I think I stared my journey with Alpha ( a little to young for me), went to Jose. (Way too young for me) you and still OG fit well . Just purchased my Tiger Hanley on your recommendation .
John: been a subscriber for over 18 months!! Love your advice. Sorry to hear about the breakup. My only addition would be: What do they bring to the table? Many women --including stylish or even older women-- are very...boring. Plus how many women do you know that can live without their phone for even two days? They start to go into withdrawal and get the shakes (laughter). Just look at couples on a date: they both have their phones out and are not talking.
Totally agree Brother, spent most of the last 5 years of post divorce burying myself in work. Part of what I appreciate about your channel has been your honesty, (for me smaller) style tweaks and choices (I had a pretty good foundation) and trying new things that I might have put off otherwise. Best of luck post breakup, and keep up the great work!
Excellent points. Especially important to be in a good space before engaging in new relationships. Recovering from narcissistic abusive ones especially.
This video is useful to a lot of men especially late 30s and 40s.. The healthier we become in our lives , we attract the people we want to be with. It worked for me with my wife.
I must admit that the style piece of things is my biggest challenge. I came out of a 25 year relationship about 3 years ago and got pretty "comfortable" wearing "comfortable" clothes. I have made some modest improvements. Lol! Fortunately, I've worked out all of my life so my fitness has helped me out a little. Great video, as usual! Good luck on your fresh start!
It's funny that you use that "Crazy, Stupid, Love" clip with Steve Carrell and Ryan Gosling. After I saw that scene, I took that to heart and started trying my best to look better and dress better.
Yes!!! "The style bar is so low right now" I was just having this conversation with a couple of guys at work yesterday.. Even minimal effort now is making average guys look "Ehh & Ok"... but if you elevate your day to day clothes/style... you will definitely turn heads and be seen as different, and BETTER than the rest.
I appreciate your candor and honesty. Following my 20 year marriage I had to reinvent myself and i used to say..".until I am a good me, I will never be a great we". Time...time is the healer. Thanks for the great content.
Excellent advice, I'm lots over 40 years but wanted pointing in the right direction of not trying to be younger than I am but looking good for my age. I gives me more confidence in social situations. It also improves how I get more respect in social situations. Keep it up, you are a great help to us all. Take care of yourself as well.
Hi John , Although I’m happily married I definitely agree how important perception and getting noticed is in business. On a lighter note where do we get the plaid zip shirt jacket ? Very nice
Someone once said to me its not the clothes you wear its how you wear them ie attention to detail - adding that extra dimension - the odd addition of quirkiness or difference John. Great video as always John - I hope you have a great day.
I used to believe style was superficial, and therefore unimportant. More recently, I've decided that style is important, *because* it's superficial. The examples you gave illustrate this perfectly. A significant number of women (and some men) will conjecture that I have lots of additional positive attributes, just because I've dressed better than average. I refer to this behavior as "reading tea leaves." Instead of taking the time and learning what positive/negative traits someone has, they'll try guess that future by searching for clues in unrelated details (clothing). First impressions tend to last, so some people will continue to hold these positive impressions, even when my own actions and behaviors contradict their assumptions. These assumptions based on someone's style are superficial, and can be incredibly misleading. They're also very easy for me to manipulate to my advantage. And if my style isn't working to my benefit, then it's probably working to my detriment.
A long time ago I was an airline flight attendant when we dudes were still called stewards. In the decades since I’ve never had to wear a 3-piece suit to work again. I am woefully out of touch on current styles and fashion. I throughly enjoy your tips, suggestions, & warnings (Don’t ever wear this or do that! =:). Thanks
While I have a wardrobe of modern clothes, that mirror the influece I have obtained fom your channel what suprises me is the number of women who after politely commenting on what I am wearing, when they first meet me in a social situation add the comment "I wish I could get my husband to dress like you do". It is not the fashion, it's the overall look. Women care. Phil.
For me it all comes down to caring about my appearance and putting in a bit of effort. Doesn’t take much and like you said, the bar is loooooowwwwwwww.
Kudos to you on another great video, John. You really touched on a theme that is central to my life outlook as a marketing communications pro, and that is that we are all brands for ourselves. Basically, we are the set of values that make up who we are and what we communicate to the world around us (whether we are trying to or not!) What we want people to know about us and to feel about us are concepts that companies think about all the time (or at least they should), and this ties in directly to what you focus on in your videos. Branding (both corporate and personal) involves defining, refining, controlling and effectively communicating your unique philosophy. At the end of the day, it's very empowering to know we have more control over how the world sees us than we think. I'd love to see you do a deeper dive into this relationship between personal brand and personal style in a future vid. And I'd be remiss in my own personal branding if I didn't offer to contribute my input to such a project. 😉
Good topic John the points you raise are spot on !! If your not happy with yourself how can a partner be happy . Regards from a Rainey UK bet the weather's better where you are. !!!!!
I'm not even comfortable with just dressing average even if it already consist of nice clothing. I need a touch of noticeable fashion here and there supplemented with a nice wrist watch.
Thanks for your honesty here. I have been going through a separation for the past 6 months. I know it’s a good thing for me and I look forward to the future me but yes, I’m not “ready” for a relationship yet. I’m rather tall so I generally get noticed when out and about but when I put a bit more effort in to what I’m wearing I certainly know I get noticed more! Loving all the tips you raise and have learnt plenty from watching your channel. Keep up the great work 👍 Cheers
@@actiondefence we only get stronger. Women do the support thing so well. We need to get better in this space and open up - build our own support network. Take care man. All the best
Good video. I'm in kinda the same boat but different circumstances. Over 50, bad breakup in 2014, New job in a new state, and knowing I need to move forward even if it's just me.
WOW really love this segment. I too just got out of relationship & doing self evaluations. I see you point have to go out there until the time is right for another relationship. Thanks for this one #Legend
I find true value in your videos. Why i subscribed, and why I keep coming back and supporting channel sponsors. Earlier today, I officially boxed up and donated my pandemic attire that I have accumulated. Felt good to donate to those who are in real need. Cheers!
Does Tiege Hanley have a product to make the dark circles under your eyes less noticeable? I tried the Lumin brand of skin care products for men for a while but their dark circle defense cream didn’t do much for me and their products were kind of $$$ too. I started watching your channel after my divorce and when I entered the world of dating through apps and it’s been very helpful. I don’t agree with all of your styling choices for clothes but you have definitely provided me with some good information to make the best choices for me. Thank you for a great channel and content. All the best to you!🙂
What’s considered average clothes? If you have a nice physique then you can look good in any clothes. You can be in a friend zone hanging out with women. What does that mean?
Hey. I haven’t looked through all your videos sorry but slowly working on it. What about some videos on how clothing changes your appearance for your height and size. For example, horizontal stripes make you appear “fatter” whereas vertical stripes make you appear “taller”. So what body shapes should wear A but avoid B. Just an idea 🤔🧐
I'm happy 😁😊 with my Life, maybe I don't have the greatest job and car but have good relationship with my co workers and family. Don't drink, don't smoke, just spending good time by myself with no problem at all.
@@40OverFashion thanks for the great content! I recall when I came out of my last LTR I focused on personal development and just enjoyed having fun with friends. Then when I least expected it my future wife popped in. The next chapter of life started and all those chapters are a novel now. I never planned to get married and have kids but God had other plans.
Great video by the way, as I'll add my two cents... Dress to impress though not phony, Make sure you dot the I's and cross your T's in the hygiene area, meet them at a nice place like a coffee house, cafe, or a nice high-end restaurant at the lounge and/or bar for a drink. Most of all listen to that person because what they say is what is most important about them. They can be very attractive, but if you are into the outdoors and they hate the idea of it then it will not work out. On the other hand, someone may be less attractive who holds your same interests might be more enticing if you listen to them and share who you really are. Overall make it fun for yourself and do not put pressure on you to make a great impression. Follow those little rules above and you will let nature take its course and of course don't be caught off guard with a messy place and bathroom just in case things work out rather quickly for a (cough cough) night cap...
Glad that I am happily married and not in the dating pool again. I have noticed though that many older guys with money purposefully dress down specifically to avoid attention. I know a couple guys worth well north of $10 million and typically they are wearing T-shirts, shorts and flip flops in the summer, maybe jeans and a sweatshirt in the winter. I see that a lot around Maui when we visit there as well ..... people with lots money don't necessarily want to look like they have lots of money. They'd rather blend in when out in public. I've noticed that I can be invisible when walking out into a local store parking lot. But if I happen to be driving one of my classic sports cars like my XKE or Lotus, suddenly my way too casual dress or even dirty work clothes (if I've been working on the cars) don't seem to matter anymore and I get approached when people see me get in them. The appearance of having money, even if one doesn't, seems to outweigh style. I spent decades dressing as a professional and now in retirement, 99% of the time I purposefully dress in a comfortable manner that leads people to think I don't have much money. But I understand the need for single folks wanting to make good first impressions, just glad I don't have to worry about that anymore.
great video, I totally get it. I'm 52 and just gave away my old clothes. sick of feeling frumpy. I'm a bit stockiy and overweight. I'd love you to make a video for us fatso's. I'm 30 lbls over my ideal weight. 245 wanting to be 220. my gut and chest screw up my clothess xxl sucks, it looks like i have a poncho on because of my chest. 20lbs down will get me to xl. any tips on clothes would help. thanks.
Nice video. I'm 40. I have been single for a year now. Before that, I was on a long term relationship wich lasted for 4 years. Right now I don't really feel like I want to be in a relationship again. I am enjoying the time I have for myself and I am also improving my life, focusing in my work. i don't think I will want to date women for maybe another year. How long do you think it's ok to wait after a long term relationship? I guess you wait as long as you have to, but I would like to know how long you think it is ok to wait. Greetings
Your title should be: How to get noticed by more women (or men) in my opinion. So many gay or bi followers on your channel like me. Great video as always :-)
I don't get the title. What man in their right mind would want to get noticed by women over 40 ?? I'm 57 , good shape and good looking (look like 42) and only go out with women in their 20s. I'd rather be with 2 chicks in their 20s than one in her 40s.
I'm a similar age to you and would not be seriously interested in a woman under 40. Too big an age difference. Would mean it's not a relationship of equals
@@jonstern7511 I understand Jon. But I wouldn't call what I am into "relationships". It's just for fun...no strings attached. I've had my long lasting relationships before. I want to remain single.
I have zero problem getting noticed by women over 40, they can be had with a smile and a hello. But nubile women in their 20s and 30s, they are a challenge.
The Title is a bit confusing. Do you mean, How to get noticed by WOMEN who are Over 40 years old; OR, How to get noticed by Women when WE are Over 40 years old? Asking because I am Over 50, and want to get noticed by Women UNDER 40.
@@40OverFashion Ah gotcha. Thanks for clearing that up. Been watching a lot of your videos, and practicing what you preach. Been doing a daily skin care routine for the past 4 months; have lost 140 lbs so working on a new wardrobe; exercising daily (100 Push-Ups/stairs/ weight lifting). Also working on other aspects. Excellent channel.
@@jonstern7511 How is that being shallow? Maybe I just find younger women more attractive. Not saying I don't find "older" women attractive. I'm just very energetic, active, think younger than I am, and aren't ready to sit around and play BINGO, watch Matlock, and listen to 1930's music & songs just yet. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.) Not to mention that maybe, just maybe I'm referring to one specific woman whom I've known, and loved, and have been in love with, for years. What's it to you anyway? 🤬
Thanks, John I had watched many videos for sometimes. You gave super advice real down to earth reality information . You saying everything exactly true also very helpful in today older ages gentlemen. Old woman are as small as the man . Even smarter went going in relationship. This is so happening as now. I meeting up this very fine lady street smart also little on richer side . Which she have some $$ saving on the side. She also afraid walking into a serious relationship. So as now we are learning and feeling out each other. She asked many of your words you mentioned here . You are 💯 correct. Let me know on your reply or comments what should I do from here. Thanks John. Happy holidays keep up with your good work for us . Sharper ours 40’s plus.
I am subscribed but do not watch every one of your videos. I have to say, every time I do watch one I learn something. If you’re not ready for a relationship you should refrain from mentioning you’re a RU-vidr, which as everyone knows get your clothes torn off instantly.
Women can also approach men. I don't like this entire we need to chase them all the time bs. You live near San Diego, right? Well, I was out a restaurant in the city and the guys with the best looking women were literally wearing raggedy old t shirts, jeans, and tennis shoes. The guys with style were alone looking around at the hot women.
@@40OverFashion Maybe, though some women really don't care. I would think they should care, because the guys they were with didn't look like they made a decent income.
This feller makes some good points in the over 50s dating game Of course thats once he’s finished giving us the ‘LOOK YOUNGER CREAM “ Piffle And lets be honest the last time that I heard his type of Chat up patter ! Was on Bonanza when little Joe was talking to his horse 🤮 👌 🇬🇧
