet and that girl cheated me with my best friend now I started working out and taking care of my self but I got troubles as a mistrust and I'm always thinking every guy is better than me

If you really wanna stand out then hopping on a dating app ain't gonna cut it. Most girls don't even get approached these days, even I rarely do it but I'm trying to improve there. I was in a club yesterday and I noticed that there were plenty of girls and a lot of guys who just DIDN'T approach them. There is so much opportunity for us guys but we refuse to act and that is why we watch these vids 🙄

Great video broski

aint no way bro put hamza in their like bro he's high key goated

Please make a series of badboy fashion

Well ,guess i die alone then,which is fine. And the video was good by the way,solid points,just probably not for me(about social media)

3:16 go on 10 dates. Can't even find a girl to give 1

The problem with social media is time consuming there for in addition I deleted instegram because of the amount of time i spend on these reels so i dont know what to do

i would love to go on dating, but the issue is i dont have a car which i really need for transportation when im in the suburbs

why do people say dating apps are the way? acting like people 20 years ago weren’t meeting through normal ways

make a video on how to set boundaries as a man

4:30 damn. Didn't have to do me like that

Don’t try to get a girl if you don’t have freedom example: time,money,transportation and an strong mind.Try to improve on those things and everything will be easier 🔥

what movie is the one in the experience section?

I've noticed that all of the video's I watched on dating made me overthink it more because I think I'll have to ben and act like someone else. So just try things out for yourself

How am I meant to get experience when I can’t go on dates.

No distractions bro...

Tbh I disagree with meeting/approaching a girl in public. Why would you not approach them if you find them attractive and most of the time you won’t notice „signals “ she is giving you and with just approaching you build up confidence and also gain experience

respect+

I as an european would say, this is bullshit. Maybe thats how it works in the US. But better online than outside in the real world? No way. Of course these apps are not horror, but you definetly can live without these apps. And Instagram - hell no, thanks. This self advertising social Media is sick, in my opinion. I do found good girls online, but also in the real World outside. I mean...who do you want to be? A shy man without the guts to speak to women outside in....who knows where.... just because its not up to date, not modern anymore. I means...thats just bullshit. We are human beings. It should never be 'oldschool' or 'out of time', to speak to somebody outside. This is just crazy. Are you prefer walking across the streets with starring on your damn phone to watch or search for girls and all this bs, than just looking around you? No, this video I really do not appreciate. But of course....just my 2 cents.

Don't please don't give me hope😭😭

facts

There is one quote I do remember "If you were a girl, with all the choices she has.. would you choose you?" It stands true no matter what, because realistically there needs to be a reason why you of all people deserve her

No one, I repeat, no one, should be using dating apps regardless of what these youtubers are saying. You have to get confident in actually approaching people in public, whether you know them or not. And yes, it's true, not every girl wants to be approach, but you have to try. Because there are many women who are open to conversations. Especially if they're in a group setting. I'm a disabled man. I get better results approaching women in public. As a couple of people stated, the reality is approaching women has been normal since the beginning of time. That's not going to change

We need this kind of channel for girls!!

Mane a vedio on teen wardobe basic essential

the title XD